Has anyone else experienced modesty double standards within their families?

Lion_amongst_gods · 2020-06-17T14:35:03+00:00

Can I guess you're from india? If not, from South Asia?

In India, male modesty isn't recognized. Neither by the society, nor by the law. But male responsibility is demanded. By both of them.

Svenskbtch · 2020-06-17T15:20:08+00:00

I think the gendered differences are pretty much the same in the first world: whatever the extent of our concern about nakedness, it always applies to girls to a much larger extent. Overall, the first world, or at least countries in northern Europe, tend to be a bit more liberal (in Sweden many parents would not think twice about being naked in front of their children). But then again, that is a gross generalisation (I have to say this, because we rich Westerners are taught to correct ourselves whenever we say something that could potentially be perceived as condescension rooted in colonialism).

Out of all the gender differences to the detriment of men and boys, this one does not perhaps rank among the most harmful, except of course when it comes to societys tendency to overlook or even condone and celebrate statutory rape of boys (and also girls) by women. Overall, I think a slightly more relaxed attitude to nakedness would be good for children.

Simultanagnosia · 2020-06-17T17:01:14+00:00

Standards are weird. Girls will walk around in tight leggings or even just a g-string and it's okay. We have annual "Slut Walks" where women parade around naked and women's bodies are expected to be respected in whatever form they are.

On the other hand men generally wear pants and t-shirts. Some men wear shorts or even tight shorts. If a guy is wearing spandex or a speedo he's generally made fun of or assumed to be gay. Also flaccid male penises are a big joke. Women love to laugh at the site of a flaccid male penis and comment on it's appearance. Dick size also plays a big role so if there will typically be comments about the size and girth.

If a guy sees a woman's body it's a treat or an intrusion on her privacy. If a woman sees a man's body it's a cause for laughter and it's no big deal.

In my experience anyway. I grew up in the 80s and my family had a home camcorder. My siblings and I used the camera to record lots of things. One time I was goofing off and pulled my penis out and twirled it around lol. My mother still has the video and over the years people have teased me about it and seen the video. A couple of years ago while visiting my mom and siblings we all sat down and watched it together.

feminismIsHateOfMen · 2020-06-17T18:09:37+00:00

I have read the comments and each time I see that the origin of these double standards is the mother, favouring the daughters. It is therefore evident that it favours its own gender (one study showed that women are 4.5x more sexist than men).

She takes advantage of this to ridicule men and to educate them to respect women irrationally and unfairly. It's the same with circumcision.

The mother makes the decision, it's another way of controlling the man and humiliating him. Circumcision disadvantages the man in the sexual act and only serves the woman's interests by making the penis more aesthetic for her and lengthening the time of sexual intercourse.

Circumcision is a sexist mutilation intended to enhance the pleasure of the female gender and deprive the man of sexual pleasure.

Circumcision should be illegal and should be considered as mutilation for families whose religion does not include it.

Mothers are deceitful, Machiavellian and inherently bad to boys.

Fathers should favour boys in turn to protect men's futures.

Title	Has anyone else experienced modesty double standards within their families?
Author	datlonelygoy
Upvotes	22
Comments	12
Date	June 17, 2020 12:36 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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