First Traditional Relationship

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-02-26T05:01:24+00:00

Early on, when we were dating, I mentioned to my now husband that my washing machine was messed up. Without my even asking, he offered to drive an hour just to look at it. One of my sweetest memories is of feeling him taking my glasses off of me when I fell asleep on his chest watching a show in bed, while visiting him when we were dating. Another was when I hit my head skiing and he held me while I cried. Another, when he buried my dog for me in the rain the morning after we put him down, because I couldn't watch. Not long after that, he slept in an ICU chair for four days after I almost died having our twins. He's not a verbose man, when it comes to affection, but he sure shows up.

sapphiredawn · 2024-02-26T05:53:48+00:00

Reflecting on past relationships I’m floored at how much of my overwhelming daily anxiety was fueled by being subconsciously pressured into the ‘strong working feminist’ / more dominant leader partner in all my previous relationships with men. I was playing a role for years and years and didn’t have a clue why my relationships were not fulfilling.

My first experience with my man was the absence of that existential anxiety; I felt safe and protected from danger when he was nearby. It took me ages to even be able to articulate what was different.

After I noticed the absence of anxiety from the outside world, I also noticed my conscious experiences with him were that of friction. We would have intense passionate conversations for hours. I fell for him early, and live in denial at how powerful our connection is sometimes. It can be uncomfortable for me, as a woman who had never really experienced strong traditional men before having met him.

He is very masculine, and it was scary for me at first, to submit psychologically and be fully feminine.

Reading the advice of the ladies on this sub has been a game changer for me understanding more about men in general but also about my genuine femininity which I rejected and disguised for so long. It’s also been incredible because it’s like seeing genuine beauty in small ordinary things all around us all the time, and understanding how beautifully men and women are wired to fit together.

TLDR: it feels like coming home in the best possible way

Deplorable_X · 2024-02-26T08:22:09+00:00

Great place to be in life. Make sure you are indispensable for his life (his mission) and watch out for unconscious disrespect or unnecessary challenges to his decisions.

Infamous-String-9782 · 2024-02-26T06:37:18+00:00

This is so inspiring to hear! I’m trying to lean more into my feminine but find it challenging when we both earn and feel pressure to earn, 6 figure incomes. Does anyone else deal with that? I feel like if completely supported me financially, I would be able to be more feminine, but depending on someone like that terrifies me and we have goals we are working on that need both incomes. Advice? O

Popular-Stay-3346 · 2024-02-26T18:09:42+00:00

Wish u both all the very best

AutoModerator · 2024-02-26T04:51:47+00:00

Title: First Traditional Relationship

Author Last_Job_632

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My current boyfriend(30M/30F) (and future husband) is VERY traditional. Like, he saved me from feminism and the independent woman mentality and I am beyond grateful.

I cook for this man, he creates a safe haven for my femininity to flourish, I am submissive to him, he is respectful and loving towards and the commitment he gave to me was instantaneous. I am LOVING this relationship. It’s healthy, it’s balanced and it’s made me a better woman.

Lately, he’s become very lovingly expressive with his words and I can see him literally falling in love with me as the days go by.

Lovemaking is different (in a sweeter and tender way), he’s becoming more verbal (telling me I am the one for him, or I am the best girlfriend he’s ever had, or thanking me for being the woman he needs in his life)

This is the best exchange of energy and in my heart I know I am marrying him.

What were your first experiences like in a more balanced relationship expressing healthy femininity and masculinity ?

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Title	First Traditional Relationship
Author	Last_Job_632
Upvotes	33
Comments	8
Date	February 26, 2024 4:51 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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