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Props for having an answer that was about you and not your wife and/or relationship.
/r/askMRP18/04/18 03:20 AM
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She doesn't work and you're trying to control her with your finances. God - 90% of the time I would say that phrase was some feminist drivel, but that's exactly what you're doing.... men here and trying to control their wives... I wouldn't understand it if I didn't go through something similar. Also, you didn't bluff. You called an all in with a 2,7 off suit. Learn to play poker - it's a good game, fun hobby, easy way to put together a guys night. Your posts are so cringeworthy, but ahem... take…
/r/askMRP17/04/18 06:40 AM
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Dude... What I would do (and to me this is not calling her out - and you should avoid turning this into a guilt trip like 'wah i'm so hurt i can't believe you would do this'): "I would appreciate if you made sure that you/daughter are available when we make plans to facetime. I have limited free time while deployed and it is important to me to get in as much time with her/you both as I can." You do give a fuck about speaking with your daughter (and possibly your wife?). Own it. After that we're …
/r/askMRP16/04/18 06:28 AM
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I spent way too long justifying and trying to control my wife's behavior and it halted my progress Can we somehow get this put on an overlay on this sub that you have to read before you can post? The part of MRP that the new guys don't get, distilled down so beautifully.
/r/askMRP11/04/18 11:34 PM
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One point or another you need to decide your own convictions and what you are okay with (and not okay with). Guys here can help (especially the guys who have been on the regular MRP helping for what seems like forever), but eventually it comes down to you and we can't tell you what to be okay with, where to draw the line, etc. Come up with boundaries yourself and stick to them without wavering or fear of her reaction to them. I personally don't think that tinder helps you game unless you use it …
/r/askMRP11/04/18 03:28 AM
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What are you even looking for out of this post? You're trying to convince us that she hangs out with guys because she is into "guy stuff" or are you trying to convince yourself? Then you tell us she's only lying to you because you were previously insecure... I don't think anyone here cares. Do whatever you want. Why are you repeatedly asking strangers on the internet what to do in specific situations? Plus it sounds like you're going to move the goalposts for this chick until you catch her with …
/r/askMRP10/04/18 09:02 AM
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You cant expect loyalty when none is give. FTFY However, this is why TRP doesn't advocate for marriage (no matter what this sub says).
/r/askMRP28/02/18 06:08 AM
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no. he will know for sure if she is sloppy and is blatantly cheating out in public. otherwise he will never be sure. his worries are not going to magically go away if the PI returns nothing or inconclusive "evidence."
/r/askMRP17/02/18 10:12 AM
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is she someone you want to be with? her actions - not your romanticized version of "who she is." we already know the answer to this. save yourself the $1500. go spend it on something cool as fuck to get over the divorce. buy your kids some nice school clothes. whatever. you might not even get anything out of this PI and you already know. the fact that you're here tells me that. the best course of action for 90%+ of guys who show up here is leave. they're usually just not strong enough to do it r…
/r/askMRP17/02/18 10:07 AM
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she set you up to spew validation/neediness.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 05:47 AM
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I consider HTWFAIP a book more oriented towards your career. You will usually have better results by implementing what it talks about there. Sometimes you do have to be direct and not feelz friendly. When you are subtle and somewhat catering in your direction as a leader you will be taken more seriously when you find the situation calls for direct action/words.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 05:04 AM
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eh, surgeon = status. i say yes for that reason. but looking for "something more" on tinder? ... run for the hills.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 04:59 AM
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you're not even divorced and you're already in another committed relationship? well that's problem number one. sidebar
/r/askMRP14/02/18 04:57 AM
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Keto - not because whatever bro science; because it will be hard not to eat at a deficit while on it and you will hit your protein goals easily. It eliminates most junk food and a lot of processed food as well. Someone else said it, but it's a bitch to stay at 10-12% BF. I allowed myself a single "cheat" day a week and that was a day I still pretty much stuck to my calorie goals, I just didn't care how I got there as much. You start to look at eating like work and it's not as enjoyable as just e…
/r/askMRP28/01/18 02:05 AM
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Aziz has a high SMV in public due to his wealth, status, social proof (high SMV to women who place more than average value on these things - but that's a decent chunk of women in NYC I'm sure.). When you get him to his apartment he is just a short indian dude with a nice apartment. Everything that made him attractive to her was gone and she is left with the reality of the awkward and unattractive dude sticking his dick in her face. that's the real deal. the rules are be attractive and don't be u…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 04:48 AM
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Annnnddd now we're getting into the needing validation part. if your wife is that good of an actress then what does it matter to you? what is the difference between being a submissive, enjoyable to be around, faithful (as far as you can tell), sex fiend wife and acting like a submissive, enjoyable to be around, faithful (as far as you can tell), sex fiend wife? Especially if it is to the point where you can't even tell she's acting? They're the same thing. You are the sum of your actions and you…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/18 02:29 AM
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This is a phase of unplugging to be obsessing about her desire is reeking of seeking validation from her. For sure. I agree. I almost just let myself go down this rabbit hole, but I think that what you're getting at (contrasted by my point) is deserving of a full post. I have no intention of writing that at the moment, but I think it ends at the fact that you can have a woman desiring you be a requirement for you being with her (read: unspoken requirement - for the autistic) and at the same time…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/18 12:36 AM
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I'm going to play devil's advocate here: sex is better when both parties are into it. if you want soft hole to dump your load into, buy a fleshlight... cheaper and talks less.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 08:26 PM
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So about 18 months ago my wife (36F HB6) of 11 years tells me (38M) she is not now and never was physically attracted to me in the butterflies in the stomach tingly (her words) way. Women have shit memories on this kind of thing. Add right now to the end of everything they say. She was unattracted to you to the point where she couldn't even fathom that she once was. But you think she is waking you up with blowjobs because she's afraid you'll stop paying the bills? idk if I buy that. Most women d…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 08:24 PM
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Good question there. I had long thought that being a provider would cause lust because she would subcounsiously feel dependent on me which would cause hormones and shit and bla bla bla. Learned now from reading that this is usually not the case. What values do I bring? I honestly don't know exactly. She's not staying for the sex at least, that's for sure. I like to think that I provide value because I am funny to be around and arranging fun things for the family, activities and so. Think about t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/18 06:02 PM
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Buried and late, but my rebuttal in a reddit thread was: OP (obviously a woman): "He asked her to have sex 5 times and if she says yes on the 5th time that isn't actual consent." Me: "If a car salesmen asks you to buy a car for a 5th time and you finally said yes, does he get arrested for robbery?"
/r/TheRedPill18/01/18 05:11 AM
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I’m not putting up with it anymore except for this time lol definitely not next time though!!!
/r/askMRP17/01/18 01:57 AM
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Anyway situational context is everything. Hard to know how bitchy she really was. Agreed, but the specific 8 gig comment is irrelevant to this post.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 08:50 PM
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u/ice_walker Being scarce makes you valuable. Being nonexistent makes you in need of replacement. My background for reference (and I really want to make a post about this, but I'm less consumed w/ MRP and more busy these days): Was in a 3 year relationship and went from pussy to completely in my own frame. It didn't just improve my relationship, it improved every aspect of my life. Judging by how things went post break up, I do not think my relationship had a chance in hell. She had the recurrin…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/18 02:59 AM
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"he is SUCH a douchebag though!" - your wife and there is that army if your wife is hot enough. hopefully your face is okay, hit the gym, dress well, get a real haircut, live with confidence. sex is fucking cheap, you just don't know it yet. feigning confidence while giving this issue so much thought and mate guarding is pointless, weak, and bad for your mental health. don't get married if you aren't already, don't have kids if you haven't already (sorry this has to be said), have an exit plan i…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/17 12:03 AM
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anything more than a nibble is in bad taste.
/r/askMRP23/09/17 05:59 PM
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"Havin' money's not everything, not havin' it is" - Kanye West
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/17 05:38 PM
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how is your DEVI?
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:34 AM
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no contact. it's easier than you think if you make the choice in your mind to stick with it.
/r/askMRP17/03/17 06:38 AM
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in hindsight as a single guy i would stop the initiation once I realized it was going to be starfish. if this woman wasn't your wife what would you do? would you put up with starfish or go out and game other women? if it is once in a blue moon starfish then what have you lost? one night of draining your balls? meh. just initiate again another time. if it's constant starfish then she isn't into you at all. and like i said, you would (hopefully) go game other women if she wasn't your wife. so just…
/r/askMRP16/03/17 05:40 AM
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love has multiple meanings. You love your car. You love your new laptop. You love your dog. You love your wife. You love your son. Those aren't all the same, but we use the same word. Your wife will stop loving you like she loves Channing Tatum (lust) and will start loving you like her new laptop (you make her life more comfortable). She will still use the same word and will not understand (or maybe she will - but she may still deflect because she won't want to take blame) why you are unhappy wi…
/r/askMRP14/03/17 05:35 PM
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scarcity mentality at its finest. keep orbiters. suddenly your woman won't be tired.
/r/askMRP14/03/17 05:26 PM
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totally agree with that
/r/askMRP13/03/17 01:50 AM
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way to project your insecurities. if she is going to go cheat on him in the city (when it wasn't even her idea to go) she is going to cheat on him any chance she gets and he did a bad job vetting his wife. if the wife says "I want to go alone to the city for my birthday" - red flag. this is not the case. anyway, i think he should involve himself in the birthday ideas. i've seen shit like this in relationships and then a year or two down the road i see the same people getting divorced... they did…
/r/askMRP12/03/17 09:32 PM
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also the brag about over 100 women (like that's something to brag about) gives it away as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/17 09:42 PM
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it only works as well as your situation if you both have the "may be the last time i fuck them" feeling. also, pretty hard to fake that feeling. i would assume the best sex you'll ever have with someone who you end up in a relationship with is the first few times and the last few times. i'm sure uncertainty increases desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 04:20 AM
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first paragraph could go in the MRP bible
/r/askMRP01/03/17 06:59 AM
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this is the easy answer. tinder is full of sluts. like absolutely bulging at the seams.
/r/askMRP20/02/17 05:26 AM
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i cared about how many girls i fucked back when i was in high school. women (even Christian women) want a guy who can fuck many girls but decide to fuck just one. that's the dream. they want alpha bucks. women care more if you lie to them than if you have slept with many women before them, i assure you. also, beyond morality... lying is weaksauce. own your shit. Trump said he grabs women by the pussy. Guess who the religious right voted for en masse.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 06:27 AM
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Here's a diet tip: go keto I won't try to bro science mumbo jumbo it. keto works because there is no fucking way end up being too low on protein. and i dare you to try to overeat on a keto diet. unless you are downing sticks of butter it is damn near impossible.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 06:20 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4gg0na/power_talk_megathread/
/r/askMRP17/02/17 06:19 AM
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be attractive don't be unattractive the rule for life. the problem is most guys here are under such a pile of unattractive points that being attractive for a week isn't going to do shit... you are already halod unattractive due to all your past shit. also, steamrolling hard nos is unattractive. it's a sign of lack of abundance. so you make a really good point on that.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 06:14 AM
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learn from the mistakes others have made before you. it's a valuable skill. to refer back to the matrix - imagine neo taking on agents right when he is pulled out of the matrix. no chance in hell.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 06:33 AM
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it takes almost zero energy... message a bunch hi, the ones that respond message back (turn off alerts and check a few times a day), keep convo going for a short period (taking a while to respond each time because you're busy, right? or sometimes respond quickly if you happen to still have it open when they respond), get the number, text them, if they actively try to keep the convo alive they are DTF. If they respond enough to not ever just let the convo die, they're down to hang out probably an…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/17 05:12 AM
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"She's not yours it's just your turn." you have oneitis
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 07:35 AM
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1-3 is all the fun without the sloppy. you can't run game if you're the wasted guy at the bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 04:23 AM
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just going to throw out that it is funny that you assume she didn't realize sexting other men was deal breaker before this little chat.
/r/askMRP30/01/17 06:25 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5nzson/a_tale_of_two_cats_pt_2/ what would you do if this was a girlfriend and not a wife? and then ask yourself what the whole marriage thing really changes? you lose some money possibly? you could end up losing the rest of your life to this shit woman. have some self respect.
/r/askMRP30/01/17 12:26 AM
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can't control herself huh? awalt. anyway, fuck your "boundaries." air quotes because you don't know what a boundary is.
/r/askMRP28/01/17 09:48 AM
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once you get a taste you come back... when you're ready.
/r/askMRP28/01/17 01:53 AM
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48 laws of power - https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2n3gxr/48_days_of_power_full_list_for_sidebar/ and How to Win Friends and Influence People - http://www.audible.com/pd/Business/How-to-Win-Friends-Influence-People-Audiobook/B002V5BV96 Recommend the audio book version.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 06:54 PM
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if your wife treats you like shit you aren't her best option.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 06:05 PM
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take every advantage you can get
/r/askTRP21/01/17 02:00 AM
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better pics and very simple bio that relays you are a fun person. they can hamster you into whatever they are "looking for," so keep it vague.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/17 08:43 AM
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The thing is that (non fat) women have the equivalent of the 23 year old supermodel asking to fuck them in the alley, regularly. I made a post on vetting your LTR/wife and I think this is a prime example. AWALT but not all women are that shitty. Did your wife have a high n count? Had she previously had one night stands? Basically, would fucking the hot guy in the alley and being tossed aside make her feel good about herself because he was hot or terrible about herself because she knows that she …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/17 07:40 AM
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easy answer is to add/accept her, but never actually snap her. she'll think that you use snapchat like she does (snapping a lot) but that she's not on the list of people you snap. when girls snap you they expect a reply and if you just leave it on read... well you know the rest.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/17 02:26 AM
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I know this can come off as "blame her," but let's call it "blame you for poorly vetting someone you are investing your time/resources into." If you entered the relationship blue pill then you most likely overlooked at least some red flags in the name of "love." Are these too much for a better frame to overcome? That's for you to decide, but I think we can all agree there is a spectrum for quality of woman that is independent of how well you have your shit together.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/17 01:42 AM
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single me has realized, even more than before, that the only way you can reliably build attraction through text is through absence. (If your wife knows your day to day schedule down to the minute this isn't as effective. ) So, I guess if you want to employ "text game" you should probably start by doing unpredictable things in your day to day. Then you can leave bread crumbs of a conversation and mid way go radio silence... gets single women chasing you. By the transitive property of AWALT I will…
/r/askMRP14/01/17 07:49 PM
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Her: "But what if I get home and just doze off?!"[In a very apathetic tone] "Guess I'll have to go alone" And then watch her be ready to go out when you get home.
/r/askMRP14/01/17 01:08 AM
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she'll get even more excited if you can actually treat yourself like the prize. the hotter the girl the less likely they are to have ran into a guy who hasn't tried to wife them up. scarcity makes something valuable. if you don't lose control of yourself due to her hotness you will be valuable.
/r/askMRP13/01/17 03:55 AM
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she gets more feelz from OP being upset about the rejection than she does from him putting his dick in her. obvious answer is up SMV. up game. this is still a case where i would suggest "nice card" until she doesn't get the impression that he is upset by the rejections. as you mention, the power thing. this is a direct path to her losing that power. any action that makes her feel that she has affected his emotional state with her vagina gives her this feel. kill her vision of the beta you and on…
/r/askMRP09/01/17 04:56 AM
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I see this a lot on the MRP sub. Guys want "proof" and they're constantly shifting the goal posts for what constitutes that. "Okay, she texted him nudes... but I don't have proof the fucked." etc etc. If you even have to question it, that is grounds for a downgrade and investigating things is just wasted effort for something you already know.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/17 12:49 AM
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I don't think it's just porn. Jerking it in general is bad for motivation IMO.The best "hot streak" i've ever been on was during a time when I started by giving up porn and it developed into me being so busy and getting laid so much that I didn't even need porn/masturbation. It was literally the first time I pulled a girl in a bar for a ONS. Usually I don't have the balls/motivation, but no fap + lots of gym really brings those test levels up (or something).
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 09:56 PM
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Look at Donald Trump. Places like this allow you to control the narrative. But I also agree that adding tinder girls on social media is a lame idea. Snapchat is fine for some social proof, but don't snap them directly. Just put up stories when you are doing something especially cool and leave the rest to their imagination. If they snap you or respond to your stories they are interested. Otherwise they probably just want validation.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/17 12:40 AM
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All these guys say they have read, but then they do things like this. Like in what world did you not think it was AWALT to gaslight you about having the hots for this guy? If you had the right mindset and relationship (as in she perceived you as not a butthurt little bitch) you could joke about this and she would admit the little crush because she wouldn't think you saw him as a threat. She has to lie because she A) thinks you think that this guy is better than you B) probably thinks this guy is…
/r/askMRP07/01/17 11:53 PM
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Read up on power talk https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2az5ut/please_explain_power_talk_to_me/ quick explanation. and more https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1zrcs3/on_the_implications_of_powertalk_and_other/
/r/askMRP28/12/16 11:12 PM
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If you can't focus go get a script for some add meds.
/r/askTRP28/12/16 09:14 PM
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I'm a whore for caffeine, but I agree with you 100% on the drinking. Drinking is a crutch if you take it too far and it gives you confidence while removing actual ability. If you could have the confidence of alcohol without the sloppiness you would be golden. And you can have that, you just need to work on your mental or "inner game," as some might call it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/16 12:06 AM
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This is a great fucking post. It reminded me of a scene in The Usual Suspects: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3OLIgEua4PU I know it's not exactly what you're going for, but I think it could help get your point across.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/16 12:00 AM
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truth. for the guys who this still doesn't quite click to: do you like eating pussy? do you love eating pussy? all pussy? go google "Fat girl" then google "average girl" then "Fit girl" then "Victoria's Secret model" The line you personally draw on where these women become fuckable and where these women become things you want to bury your tongue in, is definitely different. Just because a woman (or man) is attractive enough that sex with them sounds enjoyable, it doesn't mean that sticking a (so…
/r/askMRP23/12/16 05:07 PM
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I would personally keylog and then go to the movies (etc.) alone or "alone."
/r/askMRP23/12/16 04:53 PM
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Creating something out of nothing. You could have told her "going to get gas," before this whole bullshit and you wouldn't have had this long ass conversation... but what did you do? Decide to be Mr. Extra Mysterious and it turned into: W: where were you? Me: out W: Where? Why? What's wrong? Me: I got gas See that "out?" You were trying to be brief and mysterious and then she STILL hammered you into saying what you were doing. This is a form of DEER. But it wouldn't have even come up if you had …
/r/askMRP22/12/16 07:56 PM
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It's like when someone tells you they have taken steroids.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 06:09 PM
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Pretend she swallowed a few more and didn't make it. Grieve to yourself and move on.
/r/askTRP21/12/16 04:20 PM
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Their options are: 1) ghost - you weren't getting laid anyway 2) counter offer - they're interested and you rejecting their counter offer makes them more interested because most guys just want to meet up in any way, shape, form. 3) come over right away Do you see why it doesn't really matter to me which they choose? I think the "let's get a drink here" is the safer route, but also more likely for you to waste your time. Just say "Come over and watch X movie with me." When they reject you, don't …
/r/askMRP20/12/16 09:36 PM
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Getting coffee is like suicide for your chances at getting laid. Things I have noticed that work: Getting a drink nearby your place. Then after, you invite home for some bullshit reason. Invite over right off the bat. Have noticed you will get token rejection and a counter-offer of meeting in public. Don't shoot this down based on the "i just want to hook up" pretext. Shoot it down softly with something like "Well, I really wanted to watch Batman tonight, but that might be fun some other time." …
/r/askMRP20/12/16 05:39 PM
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probably just grinding it between her ass cheeks. she's a lady, you know.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 09:11 PM
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get a spray tan. not the dark physique competition kind. just enough to give you some color and get you out of the "pale" label. yes, i'm serious
/r/askTRP16/12/16 05:39 PM
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outcome independence read that... i just saw it from a quick google, but it gets some good points across.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 10:33 PM
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Just watch out for covert contracts and attaching getting laid to waking up feeling good (focus on true OI).
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 05:03 PM
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u/spexer and u/archwinger gave great advice. Make sure you don't get your wife pregnant, by the way. As in condoms. You control the birth control from now on. To be honest, I would say this isn't something you even want to force yourself to have to "get over." And will you be able to trust your wife again? When she gets a new job that you can't spy on her at? This isn't starting an emotional affair; this is an emotional affair. And this isn't a one time moment of weakness, this is a long drawn o…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 11:41 PM
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The real Red Pill of this story: She would rather date the you that cheated on her than the you that exists now.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 09:43 PM
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She's also looking to ease any guilt she has over leaving him. Two for one deal on her end. OP gets nothing.
/r/askTRP14/12/16 08:13 PM
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I posted this question on r/asktrp and haven't received the most positive results. So, you decided to come to MRP in hopes that we would validate your decision? Cohabitation will do nothing positive for your relationship, especially in the area of attraction, which pretty much trickles down to everything else. That is TRP. Anyone saying otherwise is giving you their own brand of bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 06:56 PM
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you're not in a relationship? spin plates. don't get married. preferably don't have kids... i have not been married or had kids, but this is pretty standard TRP advice. there are people here who may direct you towards marriage, but it really is not the place that you should be looking for validation of this idealized life you are hoping to eventually get.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 04:26 PM
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I'm not the end all of high N count girls, but it has been my experience that they are more often the predator rather than the prey. The guys hitting on them don't often have the luck. It is often they spot a guy that they are attracted to and make it painfully obvious that they are DTF. This is why you see relatively attractive guys wondering what the fuck happened and why the "slut" rejected all of his advances. He may have had game, but he was never in the game. If she had wanted to sleep wit…
/r/TheRedPill13/12/16 09:30 PM
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I'm younger than most here, but I've been around the block. I don't think she understands her own feelings. She doesn't need "unconditional attention, foot rubs, massages etc." she just needs a couple of things: you to be valuable and her hamster to feel like you somewhat care for her. Why the second one? I don't know. Maybe it's because by default (the fact that you're in an LTR with her) you're not the most alpha guy she could be fucking, so she needs some sort of comfort... if you have zero c…
/r/askMRP13/12/16 05:28 PM
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No, it's fine, and possibly necessary, right now. I'm suggesting that it is beta to be that offended by a hotel size shampoo being thrown at your head by your wife.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 06:32 PM
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No, he failed the shit test when it shook his frame. She throws the bottle, it doesn't matter to him at all because he's not a little beta who gets offended by a hotel size shampoo bottle being thrown at him. He fucks his wife later, not because he is punching her pussy pass, but because he is a man who wants to fuck his wife. This is passing the shit test.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 06:09 PM
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Well, you might need the boundary setting right now. But one day you won't need to verbalize it. Also, the other point is that it is a little shampoo bottle. It's not the pain of the bottle that shook your frame, it's the idea behind her throwing the bottle at you. You constructed some disrespect in your head that is probably larger than it is in reality. I've been in almost the exact same place mentally that you are now. I wish I could tell you how I turned the corner to where I was more amused…
/r/askMRP12/12/16 05:53 PM
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When you get to the point where paragraph 1 and 2 don't have to happen and you skip right to paragraph 3 you will be golden. If you can skip right to paragraph 4 you will be even more golden. Sometimes words aren't necessary and a quick look will do the job better.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 04:51 PM
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A post this long and detailed on AskMRP has like a 90% chance of being complete garbage. Get a diary if you need to write all of these feelz out. Try writing a FR with less detail (you'll realize they usually don't matter that much) and something you learned from it that could possibly benefit other members in the future. Then perhaps you can ask a question or we can comment on what we think you could do better or what we got out of your post. When people start to suspect that you're a troll it …
/r/askMRP12/12/16 02:45 AM
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i did 100% strict keto 6 days a week. 1 day a week i would stick to my calorie limit, but eating mostly whatever i wanted. no soda or pure junk food. this kept me from ever feeling the need to cheat, but i got pretty shredded.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 02:29 AM
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I sort of laughed at your idealized version of Christmas. Tell your wife your vision for Christmas and throw it out for next year. If you can pull it off like you envision, it sounds great. Plenty of families "switch off," between two houses yearly. Try to get her on your team... if she loves family so much she might be interested in being the hostess every other year. Why next year? Because it's a whole year away. People already have this year all planned out. Trying to change this shit last mi…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 10:06 PM
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Oh my god. Interesting but unproductive. We could consider actually reaching a mutual agreement. That would mean discussing, considering and persuading but no demands or ultimatums from you or me. I think you have a pretty solid wife. Maybe she's just trying to manipulate, but it seems that she isn't trying to control the plan 100%, she is trying to work with you somewhat. I would not suggest abandoning her in front of her family on Christmas. Sure, you might have a better time with your friends…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 08:19 PM
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... don't go and be cold and distant. do other adventurous things in bed. titty fuck her with you on top and try to stick it in her mouth if she's seeming really horny. if she says no just laugh it off. idk man it's just a blowjob it's not worth this much thought. you can't make her like sucking your dick and pressure is just going to make her like it less. the answer is obviously max out your SMV. it may not change anything, but it's your only real shot at her suddenly liking the idea of your p…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:09 PM
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How do you suggest he get past it? Not letting it constantly dig at his ego? I'm not usually one to say "the past doesn't matter," but this seems to be a case where he would be better off letting it go.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 06:34 PM
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But I would say he is free to change his decision. Agreed here, but he says that she is a great wife now. His only problem seems to be his dwelling on the past.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 06:31 PM
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Forget you even made this post. Your insecurity is pathetic. You'll never know if she fucks some other guy, right? So why even worry about it.
/r/askTRP08/12/16 04:31 PM
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I vote 4
/r/askTRP08/12/16 04:28 PM
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People can get over anything. Cheating isn't even about "cheating" it's about trust, ego, and probably the way she was treating him at the time as well. If he's got his shit together and now she sucks his dick like it's the last lollipop on earth, he can easily get over it. Should he? Idk. We can at least agree he should have dumped her right when it happened, but I've been there and even knowing I should have pulled the trigger I got sucked back in. If she's a good wife now and he gets all he w…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 04:20 PM
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Don't half break up with your wife like you did in your story. That's fucking stupid and weak. You will regret it in the future and she is going to resent you for it if you decide to stay with her. Stop telling her you don't love her, you fucking moron. Sure, we know what you mean, but she just hears "I don't love you." Acta non verba. You seem to be protecting your ego here a bit with the "I didn't even want to touch her," shit. I've done the same thing. Problem is, we know you want to touch he…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 11:44 PM
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he already PMed me that he plays free games. there are free ways to work out as well. if you research style on the internet you can go to the goodwill and find clothes that look good on you. he just needs to get over making excuses for himself.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 09:51 PM
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Always open for conversation, even old. Let me give you an example: You have a GF. She starts bothering you. She's hot, but you just aren't feeling her anymore, for whatever reason. You see her out with a new guy. This does not decrease your attraction for her, the competition actually makes her more attractive. Whether you know it or not, you most likely operate the same way. It's a pretty basic human thing... not just a female thing.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/16 06:55 PM
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because the "can't afford clothes" but "i love videogames" gave it away. u/stonepimpletilists can we just ban this guy already?
/r/askMRP07/12/16 05:52 PM
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Well, you seem to have internet access, so start looking up style on the internet. Also, gyms are $10 a month. Surely you can find that in your budget. If you're just looking for excuses not to do any work, there is no need. Go on having a shitty life, we don't care.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 05:51 PM
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If you're a valuable enough man to be worth fucking and your wife is acting like this, I don't think anyone would shit on your for leaving and/or getting a side chick. Most likely you need to hit the gym, hit the store for a wardrobe upgrade, and hit the barber for a new haircut and/or facial hair design. Get down to 10% body fat, bulk up from there. Find someone fashionable and ask for tips, or go to a designer store once and get a personal shopper. They'll get you a look put together and you o…
/r/askMRP07/12/16 05:20 PM
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Oh my god. LTR used to use the non stick pans and would try to move eggs around with a metal fork. "I'm not even really touching the pan, it won't scratch." And I'm over here dying and trying to explain that it's not about how hard you touch the pan with the metal fork that causes scratches. I'm glad that I'm not the only one who takes cooking utensils seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 05:15 PM
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It sounds like you're trying to do something different. The shit test isn't bad or good or anything, that's overthinking it. Other answers you could give, and I shouldn't have to say this, but keep it light: "Yeah, right after I blow my load." (rephrase to however you guys talk about sex together) - basically detached honesty. "Nope, you're just that sexy." - still communicating desire, but it comes with a compliment. Also, read this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/577yzl/…
/r/askMRP07/12/16 05:21 AM
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No... this was not a translation of your words. Just an addendum. Should have made that clearer.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 06:28 PM
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I would look into kitchen supply stores online. Non stick pans don't matter as much since they're essentially throw away, but a good pan is noticeably different than the run of the mill store pan. Sorry for the complete aside here.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 06:27 PM
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Dear new guys: "Should I skip buying my wife a christmas present this year? I just got on MRP and it seems like that is what everyone is suggesting. We really haven't been getting along." Answer: No. Your wife will not be introspective about your lack of gift giving until you are a valuable male and a valuable asset to her life. By then you hopefully will not have to skip a holiday/birthday etc. If you do this as someone who is brand new and a recovering beta you will look like a selfish irrespo…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 05:20 PM
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assume she will stay starfish. get in, get off, get out. this way you aren't trying to have some DEVI drawn out sex while she's trying to fall asleep, but you still get yours and she at least subconsciously understands she is taking care of her wifely duty of keeping your balls drained (even if she could be doing better). her giving you sex when she is not in the mood is submissive and even if she has very little attraction for you, this is a good thing, as long as it is not forced submission (w…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 05:16 PM
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you also might just be a shitty man and women act like this when they are unattracted in general. but it is something to keep in mind. work on yourself as long/hard as possible and then reexamine her behavior to see if it still fits this criteria. some people are just broken. but this is really the "odd case out," rather than the rule. it's a favorite of guys on here to say that their wife fits these profiles when they really don't. so just keep that in mind, because it can be an easy way to not…
/r/askMRP04/12/16 08:57 PM
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This is how I see it for the uninitiated. "She's ovulating! She rejected me! I bet Chad is hammering her right now!" Also, yeah. How "her" focused is tracking her periods? Does she even do that??!
/r/askMRP02/12/16 06:55 PM
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this doesn't sound like a main event at all. it sounds like you are in a marriage that is almost done with. you don't even know she is lying, so i don't know what to tell you there. if you know she is lying so that you aren't on her insurance I would divorce her. isn't that the direction she is heading? what value does she bring to this "relationship"? do you have your divorce stuff all prepped with your own lawyer? this should have been done, like yesterday. gym, lawyer, bust your ass at work. …
/r/askMRP01/12/16 11:07 PM
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handjobs suck. handjobs in the shower suck even worse. if you're horny, go jack yourself off. pity sex is boring as fuck and a pity handjob is just pathetic. Antibiotics should fix that vagina right up, if she's not just full of shit. Don't initiate anything until that is fixed. If you're not getting awesome sex, you're not going to get awesome head while her vagina is in pain. Delete the stupid fucking clue app. It's just going to fuck with your head. 26% body fat is fat. Get your diet in check…
/r/askMRP01/12/16 08:32 PM
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I didn't mean "send to" in a literal sense. Narcissists are usually dependent on the codependent person, but not in the same way. It's called narcissistic supply. Obviously, I don't know your relationship, but this is just what I have seen through personal experience and on this forum. I don't meant to project those experiences onto your relationship, but it is hard not to. When I was a beta bitch I realize I had some pretty codependent traits and realized a few women I had dated were pretty nar…
/r/askMRP01/12/16 08:27 PM
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Whenever I see someone here that says they are codependent, I never think that their wife is also codependent. Codependent women don't send you to MRP. They annoy you until you dump them, much like a beta codependent guy getting dumped by his normal wife/gf. Codependent guys here flock to narcissistic women and it makes perfect sense. The guy who needs someone in his life is an easy target for a woman who needs to feel like she is the most important thing in the world. Also, codependent women do…
/r/askMRP01/12/16 08:13 PM
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She proclaims me a shit lord, insists I’m controlling and that she never wants to see me again. this should have been the last line of your post.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 08:08 PM
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inb4 op finally flips his shit and murders the ex wife. joking, but i agree this is something he needs to watch out for.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 06:15 PM
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you can't negotiate desire. and sex frequency was fine. edit: also, wasn't a marriage. i didn't have kids to worry about. etc.
/r/askMRP29/11/16 04:33 PM
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I think he's pointing out that it starts out as a huge covert contract. Causality or not. And then he mentions where guys turn the corner: We all came here to get more sex out of our marriage, but once we got into the journey the ones that have succeeded realized it's more about you than her.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 07:02 PM
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It depends on you and it depends on her. There is no "this is when she will start begging you to fuck her" calendar we can give you. This is why you follow the 12 stages of dread. I assure you at one point or another in there she will fuck you right, if she was ever attracted to you at all. Without going into too much detail, my relationship was 3 steps forward, 2 steps back. Starfish sex ratio was way too high. Boundaries tested once too often. I blew it up. Gave a list of things that needed to…
/r/askMRP28/11/16 06:47 PM
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I agree with you. Keeping a "relationship" non monogamous is a lot stronger of a move than accepting (hopefully) her proposal for exclusivity and then cheating.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/16 05:31 PM
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This is hard rationalization. I don't really care what anyone does morally, but this is just male hamster coming out. This is like when women say "it's just sex," because to them sex is meaningless because it is so easily attained. Different hamsters, same bullshit.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/16 05:28 PM
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Welcome Subscriber Number 10,000 to Married Red Pill: Where we build MEN and Better Marriages, with your current LTR or the next one. was what I came to chop it to.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 06:09 PM
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lol. stay in your own frame. "there are a couple of things i've been wanting to try." instead of taking her so seriously.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 05:49 PM
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If you're dong anything right, you won't need prostitutes after the divorce. It's way easier to game/fuck new women than it is to game/fuck a wife that you have acted like a bitch in front of.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 03:30 AM
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Just enough plausible deniability as to not look like a complete slut if someone read their text messages.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/16 02:19 AM
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minus the break up drama this is preferable behavior as long as it is not often. a woman with no dread is a woman who will soon stop dying for you to fuck her. and since you're a first time LTRer I'll give you the spoiler alert, that is the beginning of the end. i think you could have done better rather than taking it so seriously. her initial rage got you to send that text back (even though it was something you should have done anyway) and she got positive validation for her actions. then your …
/r/TheRedPill16/11/16 02:04 AM
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this hits close to home
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 03:52 PM
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sure: "Trump is literally Chad. Trump cucked the liberals right out of the feminist vote because his frame gave the bitches uncontrollable tingles, and we know bitches absolutely cannot save themselves from the tingles, even in the voting booth." - The Guardian
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/16 07:14 PM
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i personally think that trying to relate this election to TRP is kind of retarded. the main sub is stuffed with this shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/16 05:38 PM
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get your test checked. if that's fine you just suck. i would vote going keto on the diet. and i mean not fucking around, 100% keto. no cheat days. you'll at least get ripped if you stick to the right amount of calories. there is no way around it. you will be losing weight and eating massive gobs of protein.
/r/askMRP10/11/16 08:01 PM
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Dear god no. There are enough MRP posts that make me want to drive a hammer through my eyes. Let's keep doing it like the old days. The new kids show up and if they do anything too stupid we will haze them into line.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 05:35 PM
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I don't think it's that your comment wasn't progressive, but it came off uneducated or apathetic. I don't mean any disrespect by that. I understand that men's rights issues are often swept under the rug, and, especially on TRP, we hope to avoid that reality. My comment was more to the point that, objectively, our country is facing bigger issues than men's rights/pussy pass. Also, there are probably a lot of successful people on this sub that don't wish to elect a president to "watch the world bu…
/r/TheRedPill10/11/16 05:28 PM
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i was hoping someone commented on that line. i loled
/r/askTRP10/11/16 04:48 PM
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I know we're on TRP, but there are bigger issues in the country than the pussy pass. Have whatever opinion you want on them, but if the pussy pass is the highlight of this election for you, I don't know what to say.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/16 09:40 PM
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I'm not sure why you're getting downvoted. Women seeing that you have this other woman (that you two are out together and/or sleeping together) = preselection and competition. Women seeing that this other woman has you is definitely a lower impact in those respects. The very fact that you decided this woman was worth committing to lowers your SMV.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/16 08:30 PM
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Well, TRP is about sexual dynamics, and if you read other posts here you will see that it is not at all a given. But, here is your pat on the back, congrats. Never let yourself slip.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 07:06 PM
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You seem to have your shit together more than most newbies, so I'm going to point out some things I disagree with in this post and you can take them for what you will. It sounds like your wife is afraid of being broke. It doesn't sound like you were really 100% ready for the divorce, or mentally divorced, as you say. Did you date any other women? You should have been. She huffed and puffed and shit tested and screamed. In 4 weeks time she went from this complete raging bitch to then one night, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 06:56 PM
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thing is, that is the opposite of OI. I've been at this a lot and gone a lot of different ways. In hindsight, I think that if you're already inside of her and she's lost interest, just cum quick and call it a night. This way you're not rolling around horny all night. Cuddle as much as you always would. If you notice she's not into it before it gets down to the actual sex, mention that she doesn't seem in the mood tonight and then grab her and cuddle as you would usually, stay affectionate. This …
/r/askMRP07/11/16 10:48 PM
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Planning is not the same as dragging to fun. And i'm not a big fan of having to the minute plans. I learn about the city i will be in and i have multiple things i would like to do. it's not "we're going to this restaurant, get ready," it's "we're going for a walk and having dinner, get ready." I've already looked at all the restaurants along the way and I will decide based on that particular moment which one I think looks best in person, or what my particular mood is right then. I don't do it be…
/r/askMRP04/11/16 10:35 PM
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That's literally what I do. Just as an example I have 5 "ideas" of plans and I pick the one that seems interesting to me at the time. There will be times that I have a specific plan, such as something that requires tickets in advance, but for the most part I have a million things I would like to do in a weekend. I pick from those million things based on how I feel in the moment. If I was to be presented with the "why don't we have a plan?!" shit test I would just say I do have a plan. "Well what…
/r/askMRP04/11/16 10:27 PM
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I would say have a good trip and don't fuck her unless you're getting obvious IOIs. If you aren't getting IOIs fucking her against the window is going to be stupid. And the vanilla sex on the bed is just going to bring down the mood. I don't know you or your wife so I can't give fine details but the goal isn't to fuck - the goal is to go and have an awesome fucking time.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 04:56 PM
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And this specific advice isn't even sprinkling, it's just being an interesting and prepared person. "How to not be a loser on a vacation" is something TFA could really nail if he hasn't already. To me vacations come like second nature (by the time I touch down in a city I have a list of about 20 things I want to do/see and while looking for those I usually stumble across a few things that I know the SO would find interesting), but reading around here it seems like many stress about them.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 04:53 PM
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it's the last paragraphs where you can slip up. great, amazing night and then you get in bed and get rejected. when you act butthurt, it will retroactively ruin the whole night. so IMO don't even initiate. if she wants it she will make it obvious. if she doesn't, at least you won't get rejected and/or have some lackluster duty sex. ego intact, great night in the books, let it be that way and fight the getting pussy battle another day.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 04:47 PM
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Your fundamental premise is that your sexual jealousy is both genetically coded and beneficial to the species. Or possibly you would go further and claim that it is genetically coded because it is beneficial to the species. But most specifically you reject the idea that sexual jealousy is learned behavior. To interject into this conversation just a little, the genetic jealousy thing just "sounds right," and I think that's why it is so pervasive. But you can count a ton of of guys who sleep with …
/r/askMRP04/11/16 05:26 AM
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In this regard it is almost always better for you to start a new relationship, one in which she only knows you as the filet. Wow, before I even read this I wrote almost the exact same thing. I related it to his oneitis as well, though, as I think that's the problem with his OI. He would be much more OI in a "fresh" relationship. He falls into the non OI beta ways because he has been there before with this woman, just like she falls into viewing him as "hamburger."
/r/askMRP04/11/16 05:07 AM
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OPs post is actually way better than I expected form what I vaguely remember from his last one. And the MAP starts because of the oneitis... fortunately it eventually has the side effect of making you stronger than the oneitis. And if OP or anyone here does end up leaving their wife they will realize there is no such thing as twoitis and these new women that have only ever known him with the RP mindset will treat him much differently. And he will treat them much differently as well.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 04:53 AM
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Kill the covert contracts? Well, at least you know the problem here. Here's the thing... A fun trip to Vegas where you two fuck zero times is going to be better than a whiny, bitchy, covert contract trip to Vegas no matter how many times you fuck. But here's my viewpoint as somebody younger than you. You want to bring out the young, probably sluttier, sexier version of your wife, while killing your covert contracts? You've got money? Okay, good. Now someone here is going to say buy your wife lin…
/r/askMRP03/11/16 07:30 PM
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are you in any position where you deserve any quality out of her in a relationship? and wishy washy as in you're asking these questions. if you really didn't want your wife at all you wouldn't need to. you would probably be totally fine giving her the emotional support she needs after a (possibly) devastating break up, up until it got in the way of the rest of your life, because you wouldn't care about her in a sexual/relationship type way. the fact that you mention harder on you tells us that y…
/r/askMRP02/11/16 01:20 AM
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and classic push pull type game. one second you're aloof and the next you're fucking her like she's the only girl you've ever laid eyes on, with loads of DEVI (sex god method).
/r/askMRP02/11/16 01:14 AM
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I would argue that is untrue. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2350785/Whats-point-oral-sex-New-scientific-study-says-men-perform-cunnilingus-minimize-risk-infidelity.html The one I think of first, but I presume there are other similar things to back this up. We could also say that women would be "happier" without competition. I wouldn't say that desire and happiness are directly linked. I think you're looking at and writing about the male POV like a woman would look at and write about …
/r/TheRedPill02/11/16 12:15 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/577yzl/the_value_of_maintaining_a_positive_frame/ if i could say anything to my former self it would be to be positive while getting yourself right before making and drastic changes like withdrawing from the relationship. your ego, anger, and need for immediate results are going to hurt you in the long run. 6 months of absolute positivity and all the cuddles she asks for while making yourself the most awesome masculine man that you can be. after t…
/r/askMRP28/10/16 10:50 PM
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it's almost like that is the definition of a wife.
/r/askMRP27/10/16 05:31 PM
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Just like guys will take pussy from someone slightly below their commitment attractiveness level, women will take commitment from someone slightly below their sex attractiveness level. Gatekeepers and all that. I'm actually surprised OP didn't mention family pressures and looking good for the family. Women get the "oh... you're still doing the single thing?" look after a certain age.
/r/TheRedPill20/10/16 05:24 PM
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She's say things like "we should break up, don't ever talk to me again, I hate you" whenever she's upset about something I did/didn't do. not LTR material.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 09:55 PM
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You'll know by then how into him she is. If she doesn't want to go with you, grab an Uber. You have better things to do and you cannot stay cause if you do you've just handed over your balls. This is a test of balls. Then the second test is not doing this in a butthurt fashion. I'm not sure any guy asking this question could pull it off. But, assuming OP could pull it off with grace, he really ought to next her if this is how it goes down. Leaving her for a drunken night with an old flame and th…
/r/askMRP19/10/16 04:08 PM
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I would tell her I didn't plan on going. She can go alone. If she makes poor decisions, that is on her. Letting her force you into a mate guarding situation is retarded. If she goes, you can decide if you want a wife that gets drunk with exes and possibly ends up back at their rental condo. Or you can tell her she can't go and put a bandaid on this specific situation without recognizing the underlying problem.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 04:01 PM
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it doesn't matter if they care, it establishes a persona.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 03:57 PM
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And feminism will even shame that. The only time you will get a pat on the back from a woman for walking away from another one is if A) she wants your dick or B) she would be at risk of public shaming for hypocrisy because you are in front of a group and stating that your wife physically abused you. Female family members are even apt to describe you leaving your wife in a bad light.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 09:15 PM
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feminism has made it so that husbands are not "supposed" to have power over their wives. however, a man having power over them is a huge turn on. bosses are allowed to have power over them. they get all the tingle points of a man having power over her without the "abuser" hamster food/stigma.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 06:54 PM
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I'm really glad that you put the warning up top. Some guys will be like "damn this could be me," when it really couldn't. But good for you. I think you could have avoided the whole thing if you took her a little less seriously, but I can't shit on the way you handled it at all. Bet she won't go doing that bullshit again, and that is worth the loss of any trip.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 08:56 PM
1

