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| 16 | I want a man taller than me, and I don’t get why people think that’s shallow.It doesn’t really matter who thinks you’re shallow or not. What DOES matter is how likely you are to get what you want. If you are Team 6’0+ or Bust, that’s all well and good, but you have to be okay with the fact that you are significantly less likely to find a man who qualifies for that AND has all the good RMV traits that we look for in a man. Unless you are obnoxious about it and shove it down people’s throats, your preferences will not offend anyone and will not affect anyone else but yours… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/24 06:02 PM |
| 13 | What to do if I didn't like how my boyfriend dressed to the clubIt’s already back!!! There are already whispers of studded daisy dukes, peter pan collars, and funky tights! OP’s bf isn’t outdated - he’s ahead of the curve 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/24 10:53 AM |
| 14 | Unable to strike a connection with the right menSo, you know that being friendly and chatty, striking up conversations, and overall being warm and approachable gets men who did not talk to you first very interested in you. You also know that avoiding eye contact, ignoring, and being nervous (read: cold and stand-offish) to the men you like makes them think you’re not interested. You already have it figured out! For men who you have no interest in, you can either continue to do the same (really, there’s no harm in men being interested in you w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/24 08:42 AM |
| 5 | Deal Makers and Deal BreakersWow. I LOVE THIS POST!!! The 3D rules are EXACTLY what men see as deal breakers and this is such a concise way to put it. It could also be what causes committed men to slip into resentment and/or passivity. They may not decide to end the relationship like they would if the 3Ds manifested early on because they have too much at stake (shared children, devotion to the marriage vows, home ownership, etc), but they are much more likely to withdraw and act out if they feel they are being disrespected,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/24 07:37 PM |
| 28 | Be pleasant + Allow yourself to be led + VET + Look your best + be affectionateu/LivelyLychee, could you please give her a star? It’s an excellent field report and theory post! So glad to hear how RPW changed your life for the better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/24 09:36 PM |
| – | How to measure a man's heart?You are not being degraded - everyone here is just telling you the truth about your obesity and how it can impact your dating life. You can tell if a man truly loves or cares for you if he doesn’t do the things that the men you’re dating are doing. The reason why people are highlighting your weight is because it may be actively CONTRIBUTING to why you are being mistreated and only getting with men who don’t want something serious with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/24 08:59 PM |
| 2 | What do rich men find the most attractive in a woman?Omg thank youuuuu! I think i can def start by adding oatmeal and chia seeds to my yogurt and breakfasts!! Fingers crossed I can break 20g today! 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/24 07:21 PM |
| 6 | How to measure a man's heart?I really don’t appreciate the assumptions being made about me on my post. Respectfully, you came here for advice to fix your dating life and that’s what people are going to give you here based on the information you provided. We are not here to sugarcoat things and validate you. I’m not obese I just have a little tummy and thick thighs. At 5’6, your BMI is 37.9. The range for obesity is a BMI of 30+, so you are well into the obesity range. If you are only cycling and working on abs, you definite… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/24 07:15 PM |
| 7 | What do rich men find the most attractive in a woman?Who cares about finding a rich man - I need to know how you get 25g of fiber everyday!!! I feel like I eat lots of leafy greens and veggies and fruits, and I max out at 15 on a GOOD day, 5 on a sad one 😅 teach me your ways!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 06:42 PM |
| 4 | Dedication to myself and using RPW as a tool changed my life entirely.u/ChamomileMist could you please give this lovely lady a star for her excellent field report and breakdown of her nun-mode? u/amityjeanklein, you killed it and I so appreciate the thought and effort you put into this post and all your comments! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 06:14 PM |
| 11 | Loose vaginaIf only one other man had issues with it, you are jumping to such HUGE conclusions. SURGERY?! Because /gasp/ two men had issues finishing? What if those guys just have ED? What if they were just nervous to have sex with a relatively new partner? If these are both hookups, what if they just found it more unfulfilling than they thought? Surgery should not be your first answer to something like this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Annoying comments from HusbandI’m with blushingoleader on this one. RatchedAngle never explicitly says that OP’s man is low value, but my interpretation upon reading it is that she is implying he isn’t high value if he behaves that way. This doesn’t help OP because like blushingoleader says, it leaves her at an impasse where she’s even less impressed with her man and still has no way forward of dealing with how “childish” or “silly” he is, both quite emasculating comments to make about someone else’s man. I don’t think menti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Loose vaginaHow many other men have had trouble orgasming? If you’ve only had a handful of sexual partners, that’s not enough for you to make any accurate conclusions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 05:14 PM |
| 58 | Loose vaginaEven one of the male founders of The Red Pill insisted that the notion that women get stretched out from being having too much sex is silly. If that theory was true, wouldn’t the virgin who married her high school sweetheart and has regular intercourse with her husband 1000 times be much “looser” than the promiscuous woman who has 30 one night stands? This false talking point stems from the instinctual male aversion to female promiscuity, but the fact that he specifically mentions it’s because t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 05:11 PM |
| 7 | i think my bf acts too femininely. opinions on what to doI agree with everyone else saying that this is just a part of vetting and finding someone you are compatible with. A few months is a reasonable amount of time for you to realize that you don’t like his disposition and behavior - it doesn’t make him or you a bad person - it just means he’s not what you’re looking for and that’s okay. I also noticed that your behavior is also a bit on the masculine side as well. You seem a lot more stoic - you respond to his attempts at non-sexual physical connect… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/24 08:16 PM |
| 5 | F23 seeking advice on attracting the right partnerSo glad you found it helpful! I did too when I stumbled upon The Bad Excuse years ago! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 07:29 AM |
| 18 | Do any other new comers feel 'silly'?You don’t necessarily have to dress up glam and go 100% in the opposite direction because there are plenty of men who don’t prefer or need that, but think about it this way: would you find a guy who had effeminate behaviors, bad hygiene, a lack of physical discipline/health, and an inability to meet the grooming/styling standards of successful men attractive? Would he be attractive if he put no effort into his career and showed a lack of ambition and goals? Would he be attractive if his personal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 02:27 AM |
| 17 | F23 seeking advice on attracting the right partnerI always recommend The Art of the Bad Excuse to young women who feel that they are reasonably attractive and have something to bring to the table but are finding that they are not able to attract men who they are interested in. A lot of times, the answer is because these young women are failing to show any IOIs or “come-hither” signals, and young men don’t even think of them as a possible option to date. Here’s a relevant passage from someone who tried the bad excuse herself. See if it sounds fa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 12:44 AM |
| 7 | Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?Agreed! Of course we all fantasize about the rich CEO who whisks us off our feet and takes care of us unconditionally just because he’s soooo masculine, but it’s a fantasy that’s right there next to vampires and mafia bosses and prince charmings. FDS, IMO, focused too much on identifying and finding these so-called HVMs (who have no defining traits other than wealth) and not nearly enough on what it takes to keep them or any man in general. RPW is much more about creating and strengthening long-… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 07:12 PM |
