Looking for a zoom meeting or something in person in the Boston area.

I dont know if a chat would be very helpful but I would join one because why not.

I went through a really stressful experience a few years ago with a girl. (im 25 now)

We were coworkers at a pool, she was 16 and I was 21 and within a week of us meeting she was putting her hands on me and flirting a lot. To be clear I didnt initiate anything she originally made advances on me.

At the time I thought she was closer to my age and I really liked her but after a few weeks when we started talking more and I found out she was so young i put the brakes on.

in the next few months she would still flirt with me a lot and I would just not really know what to do. I liked her but I was really worried about what other people would think. at this point she was 17 and I was 22.

I avoided doing anything physical with her even though I was a virgin at the time and it was very tempting. when she would lean in to me I wouldnt move away tho.

Fast forward like a year, she's like 2 weeks from turning 18 (im still 22) and she had gotten annoyed at this point that I wouldnt hook up with her, we were still friendly.

at one point we were in the break room and it was just us and she was smiling at me and we were chatting and I started caressing her shoulder.

After a few seconds I realized she wasnt liking it. She kinda froze up and wasnt saying anything. I stopped. then she got up and left the room.

within an hour she had told all our coworkers on that shift that I was 'a predator' and that I did something.

The vast majority of them didnt seem to believe her, because they knew me and her, (multiple people specifically told me they knew she was full of shit, and no one ever said the opposite to me) but regardless, the whole experience had a really bad effect on my mental health.

like 2 weeks later I started a second lifeguarding job cause I needed more cash and one of my new coworkers is this girls best friend who i had met once or twice. such luck.

In the next month or 2 I quit both my jobs because I couldn't handle the stress of thinking others thought I was a predator, even if it was all in my head.

I spent a few months smoking weed and doing nothing and became pretty unstable. I got sent to a psychward at one point for seeming like a harm to myself.

I got arrested for basically acting like a dumbass, (i was holding knives in my hands in public, but i wasnt using them or threatening in any way) but all charges were eventually dropped cause I didnt do anything illegal or even morally wrong.

I had to move back in with my parents (who suck btw) and i was unable to get a job for a year because my lawyer recommended probation for one year before the case was dismissed rather than risking trial (the charge was assault with a deadly weapon). during that year my background check would come up with the charges pending.

I have been off probation for a couple months now and am looking for jobs again. I think i will land one soon.

I knew that just weed wasnt the problem but it just hit me that this whole experience with this girl was so stressful thats probably what set me off and I should try to work through it.