Been extremely busy, but I have not forgotten about this.
/r/askMRP13/10/16 07:30 PM
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If this isn't a troll: "Don't fight in front of daughter." assaults wife in front of daughter. jesus. solid frame bro. you're the calm, she's the storm. not the other way around. if you can't handle yourself around this woman you need to leave for her and your daughters sake. go to counseling
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 07:42 PM
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LOL I read the beginning and already knew the end. I skipped your word vomit in the middle. But yes, give it another shot, I'm sure it will turn out better the next time. You're a fucking pussy cuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 09:57 PM
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what's to come back from? he is the beta bux she made it clear. he doesn't have kids... she has one foot out the door. there are plenty of other women in the world that will not come with these years of baggage
/r/askMRP06/10/16 03:07 AM
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Drop this bitch from your life. he doesn't have the balls, that's why he is here on the internet asking how to salvage it lol
/r/askMRP06/10/16 03:04 AM
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pretty spot on here. she is just looking for reasons that the hamster can use to leave OP. the real issue is lack of attraction. that's why she's not fucking him and that's why she is doing all this shit to blow up the relationship. her vagina wants out, but the hamster has to make her out to be the victim so that she can leave with a clear conscience and positive social status. this is TRP 101.
/r/askMRP06/10/16 03:00 AM
1

be your own judge
/r/askMRP05/10/16 05:32 AM
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Get to a place where her rejection doesn't trigger insecurity. If you're confident in yourself and she isn't delivering on her half of the marriage you will leave. No need to talk... she already knows all of the things you're thinking (you don't want to have sex as much, you're flirting with my friends, etc.) but she will hamster her way right out of it and you will just end up looking more jealous and insecure... and then she will without doubt be less attracted to you and more attracted to eve…
/r/askMRP01/10/16 06:52 PM
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Bingo. Choosing what you spend your time and attention on comes with an inherent opportunity cost. If you have nothing better to do you will sit around with your wife and be angry at how pathetic your life/day/etc is.
/r/askMRP30/09/16 03:58 AM
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because it was anger not DGAF... the word "withdrawing" gets thrown around a lot.. but people take it wrong. If you're upset she isn't showing affection and withdrawing you aren't DGAF, you are UPSET. You'll realize the difference one day if you stay on track. When you actually DGAF you will have a completely different view on this same topic as you do now. And THEN you will realize what withdrawing really is. She isn't adding value and you do something besides hang around with her. Reading this…
/r/askMRP30/09/16 03:53 AM
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and then this is absolute money. if OP is doing a "date night" it should be because it is something he actually wants to do with someone he actually wants to do it with.
/r/askMRP30/09/16 03:51 AM
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actually i suggest the opposite... this is a surefire set up for a huge covert contract.
/r/askMRP30/09/16 03:49 AM
1

exactly... unless OP is cool with wife swapping then prob wants to stay away.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 07:09 PM
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Sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 01:23 AM
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So you play the beta one more time and mate guard because you're afraid of losing your oneitis and hopefully after a little while longer she'll come around and not do this shit? And you can rationalize her just wanting to cheat because awalt but you draw the line at it actually happening because your ego couldn't take that?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 01:14 AM
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IDK it seems like you used TRP truths to brush your wife's shitty behavior under the rug and protect your ego. Lone Alpha had a pocket full of unearned nuclear feelz that I handed him Ego protecting language which doesn't end anywhere else except the cougar carousel for her, as a post wall decliner. Ego protecting language The guy was better than you and you had to mate guard so that your wife didn't cuck you right in front of your face. You're trying to not give him full credit for that... like…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 06:27 PM
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lol your wife picked up a stranger in front of you and you spent the whole night obviously mate guarding. really great FR. I am shaken not stirred by my ignorance. I recovered from a nearly terminal fuck up - Lone Alpha had a pocket full of unearned nuclear feelz that I handed him, and my wife was powerless over those feelz. She's not mine. It's just my turn. Right alpha, right time. Wrong husband - RP informed and game aware. Wife's hamster would have been saying "I can't believe I'm doing this…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 04:51 PM
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you married a slut... did you expect her to change? along with pedestalizing, guys here seem to marry a woman and have this grand ideal of who she is going to be... then they're like "She likes to drink with guys, she is a bartender, she won't stop texting Chad," and then they say, "she's always been like this." Well... what the fuck did you expect? You thought she was going to completely change who she is because you are married?
/r/askMRP26/09/16 04:25 PM
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Well... it's a guaranteed way to make the sex less exciting and start getting into the comfort phase of the relationship... and we know how well that works. so i say go for it!
/r/askMRP21/09/16 04:54 PM
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Knowing what she did for them, she will likely not even attempt to do for me. I recognize it is my responsibility to create and build that type of environment and desire in her to catalyze that kind of attraction of her for me. Does your house not have any doors?
/r/askMRP20/09/16 04:13 PM
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Lots of explaining yourself here... I gave up every reason she was attracted to me in the first place! making it all about her etc. just say "i didn't want to be a fat loser anymore" and be done with it. give them a copy of an often talked about (on this sub) self help book if you really must and maybe they'll figure it out the rest of the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 11:13 PM
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I feel you on this, but OP definitely did something that triggered her thinking he wanted a relationship. Standard courtship stuff... maybe even the fact that they went on a pretty traditional "date." She's just as likely to take "K" that she is validated because he is butthurt.
/r/askTRP15/09/16 09:40 PM
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get attention boiled down. that IS all this is about.
/r/askTRP15/09/16 05:44 PM
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To go away from what everyone else has said: I would imply that I wasn't looking for anything serious either and that I didn't mean to come off that way to her but that I understood where she was coming from and wished her the best. Then no contact. You take away the validation of her thinking you wanted a relationship and give yourself a chance to just be the fun guy that isn't trying to relationship her up. If she liked you enough she probably would have already been banging you, but I don't t…
/r/askTRP15/09/16 04:43 PM
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Also, negative inquiry helps get to the point of the issue. In essence it's a tool to make the person you are speaking with more assertive, or at least more direct.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/16 04:29 PM
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This x 100 OP: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/51hbii/shit_tests_stfu_vs_legit_complaints/d7czuom I'm really going to make that post... one day. Not because it's not already laid out elsewhere, but for a one stop post on this extremely common fuck up I see with new guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 01:00 AM
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If you think she's a special snowflake of course you are going to be more attracted. She's irreplaceable. Once you realize she's replaceable with women who will probably be more eager to please you... well... I think this is where she either steps up or she loses you.
/r/askMRP13/09/16 12:40 AM
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Assuming this is a real story.... she sounds like a narcissist. you are knee deep in her frame. so my solution as usual: Download Reddit Enhancement Suite (chrome extension, it's great anyway) Look up u/jacktenofhearts Scroll down on his overview until you get to the VERY bottom and it won't load any more pages.... it's a lot, just do it, it's about a year back of posts. CTRL F "Narcissist" Read EVERY post of his that has that word in it and any that are over the 10k character limit that connect…
/r/askMRP09/09/16 11:37 PM
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Post that could have been a lot better if you had put some time into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 11:29 PM
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She has been complaining about the 'awesome life I am building' and how i am 'selfish.' "I know, it is pretty awesome." and "I'm not selfish baby, you're invited too" or "I'm not selfish baby, let me show you some of these new muscles I found in the gym." leads to bedroom and then the same positive frame if/when you get rejected. "alright, maybe later, but this was going to be my cardio for the day, so the gym/park/whatever calls" etc. etc.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 09:07 PM
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44 is right around the time where an open marriage becomes a way better prospect to the guy than the woman. Sure, she banged a 23 year old in Vegas... but that was a bucket list thing for him, there is no way he was even interested in her beyond getting his dick wet and crossing a life experience off. Also, 12 people in a year? LOL that's actually pretty conservative for a woman looking to slut it up. Oh, and it ruined her marriage? Shocker. Women think so short term.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/16 07:49 PM
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Don't worry about knowing details, there isn't a final exam. Worry about becoming a whole person and masculine man who is sure of himself. If you can get to that point, the rest will make sense and come quite naturally.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 05:30 PM
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My main Q is: If I find the complaint valid, and not done in a overly-bitchy way, is "okay" or "thanks" a reasonable reply? Should I be doing something else? Seems like I'll be saying "okay" a lot. "whoops" "my mistake" mental note not to do that same thing again own your mistakes. you are in dire need of frame. some here will disagree, but you're like the guy I would suggest "happy guy frame"/always playing your nice card to since you currently seem to have no frame of your own. I outlined the …
/r/askMRP07/09/16 04:54 PM
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I would only give myself a "C" on the delivery in the car wash, because her criticism honestly pissed me off. Yeah, I get it. The right hit at the right moment can have anyone off balance. However, I think you should work on letting her criticisms be meaningless to you (if you have looked into them and know them to be incorrect). The fact that it pissed you off shows that your frame isn't infallible. [edit] - Wanted to add that relative to her zero response on fun text, I consider it an accompli…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 05:57 PM
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I feel like a lot of guys here want the chance to show the girl that hurt them how far they have come. It is a bittersweet feeling. It is great to have that feeling of closure and validation that you've truly changed. Yet, it's still at the cost of breaking someone's heart that you used to hold dear. Unless your oneitis really fucked you over it's not something that you should take pleasure in. "Broke her heart" = she was depressed because the guy who spoon fed her validation didn't give it to h…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/16 09:53 PM
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My input for what it's worth: Implement 2/3 rule at any cost Too gamey. You're not a new guy. I'm positive that you have enough going on in your life that you are busy enough to not need to implement a rule like this. And if you don't, add new things to your life that keep you busy. Implement the text/say/do whatever the fuck you feel like in the moment rule. IMO the 2/3 rule is overthinking it on a day to day. You'll be much happier when you aren't doing some 2/3 shit I promise. I also think th…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/16 09:25 PM
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I wasn't really butthurt because I know I haven't improved enough yet. Covert contract right there my friend. I wasn't really butthurt because I know I haven't improved enough yet. it doesn't matter. Anyway... my proposition to you to get her off this "you're butthurt" if you don't want to spoon thing: Start spooning her without trying to fuck. Some nights fuck and then don't spoon. Detach lack of spooning and lack of sex so that it's not your way to get back at her or whatever she thinks in her…
/r/askMRP05/09/16 03:36 PM
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Eh, it's always transactional to them anyway. Sometimes it's just not as obvious what they think the transaction is.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/16 03:29 PM
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You're happy with her otherwise? She brings value to your life? She is not using you for your security/money? If that's the case and she has made it clear she never wants to be sexual again then you actually have a pretty good situation. Just make it clear that you will be finding other partners to have sex with. If that's impossible for you then we know your problem... why would she want to fuck you if nobody else would want to fuck you? If it's not impossible for you then why don't you just go…
/r/askMRP03/09/16 06:54 PM
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Not an amazing post, but I think his post displays the opportunistic nature of a woman's love rather than arguing against it. Then add a little dash of alpha widow with the fight the demons to get him back part. The only contradiction I see here is actually with himself. He argues that "You should only be focused on you," but a couple sentences later seems to really want a woman in "this state." He did put a whole warning sentence basically saying that he can't quite come to terms or at least wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/16 05:57 PM
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Yeah, I think his was actually better.... /thread derail
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 09:22 PM
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They actually both work
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 08:37 PM
1

I can't stand the lack of accountability to the extreme. When you just have to say sorry to god and all is good, you can be a shitty person and keep up the good feelz. the ultimate hamstering technique deeply ingrained into your life. no thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 05:00 PM
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Don't gain weight too quickly. You'll end up as skinny fat guy before you know it. a lb a week is on the high side of things. you got away with it coming from being a rail. (I was sad that I lost my "flat stomach") For example... I've gained about 30 lbs in the past 10 or so months and anyone would be hard pressed to say that I don't have a "flat" stomach by most standards. Do I have visible abs? No, not really... but I definitely haven't developed a gut and if I did it would be my wake up call …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 04:37 PM
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Don't try to rewin her respect. Just leave. Don't make it dramatic. She found her ex attractive and she doesn't find you attractive. We think (some) girls magically don't like blowing guys... but it's all based on a spectrum of attraction. http://i.imgur.com/EsOwgTg.jpg Take that scale for example.. although it's a bad scale it works for this. Look at those girls and think about going down on them. Notice how some the idea repulses you and others you're on the fence and others you would be like …
/r/askMRP31/08/16 04:17 PM
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Yes, you're being very impatient. If I ignore her and do my own thing she'll come touch me and interact with me, until I start to try to show her affection where she blocks again. She just "wants her personal space" She likes the validation of knowing that she can take you away from "your thing" but she doesn't actually want to fuck you. Don't go nuclear. Just start doing personal activities more. Your frustration is counterproductive. Holding the frustration and doing nothing is pointless and "…
/r/askMRP30/08/16 06:11 PM
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I'm all for alternative views on it. I guess when I say "play the nice card" I don't mean bend over backwards for her. Example situation: She wants you to go to a play with her, but you have prior commitments to whatever. Her: Why won't you go to this with me? You never do anything with me. You: I would love to hun, but I have blah blah blah that night. Her: That's so like you! You are such an asshole! You only think about yourself! You: Okay sweetheart. Her: I don't even want to be around you r…
/r/askMRP30/08/16 12:46 AM
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It's actually based on my opinion that a mean card is more worth a damn from an alpha. The woman being generally reactive means it goes like this: M(ale): Nice F: Mean M: Mean F: Mean Husband being a low value male, she is already accustomed to playing the mean card and this doesn't change her habitual behavior. IMO the play is slamming her with "nice card" frame, without the passive aggressiveness, covert contracts, and butthurt that "nice guys" carry with them when they consistently play the n…
/r/askMRP29/08/16 08:35 PM
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Well, you admit it's way too early to be angry about this. You're not in a position where you'll be better off leaving her. We can tell by your shitty frame (what everyone is calling you out on). Your future interactions with women will end just as badly as this shit with your wife. Fix yourself and then you can be angry at her. I don't just mean physically. Of course, once you fix yourself you won't feel this constant anger.... because you'll have real options. And you will probably have a plan…
/r/askMRP29/08/16 06:41 PM
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lol 45 days in and nuking your marriage. congrats. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4zuipp/two_questions_whats_the_top_mistakes_newbies_make/ your story could fit there.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 05:43 PM
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I don't get how exes are even on guys minds after 14 years of marriage.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 05:27 PM
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Well.. the answer is to not care that she pushes you away. Your ego is taking a hit... or you wouldn't be thinking about this. By the way, she goes overboard with making cutesy cut out sandwich shapes whereas I buy him lunchables. Yeah, I'm not sure if you're trying to use that as some sort of put down about her wasting time or something, but this just makes her sound like a mother who really cares about her kid and you some lame father who doesn't give a shit. In fact, I keep myself busy throug…
/r/askMRP29/08/16 04:25 PM
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Codependent people base their life around reading (and working on) other people's emotions. The fact that you are great at reading people in a sales environment doesn't surprise me at all. I would be willing to bet it is an extremely common trait of guys who end up here. Why can you read emotions so well? Because you spend so much of your life thinking about them. Great for customer service and sales. NOT great for a long term relationship.
/r/askMRP27/08/16 08:37 PM
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I suggest honest without emotional attachment either way. Not worrying about her emotions and not letting your emotions get the best of you and cause you to overreact or attack her. As for your first paragraph, she is trying to dominate you. Unless she is clinically retarded, she knows what she did. She ignored you on purpose and then set you up to be the bad guy. Now it's a battle of frames. Are you an asshole or is she the bitch? You're the asshole is falling into her frame. The problem with t…
/r/askMRP27/08/16 07:56 PM
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Thank god he posted the abbreviated version.
/r/askMRP27/08/16 07:30 PM
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Here's the breakdown of your battle of frames (that you're losing) Now bear with me here, I'm going to be making some assumptions here, I can't 100% read your mind. Your frame before this interaction: Going out with my boys tonight, hope GF isn't mad, hope GF gets a little dread, learning some red pill stuff so gotta stick to my guns even though she is asking me to stay in and talk on the phone with her??? Her frame during/after this interaction: He's an asshole, maybe i can convince him to stay…
/r/askMRP27/08/16 07:27 PM
1

Doing red pill "stuff" without actually stepping up YOUR game and being a guy who deserves to garner the respect and sexual attention of women. If you've been a weaksauce fuck for years, you can't expect your woman to suddenly fawn over you just because you swatted away a single shit test (probably doing it worse than you think you did). Making it about "her" and covert contracting into a "if i do red pill I will fix our relationship" mindset. Something good to read: https://www.reddit.com/r/mar…
/r/askMRP27/08/16 06:46 PM
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He acted childish bro. It is what it is. He got upset that she was a bitch over something something his mom. He read on the internet that it means he shouldn't get her a gift for her birthday. He does that. When some guy who is already low value does something like this it just builds resentment. This isn't going to have the effects that you or anyone here recommending it thinks. All the ECs on here that say "fuck her, she's a bitch, no gift," can say that because they have their shit together. …
/r/askMRP26/08/16 07:42 PM
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I feel you, it probably was more "sex trade" and less college frat party, but I just can't help thinking that in our distant future, strippers (who are basically whores) will be looked upon in a similar way. The big bad patriarchy (or whatever they want to call it) forced these poor innocent 18 year olds into fucking dudes just for an education or to stay off the street.
/r/TheRedPill26/08/16 06:28 AM
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Never been in a circumstance like this, but I would make sure I had the plan down solidly. Think of it like work. Could you present this plan to your boss/a client/whoever and they would be able to understand it and would believe that it is achievable? Then insert micro goals so that she has something smaller to look forward to. "Dinner/Date night because we got down to 85k debt." Yeah.. the $50 you throw away will be a detriment to your goal, but you're so fucked that it won't matter in the lon…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:19 AM
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We all go through this. You don't want to "reward bad behavior" but not getting a gift on a birthday isn't the best way to do it... MOSTLY because you don't have YOUR shit together. You think that she isn't adding value to your life, but more likely than not, you are fucking up and are adding even less value (in any meaningful form of the word) to her life. You're punishing her and her not getting anything from you stings for a second. Then it stings again and again every time that her friends, …
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:09 AM
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She's a woman. She's probably used to instant gratification. 6 months feels like a "long term goal" to her. Set incremental goals on your multi year journey to be debt free, in a place of your own, a child (if that's something you want). Share your vision. Make sure it is realistic and you're not promising the world because you're scared of her leaving or some shit. Succeeding in the smaller steps that make up the larger goal will give her the dopamine hit that she needs to not feel like this is…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 05:41 AM
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Do not move out until you are OUT of debt. This is a tiny silver lining in your whole fucked up situation. Rent will cripple you and you will NEVER get out of debt. If you would be able to stay even with $2700 going towards rent/utilities/etc. that means you can pay off $100k relatively quickly. Sorry wife here is the plan. We pay $3k a month towards our debt for the next X months. This is the long game. You can either have a shitty 3 years or a shitty rest of your life. A good leader (not worri…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 05:34 AM
2

In the Amazonian tribe of Canela, girls, before marriage, are expected to provide sex to men. During their summer festival they are expected to have sex with as many as 25 men, sequentially. I hear this same thing happens all the time at another festival, I think we call it "Coachella." Another example is the pristesses-prostitutes of the Ancient Greek world. These were actually daughters of the elite, devoted to temples, that had the duty to provide sex to men of their society - until they woul…
/r/TheRedPill26/08/16 05:07 AM
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1) You were a pussy for apologizing for speaking the truth. Disrespected? Because she's "not that kind of girl?" lol okay 2) Bad mood is a problem. Telling her to figure it out herself I see as fine. 3) I want to say you talked too much, but I'm not sure I can argue with something you did directly before having amazing sex. 4) Should have held frame and used some amused mastery or AA. She's on the fence whether you're reading about how to make her fuck you or if she has something to worry about.…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/16 09:11 PM
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The guys who wash up here don't often have much to brag about... so they pick the one thing they think makes them special. And that combined with the whole fact that 150k a year is hard for a post wall woman to give up... leads to a higher than usual concentration of guys with high incomes and extreme failure everywhere else. With women who are disgusted by and resent them, but can't leave because they will never find a Beta Bux quite as good. Same guy making 30k a year would have his wife run o…
/r/askMRP25/08/16 03:52 PM
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I think it's a case of people with lower incomes don't mention them as often. Also, if you're a beta pussy and broke you're much more likely to have your wife up and leave you. If you're making 150k a year your wife has some incentive to stay with you, even without any sort of attraction beyond your money.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 03:36 PM
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The answer is hit the gym and game other girls. This isn't "classic" LMR, it is lack of attraction. A woman who wants to fuck you will make herself very available. Think body language. You could possibly push through this, but you'll end up with starfish from her and then you have to decide if you're horny enough/desperate enough to get off to accept that. Make plans that don't involve her. Hit the gym, hard. If she still doesn't respond after you make yourself more scarce and valuable, start "b…
/r/askMRP25/08/16 12:34 AM
1

Eh... Carbs really aren't that important.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 12:20 AM
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dude... less serious. "Eating breakfast is important for concentration" 1) "Have fun being fat." 2) "What did you say again? I already forgot." 3) "I'd rather be sexy than smart." 4) "No pain no gain." Are you getting the gist? Don't respond seriously. Anyway, it is about modeling proper behavior for our child and that children need breakfast so I should eat breakfast. This I would at least respond to with more than a joke... at least kind of explaining while still pretty much blowing it off. I …
/r/askMRP25/08/16 12:17 AM
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"Why does sex have to be anything more than straightforward and nice." I would tell her you only have one life to live and you are no longer willing to accept being "ordinary." This also helps explain away your changes in a more masculine way than "I learned some stuff on the internet." It plays on her innate female need to feel special. Have you ever noticed women eat up inspirational quotes?
/r/askMRP23/08/16 09:15 PM
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One time deal/rarely? idc. All the time? I ask myself why I don't have other women in my life.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 11:38 PM
1

verbal intercourse is optional
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 03:55 PM
2

Well if we're strictly speaking statistics on your small sample size... 95% of guys have no chance on Tinder.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/16 11:08 PM
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but even after a few days the change in myself and my girlfriend have been ridiculous. Thought you wrote "girlfriends" at first and I was thinking by god you did swallow it. I would say I love spending time with you, but I have some other things in my life that I have been neglecting that I am wanting to get back to/get into. Then I would not give into her inevitable shit tests about "her not feeling important anymore." She'll still hamster, or logically deduce I guess, that your actions mean sh…
/r/askMRP16/08/16 08:31 PM
2

Damn. I'm glad you have looked at it from alternate angles at least. We just came back from a bad ass vacation with the family I completely planned and implemented. She thanked me with tears for making it so awesome...then denied me sex that night as well. How did you initiate? How did she deny? How did the rest of that night go? Just me being curious.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 07:45 PM
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Do you two have fun when you go out or do you only use it as a chance to rub her face in the fact that you're now hot? Honestly, without further input from you, maybe it is just broken beyond repair. But if I had to guess as to where you're possibly lacking I would say that it is something along the lines of /u/thefamilyalpha type stuff. I would start here. Also, not to suck my own dick, but this post right here as well. Along with the links within.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 05:46 PM
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Jesus. Alright... Before we all start "pulling the anchor" can we take a good hard look at ourselves and see if maybe, just maybe, we're still fucking up and not noticing? I feel like I am/was right about where you are. I've seen flashes of attraction and I've seen points where it is pretty plain that it is just not there. Is it hopeless? I don't think so and I am the first one that should be ejecting here, if anyone is. Places I have seen myself fucking up for the longest time and not noticing …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 12:44 AM
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Well, if you're really a god among men as you state, take your wife out somewhere that you're guaranteed female attention. Then if you're as witty and charming as you seem to think you are, you will naturally create gobs of dread. Have you not already done this? There are tons of bars/venues that would provide plausibly deniable social interactions. Covertly messaging bitches from another state on Tinder might give you the validation you crave, but it isn't doing anything for preselection.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 08:22 PM
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I would personally forget it ever happened and keep tabs on her social media for a while longer. If it becomes a habit I would bust it up... but a one time deal? not worth the drama/time/effort. I feel like she's the kid who touched a hot stove, she taught herself a lesson (Lesson being that these betas she thinks will make her "happy" actually disgust her).
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 03:56 PM
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lol dude... here's the thing: I am convinced this is a power play and she won't actually be satisfied or do anything with another man. DERP. She's trying to protect here ego here. Then the dude dried her up quick and she realized he's not the prize, you are. So you're making this awesome headway, and now instead of having a nice cold beer to celebrate, you're serving her papers? LOL Because your ego can't take that she tried to shop around to see if some beta could make her forget you? Being thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 03:52 PM
2

