Need advice

Notanidiot67 · 2015-02-02T00:50:26+00:00

The last thing she said to me was "it's your job to pay for her and my job to take care of her" I have saved those texts but, I've been told it won't do any good.

Kill_Your_Ego · 2015-02-02T02:22:37+00:00

Ok. I'm going to try to give you some real advice. Risky advice. But real.

We both know that the system is designed to bleed you dry and leave you as a lifeless husk. That your humanity and your daughter's life don't matter to these people. They don't care. You get a lawyer and most likely he's going to bleed you dry. That's his job.

You still need to get a lawyer on retainer but you need to push the pain onto your ex. This means you need to get your daughter to realize and accept that she's going to have to say, in court, without you present, that she wants to be with you. She needs to understand that our society isn't going to give her the childhood she deserves. She has to know and you have to risk that she will state, unequivocally, that she wants to be with you.

You need to get her to write a letter stating this fact. Several of them. She needs to write it and sign several copies. One goes to her mother. Then you look up the laws yourself and you draft a letter stating that you now are operating under full custody and your ex needs to start paying you. Send this to your ex. Train your daughter to avoid being kidnapped by her mother as well.

Then you live with your daughter. Now your ex has to take you to court. Or she will call the police and tell them that you kidnapped your daughter. If your daughter is strong and realizes that she may have police interrogating her and knows she has to become an adult as a child then you can do this. It's hell on a child but you have no choice in our misandric society.

I think it's best if you teach her now that she never talks to the police. Period. She should know that she needs to just say, over and over, I want my dad. Period

If your ex doesn't utilize the police to try to fuck you and your daughter over then your ex will have to come up with the money for court. She will have to take you to court.

You still need a lawyer on tap. You still have to be prepared for the worst.

Document how you are the one caring for her by her wishes. That you are the one buying everything for her.

You'll probably still get fucked over because you are a man and everyone hates us. But at least your ex may have to pay for the court. Maybe. Maybe.

If things go well, once you have all settled into the routine, and you have saved the money for a lawyer, you can go to court with several months of proof that you are the custodial parent. Later seek child support. If you do it in little steps it's less likely that your ex will fight back using police power by proxy or kidnapping your daughter.

Also disclaimer this is not legal advice. Let's just call it brainstorming.

Good luck. The deck is severely stacked against you and almost no one cares.

Notanidiot67 · 2015-02-02T02:43:34+00:00

Guys, thank you for the support and advice. Unfortunately I may have no recourse out of this other than to be at the mercy of her and/or a judge. I don't have the financial resources to press her very hard. Getting the papers filed is almost maximum of my financial ability. I cannot put the future of my other children in debt to get chump change out of my ex. I quit high school to support my ex and our oncoming daughter. I didn't know it at the time but she used me as a way out of her enlistment with the Navy and, a year later she took my child and everything she could pack into my truck of any value and left without a word in the middle of the night. I only have 4 years left before my daughter is 18. Spending thousands of dollars that I don't have to get hundreds of dollars out of her (if any at all) would be pointless.

Thanks again guys but, I just don't see any light at the end of the tunnel.

atheist4thecause · 2015-02-02T01:07:31+00:00

I would think that getting custody would be the important part. After that, you can have the courts decide visitation and child support.

DougDante · 2015-02-02T01:35:11+00:00

I'm not a lawyer and this is not legal advice.

If I were you, I would focus first on providing my daughter the best home that I can.

After my daughter is in my home and enrolled in school, then I would seek a modification of custody and child support.

Lurker_IV · 2015-02-02T02:08:00+00:00

You can also try /r/legaladvice because I don't know enough about this topic.

MRSPArchiver · 2015-02-02T00:49:24+00:00

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Mhrby · 2015-02-02T00:59:17+00:00

Get a lawyer - Take it to court, child support is not a one way street and if you become primary caregiver, you should have a good case in court

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Date	February 2, 2015 12:48 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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