Good article on divorce, especially the comments.

SarahC · 2010-11-16T21:02:57+00:00

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kurfu · 2010-11-16T18:52:59+00:00

Jesus Christ, I am so glad I never had any kids and finally got snipped.

Il128 · 2010-11-16T23:41:56+00:00

Marriage 2.0 defined.

Divorce is based on the idea that we marry for love; you can't have one without the other. In cultures where marriage is based on property (women as property, marriage as exchange of property) divorce is much less common and love, at least for men, doesn't have to be (isn't often) a part of marriage (ask your wealthy French uncle if this isn't true). Falling in love is an expression of freedom and so is divorce. Freedom is, as they are always telling us, a responsibility. If we have the freedom to divorce, then we have to use it wisely. So far be it from me to praise divorce. For that, you're going to have to go to my daughter. Or Newt Gingrich.

Elesia · 2010-11-16T23:13:01+00:00

What a fantastic article! Again, I don't see this about Men's Rights so much as about human rights. I think more people would be successful in divorce if they stepped back from the emotion and looked at the whole thing as a business.

If you enter a contract in the business world and it doesn't work for both parties, one party doesn't get to follow the other for the next twenty years badmouthing it to its divisions and causing harm to the business. Yet, when that contract is a marriage, that's considered normal.

My first marriage "failed," much like many business ventures do. Yet, like many business ventures, it spawned an INCREDIBLY successful offshoot, our awesome kid, so my ex and I had to bury the hatchet to make sure that venture did not fail.

Likewise, both "parent companies" have gone on to create new partnerships that are successful, have enveloped the original offshoot, have enjoined other offshoots, and in my ex's case, have developed new ventures. Any destruction of the parent companies will DESTROY all of these smaller endeavors. What good will THAT do?

My ex and I, we have history. We can talk, but sometimes we're embarrassed that we messed up, even all this time after the divorce. We keep it professional as often as humanly possible. Gosh knows my SO isn't as lucky as I am.

thetrollking · 2010-11-17T07:58:52+00:00

Love. With luck, we learn more about love as we get more practice. Why divorce the father if we can't learn from it?

WTF? Why does a woman have to destroy a mans life and take his children and wealth to learn a fucking life lesson?

This article is horrible but shows what women really think and value. Feelings over stability. Their own happiness at the expense of mens. Then there's this:

Divorce is based on the idea that we marry for love; you can't have one without the other. In cultures where marriage is based on property (women as property, marriage as exchange of property) divorce is much less common and love, at least for men, doesn't have to be (isn't often) a part of marriage (ask your wealthy French uncle if this isn't true). **[Edit: WTF does this even mean?] Falling in love is an expression of freedom and so is divorce. Freedom is, as they are always telling us, a responsibility. If we have the freedom to divorce, then we have to use it wisely.

So we get married for love and then fall out of love and destroy a mans life to snatch another man to fall in love with only to rinse and repeat? Guys you need to read about matriarchal societies and bonobos and how they are structured. The men own no property and have no parenting rights while the women control the village, property and mens roles.

I really think it's true that women don't bond as deeply as men do. They don't know what love is, they chase lust and gina tingles and social status and money. This creates the problem found in matriarchal societies. They either survive nesting within a stronger patriarchal societie or they have roaming bands of men with guns and machetes because the men have been pushed so far to the extreme(this is one reason we have a police state).

marriage is retirement for women! The wedding is her victory lap!

Title	Good article on divorce, especially the comments.
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Date	November 16, 2010 5:36 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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