First off, projecting a confident, fun, and outgoing personality is the main counter to not being the best looking guy. Your "vibe" as you call it is making this "i'm not attractive" thing you have going a self fulfilling prophecy. Also, lift, get muscle, then get low body fat. You'd be amazed what it does for your looks overall. Suddenly your face is looking better, and girls are actually giving your face points that don't exist because you are fit. See: https://bretcontreras.com/wp-content/upl…
/r/askMRP15/08/16 03:36 PM
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Women who aren't attracted to their partner often say they're depressed. Of course she was still happier when you were her good little beta life partner, but now you're not useful to her sexually or as constant source of codependent validation. Continue to do you. Have an awesome life and occasionally invite her to join in your awesomeness. You can't make her "depression" go away, she has to choose to be happy herself. She will either get on board or decide that you are no longer valuable to her…
/r/askMRP14/08/16 12:24 AM
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Verba non acta could be their motto. They have an extreme fear of "victim blaming." And in a little 10 minute scroll through that sub I saw direct tone policing. I also saw people suggesting that OPs take responsibility for their SOs fucked up emotions. I think you post some solid shit sometimes. I think you could post a book list that has helped you without linking it to the bullshit that is deadbedrooms. Perhaps what they need is better moderation, if their books align as well with MRP as you …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 09:36 PM
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solid avoidance of every other word in my post.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 09:05 PM
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In the other post I replied to I mentioned that I hadn't read that book... it's odd that the book they suggest reading uses that exact phrase, yet every fucking post reply suggests overtly communicating your needs to your partner and trying to get them to see things form your point of view and asking them to get interested in sex and seeing what you need to change to get them interested in sex. So... perhaps they should start sticking to their own sidebar material. If you started spouting that s…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 08:56 PM
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DB is MRP - a lot of things + negotiating desire. The fact that so many of them accept the terms "LL" and "HL" just shows how badly they want to protect themselves from reality. I believe that some people are LL or HL, but they use the terms incorrectly. Your wife fucked 20 dudes before you and you used to have sex in the bathrooms of bars when you first met? She is not LL. lol EDIT: As for your books, I still get a hard on over the DB website title: "There's only one love language, those other …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 08:19 PM
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The thing is.. to get to that point you have to be extremely confident in yourself. So yeah, build a frame and be confident in your frame and raise attraction? No shit. As you said, the intimacy shit is handwavey (haven't read the book). Of course women will appreciate a confident man "letting them in," but can we honestly say that's because of the intimacy? Or is it because he suddenly is this mysterious (more) alpha guy and now her goal is to try to work her magic to get him back to betadom? A…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 08:09 PM
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We can both do "better." If you're feeling betrayed, you are still in the very early stages of unplugging.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 06:57 PM
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Otherwise, I love change, as long as I am the one that creates it. Ego. Also, scenario 1 is very AWALT due to hypergamy. Scenario 2 is a rare case... Maybe I'm not old enough to think a woman would just resign from the SMP. I see them saying it, but I don't see them being able to resist the tingles.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 06:55 PM
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Lack of attraction, do something that will head the relationship on a negative course or purposely piss him off. Then, when he's mad, "oh, he's always so angry, that's why I'm not attracted to him." this is classic hamster in action. As /u/Alpha_Rising put it, she has to paint herself as the victim.
/r/askMRP13/08/16 12:10 AM
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Well... since you're on AskMRP I'm going to look at it through a your wife doesn't like fucking you lens. Wife expects you to initiate after some drinks and a great night. Wife is repulsed by you. Wife stirs up some bullshit drama so that you will either shower her with beta comfort or ignore her. Wife doesn't have to fuck you. Win, win, win for her. Start going out more often without her. "I didn't think you liked going out with this group since you always seem upset afterwards." is your plausi…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 06:49 PM
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ding ding ding. And it is OKAY, because "I will become an awesome guy so that my wife likes me," leads to becoming an awesome guy and not caring if your wife likes you.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 06:43 PM
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Why don't you get those kids in regular school? I can't imagine homeschool is really the best situation for your kids. I've mentioned this before... Do you have a good reason for the homeschooling?
/r/askMRP12/08/16 06:36 PM
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The correct answer is that you choose what you do and do not "deal with." You don't have to do anything.
/r/askMRP10/08/16 03:42 PM
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By the time we were done it was too late to lift and I hate missing my lifting it throws me off. you're such a bitch. Yesterday I read "First Kill All The Marriage Counselors". I liked the message that marriage counseling is bullshit and how important respect is to a man so I sent a link to her during the day asking her to read it. Ah, yes.... a book will convince her to respect you! lol - Why is this so funny to me? Because you act like she never understood in her whole life the core concept of…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 03:22 PM
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to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. said in front of hundreds of closest friends and family "covert contract"
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 05:33 PM
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Depends on the context. If it's jokingly or a one off remark that isn't just being a bitch then yeah, badge of honor and I would laugh. If it's her acting out and screaming how much of an asshole you are then I would either ignore it or leave. Perhaps a warning on not speaking like that if she has anything she seriously wants to talk about. But I wouldn't award the bad behavior with any attention. In public, huh? Shit. Probably ask myself how I got to such a fucking pathetic place in my life. Bu…
/r/askMRP08/08/16 11:25 PM
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Hmm... this advice doesn't necessarily pertain to your wife situation, but I would suggest working on your scheduling of events like this. Drunk people in general don't like to leave events right as they're getting good. Perhaps go out a little later in the evening. Start with a late dinner and then you can hit the spots as they're getting good. It might push your Sunday activities back, but you'll kill problems like these and still not be out longer than you would like. Also, people have mentio…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 10:35 PM
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Question that I don't see anyone asking: Why did you want to go home? Were you not having fun anymore? I understand that you had been there for 2.5 hours, but someone having a great time out drinking can usually close a place down. Nobody is asking because "the reason doesn't matter," to her. But I want you to ask yourself this question.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 07:48 PM
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the insecurity dies when you know it would be her loss... but otherwise, this is perfect advice.
/r/askMRP08/08/16 04:28 PM
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I think it's actually medically proven that this helps to restore all of those degenerated neurons that make your man forget your birthday, anniversary, etc.
/r/askMRP07/08/16 12:47 AM
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Good one. Anger is a catalyst for change. Accepting circumstances as they are is not righteous, it's just passive. I think that's the money shot right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 12:38 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3at8mt/collection_of_some_trp_audio_books_and_pdfs/ merry christmas
/r/askMRP06/08/16 07:19 AM
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Worry less about how you come off, only initiate this stuff when you are interested in having a conversation or hanging out, not just for the sake of it. And do it less often, but with more quality. This will increase both the value of the interactions and the scarcity of interaction... which will both be positive things in terms of your overall value.
/r/askMRP06/08/16 04:04 AM
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Talk to her when you want. If the conversation is enjoyable continue. Make plans and invite her, something that is fun and engaging. If she's being in a shit mood or something don't invite her... but sounds like that's not the case. Have sex with her how you want. Want to try doggy style? Flip her over? Want to go down on her? Go down on her. Make the sex hot for you... as long as she is along for the ride (read: not purposely starfishing with hopes to ruin your enjoyment) you can at very minimu…
/r/askMRP06/08/16 03:32 AM
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If last week you yelled at her for the same comment, then yes you are going to come off angry and sarcastic. Your new frame and new "you" needs time to develop authenticity.
/r/askMRP06/08/16 03:17 AM
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That's actually a great point and I should have included something on that. In fact my "don't be angry when she runs off with Chad," isn't even quite 100% on point. Anger is natural and suppressing it isn't necessarily the goal. Of course, if you're constantly angry because of her actions then it might be time to do something about it. You can't change the woman you're with... but you can change which woman you're with. That becomes a lot easier to digest once you develop and realize your own va…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/16 03:13 AM
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Yeah, what's not to like? You didn't blame her and you were pretty damn introspective. Just because you still have some oneitis doesn't mean you're not going places. And you're not even abusing your newfound control of your emotions by being a complete dickhead. Protip: maxing your SMV will be the step that kills the oneitis.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/16 02:48 AM
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That would be like hell to me. I would try eating more throughout the day so that you don't have to cram 900 cals of nasty ass rice. I doubled down on breakfast and it helps me not have to force feed myself in the evenings.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 11:20 PM
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You probably have tons of work to do. Ottermode is a bare minimum for skinny guys. It's all about eating. Lots and lots of protein. Use myfitnesspal and put in a goal weight and date. Try to gain less than 1lb a week so you don't just get fat. Don't use their default macros. Put in a protein goal of ~1 gram per 1lb of body weight. Also, lift a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 11:19 PM
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I agree with you to some degree. That it is partially anger with the truth of things, anger at oneself, anger at "lost" time, I'm sure more that I'm missing. Whatever it is, it is still "anger phase," and a lot of these posts still have undertones of victim mentality. See: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4vxtrq/first_main_event/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4w77zg/wife_returns_to_a_main_event/ as examples of underlying anger. I'm not picking on these guys…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 08:57 PM
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I cried at the fact half of women can be fat. Average woman in 2016 weighs as much as the average man in 1950 or something like that. Thick is the new skinny, chubby is the new normal, and fat is the new chubby. Blame thirsty guys for moving the goalposts. Google "Great Woman Body" and "Great Man Body." Actually, don't, I'll do it for you. First Results: Man - This body would take YEARS of INTENSE dedication to both lifting AND diet. In fact, I would say the odds of this guy being 100% "natural"…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 08:34 PM
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Didn't read the OP, but this is a/the pretty obvious answer.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/16 09:58 PM
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You do have a good point. It could be either, or both. Absolutely polar opposites, which isn't the greatest if they're trying to be married... being married to a girl who wants to go "out" every weekend will lead to issues if you're a "stay in" kind of guy. Obviously step 1 is: Make yourself into someone worth a shit. Then assess the value of the relationship/woman in your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 08:56 PM
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I don't think you can state it is "clearly a technique problem." I think it's fake.. but if it was real.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 06:22 PM
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a little more verbose than usual, but a good message.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 05:47 PM
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I guess the boys allow you to post here for some reason, but watch the low key moral pushing.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 12:13 AM
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If you value your relationship, I think that you should get plates for the year she is gone and continue on your MAP. Don't tell her, and assume she is going to have plates as well for the duration you two are apart. Assume that without asking about it or resenting her for it, just accept it in your mind. With that plan I think you will be in a much better positition when/if you decide to move. You will have witnessed abundance and you won't resent her for "possibly cheating."
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 10:39 PM
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Complete side note, but JTOH is by far the most guilded poster on this sub and if that post isn't a good example of why, idk what is.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 04:37 PM
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Solid FR.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 03:54 PM
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/u/irateMD has you down pretty much completely, but I would like to emphasize: Selective praise is a useful thing. She's trying hard to please you and needs hints when she's on the right track. Also, /u/redearththeory got why this isn't a main event: Notice how this frames everything you're doing as butthurt. Thats why it was too much talk. You're still resentful and butthurt over your wife's actions. You may be "cool as a cucumber" emotionally... but rationally you still seem to hate your wife.…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 03:51 PM
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Well... I think people are covering this well... but I'll throw a few things in because you don't sound hopelessly pathetic on the possibly fake level. "I'm sorry I cleaned the garage" (A&A was pretty clear.) IMO that isn't A&A. Even if you intonate sarcasm into it, I would call that passive aggressive almost, more than A&A. I've lost ~10 lbs. Joined a gym. Started lifting. Going out a little more with friends. Dressing a little better. Recognizing shit tests and dealing with them /better/. Most…
/r/askMRP03/08/16 04:49 AM
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Gotta think big picture. At least you will have gained SOMETHING. and then when you cut you will feel great as you get leaner. From that bulk I would then cut until you feel ripped... even if you don't feel "big." Once you get to that point you have conquered both ends of the spectrum when it comes to pushing your body to where you want it to be. Then you can feel comfortable knowing that you can choose where you want your body composition to be at. Also, I think these will both help you get ove…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 11:57 PM
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That definitely helps. And take my advice with a grain of salt. If I was 200lbs and jacked I would say "def listen to me," but I'm not. Isn't 800 a pretty awesome T number? If you're really at 800 then you should have no excuses for putting on muscle if I'm remembering right. You look higher than 17% IMO. Never done any crazy body scans, but based on pictures from the internet I would put you in the 20s. Rough scale: http://www.bjjee.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/body-fat-percentage-men-women.j…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 10:57 PM
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Okay... without a picture of your body composition this is just speculation. But 170 at ~5' 10" is skinny. It's maybe just right on the verge of not being skinny as fuck.. but definitely skinny. What kind of weight have you hovered around? What's your composition look or feel like? You may have mentioned this in your previous posts but I haven't gone through them. I understand that you have been diagnosed with low T, but have you had your diet on point for the gym? You can work out for 20 years …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 09:18 PM
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How tall are you? Aren't you on juice? What the fuck are you doing at 170 lbs? Also, I let myself have one carb day a week on keto, same day every week.. It keeps me feeling good during a cut. While you're cutting I would lower your volume a little bit. Just try to keep your strength up as much as you can. Make sure you aren't eating LESS than your calorie goal... an extra extra deficit is just going to cost you strength. Also, shouldn't be an issue on keto, but make sure to get that protein. Ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 07:51 PM
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I was cringing at the beginning, but then you had a really great ending. I can stand up to gaslighting on my own, without worrying about saving emails etc. for "proof." I get that it will let you go pull out some proof to "show her," but then if you are "here's the proof" guy, the second you don't have proof you have fallen victim to her gaslighting. Even the fact that you need to provide proof is you squarely in her frame. Gaslighting is seriously just a battle of frame. If she wants to set the…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 05:04 PM
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The problem here is that bad attention is still attention. You want to remove your attention. I wouldn't do it in a way that gives into the drama. I don't think that noticing someone is in a bad mood is a beta move. Trying to fix the bad mood is. "Hey honey is something bothering you?" is enough of an olive branch that she can be a big girl from there if she wants to talk about something. I wouldn't ask this all the time though.. if this is for some reason an extremely common thing. I would defi…
/r/askMRP02/08/16 05:45 AM
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You would have gotten better responses if you had replied to individuals rather than this. I almost didn't even notice you replied. I see a lot of excuses for not lifting. If you won't even listen to the most basic advice that we are trying to shove down your throat, why should we dive in any deeper on anything else?
/r/askMRP01/08/16 07:30 PM
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when the fuck did you get so insecure? I don't get tattoos because whatever I think is cool now I will probably think is stupid when I'm 60 and wrinkled. I don't skydive because it scares me and I don't need to impress anyone. Risky shit I do? I sometimes drive fast because I like driving fast. But I don't do it because it's "risky," I actually had to dig for something "risky" I do, because I don't go around trying to do risky things. I go river rafting, I guess that's risky? But I'm not the one…
/r/askMRP01/08/16 05:26 PM
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At what point RedPill or not does a man stop letting this shit happen? Probably right about now. But you do that by removing yourself from the situation and the relationship, not from arguing. Here's something I just kind of got myself. Advice when it comes to this confrontation stuff can confuse you somewhat, because well.. they say don't argue, STFU and remove yourself from the situation. What they don't tell you as often is "don't let her words get to you and get yourself pissed off," and "do…
/r/askMRP01/08/16 05:10 PM
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Not sure what you were arguing about or why, but probably didn't need to be an argument in the first place. But, go on living your life. What would you do if she didn't exist? Go do that. You're not going to do well downgrading her if you care when she leaves like this. If your girl is fighting with you why would you care if she leaves? Sounds like it would make your day better. I used to be like this. It was stupid. If she wants to go sulk for a night or day or weekend or week, whatever. Let he…
/r/askMRP01/08/16 05:43 AM
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Even if she's crazy you're still the container. Projecting negativity into this kind of situation just puts fuel on the flames. "your friends all hate you! you have all this shit you need to get over! you play the victim! you're responsible for all of this too!" way to fall into her frame bro. you're lucky that you didn't end up in jail somehow. I don't have a good answer for how to make her see that her emotions are hers to deal with, but what you did is not the way. This could have gone a lot …
/r/askMRP01/08/16 05:33 AM
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Is she a professional teacher? Do you value your children's education and social upbringing? I would personally tell her that she needs to get a real job and if she craves babysitting on the side I have a couple kids she can watch. Oh...how would I tell her? "I've been thinking about it and the kids need to go to a real school. You need to start looking for a job or enroll in classes at so and so community college." Seems like this would be the best route for your overall family from the single …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/16 10:55 PM
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It's funny because your 10 year LTR got past it and we all know females can hold on to the ghost of betas past.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 08:19 PM
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Hey, a woman would rather share a high value man than be with a loser, so it's not completely selfish. And I've had some of the best sex of my life when the girl knew I just got done fucking another girl. Preselection raises value, her "getting" a more valuable man raises her happiness. She cries and she cries and she cries that it's not fair that you have plates while being happy and fucking your brains out every time you are together. When you fail this ultimate shit test and go exclusive (or …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 07:58 PM
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I wanted to make it clear that the point of my post was not to push my personal viewpoint on cheating. As I mentioned above, I think that cheating is an expression of weakness in a good portion of instances. I'm not picking on the morals so much as I am that the guy feels he has to promise commitment to keep the girl or the guy is insecure to the point where he is afraid of her getting hers as well. If the guy has a guillotine like divorce hanging over his head and his wife isn't satisfying his …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 03:35 PM
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Bingo. Wife not giving it up? Cheat for validation. Wife very passive in bed? Cheat when you get a chance to lay a total slut. Wife old? Cheat with the young secretary. Then you have the "not attracted to your wife" crowd who will cheat for just about any reason. Or, more often on this sub, the "not attracted to your husband" crowd... who will cheat for just about any reason. They aren't afraid to come up with rationalizations for it either... I would love to go troll relationships and try to fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 02:49 PM
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As you covered in your last line, bit of a catch 22 here. She'll worry about losing you if she feels you are high value... but if she feels you are high value, she likely won't be fucking up to this degree. New guys come here with no value (besides a paycheck) and get put into this position. The answer isn't do the work and keep a mental note of when you plan on tossing your woman, it is do the work because it needs to get done and you're not a valueless piece of shit anymore. Once you aren't a …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 09:16 PM
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Suddenly in your inbox: "I love the way you called my husband a faggot, do me now."
/r/askMRP27/07/16 06:22 PM
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I still wouldn't show her any book on the sidebar. There are plenty of "women oriented" books or articles about being assertive about your feelings or needs. I just had the LTR throw me one the other day. I initially laughed and shut it down because it was from a girl magazine, but then once she told me the idea behind it, I mentioned that it actually was a really good idea and that she should start implementing it. Basically it was "When xxxxxx happens, I feel/think yyyyyy." Obviously, it's not…
/r/askMRP27/07/16 05:40 PM
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I absolutely love this answer. Lift and get your diet on point is a great starting point in making yourself more attractive, but it is also a great exercise in goal setting and consistently putting effort into something.
/r/askMRP27/07/16 12:16 AM
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Great post, agreed on the don't actually do things this dumb again. How great you were won't console your kids at your funeral. Btw, solid choice in the Jeep. Always been a fan. I heard a commercial for a Rav 4 last night and I just thought to myself, "do they even make a real SUV anymore?" and the Jeep was on the short list that popped into my mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 10:20 PM
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You must be lost, this is married red pill. You're single. 35 isn't too old, thank her for letting you catch her now. Go get in shape so you can remember what mid 20's pussy feels like.
/r/askMRP26/07/16 10:15 PM
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Most women can go get fucked by someone hotter than their LTR. It's just the way the world works. If your girl is attractive she could walk outside in your city's downtown and probably fuck 10 guys hotter than you within 30 minutes. If you are the hottest guy your girl can possibly get... well, you'll have an easy marriage because you're satisfying hypergamy. But you will probably end up cheating, because why wouldn't you? and IMO you have failed as a man locking yourself down with someone so be…
/r/askMRP26/07/16 09:50 PM
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Lol didn't expect this from you. serious hit to your frame this guy caused. it showed some true insecurity. Anyway, it's not about the guy, it's about you. everyone has already pointed this out. Quick story from my (extremely)BP days: met a guy out.. decent dude.. started hanging with our group that evening. gaming my girl right in front of me, but being relatively cool with me too. but absolutely no doubt in my mind he was trying to get with her. and of course she was responsive in as plausible…
/r/askMRP26/07/16 09:44 PM
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Answer: Get attractive If you feel you are already there... then the answer is dread.
/r/askMRP26/07/16 09:19 PM
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Okay, I'll bite for a line by line analysis even though this could probably be summed up pretty succinctly. Self Care It's your body and your goals and your eventual outcome. Control what you put in your body. Myfitnesspal is a great app for watching your calories and macros. Decide your goals: Gain muscle? Lose weight? Then research online and find your daily caloric needs to meet your goals. If I had to tell you one thing: protein, protein, protein... you can't go wrong with it. We can't do al…
/r/askMRP26/07/16 09:01 PM
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Hmm.. Okay... I thought you meant that you were worried about her going out because "danger." It's a commonly used bullshit tactic on reddit. I am sure I could click over to r/relationships and find a post on the front page where it is used. And it may seem that I'm projecting here, but I assure you I'm not. Just trying to get some viewpoints (well, originally one) on an inconsistency I see here often. ubtexts, schmubtexts. She is or is not capable of making decisions... Seriously, if she does n…
/r/askMRP25/07/16 09:11 PM
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Not to distract from the other post I responded too... but you see: guarding for mate from danger... no I am not past that.... This line of thinking SO much on reddit (non TRP subs) when a guy says "I was worried about her blah blah blah so I called her 20 times and she was drunk and at a bar and I didn't hear from her." You aren't really worried about her running into danger. Do not even try to tell me that's why you don't want her going out to a club without you. That is a complete rationaliza…
/r/askMRP25/07/16 08:41 PM
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See this is where I see a contradiction in theory. You're sort of saying mate guarding is necessary sometimes. And if we really analyze your words (I may have misunderstood you a bit in this post) it's almost as if this is one big shit test and mate guarding is passing it. But I think that most people would argue that mate guarding is naturally failing the shit test, as with abundance you do not mate guard. See where I'm going with this? I'm not trying to argue directly with you at all.. Just th…
/r/askMRP25/07/16 08:36 PM
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And I would tell her I did not want her to go without me... I consider that mate guarding... " Babe, thats the same thing I did to get into your pants, do you really want to fall for it with this guy" I guess you could say this is lifting the veil of her naivety and she's free to do whatever she wants... but gray area mate guarding. But I don't think you said you were "past mate guarding," which is why the question was more directed at stone.
/r/askMRP25/07/16 08:13 PM
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I think that's a strong stance on the subject. But this is still kind of missing the main topic I'm trying to address, which is the line toeing aspect of this question. Your wife finds a better guy... you divorce. Easy answer there. But, the above instance never directly mentions another guy. Your wife does something you don't approve of, but is not (at least proven) cheating. The exact scenario is irrelevant, but it's a pretty classic mate guarding scenario that contains enough plausible deniab…
/r/askMRP25/07/16 06:45 PM
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Ah, I assure you I'm not looking for a gameplan. I'm just interested in picking your brain on certain subjects as I've read a lot of your content. This is more of an interesting topic or somewhat of a black hole of MRP theory to me... I see a lot of "My wife would know better" but then I see a lot of mention of "No mate guarding" and while not always, they sometimes seem to contradict. writing on the wall about something being up, phone guarding, odd absenses, volunteered alibies without explana…
/r/askMRP25/07/16 06:37 PM
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Okay, so I would definitely label that in the "not mate guarding" area. Now, the second you rationalize for her, she promises never to do it again, etc. you are IN the mate guarding area. Are you 100% sure you would pull the trigger on divorce in this situation, on a single offense? Because if your answer is no, then I would say you laying out your boundary and giving "one more shot" is definitely mate guarding. I'm just trying to get an idea of his (and I guess your) "past mate guarding" versio…
/r/askMRP25/07/16 06:24 PM
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Call this my weekly hypothetical question for you (and I'm not asking where you think I should stand on it, purely personal question for you as I've sort of watched you grow on here over the last year): Where do you draw the line between boundaries and mate guarding? And do you walk without any conversation? Assuming that is what you mean by no mate guarding? Because IMO (certain) boundaries that aren't enforced by an immediate removal of commitment are still mate guarding. Or if you use removal…
/r/askMRP25/07/16 05:59 PM
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This comment is money.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 04:35 PM
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Don't worry about what she thinks. Handle what you were going to handle. When the shit tests start flying, channel your inner rapper: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4IbseadAR5k the hook of that song is them responding to shit tests.
/r/askMRP25/07/16 01:00 PM
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I think that is a common misconception that we let ourselves believe. It goes along with the unicorn/good girl narrative. Low n count = you have to give commitment or work for her sex, because she's not like other girls. Like I said, I think that's a misconception. I think that low n count girls, whom are not a product of being extremely ugly or some other odd circumstance... or the above mentioned very young or virgin, are just more selective with who they have sex with. It doesn't mean they ma…
/r/askTRP24/07/16 12:13 AM
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If they're young and/or a virgin maybe this is true... a girl that is into you enough that she will be a good ltr will put out quick even if she has a low n count.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:41 AM
2

Some even better questions: Would she talk like that to anyone but him? Would he accept (and even reward) that kind of behavior from anyone but his oneitis?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/16 05:04 AM
2

Removing attention rather than holding her for an hour and then taking work off to go to breakfast would be a solid start. You just taught her that her shitty emotional outburst earned her a boatload of care and affection. Does she like those things? Because if she does, I would expect her behavior to continue.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/16 12:23 AM
3

Okay, this argument between you two has validity from both ends. TFA's point about a completely different relationship is the main kicker here. TFA is probably in a place where his wife wouldn't say this type of shit in the first place. OP is possibly in a place where his wife would realize this is his Achilles heel and go after it. I read a lot of these comments and the one thing I didn't see pointed out is: This could have been nipped with some major acta non verba. SO... OP Install it. It's r…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/16 12:06 AM
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Gonna be the minority here, but I would let her initiate that night or I would let her hamster spin on why you didn't initiate. Why? Because right now she's missing that validation that you fucking her gives her. She may also be horny and noticing the new you. So she throws you a bone or two and if you jump on the validation train she thinks "Ah, still got it!" So I would do the opposite. I would proceed like it's a completely normal night, no initiation (you've already gone a month, I think you…
/r/askMRP22/07/16 10:07 PM
1

Nobody worth anything here will complain about an absence of TLDR. People will complain about walls of text. The problem with those should be obvious. If you need to, jot down an outline of your thoughts before putting it "on paper." Noobs are usually bad at getting their thoughts into a concise format. I was terrible. Just another benefit you will probably get from this place if you stick around.
/r/askMRP22/07/16 04:18 PM
1

We give you good advice you give us humor; you still get the best end of the deal. You'll see one day.
/r/askMRP22/07/16 01:59 AM
1

Holy fucking shit... the tagline they put in their website header is actually 100% MRP: "There is only one love language, those other four are like languages." What.The.Fuck. lol Do they even know that is their tagline? I'm going to start using this.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 11:55 PM
1

You bastard... I had to look... and then I wrote a response. I really toed the line and didn't hint or even suggest at this place. I'll count the minutes until I'm banned.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 11:51 PM
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For three months I displayed such OI and abundance mentality that she started often looking at me with this weird look waiting for me to get mad at something and I just meh and DGAF (e.g. hard no to sex, shit tests and disrespect) and she doesn't know what to do. She knows that sex is the only thing she has I want and she wants to weaponize it to the extreme. Uh, bro. That's not what a marriage, or even a relationship, is about. If all she is good for is sex then please, yes, divorce and try to …
/r/askMRP21/07/16 11:26 PM
1

He told his life story down to the year of the automobiles. Stupid shit to post here, but still. And I don't mean a completely random doxxing. I mean someone who even roughly knows him or his wife or his ex or his daughter. You know the wife who resents him and is apparently out to get him... idk what else he posts on Reddit but I try to keep the account I use on here pretty "clean" of references to my personal life. I've fucked up here and there as well. I should have made a completely fresh ac…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 06:26 PM
2

Ah, I take back the first part of what I said. He did link the full replies as well. I guess I just don't like the idea of his username and his extremely doxable comment being reposted without any control from him in a place where someone might stumble upon it. If I were him I would nuke my account... and that means using a script that takes down all of your comments before deleting your account. But if we're archiving content to prevent user deletion... well, now things are getting a little mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 06:15 PM
3

And yet the only thing reposted in the OP was redacted content, with a link to the comment that ex addict thought was so amazing it was worthy of resurrection. In reality his comment seemed pretty manic, his posts in this thread seem pretty manic, and none of them are of the quality that he thinks they are. A post with a brief and less detailed summary of events (read: not detailed enough to be easily doxable) along with a link to the responses would have accomplished all of the positive things …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 04:42 PM
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It might feel like home to you, but it's still an internet forum. And really? That post was special? Guy comes out of the woodwork with a huge ego and a complete lack of introspection and goes on to blame everyone but himself for all of his perceived problems in life. Yawn. And the main TRP mainly sucks because it has a huge user base that mostly doesn't understand the concepts beyond "women are the devil." And, if you don't want anything copied and pasted all over the internet, then don't fucki…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 10:06 PM
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Okay, so I didn't read the original thread until now because I didn't give a shit about some guys daughter drama (and still don't, btw). But. Reposting something that has detailed personal information (say, this kind of ultra specific drama) is one step away from doxing. "We did 300 man hours of reddit comments!" Boo fucking hoo. Cry me a river. You should have known every minute you put into responding to that thread was time flushed down the drain. If you want to feel like your time is valuabl…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 09:33 PM
1

Nice post. This is the difference between being a cold, calculated douchebag and the amazing guy who sweeps her off her feet but she also can't control or quite pin down what he is going to do/say next.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 08:52 PM
1

To be quick about it, larger userbase on TRP leads to this shit. User is angry and writes a rant... other angry new users take the bait and upvote the shit out of it. There is your whole first page covered in shit. I test a new guy on his first posts, and I would say, a majority of the time, a small prodding is enough to send ego-protection into overdrive. Someone has to. WMP was the master. I remember his words "If I don't even know you and can crush your frame so easily..." I think the last ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 08:49 PM
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But, as a counter point... if she asks why you didn't invite her, feel free to say whatever YOU want. If that includes telling her you don't want to hang out with her because her disposition is repulsive... well sucks for her. Don't confuse anti DEER with "avoid confrontation." Just don't fall into her frame when she tries to make it a discussion and you should be just fine. Oh, and it shouldn't be something I have to say... but if she says "Where are you going?" or "Why did you decide on the lo…
/r/askMRP18/07/16 11:36 PM
1

I've seen women cheat when drunk in the very next room... not insisting this is real or anything.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 11:07 PM
3

I get sex whenever I want it now, but it's not half as good as my everyday life !!! I have people say things to me about work. "You like going to work in the morning?!?" or "You're never in a shitty mood at work." And it's like, "Yeah. I don't go to work looking to grind through it, dying for the clock to hit 5. And what the hell else would I do for 8 hours a day?" Make every day part of your mission and you will do so much better at life. I try to tell people that it doesn't matter if you have …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/16 05:08 PM
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it's not, it's a trainwreck.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/16 10:07 PM
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The fact that you mention showing insecurity and jealousy leads me to believe that you might have been feeling a bit insecure and jealous... In your mind, before she showed you the phone, what exactly were you speculating that she was hiding? You need to be honest with yourself if you were being insecure or if you expected it to be something stupid like it was... because we can't know that for you and it changes the context of this interaction a LOT.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/16 07:35 PM
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Her not showing you was the shit test. You caring was failing. It's a pretty classic "does he think another guy is making me laugh?" type test in her head... and snatching her phone gave her the answer she was looking for. OR it was just playful dominance in which stealing the phone was fine... but it seems like you took it seriously... which led her to taking it seriously. (she is very anti-pornography and respectful in that way) jokingly spank her and say "did I say you could watch this kind o…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/16 07:30 PM
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She gets wet before she notices that she's horny. Don't think it has to do with any physical touch.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/16 08:00 PM
1

Lol maybe you were right that he's real.. she's pissed at him... this is gold.
/r/askMRP15/07/16 03:45 AM
2

I don't think they troll this place for the lulz or to see us butthurt. I think they troll it so that they can become butthurt and say "OMG misogyny." I also have a weird hunch that some of the old guys who disappeared have to be writing some of them. To see what this place has become or something. But that's just like my little personal mrp conspiracy theory.
/r/askMRP14/07/16 05:35 PM
1

With all of the talk about purpose on here I saw this scene in the Matrix and laughed to myself. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUHMnRIS3bk
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 05:21 PM
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For the guys who have discovered the manosphere and continue to push back, you are a weaksauce fuck and while it sucks to have your reality shattered the way MRP does so efficiently, it is still the truth and you must find comfort in this discomfort. Push forward not back. I've grown more in the year since finding this place than I did in the previous years of my adult life. I had the worst ego. I thought some of the guys here were just "jerks." Now I look around me at men who are considerably o…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 05:11 PM
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Him using the phrase "safe place" made you think it's real? lol I would bet a decent sum that you guys all got trolled to shit here. Polygraph test? Trust? Faith? The most pathetic real guys usually have an over desire to learn the "magic RP" and a huge ego to go along with their wife problems. This guy is just throwing out pathetic sentences baiting people to respond. Although I would LOVE to see someone polygraph a cheating wife... "Was his dick bigger than 7 inches?" .... "8?"... "Dear god." …
/r/askMRP14/07/16 04:34 PM
1

We're pretty pleasant to one another most of the time. That's perfect. Don't take any resentment out on her and ruin that when you're feeling better about yourself. Right now life is just a grind for the most part and has been for a long time. You do web development, right? I have no idea what the day to day on that constitutes, but try going at it with a "I'm going to kick this project's ass" type view rather than "ugh. have to grind this one out." I'm assuming you got into it because you liked…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 03:37 AM
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Great post. Not much to add beyond that.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 03:27 AM
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Didn't read it all. If this isn't fake the answer is to leave her and never look back.
/r/askMRP14/07/16 12:14 AM
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Okay: Make sure that her working 'for free' doesn't somehow make her feel or even worse actually be entitled to part of your business. I wouldn't even bring it up, just something to keep in the back of your mind. I am not a lawyer, so not sure how that kind of shit works. The attraction you are noticing with your new autonomy could also just be her losing the validating feels you used to give her and wanting that back... especially since she shot you down for sex. I would try to block thinking a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 05:32 AM
1

If you pretend that the TRP sub only consists of ECs you will realize that their community is very similar to this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 04:24 AM
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Don't use your best zen voice. Because if you use a "zen" voice you may as well just say something passive aggressive like "Well, you can be angry, but I'm not like that so I'm just going to speak calmly." Just talk like a normal human being. If she berates you as "Zen and shit"... wait, why the fuck are we (as in you) caring about her berating you again? Why don't you worry about not being butthurt and DGAF about how you "come off" to her. You literally have DNGAF written in the title of your p…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 01:26 AM
1

Isn't it telling she leads with what she wants? Openness = gimme account access! Translation: My last attempt at manipulation didn't work, so let me try this from a different angle. If/when he shoots it down she'll probably fall back into the flipping out mode. If my wife is that amped up and tantruming. Nothing I say will have any positive effect. And the difference between anger tantrum and lack of comfort spiral is running away from you vs. chasing after you. I recently fucked up and got angr…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 11:30 PM
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I admit I skimmed your post. I'll read it later, but I want to mention one thing. I take adderall (actually thanks to guys on this forum I plan on getting my T checked when I finally schedule a physical, chalk that up in my "shit I'm not owning" category) and I used to have anxiety and I feel, or at least felt, like the adderall heightened it. Now I still take adderall, but I don't have anxiety. If you feel like you need the medicine, I would say work on doseage to start. The anxiety might not b…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 11:22 PM
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relapsing with the ex... sounds like the first step in relapsing to your opiate addiction. 70 days off drugs is nothing. i imagine your mind is going all sorts of directions. focus on yourself, stay clean, worry less about pussy. and why the fuck would being married put anyone in a better position to answer this question? visit asktrp
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 05:35 AM
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I didn't really read your last post when you threw it up, but I did now and I'm confused. You've known about this place for 9 months... you "tried and failed" and whatever... You didn't start lifting until 2 days ago... You post that your SMV is very low at the moment. Then in your last post you talk about being able to pull HB7 25 year olds... You mention a guy hitting on your wife and it seemed to get to you since you made some snide comment back to her about how his wife would have been hitti…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 03:08 AM
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Yeah, I prefer to keep it as non transactional as possible so it was kind of a step back in that regard... but I had just been rejected (or at least may as well have been) three days straight. I didn't feel like bullshitting so just gave a straight answer, along with a morning kiss goodbye. Wasn't focusing on making my point or holding a grudge or threatening to never touch her again, just a "let's try this again," type vibe. It's morning, everything is reset, good day was had. I probably made s…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 11:00 PM
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I'd make a joke about the fact that not having sex for a month is bad for your mental health. At least that is you accepting that you acted like a social retard. Then I would drop it. That way when I never did this again and we hadn't had sex for a month the hamster would start to spin. "Why isn't he acting crazy, this time?"
/r/askMRP11/07/16 09:41 PM
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I was going to PM you, but figure any response you might have could be beneficial to others so: In the link you posted above you write: Make a push for sex+ that night. Gives me shit test, saying 'not after you made me cry' but I could give her cuddles instead. "cuddles aren't free babe" I'm not getting what I want here, so I'm not in a generous mood. cue tempter tantrum #2, much more muted though. Now, I've actually done this same thing recently. It came from a string of "Okay, let's do it and …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 09:25 PM
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Her talk blew your frame to smithereens.
/r/askMRP10/07/16 11:13 PM
1

In my personal experience I have found that lifting at the gym ends up with a much better session. Much less hamstering to stop early or do a half assed workout. Much less "I'll start in 30 min" and never starting. etc.
/r/askMRP09/07/16 02:57 PM
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First off, this is a pretty solipsistic view of the subject. Second, IMO you're not getting the praise you did for your last post(s) because this seriously seems like the same shit rehashed. I agree with the dude that said you should start looking forward. You've obviously figured out a lot about yourself and what drove you to be how you were/are, but perhaps focus on improvement or other theory rather than this constant analysis of your past. Shit, it looks like you could do great diving into r…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/16 02:52 PM
1

Shit I am not owning Diet - the one obvious place where I let myself make excuses. I was cut up and decided to bulk. Was doing well and tracking everything on MFP. "Having it down" led me to stopping tracking and from there came the excuses. "I'll eat more tomorrow." Vacation. etc. Have been stagnant weight wise for almost two months. Using MFP again everyday so at least my failure is rubbed in my face if I choose to make excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/16 06:15 PM
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She isn't having an emotional affair. She is having an affair. A sexual affair. My wife is financially secure; he has been unemployed for eight years. He is five years younger, fit, a gym rat type. He is alpha fucks. You are beta bucks. You get the emotional affair. He gets the dirty sex you didn't even know your wife had in her. Your wife's interest in sex with you is higher because you get her trickle down tingles. She is SO horny for this guy that just fucking him isn't enough, when he's not …
/r/askMRP08/07/16 02:14 AM
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In hindsight, my mother said some very real shit to me once, that I thought was just rambling bullshit at the time. I was dating what was probably the closest thing I'll ever find to a unicorn and after she left the house one night my mother turned to me and said: "She looks at you like you're her hero." Made no sense to me then, but now I get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/16 01:43 AM
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The obvious play is to leave. The second obvious play is to ignore it. As for types: IMO girls have types for a reason. You have a much better shot for long term attraction if you are that girls type. Of course you don't know WHY she constantly dated spiritual musician guys and why didn't they work out? Was she constantly dumping them? Etc. So I would worry about it less and be the best version of yourself you can be. Suggested reading: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2yrxtp/the…
/r/askMRP07/07/16 10:10 PM
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THIS BITCH LIED TO YOUR FACE. DISHONORED YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN. MADE A MOCKERY OF YOUR MARRIAGE. ……. and yet you think you are repairing the relationship. This so much. I asked her to try to work things out with me. I wanted to save this marriage. Umm... Cue your best "gay voice" and say it with me: "Excuse me, bitch?" She's out literally taking dicks in the street and OP is "asking her to work things out with him." and to keep everything in one post: /u/willpuffy Can you not see that this is a …
/r/askMRP07/07/16 09:28 PM
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Schedule masculine activities around that phase. Let her see you doing something manly and or dangerous. Rock climbing, cliff jumping, shit like that. Especially if you have a pretty nice body. And worry about this less until you are a year in. If you get to a point where you can look at yourself and say "Yeah, I am a pretty fuckin cool/masculine man." and she still isn't finding you to be what she wants sexually, then you can start to re-evaluate your situation.
/r/askMRP07/07/16 09:16 PM
1

Role playing: If she /asks/ me what I think of her bun, I think I'd say it looks nice. If she says "you didn't say anything about my bun", I'd agree. "No, I didn't." If she pushes "Why didn't you say anything about my bun? Don't you like it" I'm unsure what to do. Probably something like "Are you fishing for a compliment?" (Pressure flip) Just think less man. I really promise that it isn't beta to have the following conversation: "You didn't say anything about my bun." "oh.. hmm.. it's nice." or…
/r/askMRP06/07/16 11:55 PM
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Slow down there buddy. You're insecure because you don't have your shit together etc etc etc. Fix for that is MRP sidebar. Your post is gibberish, but from what I can tell your GF decided to go to this guy's BBQ. You got insecure and told her you didn't want her to and she did anyway. If she's actively taking invites to parties from guys you don't really know.... well, I've got some news for you and none of it's good. If it was her "IRL" girlfriend's party and it's not like you and her had plans…
/r/askMRP06/07/16 10:53 PM
1

I would add that OP should lay out his professional goals for his wife so that she is less stressed and more understanding about the current lower income. Not to justify it so much, but so that she sees the mission and recognizes that he has a plan for his (and to her by proxy, their) future.
/r/askMRP06/07/16 10:39 PM
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Listen, I'm not the one throwing plates at people. And your comment wasn't funny, you look ignorant at best. And you're STILL not taking responsibility; you're still saying her, her, her. And it wasn't tough love. I defended the guy above because his comment was more beneficial to the community than a single thing you have written in this thread. You want love? Edit your post and point to specific failures you have made, both personally and in your relationship. Avoid any and all blame shifting …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 07:58 PM
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Better to go to jail than surrender completely. The second he threw the plate, IMO, it was actually better to surrender (short term) than go to jail. I am not a lawyer, but even I can tell you that a DV arrest is going to hurt him in the long run when it comes to his divorce and custody of his child. Even if we accept that he wasn't abusing his wife (and I don't by the way, he shouldn't have thrown that plate, plastic or not), what do you think a judge is going to see? Violence towards women If …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 05:44 PM
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I would not have left. Let her call the police. Stay calm/amused mastery. You have done nothing wrong except (in the words of scripture) hearkened unto the voice of your wife- the original sin of man. Not good advice. "Did Daddy really throw this plate at Mommy? Don't lie to the police." That's beyond enough to take him down to jail on DV charges. Besides that, great advice. Doubt he listens to a word of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 05:25 PM
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I have no idea who that is, but I know enough that he doesn't owe you shit. You don't even deserve a deep analysis. You are such a piece of shit fuck up that it's not even funny. This is all for your daughter? Because of scientific research? This post broke new grounds in the scientific research of the male hamster. And you're sorry that it was long? I'm sorry that it was long, I'm sorry that I read that absolute piece of dog shit. You're not red pill, you're not even blue pill, you're just a gi…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 05:07 PM
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Now I'm not talking shit at all, but this post probably made me laugh as much as anything I have ever read on MRP. Dude's life is in shambles, his house may as well be burning down behind him while he types away on his laptop... and you're like "Make sure to brine the chicken, bro." I want to say it has a deeper meaning... like don't forget the small stuff while you focus on the big picture or something, but I don't think it does. But seriously, no matter how you meant it, it cracked me up.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 02:55 AM
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I knew someone had written in detail about it. Good post.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 10:10 PM
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idk if I would have sprung a surprise vacation, but congrats on not being a little bitch about it I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 08:24 PM
2

well, this can't be good.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 07:55 PM
1

Shit, I dyslexiced your post and totally missed your point. But yeah, I agree that is another thing to keep in mind. I think this is where watch actions not words comes in... Words lie often.. The body language is a lot harder to fake.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 07:36 PM
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That can wait, get over here This was the cure to the problem right here. Any resistance from that point on would be standard LMR or her actually being disgusted with fucking OP and looking for any out she could get. If this was a first date situation OP wouldn't have even waited for her lead to move to the bedroom or next stage of progression in this hookup. He would have grabbed her and pushed her to the couch/bed and there wouldn't have been room for conversation. OP: This is the feeling she …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 05:13 PM
1

Individual thought shows a much better understanding of theory than just taking everything at face value. Probe/question whoever and whatever you want. If you fuck up and are way out of line it will probably be obvious very quickly, and even that is a learning experience more than anything. I've gone back and forth with a few guys. Sometimes I've gotten a point across, sometimes after a clearer view of their perspective I realize they are right, and sometimes we just agree to disagree. Almost al…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 04:42 PM
1