| 4 | You RPW are worth finding!but every female sub that begins letting men post freely We have never let men post freely. Again, feel free to check in with Ardent or Pearl to see just how much male content is removed on a day-to-day basis by the mods. However, the mods made the decision that this post in particular brought useful and strategic advice to the community, and so it remained and I agree with the choice the mods made. I am finding an issue with the handwringing about men taking over the sub when the mods and the w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 06:48 PM |
| 7 | Do men really enjoy providing or a coverup?However, with all that aside, women still prefer men… And that’s the issue that LightOverWater is trying to highlight. It’s all well and good that women want providers, but if the majority of men are not able to be sole providers in a dual-income, post-feminism economy, then those wants will be left unanswered for many women, who then have three choices: to adjust their wants and be willing to contribute monetarily to the household, to adjust their standard of living significantly and live fruga… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 06:26 PM |
| 11 | You RPW are worth finding!Male opinions have always been allowed here, because our sub was founded by the same men who founded r/theredpill and because a central tenet of being an RPW is actually giving a damn about the male perspective because doing so leads to happier, lasting relationships. It has been that way for nearly a decade, and it’s left a lasting, successful sub so far. A LOT of sidebar, foundational RPW theory was written by the men here (Whisper and FreeBreakfast come to mind, though there are a handful or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/23 12:02 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend comes from a wealthy family and now I don’t know what to get him for ChristmasMake him something! My man and I come from very different backgrounds and I agree it is intimidating to buy something for someone who already has everything they could want. There’s a board game that we play together almost every day, so the best gift I’ve ever gotten for him was when I hand painted an entire board for him and all the pieces in his favorite colors. I made it kind of artsy-looking so that the board itself would be a nice centerpiece for a coffee table and the art would change as … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/23 05:24 PM |
| 2 | A Definitive Guide to Nun Mode: Part II The 3i’s and How to Nun ModeThe 3i’s are SUCH a good concept! I think all are necessary for an effective nun-mode! I know some women are hesitant for the Isolation part because they feel like they might be wasting limited time, but it really does make a difference if you use your time wisely and really allows you to go far with Introspection and Improvement! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/23 08:19 AM |
| 5 | A Definitive Guide to Nun Mode: Part I An IntroductionLOVE this!!! The difference between soft nun mode and hard nun mode is important info for those ladies who want to pursue it! I did a soft nun mode when I first found RPW and it truly changed everything for me! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/23 08:18 AM |
| 5 | Deciding between two menYes same here! I used to go on SO many first dates when I was still single. But once I got with my man and I felt he was special, I immediately lost all interest in the other guys. He stood out and didn’t even have to ask me to stop seeing others - I just did it and so did he. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/23 10:54 PM |
| 5 | Deciding between two menWell what were you disappointed with the previous men who you wanted exclusivity with? You can work to vet out those qualities in future men you date. RPW suggests looking for a man with a mix of green flag alpha and beta traits. Usually when we like men who we are excited about but they disappoint us, it’s because they have a lot of green flag alpha traits, but also many red flag alpha traits. Guy A on the other hand seems like he has a lot of green flag beta traits, but I think he also has a l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/23 10:32 PM |
| 15 | Deciding between two menWhen you meet a man you truly desire, who lights a passion in you like no other, you naturally stop seeing other men because all of them pale in comparison. Other men will literally start giving you the ick. I’m not saying you should close your options necessarily because of or for one of these men. But I think because you have always dated so strategically and in such a machiavellian way, and always kept your options so open, you have essentially blunted your ability to feel that passion that I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/23 06:40 PM |
| 18 | Deciding between two menSure, but do you see how keeping your options open has affected your ability to make long-lasting commitments and be satisfied with ONE man? Your history has a failed marriage, consideration of a man you once thought was not good enough for you, and a continuing inability to decide on one man who feels good enough for you. Even though keeping your options open has some benefits, it clearly also has consequences and will make maintaining a long-term relationship more difficult for you in the long… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/23 06:24 PM |
| 13 | Deciding between two menIf you are older and feel like you’re running out of time, I agree with you that it is absolutely wise to make some compromises. However, you would also have to do the inner work to stop being so hypergamous, manage your expectations greatly, and be able to have that all reflect in your day-to-day behavior with him. Using this guide from the sidebar, it essentially sounds like OP is attempting to switch from being with Category 3 men to a Category 4 man. While Category 4 men are easier to get co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/23 06:19 PM |
| 30 | Deciding between two menHonestly, if you have chosen so many other men over Guy A, and you are STILL unable to want to be exclusive with him now and are still torn between him and another guy, it sounds like you are not very attracted to him and are only interested in him because he is a good match on paper and because he wants marriage. You said in a comment that the reason why you chose other men over him is because he was not masculine enough for you in comparison. Think about the long-term: is this man masculine en… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/23 05:55 PM |
| 11 | I am more successful than my boyfriend, and I resent itYou are missing the point. u/Jenneapolis is working in tech management herself, so it’s clear she’s not saying everyone wants to be a SAHM when even she doesn’t. She is simply highlighting the fact that the vast majority of women want a super high earning husband as a fantasy, but reality is usually different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/23 04:21 AM |
| 10 | I am more successful than my boyfriend, and I resent itWhere did she say that? She is giving advice to OP specifically who says she wants to be a SAHM. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/23 04:12 AM |
| 3 | Help! Looking for a particular post/commentIt was Sexy Gift Giving by u/deliaallmylife! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 07:43 PM |
| 19 | Having sex too impulsively/quickly and using RPW to justify itIt means your understanding of RP and RPW is pretty surface-level, and you only take away the extremes of the message instead of taking it for what it is and being flexible enough to apply it to real-world situations. For example, not sleeping with a man when you’ve only met with him once before does not make him a cuck - that’s extremely black and white. Thinking that you’ve given away all of your value (what you refer to as “milk”) by sleeping with a man is also very black and white. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 02:42 AM |
| 2 | Worried about potential red flag body countGreat nuanced replies. u/ArdentBandicoot, can we give this lady a star please? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 02:04 AM |
| 45 | Having sex too impulsively/quickly and using RPW to justify itComing from one chronically online person to another, you need to go touch some grass. Choosing to have sex with a man, after you told him you don’t outside of a relationship, merely one date after makes you look wishy-washy and spineless, and to be frank, trying to “prove to him he was alpha otherwise I would just cuck him” is insane. So is looking for “an alpha male so I wouldn’t beta buxx a guy into divorce”. A common pitfall of people who only take RP at the surface level is this whole “I ne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 02:02 AM |
