Hello ladies and gentleman, this may be kind of long so here goes:

Backstory: Im a USMC Reservist (20) 19 at the time we met birthday was in july, full time job, highschool diploma, bullied by peers during school. Girlfriend (17) 18 in November, highschool dropout, no job, bi-polar, kicked out of her house by her mother cuz it was so bad, went into mental ward because of it as well, psychological problems in her past.

Me and my girlfriend met online ill say March. We stated dating in April and things were going very well. We had visions of growing old, getting married, all that happy bullshit. We started having sex I think of may and into june using protection. Come out of my two weeks of Active Duty and she tells me shes missed her period. Few weeks go by and we get a pregnancy test. Shes pregnant. It happened. No talk of abortion because her familys Christian and it being my child as well I just couldn't do it out of moral and ethical reasons.

Bottom line; our relationship is deteriorating and it doesn't seem like its gonna get fixed. She said everyone that ive met has said ive "changed". I bought her a ring and I was planning to move in with her and her family so I could be with the two of them but she said it wasn't "good enough". I was at her house for her mothers birthday (she wasn't feeling good and was just lying around) and we got into a little argument nothing major at all so just playing along I stuck my tongue out at her. Something weve always done. She "asks" me if I want to go home. She invited me to come up for her mothers birthday and this isn't the first time shes "asked" me if I wanted to go home or told me "where the door was". Her father was heading out to buy her mother something and she said she wanted to go didn't give me a second thought, almost as if I wasn't even there. I put my flip flops on and stood by the door and she looked at me and said and U need to go? in a very hateful manner. They left she just left me there and I locked up their house and I started my way home. She called me maybe half an hour later asking where I was and I told her I was headed home. She went off and we had a big argument when she started having a major panic attack so I ended up heading back. Her mother said her birthday was ruined and I felt bad for doing it but if u invite someone to ur house you wouldn't "ask" them to just up and leave because if I had done that to her, shed b out like a light and wed b done b4 she even turned the door knob. Am I wrong for leaving like I did?

Current Situation: We just got done over Skype and she said if I didn't "change" then id be a weekend visitor because she "doesn't want to deal with me or have our baby deal with me". I called our little one, OURs, cuz it is but she said it was HERs bcuz its inside her and shes carrying it.

Im just asking how hard it would be to get custody. If things don't work out and she get custody then shell have to pay for a babysitter, stranger as I like to call them, that is if she can even find a job. Shes planning on doing online classes to get her last two credits she needs to get her diploma. I have 2 jobs technically and I wouldn't have to pay for a babysitter because my schedule now is I work Monday through Friday 8-4 with weekends off. I can drop off our baby at my grandmothers (my parents and my aunt and uncle have done it all of our lives) and shes said shes more than willing to do it. I may sound like the dick whos angry and just tryng to get back at her but in reality Im doing this for her sake as well. She had to quit EVERYTHING shes ever loved bcuz of our dumb mistake. I just want her to live her life the way she was supposed to do it. Ive already done what ive wanted to do.

Any advice? if someone needs more info PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let me know!

Edit: We are both in Virginia. No further than that.

Edit 2: Please no bashing or hate. I still want us to be a family and this is just in case the shit hits the fan. Thanks.

She's verbally abusive as well. She says that I'm fucking retarded, stupid, dumb. She says she's just "playing" but it makes me wonder sometimes.

She's thrown guys in my face that have been telling her that they'd take care of her and the baby. It's a major fear of mine that the lil one will grow up without actually getting to no me and just no me as the "weekend visitor". She's told me when she was in her preteens that she's tried to commit suicide I think 3 times. Shes had a old boyfriend whos sent her a pic to her with a knife on his throat saying hed do it and the scumbag even offered to babysit. FUCK NO was both our responses. When her bi polar flares she doesn't want to b messed with and it's all about "her". I'm just scared for the baby that the mother won't want to do anything or play with her when it flares up. How slim of a chance is it fr me to have custody and for her to b the weekend visitor? I told her i couldnt wait for the baby to get here and she replied that she didnt. I honestly dont even no if she wants it. she acts like she doesnt and shes gotten close things along that line but not actually saying it. I just want wats best for her and the baby. We're both young and were both stupid. Shit happens. I just want to help and in my mind if I get custody it would b a lot easier for the mother to do wat she wants with her life.

UPDATE: We've just talked over skype and she reiterated the fact that it was her child not mine cuz shes carrying it. She also said she had no problem taking me to court cuz she knew shed win. She said she was the mother and that with my being in the reserves i could "get deployed at a moments notice". With no legal knowledge, is that true? I no i have a hard road ahead and i still love her and want to work this out but this information is in case the shit hits the fan.

Any insight, advice, etc., would be greatly appreciated. Thanks Guys