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I took a lot of grief on this sub with regards to trying to find a way to solve the sexual chemistry issues with my bf, but for those of you provided helpful comments thank you. I also wanted to share how we were able to work things out in case others on here are feeling the same way.

Before bringing anything up, first thing I did was try to to make him feel as confident as possible. I told him about the qualities I loved about him, how special he made me feel, and how much he means to me. This gave him a huge ego boost and he was noticeably more confident and more affectionate towards me.

From there I started dressing up in sexy lingerie, suggesting we we go out to trendier bars and restaurants in town so he could show me off, and initiating PDA to give him the thrill of having other watch me be all over him. In some instances he’d notice me lock eyes with someone else (women and men) just before I was to kiss him and it was a huge turn on for me.

After doing this for a couple weeks, I got sense that he was confident enough in his masculinity that I decided to come clean with my kink. I told him everything about my past and why I wanted to try penis sleeves and he APPRECIATED MY HONESTY and was willing to give them a try after reassuring him just how crazy I am about him.

Since then our sex life has dramatically improved and it has encouraged both us to be more adventurous. We’ve incorporated role play, restraints, butt plugs (on both of us), dildos and even explored kinks like BDSM and orgasm denial. We’ve even gone so far as to consider swinging with confident we’ve become in our relationship and commitment to each other - although for now I just primarily bring up as a form of dirty talk to initiate sex/have him go down on me, but who knows where this road will go?

Tl;dr: honesty is the policy in relationships and so long as you approach things the right way even the most delicate issues can be discussed successfully. I’ve honestly never felt so secure in my relationship before and genuinely believe that this experience has brought us closer.