Okay I don’t want hate, I’m just a young women and I’m not married but we have a baby and he supports me. Basically married and he gave me a ring but no contract. We have been through alot I guess. But he has a respect problem, he calls me curse names and has physically put his hands on me and once threw something at my face and I got him back the last time so he hasn’t don’t it since maybe he learned he can’t do that without risking his own harm. it hasn’t been easy to deal with, and now we have a baby and since then I’ll say he’s been a lot better but stuff has still happened (the throwing thing thing and I was holding her) but I swear anytime I open my mouth he just shuts me down no matter what it is , he does 95% of the talking and I just listen and respond accordingly but he also doesn’t want me to ask questions then he gets annoyed and stops the conversation and he doesn’t give one hoot about my true self or anything like that. I use to be very into hobbies, I played guitar and painted but ever since we got together he had a problem with me doing anything unproductive or anything that isn’t contributing to the house , the whole house is decorated by him and he won’t let me change anything or choose anything bc he thrifts everything and gets it cheap, which is fine and also I guess it’s not my house but he got it when we were together, he already had all the stuff for it though... He doesn’t do much for our baby like He loves her but hasn’t done any of the baby care at all, no wake ups no diaper changes or feeding and he has held her ONCE when we were in a doctors office and awkwardly out her on his lap at that (newborn) . And then when she finally gets to sleep he wants me to get to work on his bussiness and I have to argue with him or Ignore him to get some rest without the baby finally. So I get that it’s not all men, and i don’t want to be a single mom or take away father hood from him. But I’ve already tried to get him to see what I what from him and he simply ignores me. For perspective I’m 23 pretty much and he’s 32 so we’ve got a big age gap and he sees me as a child. I tired to leave many times before we had a baby and I just never had the balls to actually go thru with it. It’s not all bad but I am feeling desperate for a real connection with someone who doesn’t see me like he does.