Dated a girl for 4 years she was pretty terrible honestly.

Year and half later we reconnect. Asks if she can stay with me for a week, I said ok.

She knew I had feelings for her still.

She ended up staying with me a month because of some issues with the first place she wanted to move into.

Whole time she told me she loved me. We hooked up etc. Although we didn’t get back together in a relationship.

During that time she would be super nice and super mean to me while living in my house. She ended up having sex with other dudes while living with me.

Ended up going into rages breaking shit on occasion.

Lied to me about tons of shit. So on and so on.

I realized she was just using me for a place to stay but it gets worse. She tricks me into giving her a loan by basically emotionally blackmailing because I had feelings for her.

Threatening to have sex with guys for money because “she needed the money” also telling me she’d stop seeing this other guy if I helped her with the loan so she didn’t “need him?”

After I gave her the loan and made her sign a contract. She ghosts me after she moves out. Turns out this other guy is a lawyer, she then uses him to threaten me. Essentially so I won’t try to get the money back because he could cause me more damage than the loan was worth.

Crazy experience. This woman I’ve known for 5 years. Told me almost daily while living with me how much she loved me and how grateful she was I was helping her out. Yet during the whole time she was just scamming me and legit plotting against me with another dude. I spent a month trying to contact her because it was emotionally wrecking for me basically, but never heard from her again. Acted very pathetic with texting but a lot of it was the emotional burden of her lawsuit pseudo threats hanging over my head.

I feel so stupid. I bet she and this new guy are laughing at me too. I don’t think I can ever date anyone again after that.

I know you guys prob think I’m weak. Maybe I was but 5 years of shit like that has a way of warping your mind and tearing you down the very fiber of your being.