| 3 | Signs he’s a good leaderWas definitely thinking of my man and all the reasons why I love him and his leadership style when I wrote this! Particularly the first one got the ball rolling - I had never met anyone before him who was so right all the time, and without being a know-it-all or a dictator about it too. He just has really good instincts and logic! The difference between leadership and manipulation is selfish intent. YES, THIS! I figured out early on how sharp my man was, but I didn’t submit to him until he showe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/23 10:49 AM |
| 12 | I’m scared my future husband will be repulsed by my high sex driveI agree! Quite frankly I’d imagine finding a man with an equally high sex drive who is content to wait until marriage is also additionally difficult. EXACTLY. A guy with a very high sex drive is not likely to wait forever and ever for sex, not because he is a scumbag or whatever, but because sex is also a part of his vetting process since it’s something high up on his totem pole of needs, just like high libido women! The men who are willing and able to wait are more likely to be lower libido, wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/23 09:11 PM |
| 5 | I’m scared my future husband will be repulsed by my high sex driveI was a virgin until I met my man too. I’m glad I was careful and picky with who I had sex with, but I’m also very happy I didn’t set an arbitrary limit on when to become intimate with him just because I was “supposed” to. If you vet well and if you’re someone worth committing to, it is a risk I was happy to take. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/23 09:08 PM |
| 6 | I’m scared my future husband will be repulsed by my high sex driveWhen sex is so tied to manhood and virility, many men are not going to admit (to both themselves and to the woman they’re with) that they cannot meet the standard of sex that the woman wants. It is all too easy to say that you are going to do something, but MUCH harder to follow through for the long term. Just like how plenty of women promise to cook and clean and be feminine and submissive once they get the ring, but many fail to live up to those promises down the line. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/23 09:06 PM |
| 14 | I’m scared my future husband will be repulsed by my high sex driveI also have a particularly high sex drive, and IMO this is why abstinence or waiting until commitment like a long term relationship or engagement or marriage to have sex isn’t beneficial for all women, but particularly women like us. Sex drive and compatibility is ABSOLUTELY something we can and should vet for, and it may not be in our best interest to enter into serious relationships with a certain man, only to find out that his libido is much less than ours because there really is no easy way … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/23 06:58 PM |
| 12 | Signs he’s a good leadernot only can he make difficult decisions under pressure or when the stakes are somewhat high, but his decisions and choices usually result in success or go the way he predicted. he enthusiastically accepts feedback and makes decisions that satisfy everyone instead of being selfish and steamrolling those around him. he knows how to read people (including you!) and situations well and adjusts his behavior/choices accordingly. he is generous with his time, effort, and appreciation, but only for tho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/23 06:46 PM |
| 7 | Different interests - RPW approachSince you two have been together for a long time, I would re-examine how important this is for you. It is completely valid for this to be a big issue for you, but it’s also completely valid for you to decide that he has many other redeemable qualities that make it worth being with him. I would also suggest regularly spending time doing the outdoorsy stuff you like with a solid group of friends who enjoy doing so as well. If you still feel unfulfilled, then maybe you really do need a partner who … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/23 09:42 PM |
| 15 | Different interests - RPW approachHow long have you guys been dating, and how old are the two of you? It sounds like this is an incompatibility that has arisen after the early days of vetting. So sure, he may be a great person and a lovely man and has passed all the major tests, but if you guys have opposite instincts in terms of how you like to spend your free time, and different values for how you’d like to raise your kids and spend your day-to-day, you might just be incompatible. Now, if you weren’t feeling resentful, this co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/23 08:19 PM |
| 17 | Should Women Defend their Men from Feminists who Call them Misogynists for wanting Traditional Wives?I agree. There is really no point in making a big fuss about this in real life - it just seems idealistic and doesn’t take into account the long-term burden of getting on your family’s bad side just to make a point. These are people who could really make you miserable if you give them a reason to, and sometimes, we don’t have to take ourselves so seriously that snarky comments from busybody aunties make us go into defense mode. The art of gracefully shutting it down or using agreeing and amplify… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/23 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentSorry for the late reply - I haven’t been online for a minute! In my opinion, if a man is in his 30s, there is a lot less wiggle room compared to someone being in their early 20s and not feeling ready. In your case, there is an actual event that happened that makes him feel this way, so while it’s probably less of a characteristic, it doesn’t really change the fact that he won’t be ready to settle in the time that matters to you most, in the relatively near future. is it an acceptable risk to st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/23 05:20 PM |
| 9 | Withholding Premarital Sex Age 40+Is there any way you can comfortably find yourself somewhere in between? 3 dates is indeed quite fast for a lot of women, but expecting for a 40+ man to wait for a 40+ woman until engagement, or for several months is kind of a tall order. Perhaps you can experiment with foreplay and other forms of sex outside of penetration if that would make you feel more comfortable in this in-between period. At the end of the day, you are both grown, and most men this age (but really, any age 30+) are not rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 02:48 AM |
| 6 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentFor every woman that married their college or high school sweetheart, there seems to be 10 more who have an ex-boyfriend that married the next person they dated after they broke up with the sweetheart. Ah, the whole practice wife thing. Thankfully, I’ve written an entire post on why it’s a myth and scare tactic that scorned women use, and not something that should drive you. Here’s a relevant excerpt: Practice Wives are ultimately responsible for their own misfortune because they failed their ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 09:42 PM |
| 4 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentI would say I’m a millennial, and outside of the folks from a religious ethnic minority community I used to be in, it is VERY rare for a man to be ready at marriage at 19, unless he accidentally gets his girlfriend pregnant and there’s familial pressure to “step up” (though this pressure isn’t as common as it used to be either). Even with conservative backlash, I don’t think the typical gen-z man is all too enthusiastic for marriage. If anything, they are more likely to fall victim to the male l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 09:10 PM |
| 3 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentYes, I agree! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 08:56 PM |
| 13 | Advice for young girls seeking commitment“No light, no ride” is fine, but calling it “dumb luck” like SATC does is reductive because it makes women think that all they need to do is look for a man with his light on instead of focusing on their own attributes as well. It also discounts a pretty common and decently successful strategy that many women have used: to make an investment and a bet on a man when you are both young, banking on not only his personal growth but also on the fact that while his light may not be “on” at say, 20, bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 08:35 PM |
| 25 | Withholding Premarital Sex Age 40+Honestly, this is why I have never advocated for the strategic withholding of sex, unless both you and the men you are seeking are from religious communities that explicitly dictate against premarital sex. If you are trying to date in non-religious communities, it will absolutely be a handicap. It is one thing to hold off on sex because you want to get to know them more and build trust and love before becoming intimate, but it is another to completely rule it out no matter what, thinking it is a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 07:20 PM |
