I need some help here

Particular-Tap1211 · 2024-07-11T06:59:58+00:00

Your walking on a precipice with the ledge being alot closer to you than you first realise. First ask yourself this, are you prepared to suffer! The grief, the what if and,what you would of of done differently! If it goes south. if you can walk through that then proceed to communicate if this answer is no, then clearly state a simple reason why your closing down the conversation. Then close it down. If yes, then..... . Get him talking about himself. Listen to the tonality, how he communicates, his language and so forth. Within his words their will be a couple of inflictions or tones that are positive, hook onto them and open up a doorway metaphorically for him to walk into. Once he is in that space he can start to de escalate and calm down his nervous system and his primal negative responce. No matter what you decide to take care of yourself aswell. Importantly ask for his phone number and ask where about he lives not in concurrent questions yet spread out and call the local authorities if you think he is in real danger of self harm.

2024-07-11T06:44:13+00:00

I’ve been where he’s at and what got me out of it was being asked what simple things can I do that comfort me. For me it was taking a warm shower and putting on my favorite record, I sat in there for like an hour crying and holding myself. Eventually my mind drifted onto other thoughts, not even any positive thoughts just mundane ones, but that distracted me long enough for something to click and it felt like all my problems were so minuscule all of a sudden. I was so glad that I didn’t do it, it was temporary, I could have lost my entire life for a temporary feeling, and that thought has kept me from going there again because I know that time heals all wounds and that time can be surprisingly short. My issues haven’t gone away but I’m in a much better place now to be able to deal with them. I wasn’t thinking straight and those thoughts were not me, I wished I could have told myself that in the moment. Sometimes our thoughts and feelings are just not as grounded in realty as we think they are, and it can be very hard to entertain that notion in the moment. So just having something to distract you for a bit can open your mind and when all of a sudden you are reminded of the things you were wanting to end your life over and they don’t seem as horrible as they did before.

Elderberry1306 · 2024-07-11T09:52:32+00:00

It's important to approach the topic with compassion and clarity. Begin by actively listening to their distress and taking their feelings seriously without judgment. Ask them about there situation and how they are feeling at the moment. Be brave and ask direct questions about their thoughts of suicide, such as if they've made plans or have a timeline or how they would proceed, and express your genuine concern for their well-being.

Encourage them to seek help from mental health professionals or a suicide prevention program. Offer to accompany them to appointments or emergency services if needed. It's crucial to respect your own boundaries throughout this process. Don't keep it secret, don't hesitate to involve their friends, family, or other trusted individuals for support.

If immediate assistance is required, consider contacting a suicide hotline or using online resources for guidance. Remember, discussing suicide openly and providing support can make a significant difference in someone's life.

ChromeBadge · 2024-07-11T07:47:17+00:00

You're going to think I'm being facetious or a dick but the truth is a f****** cat or a f****** dog who will bring a dude out of this s***.

Independent-Basis722 · 2024-07-11T10:11:31+00:00

Just support and be there for him. In the meantime, encourage him to seek other methods of support such as therapy or even a suicide hotline. I know it may not be as easy as it sounds, but I'm sure that if he listens to you, he'll certainly get on with it. Please encourage it.

Good luck !

Title	I need some help here
Author	weatherinfo
Upvotes	20
Comments	8
Date	July 11, 2024 3:24 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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