Hello All!! Been lurking for a while, came here from deadbedrooms. The advice here is awesome, I've read NMMNG, and over half way through MMSL. Upon reading NMMNG I realized that was me! And I'm working to change that. A funny thought, an ex-coworker and I came to the conclusion that if we could develop a pill to give our wives to help them think more logically they would then develop penises.

Highly apologize for all the run on sentences.

Even music that I used to love, is now pissing me off...like Bryan Adams, everything i do i do for you. If any of you like hairbands check out steel panther...very alpha.

I thought for a long time about making a new profile for here, but I'm not ashamed of what i wrote in deadbedrooms, about six months ago. My wife moved out to an apartment, after the I love you but i'm not in love with you, of course there was someone else, AWALT, she was trying the bisexual side of herself at the time. She kept wanting me to chase her and woo her back, told her no to that, and that she has to ask me for forgiveness and permission to come back...that went well. I started seeing someone else myself, that's when the jealousy came out, and she wanted to come back. I hadn't found this sub yet, so I was still in very beta world of what else can i do for you. Then after an evening of arguing a month ago I told her to go back to the apartment, had sex the next four days...but nothing since. The good part about finding this sub, is I'm OK without it, but not OK with being without it and being in a relationship.

About two weeks ago we had the alcohol talk that I will no longer tolerate intolerable behaviors, She checked in at the local hospital for depression. She would drink(not to a drunken state though) nightly till 3am, when she'd have to be at work at 9 of course being late. And our 5 year old running the house by himself. She is now stetting up counseling, went to 1 AA meeting, I doubt she'll make it to more. I'm trying to be encouraging, but not pushy. She has to want to do better herself.

The drinking she states was brought on by my attitude and manipulativeness(the old "nice guy"), but we found out it was deep rooted as being sexually taken advantage of by her step dad when she was a teenager. Now she states she likes sex but has to be careful with it and wont just be free with it...never has except before marriage. I have to work for it, I agree, but in different ways than what she means. She won't initiate, only wants me to start, but has to be with back rub(bull shit) or me offering oral, she never will.

Yes, before you say it... I'm working out, and will continue to.

Our arguments used to always end about the same way, her saying all you want is sex. I usually say, no I want happiness, and for her to want sex. Now I just leave the room, stating I'm not gonna argue. And I'm about done with all of it. She claims sometimes, I just don't know how to handle a head strong woman...even though I know she doesn't really want to be in charge.

Planning a trip this weekend with the kids for fathers day, while she watches our restaurant. She did tell me when I come back if my attitude hasn't changed she's leaving to go back to her apartment. I didn't say anything, wish i would've said...want me to bring you some boxes to pack in.

For a little more perspective, we own a restaurant, so we almost always apart, working separate shifts, or on a rare occaison working all day together then home together. She still blames me for getting the restaurant, even though it's doing ok, it's still a lot of work. Yet, she doesn't want to leave it. She likes being in the public eye.

Even though there is no real question here, any insight for what to do better is very much appreciated. It just feels good to write it out, even though, I know someone here will claim I'm looking for the approval of the internet people. I also want to say I'm very glad to have found marriedredpill!!