I need help getting motivation

cyan_reynolds · 2022-11-16T00:32:48+00:00

Same, it's seriously difficult a lot of the time. Personally, I've just been trying to set up small, fun things to look forward to like playing video games for a few hours or grabbing fast food after a late shift instead of cooking. Those help me focus on something positive through the day. If I get frustrated I think about how I get to do those fun things later and it helps give me a minor sense of purpose. The important thing here is that you get to do these things regardless of how much homework you got done, how well/poorly your shift went or what have you. You got up and tried today, so you get that reward.

Also, I try to set small goals like making sure I do at least one chore every day, or apply for one new job, etc. So that every day I have at LEAST one thing that I can't point to and say, "Here! I did this thing today!"

That said, sometimes I have days where I seriously can't do anything, I just want to lay around all day. And that's ok. I might feel miserable, but it's ok. It's not wrong to feel bad, everyone has tough days - it's OK. It's just one day, we'll try again tomorrow!

Not that I'm great at always following my own advice but this kinda helps me sometimes. Wish you luck!

UnHope20 · 2022-11-16T02:17:21+00:00

The phenomenon that you're describing is called avolition and it sucks as I'm sure you can attest.

You might be suffering from a mental issue. Several neuropsychiatric disorders can effect motivation including depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and ADHD.

There are also lifestyle factors which may contribute to this. Too little or low quality sleep, high calorie diets, sustained low calorie diets, recreational drug use.

There are also hormonal issues that could be a factor. Undiagnosed adenomas of the pancreas, parathyroid, adrenals or thyroid can result in low energy or low motivation.

Best advice I can give is to see a doctor, drink plenty of water and get some sleep.

I should add that too much screen time can zap motivation as well. This one hurts students a lot because everything is via screens now.

Hope this helps. Sorry and good luck man

Title	I need help getting motivation
Author	Loopedtiger3522
Upvotes	19
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Date	November 15, 2022 6:34 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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