hi ladies, i need some relationship advice, basically my boyfriend doesn’t feel deserving… of anything, because he’s “not successful”, i worry i feed into this giving him the idea that if he wants to be my boyfriend, he most be successful and become wealthy, he says i deserve the best and i truly appreciate this but it’s not necessary for me. i do come from a well off family and i do have some frivolous things and i know this feeds into his thoughts ( but i buy all of my designer second hand or through very exhausting thrifting i enjoy, and imho it’s more fun to me) i love him and i support him and it makes me beyond proud that he wants to work so hard for himself and i truly believe he’ll reach the stars someday if that’s what he wants!, but i don’t want to pressure him or add any type of anxieties to him on this matter. he said it makes him feel worst when im affectionate and sweet to him and do things for him because he just feels like he doesn’t deserve any of it, like he doesn’t deserve me. it makes me super sad and it breaks my heart because he is the greatest and i love him and i honestly would give him the universe if it was a possibility, it’s not, so i give him my (me) universe instead. i notice he worries “my patience” will run out and i will leave him, which is genuinely not true, i believe in him dearly. i don’t want to approach this in a “it doesn’t matter if you can’t” way because 1) he can and he will and 2) he’ll take it as in “you can’t do it” way because i know him and he’ll think i don’t believe in him. but like i said, i do i just wish he didn’t worry so much about it and felt so pressured, i think it’s more of a self esteem issue but still, i just want him well and happy :(