Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 06/13/2016

fhigurethisout · 2016-06-13T22:44:31+00:00

Edit: I'm removing my original reflection because it was really self-depricating. While it definitely helped getting it off my chest and typing it out, I don't think it accomplishes anything positive by floating around on the internet. I don't want to spread bad vibes.

This week will be better and I'll just keep working towards my goals.

2016-06-13T23:09:39+00:00

How are you doing with your personal goals? Are you living a life you want to live? (are your values aligning with your actions?)

I decided that I'm too old to not be saving. I'm downsizing to a tiny ass room to save $1500/mo. It hurts but it's ultimately the best decision right now.

How have you shown love to your SO, family, or friends this week?

Babe and I have been seeing each other more regularly during the week. I always pick up his calls no matter what. I've shown my affection by pretty much being available 100% if requested.

What are you proud of?

This will sound weird, but my strange ability to harden myself when necessary.

What are you not so proud of?

See above lol

What do you wish to accomplish this week?

see my darling bf!!
draft a rpw post on the myth of the "working woman"
clean my apt and start packing
plan for July monthly goals
lose 1 pound by Friday

2016-06-13T23:36:42+00:00

personal goals

pretty good this week, slipped up a couple of times but mostly alright. i've been eating properly which always makes me feel good, and making more of an effort to pre-prepare lunches and dinners so it's less of a stressful rush when i'm hungry, and also less likely to waste money on quick meals. i've been more careful with my money and have been working on putting a bit more than usual away for a trip that SO and i have planned for later in the year. SO has also been teaching me bits and pieces about business, and we're planning to start a small online store as a side-stream/hobby soon. i'm super excited about this and have been doing a bunch of reading that he's recommended - i feel like we'll make a really good team on this! he's already running a successful business, so the idea is that this new project will eventually replace my income and we'll be able to work towards a more flexible life together :)

how have you shown love

with SO i've been trying really hard not to complain around him (i'm a whinger, he's not at all). we've been really physically affectionate and growing more intimate as we make big "future" type plans together. it feels really good to see him getting excited about building things together.

it was a long weekend here and we went to visit my family out of town for a really nice dinner. everyone was really relaxed and happy and i love how well my SO gets along with them. i've very recently become an auntie for the first time, so i'm loving spending time with my brother's new baby and seeing how well they parent together. we sent them away to a resort for a couple of days to unwind, and they loved that.

what are you proud of

i'm happy with my food patterns and weight loss this week. it's coming off a little slower than i'd like, but i'm so near my goal that this is expected. i'm very happy with the way SO and i have been working together and getting closer.

what are you not so proud of

i was a bit hormonal yesterday and was in one of those moods where everything's frustrating and you want to cry at the drop of a hat. SO was helping me fix a situation that i'd caused by being a bit scatterbrained, it was getting complicated and i got overwhelmed and told him to just leave it, i'd sort it out. i felt bad that he was taking time out of his day to help me, and as a result got snappy. he explained how we're a team, this is just how things are and i should get used it. it doesn't make him feel good when i reject his help.

what do you want to accomplish this week

i want to finish reading a business book SO gave me. i want to lose another pound by friday i want to salvage the dying plant on our windowsill. poor thing's not happy. i want to stop with the pointless complaining

2016-06-13T23:48:21+00:00

How are you doing with your personal goals? Are you living a life you want to live? (are your values aligning with your actions?)

I would say so. We are evolving our plans for the future, our budget, and timeline for doing certain things. We had some unexpected expenses this weekend (my AC went out less than 50mi into a >300mi drive during the first heat wave of the year - AHHHH!) that kind of made us think differently about our savings goals and change where we're putting money.

How have you shown love to your SO, family, or friends this week?

The long drive was to head home to help clear out my grandparents' house as they're moving into assisted living. It was stressful - my mom and her sisters were bickering because they were all very emotional about clearing out their childhood home, I tried very hard to put that into perspective when they would say negative things about each other and I feel like it helped them realize that they were ALL going through it and they started to get along better. Yay!

What are you proud of?

See previous answer - also, not having a COMPLETE meltdown when the AC went out. I don't handle heat well at all so I was on the verge, but I kept calm and followed through with my plans. I even stuck with my plans to visit Nauvoo, IL and see some historical places there, it was really cool and well worth it.

What are you not so proud of?

My car started having transmission problems on the way home - I got flipped off a lot for slowing down quite a bit on inclines. When I was about 50mi from home, I got flipped off for about the 5th time and I had just had it and flipped them off and laid on the horn as they passed me. It was childish and I'm embarrassed that I acted that way.

What do you wish to accomplish this week?

I am planning some closet organization that will free up some space for us - hoping to get that done by the weekend so I can just enjoy time with my man!

VintageVee · 2016-06-14T10:15:11+00:00

Hi Fhigure! Hope you're both OK and adjusting - I read your previous post but didn't have anything relevant to add.

So far this week,hmmm...

