Surrogacy as a single man

intactUS_throwaway · 2021-01-24T18:20:07+00:00

I can't recommend against surrogacy enough, but if you insist on going down that road, get the whole deal on exactly what the laws say so you and your child don't get fucked six ways to Sunday.

What I would recommend is adopting a boy specifically to get him the hell out of the system. I don't know what it's like there, but if it's anything like here, you could well be saving him from a life in and out of prison after he ages out.

TusindMaader · 2021-01-24T21:29:55+00:00

Tell your dad you want to keep your male line alive.

Don't do adoption. You're not a cuck. Raise your own son.

pappo4ever · 2021-01-25T17:38:54+00:00

You can also try to adopt a kid, it's exactly the same, somebody brings you a baby and that's it, you are his father. Mothers carry their kids inside, but all fathers adopt their kids.

I guess what I'm asking of you men is to help me feel less awkward about going against my tradition and disappointing my family.

Fck them, it's not their life. They should have had more kids instead of putting pressure on you.

everyone would love to see me in a huge wedding paid for by family followed by a big ceremony for the birth of my first child.

You are a man, you can marry and have kids at 80 if you want. In fact, yesterday I knew a guy that did exactly that. Not the wisest of decisions, but hey, who am I to criticize him?

Aurelian_X · 2021-01-27T13:23:06+00:00

I think instead of surrogate you should adopt. There are so many things that could go wrong with he surrogate. For example the woman later claiming that she never agreed to be a surrogate and instead wants to keep the child and wants you to pay her child support and stuff

TC1851 · 2021-01-24T22:00:46+00:00

Yeah. As a Man who wants kids but doesn't want to end up in a loosing deal relationship (which is what 99% of all Men get) I would like to know more about surrogacy. My fear is that Women who offer themselves up are likely not the smartest, etc. and I want my kids to have good genes

HeartOfSky · 2021-01-24T20:55:24+00:00

A year ago, I worked with a th a new client for a session. He was 54 y/o and had recently had a child via surrogacy. He knew he wanted a child, but the relationship to make one never happened. So, he did it on his own. At the time, he was so glad he made the decision. I don't know any more details, becuase we haven't worked together since.

StopSexualAssault · 2021-01-25T02:21:51+00:00

I'm a celibate virgin who has thought of adoption, surrogacy, and artificial insemination as substitutes for traditional fatherhood. Adoption may be the easiest of the 3 because there's usually always an orphan or fatherless child in a society. I'm thinking of adoption though some societies might not want to give kids to men as much as give kids to women.

Have you looked into the laws of surrogacy before considering it? Just as there are laws governing adoption and marriage, there may be laws governing surrogacy. Surrogacy also might mean your having sex with a woman, so you'd have to be mindful of sex laws and false rape accusations. Outside of that, surrogacy may be fine. If your family is willing to help you raise the child, then childcare may not be an issue either.

icontactless · 2025-01-03T23:09:40+00:00

I like mens activists because you so truly don't care for anything else, you don't even stop to consider how that would affect a child. Lmao. Peace to you. Hope you find some.

Ill_Grapefruit5670 · 2025-05-16T05:02:49+00:00

So did you do it? I'm curious to wonder what happened? I was considering this option too when I realized I'm dying alone. My mother is against it but I try to convince her that if she wants a grandchild or grandchildren then this is probably her only bet. And I do want kids so it's not like I'm totally against this. In fact it excite me that I can still have a family dispite not being able to find someone to have a family with. Just the thought of raising my kids and showing them what I know and watching them grow to be better than me makes me happy.

lastlaugh100 · 2021-01-24T20:51:54+00:00

In 2009, Garson adopted a seven-year-old son, Nathen.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Willie_Garson

thwip62 · 2021-01-26T00:00:04+00:00

I wish this technology existed: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=79LZ64AjUI8

Cyan-Cypher · 2021-12-27T18:16:00+00:00

Hey bro, I just wanted to know what happened to your plan, like you adopted a child or you went for surrogacy?

aeroverra · 2022-05-09T23:35:57+00:00

Still saving for this? I have been thinking about this for a while. I have had a lot of bad relationships and while I have not given up on that front I want to have a backup plan if I get older and it doesn't work out.

It seems like people like to talk down to this idea and that doesn't bother me because I am confident I will be in a better financial and emotional position to take care of my children than most two parent households and if you want to judge me that's your own problem.

I will say however the thing that annoys me a bit is those who act like it's wrong to use a surrogate over adoption. How is it wrong of me to want a biological child like most people? I would consider adopting after and I'm sure most of them will never seriously consider it themselves.

Title	Surrogacy as a single man
Author	zillguckerberg
Upvotes	26
Comments	38
Date	January 24, 2021 6:12 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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