Its perfectly normal to only want to date a virgin especially if you are one yourself or you have never had one yourself. discuss

YouSaidChicken · 2020-11-02T17:26:16+00:00

Chasing virgins these days means you will be a pedophile my friend. There are no virgins.

First time you date? Hope it’s when you’re 14 then. Because the next time you date there are no more virgins.

So if you weren’t hitting it by 15, that’s fantasy is over.

hiddenwaitingtobefou · 2020-11-02T15:50:44+00:00

Feel bad for western men who just accept whatever is given to them. But the east is changing too unfortunately.

7Votorious420 · 2020-11-02T16:36:20+00:00

The young girls are shamed and groomed by the class sluts by being called prude or talking about their one night stands. There is just about no hope in finding a traditional girl unless she’s from a Mormon/religious family and heavily indoctrinated into having a family.

moneygang4life · 2020-11-02T18:32:50+00:00

This is in part why men gravitate towards younger women. The more partners a woman has had the less likely she is to be able to pair bond with you.

For sex, any woman will do. When you're mgtow a woman's inability to pair bond doesn't matter. Just enjoy sex.

CuriousIncel2 · 2020-11-02T17:23:30+00:00

Yes, it's okay to have standards. Even if I don't think it's okay, you shouldn't care about my opinion anyway. However, men having standards is considered "misogyny". You have been warned.

Personally, if I actually had any standards, I would just keep it to myself, instead of antagonizing the hive mind unnecessarily.

moneygang4life · 2020-11-02T19:08:24+00:00

I think sex sells and most people are morally broke.

Ok-Reflection7331 · 2020-11-02T21:35:25+00:00

Any man who marries a women who’s been banged by another man is an idiot. F modern times. Virgins were the standard for almost all of recorded history for a reason.

Sake99 · 2020-11-02T15:52:29+00:00

In an unregulated free sexual partner with unequal looks, some men will remain not fucking a virgin but every guy has meddona/whore syndrome. I don't think there is any problem in feeling that way, btw, why should we care what society says, does soeciety give a fuck about us?

You can think what you want but you cannot change it. The earlier you date, the better chance of having a virgin. Women do get size and perfomance preference as they get more experience.

Solo_and_Simple · 2020-11-02T19:31:24+00:00

I don't think it's realistic to expect to be with a virgin. The vast, vast majority of women are not virgins. So a guy who is "not okay" with dating a virgin is having trouble accepting reality.

It's fine to prefer to have a virgin girlfriend, but realistically, the chances of that happening are slim to none. So it's best to just accept reality. Try to find a woman with a low body count. Average #partners for a 21 year old woman is 9. That's already way too many, and by the time they hit 12 to 15, they're pretty much ruined for stable pair-bonding. So try to get one with low mileage.

Impossible-asset · 2020-11-02T20:45:37+00:00

Post approved, but cringey as fuck.

Solo_and_Simple · 2020-11-02T23:20:48+00:00

I don't mean this disrespectfully, but it sounds to me like the issue is your jealousy and insecurity. It seems like you're insisting that the woman remain a virgin because otherwise, the thought of her with another man makes you feel intolerably insecure and jealous.

You can feel that way if you like, but there's another option: work on yourself and your thinking, so that you don't react with jealousy and insecurity to the idea that the woman you like has had sex with another man in the past.

After all, you don't HAVE to react with jealousy and insecurity to that fact. It's optional. Some guys would react to it with indifference. "Of course, most women have had sex with someone else. That's just the way it is." Personally, I wasn't bothered at all by the fact that my first girlfriend had been with other guys before me. I was just glad to get in there and lose my virginity, too, lol.

I can see how most guys, if they are virgins themselves, might be a little anxious if they knew the woman had more sexual experience than they did. But most guys I know in that position (virgin) would just deal with that, "do their best" so to speak, and be happy to get laid. They might prefer the woman be a virgin, but they aren't going to skip the whole sexual encounter just because she isn't. They'd deal with their insecurity, rather than insisting women spare them those feelings by remaining virgins.