| 22 | Advice for young girls seeking commitmentI don’t love the taxi cab theory, specifically for this line: Next woman they pickup, boom, that’s the one they’ll marry. It’s not fate, it’s dumb luck. I agree that men need to feel ready for marriage in their own mind before they will ever propose, but that statement implies that men choose their partners willy nilly, without any standards or expectations of who their wife will be. That absolves us of having to do anything more than be a body at the right place and at the right time. In my obs… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/23 06:59 PM |
| 5 | I discussed asexuality today with therapist & kind of shocked by her response. Thoughts?I really like that: not sex negative or sex positive but sex critical! For sure I think that is the approach RPW recommends we take. I don’t think you seemed on any sort of high horses! You made a pretty valid point, and I think caution is a perfectly fine reason for abstaining. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Am I going for guys that are out of my league?Yeah, and such a brazen and transactional way of framing it too. She expected to be wined and dined a certain amount of times in exchange for sex with her. If she had framed it (or even better, meant it) as she really likes you but is very sensitive and doesn’t want to rush into things because she is scared she’ll be heartbroken if things don’t work out, I’m sure you’d be a lot more sympathetic, even if you decided that she wasn’t the right fit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 06:15 PM |
| 2 | How do you know your SMV/RMV and All the guys are takenThat reminds me to go get my financial ducks in order before it’s too late 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 06:11 PM |
| 1 | I discussed asexuality today with therapist & kind of shocked by her response. Thoughts?Yes I agree! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 06:09 PM |
| 3 | I discussed asexuality today with therapist & kind of shocked by her response. Thoughts?Yes, there’s nothing wrong with having an ethic around sex. My partner is my first and only, and that was absolutely a conscious choice I made because for me, the risks outweighed the benefits. But I didn’t think that I made that choice because I had morals, or that the people who do not make that choice are displaying a lack of morals. That kind of thinking makes sex something dirty and sinful that you stay away from because you are somehow morally superior. It is hard to deprogram from that ev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 05:58 PM |
| 14 | How do you know your SMV/RMV and All the guys are takenWe all know that past performance isn’t indicative of future results I disagree. I think examining our past performance and history is a pretty decent way to gauge our SMV/RMV and to figure out if we have behaviors or attributes or choices that are holding us back. For example, if every man you date doesn’t want commitment from you, perhaps your RMV is lacking. If you fix your RMV and see your results improve, that was the issue. If you fix your RMV and still have no luck, perhaps your SMV needs… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 07:45 AM |
| 19 | I discussed asexuality today with therapist & kind of shocked by her response. Thoughts?Asexuality/demisexuality or a low libido certainly exist, and like everyone else says, it may be that you might just need to meet the right person. However, I’d watch out for this: I am not like everyone else but it may just boil down to the fact that I have morals If you associate your sexual purity with morality, it becomes quite difficult to ever truly enjoy sex, even when you do find the right person and are in a committed relationship/marriage. People with this mentality tend to feel lots o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 07:37 AM |
| 8 | Am I doing the right thing?It happens. I had dated my fair share of non-committal men when I was still single. Try your best not to take it personally, except to examine whether some of your own behaviors are an issue (but only if it’s a recurring issue). I always joked that I wish I could send surveys to all my exes to see what they loved and what gave them pause. Getting to that level of undefensiveness about it all made dating SUCH a more enjoyable and less stressful time for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 07:05 AM |
| 19 | Am I doing the right thing?I also broke the “what are we” rule with my man when we were dating because my anxiety was getting to me and I didn’t want to let it ruin my girl game. But his response was a, “duh, you’re my girl” with a funny look that I even had to ask, and not something mixed or hesitant. I’d say 3 months is enough time for him to know whether or not he has strong feelings for you and wants you to be someone long-term in his life. If he’s being genuine, then it sounds like he just isn’t ready for something s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 06:04 AM |
| 3 | Am I going for guys that are out of my league?donkey chasing a carrot Lol, that gave me deja vu to a comment I wrote a few years ago here on my post about why the whole “why buy the cow if the milk is free” thing is outdated and no longer a strategy that’s in our favor! I think it lines up pretty well with how you felt with the girl you went on a date with: choosing to go back to yours and starting to make out, but then pumping the brakes and telling you that you have to take her on X amount of dates first, was basically an attempt to hold … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/23 11:23 PM |
| 3 | Am I going for guys that are out of my league?Yes, feeling safe is the most important thing! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/23 11:19 PM |
| 5 | Am I going for guys that are out of my league?The eager! But the issue is, some women who are frightened and reluctant around sex before commitment stay frightened, reluctant, or unenthusiastic around sex even after. When you pump the brakes on sex, it makes many men vet you out for a lack of passion, which is what they desire most from women. I am not against vetting, and I’m absolutely not against waiting until you know you can trust and have built an emotional bond with a man before having sex. But if you have all these things but are wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/23 09:36 PM |
| 7 | Am I going for guys that are out of my league?For many men, they can have sex without love, but they cannot have love without sex. I think that’s why they feel like it is the cornerstone of love. The chapter on sex in For Women Only posits that sex is how men feel emotionally loved and desired. I agree with you that you shouldn’t have sex with men willy nilly in hopes that it makes them commit. But if you’ve vetted him well and have decided that he’s who you want, holding off on sex just because you NEED to wait for commitment may be the th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/23 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Do Men Find Cuddling Effeminate?Which part? And that does not necessarily mean you will have been so engrossed it forms how you think. Northwestern country, coastal region, capital city. And while I may not have the same cultural engrossment as a native, I would say I have enough female intuition to know when a European man wants to f*ck me, lol. Western European men are still men. I agree that would be weird, it is also not at all what happened with me and my friend. Okay, so let’s see how it did play out. We saw some charts … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/23 10:36 PM |
| 10 | Do Men Find Cuddling Effeminate?I’ve lived in Europe before, and if any European man decided to tell me how much he enjoys putting his head on a woman’s chest, and then showed me pictures and asked me for my thoughts, I would absolutely get a feeling that he was into me, if not romantically then at the very least sexually. Most RP theory acknowledges that men and women cannot be purely platonic friends because there will always be sexual attraction of some sort involved, one sided or not. If a male friend would be willing to h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/23 06:27 PM |
| 15 | Do Men Find Cuddling Effeminate?Talking about cuddling, a very intimate and potentially sexual thing between romantic partners, is a little inappropriate to talk about with someone who you have no romantic interest in, especially if you both are “traditional”. Bringing this stuff up absolutely suggests interest from both parties. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/23 05:22 PM |
| 2 | What is the RedPill Women’s views on men wearing nail polish?😂😂😂 its okay, I had my angsty teen phase too when I was his age! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/23 08:42 PM |
