Examples of internalized misandry

Inevitable-Tennis-49 · 2025-09-13T11:54:33+00:00

In my teenage years I used to feel guilty all the time for finding girls hot, it didn't matter if they were real or fictional characters, I just felt as if I was doing something wrong for liking their looks

Rocketronic0 · 2025-09-13T14:56:16+00:00

This sub seems to be under attack from researchers looking to make some quick money

MochaYam · 2025-09-17T05:21:58+00:00

It is impossible to have sexism against one gender without sexism against the other. You cannot have sexism against women without having sexism against men, and vice versa, whether or not it is positive or negative sexism. It’s not like tribal groups, where, for instance, you may be able to oppress one tribe through negative discrimination and give positive discrimination to another tribe.

However, when it comes to men and women, who have always lived their lives together, this would be impossible to replicate. It’s not as if women and men lived separately, and suddenly men decided to colonize them. That would be biologically and societally impossible, as men and women both depend on each other to procreate and were always part of one tribe. Thus, sexism against one gender would also lead to privilege for that same gender in different ways.

Here’s an example: some young women complain that they are not taken seriously enough (the statistics are fuzzy, but generally true). This would mean that she may be more likely to be interrupted, her ideas not taken into consideration as much as they should be in the workplace, less likely to be taken seriously in positions of power, less likely to be taken seriously as a news anchor, etc.

However, this would also entail a variety of desirable outcomes for women when it comes to them doing bad actions. For instance, if a female caretaker gets angry and hits her child, she is less likely to be taken seriously than if a man were to do the same thing. Studies have found that men are always perceived as more threatening, and their actions are seen as more severe than women doing the exact same thing—because people don’t take her seriously enough.

This leads to a variety of other benefits as well, such as shorter jail time, lower likelihood of being arrested, and lower likelihood of being beaten up in an aggressive confrontation, etc.

During all-male drafts, when sometimes more than one million men are sent to die, it impacts both sexes as well. Think about it: imagine your sons, brothers, and fathers came home in body bags. Imagine the pain and suffering you would experience because of that.

Some more examples include the fact that women cannot own beauty and not be the objects of beauty. Women cannot receive extra help without suffering extra dependency. Women cannot enjoy extra protection without suffering the extra condescension that goes with it. Women cannot take parental primacy and still have equal time and energy left over to climb success ladders.

By definition, an x amount of sexism against women will entail x amount of sexism against men. This is what I like to call: the principle of gender duality.

Feminism, as defined by the Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy, states:

i) (Normative) Men and women are entitled to equal rights and respect.

ii) (Descriptive) Women are currently disadvantaged with respect to rights and respect, compared with men.

The vast majority of people would accept the normative claim that both sexes are entitled to equal rights. This is a point shared by feminists, egalitarians, and MRAs. However, where the egalitarians and MRAs differ from feminists is on the descriptive claim: that women are disadvantaged, comparatively speaking, to men.

An MRA might claim that it’s actually men who are comparatively disadvantaged to women. An egalitarian would claim that both sexes are, in their own ways, disadvantaged—and that no one sex has it better off overall (which is the position that I take).

Title	Examples of internalized misandry
Author	Kanadano
Upvotes	32
Comments	5
Date	September 12, 2025 12:46 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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