Marriage leads to comfort, we know this. But MRP promotes finding comfort in the discomfort, so when are you supposed to push and when are you supposed to relax?

The answer will be different for each Man on this sub, the route I’ve taken is to push 90% of the time and err on the side of going too far vice not far enough.

What I mean by this is that every night I’ll come up with a game plan for the next day. This is a habit I developed from the Navy as you never want to be in front of 45 guys and not know what you’re expected to accomplish that day.

So I make a list that goes something like:

  • Morning PT (I worked hard and used my wife’s gypsy abilities to build us a garage gym so I can lift in my boxers, it’s great)

  • Skip breakfast

  • Early lunch

  • Afternoon workout (I get 1 hour 3 days a week at my job)

  • Specific yard work (Right now it’s cut down trees to build a chicken coup and a place for beekeeping)

  • Dinner

  • Write/Read

In between all of those things I perform my ‘normal’ duties as the Family Alpha. Play with the kids, educate the kids, play with the wife, simply Lead.

One thing I try to focus on is actually listening and engaging my wife. She, like most women, can talk her fucking ass off. While there are times where I just space the fuck out or straight up tell her to get to the point, minus the fluff, I try to listen to what she is saying and not just view her as my wife but a woman living her life in this crazy world.

It makes a difference and it has helped us maintain our standard of a relationship. We’ve been RP our entire marriage, that hasn’t been easy. It’s not only required me to keep my foot on the gas in regards to self-improvement and self-education (Thanks MRP) but it has also forced her to maintain her standard. If one of us quit, the great thing we have would fall to shit.

By consciously forcing myself to keep the relationship ‘fresh’ and treat it like we are still getting to know each other, feel each other out, surprise each other I’m able to keep myself from becoming comfortable.

I still try to impress her.

For Example: I climb trees, will knock out pull ups, randomly throw her onto my shoulders and do squats. We went on Vacation, when we first went into the room I showed her that I could back flip from one bed to the other. She laughed, I laughed, I fell off the bed one time and smashed my head, fun was had by all.

I still treat her as my sexy new toy

For Example: On this same vacation the kids fell asleep, one in each bed (fuckers) and she said, well, "I guess we can’t sneak some sex in tonight"... I just smiled, crawled out of bed, picked her up, carried her to the bathroom, threw down some towels, and we went to town.

I still listen to her and I mean actually listen

For Example: She was talking about career aspirations; I noticed she was shirking from gunning for a top position because she is ‘new’ at this place. I motivated the shit out of her and built up the confidence necessary for her to throw her name into the ring of candidates.

This isn’t an I Love Me post, it’s just a reminder that you need to keep yourself from getting comfortable with your wife. Mix it up with her, break the monotonous routine you fall into (especially parents) and most importantly, have fun. Tease the shit out of her, make fun of yourself, be a funny guy (not a funny fat guy like Peter or Homer) but a genuinely funny dude that can get that genuine smile from her.

Acta, Non Verba.

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