| 2 | What is the RedPill Women’s views on men wearing nail polish?The reason why it seems like a virtue signal and a trend hop is that almost no men painted their nails pre-2020, and then all of a sudden it was every i’m-not-like-other-guys f-boys’ thing. If you were really into it, what stopped you from doing it before then, when it was seen as less cool or masculine and more dweeby and emo? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/23 07:11 PM |
| 32 | Does your captain continue to initiate contact/plans as your relationship progresses?I’d say once you guys are an “item”, there’s no need to play games or hold back, especially if he is still putting in effort and investment of his own. If you don’t incrementally reciprocate your investments to match his, most healthy, well-adjusted men will feel like you are uninterested and are likely to start phasing you out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/23 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Do I marry this man for stability as a single mom?No problem. You asked a fair and common question, so I just wanted to help you see the “why” behind it all! Like other traditionalism-friendly spaces, some of us can sometimes tend towards moralizing, but that isn’t what our creators and ECs and mods intend this place to be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/23 04:44 AM |
| 15 | Do I marry this man for stability as a single mom?The reason why we have a completely separate sub from r/theredpill is because our advice caters specifically to women, whose sexual strategies prioritize long-term commitment. Men’s sexual strategies can include commitment, but the majority of them prioritize getting sexual access (and some use commitment as a method of getting sexual access). This is why men are the gatekeepers of commitment, and women are the gatekeepers of sex, and why our strategies are different. The reason why men’s red pi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/23 07:56 PM |
| 5 | Do I marry this man for stability as a single mom?What exactly do you find wrong with the responses? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/23 07:09 PM |
| 1 | How can I make more girl friendsAre there a few bad apples out there? Of course. But how are we different from incels who say that all women are bad based on their limited experience if you do the same regarding female friends? If almost every woman you meet is somehow “out to get you” or “attacks” you, you have to consider that you are the only common denominator. I know plenty of women whose lives are envious and fabulous, and yet they have fully vibrant social circles with women they can trust and rely on. In real life, I’v… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/23 07:32 PM |
| 14 | Birth Control Help?If you don’t have a long term committed partner, I don’t think you need to be on birth control especially if you have so many potential complications/side effects. Listen, I’m also VERY high libido, and like you I had a low n-count when I was still single. But even though I was often tempted, I never did anything risky or regretful, and if you’ve gotten this far with only one partner, I highly doubt you’re going to do something you regret until your next. Even in the case that you do, as long as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 10:40 PM |
| 45 | How do I help my husband who is obsessed with his muscles/body?Okay, thank you. I hesitated to post my comment because so many people were saying that OP’s husband is orthorexic, but I just don’t see it and I doubt any of us are qualified to be diagnosing people. When you brought up his willingness to be understanding regarding the food, you confirmed why I didn’t see it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/23 06:13 PM |
| 35 | How do I help my husband who is obsessed with his muscles/body?Honestly, I don’t really see how his behavior is that problematic. You say he’s not focused on anything else besides the gym, but he’s barely 30, already has his master’s, and is making enough to provide for you AND your child. I can guarantee you that the vast amount of other men and women at his age are not at that level yet. He works in finance, which is a very demanding field, so what else are you expecting him to put into education and career? Working out everyday for an hour and a half is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/23 05:57 PM |
| 48 | How can I make more girl friendsThis attitude of “women don’t want to be my friend because I’m so attractive that they’re jealous” is probably something that’s turning off many potential female friends. To be frank, it just sounds like a coping mechanism rather than addressing the root of the problem. The most popular girls with vibrant social circles are usually highly attractive, fashionable, and desirable to the opposite gender. If women hate other attractive women, how did these girls get so popular in the first place? If … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/23 07:04 PM |
| 31 | Why does submitting make me love him more ?Yes, I find that it makes me feel more in love/awe of him, and I also find that my submission is one of things that make him love me more as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 11:51 PM |
| 2 | Why does it seem like every guy I start talking to doesn’t want a relationship?No, it’s a post I wrote based on some convos I had with u/deliaallmylife and some of her convos with past ECs! You can find it on my profile if you can’t get it through the link - I tried to fix it but it looks like it’s working for me! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 10:36 PM |
| 18 | Why does it seem like every guy I start talking to doesn’t want a relationship?Coming from someone who had the same problem when I first started dating, which led to me RPW, if every single man you meet does not want to seriously commit to you, the only common denominator is you. It could be that you are only picking men who have no interest in serious relationships with anyone (usually, these are high SMV young men who want to sow their wild oats during their youth because they can, which is a pretty unique situation for men as most do not have that luxury). It could be t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/23 07:57 PM |
| 50 | Men Become Aroused when Women Cry?I think you’re right that it’s the comforting and nurturing that gets men going. Oh, suddenly you’re all cuddled into his chest and and making deep intense eye contact and he’s stroking your cheeks and holding you tight? Yeah. VERY intimate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/23 10:24 AM |
| 2 | I am obsessed with my husband but he no longer is with me.Yes, it’s from You Just Don’t Understand: Men and Women in Conversation by Dr. Deborah Tannen, a sociolinguistics professor from Georgetown University! I think this would be a great book for RPWs, I would love to do a deep dive if I can find the time, but I’ve been kind of busy lately :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/23 11:21 PM |
| 32 | How do Men Want to be Seen as Physically Attractive?Very interesting topic! I really liked that piece of advice that the man gave for how we should be looking at our men to make them feel desired. I think it ties in nicely with one of my favorite theory posts from one of the founders of TRP: Passion. It posits that the male desire for female passion is why men want, seemingly contradictingly, low n-count women and sexually eager women. I’m with you that that quote really resonated with me as well and also feels right in my experience. As for whet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/23 05:25 PM |
| 6 | I am obsessed with my husband but he no longer is with me.That meme is all of us, at one point or another 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/23 06:04 PM |
| 8 | I am obsessed with my husband but he no longer is with me.I can guarantee you that the women in my family from a certain communist passport bro destination can be just as entitled, commandeering, disagreeable, and unrealistic as what you picture American women to be. If you think all it takes to have a cooperative wife are traditional values and a conservative origin country, you are highly mistaken. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/23 06:04 PM |
| 15 | I am obsessed with my husband but he no longer is with me.Yes, something about word play AND male and female evolutionary differences just scratches an itch in my lizard brain 😂 I agree that some men forget that the acts of “wooing” is what keeps the relationship alive and healthy. I think it would do OP good to talk to her husband about how much she loves it when he does X gesture or how she was looking back at when they did Y and how much she loved and misses that. That, along with improvements in her interactions and conflict resolution with her hus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/23 06:03 PM |
