His problem or mine?

HappyWifeLife · 2014-10-03T13:00:08+00:00

Are you attracted to this guy at all? It sounds to me like you aren't really. On the one hand you say his actions are turning you off but then you say these have been the happiest two months of your life. Sounds pretty indecisive to me.

You're right that you can only change yourself. What's the real harm in letting him take good care of you? Does he not measure up to your idea of an Alpha based on what you've read or do these "nice things" he does for you really make you upset? I have a feeling a lot of women would read your words and find you selfish and ungrateful.

Have you considered that your actions, facial expressions, and moods are signaling him that you aren't that happy? Why would he constantly be vigilant to this if it weren't really an issue? Maybe it's not the problem but maybe it is?

As for you sex life - what is stopping you from finishing? Is it your own head?

This sounds to me like your issue, not his. You said you "don't like people to go out of their way for you"- but why is that? What has happened that this makes you so uncomfortable? Is it a past relationship with a man or family where you were expected or owed unfairly in return? Something is making these acts of kindness on his part translate into a threat on yours. You need to really think this through and find out why it bothers you so much. This, I think, is really the key to your happiness - not stopping a guy from treating you well.

Best of luck.

VarsitySlutTeamCpt · 2014-10-03T13:20:50+00:00

He's doing textbook BP attraction and it isn't working.

TheTerrorSquad · 2014-10-03T14:14:48+00:00

Holy shit! Why on earth are you complaining about him? Because he has a second chance at life and literally re arranged his whole life and has you and is showing how much he appreciates it all. Jesus you need to re evaluate your thinking for real.

Edit: " on a side note he hasn't read trp recently and I can see him slipping back into beta"

Yeah you can fuck right off with that attitude.

homo_homini_lupus · 2014-10-03T13:30:51+00:00

Huge boyfriend bitchfest. What is it you want from us? Your boyfriends toooo nice and does tooooo many things for you and you're an ungrateful shrew. He recently recovered from a life threatening illness and now his being too nice is annoying you. Lucky him. You are exhibiting the classic response of a woman to too much beta comfort, disgust. At least thank you for serving as an example

while I don't want to be with a beta, I don't want to nag and pester him to read red pill and work on being alpha

Assuming you aren't a troll, which I'm sure you are, you are engaged to a nice beta male who is "good husband material". He isn't going to "turn alpha" from reading TRP and TRP isn't a guidebook to make some ungrateful shrew happy. Please break off your engagement to him so he can hopefully find a grateful woman who is good wife material and don't sentence him to a lifetime of dissatisfied shrew hell with you.

Title	His problem or mine?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	October 3, 2014 12:38 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/2i6la8/his_problem_or_mine/
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