Fair is a word made for manipulation.
/r/askMRP04/07/16 05:57 PM
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I would promote more acta non verba than overt communication on the regular, but in certain instances it might be beneficial to make your point. For the most part she will know without anything needing to be directly said. But if she tries to play dumb with you...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/16 08:36 PM
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Don't worry about questioning people here. Just because I said enough TRP shit to get a little emblem by my name doesn't mean I'm some end all be all of relationships. Yes, we shouldn't be shooting for anger. You being angry isn't a sign that you have won. You being sad/butthurt is a sign that you are losing. Your wife being angry in conflicts rather than sad is a sign that you are losing. I want people to see the general idea of MAD vs SAD and how it works with the power dynamic of the relation…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/16 04:31 PM
1

Are you projecting butthurt (annoyance, etc) onto Chad to justify your own butthurt? Possibly. That's a good call. I too had the covert contract of get in good shape and suddenly be fucking 5x a day again. Obviously, not the case. But yeah, I got you. When you're spinning plates the annoyance goes down drastically so I probably am projecting a higher level of annoyance than realistic due to my own circumstances.
/r/askMRP02/07/16 04:24 PM
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If Chad was in a legally binding contract where if he fucks other women his booty call gets half his shit I think he would progress another tick or two down that scale. Solid scale, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/16 04:10 PM
1

Okay, the excuse to spare her feelings thing: I don't think you're actively thinking "I don't want her to feel bad." I think you're thinking "I don't have any interest in being around her right now because (she rejected me, her attitude blows, she's generally being a bitch)," and you have enough social custom not to say "I'm leaving because you're being a bitch," so you say "I'm leaving to mow the lawn at 11:30PM." We/You know why you're leaving. Nobody wants to mow their lawn at midnight. Butth…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/16 04:06 PM
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A month? I'm not sure. We had that outflux of ECs and all... As for the SAD->MAD thing. IMO it comes from insecurity at first. The SAD emotion tests your frame and if you slip her emotions change because she senses your weakened frame and feels like perhaps she was wrong about you having the power in the relationship. So she drifts back to her old ways of being MAD. I think it's the thing you'll encounter in a midway point of a MRP "journey." It seems to be a catching point because it is unusual…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/16 03:55 PM
1

However, I do get more duty sex than I'd like. I'm in the same boat. And okay, maybe you didn't lie. If you really were more concerned about keeping your butthurt to yourself then probably a good move on leaving. Leaving beats an argument/conversation 10/10 times IMO. I probably projected a bit on you with the you're lying. But if we go with acta non verba you literally would rather drive in circles and listen to music than spend your time with a wife who acts like having sex with you is a chore…
/r/askMRP02/07/16 03:50 PM
1

I have to second this... maybe it's a phase I'm in, but hiding the fact that you're displeased is just as pussy as being butthurt. She's his wife, he wanted to have sex, she has no good reason to reject him. He has every right to be unhappy with it.
/r/askMRP01/07/16 09:27 PM
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Well, first off you DEERed that pretty hard. And you basically lied to her. I think I'm going to garner some shit from the regulars for this, but "I wanted to have sex, if you don't want to have sex right now I don't want to be around you." At least that's the truth. Then, I guess work on yourself for changing that from being the truth... or else own it. What would you do if she was as 5/10 last resort booty call you had that didn't put out? You would leave and you would either give her some com…
/r/askMRP01/07/16 09:22 PM
2

to be fair the asshole model is great for plates because they can hamster away needing commitment.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 08:25 PM
1

I know. And the logical part of my brain gets that. However, so many of these have happened completely out of nowhere. Some I can't even pinpoint a place where my dgaf attitude would have a chance to show.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 05:34 PM
2

Yeah, I gotcha. I'm just pointing out that usually "don't act like a social retard" game doesn't work this great without other long term improvement. All anecdotal evidence from seeing posts here, of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 05:12 PM
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You know what, you're right on the doing it all for her part. It's masked by the obvious success here (probably due to her lower SMV). OP seems more self aware than most new guys, but he clearly is still hyper focused on his wife. I think OP nailed it, though, when he said: I feel like she's been begging for this stuff all along and I've been so socially clueless I might as well have been on the spectrum. Results in 2 weeks means he's been acting like an aspie for the past however many years. Mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 04:12 PM
2

Talking to women at outside of the home comes much easier, and they seem to respond a little bit better. Some places on the internet say this is from feremones, I think it's all body language and conversation. It's weird because when I was sleeping with multiple women at the same time, women would literally throw themselves at me... I don't think it was all my OI and preselection. I know there isn't anything proven, but the when it rains it pours effect of getting women is really astounding.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 03:46 PM
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"yes massa, anything you say massa" in your best slave voice
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 04:29 AM
3

I would take being called trump by a woman as a sign I that I have intensely solid frame. He's proof you can say anything with frame and get away with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 05:08 PM
2

Yeah, he gave you level headed and manageable advice. For where you're at it is probably the best in this thread. You need to not throw a bitch fit over this and just make it clear you don't appreciate her going out and drinking so late. You know, like I think the guy in another thread put it "like she drank your $80 fancy scotch just to get drunk" but don't treat it like she killed your first born child. Then let. it. go. Continuously being emotional about it is only going to hurt your cause. P…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 04:22 AM
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So what the fuck do you expect to get out of the conversation? "Hey sweetheart I don't think you should drink as much, we agreed on 1 blah blah blah. Will you promise to stop doing that in the future?" Literally tell me what you think her response is going to be to that. And if that's now how you are going to phrase it then how do you plan on this conversation happening? Her spontaneously apologizing and promising to change because you ignored her all week?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 03:46 AM
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I mean... was it really a boundary if all you do is cry about it? Why would she change in the future? When you fold on this she will not be just as likely to do it again in the future, she will be MORE likely because she now knows you're a huge pussy who doesn't respect himself. What would I do? Fuck man, it's a tough position you put yourself in. Did you really expect her to respect your position here? When you set this boundary did you tell yourself this was it and you were walking away if she…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 01:01 AM
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So she fucks you often and enthusiastically? Then she needs you to be the man in the relationship. Blow through shit tests and don't let her tell you what to do, emotionally manipulate you, or treat you like a child. Don't act like a child either. Lead, boundaries, be less reactive to her bullshit. Basically, I would say if you have one thing above all it is learn to not give a fuck about shit tests. You're taking her too seriously. If she keeps going on the harpy bitch stuff just remove your av…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 11:54 PM
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I hear you but this is crossing the boundaries we set You set the boundaries, not we. Own it. I don't know if I would call this the main event, because most likely she's going to agree to your terms, you're going to take her back, and she won't have the opportunity to violate your boundary for another 6 months or something pretty far in the future. She did what she wanted and she didn't give a fuck about your "boundary" even though she originally agreed to it (from what you say)... so what makes…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 11:38 PM
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Well, he's not my friend, but... The "weird" part to me was that he went into massive detail to me on the red flags and he didn't list much in terms of blatant shit testing and she was enthusiastically fucking him. Usually in this situation we would see things like "GF is emotionally distant" "GF not responsive to sex anymore" "GF starting fights on purpose" to go along with the weird vacation. I saw big boundary, frame, and insecurity issues. The red flags are there of course, but they don't qu…
/r/askMRP28/06/16 08:45 PM
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The low carbs is the point. He's on a cut, he won't be expecting to PR or anything. He is looking to maintain strength while losing fat. I've done 20G as a top end goal for carbs for months on end. Most days probably ended up below 15G honestly. I did, however, let myself eat carbs one day a week. Still kept my calories restricted. Some people say this refills your muscles energy stores, but from what I have read the science isn't really proven and you can do just as well on a strict every day k…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 06:51 PM
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This is what I have started to do. It's hard to explain how I'm not DEERing to someone who doesn't see the difference. I say it in a matter of fact way pointing out the absurdity rather than trying to win approval by pointing out my past "good deeds." Sometimes a snarky response will come back about how for example "yesterday was the one time in a long time" and I'll either blow it off or ask for a list with references or something ridiculous. But yeah, it's a shit test. The less seriously you t…
/r/askMRP28/06/16 05:05 PM
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hypergamy until the wall (I don't really mean only until here... but even more pronounced sluttiness due to hypergamy). it's not like they don't try to get the high SMV guys that they fuck locked down, the problem is they can't. and if they can, the mere fact that they did it turns them off and they are easily tempted by the next guy who has high perceived SMV. this is because guys will fuck down, but they aren't as likely to commit down. as wall approaches they realize that their value is lesse…
/r/TheRedPill27/06/16 10:01 PM
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Because I see a girl planning a trip with an insecure boyfriend thinking this is a great tactic to make him not cry about her going. It screams AWALT to me... Now is him calling her out and her choosing to double down on her lie AWALT? Maybe, maybe not. I see a world where she tries to explain that she was worried he would be upset about it. I also see a world where she says "that's not true you must have seen something else." World 1 maybe there is a lesson in here for her, you're the container…
/r/askMRP27/06/16 08:12 PM
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Well, one thing you're doing is assuming that guys and girls are equal. I don't meant that to be sexist, but in the terms of going and blacking out in Vegas etc. a guy for the most part just has to not try to pull a chick. And maybe if some chick that happens to be hot enough to meet his standards goes 100% on trying to pull him he has to fight the urge. A female doing the same thing has a totally different experience. Oh, she's with 4 of her single slut friends? Well then they're definitely goi…
/r/askMRP27/06/16 08:06 PM
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Yeah, see I think the red flags list is what this comes down to. The nagging feeling OP obviously has is based around these. Some I think are legitimately on him, but as you have summarized... some are pretty blatant "not LTR material" type.
/r/askMRP27/06/16 07:49 PM
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back hair is gross. you can definitely get it waxed at most places. I would personally save up for laser. Never done it before but back hair really is gross.
/r/askMRP27/06/16 05:28 PM
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I sent him here to get an alternative to the askTRP teenagers. His situation is weird IMO, in that he has evidence that she is making shit up about the trip, but he does not have any evidence besides the city that they're going to that she's fucking this 40 year old dude. I was expecting a mixed bag of responses to be honest because half of his issues seem to be steeped in his own insecurities. This may sound like calling you out and maybe to a degree it is, but I am positive that you remember o…
/r/askMRP27/06/16 05:20 PM
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Hamster can't accept that she is his play thing to be fucked and then discarded until the next convenient time so she has to flip the script in her mind. He is the play thing... and it's not slutty because they're like so BFFs.
/r/askTRP26/06/16 07:20 AM
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He has high SMV and she likes the validation that having sex with him gives her. She knows he will never commit so she plays it off like they wouldn't work as a relationship anyway.
/r/askTRP26/06/16 06:57 AM
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Tell her you'll get the ice cream after and leave it on the night stand and go to the gym.
/r/askMRP25/06/16 07:52 PM
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Don't wait. I think people get all up on pregnancy here because usually newish guys write a novel about how they're very clumsily trying to implement RP and all this drama ensued. They want the community to dissect their lives and where they went wrong. And then they sneak in the comment "oh, and the wife is 5 months pregnant," in paragraph 9, like it is some sort of minor side note of their story... when in reality it is a big fucking deal.
/r/askMRP25/06/16 07:50 PM
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I wouldn't say that they are always trying to change your perspective, although that is sometimes the case. I would say that it is usually not a verbalized acceptance of their perspective... more like subconscious acceptance of their perspective. I'm sure someone else here can explain it more eloquently.
/r/askTRP25/06/16 07:43 PM
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Focus on situations from you perspective rather than everyone else's. Don't let them force their perspective on you. During an interaction, and particularly a relationship, people tend to kind of reconcile perspectives. One person tends to naturally have a stronger resistance to bending from their own perspective and the interaction usually ends up in that persons frame. I don't think that breaking up with a girl just because she cheats on you is an example of holding frame. I think that if you …
/r/askTRP25/06/16 07:05 PM
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Okay, it sounds like you know you shouldn't be with this chick but you're over invested and don't know how to get out. The trip is a red flag, yes, but it is also just shining light on the fact that you don't trust her. Also, you being so insecure about it that you had to post on asktrp is a red flag about you. So I would suggest getting a little introspective: Why does this trip scare you so much? You think she's going to go get drunk with this guy and just happen to fuck him? Do you want to be…
/r/askTRP25/06/16 02:36 AM
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You mention the browser history or autofill of the same dates that she is going with her friend that isn't something that can just randomly appear. She says something like "oh that wasn't me" (complete lie) or "oh that was just coincidence I just search plane tickets sometimes" (lie again) to make you question if she really was pre planning this (she probably was). Technically the definition is: manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity. But she's going to bas…
/r/askTRP24/06/16 11:42 PM
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Boiled down version: Your girl wants to go on vacation with her friend. She lied about it because she knows you're insecure. May or may not be meeting up with dude that you are insecure about. You want us to tell you how to feel about this? You want our permission to look through her phone? to next her? You want us to reassure you that you're acting insecure? I wouldn't be asking to dig through her shit. By then you may as well just next her because you're effectively nexting yourself lol. "Weir…
/r/askTRP24/06/16 11:17 PM
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It's pretty obvious that she's trying to do a slow break up. Don't take that personally. Anyway, too many her/she's in this post. If you want to have sex with her just say you thought about it and don't think this sex break is a good idea. I see a lot of pushback coming but it's not like you can get negative laid, so whatever. This thing is so far gone, though. No shit tests is a bad thing... I'm filling in the blanks here, but in my mental picture she just plain feels bad for you now. That's wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 11:17 PM
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It's a fine line we walk discussing men's actions leading to getting cheated on and removing all agency from women.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 12:45 AM
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I think that these women usually do, however, cross a line that most reasonable people would consider "cheating." All women have different levels of strictness for their "perfect circumstances," and different stages where it officially becomes "cheating" to them (that are very fluid depending on their current emotional state). Many women will break it off before actual PiV sex happens... I don't think they quite deserve a gold star for that. Anyway, if your wife is getting hot the reasons should…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 12:18 AM
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You're either giving cats too much credit or women not enough. Cats are good with that because you have closed doors. If your cat could come and go as it pleased and your neighbor down the street was serving tuna everyday, guess who would have a new cat. Basically, if we're comparing to animals.. dogs are just about the worst thing to compare women to. Cats are an immensely better fit.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/16 09:44 PM
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Understand cats, understand women.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/16 08:26 PM
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to express affection, often for comfort tests Starting out I would expect guys are all too often thinking shit tests are comfort tests. Even our "I" vs "You" statement comfort/shit test vetting isn't really that great of a way to figure these out. Assuming something is a shit test will almost never decrease attraction or respect. Assuming things are comfort tests that are not will put you on a bumpy and confusing ride.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 05:51 PM
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Yeah, I don't get that. Pure insecurity... weak people are afraid of other people's progress. Someone else improving should provide inspiration rather than fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 03:58 PM
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I just think about the hangover/wasted day the next day and I basically never want to drink.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 03:00 AM
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Things from her telling my kid "go to Daddy he'll do this and that" (IE attempting to force me to take an action through my kid) to saying shit where you KNOW she has hidden meaning behind her words but you can't call her out on it b/c she'll deny up and down and say that she has good intentions and you're crazy for thinking that. Examples would help on the kid thing, but you can just tell your kid not now, "what made mommy think I was planning to do that?" (amused mastery), or something along t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 02:46 AM
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Easiest soft next of your life
/r/askTRP22/06/16 01:45 AM
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The awesome sex that night was def because he got her horny.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 11:58 PM
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Hi, Don't get married. This is a symptom of your bigger issues, not the issue itself. Easy answer: next Harder answer: read sidebar.
/r/askMRP21/06/16 05:36 PM
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I recently read an article on how upstarts and corporations almost always fail when two partners decide to start a business 50/50. I'm sure you can find a source for that. Someone has to have veto power or you will be at a standstill on the first disagreement. Your wife has to understand this at some level. You need to frame it as accepting a responsibility rather than taking control of her. You might be too early in the process for this conversation. I have never had it... I would do a lot of a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 04:19 PM
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This is literally the definition of frame. Stop being so concerned with how she "views" you and be more concerned with your interpretation of the interaction. She's going to go get drinks with an "ex" lover. You are either willing to accept that in your monogamous (lol) relationship or you are not. Don't let her shame you with words like clingy, needy, and jealous... and don't be angry when she tries, because she will. "I don't date girls who still hang out with their exes." "You're so sensitive…
/r/TheRedPill21/06/16 04:05 PM
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btw I'm glad the mrpers and trpers came together and made up. it reminds me of this episode of BMS
/r/TheRedPill21/06/16 02:43 AM
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All covered but another vote for keto. Just because it forces you to down protein and will keep you full and off the "junk" food for the most part. Heard good things about IF, but never needed it. Keto can get me absolutely shredded.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 02:37 AM
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Okay, and my answer was to next her because, as you put it, she has showed her true face... I'm not sure what you're arguing, but I'm just about done because this is starting to feel like a troll.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/16 12:03 AM
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Sorry, when I use LTR I mean relationship with the agreement to be monogamous. Long term plate, whatever, this doesn't apply. But why are you granting exclusivity to this woman? And if you're cheating (which I'm going to assume since you're talking about playing to win or some shit) then I just guess I don't understand where you're coming from that you can't just keep the woman as a plate? You need the validation that she is being monogamous to you? Or the plate was going to break so you had to …
/r/TheRedPill21/06/16 12:01 AM
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These boys are worried about the impending "You're so controlling/Why are you so insecure?/He's just a friend, I can't hang out with friends?" And their lack of understanding is amazingly apparent.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/16 11:57 PM
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No, not in the context of an LTR. Yes, if she is a plate assume she's fucking dudes and if you care you're over-invested anyway. If this is an LTR the right answer is to next. No matter what you want to say, you are pretending and it's not in your fucking frame. You're trying to control her actions with some bullshit mind game while you're clearly stressing about it because in your post you basically stated it is (obviously) something you don't want her to do. A proper title for your post: "How …
/r/TheRedPill20/06/16 11:49 PM
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This is the truth if you have her plated and she is trying to get upgraded. If she's an LTR this is just bad behavior and it's worth nexting for. Or downgrade and cheat / whatever you feel like doing. But she's not LTR material.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/16 11:44 PM
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I'm just trying to wrap my head around how pretending that it is okay for an LTR to meet up with an ex for drinks is "maintaining frame." Because it sounds like the exact fucking opposite of that... but yeah, not caring is passing the shit test. but the LTR part of the equation should be over the second the words come out of her mouth. just my 2c.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/16 11:35 PM
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The more this sub becomes an advisory committee for the particular and nuanced situations in an individual's life, the greater the responsibility to focus on the larger concepts. Bingo. There's no time NOR need to dissect paragraph three sentence four of each newbs victim puke because it absolutely DOES NOT MATTER. I used to be more tempted to be like "bro, this is where you're fucking up!" but I realized that if they were fucking up in paragraph one, two, and three, they were undoubtedly fuckin…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 09:55 PM
1

Use negative inquiry. Google it. When I say no I feel guilty.
/r/askMRP18/06/16 03:46 AM
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Of course, but just because I have a strong frame doesn't mean hers is magically weak. I guess I would say that I currently am in my own frame but she is not always in mine. I suspect a main event type situation will pop up one day that will either dissolve the relationship or reframe it in a more solid way.
/r/askMRP18/06/16 03:43 AM
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LTR is the same way. Objectively, I am in as good of shape now as when we met, probably stronger but less lean, but not by much and will be fixing that once I finish bulking a bit more. I get IOIs and actually had a decent looking girl basically throw herself at me in front of her and I wonder where the dread is because she doesn't even bat an eye, much less comment on it (and yes, she noticed it... she physically got pushed out of the way). It's because in her mind she is the shit, and it would…
/r/askMRP18/06/16 12:39 AM
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Your wife has great frame. You don't. You doing shit annoys her at YOU. Her doing/saying shit collapses your frame and makes you start questioning yourself and basically complaining like a bitch. Needless to say, part of her really great frame is that she considers herself high SMV and it isn't based off of your validation... not that it matters because you ARE constantly trying to fuck her. She does NOT consider you high SMV. This bothers you. And we loop back to how you have shitty frame. Now.…
/r/askMRP17/06/16 10:50 PM
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I almost went into that exact thing but I promised I would keep it short.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 04:01 PM
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LOL he won't be able to plate her... she will sex him up right until the move in and then the excuses will trickle it to non existent. If he brings it up she will make sure to fix that right quick with some emotional manipulation. OP is just giving out free room and board.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 02:54 AM
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I'm going to agree and disagree here a bit. I'll keep it short, though, it probably deserves more depth than I'm going to give it right now. Yes, your Gives and Wants are good. RP men offer more value because they realize what is and isn't shitty about themselves and improve on their problem areas. However... I would say the main difference should be: RP Husband WANTS and BP Husband NEEDS I get it... "DGAF" - I don't need approval, I don't need kindness, I don't need consistent respect... but yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 02:07 AM
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Your last paragraph = truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 11:08 PM
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Two different people two different lives. You gotta get up when you gotta get up. Anyway, I haven't had a full on one I have realized, but a main event will be the second she loses it to the point where you would usually chase her or in your newfound glory, ignore her tantrum... and either way she eventually calms down. Chasing is the worst, full on BP. Ignoring is next level. Then the main event is (IMO, and someone correct me if I'm way off... I'm not married for what it's worth - to pile on t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 01:09 AM
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quality sex is based on attraction.... the lack of orgasms besides machine like clit rubbing is just another symptom of the lack of attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 12:30 AM
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Well from years of dealing with men, women see "I can't get in trouble for DV." Little do they know, Johnny Law ends up in a pickle when he shows up and it's girl on girl action. "Which woman do I protect?!?"
/r/TheRedPill07/06/16 09:21 PM
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Hi New Guys: Want to know whose frame you are in? Look at whose displeasure is taken with the weight of authority and whose is scoffed at, turned around on them, or generally brushed off (as we often suggest here).
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 06:55 PM
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To leave you she has to be convinced that she is more valuable than you. The act of walking away unscathed, maybe even happier to be free of the burden of the relationship, is not congruent with her analysis of your respective values. I'm sure there are cases where the hamster can take care of this for her, but it would take quite a bit of mental gymnastics and she'll always have that doubt in the back of her mind. Great post, btw. Concept delivered very eloquently.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/16 05:22 PM
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Okay... my suggestion here and I am in no way calling your wife a narcissist... but if you want to get a big fat lesson on frame and to recognize how you are shoulder deep in hers: Download Reddit Enhancement Suite (chrome extension, it's great anyway) Look up u/jacktenofhearts Scroll down on his overview until you get to the VERY bottom and it won't load any more pages.... it's a lot, just do it, it's about a year back of posts. CTRL F "Narcissist" Read EVERY post of his that has that word in i…
/r/askMRP07/06/16 04:11 AM
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The ultimate example of someone with too much time on their hands.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 03:33 AM
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I want to take a second to relate his post, and our reaction to it, to the larger MRP theory as a whole. People have a knack for spotting knock offs, fakes, etc. It may be hard when we're talking same factory Chinese merchandise, but when it comes to other people, we are quick to notice if something isn't "right" about them... The guy with the slight lazy eye, or little limp, or weird pigmentation of the skin... immediately the first thing we notice about them. This stretches beyond physical imp…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 12:21 AM
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I will. I don't expect much to discuss afterwards. The one thing that I would point out on it in relation to RP is that the one giving oral is almost by default the beta in the interaction... so using oral as a foreplay but not having her ever use oral to try to get you to have sex with her puts her in a dominant position... and in the bedroom isn't the best place to have her in a dominant role... unless you're into that kind of thing but I have no experience with it and can't speak to its overa…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 05:54 PM
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And that is when I first recognize that my wife didn't do something that I wish she had (clean the house, make dinner, fuck me, etc.) instead of just stewing on it and let it build into a blow-up moment, I tell her that she's got a hot ass and then I go do something that needs to be done (lift,read, fix something, play with my kids, etc). This has been helping to keep me in a better mindset and keep her in a better mood. This is going to work for a while until you realize you're just being a hug…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 05:43 PM
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Well since WMP is no longer with us... I will pour out a little for the homie and give you some truth he once gave me. Do you want a gold star? You just made a validation seeking post talking about the previous validation seeking behavior you noticed in yourself. It's like Validception up in here. Edit: u/adderalabuse did give you a great response though
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/16 05:25 PM
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I think another commenter linked a post specifically on it, but: outcome independence: example: you don't want to go to dinner with your wife. you text her and she goes along with the "i'm fucking you" stuff you say. you want to go to dinner now. she says "no way not tonight hun, my back hurts" and you pout and either cancel dinner or resent her and have a shitty time at dinner. Your mood and actions were dependent on the outcome of a certain thing. Hence you were not outcome independent. Someti…
/r/askMRP05/06/16 05:06 AM
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i'm still trying to wrap my head around how you got butthurt over her casual remark of "for what you paid to get this food, we could have gone out for dinner." It's transitioned directly into from a comment about a rejection... that you say you made nothing of... If they're related, then okay, cool. It just means you're not as OI as you think. If they're not then my response is: that's the shit test you get butthurt over?! What I didn't do was overtly communicate my annoyance and attempt to nego…
/r/askMRP04/06/16 09:38 PM
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You're making the assumption we're working logically. Although it could be argued that you should have done a little research before you decided to go plunk down some of your hard earned money at a restaurant, I know I do.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/16 07:19 PM
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Whatever, one day you won't even remember those self diagnosed inflection points of failure in your relationship.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/16 11:34 PM
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I'm pulled two directions. Who cares if she's attracted to you, she's your wife and she's dying. Make her last days (years?) comfortable. But... What if she lives for longer than you think? You're wasting some of the last prime years of your life on this. If you were in the hospital with cancer I would bet money on her having a side piece that she got it from while you were there all alone. If she still wants out due to extended life expectancy I would give it to her. I might not have the heart …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 08:57 PM
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Haha, circlejerk time. But seriously, if they just said "disregard my feelings sometimes, but in a kind of nice way" men would be like okay, no problem... but it's a catch 22 because then you aren't disregarding their feelings... and most men would be saying things like "well, how much? is this too much? are you really upset now?" But you know what: They laugh about your Blue Pill ways to her girlfriends and then come back and lie some more. I think I just got triggered. Joking, but that's the k…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 07:42 PM
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I'm not suggesting anyone just starts pinning themselves in the ass without doing any research. And you linked to anti steroid propaganda... they have a possible side effect as "HIV"... do you know how fucking stupid you would have to be to get HIV by injecting steroids? For the record, I don't roid. But, jesus.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 05:32 PM
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If someone is struggling to release concept from morality they should look at it as a mathematical equation. We would never try to imply that math should be constrained by morals, right? 1+1= 2 - it just is. then you can slowly make your way to something like: slip off bridge + gravity (9.8ms<sup>2)</sup> = death (mathematically, some measure of force) death brings in bad feels, right? but we don't try to inject our morals on Newton's laws when we're discussing how gravity works... and you can c…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 05:25 PM
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I would argue that steroids do lead to being a better man. How you got the muscles doesn't particularly matter. You aren't going to get a greek god body by doing roids and slacking off... you'll end up with all the negatives and barely any positives. Shitting on people who do steroids because it's cheating is a hamster technique.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 05:18 PM
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Linking to the actual posts in an archive would have made your post a little nicer to read. With no context that quote means jack shit to me... was it a joke? who said it? are you just satirically paraphrasing? But seriously... the last thing this sub needs is more posts shitting on the main TRP sub. You know what you can do with content you morally or otherwise disagree with? Just fucking ignore it, it's really that easy, I promise. And fuck, if you must argue with it, don't be a pussy and argu…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 04:59 PM
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You're right and I think that's where the fixing yourself up part of MRP comes in. But... I want to stop you before you think that just being a pretty above average dude and her taking you home is good enough. You were a decent looking guy in a good frat. The parties and blah blah upped your SMV with social proof. Yes, you were the prize. Don't think of it as she has won you. Maybe there was a point where she won you, but now you need to get back into the "just out of reach" frame. If we can slo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 04:50 PM
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They talk about signal to noise ratio over there a lot and while my definition of noise might be a little different than theirs, here is a good way to get something useful out of the main sub: Disregard all posts that are not by endorsed contributors or higher. You may miss some great insights every now and then, but you will have eliminated 99% of the shit and get a much more efficient use of that sub. Oh, and don't get it twisted, their shit works... they're just applying it to a vastly differ…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 04:29 PM
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You know what... This reminds me of another plate's little truth slip. As an experiment, I think I'm going to cut giving oral out of my foreplay for the month of June.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 04:21 PM
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God, us men. Always looking for the problem so we can fix it with logic. The funny part is that she tries to put it in logical terms for you, but there is still a problem with her version of logic. She wasn't fucking you out of some clear cut obligation to "keep you" she was fucking you out of desire... It's the difference between subtle dread and FMoFY. I guess translating her words a bit we could say she was fucking you because it was a competition and you were the prize. The prize wording is …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 04:11 PM
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Well, I think we can agree the drift is real. Losing two guys who were probably the most opposite of purple we can hope for shows how quickly the front page of a sub can drift. We just had a post on "we don't need to beat it down about marriage is a bad deal," and I personally think that yes.. don't go telling guys in a marriage that it is a bad deal, they hopefully know and don't need to be reminded. But if someone comes to this sub discussing their upcoming engagement etc. they ought to be war…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 02:42 AM
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control F "Sex" Nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 11:00 PM
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Can you not tell by the way he writes that he is still the same person? He may have gotten out of this shitty relationship but there is still (somewhat) the same scatter brained dude deep down. Admittedly, this is his most coherent post to date (real paragraphs!) so he is going in the right direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 08:38 PM
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Well.. yeah. If you ditch the codependent behaviors you will either find out that A) She wasn't BPD, you were just a codependent bitch making her seem that way or B) Your relationship will blow the fuck up because she WAS BPD Either situation is a win. You don't want a relationship where you act like a BPD relationship and you definitely don't want a relationship with an actual BPD.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 08:19 PM
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I had a post typed up to respond to this and lost the tab. But the main point here is that while MRP might not want posts spouting marriage is bad all over the front page... well I'll just copy the words from the other post (emphasis mine). On MRP we want to provide actionable advice to men in marriage and avoid the "marriage is a terrible deal for men" diatribes because in other news, water is wet, the sun is bright and space is a near vacuum. There should be more responses to this post telling…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 08:13 PM
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Well more like "You better be nice or no more me for you." But I get the point. Of course, unless you have a lot or very complicated assets, marriage doesn't necessarily lock you down more than an LTR. I think all the experienced users here have an exit plan that they could incorporate relatively quickly. Kids though... let's just say I'm glad I found this place when I did.
/r/askMRP02/06/16 04:56 PM
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You are thinking "she's going to see how these failures compound and this will motivate her to hold up her end of the bargain." I don't have as much faith.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 06:47 PM
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Well... actually I'm not. But oddly enough I have had a pretty great batting average for vacations throughout all of my relationships. I'd like to say it's because I have such a charming personality, but perhaps it does have something to do with not being married.
/r/askMRP01/06/16 04:43 PM
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Well, good field report. I liked this part: Again, in the past, I would have gone after her after an argument like this, because the thought of her being angry with me would be enough to keep me awake by reliving the argument in my head and planning for the ensuing round 2 and eventual apology. However, this time, operating within my frame, I know I haven’t done anything wrong, so I can genuinely NGAF and fall asleep within minutes. Isn't that a good feeling? You can't fake that.
/r/askMRP01/06/16 12:25 AM
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A few minutes later she gets back. Turns out that I had bought pineapple and mango drink rather than pineapple and coconut. She has an absolute meltdown, yelling about how I never listen to her, why the f*ck would she want pineapple and mango, and just generally ranting like a 3 year old who has had her sandwiches cut the wrong shape. Did it really go down exactly like this? If so, you handled it well and the rest of my post is unecessary... but nobody else sees the gap in this story? I'm not sa…
/r/askMRP31/05/16 08:32 PM
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And when it comes to racist jokes people only ostracize if the target is black. And if someone calls you out on a racist joke and you aren't a huge pussy it won't be a problem. It's when you start to backpedal on it that it becomes an issue.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/16 06:38 PM
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Actually... your response showed why this would actually work like a charm, at least in the US. If everyone shames you into not doing something and you still do it... well you should know the rest.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/16 05:33 PM
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The bigger problem I see in the cheating is the validation seeking. You're not even cheating to get your dick wet, you're cheating because your ego can't handle feeling unattractive. I thought about going down the same route once until I stepped back and realized it was just as pathetic as the validation seeking I was doing in the relationship.
/r/askMRP31/05/16 04:22 PM
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/u/ornerycrank had a pretty good response. You resent her because of what you think she wants your response to be. Just let her vent for a minute and unless she brings up being a SAHM just don't worry about that. And I say that a next woman would be just as bad because unless you somehow have a better frame with her she will do the exact same things as your wife.
/r/askMRP31/05/16 04:18 PM
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If you want a highly rated "checklist" from the TRP community please see: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2org8m/how_to_know_you_are_dating_a_slut_source_i/
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 03:42 PM
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"that's X. okay He works in Y (same role as me). cool All the girls fancy him. And he's got bigger pecs than you." lol It would be funny if she hadn't just been openly flirting with him in front of you. If it's a random dude and she says "that guys pecs are wow," cool I can appreciate nice pecs and I'll say shit about girls asses and what not every once in a while if it's really really crazy nice. People notice these things and mentioning them shouldn't bruise your ego. But... she just got done …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 08:00 PM
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I mean define slow? 1lb a week is what I shoot for. If it's a little less I'm okay with it because I want to keep as much strength as possible. I just can't imagine someone your height eating 2k calories and not being able to lose about that much. https://www.reddit.com/r/keto That's my preferred method of cutting. and record your eating in a journal/myfitnesspal app and make sure the things you eat often are accounted for correctly... I always overestimate on things I'm not sure about (eating o…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 07:12 PM
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Your comment on the suit reminded me of an old website I used to read for laughs (http://www.thegmanifesto.com/). Looking back it's pretty satirical, but actually had some RP themes. Anyway, a good tailor is worth his weight in gold. You can honestly have a cheap suit and if it fits perfectly you will look 100x better than the guy in a couple grand one that fits poorly... of course I hope if you spend that much on a suit you have a proper tailor on deck. As for your act as if motto, it's kind of…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 06:51 PM
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Are you consistently losing weight? That's all that matters. If you are, patience is your friend. If you aren't, time to change up the diet.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 06:05 PM
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When she gets mad, she gives me silent treatment. I will simply not respond to her. It will go on for days and sometimes a couple of weeks at a time. We will literally not talk for two weeks sometimes because she decided she didn't want to talk to me. Well this is the red flag in you whole post. I don't consider it that bad of a victim puke, by the way. To start: TRP would say don't cohabitate with a woman (beyond not getting married) because it by default lowers attraction. So backwards as it i…
/r/askMRP27/05/16 05:06 PM
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Or mom has brainwashed easily molded children (After all what child suspects their mother is lying to them?) with "Dad abused me, didn't you see him hit me? He stole your college fund. He slept around with these trashy whores." etc etc. Daughter sees her milk her men for resources and treat them with extreme disrespect while they absolutely put up with it. This becomes her normal and she grows up to be a shitty person. Son is raised without a strong role model there for most of his life and is t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 04:25 PM
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We all know that back rubs are how you get anal.
/r/askMRP26/05/16 10:27 PM
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+1 for keto... purely for the fact that it makes eating a ton of calories a LOT harder... with the benefit of it being almost impossible to not consume enough protein.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 01:12 AM
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And even better, move heavy things. Lifting will do more for him, even at 30% body fat, than any sort of cardio will.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 01:10 AM
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If you diet properly and don't give in to temptation expect to lose 7-14 lbs in the 7 weeks. At 30% body fat it probably won't be all that noticeable. Don't give up. Take pictures on your phone and weigh yourself weekly to keep track of your progress. Hit the gym and lift as well... noob gains are real and it will your body composition immensely. myfitnesspal app as well to track calories. Just make sure you pick realistic entries for your food or you can easily use it to bullshit yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 01:05 AM
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Personally, I think that in the context of a guy coming to MRP with this "problem," the female lack of being able to take responsibility leads "feeling desired" to be 100% equated with tingles. "I'm confused" = no tingles "I'm unhappy" = no tingles "I don't feel sexy" (unless the girl really does have something wrong with her) = no tingles "You don't make me feel desired" = no tingles You get the point. These are all usually excuses for why sex isn't happening regularly and as we say listen to h…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 11:54 PM
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You have to make her life interesting. No he fucking doesn't. In a slump is womanese for I'm not attracted to you and I want to get out of the house to "do things" aka be away from you and taking applications for branches. He needs to make his life interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 10:52 PM
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Agreed. This may be a major medical concern but anectdotally I have seen lack of leadership leads to heightened anxiety. When she trusts that you are strong and capable and plans go as you wish them to, she will learn to relax.
/r/askMRP24/05/16 06:21 PM
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12 year marriage, flip - druganswer's log (week 2) after only reading the first half Your marriage is still shit. Your wife is shit. You're probably getting cheated on. You're the only one invested in this garbage relationship and you're ARE way too invested. okay... I skimmed your second half. Good. This is the answer. Short marriage flip, am i right? This marriage was a dumpster fire. She is still the same shitty person and who knows maybe this WILL flip the script on her... but unless you act…
/r/askMRP24/05/16 04:48 PM
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It's really amazing looking back at previous thoughts and thinking "what the fuck? Was that really me?" And I don't only mean only in a relationship context but just everything. Ownership vs victim mentality.
/r/askMRP24/05/16 01:11 AM
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I see you as a loser. What do you see you as?
/r/askMRP23/05/16 08:16 PM
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This is where I have brought up over and over again different "types" of dread. I had a back and forth with jtoh on this quite a while ago and he definitely didn't agree with me at the time. Fuck me or fuck you type dread or even setting expectations for marriage will induce "dread" (I would technically call it something else... because to me this isn't what TRP gets at with dread) "My husband leaves for 3 hours when I reject him for sex." is quite different than "That girl is talking to him? Wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/16 07:29 PM
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seems like every thread has been brigaded lately... and this place turned way more purple with the couple members who have taken off.... you would think they would be happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/16 05:33 PM
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Two good salaries is definitely better than one... so I would say it does contribute a decent amount to RMV. But SMV it has absolutely nothing to do with. Fame however does. Prime example: people thinking Kate Upton is a 10.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/16 08:07 PM
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When ON vacation have a prepped area you can retreat to, or be gone from. O.I. is not impossible , just sometimes more tricky. Since females typically take a little longer to get ready, if I'm at a resort I like to use this get ready time to sneak off for a bit. I'm not badgering about how long makeup takes and I am out at the lobby bar or playing blackjack or something getting some me time in. It's a win win. You could adapt this to having kids if you got them or one of them ready quick and wen…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/16 05:10 PM
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I would argue kids create the stress. I don't experience stress at all during vacations and I make sure that I have a loose timeline of what I want to do rather than strict "be here by xxx" for exactly that reason. If GF wants to do something specific she needs to mention it to me and I will incorporate it into the plan if possible. If there is something that is at a specific time I will make sure we are more than ready to be there when we need to but overall trips with me are pretty fluid exper…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/16 04:58 PM
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Worry as in what? Judge yourself. If you don't want to cheat don't cheat. Theyre your morals not mine. I would assume most women expect you not to cheat if they are marrying you if that's what you're asking. Or if you're talking about the past you said you made a mistake and it wouldn't happen again... And now it's far in the past.
/r/askMRP19/05/16 12:41 AM
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my only contribution is that she will see through your "this lady was hitting on me" type shit so I wouldn't mention it unless it was an obscenely good story. someone taking back a cheater builds in dread for the rest of the relationship. she knows you could stray and she knows you have strayed... what's not to dread? as long as you're in the same shape mentally and physically as you were then the dread is real no matter what you have "promised."
/r/askMRP18/05/16 11:25 PM
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I blame kids. I don't have kids and vacations have never been an issue at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 05:59 PM
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Ding ding ding. We have a winner. If she was that attracted to you and you loved anime and playstation she would suddenly start to like anime and playstation. "You've changed" is hamster speak. It really means "I'm not attracted to you anymore." But that puts the blame for the failing relationship on her and she can't accept that. Her new lower attraction must be because of something you did and if you look the same/better it has to be something non physical that you did. So.... "you've changed.…
/r/askMRP18/05/16 04:29 PM
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"if you don't use sex as a weapon then we can have a 3rd kid." LOL so the sex as a weapon will go away right until that pregnancy test comes back positive. If I were you I would realize that I was in no place right now to have another kid...
/r/askMRP18/05/16 04:09 PM
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how often does she tell you how hot you look? is she always complimenting your muscles? etc. either way it's a shit test. she may have a point and you may want to start saying something if you notice it "that dress looks great on you" or whatever. But in this exact instance it is absolutely a shit test no matter what these guys are saying. She wants your validation and not complimenting her beauty (because that is what EVERYONE but you notices about her) raises your value in her eyes... but of c…
/r/askMRP18/05/16 04:07 PM
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Assuming the kids were yours, your role as sperm donor is over. Her offspring will be better off if she can find someone genetically different from you to produce more children with... Of course she still needs someone to fill the provider role for her and the children. Problem is, she knows that if you leave the state will force you to continue in your provider role for at least the children. So umm yeah, I guess if you have kids she will be more attached to you and depend on you more. But in t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 09:34 PM
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"I'm not going to engage you!" engages her IDK man... seems like you got baited here. Maybe you already did this, but personally I would have gone for more of a: "Calm down, we're on vacation, this is supposed to be fun, not stress." cue tight hug and kiss on forehead Maybe she vents some (She then tells me she was really just angry at me for not going into the shopping stores with her to negotiate the prices and instead took the kids to get slushies and souvenirs.) and you fog it. Then change t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 06:57 PM
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Laws overshifted because there used to be issues that fucked women over if a divorce happened. Women really couldn't get good jobs. Now they're double dipping.. but it's hard to take things away from something labeled "women's rights movement" or even worse "equal rights movement." It's similar to arguing for appealing affirmative action... should we? I'm no expert but logically it seems like there are some pretty good arguments for it... but not so easy to pull off in the real world so it will …
/r/TheRedPill17/05/16 03:27 AM
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I have a sleep disorder to the effect of "I can't wake up in the morning" yeah, it's called being a lazy fucking 18 year old. Go to bed earlier and set yourself a reasonable schedule. Not everyone can stay up until midnight and be functional the next day at 7 am, especially someone who already suffers from attention issues. Wake up early, go to sleep early, and use the adderall on days you need to focus. Benefits of this are beyond just not building at tolerance. It gives you at least a couple n…
/r/askMRP17/05/16 12:28 AM
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I'd say about 50% of the people here get this and 50% want to believe that men are more respectable and innately just these honorable people. I don't feel like having the argument with anyone, but IMO you're right. True abundance just brings out the worst in anyone. If you had 10s willing to fuck you but you could only pull 7s to relationship up with you would probably hate relationships too. And if somehow you fell for someone enough to actually get in one it would be very hard to sustain if yo…
/r/TheRedPill16/05/16 10:38 PM
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If a woman is really into you, you walk on water. You can be the biggest asshole on the planet, and she'll defend you when all of her friends talk shit about you, and even drop her friends because they're irritating her when they do that. Not that you should be an asshole or give her friends cause to hate you. But if she's into you, she won't care. Amazing string of posts. And to add, not only will she not care about the shitty things you do, she will literally blame herself (as you said, you wa…
/r/askMRP16/05/16 09:50 PM
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You're in a deep hole and you know it. Things are rough because: she holds all the power and knows it the second you do anything she doesn't like she just pulls the divorce back out and whips you into shape. her constant talk about the divorce means she probably wants it and is too much of a pussy to pull the trigger without you doing something blatantly deserving of it... and a lot of TRP is going to be you doing things that are super easy to hamster into "deserving of divorce" if she's already…
/r/askMRP16/05/16 09:42 PM
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What the fuck? First off being on the adderall would make you way more likely to fly off the handle, it doesn't numb you to things it makes you hyper analyze them. Get a grip on yourself. Willing to bet you don't frequent the gym or have your diet in check. If you did (and got the gainz/self confidence and long term work ethic that comes with them) you wouldn't feel at the mercy of your girlfriend and she wouldn't be able to make you flip out. Why the fuck did you let yourself and how do you kno…
/r/askMRP16/05/16 09:27 PM
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But, most of my blow jobs before red pill were unsolicited, semi-frequently. Now there are none unsolicited. I think this is interesting, anyone go through this? Not getting the need for changes? you think you were doing something wrong before when she was blowing you all the time? guessing she was disrespectful or something? what? Or are you just trying to slip in some RP took me from getting blown in a happy marriage to arguing and having BJs taken off the table? I don't get it. You would be t…
/r/askMRP16/05/16 09:11 PM
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I'm not saying next her... just don't be so thirsty for any form of affection/sex. A handjob, dude? I bet there are 13 year olds that would balk if a girl tried to give them a handjob. I mean do whatever you wish, if it's good enough for you by all means. I just (personally) wouldn't be setting the tone of handjobs to completion even being on the menu.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/16 08:50 PM
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I think a major issue is that people start less shit with you when you have the size. People don't know you're a 150 lb BJJ master... they just see 150 lb dude and start shit.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/16 05:44 PM
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Similar results here. Facial aesthetics nosedive but guys treat you with so much respect. Apologizing even when you bump them. I personally am in the same boat of trying to hit a happy medium weight where I'm "big enough" but stay very lean. I'm nearing where I want to cut again and I'm only 180 at probably 15%. I can't stand the fat face so I'll probably cut and then bulk again rather than just continuing on the bulk now.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/16 05:36 PM
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god damnit lol
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/16 04:03 PM
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I understand. To me, however, a handjob is like a get out of sex free card. It involves no effort and it gets your mind off of sex so she has to worry less about you initiating real grown up sex. If she wants your dick nowhere near her vagina that badly, she can at least blow you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/16 03:57 PM
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Asktrp is constantly influxed with new unfamiliar users. However when they say next they are usually right in terms of STRs. And being caring or gentle isn't necessarily beta... It's a combination of a million things you do that make it perceived one way or another. New people obviously don't get that and they've done all the other things that peg their kindness as weakness. Etc.
/r/askMRP13/05/16 12:55 AM
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if they made out you clearly didn't have her good so what does it matter if they fucked? the guy may be lying or telling the truth. the fact is you will never know so just stop fucking thinking about it. you look like an insecure moron asking him this question and now in the back of his mind he's thinking oh maybe she wants me i wonder if i can bang her. if she's been good in the LTR since being official or whatever the fuck you want to call it then just drop it. if you have had doubts since the…
/r/askTRP12/05/16 09:48 PM
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Truth. Some people gain weight in their faces and can stay majorly lean everywhere else. Some people can be 20% and have a lean face.... If you gain weight in your face before the rest of your body, you need to be very lean or else you will have this problem.
/r/askTRP12/05/16 09:29 PM
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How you carry yourself. But also, if your wife flocks to go talk to the one or two guys in any social setting that is better than you... well... that should tell you something about her.
/r/askMRP12/05/16 07:04 PM
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I think his long story short is that while you will probably raise your wife's want for you she will hit the other extreme as well and be out fucking the first guy who gives her eyes with about the same frequency.
/r/askMRP12/05/16 06:08 PM
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This was actually my same thought before I opened this post.
/r/askTRP11/05/16 10:39 PM
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1) If a blowjob is good I'm more likely to want to fuck to finish... as long as the sex isn't going to be starfish. 2) Don't care. As long as she's aroused and wants to cum it's good enough for me. 3) Yes. 4) Lick his asshole.
/r/askMRP11/05/16 06:17 PM
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I saw it as somewhat of a comfort test too. I would have given positive reinforcement but I think BPP had a good idea with promoting further "exploration." I think his explanation below is great.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/16 05:22 PM
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But, you arent dating anybody or something right? Truth: "nothing serious" escalating joke: "well if i wasn't sure you were trying to get me into bed before, I am now" don't make it sound like you have a GF and are evading the question. make it sound like you might have multiple girls that you are "friends" with. How far is her city? If it's more than a quick drive you're going to come off desperate if you go there for the reason of seeing her. But since she's clearly escalating I would at least…
/r/askTRP10/05/16 11:02 PM
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Alternate version: She was planning to dump him after finals all along. It's a very usual and logistically easy time for breakups to occur.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 10:31 PM
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Eat right, gym, kill job to best of your ability, and finances. Those are all easily doable. Do less thinking/planning and more doing. Otherwise you'll be looking back in 8 more months still full of regret.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 09:52 PM
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"oh no - on today I am not going to do anything I dont want to" Rather than dwell and get yourself down I would reply with some wit. Keep your frame as sex being a mutually positive thing. "Babe, I didn't mean anal, that's for father's day" Also, massages do turn into sex a lot... Read: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/41wu1b/married_game_the_coconut_spa/ make sure to properly convey that your massage will be dirty... but don't go for the goods without actually giving at least a …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 09:34 PM
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At 40 they have to be looking for a husband or to branch swing... when they realize they failed... uh oh. Thank goodness they are boring because if not maybe OP would get confused and think the grass is greener... and odds are they would eventually end up just as shitty as the wife. These women are best used as free dread. I would personally start blowing them off more and letting the wife catch a glimpse of them texting or calling. Of course I would delete all previous texts that might be incri…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 09:20 PM
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Something to keep in mind: I have crazy vivid dreams and wake up in the middle of the night unable to sleep. I started taking it during the day. The "helps you sleep" part is definitely on a person to person basis; it has the opposite effect on some.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 07:48 PM
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To me, no. I can give myself a way better handjob than any girl could and I could watch some porn rather than listen to a bitch complain about the horrible predicament that is jerking my cock. Also, shower? I think I jerked it in the shower just about twice in my life and didn't enjoy it at all. You're using sex (or handjobs in this case) as validation rather than something you really enjoy.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 05:29 PM
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10% body fat will do a lot for most male faces. Get relatively buff and you can bump quite a few points. Of course 9 or 10 isn't necessarily achievable but you don't need to be a 9 or 10 to fuck attractive girls. Also, steroids aren't that expensive and getting to the point where people think you're absolutely jacked can pretty much erase your face. Think about butterface girls.. if a girl has a 10/10 body it doesn't even matter what her face looks like to most men.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/16 11:37 PM
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You are the source of her depression she will be much happier single (she resents you for keeping her in this relationship). She's hoping to cheat on you. She kissed you not to mind fuck you but to keep you happy and unsuspecting of her "meeting." Your wife is about to try and get fucked by this dude. I would divorce...
/r/askMRP09/05/16 10:42 PM
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lol okay so without me going back to reread your last bullshit.... she was having an "emotional" affair (emotional as in her vagina was crying because Chad wouldn't fuck her) you told her to cut off contact with him she said she would she is angry at you???? lol
/r/askMRP09/05/16 10:35 PM
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Well... that's true too. But that video would be looked at like rape/spousal abuse by a decent % of people in today's world. Grabbing her by the wrist like that can (and will) get you arrested for DV. Even if she is cool with it and you have the best sex of your lives at that moment, she will hamster it into you being physically abusive the second it benefits her. Back then it didn't happen because everyone would have been like "he had to put you in your place." but now they'll just agree with h…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 10:20 PM
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OP had this scene going on in his life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qZXGf0Kft7k But we're too BP indoctrinated to actually man up and make the rest happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 08:15 PM
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LOL a handjob? while she bitched? what grade are you in?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 07:54 PM
1