| 3 | I am obsessed with my husband but he no longer is with me.Thank you, just trying to help! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/23 05:54 PM |
| 7 | I am obsessed with my husband but he no longer is with me.Yes, focusing on the positive really does help! It can also catalyze him to do more of the positive if you are telling him all the things you appreciate from him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/23 05:54 PM |
| 118 | I am obsessed with my husband but he no longer is with me.I’m sorry that you are having a difficult time with your husband right now. While I’m sure plenty of women can find a bucket list of things your husband should be doing to remedy this situation is, the fact of the matter is that we are not speaking to your husband, but to you. Since we cannot change the world and the things we cannot control, and only ourselves, I’m only going to be addressing the things I noticed in your post that you could fix. This isn’t to blame you, but to give you actionab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/23 07:05 AM |
| 8 | What is your Preference for Male Body Type?I love a gym body, but there’s a fine line and once you cross it, you start to go into uncanny valley territory. I definitely don’t require abs, and I think too much muscle isn’t attractive to me. My man trains for strength instead of bodybuilding. He loves the gym and has told me it is definitely one of the motivating things that get him out of bed and ready to start the day, which I love because it makes him happy and also is a great way to stay active and healthy. He goes 5-6 times a week, an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/23 08:06 PM |
| 20 | Being the goddess of fun and light… when you aren’t feeling itIf you’re just having a bad day, don’t force it - you’ll just end up more frustrated and angry. Take the time to have a self-care, low-energy day so you can recover and prep for the next. Tomorrow is a new day, and if you start it off on the right side of bed feeling excited to take on the day and grateful for what you have, it’ll be much easier to express all that light and fun. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/23 03:47 AM |
| 10 | How much have you changed your style for your partner?I used to argue to high heavens here for the case for dressing provocatively within reason. After all, I snagged my man wearing daisy dukes and skimpy dresses! As some years have passed, I noticed he started to like those provocative outfits less (outside of course, inside is another thing… 😂) and started really loving when I wore more refined pieces. I think it has something to do with the transition of seeing me as the sexy girl he liked to hang out with into a more serious and long-term relat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/23 07:23 PM |
| 8 | Regarding Body Count and not being a VirginWho said anything about the first date? Things like partner/sex history, finances, trauma/baggage, and past mistakes are uncomfortable, but pretending they don’t exist and failing to vet for them before you choose to get into a long-term committed relationship with someone is opting for ignorant bliss instead of facing reality. I didn’t ask my man about how many people he slept with or if he cheated on anyone in the past or if he was in significant debt on the first date, but I definitely I aske… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/23 04:46 PM |
| 2 | How I lost 20 lbs in 5 months without a calorie deficit // still eating cakeThis is a great practical guide, thanks for sharing! I love the dirty gym chick trick, I find I can feel it waaaay more in my glutes that way! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/23 08:58 AM |
| 37 | Do you ever feel bad about using red pill tactics?This is why I facepalm a little that so many women have come to RPW recently hoping to snag “provider men” and in reality end up as glorified sugar babies at worst or find their efforts futile at best. Are you really that surprised that the men who are completely okay with women not even offering to pay or split are more likely to be controlling? No, our strategy is not derived from sugar babies. We have had a couple ECs who have dabbled in that realm, but they are ECs, and not the MANY, MANY ot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/23 10:05 AM |
| 28 | The “girlfriend effect”I know of more than a handful of girls who “glowed up” their boyfriends after getting together. I’m in the same boat as you where it kind of icks me out if a man would let me change his style and his life. It is a two-way street though, because some women are very insistent that they know best. From my observations, the dynamic between these “girlfriend glow ups” is usually a woman chooses to date someone across or below her SMV (instead of across or up her SMV as women typically prefer to). Alt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/23 09:44 AM |
| 39 | Giving boyfriend your card under the table so it looks like he’s the one payingMy man pays majority of the time and I pay every once in a while as a treat. He feels secure enough in his masculinity and his ability to provide that he doesn’t care what some random server thinks when I pay for it whenever I treat him. I would be a bit wary if he did feel embarrassed about something so small like that. If anything, I think he would be more embarrassed that I would think he cared about stuff like that, and tried to nudge my card at him under the table. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/23 06:09 PM |
| 115 | Giving boyfriend your card under the table so it looks like he’s the one payingIf he feels embarrassed about not paying, then he should pay instead of trying to create the illusion that he’s paying. That kind of cognitive dissonance rarely works out well down the run. I can understand if it’s your husband, and you have a joint account/credit card so it’s both of your money. But if you don’t, there are some underlying issues about financial imbalance that this thing is just a symptom of. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/23 05:57 PM |
| 5 | I asked my ex for economic compensation for the time he wastedYeah exactly! Him making those payments means he will keep in contact, and that coupled with feeling like he made up for it (which is what the definition of “compensation” means) will give them a much bigger likelihood of getting back together when they probably shouldn’t. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 07:09 PM |
| 3 | Did I taint my future by being a side chick?I asked my man if he ever cheated on anyone (no) or if he ever was the other man (yes, but he didn’t know until after the fact that his casual situationship had a whole ass boyfriend). I’m glad I asked him and it was a part of my vetting process. He certainly didn’t decide he needed a “better” woman because I asked a difficult question. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 07:07 PM |
| 12 | I asked my ex for economic compensation for the time he wastedIt is a pretty strange thing to ask. Even if you have told him it is a “no return investment”, you are quite literally mandating that you keep yourself tied to this man who cheated on you and lied to you. Remember: nothing in the world comes for free, and just because you see this as “compensation” for emotional damage does not mean that you aren’t giving this man some sort of financial leverage over you. In my opinion, this reaction does reflect a bit badly. It is an extremely transactional way… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/23 03:45 PM |
| 9 | Have you noticed whether it hurts/helps you if you have a career?There is a time and a place. Both my man and I are INTPs, and that means we LOVE theorizing about anything and everything. We spend so much time discussing stuff, and although we share a lot of the same beliefs, what fun would that be if I never challenged his ideas? However, this is RPW, and the only thing that unites all the women here is the fact that we want male-led relationships. When I was still vetting, I made sure I found a man who is highly capable, intelligent, and whose judgment I kn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/23 04:20 AM |
| 3 | Single-Focused MenYes, I think it’s fair to judge a man’s character and worthiness of inspiration based on his other life commitments. Those things are solely up to him and his full responsibility. The issue when using his willingness to commit to us as individuals is that women often use that to shirk all of their responsibility of finding, attracting, and keeping a man. It takes two to tango, and while there are some men out there who indeed are unable to commit to any woman at all (and it is still our job to v… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 11:16 PM |
