Okay so I see a lot of posts on here about how much body count matters and similar things. I agree, it does. But I have some tips for those who don‘t have one, as my own is above 10 and I am 21.

  1. First of all: You don‘t have to mention it. As long as you are careful about not mixing social circles, which is relatively easy to do if you have half a brain, they will never know. They will therefore never have a negative impression of you, your past, your promiscuous image. Second of all: You can be honest, but lie by omission. This is not a religious or moralistic post, this is simply strategy. You can state how many relationships you‘ve had and allow them to fill in the blanks (and assume your count is lower than it is). Third: You can refuse to answer. This can make them assume it‘s higher than it is, or not. It depends how you go about it. If you act innocent and virginal enough this could work in your favour (they may assume you‘re embarrassed due to lack of experience), but know yourself, if you’re confident and exude sexual prowess this won‘t work. Fourth: You can half answer and say you only have sex in a relationship. Fifth: Instead of omitting things, deliberately state things. Discuss openly a few relationships so he assumes those are your only ones.

In my experience, I‘ve been on 50~ first dates and only been asked that by 1 man, this was after we decided to be FWBs and I was sitting naked on his bed. And this was because he had only been with 1 other person. But I’ve even been with virgins and not been asked it. It doesn’t usually come up, and especially if you have not become sexual in your current relationship.

Your current habits matter. He asked me because we’d hooked up the first night we met, and with his ex they’d taken 3 months.

Now I’m not advocating for waiting or withholding sex, I’ve had relationships where we had sex early on, but the more innocent you appear, the better the impression you’ll give.

  1. Surround yourself with rich people. If you actually know rich people, you know they are snorting lines of coke and having threesomes. So they don’t care how fast you choose to have sex. Get yourself in the door. Be sociable. Unleash your inner Anna Delvey because once you are accepted by 1 person, you’re accepted by all, it’s very insular.

  2. For me I attended a private school and got into a top 20 global university by my academic merit. So work hard. Most men I have landed are very intelligent and want a woman who is just as intelligent. I also have an internship at a top finance company and have interned at a commercial law firm, so you can meet men there.

  3. Be hot. The majority of the time I was invited places or parties because I’m attractive. It also helps for dating apps or being approached in real life or online.

  4. Know rich people. It is easier in my experience to ingratiate yourself with new money types (care less about history, desperate to please, excited to spend on you), Americans (no class), foreigners (little conception of class system of host country).

  5. Know languages. More rich men to converse with.

  6. Volunteer. I also met men volunteering at museums, parliamentary events, language courses, and being part of university society committees and boards.

  7. Know their interests. Men love to speak about themselves. So be a good conversationalist. I once got asked for a relationship by a guy simply because I stroked his ego for a few hours. For me I’m personally interested in finance, coding, chess, maths etc. but these interests were borne out of dating men who were interested in these things. Because I engaged with it and allowed them to talk about their passions they felt seen and heard. You don’t need to work for a finance company just because your finance bro boyfriend suggested it, but you can still listen intently as he rants about asset classes.

  8. Be impressive. I’m well-travelled, smart, articulate, hard-working, speak multiple languages, have a good career ahead of me and I’m attractive. If you want an average man, be average. If not, you have to work. And this doesn’t mean you can’t be impressive by also loving volunteering, knitting, baking etc. I love those things too. But be a well-rounded and self-sufficient individual.

  9. Be classy. Your image and reputation are everything. It is how you present yourself online, it is how you speak about yourself to others. Be your biggest advocate. A product with poor packaging/promotion will sell less than the same product with great packaging/promotion.

Accept your body count and flaws. And then work with it. An Only Fans-esque hoe or a college girl who rants about Brad railing her after the club last Saturday could have a body count of 2. But she remains classless, and clueless. Men do not want girls caked in makeup and spider lashes with Shein two pieces leaving little to the imagination and constant bikini photoshoots. Class and elegance are everything.

Your behaviour matters. Don’t be a club whore, don’t drink excessively, don’t take drugs, don’t smoke, don’t swear, don’t have an entourage of male friends and ex talking stages etc. etc.

  1. Don’t care about money. I was in a relationship for 1 year with a boy who had a trust fund of multi millions, and I only realised that a few months into dating him. He was the most frugal person I’d ever come across, but I dated him for him. In the same way, the finance bro I dated took me to beautiful restaurants and worshipped me, but I never asked for it, I only thanked him constantly and always offered to pay (but never did) - also, never tell a man NOT to pay, because men enjoy doing this.

  2. Don’t be dramatic. I am quite an unemotional person, and I think this works in my favour. You should be sweet, cutesy, pleasant, but don’t text constantly, don’t whine about the pace of a relationship, just relax and sit by. Allow them to come to you and match their energy. Don’t post them on socials (unless you’re v serious). Just be chill.

For context: I’ve dated multiple men with 1M+ networths One connected to a Lord, some trust fund babies, an Olympian, couple finance/tech bros Many studying Engineering, Maths, Econ, Law, basketball players / rugby players All with heights above 6’1, some 6’4-7 These are all people that have asked me to be their girlfriend

This is not a post about marriage or long committed relationships but simply how to date and socialise with these people