I did it guys :) | MensRights

It’s finally over!!!!!

360 points•34 comments•submitted 1 month ago by whatamigonnado123 to r/SupportForTheAccused

Yesterday, at T+677days, 14hrs, 47min my case ended with the promised dismissal and seal. Against the protestations of a sociopathic ADA who disregarded all evidence I gave, but within the timeframe promised by the court, my case ended as it should have 25 months ago. I got to watch the ADA turn red with fury and god damn did it feel good. A small taste of the powerlessness he makes people feel every damn day.

Everything came together with school as well and by the second week of September, I will be back in the hospital working with patients and back on track to be an advanced practice provider. Younger me would have been pissed about the huge delay and I certainly still am but I just don’t care now. I finally get to go back and that’s all that matters. I get to turn over a new leaf and restart far away from the wretched place. If I can get through it I know all of you can too! I couldn’t have done it without this sub and I certainly didn’t do it gracefully but I made it. Thank you all for your support and words of encouragement, I don’t think anybody can do this alone and this sub is sometimes the only thing that reminds you you’re not alone so keep on doing what you do. I’ll be around still but it’s time to move forward too :)

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We always say that and it would be the natural thing to do. Unfortunately, women never seem to have to face the legal system when they abuse and manipulate it. What was that one rotund wildebeast in the UK's story? She had to accuse like 14 men of rape before they finally decided to do something about it. 14. Maybe it was 11 but even then...that's how bad women have to get when it comes to manipulating the system before the WOW effect and #MeToo crap takes a breather and common sense can get a word in edgewise. And I'm not blaming women for it, it's just that the system has been set up with such a bias against men that it's impossible for a man to get a fair trial of any kind in any court in the Western world if a woman is acting as his courtroom opponent. Shit, Johnny Depp and Ambitch Heard should serve as a wake up call if nothing else but, as we can see, even that's not enough to show how biased and unfair the system has become.

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We all feel that way but the advice given is actually totally logical and is the best way to proceed.

You and I (assuming you're not Jeff Bezos or something) simply can't afford to launch these kinds of tit-for-tat lawsuits. We just don't have the money. And we, of all people, know that the political and cultural climate does not favour any man in a courtroom against any woman in these sorts of cases. It's not about who's right or wrong, it's about what the public can be manipulated into thinking is right and wrong.

Let's say he does push the matter. So, he's paying all the legal fees which will cost him pretty much everything he doesn't have right now and then some.

Then, she'll be assigned a public defender or something or she'll get up, whip up some tears and cry about how unfair the world is and how even the system is after her now and boo hoo, blub blub, sniff sniff...some attorney will do it for free. Next thing you know, some feminist reporter gets hold of the story, listens only to her side of things and does the usual feminist thing and refuses to hear all of the story and makes her a cause celebre. "Look at how this misogynistic system punishes victims! This poor little woman was beat and choked and barely managed to make a call to a friend who called the police for her and now her accuser is trying to manipulate the system into punishing her even more! Rise up! Fight the patriarchy! Burn your bras in support of this poor damsel." and blah blah blah.

Well, that last part is where the DA looks at the shenanigans and thinks about getting re-elected. Sure, he knows what really happened but the public doesn't and if he agrees to go forward with prosecuting her, he has to also show that it's actually her who is the criminal and him who is the victim. Two jobs, basically.

And again, that's a lot of money the OP almost certainly doesn't have.

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She won't be given a public defender in a civil case (being sued by OP). She would only get a public defender if she was facing criminal charges by the state. Since the police and DA/ADA are already intimately familiar with the case and have taken her side, its unlikely a DA would ever bring charges against her.

A person does not have the power to bring a criminal case against another person, only the state can do that, and in this case it refused to.

Basically a criminal case is the focus when the police and district attorney are invoiced and the result is prison time/probation/drop charges/not guilty

A civil case is when a person sues another person and is always about money (compensation for being wronged)

If a person wishes both, say I am attacked and a man breaks my arm, he will first he tried by the state in a criminal proceeding with charges brought by an ADA/DA. This determines if his actions will land him in prison or not. standard of guilt is much higher here. (ex: State of Florida vs Defendant)

After the criminal case, the civil case will start where I am personally suing my attacker. The result if this will determine if the defendant is required to compensate me for his actions. Standard if guilt is lower here. (ex: John Smith vs Defendant)

A Defendant is only given 'the right to an attorney' in a criminal case, not civil. If the Defendant wants to try to win the case on his/her own, they are free to do so, but is required to go out of pocket to have a lawyer in his/her corner.

This makes sense as do you really want your tax dollars to go to expensive lawyers to defend a drug addict in a civil case from breaking into a house? Our Constitution affords them the right to a competent defense (lawyer) when jail is on the line for the Defendant, but not when its money on the line in a civil case

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Every time I gave them new information, my attorney would get varied responses such as “I don’t care,” or “the evidence isn’t credible,” etc etc. at my restitution hearing, the ADA flat out said that all of it was fake and I made it all. Judge found me credible, found my evidence more than credible, and denied restitution outright. I posted an excerpt of the transcript of her ruling on the matter. At my sentencing she said to the ADA “frankly I’m not convinced he is even guilty of the accusations levied against him and I will not let you break a plea deal in my court room, motion for termination granted and motion for sealing order granted.” Ended up getting small vindication but it will never see the light of day in civil court due to various factors. I will continue to fight them in one way or another, even if it’s taking my future salary and throwing it at other peoples lawsuits or donating to groups who fight this nonsense. Unless my medical career is somehow taken away from me, I’m done with fighting in the court myself. If they do take it away from me I’m going to be the most frustrating attorney fighting this shit that they’ve ever had to deal with. I hope I can just practice medicine but if they want to make me their enemy, they’ve already done so

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The tl;dr is my ex accused me of strangling and attempting to kidnap her (yes in that order :P) and no matter how much evidence I gave and no matter how much I proved her to be a liar, they prosecuted the fuck out of it anyway. Crazy chick even admitted she lied about everything snd dropped off the face of the earth. Nobody can find her, not even the court investigators (supposedly). Ended up with a little vindication in the end and I’m back on track with school but I’m a different person now. Once I finish school I will be able to practice medicine and making a good salary so I will use that to continue the fight for others if not for me. If they take that away from me again somehow, I will go to law school and make the lives of false accusers absolute hell until I repose from this world lol

Title	I did it guys :)
Author	whatamigonnado123
Upvotes	549
Comments	44
Date	June 29, 2021 1:57 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/oa8ssv/i_did_it_guys/
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