Чем хуже, тем лучше

"Кажется парадоксальным тот факт, что чем лучше женщина относится к мужчине, чем меньше он ее ценит, тем меньше уделяет внимания, тем меньше любит ее, наконец."

Matrony is a very RP Russian site, written by women for women.

This specific article adresses the paradox of treating a guy well or poorly and receiving the opposite treatment back.

My best attempt at translating the important bits:

One friend told me that she reached a harmonious relationship with her ​​husband through the method of "if you want to keep him - let him go."

She calls her man only to get something done, not bothering him with phone calls, asking too many questions, even if he is severely delayed [at work].

At first she was afraid that her husband would think her cold and indifferent, and that actually happened. But when the husband asked her why she does so, she said that she just trusts him and thus leaves him some personal space, to which he immediately expressed his great appreciation.

The second point - is to not take on the extra work. If a man is able to solve a problem, then there is no need for a woman to take it on, even though she could easily solve this problem by herself. Sometimes it is good to deliberately "vrednichat" [the closest translation is "misbehave" or "be naughty"] and behave not quite like a man would like you to, but to do so solely for the purpose to make him aware that you are also a person. According to her, this attitude was interpreted at first by her husband as bitchiness, but now he brags to friends, what a wonderful wife he has.

The rest of the article talks about dealing with your own hurt feelings of when you act well towards the guy, but he acts the opposite - talking with friends, writing in a diary. The idea is to let the emotions out beforehand so as to mentally balanced when dealing with a guy, thus being both more attractive to him and putting yourself in a in a position to let him go if he actually doesn't like you.