Kings, know the warning signs.

ShawshankRetention · 2020-07-01T05:32:45+00:00

Pretty much describe feminism, except for the affection part

. You must apologise and take blame for things you never did but must have done as a man

. Affection not relevant on ideological level

. You are Fragile and men dont have have problems

. Feminist reconstruction of history. Regret rape

. Until you break from it, you cannot question feminism and must "believe all women"

. You have less right and discrimination and harrasselent is allowed against you as you are a "majority"

. Benevolent sexism

. Shame is the main way of action of feminism.

. Editing to avoid anything they could misconstrue and use against you.

You could had the manipulative tactic of only offering only bad choices as as a man, whatever marital choice you make, you are either an opressor, an incel, or someone who dont like women.

MBV-09-C · 2020-07-01T08:58:05+00:00

I was 7 for 9 on this with my last ex, my parents and one mutual friend were pretty much the only people I told that believed me, that only made it feel worse that most of the people I thought I could trust didn't even trust me.

SamaelET · 2020-07-01T10:44:23+00:00

How do you know my mother ?

philo_therapist · 2020-07-01T08:13:48+00:00

These are excellent warning signs to be on the look out for.

antilopes · 2020-07-01T13:34:20+00:00

This stuff should be taught in school. Teenage romances, and family relationships can be fully abusive. A lot of problems can be avoided if people know what to look for and have a language to describe it. If they are not or can not be avoided, it is better if people can at least understand what is being done to them.

prwwrp · 2020-07-01T15:21:49+00:00

Just to add context, these are also the classic signs you're dealing with someone who has a cluster b personality disorder. The issue is that they can't think outside of themselves and can't abide difference with someone in their narcissistic orbit because they don't actually think of that person as separate. If you're their partner, they can't simultaneously feel love for you and see you as another person, so you are loved insomuch as you fit into their sense of self. It's a huge mindfuck and the sooner you run the less damage you'll have.

McFeely_Smackup · 2020-07-01T17:13:09+00:00

you edit every word before you speak it, changing any thought that they could possibly misconstrue

yeah, I've been there.

Lethn · 2020-07-01T21:29:14+00:00

One thing missed here, if you're having a mutual spat where you and they have done wrong or they were giving you grief in a one sided way and they insist you were the one treating them like shit just walk away. I guess this falls under general mind fuckery but I thought it was a pretty specific example. Gaslighting doesn't have to be about dating specifically, stay away from anyone who does this sort of thing. It's surprising there are people who think it's acceptable to do this shit even with a standard friendship.

Kings, know the warning signs.

Crosspost "Gaslighting red flags" from /r/coolguides:

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Title	Kings, know the warning signs.
Author	ThiefOfNightTime
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Date	July 1, 2020 4:44 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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