Well guys, I have been lurking for awhile and I will share this story to get some of your thoughts on it.

I returned from working in Europe and came back to the US and realized I have lost touch with most of my women connections. I am ready to start settling down now after going through a long relationship 2 years ago and decided to connect with a fling I had in college during the inter-years. A little context, she was a sweet girl very cute, art major (not a fan), but a nice girl. She would cook me dinner in college when I had little money, liked to have sex a lot, good cuddler etc. After awhile I think she started to want more than a hook-up routine and started not being the first to get in contact, I started seeing another girl I met on spring break that was from the area so I decided to let it fizzle out. Fast forward to now and she wants me to come back up to the University to spend the night go out for drinks etc. I think we both had an unspoken agreement that some sex would most likely take place.

So I get there and we start drinking with her friends, we go out to the old bars I used to frequent I met many people I haven't seen in awhile and generally had a really good time. We get back to her place and she wanted to smoke some weed (she's what you would call a pretty big stoner). I haven't smoked in probably 2 years but did so anyways to her persistence. I ended up getting really fucked up, drunk, high, etc. A little while later she started to go upstairs and turned to me on the couch and said "Are you coming to bed". So I go to her room and once there she told me to take off my clothes as I tried to get in bed with my pants on (pretty fucked up and too lazy to get the pajamas I brought). I get in there and she starts cuddling up to me, rubbing her ass on me as we were spooning but at this point I was just too messed up to even want to do anything and just wanted to go to sleep, in fact I am pretty sure if I tried I couldn't get an erection. All the while the stuff I have been reading was going through my mind, shes drunk and this would be considered rape in our culture today. So I resigned myself to sleep with hopes of getting some morning action. This is the point where she placed my hand over her vagina through her pants. I made a half hearted attempt to get things going but ended up moving away and I could tell she was quite disgusted. I think she asked what was wrong and I just said that I was pretty messed up and just wanted to sleep. The next morning I tried to initiate some action but there was no more of the closeness and reception to sexual activity as the night before. Whatever that's fine. Got up left, drove home.

The funny thing is that we talked for a few days and I tried to arrange to see her again but she was displaying typical flaky behavior. I called her out on it and said "Listen if you don't want to see me again that's fine don't waste each others time." To which she replied "Yeah, probably not."

Now I know I shouldn't have gotten so inebriated and I was probably thinking too much into the whole rape hysteria. My question is, was I raped in that situation? (Placing my hand on her vagina). I probably did the right thing, maybe she had some qualms about me suddenly breaking contact with her a year ago and could have had it out for me. I make quite a bit of money for a 25 year old and it is evident in my lifestyle through social media, maybe she thought there could be some financial gain, although to me I would think she would want to hold on to a guy like that.

Anyways am I thinking too much into this? What are your thoughts?

TLDR: Slept over at a girls placed, made me touch her vagina for lack of wanting to contribute to rape hysteria.