My mother and I sat down today and chatted about my relationship. She's never been an advice giver, but tonight she earnestly offered me advice on how to treat my guy. It boiled down to this: Spoil him.

Yes sure I faithfully shower him with kisses, tell him how I love him, let him take the lead and emotionally support him. But the shirt he gave me lies in the back of my closet because I find it ugly. The dishware he gave me sits dusty because it's smaller than I'd like. I recently took home the leftovers from our meal out because, after all, I payed for more than half of it.

I've been harbouring so many expectations for him, keeping score and not appreciating every single thing... and hiding that fact even from myself.

I'm so grateful for my mother's advice. That's why I'm sharing it here.

No showing love only where I want to, no discarding his showings of love, no expectations, no grudges, no selfishness. I'll spoil him, spoil him absolutely rotten.