And what about our sons?

inkall · 2013-06-24T01:42:29+00:00

Some of the comments there I suppose are good in terms of little steps but still sad in terms of reality.

Most of the "reasonable" comments say something along the lines of yes men are victims, yes the number of men who are victims is far larger than reported...BUT then they tend to go on to say women are still the majority/women are harmed more/women become more fearful etc...etc...

The only part of that which is accurate is that, depending on the type of attack (i.e. when a weapon isn't involved), a male is usually likely to suffer less physical injury than a woman.

No mention that if a female victim of such abuse chooses to make the often hard step of seeking help they will have a tidal wave of support avaliable to them while for male victims there is little or no support at all and the risk of being treated as the perpetrator.

I'm not sure if there has been anything like the more gender balanced studies of America and Canada done here in Scotland or the UK as a whole. All I can ever seem to find are the police figures which are worthless.

ChocoBix · 2013-06-24T12:10:22+00:00

The list at the bottom of the article does make it clear that both men and women can be victims of abuse.

The main article pretty much frames it as a woman only problem. I can see that if they were talking about domestic violence but the author is specifically talking about emotionally abusive relationships.

RedditBlueit · 2013-06-24T14:08:50+00:00

The article is somewhat gender neutral -

We can educate our children – boys too – to know the signs of domestic abuse and the myths about it. We can teach them that domestic violence can take many forms and is not always physical.

Hopefully "the myths about it" include that it happens predominately to women, since the truth is quite different. Here is a good checklist for the "takes many forms" claim.

The checklist at the bottom of the article uses inclusive language, at least:

Domestic violence: The warning signs

• Is he – or she – possessive and jealous?

• Does he or she try to isolate you from friends and family?

• Does he or she they criticise you, either privately or in front of others?

• Does he or she try to control you?

Title	And what about our sons?
Author	sv21js
Upvotes	32
Comments	3
Date	June 23, 2013 10:08 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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