My husband is at the gym, right now, with, who i consider the OW, even though they both say its just flirting. He has a good idea that I was told. This hasn't been the first time and we are over a year in this. I don't want to cry and beg, he gaslights and then leaves in anger. What do I do?? How can I show up differently when he gets home soon?? I just want my family together.