Just out of curiosity, what brought you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 04:58 PM
2

Why don't you write a FR?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 04:34 PM
1

Yeah, it's not even obvious if the fear of losing him gave her tingles or that she knows this is a problem and logically solved it by fucking him. She'll continue to be tired or whatever bullshit as often as she can without risking their relationship. OP is going to probably be getting a lot of shitty sex in the future.
/r/askTRP06/05/16 12:03 AM
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I personally stopped reading at "women don't like casual sex."
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 09:58 PM
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Upvote for the one guy who's asking "do you want a dog?" without relating it to the quantity of sex. If answer is no, then no. If answer is yes, then yes. This is the same whether she is blowing you twice a day or hasn't touched your penis since (the first) Clinton was in office.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 09:51 PM
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I think that stone nailed it with: I get you're mad, just come along, you'll like it. Honey, this is what good couples do. [insert your expectations, and what you can deliver]. Time to deliver your vision. However, I would suggest you do look into yourself on the subject of: "You have no desire to be around me and when you are it feels forced. " Is this true? "I'm not interested in hanging out with someone who isn't interested in sex" Makes it sound kind of true. Is she only good for sex? I mean…
/r/askMRP04/05/16 10:50 PM
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You've got a point, but "I'm angry every day because she's a harpy bitch." can also be read as "She's a harpy bitch because I'm angry every day." How I wake up in a good mood and then turn angry when I see her. That is a recipe for failure. Dude needs to Hit the Reset Button because it's obvious he is a dweller or as you say thinks too much. OP, pretend that every morning the MiB show up with this thing and you live your day as a singular event.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 04:25 PM
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IDK man I went a whole year or so not bringing up any questions deeper than "how was your day?" and I'm finally reengaging on actual "how do you feel about XXXXXX?" type questions occasionally. TBH though most of the shit I'm talking about is "what's your favorite toppings on a quesadilla?" level stuff if it pops into my mind... not like emotional level shit. As for your conversation... Your end comes off sooooo feminine. It sounds like something I would expect a female to say. "We need a thing …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 03:59 PM
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I thought about this a few days back. How I wake up in a good mood and then turn angry when I see her. This is something that I need to own. And then you need to think about the fact that whether you believe it or not she is biologically wired to be led by you and this is creating a shitty cycle between you two. So the more you are randomly angry just at her existence the more she is an over emotional shit testing bitch... and then the more you are randomly angry at her existence...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 03:45 PM
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I think planning anything where she doesn't have that edge of feeling like you're about to initiate might be good. Whether it's alone and you're out or with her but in a setting where you can't possibly be thinking about initiating. Rather than rescheduling sex (or descheduling sex) start initiating different activities during "sex time." It rolls around and "Hey, I'm going to take a walk around the neighborhood, care to join?" and don't mention sex. Maybe bang her 1/4 of the scheduled times and…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 11:40 PM
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Are you giving passion elsewhere besides the 10 second kiss/initiation? If you're treating her like a wall 90% of the time and then expect her to not act like a wall when you go in for some deep makeout session you are doing it wrong. And hmm.. I would start not being home on some of the scheduled times you are supposed to fuck. Nothing says IDGAF if I fuck you more than being at the gym or having a new favorite show or club meeting or whatever that falls during the "scheduled time." I would do …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 09:52 PM
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http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/vpx-meltdown-capsules/ID=prod6123959-product That will give you energy. Don't start with a full dose. But I bet part of your low playfullness and energy is because you are dwelling on shit. Stop focusing on how your wife doesn't respect you or whatever and deal with each shit test as if there had been no shit test the day before. Otherwise you are going to build up resentment and snap and one failed shit test can fuck up 100 passed ones. Your wife probably isn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 09:36 PM
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IDK. I had a plate that decided to pick up smoking and I took the first cigarette she lit in front of me out of her mouth and broke it in half and said I don't give a shit what you do, but do not even think about doing that while you're around me. I feel like smoking is going to or has become a shit test. When you get emotional or weird about it you lose. You don't like her smoking for what reason? It's nasty (obviously)? Don't let her do it around you. Her breath stinks after? Don't kiss her if…
/r/askMRP03/05/16 09:13 PM
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If you're even marginally close in actual SMV you will never win this battle. Dread isn't about looking like you're trying to fuck other girls. It's about it looking like other girls are trying to fuck you. The second you look like you're trying to fuck other girls even the most loyal girl will end up doing what happened in your relationship. You're a social guy. You talk to other girls because you're a social and fun guy. They may be flirting with you. You're not out to fuck them. Whether you d…
/r/TheRedPill03/05/16 06:11 PM
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So you have a job? It's going well? Okay, I'll assume those are all yeses. So... find a hobby? Pick a craft to get into... cooking? graphic design? Find something you find interesting that adds value to your life by learning it. If after a while you either master it (unlikely) or get bored with it, pick something else. If you never get below surface level of these things then look at yourself and ask why that might be. If you can get decent at something and then keep it as a back burner hobby an…
/r/askMRP02/05/16 11:24 PM
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This is a cute motivational hello and all... but the substance of it was basically a sentence and you coated it with a whole lot of fluff to turn it into a post. I would have much preferred a field report on you fucking your wife for the second time this year after only knowing of MRP for 1 day. That is a story I'm interested in hearing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 08:17 PM
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If I initiate any sort of physical contact - even just a kiss, she immediately jumps to her escape plan - and there's always an escape plan. Stop thinking about it that way. You're preparing yourself for failure. Also, she expects initiation and she expects pressure and you're doing exactly what she expects. Of course she shies away... she doesn't want to feel like she's being forced to fuck you she wants to want to... shit she wants to want to fuck you and you be the challenge. Anecdote from a …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 07:36 PM
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I think you misunderstood me, but anyway, it is definitely discipline. I take a decent amount of pride in being able to gain/drop weight as I wish (though it should be easy enough for anyone to do) and I even have moments where I want to let my diet slip. Sometimes it's hard to not eat that awesome meal everyone around you ordered when you're out. And it's definitely hard for me to eat enough when I'm trying to gain weight. I have to actively think about every meal... if I wanted to just keep my…
/r/TheRedPill02/05/16 04:29 PM
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google it and count every calorie it's 100% determination. it's not fucking rocket science on how to gain size/weight.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/16 09:31 PM
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Watch out for a huge shit test the second you say it though. You have to actually follow through because a lot of them will try to get you to bend on this. Once she realizes you're serious it is very effective though. Also works when they make demands/threats. "If you're not going to do/say/be like this I don't want to talk to you!" "okay" 10 minutes later..... "blah blah blah blah blah I do want to talk just blah blah blah"
/r/TheRedPill29/04/16 09:02 PM
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To be fair when is the last time you had a man do this? Most men these days are just as pathetic.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/16 08:59 PM
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To be fair, women don't just fuck drug dealers because they're dangerous... they also like the steady access to free drugs.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 05:53 PM
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Nailed it, if she had used her porn money to become a nurse/whatever she could have set an example of how she beat the system and made it... crying about it just shows her entitlement and that she isn't a person who will ever actually do any of the things she wants to be respected for.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 05:38 PM
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I go to a strip club with a couple stacks. I'm treated like royalty. Everybody "loves" me. I'm "friends" with all the dancers, security, bartenders. My money is gone at the end of the night. They might still be pretty nice and cordial, but I've got to go. I come in the next day empty handed. Where have all my friends gone? Nobody acts like they know me. When the only value you bring to the table is gone why would you expect people to value you? Then she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Por…
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 05:37 PM
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Thank you for the input.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 08:01 PM
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They do that. Then they throw LMR because...AWALT. Don't get pissed, just accept it. She doesn't know what she wants- but she wants you to show her so long as you do it right. Yeah, in hindsight I realize I turned a huge victory into a disgusting defeat. I wouldn't totally reject the concept of fucking through the Starfish but it works best around the time of ovulation. Doing it all the time with a largely disinterested wife is a bad idea. You need to build attraction, not your cave man fucking …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 08:00 PM
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1) Less worrying about it. "ain't no thing" "don't worry about it" etc. so much overthinking here. 2) "I saw this challenge on social media to blah blah blah blah healthy eating" "I bought us this Groupon for a month of crossfit together" "We're going to hike through this forest today" Just assume she wants to do things you enjoy with you. Make plans to do those things.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 07:34 PM
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I understand everyone's feelings on this particular topic but I would prefer feedback on the overall content. This community has taught me a lot and I am hoping to give back some. Those posts resonated with me and I think anyone stuck in the same shit rut I was (/am trying to get out of) could benefit from their extra exposure and discussion.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 07:22 PM
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What? You mean this isn't their day job? Okay, okay, I agree. What about some CSS that covers the text entry box on new posts that says "if you haven't even cracked the side bar material you're probably going to have a bad time." Or even one of those big "STOP" signs like on the TRP sub that you can't miss before posting. Obviously, I don't know how to reddit so I'm just a bystander offering advice I don't know how to implement.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 05:03 PM
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Google "married red pill shit tests" "red pill shit test 101" other combinations of "red" "pill" "shit" "tests" also will work Or just go here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index Also, this post would have been weak for even askmrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 04:45 PM
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I question our expectations on such obviously shitty guys to walk in and take the initiative to dig into sidebar, past posts, etc. I know we wish they did but if they had that kind of initiative they wouldn't be the shitty guys crawling into this sub begging for help. Now a ban button that directed them to the guide for beginners with a "please contact a mod once you have read all of this".... I could get behind that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 04:41 PM
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First off: if you used to always be in "moods" she's going to assume you're in a mood based off anything you do. Second: " I was tired. Long day. Heavy lifting. Undersexed" sounds like a mood, bro. You know you can tell her this. Shit, I've got to ask: What is she getting out of this relationship? Is she full time in school? Do you pay for things? And you're in no place to be having the fuck me or fuck you convo.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 04:33 PM
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You know, I definitely thought about just nixing those parts... and then I thought "damn... if I just put 'No need to read my unimportant writings' it'll be like nails on a chalkboard to WMP" so I went with that. Anyway, thanks for the kind words.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 04:21 PM
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I don't see it as regression to BP. I see it as positive aspects of my personality that I was withholding because I was holding grudges over things. Something doesn't go the way I want and I am OI on a single case scale but they are all going down in the log book and I'm not long term OI. It's like when a woman randomly says "Well you did this last march, and this in january, and this the other day!" I wasn't saying that, but it was all in my head and it was not letting me be the person that mak…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 03:54 PM
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"My dog ate my dad's dinner when I left it unattended, should I worry about heaving my dinner on the floor?" ding ding ding husband sucked, wife disappeared, probably craved validation that this shit tier man wasn't all she could really get... and OP is trying to tell us she is... gasp... a woman? no fucking way
/r/askMRP26/04/16 06:06 PM
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I think my point is just that all squares are rectangles but not all rectangles are squares. Lack of sexual self control makes a slut, but being a slut doesn't necessarily mean lack of sexual self control. So I wouldn't be so quick to use it as the defining feature.
/r/TheRedPill25/04/16 06:11 PM
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A single girl fucks 50 guys in a few years. Is she a slut? Same girl then gets in a relationship and never fucks another guy that isn't her boyfriend/husband/whatever for the rest of her life. Is she a slut? I think you're going to either say no or reformed slut... so then I ask: Was she still a slut during those years she fucked 50 guys? If yes... please tell me more about her lack of self control? She wasn't trying to control herself... and when she was, she did... so clearly her self control …
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 11:31 PM
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What a slut is, is a woman without self control. It's not that a woman sucks a man's dick, it's that she sucked his dick when she didn't want to, she just couldn't control herself. Or she just doesn't give a fuck... if guys could get new pussy above their pay grade every night how many of them do you think would have so called "self control"? I mean I don't even think it's a lack of self control in most cases... sure they want to hide it because slut shaming but if being a slut was embraced they…
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 03:28 AM
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"You'll know I received it when I text you back" derp EDIT: As another option turn on read receipts and then the next bitchy text she sends leave as "read" without responding for like 6 hours.
/r/askMRP22/04/16 12:07 AM
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however I did get frustrated easily. It is so hard to have to rely on others, and then for them to do it wrong! You know when your wife used to rag on you because you folded a sheet wrong or something trivial like that (maybe you don't) and you were like damn can't that bitch just appreciate that I'm folding the damn sheet? Make sure you appreciate the help even if it's not exactly how you would do it. It's your kid, not your employee. Glad you were self aware on this though. I have not really h…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/16 04:43 PM
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Well... this is my dark side username I guess. It started to be used to respond to some questions people had about drugs that I had a little knowledge on. So I guess it just became the username that I don't post doxable shit on. As to how you handled it: no doubt this was probably better than any BP handling of it. Especially if you had a hint of insecurity about it... My best guess for the average BP guy is that he lets her go and resents her and then blows up at her either later during a rando…
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 03:46 PM
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Holy fucking insecurity... holy fucking upvotes by other insecure fuckers. I mean you aren't mentioning where they were planning on going after or anything, but seriously... Unless they were going to club poundtown I wouldn't have laid it all out over some old bitches going out to do old bitch stuff with some gay dudes. If your girl was going to go suck and fuck Chad that evening she is going to do it another day. Trust me I had an argument where I was on the other side of the fence with a simil…
/r/TheRedPill14/04/16 11:33 PM
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You shit tested yourself and failed lol The longer this shit makes you insecure the less she thinks of you as a man. Fuck.. with this stupid pussy snooping you should have just kept that shit to yourself. But if you found out somehow about her n count being a lie and called her on it I would have framed it as lying is bad I do not accept it. This is your warning, next time I find out you are lying about something we will be done. But now you have a weakness and you just handed over some of the p…
/r/askMRP13/04/16 09:37 PM
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When she's making excuses to fuck you, you are Chad. If she is not, you are not. If she is making excuses not to fuck you, you are BB. I've been both and neither, I should know.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/16 09:24 PM
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The "one last fuck" is enough to see he's not in the right mindset to actually demote or even dump this girl... and the other thing he's not accepting is that plate means she's there for sex... she has this other dude she's getting the tingles for - she has no need for OP for sex? I'm not saying women are built for monogamy, but they definitely have the tendency to get extreme tingles from only one man at a time... that's the definition of hypergamy. In my mind this is how OPs "one last fuck" go…
/r/askMRP12/04/16 08:33 PM
1

First off you didn't actually even do anything... Second, did you thank your car for getting you to work this morning? What the fuck is with people and needing to hear thank you for things they are supposed to do?
/r/askMRP12/04/16 07:59 PM
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Exactly... If you think she's going to grab you and physically stop you I am sure you can ask a police officer to be present if you explain the situation.
/r/askMRP12/04/16 07:52 PM
1

If you're cool with taking another guys creampie I would just cheat on her without regards to the consequences. But... based on your post I don't think you can just do that.
/r/askMRP12/04/16 07:50 PM
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Yeah, I mean they don't hire them on their work ethic. Also, you weren't the guy tipping. I bet if he asked for a beer they would be much more accommodating. They know who is who.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/16 06:03 PM
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Or out of context, or forgot, or really upset because xxxxxx, or she was being sarcastic, or it's just what she thought you wanted to hear....
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 11:17 PM
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Eat less calories. I personally do keto because it makes sure you keep your protein high and is relatively filling. 6 weeks = ~6 lbs lost + maybe another 4 of water weight if you're on keto... which is a decent amount... but you're not going to be shredded. You could probably pull off more, but I don't like to rush it.
/r/askMRP11/04/16 09:22 PM
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Not a fair fight... even if you had a personality disorder to compete with hers you don't have the same weapons. Women are always going to be able to manipulate better.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 09:19 PM
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IDGAF about the soap watching, but the main problem is that this isn't AWALT... it's fiction and like the most extremely dramatized fiction (mexican soaps are soft core porn almost)... on your topic of improving the family, he's actually doing the opposite, so I guess I do care about the soap watching. romanticizing cheating for his impressionable daughters...
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 04:37 PM
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Couple things... Do you have striations in your pecs and shoulders? If not I wouldnt expect your lower abs to pop unless you have huge abs or they happen to sit great (pretty sure genetics). If you have trained your abs well I would keep cutting. If you have maybe slacked on abs I would stop cutting and focus on them and then continue cutting.
/r/askTRP10/04/16 06:14 PM
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"I was just really wasted"
/r/askTRP09/04/16 09:56 PM
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Or she has mental issues and it wasn't your great dick skills that made her act this way... Anyway, don't let yourself fall back into this girl because she's hot and good in bed.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/16 08:52 PM
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except he's tired because he's the dumbfuck who decided to stay up. massive victim mentality putting it on her. EDIT: also lol this sounds like a marriage that is about to be over... we are done over and over sounds like she's just waiting for a reason (in fact making them up even)...
/r/askMRP07/04/16 06:11 PM
1

Why are OPs friends (or his wife's friends) such douchebag cheapskates they can't throw in $20 each to pay for that first bottle? I can tell you this one. Because bottle service is a status thing. You're not paying $300 (or whatever) a bottle just because some girl with perky fake tits pours drinks better than the bartenders... you're paying it so that everyone else in the club knows you are paying it. It would be like taking your friend out in your Ferrari and saying he's a cheap ghetto fuck fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 05:13 PM
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People really shouldn't be buying bottle service unless the money means nothing to them. You will get amazing service if you are the guy who does tip amazing (even by bottle standards) and says shit like "keep em coming." If you are counting every penny and every mixer they bring out they are going to think you're a broke chump and treat you as such. It's not the same experience... it's like a fucking alpha/beta dichotomy almost... the servers are all female and they can (usually) just tell if y…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 04:44 PM
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I know this is what you are getting at, but the abuse (whether real or contrived.. unless we're talking above and beyond fucked up situations the husband would have known about before marriage) is just the hamster trying to grasp at anything to explain the feelz of not being attracted. Convo: "why do you cry when we have sex?" "idk"/"i'm just not attracted to you like that" = doesn't feel like a 'good' answer. Any answer that doesn't fall into line with the tribe (and risks her losing provisioni…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/16 05:16 PM
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Fucking her and not being able to cum causes dread (masturbate beforehand, certain pills can do this too) Masturbating beforehand if you pull out or something so your load is a lot smaller than normal causes dread. Not fucking her doesn't really IMO unless she is like begging you for it or she already has reason to suspect you might be about to stray.
/r/askMRP05/04/16 04:22 PM
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A couple of those really hit home and made me take a good hard look at myself. I've busted my ass to kill it at work, wreck the gym, put my happiness first, lead, and pass/ignore shit tests without even flinching... but your little post made me realize all of that essentially made me into an unromantic douche or at least took the fun out of my relationship... And I think it's the resentment that is holding me back. I mean I have fun... but the relationship isn't consistently fun. I think that's …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/16 03:50 PM
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I admit I haven't read all of your old stuff but I think this is one of your best posts I have seen since the name transition at least. This is worthy of a blog post. It feels (or at least reads) like it just flowed out of you and wasn't overthought in trying to provide insight etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/16 03:18 PM
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You can pull that off right when you start lifting, but if you had the genetics to sustain that you would be naturally pretty buff and lean. If you have been doing a 5x5 regimen I assume you have put on a little muscle. Cut down to where you're feeling a bit skinny. That way when you inevitably put on a little fat with your muscle you will have a grace period before it really shows. Then it's just a matter of eating enough to gain weight while making sure to lift enough that the weight you gain …
/r/askMRP31/03/16 03:00 PM
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Rather than comfort lead her into strength. When she is decisive in something in her own bubble of life, even if it is partially something you caused (say she decides to start hitting the gym or fine tunes her diet or any little thing like that), mention to her that you like her attitude or confidence or whatever trait she displays. Now she's being submissive to you and will do things you like which includes being confident in her day to day life... so submissive and confident/decisive aren't mu…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/16 11:08 PM
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The one thing I would say is that variety is still key for sex in a continued relationship. Don't become a predictable script.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/16 10:07 PM
1

Do you want to gain or lose weight? Get MyFitnessPal (MFP from now on) and track your meals and put in your goal weight. It will give you calories you need to hit it. Try to get as much protein as possible. I've seen numbers all over the place, but shooting for 1gram per lb of body weight seems to be around the mark usually suggested. Limit sugar and absolute junk food. I personally am always either trying to gain weight or lose weight... I'm almost never just lifting and eating at maintenance. …
/r/askMRP30/03/16 05:49 PM
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A) You sound a lot like that Elliot Rodgers guy. Look him up. Don't blame the world for your shit and please don't harm anyone because of your "it's not fair" attitude. B) You probably didn't do shit to your height. I regularly slept 2-3 hours a night from middle school through high school and grew just fine. I didn't even eat that well or a lot or anything. You just got a little unlucky when it came to genetics, it's not a huge deal.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 05:20 AM
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IMO the gym and diet is a cure for this. You can see your lifts and body progressing and it gives you something to focus on that also happens to provide predictable improvement in your SMV. Your clothes start to fit better or you buy new clothes that fit well, you start walking around with a more confident swagger and attitude because you just feel more manly... basically in my personal opinion it all starts in the gym. Obviously focus on improvement in every area so that you don't have some hug…
/r/askMRP30/03/16 05:08 AM
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"Man I'm fucked up! I'm so sorry. I'm shit. Your wife hates me. Always has. She loves you. Never stopped talking about you. She'll never hear from me again." Crying. Not the stud cop you might be thinking of. And he looks like Danny devitio had a retarded kid. I wonder what she paid him to do that acting job. "Throw in that I love him!" I wouldn't put it past her with all the other fucked up shit you've listed. His glorious affair with my wife managed four sessions in five years in my in laws ho…
/r/askMRP30/03/16 12:08 AM
2

I think this guy needs something harder.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 11:20 PM
1

lol at the mud slinging on the guy who cucked you... lol at her attempts to suck you back in lol at your believing the shit that comes out of her mouth but seriously it sounds like she might have some mental issues
/r/askMRP29/03/16 11:14 PM
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Eh, if the female is hot it is definitely enjoyable to do. I think this same mentality goes both ways (of course outliers exists). This lady asks you to go down on her? Might do it if you find her attractive enough to fuck because she asked or because she likes it and you like her... This lady asks you to go down on her and you might just trip over your boner while you try and dive in her "sweaty gash." SMV > Everything in this case. Guys are the same as females in this case (or at least similar…
/r/askMRP29/03/16 12:33 AM
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there is no mystery if a female knows exactly what you're doing all the time... give her some time to miss you and give yourself some time to miss her.
/r/askMRP25/03/16 10:44 PM
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I would have to agree. People come in... absorb... then retell the same story. If the story is told in a better way than it has been previously it gets a lot of attention, not undeservedly, because it does help keep the community and material constantly improving and explaining the same concepts from different perspectives definitely helps newbies. You have to understand that this is not some technical field and there are not going to be groundbreaking new revelation posts by the dozens. Every o…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 04:56 PM
1

nobody tells marky mark he looks lame because he's rich and famous. the rock can wear whatever the fuck he likes I don't think clarks desert boots are lame... I wouldn't get rid of those and jeans. I would however get rid of the cargo shorts asap. I also am not a fan of the rough polo shirts. Those are the ones that look like prep just got off his dad's boat... and seem lazy because they're almost all plain colors.
/r/askMRP24/03/16 05:04 AM
1

If you lose 10-20 lbs you will be able to do more pull ups than you've ever dreamed of. Those extra couple pounds really change things.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 08:50 PM
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As hindsighty as this will seem... you did assume she was going with you (and biking with you) based on her putting clothes on. From your description she didn't grab you and make you wait for her. You could have asked right then if she wanted to bike together or meet you there. Then you wouldn't have wasted any time before the gym and you could have left when you pleased. If she chose to bike with you, you would have already had time to get her shit pumped up and taken care of (man duty). So in …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 08:09 PM
1

OR he can stop being a pussy and get stronger and buffer and deal with the fact that mountaineering may be a little harder for a bit. and honestly it probably won't be "omg harder"... there are tons of built guys who hike and shit... OP isn't some magical being that can only mountaineer at Auschwitz mode. this is male hamster rationalizing not putting in the work needed to get buff. it's here alllllll the time. "i hurt my knee" - okay so work out other stuff, use machines, etc. "it might throw o…
/r/askMRP22/03/16 03:08 AM
1

You can gain 30lbs and still be considered "skinny" by almost everyone in the whole fucking world. Your wife likes lean guys, not skinny guys. She also probably has insecurities and knows that skinny guys are more likely to stick around (lack of abundance). Also, of course she isn't going to tell her beanpole husband that she likes big jacked manly men... duh. If you were 170 and 12% body fat nobody would ever call you jacked or big or whatever. You would probably look good naked and your wife w…
/r/askMRP21/03/16 10:00 PM
1

She probably won't miss your plans on Thursday. This is a power play. She feels out of control and is trying to get it back. If she never contacts you ever again (not likely) then so be it... your life will go on and clearly she wasn't the type of chick you want to be dating anyway. You want a submissive girl for an LTR, you won't have a good time in the long run with some feminist girl. I mean give in if you want, but realize she is going to think she has power over you and will pull this shit …
/r/askMRP18/03/16 10:02 PM
1

