How do you stop yourself from becoming bitter when you have bad experiences or feelings?

Maximum-Biscotti-247 · 2021-03-12T08:33:27+00:00

Take a break from watching or reading red pill stuff. Meditate or pray.

Moneyandfreedom55 · 2021-03-12T11:06:03+00:00

1 Get rid of social media, this is most important

2 Do a few things you’ve always wanted to do

3 repeat #2

CuriousIncel2 · 2021-03-12T12:48:47+00:00

By refusing to see yourself as a perpetual victim.

Shit happens. More shit will happen in the future. Learn from the experience and develop a strategy to deal with it - avoid, confront, mitigate, accept.

Psychological_Ask885 · 2021-03-12T12:47:08+00:00

Own your emotions. What you feel because of someone else is essentially your own, it is felt and dealt by you. Eliminate blame for in actuality it is your own emotions that you must deal with. It's like desire, "why do women wear this or that, it makes men blah" regardless of the statement made, whatever it is, you must identify that the feeling felt is a you problem and an opportunity for you and no one else. Learn and document your emotions, self psychotherapy, take it seriously. Every emotion felt from another is only a point of reflection for personal growth.

cleats4u · 2021-03-12T15:15:31+00:00

Limit your expectations of others. I heard a long time ago that expectations are premeditated resentments. People are going to let you down and betray you anyway. If you are going to expect anything from them...expect and be prepared for that and you will be OK.

YouSaidChicken · 2021-03-12T08:41:30+00:00

I get bitter when I’m trying to do a pre-market trade and right after a sell it shoots to the moon.

reaper555 · 2021-03-12T16:56:03+00:00

Stop ruminating over those feelings over and over. This negative feedback loop is caused by self-absorption. Men probably more than women derive our happiness from doing. Few ideas to consider:

Look for something you want to learn: reading and online learning

Learning => Growth => Skills => Application of Skill in meaningful endeavor => expansion of self => Hapiness and/or Money

E.g I am really interested in learning about negotiation and persuasion. So I have read and learned a lot about this subject. And it's helped me get out of tough situations at work.

Pick up a Hobby and attempt to master it: Guitar, Archery, Chess, Poker, etc
Help someone outside of yourself: Help a coworker with the project, donate money, or volunteer (post-covid)

ImTrashAtPS2 · 2021-03-12T17:25:41+00:00

Don't let bad past experiences define you and how you live, instead let those experience shape you into a better person so they don't happen again.

I think it is also helpful to look at the feeling of bitterness from two different angles: when someone wronged you, or when you made a mistake.

I find when someone wrongs me, it is easy for me to let it go and not hold a grudge, I am a very non-confrontational person so it does not benefit me to stay angry and bitter. However, that does not mean you should forget what that person did, keep it in mind and cut yourself off from that person or situation if you see history starting to repeat itself.

Now when you make a mistake, always grow from it. I have many regrets from a couple years ago when I did and said things that I never would have imagined that I would do. Now, all these years I could have just been bitter to myself and beat myself up about it, but that does not help anyone. Use that experience as a time to grow into a better person and not make those mistakes again.

Look back at past experiences and examine yourself, what did you do or say that you want to change and better yourself from? Invest bitterness into growth, let it push you to become a better person, if we did not know what is good and what is bad, then we would never be able to become better people. Don't do anything out of spite towards someone else though, that is just giving people more power over your life, become a better person because it is what you want to do, set that goal, accomplish it, and be content with yourself.

Every bad experience is an opportunity, whether you use that opportunity for growth or not is up to you.

2021-03-12T10:06:04+00:00

Youll get over it. Just never give up and make sure youre on the right path. The right path is always that of renunciation, cessation, release, liberation, unattachment, equanimity, freedom.

There is nothing in this world worth clinging too.

frenchlouve · 2021-03-12T22:35:36+00:00

Go on a vacation. Can't afford to take weeks long vacation? Go on a short vacation for 2-3 days. Can't afford a hotel room? Go car camping. Fix up a beater car where you can sleep comfortably in it overnight.( Need more info on this lemme know)

Then find a spot an hour or more away and do your own thing: reading, writing, guitar playing, hiking, camping, fishing, scream your lungs out at the top of a cliff, whatever. Just spend time on you.

The result: you'll realize that you are not trapped in one place. You'll realize you can move and find sunny skies anywhere.

CoolDEpot · 2021-03-14T11:27:44+00:00

Shut dowm empathy for anybody who doesnt deserve it.

Title	How do you stop yourself from becoming bitter when you have bad experiences or feelings?
Author	WiselyLonging
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Date	March 12, 2021 7:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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1 Get rid of social media, this is most important

2 Do a few things you’ve always wanted to do

3 repeat #2