A lot of you ladies are already well ahead of me in this department, but I've still had some struggles with trusting hubs with some things, and adequately displaying that trust on many other things. I just wanted to share a little breakthrough today that will hopefully resonate with some of you still sharing this issue.

As I mentioned in a previous thread, my husband has been working on replacing our sewer line. He did all of the digging himself with just a regular old shovel, so it took quite awhile just to get to the pipe. It's taken quite a bit longer than anticipated, and today when he went to get the last part he needed so he could finish up, he was told the store didn't actually carry it even though their website said they had it in stock. When he texted me with the bad news before he left to come back home he said, "I'll get it taken care of by the end of the week. You need to find a way to calm yourself before I get home because I'm not going to deal with you being frantic about this." It was like a punch in the gut, and I realized that I had been stifling the fire of this wonderful man who is working so hard for us. At that moment it hit me like a ton of bricks that I married someone I trust, and in my wedding vows I even promised to support his endeavors and not hold him back, and here this whole time I've been failing at those vows by being so nervous and making him feel that his wife doesn't think he can do it.

Being a submissive wife to a good man means I am given the gift of not having to worry so much. He is in control and he will not lead us astray. I've been squandering that gift by not letting go and being unsupportive of him as he fills his role in our marriage. He's been doing his part while taking my attitude in stride as I fail to do my part, so I didn't realize how much I was making this a bad experience for him until he texted me with the assumption that I would freak out on him over this snag.

Ladies, your encouragement matters. If you've found yourself facing uncertainty, take care that you remember why you decided to submit to this person and appreciate what he has given you. If you're hesitant about his ability to complete something, remind yourself that even if something goes wrong he will fix it. Either way, it's going to get done. The possibility of an inconvenience is well worth the chance to build up his spirit instead of chipping away at it, thus building trust and intimacy between the both of you.