When you make your job your bitch you will be happier with your job. Also, eyes on the prize and never let yourself slack. If you currently hate your job still bust your ass there just because you're a man and that's what you do. But let that make you bust your ass even harder on night school etc. I'm sure you've noticed that people who come up from hard places are the ones who work the hardest (usually). Not having anything handed to you can be the best way to make a man out of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 05:40 PM
1

Find something to do and throw yourself at it. You don't have to be the best or love it... but if you just really direct yourself at something you will get better and in any normal employment setting you will get noticed. Some BP men are alphas in their work. A lot go to work for a paycheck and hate their day to day. Just by actually throwing yourself at your work and generally owning shit when it comes to your career you will stand out from the majority of the workforce. Any time someone makes …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 04:34 PM
1

Not pity sex... But yeah to keep you complacent. Not in yourself but in the relationship. You've probably stated its a need of yours and she gives it to you not out of attraction but for need and want to keep the relationship. That doesn't make sense to you or me as men but to her it probably does.
/r/askMRP18/03/16 01:20 AM
1

I wrote a huge long response, but I feel like you just need to get to the bottom of your internal frustrations. Obviously, everyone goes through this phase of working on keeping their shit together outwardly and it definitely helps the internal as well. But internal is the end game... stop feeling like people owe you something or that you deserve something just for being you. Your expectations clashing with reality is creating this anger and you can't control anyone but yourself. Accept this and…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 04:28 PM
2

Yeah I got ultra sidetracked... Hopefully he reads the whole thread.
/r/askMRP17/03/16 03:51 PM
0

This isn't how girls breaking up with you act. Yes, I agree girls bait guys into fights to break up... but she wouldn't then call him 8 times. This is a girl feeling like she's overly invested in the relationship and flipping out about it. If she had started this little drama and never called/texted him once after he said okay to the break up line... yeah. But she is lashing out because she feels out of control in the relationshp. (maybe, just maybe she has a chad on the side she wants to fuck a…
/r/askMRP17/03/16 03:22 PM
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Naw OP has her on the hook hard, she isn't willing to end it at all she's so invested in this relationship it isn't even funny... she's typing that "we're done" shit and immediately backpedaling or giving him an out to save it. Shit test or comfort test doesn't matter. OP is trying to be alpha or whatever he thinks he's trying to be by using AA and all this shit but he still is investing in these arguments way too much. OP: This girl is crazy about you. You don't need to AA her every complaint..…
/r/askMRP17/03/16 03:17 PM
2

ME@Work: I dunno, it would be grand if you felt a tingle tonight and wanted to act on it. (Shitty request and not direct action and written in text, FUCKING FAIL) Like everyone said you're worried more about the validation. Bringing it up this early in text, to me, means that you expect her to reject and you're looking to get it out of the way. Yeah, I know she baited you and then you tried to beg her for desire. I would have said "I may have to borrow a hole of yours for about 10 minutes." Some…
/r/askMRP17/03/16 12:37 AM
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Honestly a lot of those in ask TRP are deserved... the woman really does deserve nexting and the lack of a marriage makes it easy to do. The problem is that nexting that bitch doesn't turn this dude who asked the question into a man. Keeping the bitch around as the wall to constantly bash his hand into in failure (metaphorically) will give the guy a much quicker transformation. So I used to be on team next that bitch, but now I'm on team use that bitch as practice and when you have killed your o…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 12:25 AM
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Your girl loved you when you were banging 2 other chicks and now she's acting up when you're trying to give her the ultimate commitment... You see the problem, right? Derp. I feel like you didn't mean to respond to me with this one, but yes... start fresh. Let her go. She isn't yours, it was just your turn. Marriage isn't a + EV gamble for men.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 12:17 AM
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So you're too retarded to remember? Or you wanted to go against her on purpose to see how she reacted? Or you wanted to show her (or yourself) you were capable of being rational and giving in if her request was reasonable? I don't get it. Whatever, doesn't matter. Posting political shit on facebook is dumb as fuck as is. That's the real issue I see in your post.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 11:21 PM
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Isn't it interesting how many people with that pretty little MRP icon next to their name gave a shit about that post? First problem is they felt like arguing with women... on the internet. Like they were somehow going to prove some point... and then having a little MRP high five sesh when they realized "OMGz all women really are like that!" Second problem is they have too much fucking time on their hands. EDIT: I honestly thought BPP was going to post a follow up to that basically saying he was …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 11:10 PM
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I read the one thing that is relevant here "I need to miss you" is akin to the ILYBINILWY speech. She's moved on and her actions are showing what her mouth won't tell you. Bottom line is right there. The rest is just smoke and mirrors.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 05:22 PM
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You're
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 05:09 PM
1

Ah, the day you throw out the playbook is the day you really understand the game. Impressive for 4 months. You're right about the changes in things besides sex. In a couple more months those will be even more drastic.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 03:38 PM
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I feel like I typed his same post once upon a time... this is a stage. A very early stage, but a stage nonetheless and it is part of his growth. He needs to say some dumb victim mentality shit so that we can point out his dumb victim mentality. Then he gets stronger (fingers crossed) and one day he'll look back on this and cringe.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 11:53 PM
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I had a girl tell me once "I had a dream that I cheated on you." And that shit bugged me forever. And I brought it up to her and you know what she said? "It's just a dream, how can you be upset at me over a dream?" And that was HER dream! But, now I realize how right she was. How am I supposed to get upset at her for a dream she has no control over. Now ask yourself how your wife has any right to get upset at you over a dream SHE has... this isn't even your dream, it's hers! Beyond that, you're …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 11:50 PM
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Rather than words why don't you just get more dominant. Anytime I have had a woman try to man handle me back in bed they were covertly asking for me to be even rougher with them. Flip her over pin her arms down and go to town. Let her try to fight back.. if you have been hitting the gym at all she won't have much luck. If she vocally states that she wants you to stop then I would stop. If she is into it and resists you only physically I would keep going. It's a fine line because asking her "is t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 10:58 PM
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How do you sleep at night? "On a big pile of money." or something like that.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/16 11:11 PM
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People who marry women like this don't end up in "good relationships." PROTIP: her bullshit won't get better when her commitment bug is fed Never forget that. Comfort will never fix a woman's desire for strange dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 10:53 PM
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Stopped reading here: then she locked me out in the freezing cold and was drunk enough she slept through me calling her (she apologized profusely once the morning came and asked me to please just simply forget it ever happened because she was ashamed). She heard at least one of those calls. And of course she wants you to forget it ever happened. Let her lie to you all you want though. EDIT: Okay, okay. I read the rest and no you should not marry a woman who talks about wanting to be a swinger. U…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 10:45 PM
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As not owning your shit as this sounds I would try to blame your years of bullshit on something her hamster can digest. Giving her a "this was then, this is what changed" will seriously help her overcome this lack of believing your transformation. Maybe there is a better way to go about it, but she needs to know that some switch isn't going to hit and you go back to your old pussy ass yelling and crying ways. Shit, say you went to the doctor for your physical and he said your testosterone is way…
/r/askMRP14/03/16 06:33 PM
2

Eh I would disagree with the level of trouble we are in. We are certainly not on the brink of divorce by any stretch. In fact I feel that time is on my side in this. I'm totally focusing inwards to course correct. I don't feel any real urgency to rush into fixing the sex problems before making sure I have a good level of internal peace. That realization has actually been very calming and I don't feel the anxiety about my sex life I had even a week ago. IMO the biggest problem here is not that yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 05:23 PM
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I even admit that I saw it on the cable guide last night and was like "Isn't that the case where they were eventually proven to be completely innocent or am I misremembering?" Once the story is stuck in your brain one way it's hard to change, especially if you're completely uninvested in the outcome.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/16 04:07 PM
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Then one day it was no longer work. It all started flowing naturally. I didn't have to try to be playful with my wife, I was playful with my wife. I didn't have to focus on being the leader, I was the leader. Those few short months were bliss, I wasn't trying anymore, I was just doing. I didn't get there until I was able to force myself to be all those things, every single day, no matter what life through at me. I realized I couldn't allow myself to have an off day, because every off day was two…
/r/askMRP11/03/16 10:34 PM
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She's not attracted to me and doesnt desire sex with me, and if I wanted to get it elsewhere she would be cool with that. Ha... she's handing you the answer on a platter! Most wives here will deny sex and deny you having sex anywhere else as well! Now... your wife only says "go ahead!" because she doesn't think you can get any... but if you actually pull some quality tail and go for it things will change. The hamster is going to say it never said to go fuck other women and you'll probably get ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/16 04:33 PM
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Agreed... she fucked him so quick that she now has to pull back a bit to "dinner would be cool." Still going to be super easy to fuck her but she's probably going to say "i dont want you to think i'm a slut" at least once or twice. OP: just to give you advice for the future, don't LTR a girl who has one night stands/group sex. even if she seems oh so cool after your date.
/r/askTRP10/03/16 11:44 PM
1

sex drive was high when you first got together? that will answer your question.
/r/askTRP10/03/16 11:38 PM
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Your relationship is in the gutter... head over to /marriedredpill and /askMRP and spill your guts over there. They'll berate you and eventually you'll learn not to be such a bitch (hopefully). Since this is a LTR I would suggest using this girl as practice to turn yourself around... once you get to that DGAF point she may become the GF you have been wanting and she may not. If she doesn't I would suggest dumping her and spinning plates until you get to the point where you find someone who actua…
/r/askTRP10/03/16 11:33 PM
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Covertly... less time together but make it in a plausibly deniable way rather than you saying "I don't want to hang out with you." Once you get down to hanging out less she might say something about it and just kind of ignore it as much as possible or say maybe we should take a step back and just date for a bit or some other bullshit. Basically break up with her like she's some clingy girl who won't leave you alone unless you give her a slow, gradual breakup. In the time you're not with her do o…
/r/askTRP10/03/16 11:26 PM
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ignore it. her calling him an asshole but somehow still talking about him a ton and still hanging out with him/talking to him a lot would be a red flag.
/r/askTRP10/03/16 11:12 PM
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except if this is a real story, you do give a fuck, because you just made a post on here about this trivial situation.
/r/askTRP10/03/16 11:00 PM
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Yeah, not sure how people aren't getting this. She definitely downgraded. Tiger had enough money/fame to get anything in the world. Sure, maybe he couldn't buy a jet (easily), but I'm sure he had a Nike jet on speed dial.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/16 09:31 PM
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Hitting each lift/body part once a week left me hitting a massive wall/plateau. Upped the volume and have started progressing again.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 05:52 PM
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Real HB9+s don't often get alpha widowed. I know scales depend on the person, but IMO a 9+ doesn't know anything but guys getting oneitis for them. Even to the not getting married guys they will seem like unicorns if they play their cards right. 9+ girls get alpha widowed by celebs, rock stars, I'm sure the occasional young alpha as fuck entrepreneur. Chad from the local frat isn't going to alpha widow these girls, because even he usually gives into their charms. 7 and 8s I would absolutely beli…
/r/TheRedPill10/03/16 05:01 AM
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Her: I wanna go to zumba class "Cool" It's an LTR... worry less about her finances unless they directly impact yours. Unless that's not what you're worried about... you sound like you're needy... which makes me think you're insecure.
/r/askMRP10/03/16 03:38 AM
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These aren't weak flirting, they're great flirts... I'm just saying they're weak tests of frame. But like I said, everyone starts somewhere. This isn't really a neg to your advice, I get that you wanted these to be as foolproof as possible. I guess if I had to give some expansion on your post I would have included a "Stage 2" with examples that didn't include safety valves. Still sticking with minor things that you know will get a reaction, but not having the reveal part at the end. Think my cup…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 11:50 PM
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TLDR: Don't ever stop flirting with your wife. Yes, I guess this could be practice for frame control for a brand new user where his wife gets angry with him even when he's joking or flirting but beyond that this is just "6 ways to flirt with your wife." If you want to practice controlling frame do something that you know is going to piss her off but you think she is being stupid for getting upset at. (Example: I put a cup in the sink or next to the sink a lot of nights before bed. I use it the n…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 09:38 PM
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You'll get there. Recognizing problems is the first step. Trust me, I went through the "no presents" phase and then once I got past all the anger etc. I realized I can now do things because I want to do them and I don't expect anything in return. It helps with more than just romantic relationships. "You can't spend your whole life holding the door open for people and then being angry when they don't thank you. Nobody asked you to hold the fucking door."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 05:17 PM
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Obv... we all know that n count and attachment are sort of inversely proportional. Not saying there aren't exceptions (alpha widows I'm looking at you). Low N count girls with mothers who do feminine motherly things are the only ones worth LTRing IMO.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/16 05:12 PM
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I imagine it's the story of how a lot of guys find TRP. The fucked part is the woman comes away feeling like "I did everything for him!" We're all fed (BP) that leaving a relationship without cause (cheating/abuse/etc.) is bad/mean so women can't leave without a good reason for the herd so that they can stay in favor. If they're victims, even better. Also, she's not picking fights just to pick fights... she's just not attracted so everything you do annoys her. I'm sure some women realize what th…
/r/TheRedPill09/03/16 04:35 PM
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More like making him a steak dinner and blowing him to completion or letting him stick it in her ass even though she really hates it. Sex as an apology is still viewing sex as a gift that she gives to him. Any sex that comes in this form is going to be pity sex since we kind of already established that she's not really attracted to him. She's probably apologizing for being nasty toward him, I doubt it's about the sex... but who cares. Storm over, he should let it be and work on himself because t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 12:20 AM
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So going forward no more presents, no more contracts. Your presents that come with contracts aren't presents at all. They're just as much manipulation tactics as all the shit we call women out on. The way you view presents is negotiating desire, covert contract, the whole shebang. Get to the point where you can get your wife a present because you actually care about her and want to do something nice for her - no strings attached. Men are the true romantics Men are the romantic sex Do nice things…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 12:12 AM
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Think of it this way: They see a 7 chasing them like you would see a 4 chasing you. It doesn't even count on the radar.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/16 05:04 PM
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It can also mean "I'm repulsed by you." If it's said at the end of a beta relationship right before she finally branch swings she usually means it. It goes like this: Guy is completely into her and her attraction is waning. She picks fights over nothing and blames them on him. He gives in to make things better each time which drives down her attraction even more. She picks more fights. Eventually she picks one so stupid (what she has been going for) that he puts up some minor resistance and she …
/r/TheRedPill08/03/16 04:56 PM
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It is strange to feel like you love someone and want to tell them to fuck off in the same instance. Detach yourself a bit. Think of some shitty thing she's done or some rejection and analyze it 100% rationally. Why did she reject me there? Think about her "reason" and how much bullshit it probably was and that she was lying to you with absolutely no guilt. A lot of people get stuck in this angry but still oneitisy place and I think it is because they assign some degree of innocence to their wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 04:24 PM
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Virgins are craftable in bed. A blank canvas lol so they are what you make them. Anyway, I don't expect to sleep with another virgin for the rest of my life... but they aren't all bad lays.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/16 03:57 PM
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Yep, OP thinks he is commanding her and what not, but in reality her respect for him is dwindling and she knows that she has full control over him with her pussy... because clearly he's still obsessed with it and I'm not sure how the fuck he thinks any of this "took the pussy off the pedestal." She's going to take his cock in every hole until the day she thinks she paid off her debt to him and then he gets to deal the aftermath.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 12:10 AM
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You did just fine. As long as you're not letting this get to you it's a complete non issue. You basically agreed and amplified her (or at least amplified your douche level) which is exactly what I would suggest doing in this situation. You got shot down because of whatever reason (your smv, her current mood, who knows/cares), but whatever it's not a big deal at all. Her "Try again" was the shit test.. and saying sorry or changing your words to be more polite or requesting is failing. Telling her…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 12:02 AM
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I think they call that the tingles.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 09:22 PM
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(Real) Virgins are the exception to the rule.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/16 04:40 PM
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I think the stages of a cut go like this: Bulkiest (within reason, not talking fat) = look good in shirt, Halfway through cut = look like you have "lost gainz" but don't quite look ripped yet... this is the part where you just have to have faith to push through, Cut complete = shredded and suddenly people are asking "have you gotten bigger???" even though you have lost 20lbs. You get smaller, but once you get that sick definition you look bigger.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 07:36 PM
2

If I had a dollar for every one of these "I used to rationalize why I didn't lift, but I was stupid" posts...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/16 05:43 PM
2

First epiphany of many... Anyway, you signed a paper that basically says you'll only fuck your wife and you expected her to want to fuck you. You were obviously incorrect thinking that this paper meant she would always have desire for you. Now you have to ask yourself if this paper really means anything at all? Or is the whole idea of marriage one huge covert contract. If it's a covert contract that marriage = she will always desire you then why isn't it a covert contract that marriage = you wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/16 05:29 PM
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I've noticed (after being RP aware) that everyone in a work environment tries to skirt blame for things (not owning shit as already mentioned). Being the first to accept blame puts you in a leadership role (kind of by default) and if your higher ups are worth a shit they will notice. Also, having a wide scope plan will put you at the top of a lot of work environments as well. Basically being a man about things has disappeared from the US and ultimately the work environment, making someone with t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/16 04:55 PM
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I just want to leave a comment on this post so that others who may have missed how you cut straight through the bullshit to the heart of the issue might go reread it and appreciate it.
/r/askMRP03/03/16 04:20 PM
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it's a display that her desire is in the dumpster.
/r/askMRP02/03/16 10:27 PM
1

Not that you need my 2c, but the whole branding thing feels cheap and less like your mission than a replacement for your lack of mission. 100% appreciate all of your posts and will continue to do so.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 04:51 PM
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This is an LTR... soft next is kind of fucking retarded. This isn't a girl you should be in an LTR with... but any girl is going to treat you like this since it was plainly obvious in your two paragraphs that you are a huge fucking pussy and don't expect any level of respect. I would suggest side bar, gym, and single life for a while. But if you must stay in this relationship I would suggest ignoring it because since you're such a bitch we can't tell if it's a problem with you or the girl so we …
/r/askMRP02/03/16 03:53 PM
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This is the way to go IMO. But I wouldn't set your anniversary as the date... It sounds way too much like you're going to hype this up too hard in your mind and it's going to be some weird covert contract that you can't really hope on fulfilling. Just pick a random date in the summer and work your ass off until then. Once the date is near, sit and give realistic thought about your progress (or lack thereof)... then ask yourself if it is your lack of effort/personal progress (use before and after…
/r/askMRP29/02/16 04:18 PM
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ignore it it's a fucking snapchat story. don't be so insecure. lift and be a bit more scarce. there isn't a possible way to (overtly or covertly) say "stop posting selfies on your snapchat story" without sounding like a whiney, insecure bitch... because that's what you are being. If she was posting nudes/lingerie shots then you can start to lay the boundaries (and by lay the boundaries, I mean next her)
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 11:59 PM
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Assume he's 100% right. she jumps a dick, comes home. I notice different behavior, or get some other red flag that makes me believe that. Maybe that day, maybe a few months from then. Or you don't. I raise a stink, and she doesn't go on this trip... Guess what? Just kicking the can down the road, and it'll come up, maybe a year from now, maybe 2... then right back to this exact situation. what happens on the business trip to London? That workshop in san diego in October? Don't raise a stink. Hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 09:03 PM
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The sad part is that for women we set the bar low. Even you on this sub are calling her "still attractive." She is somewhat, but she is barely hanging on. She is overweight herself and yeah, she does her hair and makeup and obviously is still looking for male attention and probably gets gobs of it, but it is because we as males have no fucking standards. This girl is not hot. I just looked for her age and holy shit, I was thinking she was 30-35. For 26 this girl is downright HOMELY. She's just a…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:06 PM
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Not victim mentality, it's acceptance. Even to quote the link you sent me to (which I'm sure most have read) A lot of guys have a real tough time with possessiveness. What they tend to overlook is the element of desire. If you’ve got a girl who want’s to go off with the girls to Vegas for a weekend the operative in the whole situation is that she WANTS to go. While I do understand the necessity of ‘mate protection’ this desire is already established BEFORE you issue any ultimatum (which is a dec…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 07:12 PM
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Read your post, and for a long winded one it isn't as bad as some. I'm being lazy and people have combed through this so I'm adding very little. Want to test your relative SMV and inspire some dread? I'm a little numb from this shit so this may nuke your relationship if you aren't actually where you think you are... and you need to be able to handle the fallout. Do her Tuesday at the stated time. Initiate Wednesday. If she says something like "hun you know the schedule," tell her that she can ke…
/r/askMRP18/02/16 04:18 AM
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Trying to get a rise out of her is making her the center of your universe. Every time you hurt your wife like this you're taking a step backwards. I promise you that fucking up her self esteem to this degree is going to hurt you in the long run. Make your wife question her self esteem by being so great that in comparison she feels like she isn't keeping up... not by putting her down. This was off the top of my head, normally I would have just said no but i was trying to A&A, maybe a little to ha…
/r/askMRP17/02/16 05:45 PM
1

It's not really ridiculous. It's not some crazy theory that new sexual attraction is stronger than attraction to someone you have been with for years. Not to mention your wife is an ever aging commodity and as a man you can easily trade up to a younger woman. And then when you're single you get the added bonus of variety. This forum likes to hamster that with the right game, gym, clothes, etc. you can turn your wife into a porn star. That might be true, but with that same game, gym, clothes you …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/16 04:22 PM
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I admit that I kind of trailed off on your long ass novel, but I say do whatever you want... but don't overdo it. If you wait on her to be affectionate you are setting yourself up to be disappointed and it's a huge covert contract you're trying to get into. You think if you keep on doing this or that or if you're doing it right she'll suddenly be this hand holding lovebird you have in your head. That may never be the case. So one vote for do whatever you want man. And... I read the last few para…
/r/askMRP17/02/16 03:43 PM
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The right answer is of course
/r/askTRP17/02/16 01:47 AM
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Think of it like your car breaking down. Less emotion, more logic. Don't try to convince her of anything with logic... this is for your own viewpoint. DO you want a LTR who does this? Answer= no If she does it again she will no longer be your LTR. "blah blah you are insecure and controlling blah blah blah" ignore the part about being insecure and controlling. reinforce that she can feel however she wants about it (who cares how she frames it you'll never be able to change that anyway), but you a…
/r/askMRP16/02/16 09:15 PM
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No, you're absolutely right; there is a point where it is basically is a necessity. The real benefit of all of the other levels is that they lead you to the point where it is a real possibility rather than an empty threat and the guy will probably go on to lead a fantastic life post marriage rather than the crippling anxiety he would have had if he had not internalized and gotten himself to the point where he was worth a shit. I was just suggesting an alternative and maybe less moral route. If y…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 04:10 PM
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Yeah but it's some weak ass dread. Oh, I know it's level 10 blah blah blah. Still a bitch ass ultimatum. BTW high chance OP didn't go through every dread level before it, he just thinks he deserves this because of some arbitrary reason. The soft ultimatums come at level 9: To be clear, Level 9 is: AFTER you have SHOWN your wife and demonstrated your ability to pull other women (Level 8), AFTER you get 10-20 number closes (Level 7), AFTER you seduced your wife for a month or more (Level 6), AFTER…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 01:05 AM
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except for the fact that he has to vocalize it. so fuck me or fuck you basically... so when she gives up the starfish is it mission accomplished? or now he's still unhappy because she's only acting as an annoying pouty fleshlight who resents him more by the day. so now it's fuck me with true desire or fuck you... which is negotiating desire, which we know doesn't work. I get the idea of wanting to make an overt communication of your needs before ending something as serious as a marriage, but it …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 09:36 PM
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I feel like those two things are the exact same. I don't know your history, but I have felt that same way before... I felt like I was to the point where I deserved her wanting me like she did when we first met. This is what happened to me in the following time: I give this same sort of demand. She finally is like yes, sure, whatever to keep you. Sex fucking blows. I realize I don't want her anyway if she's going to fuck me like a hooker who is tired of her job. I basically write her off in my he…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 05:24 PM
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Are you ignoring shit tests or does she actually have a point on things she's upset with you about? Also, you should be getting to the point where she shit tests, you laugh at it, then she laughs with you because she's used to not having huge blow up fights. You shouldn't be having such serious moments with her this often... You don't need to ignore her when she's fuming/butthurt... just ignore her fuming/butthurt part. Ex. She goes and hides in your room to be away from you because she's mad. Y…
/r/askMRP15/02/16 05:15 PM
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didn't do anything, no card, no gift. not particularly just to be a dick or anything, just didn't feel like it at the times and probably would have gotten a card or something but was working long hours end of week. tears, drama, not understanding, trying to make me feel bad... i personally think mostly because a girl is embarrassed to have nothing to tell her friends about, and i honestly did feel a bit bad about that. once that subsided we had a fantastic weekend and she had plenty of exciting …
/r/askMRP15/02/16 05:00 PM
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Are you sure you're at the right point to be threatening divorce? Not based on your mental, but based on your progress. Are you to the point where this is a problem with her and not yourself? It sounds like you're trying to threaten her into fucking you and I think you're jumping the gun on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 04:46 PM
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I don't think you and I are really disagreeing.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/16 01:27 AM
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look, if you can't vet women properly, own your shit. MRP likes to think it is its own little world with its own little rules. I don't think she's going to cheat because I'm low value, I think she's going to cheat because she's a woman blacking out in Cabo. And you say vet better? That's what I'm actually suggesting to him. Woman who wants to go do what "girls trips" do in Cabo? Next. See how I"m vetting? "Her bachelorette party was a high tea. And oh yeah, if she acts shady as fuck," Good for h…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 12:46 PM
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Problems with this thought: Hypergamy - there are going to be guys half his age and much higher SMV out and willing to bang a cougar if his wife is even decently attractive. Women will cheat if they don't care if you leave, think you won't leave, or think they won't get caught. Mexico is the perfect don't get caught cheating vacation. I'm not even saying she plans to, I'm saying it will just happen. "nothing is more indicative of a low value male than someone who is distrusting when given no rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 06:23 AM
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I don't have a moral stance. I have a stance that if my wife was going on a girls trip to Cabo I am going to assume she is going to cheat because AWALT. Cabo is like Vegas but with less clothes, no cell service, and more public sex. I also am confident in my place here, as well as my action if I get a whiff otherwise. Another cad gem: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3qi7qp/you_wont_know_when_she_cheats/ I get the "You can't keep her from cheating. So if she does it, she does it." li…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 05:58 AM
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I'm not judging him for it. I'm stating that is not providing a commitment to be monogamous with this woman. Being confident enough to send her off to Cabo while fucking other women behind her back is alpha... being confident enough to send her off to Cabo while still being sexually monogamous to her is not. And I'm not being insecure, I just realize that AWALT and sending a girl to Cabo alone is literally the recipe to get cheated on. Having boundaries isn't beta... setting boundaries you won't…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 10:04 PM
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Exactly, I've read cads post and there are some problems with it. One is that he cheats on his wife. If /u/[deleted] is ready to do that then go ahead and alpha up and let her go have her fun in Cabo. Hopefully she is careful and makes the guy(s) wear condoms. This is more base Red Pill... but base RP has some significant problems with the whole idea of marriage. However, I haven't read any posts from stone that make me think he is going to cheat on the wife. If you think that telling your girl …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 09:34 PM
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who is now getting married, so she opted the fuck out of the trip. Notice this? (Good) Married women don't plan girls trips to Cabo. Do you know what happens in Cabo? I do. Girls looking for a relaxing girls trip to Mexico pick just about anywhere but Cabo. Girls looking to relive Spring Break '99 go to Cabo. Was your "mate guarding" instinct really a beta shit goblin type moment? Or was it a smart and natural response and your ego is telling you that to be a man you need to STFU about this and …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 04:44 PM
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If your wife was attracted to you she would be fucking you. I've fucked plenty of "good girls." Her hamster is controlled by her feels which a lot of the time is controlled by her vag tingles. If you give her tingles she will fuck you and hamster any "sex problems" she has away with "well he's my husband it's not dirty." If she's not attracted to you then lack of vag tingles pushes the hamster the other way and you get "I dont feel loved" "you are just using me" "this is trashy, i'm not trashy".…
/r/askMRP08/02/16 11:01 PM
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it was implying that she wanted to go out but her guy was "in a mood" so she wasn't allowed. it's basically trying to guilt any guy who doesn't want his LTR/wife going and getting wasted by herself into feeling like an abuser. i cringed when i saw it. i mean the picture it's painting is that she's texting secretively and her guy asks her what about and she refuses to show it and he gets pissed off and beats her. i don't really get annoyed by feminist shit everywhere, but this was pretty insane. …
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 04:39 PM
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Set more boundaries and snoop as best you can. Sounds like happy hour turns into midnight drinking binge isn't cool in your opinion. Set a boundary. Drive by her work if she's there late. Snoop absolutely as hard as you can without getting caught for a limited time and then if you find nothing stop putting this shit into your head. If she cheated before who cares, you'll never prove it and she'll never admit it.
/r/askMRP05/02/16 11:29 PM
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I personally would take it as a compliment and pass. If your relationship goes south you can always hit this girl up, she's clearly interested. Keep her in your pocket for abundance but do not interact with her one on one. When you go to "take pictures" things have to innevitably go one way or another: escalation, which is quite possibly what she is insinuating or you don't escalate and you are getting more familiar with the girl, which lowers your future chances with her. Inspiring dread in you…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 07:37 PM
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weight is mostly diet. she can do low intensity gym stuff and fix her diet and she'll be fine. google a weight loss calorie calculator and download myfitnesspal on her phone. if she's a little chubby and she gets down to a hot body her self esteem is going to skyrocket because of all the advances she gets. hopefully she stays humble.
/r/askMRP04/02/16 07:30 PM
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I have 2 options. Give a fuck and profusely apologize still hoping to have sex tonight. OR not give a fuck say oops didn't know. I go with option 2. Or this doesn't even run through your head because you aren't worried about coddling her feelings to get her to spread her legs for you? My wife is hot. Its obvious to anyone other then her....she needs to hear it. Just so you know, if she really is hot, it's obvious to her as well. She just likes the validation and humble points she gets by pretend…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 11:54 PM
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I personally would have told the bartender to put the beer on my tab or shoot him a drink back. I know this place is amoral and the guy dug his own grave, but that's a rough way to treat a probably decent guy in public.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/16 05:17 PM
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I've had plenty give enthusiastic, but enthusiastic doesn't equal amazing... it usually does get you to the "good" level though. The only honest to god amazing BJ I've had was from a girl who could deep throat. Could literally feel her throat moving around my dick and it might have felt better than sex.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/16 05:12 PM
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Put this in the books as another example that frame trumps just about everything when it comes to keeping a sexual relationship going. If you had apologized profusely and promised never to do it again you would actually be lowering her attraction for you. She's hamstering your non verbalization as this, but the fact that you didn't over dramatize it and start looking for validation from her kept you on the right side of things. IMO you are going to be getting a barrage of comfort tests and the n…
/r/TheRedPill03/02/16 04:50 PM
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this response is like the beacon of rational light in the inevitable storm of shit this topic has/is going to produce.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/16 04:18 PM
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I went through this phase. I refused to utter those words for the most part. Now I judge myself. I got a little snippy with her (unwarranted)? I say sorry. I step on her foot accidentally? I say sorry. I'm not groveling for forgiveness but I say sorry when I feel it is warranted. Now that I think about it she hasn't pulled the "why won't you just say sorry" bullshit in a while. I still don't say sorry to change her feels or to appease or whatever....
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 10:58 PM
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Sounds like you're doing well. Bring home a bottle of her favorite wine as a token of your appreciation. It will make her feel rewarded for "her" hard work and continue establishing your role as the leader.
/r/askMRP02/02/16 05:34 PM
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So what stops them from telling him to fuck off after? No I agree it's a risk. I think they'd fear the potential social shaming.. This is what I mean by the not showing off to the friends... she gets the experience from someone who disappears after the week/weekend or whatever is over. She can go AWOL from her friends for a day or two and just have been "busy". Maybe I'm letting my imagination get to me... but I've seen chicks get all bothered in the presence of rich guys. I see it less as them …
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 05:28 PM
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i think you're on the wrong sub for that
/r/askMRP02/02/16 03:44 PM
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Well to be fair if she says do this and sex will get better it's not really a covert contract...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 01:57 AM
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Full disclosure this isn't me I'm talking about at all, I'm not there in age or $. But If you're attractive I'm pretty sure there are plenty. You have to fit the role they would like you to fill in their mind. You're the older guy that can give them experiences nobody else can and you're already well off, well respected, and not going to be looking to have her show you off to her friends or anything and not looking to lock her down. If you're reasonably attractive I'm not sure why many 22 year o…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 12:54 AM
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People like to make it out like people getting paid well are nerds or have some other delinquency... I think because "well yeah that banker is a beta bux!" makes them feel better than "damn that guy works 60 hours a week, hits the gym in his little off time, and still slays pussy in between." I get it though. Also, I saw your post and keep very in mind that I'm talking about extracurricular activities with women who see you as a traveling playboy who is definitely cheating on his wife but not lo…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 12:19 AM
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But girls are more whoreish than ever... I'm not suggesting to fuck around the office. Just go hit up one of the nicer restaurants in town and sit in the bar. These places are frequented by mid (let's face it, early) twenties girls and paid for by 60 year old men. If you are in your 30s-40s and raking in $200k you'll be the the cream of the gold digger whore crop. Just go to places where women expect you to have money/status... sure you'll have to drop some money, but you have it.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 09:36 PM
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Except with those kinds of resources he can also live the playboy lifestyle while he is inevitably on the road for business. See Mad Men as a fictional example of what I mean. If he's a beta slob then he was gonna get cucked if he made 30k or 200k.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 05:36 PM
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Accept the validation of the person flirting with you... don't try to validation double dip with your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 05:02 PM
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So how exactly is that holding her to the deal? giving overt notice is a great way to ensure that she feels pressured into something later and hamsters up a solid ailment for refusal. holding her to the deal doesn't work unless you can actually hold her to it... and you can't.
/r/askMRP01/02/16 04:12 PM
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Legally his most likely... Beyond that you're pushing morals... And doing it in a way that plays out perfectly for the hypergamic woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 02:49 PM
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Men are attracted to hot women, narcissistic or not. My best guess on the issue is that narcissistic guys naturally employ dread/DGAF attitude and their women worship them. This gets them off and they probably have side pieces etc. but we know women don't often leave if you cheat and hold frame. When women worship and chase a man the relationship is usually reported as quality = good by both parties. He's getting all the sex he wants and she's happy to be pleasing a man that she sees as high val…
/r/TheRedPill30/01/16 12:59 AM
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the dad is dead according to him. Or he'd probably be cucked into a few more children already...
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 12:24 AM
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I would get the test and reevaluate. It sounds like you're trying to hamster being a cuck... paying for your wife's living expenses is not anywhere near the definition of "plating her." Just please don't use that phrase about what you're rationalizing doing to try to make it seem like you've got your shit together or something. If she was cheating and the kids are yours but you don't think she is cheating anymore I would drop the subject and work on improving yourself. Who cares if she cheated o…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 11:45 PM
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If she accepts the deal, don't let her off the hook. So when she gives you a hard no later you're suggesting to rape her? lol May want to rethink that.
/r/askMRP29/01/16 09:40 PM
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Sorry, I fail to see how trading TV time for reading, exercising, traveling, and learning new skills is a MGTOW thing. I would say that I'm doing different and better things. That's great. Improvement is awesome... but letting feminist shit upset you to the point where you give up something like watching football... that's what I mean when I say your anger shows you having a ways to go. Giving up mindless consumerism is definitely a net positive, but letting stuff affect you to the point where y…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 10:44 PM
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Experienced a few triggers reading this post Yeah... I would never let this kind of shit fly today, but this took me on a trip down memory lane and not in a good way. EDIT: female crying laying on floor slamming head against wall: "Is this how a person lying would act... why won't you just believe me?!? Why can't you just let us be happy?" Oh yeah... turned out she was lying to my face. Same one left once after getting into an argument once home from the bars ("we" had met a guy that night who k…
/r/TheRedPill28/01/16 10:20 PM
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About her "sex schedule". Fuck her sex schedule. Initiate whenever you want, but make absolutely sure you're not butthurt or jaded about it. If you adhere to this schedule you're going to look like a nice little obedient puppy waiting for his treat, instead of the big aggressive dog she really wants. Again though, do not be butthurt about it. When she turns you down, be nice, kiss her and go do something else. This... when she says "but the schedule" I would treat it as a shit test and LMR and c…
/r/askMRP27/01/16 11:49 PM
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Second, when she says when are we going to have a family weekend she's asking for you to lead. Now, either you pick a date or tell her "nope, not going to during sailing." Remember, she chose you, and in her mind that's the decision. Everything after is ok with her. Bingo. OP: Pre her ever being a bitch about this, but post her making it obvious she wants you to choose a weekend, (and pending all my other relationship ducks being in a row, her being a good wife, sex good, etc.) I would have told…
/r/askMRP27/01/16 09:21 PM
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RP likes to jerk off about never touching a video game. Letting internet strangers tell you what to do with your hobby/relaxation time is beta. Do whatever the fuck you want.
/r/askMRP27/01/16 09:12 PM
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I've done this same sort of thing. No butthurt, just nonchalant "guess you changed your mind" shoulder shrug and going on with my day. In fact if she's trying to do something I don't particularly like I'll make it a point to be extra obvious in the whole I'm taking this as a sign you want to bang. Adding extra raunchiness and no lovey shit, just straight go for a grope or down the pants or something. Most of the time if she's trying to do one of these actions she's not in the mood for sex so it …
/r/askMRP27/01/16 09:10 PM
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This is MRP not MGTOW. If "seeing the female agenda" in things is enough to stop you from doing them, you're not going to be doing many things my friend. Accept that things are the way they are, appreciate that you're not fooled by them, watch some damn football without being triggered by "the female agenda." Seriously, this sounds like a thread full of feminists crying about all the media etc. making their lives so hard to live.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 09:03 PM
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The me watching an average romantic comedy where the loser gets the girl based on his passiveness and inner worth doesn't piss me off because my beta hamster takes a spin. The reason it annoys the shit out of me is the same reason, I get mad reading something completely filled factual and grammatical errors. I never enjoyed those kinds of movies in the first place. I mean stuff he already enjoyed like NFL and blah blah. I agree with everyone that getting away from consuming so much television is…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 08:14 PM
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TV shows and movies will become unwatchable. Your awareness will inevitably make you recoil in anger at nearly every movie and nearly every time you turn on the TV: The fem-centric brain beating never stops. Even my enjoyment of the NFL has been ruined by anti-male commercials, forced pink uniforms during "women's health month," and nausiating "public service announcements." There is an upside to all of this: Less entertainment = more time for self-improvement. Seriously? I just want you to read…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 04:11 PM
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This just fits too right for you not to at least accept that it has a shot at being the truth OP. Bartender has most likely seen her crazy side and was being a bro because he has abundance.
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 03:47 PM
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I'm just praying this is a joke or troll
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 02:06 AM
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Yeah... I've banged a few good girls in my time and the ones that were really attracted to me and I gamed well still gave it up ASAP. They said "I don't usually do this" and meant it... but if you bring the right cards to the table they still do. The making you wait shit is either A) they aren't that attracted to you which = they're pegging you for a BB or B) Like you said they're a reformed slut, which usually just means they're still a slut... but no that attracted to you. For the good girls y…
/r/TheRedPill26/01/16 11:27 PM
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The other side of this is that to females an attractive face does this same thing. Hot and in rags: Oh I bet he is more in tune with spirituality Hot and nice fitting shirt: Oh he is so buff (even if he's not). Hot and in dress shirt (where it's not required): Oh he probably is really powerful and has a great job. Hot and in basketball shorts: Oh he likes to be comfortable, I like down to earth guys. Story to make this more relatable: LTR and I are at a bar. Bartender is a tiny little dude (prob…
/r/askMRP26/01/16 04:43 PM
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One of the main symptoms of our deadbedroom is/was her having a lot of anxiety around sex. I touch her, she starts to have anxiety. This is 100%, literally, absolutely, positively a lack of attraction towards you. This is her hamster making up some bullshit excuse and your hamster wanting to believe it because it feels better than believing that she finds you repulsive. Like you said.. hit the gym, get your diet 100%. Get yourself to a place where you're confident in an average female having the…
/r/askMRP25/01/16 10:37 PM
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I know a girl whose # is probably in the 70s. She told me she tells her gyno 10. This is the dr responsible for her vagina...
/r/TheRedPill25/01/16 10:15 PM
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Eh... You really need to get to the point where you're getting IOIs from other females that you find attractive and when you look in the mirror you think you look good. Once you get to that point you can at least frame her lack of desire as not being your fault (I know guys hear me out). I went from getting laid the most I ever had in my life (yay getting in shape - and this was pre RP), to dating a girl who begged me to fuck her multiple times a day, to a relationship, to a dead bedroom, and no…
/r/askMRP25/01/16 05:05 PM
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Could be... but from the limited info I would guess like above that she sees a soft spot. I went from being a total bitch to pretty much being completely in control of my relationship and never once was I told I was "acting macho"... I was called a lot of shit lol, but that wasn't on the list. I see parallels to that in his post: so I have to command respect, and be someone who demands appreciation. command respect.. okay... demand appreciation? red flag here. I would advocate getting to the poi…
/r/askMRP25/01/16 04:28 PM
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I personally see a problem with going to the casino in the evening and then going right back the next morning (unless you're on a vacation or something). That's the red flag here to me... her feeling the need to bring extra to the casino and then her actually taking out extra to gamble without telling you screams early stages of a gambling problem to me. You can tell me it's her money all you want and I'm still going to say it sounds like she's developing a problem. I would reduce chances to gam…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 04:00 PM
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If we turned this into a Star Trek episode (the classic Captain/FO dynamic often used here), I think we have the following situation: Picard gives brand new order to Riker... Instead of explaining anything he does it in some arbitrary way that he understands. Riker doesn't understand the order and asks for clarification. Picard tells Riker to figure it out himself. Riker is angry because Picard made him feel retarded and basically told him to fuck off. Riker has some choice words with Picard. Pi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/16 05:13 PM
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Hey, he's preaching to the choir.. but I'll be damned if most first posts aren't a whole lot shittier than this.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/16 05:01 PM
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you looked at his profile like the creeper you are and once you look at someone's profile it thinks you want to check them out again and they come to the top of your search. it's going to start suggesting to him that you two be friends since you have a mutual friend and you have searched for him.
/r/askTRP22/01/16 11:28 PM
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I agree. They really don't want the "hot partner" (Let's be honest, the guy) getting to a point where he has options and accepts that his affections might be better placed elsewhere. They're basically promoting him being a less annoying/needy BB. Sure, the affection pull alone might be enough in some rare cases... but a lot of the time it's just going to nosedive an already affectionless (sexless) relationship. It's an affection pull out of weakness... not strength or indifference, and I think t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/16 04:41 PM
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Would she care if you slept with other women? If so, why? Out of a need to have control over you? Possessiveness? Do you want to sleep with other women? If not, why not?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/16 01:37 AM
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You're romanticizing personality disorder. Anyway, not so sure how you stumbled upon this sub if you're a sociopath. If you're a narcissist are you just telling us this story for validation? I didn't think those kinds of people were liable to be brainwashed into nice guy behaviors... You said your wife was dumb in your last post, but now she has a very high IQ? She point blank told me that I've been the most difficult person to try and manipulate she has ever met and that intrigues her and makes…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/16 12:54 AM
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so when she asked you why you did it why didn't you just answer with this? holy fucking shit you're overthinking everything. When she gives you some bullshit about it after that answer just shrug your shoulders and go on with your fucking life.
/r/askMRP22/01/16 12:39 AM
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Agreed with this. and OP WHOAAAAAAA.... back it up a bit dude. Fuck man, why the fuck are you getting so dramatic and serious? Why do you let your wife's words get to you so much? I NEED DAYS OFF! Baby, workin on it relax. explained thinks from my point of view rationally whilst ignoring her shit tests Sounds like you failed shit tests lol Try to explain that i do not tolerate her shit tests and her behavior is not the standard I will accept from her . I then say that I have cancelled the holida…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 10:46 PM
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Eh... it relates to this sub because it's one person in a relationship attracted and one person not. That just happens to be the same thing that leads guys here. The tips kind of overlap a bit, but they're not really given from the same perspective. If MRP was an iceberg the shit in that thread would be the VERY tip. They see some shit going down and want to understand it but they won't let themselves get to the real bottom of it. They're more promoting pretending not to care about someone as mu…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 10:25 PM
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I want you to reread your post and think about it how I am thinking about it: You sound like a bitch. "I wasn't pressuring you into anything; I was trying to give my wife a kiss; if YOU felt pressured, if YOU felt I was forcing something you didn't want, that's in YOUR head, don't put it on me." Too serious and you sound like a bitch. You're just throwing blame on her and it's drying her up more than ever I'm sure. When she kept pushing you off (pretty hard no, I think we can agree) realize okay…
/r/askMRP21/01/16 09:12 PM
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Because the answer isn't a laundry list of things to do, it is how to act. Read the lists all you want, but just notice that the things on that list are things that confident masculine people do.
/r/askMRP21/01/16 04:11 PM
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It almost wakes the baby? Is she some sort of sleep specialist? If it's waking the baby up then you know what to do. If it's not, then you know what to do.
/r/askMRP21/01/16 03:36 PM
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As everyone else said: you delegate. If she's really handling a lot and nailing everything she needs to do, grab her something nice (a movie rental she's been wanting to see but you may not love, her favorite chocolate, a flower arrangement for the dining room table... whatever. If you're not to the point you're comfortable doing that a simple thank you works as well) out of the blue to say 'good job.' Watch her melt in your hands because she did a good job for her man and she got a reward or so…
/r/askMRP21/01/16 12:12 AM
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Her: You think you're the only one with insecurities? You and your porn addiction devastated me as a wife and a woman. I would take that with a grain of salt... unless she's actually unattractive, in which case sorry for not reading your post history. She's just trying to shame you out of sexual options... to the point where porn is even out of the question. Women do this shit all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 10:26 PM
5

