When a lot of guys first get started in the field of self-development, they go through this sort of “fake phase.” What I mean by this, is that they’ve read about alpha males and beta males, and they’ve realized that they act like a beta male.

So to become more “alpha,” they change their behaviors. They spend all of this time fretting over questions like:

“Uhh, should I do this for a girl? Is it too beta?”

“Uhh what should I wear? What does an alpha male wear?’

“How long should I wait to call her back?”

“When does an alpha male break eye contact?”

But what they don’t realize is that you can change every single one of your behaviors…and it still won’t change whether you’re an alpha or beta male.

Whether you’re an alpha male or beta male is determined by your mindset. This is my gripe with most of modern masculine self-development. It trains men to attack the surface level problems, and not the underlying causes.

So instead of trying to change every single one of your little behaviors, just change your underlying mindset so that the behaviors will change themselves naturally.

An Example to Clarify: A Woman’s Perspective

If you’re reading my blog, then you should be out building your social circle on the regular. This is one of the most important habits for men to have, and it will change your life in ways you can’t even imagine.

If you’ve been going out to various night clubs, bars, and other social venues, then I guarantee there’s something that you’ve seen a large number of times.

Ugly, fat girls who try to hide their unattractiveness with flashy jewelry, loads of makeup, and silk dresses.

Not to be a dick, but I’m just telling it how it is. Do you find those girls attractive? Of course not. You can see through their fake exterior. You can tell they’re just covering up their underlying unattractiveness with a bunch of external bullshit.

Oh, wait…

Yeah, that’s right. That’s exactly what girls think when they see a beta male who tries to “act alpha.” They can smell through it in a minute, because they’re extremely intuitive. They can tell when a man is just acting confident, but doesn’t actually have true confidence.

You guys have a bunch of articles and bullshit misleading you, telling you that you can “Become an Alpha Male by Following These 4 Behaviors!”—and it pisses me off, because I was in the same boat as you a while back.

Don’t get misled by bullshit marketing and hype—if you want to become an alpha male, you have to do more than just cover up beta male behaviors.

You have to shift your mindset. You have to think about things like an alpha male would, and you have to feel the same way that an alpha male would. You need to completely transform who you are.