This is an important mindset difference that some guys have had trouble with I’ve noticed(including myself). I’m 21 and a junior at a big college. During high school I was the skinny and not so attractive guy who then started doing self improvement once I hit college a couple years ago.

I struggle with what is the proper mindset to have. First mindset is “I started at the top and am continuing to improve at the top”

Second mindset is “I was at the bottom of the social hierarchy and am working my way up to the top”

I want to heart your experiences and thoughts.

This post was inspired by a post I saw on PPD here where the user mentioned along the lines of how “The idea that status can boost SMV is a red herring society tells guys” I agreed to this. You ever see how so many “unattractive” guys get a fraternity bid at college and suddenly think they’re at the “top?” Then they leave college and have the epiphany that I talked about above.