The one piece of advice I'd give (goes without saying mostly) is avoid the whole "exclusive"/"relationship" thing Agreed. Going exclusive will peg you at her SMV to the others... unless your SMV is WAY higher than brunettes that is. If you're a 10 and she's a 7 the girls will try to steal you because "you deserve better." ... but if you're an 8 and she's a 7... you're now a 7 because you gave commitment to a 7.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/16 04:58 PM
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Your overall point is great... but: The Brad Pitt rule applies to this situation. If Brad Pitt wanted sex and she wasn't in the mood, would she turn down Brad Pitt? Would she suggest maintenance sex? The truth can sting! Yes, they definitely would lol. I know you're implying they will always be horny if they're banging BP... but if they for some unknown reason aren't they will still fuck him out of fear of losing him or him fucking someone else. That's maintenance sex.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/16 04:27 PM
1

Eh, yeah that was kind of a huge security issue since it didn't even warn you somebody downloaded your backup. But I heard that they were updating to make it work again? Haven't really looked into it in a long time. Anyway, that's what "an hour alone with your phone" is for. But thanks for the FYI for anyone potentially purchasing it.
/r/askMRP19/01/16 10:30 PM
2

He sounds like a troll kind of... But he could be absolutely right that she's a 9 or 10. I don't usually see people using 10 unless she's at least a high 8 + oneitis. Anyway, IMHO the issue with this girl is that her body issues push her to seek even more validation. This leads to a much higher chance to cheat than a "normal" girl. Without constant validation she feels like absolute shit and since she is (by OPs analysis) extremely hot she will not have a shortage of guys with much higher SMV th…
/r/askMRP19/01/16 09:10 PM
2

Don't call her out on her lies if you can't dump her when she continues to lie to your face. Basically, you know the truth, you called her out... she tells you she takes pride in not lying... you tell her you know she is lying, and she STILL can't admit the truth (AWALT by the way). Once you show her the texts she will admit to ONLY what you have in black and white right in front of her and say that is absolutely all of it. This will be another lie. What was your gameplan when you called her out…
/r/askMRP19/01/16 08:56 PM
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you have no other options. she has plenty. tell her you'll buy her a pair of shoes for every phone number she gets on her next girls night out. you'll learn what abundance really means.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 08:02 PM
2

But the second she has something more interesting to do she is 100% unavailable by phone. Take note of how unimportant you are to her. Beating you into the ground via text does take precedence over chores though... so at least you've got that going for you...
/r/askMRP18/01/16 06:14 PM
3

if you comply like a little beta that she can control, she might let you have sex with her. The part the newbies need to understand, especially if they're looking for a "why" to explain the "rule," is that there is a high chance she doesn't even keep "her part of the deal," because even agreeing to the deal makes you less attractive. Agreeing to this deal is a path to disaster... inevitable hopes up, her making up a bullshit excuse "tomorrow" "i'm tired", lack of OI, negotiating desire, drawn in…
/r/askMRP18/01/16 04:38 PM
1

It's all the person and you need to make sure you have your head on right before going in. If you even have to question your mental state before, it's probably a good idea NOT to do them. If you go in trying to solve a (serious, to you) problem... IDK.. LSD and Shrooms can get you on some deep introspective shit and if you're not ready for that it can be a weird experience and not always necessarily positive... although I would say that most people can rebound pretty well with no permanent "chan…
/r/TheRedPill16/01/16 12:02 AM
2

haha this actually gave me a laugh. Her talking with her friends: "Have you ever just like, wanted to suck a dick, ya know?"
/r/TheRedPill15/01/16 11:57 PM
0

Actually the trick is to show her that you don't need sex- with her. You WANT sex with her, but you don't need it. TA DA. Once she believes you could (not even necessarily would) get sex elsewhere, the damn will start to crack and slowly but surely she'll be more receptive to sex. Girls want what other girls want... if she hasn't seen another girl lust for you in a while, her perception of your SMV drops. If you're whiny and butthurt about her denials it affirms her thought that no other females…
/r/askMRP15/01/16 06:15 PM
1

Just trying to help kill your hamster. It sounds like you're taking her concern for your child as a sign that things might be turning around and you think game is some magic trick to make her want to be with you again. You're right I don't know you or her, but that's how your post reads to me.
/r/askMRP14/01/16 11:10 PM
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It sounds to me like she is okay talking again because she thinks you're over her... or at least that's what you've communicated. You're feeling great not because of breaking frame, but because you got a little of the drug (her) that you seem to be addicted to. IMO it sounds like you're trying to get back with her by framing it as what's best for your daughter and this will no doubt blow up in your face. She's going to kiss you or some dumb shit (prob right after she just sucked off some guy wit…
/r/askMRP14/01/16 10:06 PM
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eh. welcome to her making purposeful faces of disgust/disinterest during the starfish sex you're most likely going to be seeing a lot of. Come home in a lighthearted refreshed mood. I'd expect her to be cold. Make sure to make some conversation so she doesn't think you're being a little bitch and dragging on some cold shoulder fest. Then it goes a couple of ways: Oh so now that I say I'll let you fuck me anytime you're nice to me "Baby, I am an easy man to please wink" or some other joke... take…
/r/askMRP14/01/16 10:02 PM
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EDIT: responded to you (because of the disrespect comment) but kind of went off on a tangent toward OP. This is flirting. Sure it's a shit test but it's not a real disrespectful one, it's absolutely 100% positively FLIRTING. "Bring home a GTO and your shit will be in the yard and I'm taking half your winnings!" "Great, as a billionaire playboy keeping a wife would be hard anyway" "It'd be worth the few hundred mil to be able to start my harem without your yapping" "bet I could get a pretty solid…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 05:22 PM
1

I really do appreciate someone who appreciates food, but you have officially crossed the hippy bullshit line. I'm not currently crunching numbers on what I eat, but knowing the numbers and macros that make up foods makes it easier to guesstimate where I am at. I only really crunch the numbers when I'm cutting weight, because I don't want to risk wasting time by eating too much or accidentally eating too little and risk losing more muscle than necessary. Eating "whatever I want" keeps me at about…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 05:01 PM
1

If that's what you think I typed, something went wrong. That's not what I meant at all. DOn't have time now, will come back to it tomorrow. I know that's not your whole point, but arguing against tracking your food intake is ridiculous. How do you quantify the well-being you feel after eating a proper 2 hours meal That one line was in response to the above.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 10:57 PM
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Dude, we're on TRP... How do you quantify the well-being you feel after eating a proper 2 hours meal with friends as opposed to a sad sandwich eaton alone in front of a screen. That's totally a psychological/social thing... And plenty of fat Americans eat mostly 2 hour meals at home with family, trust me. All the things that are at the very core of the american food problem. You can absolutely quantify the American food problem. Cheap and easily accessible food is garbage. Sugar is cheap and pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 09:42 PM
1

Honestly, any benefits (food wise) qualitatively can be expressed quantitatively. It's not just calories, but people need to get deeper into macros and they can succeed greatly thinking purely quantitatively. It's actually the best way to make 100% sure you are hitting your goals nutrition wise. I suggest everyone downloads myfitnesspal if they want to have a no bullshit (unless you're bad at guessing food portions or lying to the app) way to track their nutrition. Qualitative food programs work…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 05:29 PM
1

His original use of it was basically admitting guilt. Like I said, maybe in their region those two sentences mean the same thing... but not anywhere I have lived. "I can see how you think I'm being a dick" is admitting there is logical evidence supporting her assertion. I'm just trying to make sure he isn't accidentally just agreeing with her while convincing himself that he is "fogging" her. And like he said, it seems that she probably gets what he is trying to say... since clearly they know ea…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 11:16 PM
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I wasn't meaning to give that as an example of fogging.. just a response that is less validating of her analysis of the situation... I should have probably left that part out. Your original post: "Oh I could see how you think I'm a dick." VS I'm only agreeing that I could see she thinks I'm being a dick. I acknowledge her view point only, not whether it's true. "I can see (that) you think I'm being a dick" is HUGELY different from "I can see how you think I'm being a dick" Perhaps we have differ…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 09:35 PM
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IMO your example of fogging is agreeing with her and will be treated as such. I prefer letting her know that she can feel however she wants... but in a much less agreeable way. Ex. "do you see how unfair you're being?" "you're free to feel however you want about this, but i don't care if you think I'm being unfair" I feel that your example of fogging is too conflict averse and possibly not even fogging... I would change it to "I understand that you think I'm being a dick..." "I could see how" is…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 08:11 PM
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Don't let it be serious. Expecting a serious response from her leads it to being serious. This can't be the only thing this pertains to... if you were fine in every other place she wouldn't be like this on this one subject. I get caught doing this now and I get call outs that are jokes. "I SAW THAT!!!" with lots of smiling... So to begin: We get out to the truck and she begins escalating the situation; " you're such a pig, no other guy I ever was with did this etc..." Then she ends with " I thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 06:18 PM
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Read my response to /u/stonepimpletilists ... I didn't dig through your complete post before making the above, but I did end up reading it all and gave more of a response.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 05:24 PM
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Apologies for this getting a bit off track in the middle and pertaining more to OP than you, but kind of going all over the place I'm not accusing him of having weak frame; I was sort of offering that up as a self test. I admittedly skimmed the first time I read this but took some more time to read into it now. I still think confidence is a huge thing that he thinks he has, but does not. There are lines where I'm like BOO YAH you got it! and then a few lines later: In fact, I would say this acti…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 05:17 PM
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As long as you have that confidence (in all areas of yourself) then I think your frame is solid. Maybe I'm just not seeing your problem from the right direction, so I apologize for not being able to help more there. I think her sense of humor issues stem from frame issues and leadership issues. I've been having like mini revelations on relationships every once in a while (I should start posting some FRs here to be honest). LTR didn't used to have a good sense of humor when it came to me "being m…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 04:52 PM
1

She needs to see your SMV in action to have it affect her at all. It might take a pretty brazen action by some woman to hit her in the face... some women just don't notice the newfound IOIs their husbands are getting because they're so used to them not happening. Frame: Your shit doesn't stink. If you don't have that kind of internal confidence, your frame needs work. Shit test have dropped big time since taking pill; but compliance test continues and I continue to fail. Half the time I just com…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 02:41 AM
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there's something wrong with this very pervasive (on this sub) thought and I'm not exactly sure how to put it into words beyond the fact that it's still pedastalizing pussy. if time is your currency, I imagine your SMV is lower (in her eyes) than you think.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 09:59 PM
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so it could just be /r/women lol because all women at some level feel that a "fully realized, self possessed man is the highest achievement." Will they say it? I guess that's the difference...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 10:31 PM
1

First question how old are you? 35 or under? Go to a young bar, preferably not a night club... like one where interaction besides dancing takes place shuffleboard/beer pong/etc. Take your girl. Oh, I hope you don't have approach anxiety... if so just consider yourself someone who makes conversation with everyone. If you're worried what they think about you, stop. Start judging people... worry more about if they fit your criteria of an interesting person rather than the other way around. If they …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 05:42 PM
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you're either extremely insecure or a troll.
/r/askTRP07/01/16 11:39 PM
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you're a huge pussy. However, he texts her boring things like: "Hi, just thought I'd wish you a happy Christmas" or "How is university going". He also told her that his Granddad died... sweet. he's a pussy too. Also, I told her that if I ever found out that she initiated a conversation with him I'd be pissed off. You just raised his SMV in her eyes a lot and downed yours big time by being insecure about him. She's told me and even showed me their conversation with each other between them. I know…
/r/askTRP07/01/16 11:35 PM
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maybe if he dumped her... if she dumped him, she is a validation whore and he provides it willingly.
/r/askTRP07/01/16 11:31 PM
1

She can't just say "please don't touch my vagina please please please" so she says "my stomach hurts" or "i have a headache".... interesting how the stomach aches and shit are so focused on right about the time you go to bed. Then if you try to initiate you're some kind of scum because you "knew she wasn't feeling well." Script flipped, hamster getting a workout, beta husband feeling like shit.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 11:10 PM
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This guy gets it. OP, read all of the above and take it all in... but until you can say: I know I'm the shit whether she wants to fuck me or not. you have a long ways to go.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 11:01 PM
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Husband knows her body better. She's a tiny bit scared of getting caught and that back of the mind worry makes it hard to let go and push over the edge. She doesn't even need to cum to make sex enjoyable with the affair guy she is more focused on pleasing him. Affair guy cares less if she cums than husband who is trying to negotiate desire.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 10:53 PM
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I love him, love is about more than sex, those guys I just lusted, it was just sex with them, we have a deeper connection. He loves me for more than just sex, right? I want him to love all of me... blah blah blah. You don't see the crumbs of logic throughout?
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 08:40 PM
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Your conversations weren't bad at all IMO, but if you came in with these as failures rather than success stories I think you would see this kind of response: Trying to be overly witty. Validation seeking (Sarah Convo). Some other nitpicks (blah blah overinvesting). I think these girls preselected you pretty hard. That might be improper usage of the term... but your looks had these girls ready to go. As long as you weren't some autistic moron they were going to be flirty with you. You probably co…
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 11:31 PM
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Exactly. OP could have said almost anything and they would have "LOL here's my #." This is a compliment on your looks OP, but people (including yourself) could probably learn more if you posted and analyzed a few conversations where you seemingly started out okay and struck out.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 08:36 PM
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The only right cycle for an LTR (pending her doctor approving) is continuous birth control and no periods. You're welcome. To give this post a little more value, you will lose the whole up/down cycle thing for alpha/beta... but IMO you're doing more fucking with your own head than "science." You would be better off to forget about the whole cycle thing in this relationship... this would just come with the bonus of her never bleeding.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 04:07 PM
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Girls who can have anyone end up in a weird psychological valley. Every guy they even talk to falls in love with them and I think it fucks up their rules of attraction or something. Game goes to the forefront and the rest takes a back seat. Status/amazing looks/etc usually goes hand in hand somewhat with game hence "some" of the people she's attracted to being surprising... not all. You can see this same thing with real 9s/10s (talking no makeup, best looking girl in the room/bar/club 95%+ of th…
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 03:59 PM
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Don't let this get pedastalized again... the quickest way to ruin this is to desire it too much or always bring it up... act like it was any other day. I'd probably go down on her and get her off sometime in the future as a thank you (obv not mentioning it) and then expect (read: command) another one from her... but i'm honestly not a huge fan of bjtc... I've had one girl ever that gave better BJs than sex (she could deepthroat pretty decently) I think this shit is in your guys' heads due to lac…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 10:58 PM
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your wife respects you and he's indoctrinated hardcore BP (even worse LE) so he thinks that any wife that respects leadership and isn't a SIW is being beaten... because he can't fathom his own wife or past relationships acting like your wife does? any number of reasons, honestly. but as long as you aren't beating her, i'd take it as a sign you're doing something right.
/r/askMRP05/01/16 10:21 PM
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She doesn't want to talk she wants you to just get it. Can't help you on the whole not feeling enough... usually i'm counteracted on that with how it is to see her so wet. Time to slip some fingers in her butt....
/r/askMRP05/01/16 10:18 PM
2

Chewbacca was the one character I liked... I noted while everyone is being typically Disney (Han dies... EVERYONE IS CRYING OMG) Chewy? Fuckin finger on the trigger blasting him. Real, non disneyfied emotion slipped through the cracks there.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/16 10:02 PM
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Kylo Ren was an interesting character, at least. He's trying to be stoic, vicious Darth Vader but he's weak and full of emotion. Unfortunately, with no other villain onscreen it got really tiresome (and made no sense in comparison to his badass power level in the first scene). Oh yeah... first scene you're thinking "DAMN this guy makes Vader look like a pussy!" then "DAMN he can pry info from your mind!" which leads to "DAMN..... he got his ass kicked by a non force trained teenage girl?" Also, …
/r/TheRedPill05/01/16 09:03 PM
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Despite Poe being an expert pilot, they handed "Chewbacca's roguish buddy" to Rey, who now (as you pointed out) has Luke's role and Han's role from the originals. Maybe she goes her own way and is uber powerful but not associated with the "Jedi" order... another split in the Jedi? The grey side? Kind of pointless since there are only 3 left? Kylo Ren represents a totally different, less appealing perspective on anger than Darth Vader did. He's literally a boy throwing tantrums because he has pro…
/r/TheRedPill05/01/16 08:45 PM
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Great... so my girlfriend can say "see it wasn't stupid that she was more powerful than a Sith out of nowhere! TOLD YOU!" as if i don't get enough circular logic from her already.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/16 08:40 PM
1

I honestly question the last time I MET a virgin. I assume I was under 21.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 04:35 PM
2

While it may be slightly unrealistic, one of the pillars of red pill theory is to keep improving yourself. correct, but comparing yourself to every chad in her past is insecure. You have a good point now that it's been massaged a bit by the community (or watered down a bit, since it kind of turned into an "always keep improving," motivational), but don't act like your original focus wasn't a bit off the mark. See: The way to do this is to ‘one-up’ every moment she’s experienced. Women base the v…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 04:30 PM
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lol you basically nailed this... marriage counselor becomes the strong leader that says it's okay... hamster is like "good enough for me!"
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 03:53 PM
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She ugly? if not she'll have a guy within a couple of years. Her version of events won't be "failed marriage," but how he was abusive and treated her like shit and took her for granted constantly. New guy will swear he won't ever do this... rinse/repeat.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 03:53 AM
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her pissed look "hey, when you're consistently on time I'll stop questioning your time management skills" don't do the "do you have a problem?"... you made it way more serious than it had to be. Also, as JToH said... you could have offered to push back plans.
/r/askMRP05/01/16 03:35 AM
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LOL... damn. sounds like a girl with psychological problems... but she did get you good. what did she do that was nuts? and how long had you previously been sleeping with her? i'm guessing she would done this anyway or was already fucking another guy(s) and she just used this moment to tell you about it as a fuck you, because she took your pic as a fuck you to her (ref: psychological problems). prob saved yourself from long term cuckdom IMO... but yes, that was dread backfiring.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/16 11:48 PM
1

IMO the best answer is "because it(you) is(are) so fucking hot." This can easily happen at the beginning stages of a relationship and I would hope it can be sustained.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/16 11:07 PM
1

I would bet $ that you're mistaken in what you did being dread. If you elaborate more we could be of more help.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/16 10:59 PM
1

"how would you feel if I said something about (exs name here) and how we used to be?" I said "well that's your past and it happened before me so how do I get mad about it? I wasn't bragging about it, I was telling you about a very small part of my past that doesn't matter to me." See, you accepted it as a "big deal." You're in her frame, you had to explain... now that YOU (the supposed leader!) accepted that it's a big deal... it is! Ta da. It's fucking magic, you're leading even when you're fai…
/r/askMRP04/01/16 10:05 PM
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I've VP'd my backstory here before under another throwaway account. Own your shit; stop deleting posts. People can learn from your shitty experiences. Texting her 'branch' stopped for the most part. For the most part? Are you scared to tell her you're gone if she keeps this up? Quick convo: "Hey, don't do that" "you're not fair, wahh!" "if you think that's unfair then I guess I'm unfair, IDC" If anyone else went through this how did you over come it? DGAF. Realize that if she doesn't fuck you li…
/r/askMRP04/01/16 09:41 PM
2

Today she brings this up and how it this supposed to help our relationship? Everyone shitting on you for bringing it up... but if you don't act like it's a big deal neither will your wife. Tease her about caring... now you're not being a dick, now you're flirting... 101 level stuff. And how she doesn't know who I am anymore and how I'm not predictable and how it's like I don't give a shit about anything anymore. She's scared... she doesn't know what you're doing and doesn't trust you to lead. Ev…
/r/askMRP04/01/16 08:26 PM
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Whoever guilded that LOL is right. What do you need from us? It sounds like she's already fucking you quite well. EDIT: oh and don't guilt yourself into telling your wife and ruining your life (even more) you fucking retard.
/r/askMRP04/01/16 05:03 PM
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"not your best look" my best guess is that she did it on purpose to see if you had the balls to tell her when she was looking bad.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 03:49 AM
1

if she asks, you got it from the MTV show "Next"... there you go. don't bring it up unless she does.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 03:45 AM
1

A year of absorbing the material here (and putting it into practice... and diet/lift) and your relationship will be 100x better. You'll be in a place in which you're NOT afraid of leaving her. Win/win since you'll either end up fixing it or leaving with a decent head on your shoulders and not in some huge depression.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/16 03:27 AM
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One who got away is Chad who took her out on one date and then she called every Friday and Saturday for the next 6 months to hopefully get a booty call because he would never hit her up. That's the guy she never forgets. The beta chump that ended up successful and got himself to a much better place than before? Yeah... she'll say shit to her girlfriends like "Dayumn fucked that up! He's loaded now!" but it won't be out of any real emotion or desire... just wall hitting and seeing that she could …
/r/TheRedPill03/01/16 03:19 AM
1

It seems that they like sex just as much as we do and whereas I used to think they used it only as a tool for securing a high value man or provider (or in some cases gifts/money) it seems to be more probable that when they are around a ‘real’ masculine man(alpha), they want to fuck him just as much as he wants to fuck her. way too much of the bolded thought process on this sub. women only use sex as a means to an end idea is heavy here. whether that end is a high value man/genetic material or pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/16 03:14 AM
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That look of regret was all about her envying your success as well as your date this... woman hitting wall. this is just the wall being forcefully moved from her peripherals to 20/20 dead center. she doesn't suddenly see OP as Chad, she just realizes that she missed out on loads of provisioning. she probably doesn't feel bad about cheating on him at all... she just wishes she had hidden it better. she'll be over it in a day or two, but yeah OP handled it just fine... I think he's overthinking it…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/16 11:26 PM
1

he might get a shot at having a woman's third child... you know... if 1/3 turn out looking sort of similar to him he might stick around
/r/TheRedPill02/01/16 11:12 PM
1

The funniest fucking shit ever when I first saw this. She literally fucked the last of her credibility in the ass with every pump she took on camera.
/r/askTRP31/12/15 06:34 PM
1

You're absolutely right with your "let's back this thing up" take on this. I did get ahead of myself a bit. He should read and apply the sidebar(s). If he gets himself to the point that he IS fuckable and leading and all that jazz, and for some reason the wife still has old beta him stuck in her head (perception inertia or something?), this would be a good way to go. If he's failing at something, he needs to fix that before worrying about any of these details with his wife. I appreciate you call…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 04:37 PM
1

"i've never enjoyed sex, I only do it because you want it" OP should have provided more context, but what more exactly do you need? You could start bringing whips and chains and spicing up the bedroom life, but there's a large chance you get "OMG i'm not like that, I JUST told you I don't even like sex" and then you have starfish with whips and chains... or you can go my route. "I understand hun, but I'm gonna have to have some side pieces because I love sex" next time she says it take it as her…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 04:06 PM
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come on, i didn't say hookers... but maybe she won't say how she has literally NEVER enjoyed sex with him again. equivalent from him is saying that he has actually never once, not a day in his life, enjoyed being committed to his wife. nonchalant "as long as I can have side pieces" every time she says this shit make it seem a little less like you might be joking. why should she be upset? she's actively saying she doesn't and hasn't ever enjoyed sex with him... if he doesn't enjoy playing tennis …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 12:21 AM
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I would use this as an opportunity to open the relationship on your side only (only for sex, which she doesn't like). Sounds like she is asking you to be understanding... she should be understanding as well. This will either change her feelings on sex or let you at least fuck people who like fucking. win win.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 10:32 PM
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I kind of took it as he "had her added" like... she has been his friend (on facebook) before this incident. Also, "Me: I don't know she prolly added me" also makes it seem like it didn't just happen. Either way though... he does know this person... he's just not actually close friends with them. He's not even married, he doesn't need to worry about his GF being insecure about a chick on facebook adding him. This is a shit test...
/r/askMRP21/12/15 08:46 PM
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This... absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you're a slob who doesn't do shit when he gets home home, doesn't fuck his girl right, is out of shape, etc. it doesn't matter if you work 20 or 80 hours a week. If you're a high value guy and you're never home she's going to be creaming her panties waiting for you to get back. OP: It wasn't the overtime that got this guy fucked, it was him.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/15 06:08 PM
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Change your POV. Your wife didn't "leave" you, you're moving on from your wife. I'm going to go out on a limb (is that even the right way of saying that?) here and assume she did some fucked up shit to you. Every time you start to miss her think of one of the most fucked up things she did to you or said to you. Now think to yourself... is that the type of person I want to be with? Should I ever let someone treat me like that? Answer is probably no to both of those questions.
/r/askMRP21/12/15 05:35 PM
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What was it? ($5 on because she's hot). How does this change anything? He is hamstering, but it doesn't affect this situation w/ his girl at all. "why do you have her added? She's not your friend ." LOL I mean this is easy enough to shut up... tons of ways. Pressure flip her and ask if she's really friends with every single person on her facebook. When she says yes then amplify it and ask her to print out a list of every single one of her friends and to explain their friendship in depth. If she …
/r/askMRP21/12/15 05:13 PM
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Yeah, I think we agree... my suggestion is always "do what you would have done if you had not initiated." If that is go out and hit the gym, there you go... If it's cook dinner with the wife, there you go. I know people get a little more extreme than this and I get that sometimes that's necessary... but changing your actions due to a rejection is like the definition of not being OI... Newbies should have something they would like to do that day/hour/afternoon/whatever in mind before they initiat…
/r/askMRP21/12/15 04:46 PM
1

You don't have to completely STFU lol, but: your're not giving me your full attention of course not, do you want me to crash? you just said becky in trauma is a complete moron.. I don't want my life in her hands tonight. (AA and see you were listening) blah blah blah, she's used to you trying to throw your 2c into every problem she has, but she'll eventually get used to this. you're probably acting differently overall and she's starting to pick up on the vibe a bit.
/r/askMRP20/12/15 01:47 AM
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God, every time I read some fucking "loyalty is masculine" shit on here I want to slit my wrists. It's TRPs version of a disney fantasy. Sexual relationship loyalty is masculine because men don't have built in abundance. Plenty of men lack loyalty in sexual and every other type of relationship.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/15 06:03 PM
5

yeah there's the number she tells you, the number she tells herself, and the real number. All usually different.
/r/askMRP19/12/15 03:43 PM
0

