Heavy Self Improvement Advice

Deep_Strength · 2022-11-21T19:11:04+00:00

daily nicotine usage

Fix this.

I’m in the military so I’m restricted in my community involvement.

What does that mean? You can't get involved with a Church? That would many of the stated issues above.

No hobbies, I try to read but it’s boring

Most things in life we don't want to do but we should do anyway. Build your discipline.

burn_bobonga · 2022-11-22T01:23:15+00:00

I try to read but it’s boring.

Try audiobooks or other recorded material. You can listen while working out.

No father so no real manly guidance.

Find a group of church brothers that have their lives in order.

I’m sick of just scrolling through tik tok or instagram when I’m not training.

Work on putting down the phone crutch and socialize. Being able to make connections outside of the military will be a crucial life skill. Try setting aside times or days of fasting from phone use and talk to people.

Long Term Girlfriend

This makes me curious. What use is a long term girlfriend. Marry them if they're worthy and get to multiplying, or move on. This matter would require more nuanced advice and details but this is my first thought.

Looking for advice on productive habits to build my masculinity.

Masculinity was established with Adam, and it's very simple. Listen to what God commanded him. Can you take a wife and raise children? What are you lacking. A faithful woman? Basic industriousness? Beyond that you'll have to develop your own unique style of masculinity.

Just beware the habits that hijack your natural masculine drive, e.g. the phone and other dopamine black holes. Uninstall apps, turn off notifications, make it as inconvenient as possible for you to access those time sinks. Things that are convenient and enjoyable you will naturally gravitate towards. Conversely, remove any hurdles to engaging in what you find productive. The goal will be to make it easier than pulling your phone out of your pocket and opening tiktok.

redwall92 · 2022-11-21T18:54:20+00:00

Do what my 16yo did. Delete TikTok and Instagram on your phone.

I know that's not positive advice. And the best advice may well be something positive for you. But you know the "delete it" advice is good advice.

My son got into gym and golf along with school and work. He replaced his TikTok consumption with something good. Your choice as to what you pursue with the free time.

jmills64 · 2022-11-22T01:17:09+00:00

There’s always room for improvement. Find a way to serve others. Lead a bible study with some fellow Christians. Take up bjj. Put a ring on your girlfriends finger. Learn to lead her spiritually. Hang out with the chaplain.

There’s more to the Christian life then just doing the right things. God wants you to spend time with Him. Spend time in the Bible in an effort to get closer to God.

Praexology · 2022-11-22T00:58:59+00:00

Start doing stuff. You will always have excuses to not do things that are good, nothing will stop that except the decision to overcome them.

strshp_enterprise · 2022-11-23T09:04:46+00:00

Nothing is good for you. It resets dopamine levels to normal.

When I quit porn I quit video games and nicotine too. I quit a lot of things. I still watch movies and read, but I try to avoid entertainment couched as “hobbies.”

2022-11-26T03:06:30+00:00

You’re better than me man. No porn is half the battle. Are you and your girlfriend waiting until marriage?

I’d find some worthwhile activities. How about reading and lifting?

Title	Heavy Self Improvement Advice
Author	Any-Union6985
Upvotes	8
Comments	8
Date	November 21, 2022 6:02 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RPChristians
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