Why do I constantly feel undesirable?

kaylaperez529 · 2022-07-31T17:32:30+00:00

Hi, this is my first Reddit post/reply. I have definitely felt like that. You have to be in love with yourself and know that you are desirable. Start giving compliments to yourself and being kind. You’ll slowly start to love yourself more and more everyday. I would recommend doing affirmations everyday, self love meditation and reading self help books 😊

SunshineSundress · 2022-07-31T18:54:15+00:00

While desirability starts with physical attractiveness, that alone will never be enough to make you a desirable long term partner for a worthwhile man. I suspect you know this deep down: looks are only your foot in the door and a ticket to the party. It alone does not secure you a healthy mate or happiness in the long run.

If your looks are all you feel like you can offer, it’s understandable why you feel undesirable and unlovable. You feel “like there’s a hole in your heart” because right now, you’ve decorated your outer shell very well, but inside you feel like you’re hollow and lacking in substance. Spend less time fixating on how beautiful you are, or how many men hit on you, or how many compliments you get. You’ve also mentioned that you dress revealingly and post excessively provocative things, which often makes women look desperate and eager for attention.

Besides looking feminine, fit, and well-groomed which doesn’t require that much of your mental headspace, you need to instead focus on developing your character and RMV. What do you bring to the table besides looks and sex? Do people crave to be around you because your presence uplifts them, or are you more of an energy vampire? Do you embody virtues like honesty, loyalty, integrity, humility, kindness, generosity, and warmth? These are some of the things that men look for in long term partners and wives.

And like u/Protocol_Apollo said, stay away from the incel shit. It’s just miserable people who blame all of their troubles on things they can’t control, while ignoring all the things that they absolutely can control and make a much more significant impact anyway. They are losers, thanks to their own self-fulfilling prophecies. Do not align yourself with losers or else you’ll become one too.

MuttonDressedAsGoose · 2022-07-31T21:24:07+00:00

If you have a hole in your heart, it's like having a hole in a bucket. No matter how much affection and love is poured in there, it will just drain straight out. You're not alone.

You have a deep-down belief that you don't deserve to be loved. Presumably, something in your childhood taught you to believe that. I have a hole and my parents were very loving so it may not be that. But somewhere along the way you picked up the belief that you are intrinsically unlovable.

How does one fix it? I suppose therapy. You may be able to find a spiritual solution, as well.

Without knowing more about what happened to you when your sense of self was being formed, I really can't say more.

Suspicious-Lake-8768 · 2022-07-31T21:37:21+00:00

do you not believe the men complimenting you or do you just not fit your own standards of beauty ?

Protocol_Apollo · 2022-07-31T17:02:28+00:00

Maybe because you are drinking poison for your mind?

Also, how do I say this…are you trans/identify more with non conventional beauty? Just asking since your avatar has a beard….

Title	Why do I constantly feel undesirable?
Author	FirmEscape8630
Upvotes	0
Comments	8
Date	July 31, 2022 4:44 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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