I've thought of something recently, when faced with a possibly abusive relationship in which my wife may be abusing me, I often ask myself. "Why don't I just leave?" and sometimes even my wife asks me why I not only stay with her, but I treat her better than I treat myself. She has often said, after a bad argument when she has calmed down, that I dont deserve what she puts me through. and that I could do so much better. But when I think about it the only answer I can come up with would be " As a man people judge you by two things 1)how successful you are and 2) How much you can suffer though and how you handle it. does that seem fucked?