Haven't been on vacation for years. Have a child(16) with ex (who has BPD) and also have taken care of her other child (12) like was mine since born. I have them on weekends. I pay child support for mine and her other child which I have cared for since birth also, I consider mine. I have them on weekends. I'm tired. They hate their mother. I have to deal with all problems, everything medical, everything that goes sideways while their mom has primary time and custody and fails taking responsibility in anything. She takes them on Vacation quite often.... On my child support dime...they are currently in Hawaii! I'm babysitting her dogs and she sent food over for the dogs but has never given me a dime to help with what I spend on the 12 year old which isn't even mine. I want a vacation. I want a vacation alone by myself. I want a vacation alone with my 2 kids just us. I can't afford it, the child support and also supporting the one that isn't mine is killing me. She helps me with food for her dogs but not a dime for her kid? I've treated her child just like I have our mutual child since birth. I consider that child mine also but I have no legal rights. It's just great she can take them on exotic vacations on my child support yet I struggle to financially support them when their with me but I buy them everything they need regardless. I'm tired.... My children hate their mom and want to get away from her and stay with me but there is nothing I can do. When my child turns 18 we can bail but I can't leave the 12 y.o. behind either.... So tired stuck with all the responsibilities while she is off enjoying Hawaii for the hundredth time with our kids.