It doesn't make sense

YouSaidChicken · 2021-03-25T07:47:11+00:00

Is someone suggesting cutting of family?

Certainly if you’re being harassed or they’re toxic, absolutely, but just for no reason?

Has that been going on here?

BadWardrobe · 2021-03-25T08:43:41+00:00

There will always be children who don't keep in touch with their parents enough; my elder brother is one of them imo.

However, this is entirely subjective, surely? I personally would never cut off my parents. Do they piss me off from time to time? Yeah. Do I wish they were a little less pessimistic? Sure. But they are good people that have done right by me and it's my obligation to care for them in old age.

I did know a guy who's mother used to beat the living piss out of him regularly when he was a kid though, treated his dad like shit and put the entire family through a horrible divorce. Would I criticise him for cutting off his mother? Absolutely not.

aftermathinmono · 2021-03-25T11:20:10+00:00

Seriously? How about how some parents treat some children? I was physically and mentally abused by my mother. She was borderline personality disorder, alcoholic, script drug addicted, violent horrible person. My father was alcoholic and violent and manic depressive, mostly because of her. When I finally got out at 17 the damage and baggage followed me until in my 40's, thru my own alcohol and drug addiction(thanks parents!) and all the while out of guilt and some sick desire to have ''parents" I still called them and visited, which every time would depress me for days. And she would still do evil from hundreds of miles away until I finally stopped all communication. Best thing I ever did for myself. I didn't bat an eye when they died. Did not go to her funeral. I would give anything to have had a mother. I had to stop going on Facebook on Mothers Day. So don't tell me to be ''strong" I have been strong all my life or I would not be alive right now to write this. Not all stories are like yours man.

2021-03-25T09:51:37+00:00

Yes, well said. I agree. It just doesn't make sense. Good relations with family and friends -- including women family members and women friends -- is very important for mental health. (Of course, if those relationships have become toxic then it makes sense to separate from them.)

It seems to be part of the "all women are evil" crap that has come into MGTOW. It didn't use to be that way, and it isn't that strong on r/MGTOW2 thankfully. But some MGTOWs virtue-signal by telling the forum how much they hate women. Even worse, some MGTOW seem to think that MGTOW is separating from ALL women, even family. It isn't healthy. It's what cults do: "break relations with family and friends. Don't trust anyone in that group."

stay strong & give em a call sometime will ya'

Yep!

S_Taera · 2021-03-25T13:23:30+00:00

Nah, let each men decide his own relationship with hia families, we all have our own reason and different kind of families

yamahantx700 · 2021-03-25T16:07:54+00:00

I know a guy who started working at 13 to pay his mom's mortgage. He's still simping for her in his late 20's. Decent guy, but he puts anything with a pussy on a pedestal.

Sometimes, telling a man to grow a pair is what's best. This dude would be much better off letting his mom know he forgives her and that he'll be cutting her allowance. He doesn't need to stop talking to her, she'll do it for him. Once she learns personal responsibility, she'll probably come around and have a HEALTHY relationship with her son.

It's about setting boundaries. Set healthy boundaries, and stick to it. You don't need to cut anyone off.

No-Connection-987 · 2021-03-25T14:30:43+00:00

All absolute rules are wrong, i can tell you that.

There are good parents and bad parents. Let's have an extreme example. Should a child be good with parents who abuse molest or rape their own children? I'm sure you have the correct answer for this extreme example.

Bad parents exist in great number with a variaty of "bad-ness". Some are midly bad, other are worse but still forgivable, and some should rot in hell.

Maybe you're from asia where the notion of respecting and be good to parents regardless of how they treated you are the norm, or maybe not. I don't know. But remember this, the only person that can tend to your well-being is yourself, and you are free to choose to abandon or not abandon bad parents to save yourself. Both choices are ok, as long as you don't going around spreading the indoctrination or shaming people who have to save themselves from horrible parents.

JusW4naRetireFk · 2021-03-25T15:07:00+00:00

People may not like it but the answer is that is depends on your relationship, have had 0 issues with my parents, just consider yourself lucky if that is the case as having a normal mom and dad seems fucking rare these days. I didn’t get a golden spoon when I was born but am thankful for at least getting good people to raise me.

Better odds of winning the lottery than finding a relationship like my parents have, born in tougher times during the end of communism in Russia, much harder realities than growing up in relatively safe 1st world countries like myself. Bad times making strong people rings true, and modern day good times making all the idiotic weak-minded sheep.

I get people cutting off their parents when they’re just plain shitty people that shouldn’t have had children to begin with, depends on the hand you’re dealt.

EEEGuba69 · 2021-03-25T18:46:41+00:00

If you have very toxic and awfull parents sure, but mine activelly work on their mistakes and beeing close to them makes me feel and act better. So im not cutting them off, either way, its your choice, this sub is advice not law, just remember to walk away from abuse, and make the people that make your life better happy

Title	It doesn't make sense
Author	jester_554
Upvotes	3
Comments	17
Date	March 25, 2021 7:25 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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