Work Temper

Name-Is-Ed · 2023-01-25T04:04:08+00:00

How long have you been at that job? The quick fix is probably getting a new job, even if it's just doing the same thing somewhere else. I'd actually recommend doing this sooner rather than later before you burn bridges.

Long term fix is, well, exactly what you're doing. Plus making sure to develop a healthy social life and addressing any past traumas etc., But that takes months to years to have a deep effect.

Personally I'm a pretty calm person but get burned out with most jobs after a few years. Tends to be a kind of nasty cycle because my relationships with others deteriorate and that makes it easier to be set off again. It's gotten easier to control as I've gotten older, but I know to brush my resume up when it starts creeping in again.

uniptf · 2023-01-25T12:14:48+00:00

It sounds like you're doing proper things to take care of yourself, but maybe there's something more going on... Are there working conditions at the job that lead to your anger? A difficult supervisor or manager? Things you find unfair? Are you struggling financially? Do you dislike the work now, after a few years of being there? Are there things unrelated to your job that are on your mind? Family or relationship issues? Medical? Is there a history of this sort of anger in your family? Maybe you should get a counselor/therapist and start talking about the detailed things we don't know about that trigger your anger, and what's at the root of it.

If it's just the work you don't like, there are a ton of other fields to try.

These guys seem to really enjoy these possible different careers:

Land Surveying

https://www.reddit.com/r/WorkReform/comments/zz05u8/update_can_my_fellow_salaried_employees_tell_me

"LPT: Stuck in a low wage retail job and want more? The print/sign industry is where to look."

https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/vew3td/lpt_stuck_in_a_low_wage_retail_job_and_want_more/

And you can consider starting some business of your own that lets you work for yourself. You'll still be working, and you'll work some long hours and/or unusual hours, and/or on some days and/or nights you'd rather be doing something else, but you'll also only report to yourself, and get to be left alone unless you mess up and have to answer to clients/customers. But you'll also be the guy who keeps most/all of the post-expenses money instead of the guy who makes that money for someone else and only gets a penny of every dollar. And you get to decide for yourself if you want to work on a holiday and make more money, or that it's worth the reduced income to be off and relaxing. You can be often totally left alone to arrive when you want, work in solitude or with only a couple/few people you contract or hire, wear what you want, leave whenever you're done, and just send invoices and receive payment by check or electronically. You can then choose to be frugal and money-smart and set aside money for your retirement and search around for a good financial advisor and investment person who will work hard to make your money make you more money.

The possibilities there are vast. I know several people who left jobs behind and started businesses in which they: - mow grass in spring and summer/rake leaves in fall/plow snow in winter - walk dogs - dog-sit and house-sit - do basic janitorial services for businesses after they close: emptying trash cans, vacuum cleaning, cleaning bathrooms and break room kitchenettes, maybe wiping down some common-space surfaces, and maybe cleaning some windows - power-washing stuff for people like their driveways, houses, sidewalks, removing graffiti, cleaning off boats, etc. - I know a guy who started a business by buying a remote-control camera thing on a long cable and just checking places in people's property for whatever they want to check...main drain pipes looking for clogs or breaks, in walls or attics trying to find the source of strange sounds or water leak stains or mold growth. (Looks like they're called things like "plumbing inspection cameras", "borescope cable cameras", "endoscope inspection cameras", "drain pipe cameras", and other similar names.) He originally did nothing else to repair or mitigate what he finds, he just told and showed the clients exactly what and where their problem is so they can then get a plumber or pest control service or mold removal service or do home repairs. Here's a short video on how they work. He has since added a drain cleaning pressure-nozzle hose, and if he sees a clog, he offers to try to clear it with water pressure before people call a full fledged plumber, gets a waiver signed, adds an extra fee, and runs a water hose down the pipe to see if some pressurized water will help.

Those are some suggestions that may help you find some happiness or at least some burnout recovery and then just simple sense of being content, which may be good enough. We don't have to receive happiness from our work, we just have to be not made unhappy by it so we then have enough energy and enthusiasm for doing other things that do make us happy.

There are also organizations out there to help self-employed people get or develop benefits packages for themselves that they might otherwise get through an employer, such as the National Association For the Self-Employed https://www.nase.org/

Title	Work Temper
Author	Important_Moose6119
Upvotes	16
Comments	4
Date	January 25, 2023 2:48 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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