Quitting bad habits

KrombopulosPhillip · 2019-04-13T03:07:00+00:00

block my favorite sites in my router settings and change the password, I'm much too lazy to reset the router just to watch porn

Impossible-asset · 2019-04-13T04:29:13+00:00

Ok so you're talking about a habit, judging by your other comments in this thread. This is much easier to fix than an actual addiction.

You first start by acknowledging you have an problem. "Porn is a problem for me that I need to solve."

Then you need to formulate a plan to change. Think of it as no different than a work order or an itemized invoice a plumber or other service professional would give you. It will list all the services they did to solve your problem. This is no different. Make a list of things that you will do to solve the problem. This should have things you would like to replace porn with, and a reasonable time where you will ESTABLISH A NEW HABIT. Note: not "quit the bad habit, but have a new habit formed." It can include rewards like a favorite snack or an extra sauna session at the gym, or a good whiskey. whatever it takes to give you incentive to perform the new activity. Always ALWAYS positive reinforcement for performing the new activity during the time you would normally be engaged in the bad habit.

Give yourself permission to watch porn and jerk off or whatever. That's right. Give yourself permission to do it. When you say "I'm not going to do X anymore, and you forbid it, then X becomes something you can't have. It's "forbidden fruit" and we all know how crazy you'll get when you want something you can't have. So give yourself permission. and then....

tell yourself that "I'll do it, but a little later, after I do (whatever activity from your list that is constructive that you'd like to do, and do that). You'll find that after about 20 minutes, even if you are craving porn, it will subside. That's just brain chemicals giving you a craving, and they subside rather quickly. Of course, if you feel the need to jerk off, go do that, but try it without porn. Think of that hot set of gray Yoga pants that was walking in front of you on the way to the store or something. Congratulations, you substituted porn for another activity successfully.

The first two weeks may be a little difficult, but with a plan in place and not relying on willpower alone (which rarely, RARELY works, because sure you can stay away from something for a little while, but it's REPLACING it with something constructive that really helps you accomplish your goal).

After 30 days, you'll find that your desire for the bad habit is nearly all gone, and that you increasingly enjoy the other activity you've chosen. By 60 days, you'll be well on your way to ingraining a new healthy habit into your behavioral pattern. By 90 days, you'll be pretty solid into your new pattern and porn won't even be in the equation.

I hope that helps.

TLDR:

recognize the problem
formulate a plan with reasonable goal dates, rewards, and activities.
Give yourself permission, then just tell yourself "in a little while" when cravings hit.
reward yourself when you succeed. do not punish yourself if you fail.
Form the new healthy habit over two weeks, a month, and up to 90 days.
Profit.

msv5450 · 2019-04-14T03:21:58+00:00

I find porn really really boring. I’d rather take a nap or read news instead of watching porn. I’ve said this to a number of people and they all laughed at me.

chart6653 · 2019-04-14T01:11:49+00:00

I guess it's all about volume, as with anything where one is questioning their level of attachment. As a 51-year old, I need to nut about once every 10 days to 'clean the pipes'. 10 minutes of porn does the trick, and I get on with my day

I perceive it as a tool. I can't conceive of using it other than in this way. But I suppose yes, if one is watching it without this limited and short intention, there could be a problem

DiogenesObserves · 2019-04-13T17:25:16+00:00

Go to rehab if you actually have a problem. Like alcohol, having 2 shots of vodka a day is good for you. Drinking 3 bottles is suicide. Moderation is key.

Scantraxx12 · 2019-04-13T13:24:44+00:00

I fasted (1 meal a day 1000 calories, at 275 pounds) for 2 weeks and abstained from porn. I started because I was fed up at how I was stuck in a useless cycle that brings no results. You have to want to quit. If you have no desire to quit, good luck. Some how, some where, in yourself, you have to want to change yourself and then build up from that.

Some people can do it easier than others, but I found for myself that eating less, working out (30 minutes+), and abstaining from porn all synergize together. Also, I eat sandwiches at home (as I was a heavy fast food eater). Just my experience. Wish you the best of luck.

mechgaige · 2019-04-13T08:38:45+00:00

Replace it with fishing. Trust me, nothing is more addictive.

shimelessemekbeb · 2019-04-13T07:45:45+00:00

porn producer here. what seems to be the problem?

- shimmy

grievancestudies · 2019-04-13T06:15:51+00:00

i stopped eating. greatly reduced morning wood. helps me focus on things more acutely. check out snake diet.

avtarius · 2019-04-13T03:37:50+00:00

Just replace an addiction you don't want with a stronger addiction, like learning a new skill or some high investment outdoor physical activity.

When you're fulfilled and too tired for porn it won't matter down the road.

The_Outlier1612 · 2019-04-13T03:46:59+00:00

Look up "r/NOFAP" it's for those who want to quit porn and masterbation. Some take it super seriously and others they only wanna quit porn. Great community in IMHO

GlobalAsshat · 2019-04-13T03:43:27+00:00

Distraction works best in replacing bad habits.... When you get the urge just do something else.

DangZagnut · 2019-04-13T03:49:59+00:00

you feel good while you have it then feel disgusted with yourself afterwards.

I think that says more about you and your views on porn.

Why would you feel disgusted after sexual release? Are you like this with women?

801735 · 2019-04-14T12:03:32+00:00

How do you give up on the porn?

Like everything else you give up on in life, you simply give up on it.

Title	Quitting bad habits
Author	POPPOPCAP93
Upvotes	8
Comments	21
Date	April 13, 2019 2:46 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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