Anyhow, my point is, you are choosing to make female virginity into a big deal breaker, saying you'll go MGTOW (incel, I would say) unless you get a woman who fulfills your criteria. You can do that if you want, but the downside is that, in all likelihood, you go without any female sexual relationships for the rest of your life. And that's a very long time.

The only other options are 1) join a very conservative, traditional religious order that has extremely strict sexual mores (i.e., fake religious beliefs you don't have in order to get laid by a virgin), or 2) work on your jealousy and insecurity.

I vote for working on yourself, but it's up to you.

Gaiinahat · 2020-11-03T04:09:32+00:00

My first wife tried to convince me she was a virgin. It was the little things that slipped out which gave her away. Over a long enough timeline, women tell on themselves every time.

Her: I think I broke my hymen while horse riding.

My Thoughts: Do you not think I know how a hymen works? What did you do, ride with the saddle horn jammed into your kooch?

Her: Wow, you're really thick.

My Thoughts: As compared to what?

Her: They say if you haven't had sex in over 7 years, you're considered to be a virgin.

My Thoughts: I met you when you were 19, and 19-7 =12. Just my luck, a virgin slut.

ronoda12 · 2020-11-02T22:13:21+00:00

For marriage or LTR virgin is always preferable.

Impossible-asset · 2020-11-02T19:39:53+00:00

How is this relevant to mgtow and your journey?

ShadeNames · 2020-11-02T20:30:50+00:00

I'm pretty torn apart in this one, i wouldn't really mind having a significant partner who isn't a virgin, but I do care about the mindset she had about having sex before being with me. I could understand if someone, man or woman, had a promiscuous past based on poor decision making or a shitty upbringing, and that someone has now moved on and realized how unhealthy that kind of behavior is.

But if you are already an older adult and you still have sex with anyone with no disregard for how physically and mentally unhealthy that is, then I'll probably won't be interested in you

moneygang4life · 2020-11-03T00:26:54+00:00

I just want to say that a virgin can deceive you too. And this is no exception to the rule.

JesusSamuraiLapdance · 2020-11-03T00:48:11+00:00

First relationship, I'd prefer someone who is a virgin, so that I don't feel like there's a chance I could disappoint. I could understand some guys having a fetish for experienced women, though. They might know more "tricks".

After a very bad tail-end of a long-term relationship I was left with some pretty major trust issues and paranoia around relationships. For a long time I thought I'd only want to get with inexperienced women because maybe they're less slutty and thinking about how many guys could have fucked them made me pretty uncomfortable. But something to keep in mind is that any person can lie about how many people they've slept with or even if they've had sex at all. I still don't know if my ex was being honest when she told me she was a virgin. She seemed to know a few "tricks" that left me suspicious.

I've come to realise that there's no real way to be 100% certain that someone is a virgin (hymens can be broken through plenty of ways other than sex), so it's best not to be worried about whether they're a virgin or not. Just don't think about it and don't ask them about it. If you want to date women, have long-term relationships or even just casual sex, then I'd say ignore any concept of virginity. You'll save yourself a lot of stress.

The fact that I struggle to ignore it is one of many reasons why I'll probably never do anything long-term involving a woman again.

jakethegreatwhite · 2020-11-03T05:35:10+00:00

Most women lose the v card pre age 16, she doesn't exist unless you ship her in.

VestigialHead · 2020-11-03T09:30:32+00:00

Not relevant to Going Your Own Way in the slightest. Please stop talking about women here.

CycloneKelly · 2020-11-12T03:10:00+00:00

It’s normal. You’re allowed to have standards.

Title	Its perfectly normal to only want to date a virgin especially if you are one yourself or you have never had one yourself. discuss
Author	moneygang4life
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Comments	160
Date	November 2, 2020 3:44 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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