Long story short my son's aunt's boyfriend threatened me when I Brought up a concern about his behavior and his relationship with our 18 month old son. I felt he had been acting weird with the amount of gifts and time he wanted to spend with him and felt he was trying to insert him self as a father figure in my son's life or possibly grooming him. Being that he doesn't have a friendship with me or my son's mother and I was a stay at home dad who was involved in my son's life as much as a parent could possibly be I found his behavior concerning.

I tied to voice my concerns with my son's mother and she accused me of just trying to talk bad about her family and wouldn't even discuss it with me. She went and told him and invited him to our home to confront me about it. he came to our home and went on the most bizarre rant where he threatened me with violence if I were to ever speak bad about him again. He also said that he loved my son and that there was nothing me or my son's mother could do about his relationship with my son. When I told him if I had to get a restraining order against him to protect my son he said he would drag me out of the courtroom by my head. The next day I got a restraining order against him for me and my son and I retaliation my son's mother took one out against me that had me kicked out of our home.

My son's mother didn't find anything wrong with what he said and did, she blamed me and justified his actions claiming I defamed his character when I spoke to her in private. She just wants to be able to take our son to his house because that's where her sister lives. She had resented me since our son was born because I was a stay at home dad and she wasn't on board with it simply because she didn't want our son to have a closer relationship with me than her. Being that I run a home based business and was the only one would could care for him full time and also provide an income it's the only thing that made since.

I was homeless for about 4 weeks but got a day job and a place for me and my son to stay. The last week me and my son's mother have agreed on a 50/50 custody plan and are working out the details to present to the judge at our hearing later this week. We have been getting along for the most part but I see that changing when we go court. At the protection order hearing for the boyfriend they only granted a permanent protection order for my self and not my son because since my son's mother was taking him be over there they said I would have to get the judge at the custody hearing to prevent my son's mother from bringing or son around her sisters boyfriend. I explained what happened to our sons guardian ad litem showed him the video of her boyfriends rant and told him I will be asking to limit his contact and I'm sure he is going to recommend he have no contact with our son also.

I haven't told my sons mother my plan to ask the judge to prevent contact with her sisters boyfriend and my son. I'm want us both to work out the parenting plan first because she is for sure to want to change it if I tell her. If we present the plan to the judge and she wants to change it because of the boyfriend thing her motives will be obvious.

Neither one of us have a lawyer. She is for sure to be pissed and try to make my life hell if I successfully prevent her from from bringing our son around him but I truly believe like any rational person he doesn't need to be around our son.

Any advice?