| 6 | Single-Focused MenWhich lead me to the conclusion that a man that cannot fully commit is absolutely not a man worth pursuing or even “settling for”. To be blunt, with fear of being mean, they are not a real man (possibly not yet). This idea that a man needs to commit to you to be a “real man” is flawed in my opinion, and not because it’s mean. I wrote a post about it a few years ago, and here are some relevant excerpts: “A HVM is commitment- and marriage-minded.”“Only HVM are willing to step up to take care of yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/23 07:37 PM |
| 13 | Discussion: Sex & Feeling SexyWe both have quite high drives, and I find myself initiating pretty much as often as he does (this is how we end up doing it more than once a day 😅). I realized that physical touch is a higher love language for me than I thought, and I get the most in the mood if we’ve been touchy all day because it makes me actively want him! If we’re cuddling, it’s pretty much a guarantee that we will get it on 😂 Feeling dolled up and cute definitely helps me feel sexy too, so I think you’re onto something. Th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/23 05:14 PM |
| 14 | Are beauty competitions trashy?Doing things you deem tacky and trashy (I personally have no problem with beauty competitions) out of boredom shows that you are not willing to stand by your values, and will be willing to do other things you don’t believe in out of boredom as well. This is a low RMV behavior. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/23 06:02 PM |
| 33 | Are beauty competitions trashy?Men are not a monolith. Some men would love their wives to be beauty queens and the social proof that earns them. Others would feel neutral about it and couldn’t care either way. Some would indeed feel it is too much, and would not seriously date anyone who partakes in beauty competitions, modeling, or even acting. Figure out the type of man you want, make sure he is the type of man to share similar values with you, and adjust accordingly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/23 05:17 PM |
| 6 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?I think men have this dual mating strategy where they’re trying to find a woman agreeable enough to respect him and submit to him, but disagreeable enough to stand up to other men and discipline/protect the children when the man isn’t around. YES. I used to be super disagreeable all around, and finding RPW was what helped guide me into being more feminine, agreeable, soft, sweet, etc. But as I got VERY good at that, I realized that TOO agreeable was a problem too. Men who knew I was in a relatio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/23 10:44 PM |
| 7 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?anyone thinking about sexual strategy from a mating perspective, should be questioning if it's actually good strategy when the failure rates of fatherless households are so high. And I'll never forget the woman I knew who came out of a polyamorous household. She had some terribly unstable behaviors that clearly originated in her childhood. She's never having kids. Neither is Musks trans kid who you cite below. When your offspring don't have offspring then the strategy isn't super effective. u/de… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 07:09 PM |
| 15 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?Cah-razy right?!? Like yes, I know some men do not ever want to get married or have children and so in theory, they could get their dick wet all they want. Still, the evolutionary drive to pair bond and settle down with one woman is THERE, and many of these men end up in LTRs anyways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 06:35 PM |
| 13 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?Well, let’s look at a case study of how that plays out. Take a look at Elon Musk, who has multiple families with multiple women, some of whom were impregnated at the same time. Sure, he had the ability to do this as one of the richest men in the world and he did, but where does that leave his children? One of his oldest sons is now a transgender woman who has changed not only her gender but also her last name because she “no longer wishes to be related to her biological father in any way, shape … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 06:33 PM |
| 26 | Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man?If you think about it evolutionarily, people are most attracted to those who offer their offspring the best chance of success. Men’s red pill often talks about women’s dual mating strategy, “alpha f*cks, beta bucks”. While it is true that women are attracted to both alpha behaviors and beta provisioning, comfort, and protection, one of the foundational strategies here at RPW in order to optimize successful mating AND mitigate risk is to find ONE partner who has many green flag alpha AND beta tra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/23 06:00 PM |
| 7 | Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'tsLove this post. We get SO many comments about how “HVMs” should and would never do this and never do that. The things they shouldn’t do are things most of us don’t love - as of late, popular ones are splitting the bill, following sexy women on instagram, wanting their wives to work, or engaging with other women. Going about it in this way just doesn’t help though. Whenever I see this as advice, along with nothing to fix the issue that WE have with it, I kinda just want to bang my head on the wal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/23 07:24 PM |
| 3 | should i use him or drop him ?Oh no, so sorry for ruining your day 😅 sometimes curiosity kills the cat!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/23 09:25 PM |
| 35 | Do I still have potential?I’m not sure the only solution is for her to go after someone in “the grand army of desperate men” 😂 it certainly will make getting to commitment easier, but it will also make your life post-commitment harder. The instinct of not being into them is usually because they are showing traits and behaviors that show they do not make good captains yet, and you would need a lot of patience, understanding, and willingness to bet that he will improve in the future. That’s a big if that may never come. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/23 09:16 PM |
| 7 | should i use him or drop him ?In my experience, people who openly “use” others and people who will not keep their word tend to attract each other like moths to a flame. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/23 07:57 PM |
| 11 | should i use him or drop him ?Do these girls not know what goes down in Dubai when you get flown out in what seems like a too good to be true situation? (WARNING: Definitely not for the faint of heart OR if you’re about to eat OR if you want to have faith in humanity 🤢) | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/23 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Taking a break from dating. What can I do during this time?That was amazing! I completely missed this when you posted it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/23 07:48 PM |
| 13 | Clubbing alone when dating/in a relationship?You also need to consider who exactly you are getting in a relationship with. If you’re dating someone who went out clubbing all the time, and has since their high school/college days, it’s a bit unproductive to expect that they will suddenly change their lifestyle and social life just because you started dating them. Having a serious sit-down talk about it can work sometimes, but from what I’ve seen, it doesn’t work out very often. The only way a party boy/girl steps away from that scene is if … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/23 07:47 PM |
| 3 | Ways to test RMVYou may have titled your post that way, but a lot of what I see from you in your comments and replies shows that you are shifting the blame to a lack of quality men around you or a lack of “commitment-minded men”. If that were the case, no woman in your area would have boyfriends and husbands, but I’m guessing that they do. If you have not met any men since your last set of posts, you have not tried out any of the advice we gave you last time around or this time around. It is somewhat useful to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/23 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Ways to test RMVnever said this. Never once did i say this. You literally compared the two in your previous comment: This also just sounds like I should do more of what I was doing before but instead of giving them sex, like they asked for, i should just cook for them or buy them things. I am telling you that they are not the same, and that it is important to give the latter. If you expect to gain commitment in a relationship without giving anything at all, all I can say is good luck to you. So where is this id… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/23 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Ways to test RMVWhat happen to not being able to negotiate attraction? You cannot negotiate attraction, but attraction is purely sexual. The sexiest women in the world who work as models and actresses have no trouble attracting men, but plenty of them have trouble keeping men, and so do you. You can absolutely negotiate connection, which requires more emotional bonding and conscious investment from both parties. This is the part of dating that you actually have full control over, so it baffles me a little why y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/23 04:24 AM |