Still, TRP is shocking and he needs to see the end state which I layed out. I agree, I wouldn't be where I am today without you giving me a verbal ass kicking every time I (completely incorrectly) thought I had my shit together.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 12:06 AM
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I think we're agreeing on most things and disagreeing on the definition of dread. Also, you can't stretch blowjob to eating shit. I get how you're trying to make your point, but a blowjob is intrinsically a sexual act and eating shit is only viewed sexually by an EXTREME niche of society, who probably have some sort of mental illness, honestly. If a girl doesn't like shit in her mouth, she's normal... if she doesn't like DICK she might be a lesbian. If she's attracted enough to someone she WILL …
/r/askMRP18/12/15 11:48 PM
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I'm not, but I imagine OP wouldn't handle that situation well... so I wouldn't suggest him go down a road that could easily lead to that so quickly. After a year of gym, owning his shit, and actually being a man your move is absolutely right... but by then I imagine he won't be getting so many hard nos and he would have the balls (more like self respect) to toss her shit if she pulled that stunt. There's going to be confrontation on the way, that's for sure... but the 0-100 strategy is a hard se…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 11:21 PM
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This is the absolute truth from someone who has been there... i can do whatever the fuck i want now without appearing buthurt, because I have a long history of not being butthurt (faked it til i made it, now i just dgaf) but back in the dark ages leaving after a hard no just made me look like a child.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 10:54 PM
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"Okay, well I'm hitting the club with Jill tomorrow night, don't expect me home." "have fun" goes with Jill overnight at the club and comes home the next morning at 11am, freshly showered divorce?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 10:45 PM
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1) how dare you yell at me to do shit with you, then make fun of stuff I offer to do with you ignore 2) How dare you criticize climbing, I love climbing so fuck you if you don't she's doesn't give a fuck one way or another about climbing, she's just shit testing to test your frame... don't get so heated 3) we just got back from doing things and we went out earlier this week so your argument is already unfounded and now you're throwing low blows? argument completely illogical? well you don't have…
/r/askMRP18/12/15 08:35 PM
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I see your point.. I think it's more sustainable than just being with the beta alone or cheating behind his back... she's hamstering to herself that he's "cool with it." So to the hamster she's not disrespecting him... Maybe he'll have occasional breakdowns because he's not actually cool with it and she'll use the "but we've talked about this" line on him. If it happens too much, she'll probably blame him for ruining a good thing and tell him he's changed and controlling now... Staying with him …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 08:31 PM
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LOL OP actually forgot what flirting is I guess.. "just banter" is like the definition of flirting... gun to head emoji
/r/askMRP18/12/15 05:04 PM
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He's doing some self reflection and asking for advice... directed at OP: Anyway: ""p.s. we need to drink that bottle of French wine when you're home next"" IS a suggestion. She's trying to suggest something for you to do together and bringing up the wine you bough. You are acting like a douchebag and one who is insecure enough to analyze every statement so deep that he picks things to get offended by. Stop taking innocent comments (from anyone, not just a plate or GF) as slights... they aren't. …
/r/askMRP18/12/15 04:53 PM
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I came to say "you are eating at a deficit," but this guy already did, so I'm just going to agree with him. You're right about not all calories being the same. If you want to get ripped (and retain strength), keto is absolutely the way to go... but saying "losing half a pound a week not eating at a deficit," makes you sound like an uneducated bro scientist.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 06:05 PM
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That's not even what this is. Finding a beta who is okay with you openly riding strange dick AND willing to provide all that $ for the family? LOL she's won the lottery... no need to branch swing, as the article says, she already has the best of both worlds... sure the right Chad with the right $ could sweep her off her feet and steal her, but that could happen without an agreement to fuck other dudes. On another note, I find it funny how polygamy is a huge trigger word that people freak the fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 05:19 PM
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Some commentary: What are you doing to better yourself financially beyond just budgeting? Whatever you're doing for a career, double down on it. I don't care if you're flipping burgers at Mcdonald's, show up early, stay late, make sure that EVERYONE knows you're the best fucking employee at that store without being a piece of shit about it, of course. When you get that used bike you know what you need to do, right? Polish that shit up so that it looks brand spanking new. A little elbow grease an…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 05:05 PM
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i thought this was satire.
/r/askMRP16/12/15 07:48 PM
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The point is we were both just standing there in an embrace as we do from time to time and she starts crying, saying that she feels like she's in a rutt, that there's something wrong with our relationship, that we don't do things together. You don't make her feel special anymore? Sound right? It's lack of attraction. Attractive guys make her feel special when they do stuff for/with her. Imagine a fat hambeast offering you a blowjob or asking you to go out to dinner/dancing or something... make y…
/r/askMRP16/12/15 06:48 PM
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She told me that he was a huge part of her life, blah blah, no more sexual feelings, she only sees him as a friend, and that if I dump her she wouldn't go back to him anyways. She's not lying. He's the ultimate validation/beta bucks. Doesn't mean she wouldn't fuck him a time or two if the situation was right. Also, you don't need her keeping her #1 orbiter on your ship... you set the boundary, now can you stick to your guns? If you next her on this shit and take her back what kind of precedent a…
/r/askMRP16/12/15 05:35 PM
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Well... not to say I told you so, but I told you so. Good job actually staying vigilant, but like I said before... from an outside perspective this was pretty obviously the way it was heading. "He's just an orbiter," was your hamster lying to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/15 04:48 PM
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Yeah, texting is a direct route to miscommunication, so I agree there.. but you want change, lead to change. Sitting in this pretend IDGAF shell is going to lead to repeat behavior... I'd prefer not to have her calling daddy every time you have a minor hiccup in leadership... and then the day you can't hold it in anymore and explode on her she's going to immediately play the "YOU NEVER SAID ANYTHING BEFORE!" card. Anyway, glad I could help.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 11:03 PM
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I think you could have brought it up in a strong manner without seeming butthurt (though you were) and I think this can bother you without you even being butthurt. "Are you mad?" "No, but this is something I wanted to do with the kids myself, so I am disappointed. I understand that I dropped the ball blah blah blah (owning your shit). Next time please check with me before you have your dad come around to do blah blah blah thing. (affirming your masculine role in the family)" If anyone says that …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 10:39 PM
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EDIT THANKS GUYS - RIGHT ON COMMENTS. She texts me "are you mad about the deer?" I go "yeah I am fuming, it's hunting season so they're going down." Then 1 min later: "of course not babe, glad your dad stepped in". She goes "good. Thank god." I go "looking forward to seeing what undies you have on tonight" , she responds right away with description ... Thanks again brothers! ;-) Eh, I think she has you by the balls and you just don't recognize it. "no, i'm not mad mommy. can i still have a cooki…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 10:01 PM
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Beta hamstering his actions by using the term southern raised gentleman. You can be a strong, decisive gentleman... if that's your local culture. You just need to counter balance your "gentleman" traits with an equal dose of take no shit traits and you're basically a male unicorn.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/15 06:11 PM
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I'd say the main problem is that the guy she wants to fuck has to also know she wants to fuck him. Awkward group dynamic after that point. Yes, attraction isn't controllable, but she has to recognize that she is attracted to him and a good wife would consciously try to "stay away" from IOIs. I'm not buying the oblivious thing. She KNOWS she's getting tingles from him and yes, it's in her nature to try to fuck him... but that doesn't mean she can't override her nature with conscious decision to n…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 05:33 PM
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This is the right way to do it. If she sees other girls getting hot for you, you are much more likely to fulfill her hypergamy. Instead of validation from other dicks all the time, she'll have the validation from your dick that other females are trying to get at. It's why chicks stay with dudes who constantly cheat on them. Last chime in for OP is that girls who like to go to places "to be hit on" (bars with pickup atmospheres, wishing to go without her SO) are not great LTR investments.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 05:20 PM
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The real answer is to respond back something like "I'd like to see you try to go x amount of time without my dick." ass smack, leg rub, grin, whatever. If she is attracted to you that will turn her on and she knows she's yours. If she's not attracted to you she'll actually withhold sex and then you have bigger issues. Everyone here is naturally going to respond from the POV of the guy she isn't attracted to... or at least doesn't feel she's that attracted to. That's where they came from... since…
/r/askMRP11/12/15 11:36 PM
1

Yeah the answer is "Hot guys" Hot guys doing _______ fill in the blank with whatever the fuck you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 08:56 PM
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Not to reply back to your novel with just a quick snippet but: A) Apple products sell because they are high value/quality. Yes, once you have a name for yourself, you can tread a bit on your reputation. However, the iPhone IS the most user friendly phone on the market; it is also one of the most powerful phones on the market. It sells like hotcakes because of this. Yes, it can drag along some things like the watch... but look at all the sales on the watch this holiday season; it IS NOT doing tha…
/r/askMRP10/12/15 08:32 PM
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If your wife was hot enough you would 100% desire to eat her out while she was one her period. You might not be sticking your face in full force, but you completely could go down on a girl on her period without coming out looking like a war hero. and not to mention YOU DON'T HAVE BLOOD COMING OUT OF YOUR DICK. This is 110% about tingles. Yeah she'd rather not gag or whatever, some girls do have a weak gag reflex, I'll admit that much. If she was attracted enough to OP she would do it anyway (see…
/r/askMRP10/12/15 07:05 PM
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I think that Dread is about the tingles and blowjobs do not satisfy the tingles. I mean just because she gets tingly and wet doesn't mean she wants a dick slammed in her mouth. I think lube is the wrong way to go about it... there's no fucking way any sort of lube can make a dick less disgusting. and Bullshit, tingles make girls want dicks in their mouths. Yes, it's a prelude to wanting a dick in their pussy, but they (or at least a lot of them) still find it hot to give blowjobs (if they have l…
/r/askMRP10/12/15 06:41 PM
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Big difference between anger and losing control. Furious, to me, sounds like loss of control. I would never advocate it... if some girl can affect your emotions to that degree you need to work on your frame.
/r/askMRP08/12/15 07:18 PM
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Goddamn. 75% of those things you listed are plain insecurity on your part. But, the other 25% of them are straight up red flags... which probably incited your insecurity. Took her to meet one of my mates. Within a couple of minutes she was telling him about how her Jewish friend doesn't go further than oral sex before marriage and did he think it was weird (almost came across as shit test) Extreme use of her sexuality to garner attention ("friendship") from men... not LTR worthy. I think you're …
/r/askTRP08/12/15 05:14 PM
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the difference between the two depends 100% on your attachment and ability to walk away. In short, abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 05:07 PM
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When I hear repeated digs at the plan all I imagine is: finger over her mouth slowly "Shhhhh.... I've got this."
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 04:24 PM
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Also, this is a female's plausible cover for her boyfriend. She probably actually hamsters it as true to herself... but the right guy can make it "just happen." I bet she really does have a boyfriend... but if boyfriend's friends find her on Tinder and rat her out, beta boyfriend will believe every word lie she spits at him about "just chatting." Her: "OMG you are being so insecure! I even put my profile as NOT LOOKING FOR ANYTHING!!!" flips script, boyfriend ends up buying her flowers and a nic…
/r/askTRP08/12/15 03:54 PM
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if you're young, she's playing games with you. don't text her until she texts you and act like you forgot she even was supposed to text you. next text convo initiate a hang out immediately, not like "text me tomorrow." If she gives you a no without another offer of time/date, don't respond.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 03:47 PM
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When you're in a LTR the guy doesn't even have to be better, he just has to be different. Alpha guys get cheated on, beta guys get cheated on... you're just much more likely to get cheated on if you slip to the beta side. Women try to lock down a relationship, and the second they get it locked down they lose attraction (whether alpha or beta... a mono relationship is by definition beta). They're like the ultimate consumer; they want want want. But even that Ferrari you drive by each day and cove…
/r/askTRP08/12/15 03:44 PM
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Okay then. Keep a silent eye peeled but don't worry about this. The second you give her a reason to think these guys worry you she'll subconsciously lower your value and raise theirs (in her eyes). Don't get anxious or anything about it... if it was worth so much thought there would probably be more red flags. Come back if those pop up.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 12:01 AM
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I think it's more work for less satisfying pussy than spinning plates. Also, you may not end up getting fucked over/cheated on, but you have to accept the inherit risk of AWALT. In LTR. Would not get into a new LTR if I had known RP beforehand. My LTR was garbage, I have crafted it to the point that it is a net positive in my life. This mostly all involved me working on myself. Delusions of it "just being" a part of my life are dead and gone. LTR breeds familiarity which subsequently kills (or t…
/r/askTRP07/12/15 11:58 PM
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"She's not yours, it's just your turn." That is the epitome of actual RP LTR strategy. Go to MRP and you may get a different brand of that, but most of those guys would also say don't ever get married... so kind of the same thing.
/r/askTRP07/12/15 10:20 PM
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I'll care about what guys say about my smile when I care about guys sucking my dick.
/r/askTRP07/12/15 10:19 PM
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i'd ignore it personally
/r/askTRP07/12/15 09:36 PM
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Yep, she says dumb bullshit and he addresses it as if it's serious. Since he's the leader this makes it serious and her feelings are validated.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 09:29 PM
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I admittedly haven't dug into it, but are we actually going to believe it will cure their sex drive problems for the men they're with? Or more likely they'll end up hornier and their man will get a tiny trickle of pussy and the pill eventually actually pays dividends to hypergamy when she ends up cucking the shit out of him with all the alphas that now turn her on even more than before.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 09:25 PM
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Look at sex and attention pulling on a macro scale not a micro scale. Going and doing something else is fine if you're not butthurt about it, but don't make 100% sure that you leave her presence every time she denies you sex. Do what you would have been doing anyway if you hadn't even initiated. That's an easy way to not be responding in a butthurt way. If you were planning to go to the store with her before being rejected, do that. If you were planning to go hang with your friend for pool, do t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 08:19 PM
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Blah blah blah... AF/BB narrative with a sprinkle of revenge porn thrown in at the end to fire up the circle jerk. I'm positive the posts that got him endorsed on TRP were more insightful than this.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 08:11 PM
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I was going to question the age thing. I agree he might have been a Chad that she keeps a friendship with and that she might sleep with him if the right situation arose... but there are probably plenty of people she might sleep with if the right situation arose. Of course, I think she might keep up with him a little better than once every 6 months if she was still pining for him so hard. I guess I just wouldn't worry about the situation as much as he is. You saying "you are not to see Chad when …
/r/askTRP07/12/15 06:16 PM
2

Yeah. Basically flip into "Let's find out."
/r/askTRP07/12/15 05:46 PM
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The answer is DGAF. If the rest of your relationship is fine, this is small potatoes. If tingles man shows up in town just run AMOG on him. You pick the bar you guys get drinks at. Either somewhere you know well, or something new and cool. You run the interaction and make it fun for all of you. He goes on his way and she loses tingles for him and gains them for you. This was probably just a shit test by her lol. You reacting is failing. DGAF. If she was actually hanging out with an ex or somethi…
/r/askTRP07/12/15 05:44 PM
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Try this way: don't think of it as withdrawal affection/attention. Just think of it as what would you be doing right now had you not initiated. Look at your sex trend line. If you're getting more sex on the long term view don't pull attention/affection. If your sex trend line is going downward, pick up some hobbies and do some more you time until it stabilizes. Once it's at a level you're good with stick with roughly that amount of attention with bouts of extra and less attention as your life/sc…
/r/askMRP06/12/15 02:43 AM
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I think "the reset button" is immensely helpful and I don't even mean sex/denial wise. She's being a huge bitch or starting some shit for no reason? Goes to bed mad? Whatever, I'm not engaging to try and "fix" it and I'm not even worried about it, but she'll probably get less/0 attention from me. But the next morning I'll still do the usual morning routine and it won't involve less affection than usual or anything. I'm too busy to waste my life holding grudges. If it was just her feelz I'll just…
/r/askMRP06/12/15 02:37 AM
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Later that night, I get close to her on the couch, escalate a little bit, start making out. We decide to go to bed. About two nights prior, we had sex twice, before and after dinner, so maybe what happens next is ASD. I start escalating again, and she gets all "turtled-up" but clings to me cuddling. I push a little more til I get a hard no. Then I roll over and start to fall asleep. She says "What? Now you're not gonna cuddle?" I simply say "no". I have a feeling she viewed it as butt-hurt, desp…
/r/askMRP04/12/15 10:24 PM
1

agreed, tinder slut not letting you in her hotel room to smash?
/r/TheRedPill04/12/15 09:57 PM
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I'm trying to be mindful of how I come across in our interactions. That day after I came home, said "Good morning" gave a wink and kissed her on the forehead before getting up. I don't know how to say it, but being mindful of how you come across is kind of "wrong." Just be aware of your attitude and realize your attitude leads hers. Don't worry about coming off wrong to her... just do you. But be honest with yourself on your actual mood. Don't have like a fake eggshell act when you get home tryi…
/r/askMRP04/12/15 06:09 PM
1

I vote divorce but if you must... I don't think you're passing shit tests. Last Friday I went out with a good friend and as I’m going bar hopping downtown, my wife texts me “You better be coming home, I left the front door unlocked”. I didn’t respond, and came home at around 12:30. The next day is business as usual, just coolness and negativity. When I come home from a trip she will accuse me of cheating as and analyze my response to see if I’m lying. She doesn’t seem worried if I did or not, sh…
/r/askMRP04/12/15 04:12 AM
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Leadership is your job. And you're always leading her, even when you're not.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 11:08 PM
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ITT: a bunch of shitty one liners upvoted to hell.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/15 11:02 PM
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Eh... IDK. His mental illness was his problem. He was extremely cocky about pretty much everything about himself. He was bluepill in the fact that he wanted immediate results for anything he did without putting in any effort... and I guess when he cringely called himself the ultimate gentleman and shit. But he obviously got that women liked looks, muscles, power and influence (money)... And of course he was looking for a unicorn... IDK I read his manifesto and I don't blame it on blue pill condi…
/r/TheRedPill03/12/15 10:59 PM
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BP warning LTR kissed a guy and admitted it... sent me the text convo where he apologized for kissing her (they were drunk). Swore up and down she didn't remember a thing... I noticed a gap in the text screenshot she sent where he had a responsive tone when the only text above was also from him. Pretty fucking obvious it was a deleted text by her. It got to the point where she was laying on my floor banging her head against the wall crying "is this how someone guilty would act?" "Why can't you j…
/r/TheRedPill03/12/15 10:30 PM
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of course, he's just supposed to 'get it' Basically... better off not giving a fuck who she's texting, that will turn her on. They really would want you to be doing the same. They want to know you're desired and can still game women... they just don't want it rubbed in their face. Also, asking for the phone comes in two flavors (trust me, I know). There is the beta flavor where you let her shame you and get all emotional and shit... been there, done that. Too busy DEERing to even see anything on…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 05:04 PM
1

ugh, shouldn't have read that forum. Now I want to go buy spy gear, my inner childs toy fantasy is mixing up my AWALT sensors Hahaha... literally same thing happened to me. Like oh god I need double sided velcro now, who knew?! But it's okay, I don't care to find out she was lying when she said she was home all day but really she went to taco bell or to hear her on her phone telling her besty that this guy flirting in the grocery store line was a hunk. Unless there is a huge reason to suspect cu…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 04:57 PM
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You saved this post with It's for the wives who get angry when a picture isn't perfect or their photo isn't as popular as someone else's. Because honestly these little distractions and shit throughout the day aren't as bad as we make them out to be. Oh I scroll through instagram while i'm taking shit? I'm sure my dad busted out the Reader's Digest. I know the US has turned into consumption junkies, but unless it's taken to an actual addictive level I don't see a huge problem with the social medi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 04:41 PM
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At least you see it and are owning it. My only 2c is that it sounds like you had oneitis for this woman before she ever worked for you. Glad that she was an asset to your company, but it sounds like she could have easily been a drain on it and you would have given her extra slack due to your obsession. Make sure that doesn't happen again, it could backfire in the future. I wouldn't feel bad about using an attractive female as a motivation for that last pull up at the gym. It's not hurting anythi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 05:22 PM
0

These 7 blade razors are like the epitome of the pussification and consumerism of the US. Safety razors are not only about 100x cheaper, but they just make you feel more like a man. Shit, I've debated getting a straight razor... but not sure if I quite have the balls for that yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 05:10 PM
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It's easy as fuck. The only way this works is if she was already submissive to you and DTF at a moments notice. If she is frigid and not putting out as a GF then you have lost attraction and she's DEFINITELY not going to be okay being a plate. That should have been obvious though, but it sounds like this is the kind of situation you're describing. Only reasons I see to do this is if you're currently not (that) attracted to her, she has a bad personality but is hot, or you've changed yourself to …
/r/askTRP02/12/15 12:04 AM
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Were any of the links the color they turn when you click them? as much as i hate to say it there are tons of logical explanations that will make you look like a huge bitch when you bring it up. If you knew she had been going through posts I think a call out might be in order but seriously here's what I would do. Drop it completely for two weeks. Then mention your friend from a previous life (college, HS, etc) mentioned to you or you saw on his facebook or you heard from a friend of a friend fuck…
/r/askTRP01/12/15 11:29 PM
1

The problem with tit for tat on out slutting a female and "giving her a taste of her own medicine," is that it's basically impossible to win. You can call 7 girls from your past and sure one might go out with you, and maybe if you're lucky you could fuck her... your (ex) gf could walk outside and bend over a curb and a guy walking by would literally come fuck the shit out of her without her doing an ounce of work. This isn't going to work. You're doing this to make you feel better about her acti…
/r/askMRP01/12/15 04:08 PM
1

She's DYING for a strong leader. Every "Am I doing well?" question on this sub could be answered with "Are you leading your wife?" That's literally all she's asking for. Respect, sex, etc. etc. all revolve around that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/15 01:26 AM
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Sometimes we enjoy doing the same activities... that's easy. Some activities she enjoys but I don't... A lot of the times she does these alone and sometimes I do them with her because I know she likes doing things with me. I don't pretend to like something to make her happy; she knows these things aren't my favorite. She is the same way, there are things I like that I'd enjoy her company at but she's not fond of...
/r/askMRP01/12/15 01:19 AM
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If I was really just about to bust I'd tell her I needed to borrow her vagina for 5 seconds because I was about to blow.
/r/askMRP01/12/15 01:10 AM
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So give her what she wants. Tell her "Hey, I'm better than this. Please go take all the space you need and don't come back". Well that was literally one of the 3 ways, I'm sure. Do that, go no contact, and then wait a week or so. If she doesn't contact you within a week block her number and never talk to her again, but most likely this will turn her around... for the time being. When she comes back tell her that her actions have been unacceptable and that you aren't going to put up with this. Le…
/r/askMRP30/11/15 11:41 PM
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most girls i know who hang out alone with their drug dealer have fucked their drug dealer at least once... just giving you a heads up.
/r/askMRP30/11/15 11:35 PM
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Eh, some girls like to be really manhandled... I would have grabbed her wrist and held it to her and smirked at her and kept going... if she didn't just kind of let me hold her wrist and actually tried to slip out I would have quit. Like she really protested you stopping fucking her? Fight or flight seems like she wouldn't have done that.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/15 11:02 PM
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I would have escalated the physicality expecting her to get turned on by it until I got a very hard no. She protested when you said you were done? She wants you to put her in her place (IMO). Slight neck choke and deep thrusting... if she play fights back keep going, if she really flips and is like asking you to stop in a real tone I'd stop and make a joke about her not being able to play her own game. And I would act like it never happened tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/15 10:22 PM
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Then today as we were watching some family videos I told her "i'm gonna make a video of us having sex". To which she replied "I'm never going to allow that". Which made me angry and sad, but I didn't say or show anything, I just went on doing my business. Until you actually pull this off she's never gonna be like "oh that's gonna be hot!" Whatever she says in one ear and out the other. I'd be like "just you watch ;)" and ignore whatever she says back. Then one day when she's into it bust out the…
/r/askMRP30/11/15 10:10 PM
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TLDR: Boundaries. "Chad just texted me teehee." "Oh cool, who is he?" "Oh some guy I used to fuck. LOL" (paraphrasing) "hmm, what's he want?" "to go on a walk this afternoon." "oh really? he's not the dinner and a movie type?" "OMG OP I can't believe you're mad about this! He's just a friend!" "I'm not mad, it's just inappropriate for someone in a mono relationship" "No it's not! it's totally normal to hang out alone with men other than your LTR! you're being insecure and controlling!" "You can …
/r/askMRP30/11/15 09:49 PM
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about to hang out with her BFs friend, probably on the sly: she's a hoe.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 06:20 PM
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she was getting over you... lack of your validation made her question her choice. once you give her validation she'll do this again after a while. might be 2 weeks might be 6 months, but it will happen.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 04:50 AM
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The trick is she has tried to trap you into something that there aren't many responses for that don't make you look "bad." Make sure you never say anything negative that she can hamster to being inclusive of your daughter or she WILL bring it up for the rest of your life. And if you ever divorce she will tell your daughter "what her dad said about her." So, with that in mind, I think you did decent in the moment. I'd much rather fail a shit test that way than have my daughter force fed things I …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 04:29 AM
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This could be a whole post. "You make me feel so sad! and you don't love me!" tears On the surface this could easily be confused as a comfort test... but when the underlying reason for the action is manipulation or the "real" emotion is anger... well obviously a shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 01:12 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2org8m/how_to_know_you_are_dating_a_slut_source_i/
/r/askMRP25/11/15 11:19 PM
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Shoelaces are a good route into tying up.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 11:03 PM
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Even in the thread where "you vs I" started everyone mentions that it's not really a rule, just a good starting point. In this case you're right... I think 100% shit test disguised as comfort test. My guess is she knows she is not quality enough to be with you, or at least hasnt been stepping up her game. It's all part of the dread and stages your wife will go through. Every man in this sub gets hit with that every now and again. If she thought that she wouldn't be shooting him down or resisting…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 10:37 PM
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Eh lol... idk about that. "You hate your daughter and me" is such a fucking bullshit line. That was 100% manipulation. "Do you just not love me anymore???" - Comfort test "you hate your daughter and me" - shit test
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 10:30 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/top https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3kd00w/it_works/ To realize how hard you can 180 your life. But I still think lift is the #1 thing... if anything can naturally make you more "red pill" it's the gym and the confidence that comes with being fit.
/r/askMRP25/11/15 03:17 AM
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you're on the backburner while she branch swings.
/r/askMRP25/11/15 02:48 AM
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LOL. That's the part of the conversation you have a question about? Tell me you're just here trolling TRP, right? You lost frame like the second response into that conversation, then she straight up called you out on it... she's fucking with you now dude, this is a lost cause. Since you have no frame she's legit asking how your tinder experience has been since she can't imagine you fucking any girls from using it. Unless you're a 9/10+ in looks, she's drying up by the second. Casual dating is fe…
/r/askTRP24/11/15 05:53 PM
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i think chicks orgasms are mostly mental, and if you have a huge cock she's going to expect it to be amazing and thrilling and so it's like easy mode. just like i think having big muscles will make girls orgasm harder and those don't evne touch their vag.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 05:40 PM
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you're going to get a lot of duty sex with a GF who resents you. turn back now. she doesn't want to think she's calling the shots. you sound like a troll.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 05:36 PM
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Be the captain: give her a quick list of things to do that will make your life easier. She's being submissive and asking to be led. So, lead her. When she does good, tell her. Establishing frame and dominance (leadership) will do much more for your sex life than demands. Keep initiating to show that you have a sexual appetite that needs to be kept up with. Don't withdrawal to such a crazy degree based on individual rejections. If she thinks you run home and cry every time you don't get in her gu…
/r/askMRP24/11/15 05:31 PM
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Reading your post it's kind of obvious that you really aren't doing things right... of course breaking up with her raised her attraction temporarily, but if that's all you change she's going to fall right back into the same old patterns. Like he said, see you in a month. Go to MRP and read the sidebar.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 02:58 AM
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Would you mind driving by [location C] on your way home? If it is free, it would make a lot more sense to go there [instead of location A] and then walk to [location B]. In hindsight she's being a baby who wants to feel like her ideas are important and this would have all been fine with: "That would be a good idea, except logistical impossibility" But, you're not a fucking mind reader and shouldn't be expected to be... plus, you're busy. So: Weren't we going to have it at [location C] the last t…
/r/askMRP23/11/15 11:58 PM
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You've got a point, somewhat. But the reality is, she's buying dick and you're selling dick. If she has absolute 0 interest in your dick then she's probably a lost cause, but the reason we have salesmen is because people usually start out in that grey area. That's also the reason game works. If girls just 1 and 0'd you, gonna fuck, not gonna fuck, every girl would have an n count well into the hundreds. That's not the case, so clearly there is a filter at work beyond just initial physical attrac…
/r/TheRedPill23/11/15 10:02 PM
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I think you would have gotten just as good of sex after her coming down to initiate. You know you fucked that part up but I don't think the recovery was some grand slam. I mean another day another dollar and this post obviously required an update. You got your composure back and life went on, I mean you're married, not sure what to say to anyone expecting a different ending. My two cents is that I don't think she gets the sexual rejection thing like you do. She doesn't experience it the same way…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 07:21 PM
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Ah, and here we go. This is the difference between plates and LTRs. Familiarity breeds this kind of change in the relationship dynamic... plates want this too but their constant struggle for your validation makes them more and more sexually attracted to you. They don't usually fall because of attraction, they fall because lack of comfort. Luckily you're not too far gone... these guys on MRP have gone years and turned it around. They may not ever get back to the first dating level because of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 06:15 PM
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You felt defensive because you have no frame. /u/strategos_autokrator nailed it. Just accept what people are pointing out here, please. They're not trying to berate you, they're trying to help you better yourself... and you should be grateful because they're not getting anything out if it... they're helping a stranger on the internet just because they can. By all means, if you think you're right about something on here argue the shit out of it (if it's that important to you), but everyone readin…
/r/askMRP19/11/15 06:06 PM
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People take the "I" vs "you" way too literally here. That doesn't automatically lump comfort vs shit test, it's just an easy starting point... someone said it here and now it's repeated as if it's the fucking golden rule. Anyway, I'm not sure about this. It depends on the way she says it. Accusatory? Shit test. Unsure of herself? Comfort test. At least that's how I'd treat it... waiting for someone to come in and tell me to read the sidebar. I feel like your relationship is in a weird changing s…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 12:28 AM
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Are you initiating because you want sex or because you want to prove to yourself you can get sex in the morning because it's harder? In essence just needing the validation. Found myself initiating at times I didn't even want sex because I needed the validation. No wonder she wasn't in the mood. What can you do to not care? If sex isn't a rare commodity to you, you probably just shouldn't care. Oh and read.... everything.... twice. And this is more suited for /r/askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 12:24 AM
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Exactly, if she's the hottest in the bar at 21, she's the 5th hottest at 25, she might be the 10th hottest at 30... but she's still one of the hottest. Eventually she'll hit the wall... but it will probably be LONG after it matters.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/15 12:19 AM
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I dunno how nobody has said this... but are you good in bed?
/r/askTRP18/11/15 10:59 PM
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This lol Dude comes in here saying how he read TRP for a year and now just "gets" that he hasn't been doing shit with his life. Hasn't lifted in 9 months? What the fuck part of TRP did he read? But you nailed it: You get what you deserve. Life may not be fair but work life is probably one of the most fair places in the world. For the most part it isn't run on illogical emotions (like women) so if you bring real value to your company you will get paid for it... or you can demand to be and find a …
/r/TheRedPill18/11/15 10:26 PM
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Obv he cared a little bit and obv he was pissed to a degree about her lying to him with such conviction. I probably wouldn't have gone out of my way to text her but if she ever contacted me again I would call her ass out on it with the first reply. "Hey OP why don't we ever hang out anymore?!" "Hey Alice, remember that time that you fucked Steve and lied to my face about it?" That'd probably be the last thing I ever said to her. I wouldn't even care that ghosting her without any response would p…
/r/TheRedPill18/11/15 07:07 PM
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LOL even when you don't give two shits and the relationshit is over she's still more concerned about her self image and smoking out the mole so that she can shame them for telling you something that "wasn't your business." Got a nice little anger phase tingle there... thanks OP.
/r/TheRedPill18/11/15 06:57 PM
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Either way, this was a shit post.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 05:12 AM
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Come ask for advice... get advice that is highly upvoted.. argue said advice. Great use of askMRP. Also, your frame is not your frame if you're so goddamn shaky about it. And if you're so worried about looking like a beta, guess what? Got ladder... had sex. is just as transactional as if you had thrown in a wink and flirted back with your wife.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 03:33 AM
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You're still solidly in her frame.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 11:26 PM
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Blowjobs YAY Update... red flags galore. So she wants to fuck this guy and now made plans with him... what does that tell you? lol OF COURSE it will "just happen" She just HAPPENED to make plans with him (alone)... they just HAPPENED to do copious amounts of shots at this concert... they just HAPPENED to go back to his house/car/behind the port-o-potty. And she just HAPPENED to fuck him. Oh and by the way, she was way too drunk it's not her fault, she didn't plan for this to happen! Oh you're ma…
/r/askMRP17/11/15 11:24 PM
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Posted in your other thread before I saw this but JESUS - my personal advice only: Skimmed this but the answer to this is overwhelmingly next her lol IMO - I can see a lot of people saying "you can come back from anything!" ... "i don't feel like we're together" is so she feels better when she fucks another guy because she "told you we weren't together" Why are you so scared of her drinking? Has she given you reason to not trust? But while ive been doing this ive also been really controlling tel…
/r/askMRP17/11/15 10:55 PM
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Skimmed this but the answer to this is overwhelmingly next her lol IMO - I can see a lot of people saying "you can come back from anything!" ... "i don't feel like we're together" is so she feels better when she fucks another guy because she "told you we weren't together" Why are you so scared of her drinking? Has she given you reason to not trust? But while ive been doing this ive also been really controlling tell her who she can and cant hang around and that she cannot drink alcohol when im no…
/r/askMRP17/11/15 10:49 PM
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This isn't choreplay, this is a come on. Your sex life is healthy... keep up the good work. For the record, I would winky face, wouldn't even say "I'll think about it." You're winning the game, don't overthink it. People have the habit of seeing a golden opportunity and automatically assuming it must be a trap.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 10:34 PM
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But ask her if confidence is attractive and get a resounding yes. She wants the real deal, "cocky" to her is try hard fake bravado. This shit test actually weeds that out. A really cocky guy would laugh in her face rather than fall into her frame... The guys say it here all the time but she wants someone who just gets it.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 05:20 PM
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She was attracted to you and I know all the lies she's told you your whole relationship may say differently but women are fine getting fucked on their period if they want you to fuck them in the first place. Shit I've had them use that as reason to fuck! "No, I don't have a condom" "I'm on my period, I don't think I can get pregnant" as she's basically sucking the life out of my dick. (yes, stupid me - I was a young teenager and this girl was hot as hell so I fucked the shit out of her raw in my…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 04:40 PM
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I would take a week off of any movement that could hurt my back. I would go light the next session and see how it feels. Then I'd probably deload a tiny bit and go back to the 5x5 and work back up. Anyone saying to get someone to check your form is right as well.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 02:48 AM
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"so and so relative/celebrity/whatever that was important to me just died and i realized you have to take advantage of every day of your life and live it to the fullest." her hamster should do all the rest... if she says "what does that mean?" don't provide a straight answer just say IDK it just made sense or some other dumb non answer shit... this get rid of this question and have her wondering what exactly you're going to be changing since you're now bettering yourself and being more in charge…
/r/askMRP17/11/15 02:44 AM
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You'll never get the truth, you'll just teach her to cover her tracks. Continue snooping until you feel confident you can trust her. If you find anything, simply leave. No reason to dig harder than that.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 02:31 AM
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You next her and see if it gets her in line. "I understand that your religion is important to you but obviously we're very different on that front, I don't think we should continue this relationship but I'd love to keep in touch as friends." Then you disappear... She had enough attraction to you to break her "vows to god" or whatever bullshit she believes but now she doesn't.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 02:27 AM
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"If I want to have sex with you"
/r/askMRP17/11/15 02:22 AM
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lol i'm kind of over the one liners but this is a perfect spot "trying?" in a tone that insinuates it's all natural.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 05:38 PM
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My only question is why you're not more overt about the fact that you're stepping out on your marriage. Not from a moral POV... You just clearly fear something if you're hiding it. Fear may be too strong of a word, but you're clearly avoiding something. Just don't want to deal with the pain in the ass that comes along with it? Or you're afraid she'll cash out on the marriage?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 05:05 PM
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Depends homie, the girls who are 10s with makeup and hair dye fall off quick... The natural knockouts can ride it out quite a while.
/r/TheRedPill15/11/15 06:49 AM
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yeah, if the shits already going down the drain, no reason to bust out the plunger.
/r/askMRP14/11/15 10:12 PM
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Tip: Always be in DGAF mode. Also, attention is a gradient. If you treat it as 1 and 0 you're going to get called out for being butthurt because it's going to come off that way. Say attention level starts at 5/10... she does something positive, move her up a level... she does something negative move her down a level. Extreme things can move up or (especially) down more than one level. If she does something extreme enough to pull multiple attention points she should expect to lose your attention.…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/15 09:45 PM
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you haven't been giving her validation... she figured she will throw you out some bait to feel good about herself and make sure you still want her. this is based off this one post.. especially if she has BPD or similar. you not valuing her ends with her devaluing herself. the second you give her validation she will devalue you. I would respond with something along the lines of you will remember the good times too (not miss... just remember) and thanks for the pic without giving any validation of…
/r/askMRP14/11/15 09:41 PM
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Also, girls this hot have a much longer shelf life.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/15 04:48 PM
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make a grindr profile if you want to feel what it's like to be a girl on tinder
/r/TheRedPill14/11/15 05:36 AM
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Depending on the type of acne scarring there is treatment that helps a lot, but some kinds can't be helped. Go to the derm and see what they recommend, actually hit a couple and get a consensus and then research your ass off online and make sure you aren't going to make things worse. Do this in secret for like a year to make sure you have enough research done and you're not looking like a reactionary bitch. Acne.org - you can post your picture and people there will tell you whats up. They're lit…
/r/askMRP13/11/15 05:21 PM
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I don't think the nature of women has ruined this, I think society has. Read around here, you can have a good marriage... but it's definitely hard mode. Dating failures are easy to overcome, uncle sam yanking your wallet because some chick lost tingles for you is a lot harder. I want to get married one day too. Or I guess I "dream of it," but I don't lust after it or need it. It would take years of exeptionally good behavior from a plate/girlfriend to get to that level for me. And even then I kn…
/r/askMRP13/11/15 04:43 PM
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She mentioned with absolute disgust that there are conservatives who believe it's okay to force their wives to have sex with them, as long as the don't look them in the eyes. That is absolutely disgusting, don't fool yourself. You know what these men should be doing? Nexting their shitty wives. Let's get mad at the court system that makes it financially hard as shit for a man to get rid of his shit wife. Not to mention custody stuff. Either way, this isn't slavery... the man might get wrecked in…
/r/TheRedPill13/11/15 04:29 PM
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I think our society has led them to consciously take advantage of certain aspects of this nature. See: Divorce rape, a crying girl always being looked at as a victim (even if she just murdered someone), plenty of other shit I'm sure you already know. That's the kind of stuff that I'll judge someone on. Once the obviously conscious decision line is crossed I'm all for hating on shitty actions. Ex. wife gets tingles for a Chad that walks by... waste of my energy to care. - wife does elaborate plan…
/r/TheRedPill13/11/15 04:13 PM
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If a woman thought she was getting say marriage but he was just using her for his own ends and lying to her, perhaps getting engaged to her to have really great sex for a year and then dumping her... if this happened you and everyone else would be outraged. Minus the actual act of getting engaged this is like the female version of what I'm talking about. Pretty common theme: girl thinks the relationship is "going somewhere," while the guy knows it isn't. The problem is that we are directly and u…
/r/TheRedPill13/11/15 06:18 AM
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Literally boo fucking hoo. Men and women say do this or say this to women and men do it because they think it will get them pussy. That doesn't make the man a martyr, he's in it for his own interest as well he just gets mad when it doesn't work out because he feels if he does all this shit it is owed to him. Getting upset over this is a victim complex. Single mothers aren't telling their sons to be nice to girls and whatever to shamelessly fuck over their offspring, they just don't realize that …
/r/TheRedPill13/11/15 12:33 AM
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"just got out of something serious and i'm really not ready for this kind of relationship right now, sorry. I respect you a lot so I don't want to lead you on." basically do this the next time she texts you something gushy or that basically is asking for an emotional response from you. she'll get the hint and if you ever want to fuck her in a year or two you probably can at will.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 10:59 PM
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OP - I think you're orbiting less than they think. We'll see could also mean she has plans with the BF and it's hard to ditch a bf on your birthday. Does this girl have the ability to make you look bad socially if you strike out? If not "Do you need me to come up with a good story for you boyfriend?" Just act like that's what she means when she says we'll see... your frame. If she isn't into you at all and she doesn't know anyone you know who gives a fuck if it doesn't work. This may activate so…
/r/askTRP12/11/15 10:41 PM
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Craves your validation because she is used to having everybody's validation. If she was actually trying to cheat on Chad with you she'd be more sly about it.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 10:14 PM
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We're (or at least our BP conditioning) our own enemy. We only get angry at women because we convince ourselves that they owe us something. I've never watched the show (Orange is the New Black) but I saw it quoted somewhere else and I think it's pretty fitting: "You can’t spend your whole life holding the door open for people and then being angry when they don’t say thank you. Nobody asked you to hold the fucking door."
/r/TheRedPill12/11/15 08:01 PM
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This is your problem. who dreams of getting married someday you need to cut that out. so many of the guys here wouldn't have married if they knew what they know now. even with MRP knowledge marriage is still a knife in the gut of passion and desire. it can be done, but TRP/spinning plates will get you more/better sex and less bullshit.
/r/askMRP12/11/15 04:41 PM
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if she uses tinder she is plate material at best
/r/TheRedPill12/11/15 05:09 AM
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