21 year olds perspective on dating

Positive_Albatross39 · 2023-07-01T07:22:58+00:00

Yeah man I’m 21 and have all the things your supposed to have to be attractive and I’m giving up it’s just not worth the struggle

XORZIC · 2023-07-01T07:43:28+00:00

“Don’t put decisions in the hands of those who suffer no punishment for being wrong” Thomas sowell.

He was talking about politicians but works here. Dating apps are a bunch of people who get attention already averaged to above average women who basically every app is a dating app. So they don’t take it seriously most of them and end up just getting overwhelmed. It would be nice if there was some barrier to entry or incentive that could remove those who aren’t serious but that’s not profitable. I realise women probably also have terrible experiences having so many men saying weird shit trying to get their attention but men are only having power if they approach women in public. But as someone who is insanely antisocial and into dark humour I’m best off doing nothing. Luckily I’m considered attractive so mothers approach me from time to time

ggleblanc2 · 2023-07-01T10:52:33+00:00

I'm 67, and I'm glad I was 21 in 1977, before all this social media.

Your prospects as a 21 year old get better as you get older. Unless you're lucky enough to meet a young woman who wants to build a life with you, men become more attractive as they get older and more established, while women lose value as they get older.

Even in 1980, I met my 18 year old bride when I was 24.

pilotlet · 2023-07-01T16:29:16+00:00

You said it yourself: the sexual market is, worth the redundancy, a physical and digital place where men compete with each other to see who receives the approval of accepting you as a sexual-economic object of exploitation. The idealizations in your mind are masculine ideals, not a continuum in feminine strategies.

I can marry this girl one day bc dating is fucked. It actually makes me mad when Isee females say shit like all men are trash when they don't even give most men a chance. Maybe I'm bitter but I want every girl who does shit like that to get played. They don't deserve a happy ending

Marrying is fucked, dating is fucked, having offspring is fucked. Either you hook-up or you stay paused as an orbiter of a woman who most likely has dozens of men talking to her in the background waiting for the best option.

neverending_winter · 2023-07-02T00:49:43+00:00

Let me tell you something I wish a man would have explained to me when I was your age. Actually a man told me to never get married. It was funny after he told me that many times, he ended up getting married, his wife became "independent", took half his stuff, and opened a competing business across the street from his business.

What if I told you that the next 10 years will determine the quality of the rest of your life? What if I told you for the next 10 years you will have the ability to work hard and stack assets (21-31), then for about 16 years you will not have that ability and the economy will most likely suck (31-47), then for about 16 years the economy will be good again (47-63)? What would you do today? Would you care about chicks? If you're a logical, practical, non-emotional man the answer is hells to the no.

You're probably wondering why I'm talking to you about the stacking assets when you are asking about chicks. This is why: (1) dating today sucks for your age group, older men steal your chicks with ease because they did what I'm saying you do above; (2) its better to date as a decent looking semi wealthy man in a bad economy; and (3) girlfriends/wives are VERY expensive, from dates to vacations to a wedding ring, plus if you actually get married she could divorce you during the next bad economy just to take half your stuff. Never sign a marriage certificate nor live in a community property state. If you really want to get married, only religious marriage (NO government recognized marriage) is acceptable. Patience grasshopper, patience.

Get off the internet unless you're using it to learn marketable skills. Get off all social media unless you're making money off it.

Disregard females, acquire currency. Your time is running out, only like 10 years left, then economic pain time. You think the male suicide rate is high today? Wait 10 years...

NebulousASK · 2023-07-01T20:47:14+00:00

I met my wife on eHarmony 15 years ago. Unlike other dating apps, it cost hundreds of dollars to even join, and then they would only match me with women who indicated a high priority on marriage, family, and religion like me.

I dated several women through the site that were serious about marriage and treated me with respect. I'd recommend a website like this that really makes you jump through hoops early on, so you only have high compatibility matches to begin with.

ButWhatOfGlen · 2023-07-02T06:53:59+00:00

Best of luck but DO. NOT. GET. MARRIED. Have you learned nothing here?

Title	21 year olds perspective on dating
Author	Bucks70267
Upvotes	17
Comments	15
Date	July 1, 2023 6:50 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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