I’m 28 and feel like a failure

thrwawaycoco · 2024-10-11T20:10:35+00:00

You are not a failure. You are someone. You have touched my life. I acknowledge you.

Is there anything you like to do? If not, try one of these three things.

Rock climbing
Hiking.
Biking.

All three are group activities.

handdripped · 2024-10-11T17:54:00+00:00

Giving you a big hug, brother. There are two components of our souls that are largely absent in modern life, especially for men: community & divine love. Start praying and explore the divine, whatev6that means to you. Find some men that you can be in community with, at the gym, at a church, bike groups, even at the gaming shop. Find a men's group. We'll be there for you. hang in there - your purpose is inside you just waiting to come out

naffhouse · 2024-10-11T18:57:44+00:00

Tomorrow is a new day.

Let’s both just get through this day and see what tomorrow brings.

Horticulturist1 · 2024-10-11T19:50:55+00:00

What are you doing with that personal time? When I know I’m going to sit and be stuck in my head, I get out to the gym, go for 15-40km bike ride, or head out fishing by myself. Keep building your self-identity in your personal time.

DelRMi05 · 2024-10-12T00:41:56+00:00

A lot of us feel like that. We can talk about why that is if you want, but I'll give you some quick advice. If good personal finance strategy includes paying yourself first, like saving 10% of every paycheck, then why doesn't that include time? Set aside some time daily, with bigger blocks once or twice a week. Schedule exercise in, and make sure you get to partake in your hobbies.

Depression is a hard thing to conquer but if you are on a healthier schedule it can pay dividends. You got this.

MarionberryCalm7205 · 2024-10-11T20:15:37+00:00

Maybe you are. That’s ok. Do better. It’s not over until you’re dead.

Insightful-Beringei · 2024-10-12T00:54:59+00:00

My friend. You must find an activity. One that has a trajectory, ideally a huge skill gap, that yoy can devote yourself to. Learn for learnings sake, and find community in the process

Critical-Limit3 · 2024-10-12T19:57:55+00:00

I send you all my support, im in a very similar place in life, im stuck and every month brings another disgrace ... But i know that there is no evil that lasts a 100 years, tomorrow will come and it might be a bit better, just hang in there, wait and see, the sun will rise brother

FerrySober · 2024-10-22T00:13:45+00:00

Get out of your head. Don't overanalyze things. Do these 5 things:

Exercise. Everyday. Any kind.
Meditate. No overthinking. Calm the mind. Focus.
Read for one 1 hour. No screen. Create a growth - learning mindset. Get rid of doomscrolling.
Sleep at the same time and for 8-9 hours. Daily.
Cook healthy food at home. No alcohol. No Doordash.

Just execute. Don't analyze. Do this for 30 days. Come back here. I challenge you.

fortzimmerman · 2024-12-09T01:45:50+00:00

Starting out sucks and sometimes takes a while. I had it similar til I found a good outlet and people who made me do things. It took til I was about 33 for that to happen. Be open to things and you may turn it around fast

BigBear92787 · 2024-12-23T03:43:55+00:00

I am 9 years older then you. I just got out of prison about 2 years ago. My life is a shambles. My wife is expecting our first child in 2 months.

I just got myself a halfway decent job but it's barely gonna be enough honestly.

I got some other prospects to make more income and may be able to improve our life financially but it's gonna be blood sweat and tears.

My point is. It's all about perspective. I'm happy. Honestly, struggling, but happy because I've seen what real shitty life can be

So my advice? Go to prison for a while, haha no don't do that.

But maybe volunteer at a homeless shelter. Meet and speak, with people who would Honestly kill to be in your position because Honestly it sounds like you got your shit together.

You'll grow to appreciate what you have.

Title	I’m 28 and feel like a failure
Author	Dmet2
Upvotes	21
Comments	11
Date	October 11, 2024 3:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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