1) well, I think. Paying off debts, applying for new jobs. House is regularly very clean, food prep is good. I'm still too snappy with my kids - they are both hard work. My youngest starts preschool this month and I'm excited and relieved to finally get regular free time.

2) we had an amazing weekend together - our one year anniversary. He did lots of romantic things. I bought him a gift and card which touched him. I ironed his work shirts even though I was suddenly ill Sunday night - he said he admired my ability to stick to promises but to me it was a very little thing I'd not dream of reneging on, he does so much for me ! I graciously accepted early morning advances even though I wasn't in the mood and tired...(rare for me!) but we ended up having some of our best sex to date, blew my mind!

3) we talked about future plans more and I resisted the urge to be Princess DemandyPants regarding timelines. He wanted to talk money and selling his house. I resisted the urge to remind him I won't live together before marriage. We've already discussed it, he's well aware, don't panic VV.

4) he forgot to lock the front door before bed , I'm phobic about burglars, when I came down the next morning and discovered it unlocked I was very upset and said "should that be my job from now on?!" In an unpleasant way. Ouch. He looked like he'd been slapped and said no of course not...I'm sorry I thought I'd done it. We both felt bad.

5) I have bags of cleared out clothes to take to charity shop. I want to freeze some meals. I want to get an early night every week night as I'm so tired. I want to whine less to OH without being dishonest about the stresses in my life right now.

2016-06-14T14:22:48+00:00

I am doing great with my personal goals. I am definitely living my life in a better way than ever before.
This week I have shown my love to my So by being support for him. Before we got together, he was leading a very bachelor lifestyle and now that we are together, he realizes that some things are better when you have a woman around. He used to eat garbage food when he got home, he was used to just dumping his clothes over into his drawers, he always bought food for lunch t work, just small things. So the other day I happily folded his laundry before going to work and when he got home he was like "whaaatt is this??" he was so touched by such a small gesture. It makes me confident that he knows how much I love and appreciate him. Our relationship is kind of like this except maybe not so extreme. lol
I am proud that I finally learned this song on the piano. I was having a bit of a hard time learning how to move my hand around but I've got the hang of it.
I'm not so proud of my caloric intake over the weekend. I need to learn to eat normally outside of my regularly scheduled program m-th. f-sun seems to be the days I just go into a free for all. i'm going to up my game this weekend.
This week I want to get through another song and also go clothes shopping for my trip next week. I am really excited about this trip so I want to make sure I don't go overboard with the planning and just get ready to have fun. Let go and let god!

littleteafox · 2016-06-14T17:09:20+00:00

Personal goals are doing well! Since doing keto I've dropped about 4lbs in ~2weeks. I know it's probably water weight but it's still encouraging and it hasn't been as awful as my first experience. I'm just doing my own thing and not following a meal plan. I'm also a "lazy" keto-er I think. I go <50g instead of <25, and let myself have like a drop of honey in my tea for the honey flavor (maybe .5tsp) and I've eaten 3-4 pieces of pineapple, had small lattes, etc before and have been able to stay within my macros.

Right now I need self-care really badly, though. Practically every weekend for the past 2 months have involved large social events and I am completely drained. I really need some solid time and distance from parties and large groups but I'm not sure I'm going to get it any time soon. On top of that, work has been stressful as well. Right now I"m thinking of just taking some PTO to chill out, and getting back into yoga and meditation. I'm a lil hermit and I just want my shell back, eep. Thank goodness bf understands and is encouraging, and understands where I'm coming from.

I've been cooking for him a lot lately, and have tried to show him my support and be a good girlfriend by attending all these functions with a positive attitude. I have been more open with him and talked more about past relationships and showed him my ex'es on facebook, etc -- just being super transparent about everything and satiating his curiosities.
I am proud that I haven't flipped out yet from stress and social pressures, woohoo!
My spending was a little over budget this month. I should have known better and restrained myself after an expensive month of buying wedding gifts and bridal shower stuff for SO's sister, but I didn't. Oops.
This week - yoga, relaxing, taking a long hot bath in quiet. Try to feel better about work.

smallpeach · 2016-06-15T21:37:52+00:00

personal goals

The last two weeks have not been so good diet-wise; I'm not sure exactly why I lost control. But I'm turning it around this week, and so far my reset diet is going well so I'm pleased!

how have you shown love

I live with my parents and I currently don't have many friends (I want to get my shit together before I work on this). For my parents I'm keeping my areas clean since my mom is a huge neat freak! Also I plan to make a super yummy meal for my dad this weekend. My sister is coming home in a few days and I am planning fun activities for us to do!

what are you proud of

I'm sticking to my diet so far this week and it feels really great.

what are you not so proud of

Besides the diet stuff, I haven't been as proactive with my studies. I keep resorting to cramming and it's finally catching up to me so I need to work on that.

what do you wish to accomplish this week

Finish all the required tasks for my upcoming internship! Study more, waste less time on Reddit/Facebook.

Title	Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 06/13/2016
Author	fhigurethisout
Upvotes	9
Comments	20
Date	June 13, 2016 10:22 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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