| 3 | Ways to test RMVI would say addressing your anxiety issues would be something to work on. If you are not enjoying the dating process because your anxiety is getting in the way, it stops you from succeeding and from finding any sort of contentment from this process. It’ll show in your behavior and attitude ad well. Once you have a better handle on your anxiety, you will learn to trust your instincts more instead of having to overcompensate and do unproductive things in order to get reassurance. And exactly how d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/23 04:07 AM |
| 2 | Ways to test RMVYes! I think OP has a some work to do for sure on WHY she is so scared of emotionally investing in men in the way that would make them develop feelings for her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/23 07:54 PM |
| 4 | Ways to test RMVLastly - stop worrying about if these guys like you, and start thinking about whether or not you like them. You get the treatment you think you deserve. Do you really want a man who puts no effort in, and pressures you for sex early on? No? Then next them and move on. Yes! Reading OP’s old posts and I can’t help to think that she is solely entertaining men who have no intention to commit to her no matter what. Vetting needs to be addressed too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/23 07:52 PM |
| 5 | Ways to test RMVIt was something I had to learn, painstakingly lol! Good girl game is ALWAYS key! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/23 07:43 PM |
| 4 | Ways to test RMVAlso I feel like my way of showing that I am willing to invest something is that im actually willing to talk about things and communicate, instead of just up and leaving the first time they do something that I dont think. I agree with u/LateralThinker13 on this: just because this is how YOU show your investment doesn’t mean that this is what MEN actually want. Your way of going about this could turn off men and like I mentioned in my first comment to you, takes away the magic of the early days w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/23 07:42 PM |
| 7 | Ways to test RMVBut what actions would give them this impression? Cause I’ve read the post about incremental reciprocation, but the only example given was cooking. I find this one to be hard for me to do since I still live with my mom and most of the time the men do too or they have roommates Cooking is just one way you can do this (albeit a very powerful one - there’s a reason that people say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach). You could pick up a coffee for the both of you before you meet up for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/23 07:32 PM |
| 9 | Ways to test RMVI think you are missing my point. While SMV is largely built up on physical attributes, there is also a personality and behavioral component to it that I suspect is what is lacking in your interactions with the men you are dating. Even if you are physically attractive and well-groomed, it is somewhat anti-seductive to be insecure enough to ask/tell men you have just started dating if and why they do not like you. It makes you seem needy for their attention at a very early stage (which clues them… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/23 03:05 PM |
| 20 | Ways to test RMVA lot of young modern women mistakenly think that SMV is all it takes to attract and keep a man, and this attitude usually comes to bite them in the butt down the line. On RPW, I sometimes notice the opposite problem - we are SO focused on RMV, which is refreshing and endearing compared to our more blue-pilled society, but sometimes to the detriment of SMV. Remember: our goal here is not to be the pristine Madonna, who is so virtuous and pure that she is essentially untouchable. We also don’t wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/23 07:10 AM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: I tried dressing feminine for a day and this is what happenedI LOVE that look - Y2K was such an iconic fashion era! I just need to lose all squishiness and get a 6-pack before I go ultra ultra low 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 11:47 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: I tried dressing feminine for a day and this is what happenedThey LITERALLY do! I was going through my parent’s storage unit and about 40% of the stuff i had from middle school-early high school is somewhat trending again! Insane! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 11:06 PM |
| 5 | What do you bring to the table?Additionally, when I first met her mother, she still looked good in her 50s, so I knew my wife would stay attractive if she made the effort. Whenever I go down a “INEEDBOTOXANDFILLERSANDAFACELIFTANDLASETREATMENTSASAP” rabbit hole after spending too much time on social media or looking into those pesky 500% magnification mirrors, my man tells me to take a deep breath and go look at my mom, who still looks nice at 65+. He also noted how young she looked in her pictures when she was 30-45ish, and j… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 10:21 PM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: I tried dressing feminine for a day and this is what happenedI really like wide/straight leg/bootcut, low-mid rise, dark denim these days! Something like this, this, or this! High waisted jeans are great too, I just have a short torso 😫 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 08:34 PM |
| 4 | Will men find it a turn off that I am a quiet home body who doesn’t have many friends?I had a friend who tested as 51% introvert, 49% extrovert almost EVERY time on those MBTI test things! I would definitely describe her as an introvert who learned to be more outgoing and talkative lol! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/23 04:08 AM |
| 2 | How to set new expectationsThose contradictions are part of what I’m talking about. When you implement that book’s strategies, you sometimes end up playing hot and cold. To me, the men that this technique works on are somewhat insecure, feeling that they need to prove themselves and win over someone who has shown them indifference and nonchalance. A man who has a lot of options and is confident in his value would not bend over backwards to chase a woman giving him mixed signals - he would just let her swim past. The book … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/23 10:15 PM |
| 12 | Will men find it a turn off that I am a quiet home body who doesn’t have many friends?There’s about a 50:50 split of introverts vs. extroverts. Your lifestyle will be compatible with introverted men. Extroverted men may find your lifestyle too slow-paced and unexciting for them. The issue is that when you are introverted and do not socialize often, you have much less opportunity to meet someone new. All the men you would be compatible with are probably not going out so often either, and it would be harder to find them even if you were going out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/23 09:58 PM |
| 16 | What do you bring to the table?Only entitled women refuse to consider what they can contribute to a relationship and to the person they love and have chosen to commit to. Why are we so quick to set a long list of boundaries, expectations, and demands of the men we enter into relationships with, but so hesitant to think about what exactly they would like to see from us as well? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/23 04:51 AM |
| 2 | How to set new expectationsI’ve described that book before as “half how to have normal boundaries like an adult, half how to attract insecure men.” I had that same gut feeling about it too, but you worded it perfectly. The stuff about healthy boundaries is good and I don’t want to overlook the entire book and throw the baby out with the bathwater (especially because there are a lot of women who DO struggle with that). On the flip side, I know it’s popular within our community, but the kind of men that go gaga over some of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/23 08:14 PM |
| 40 | best friend set me up with a guy and now is angry that I'm dating other people along the side even though I informed her beforehandI went on first and second dates with multiple men at a time when I was still single. I get it, you don’t really know them yet and it’s a bit unreasonable to expect you to fully commit to someone you just met. But meeting two men on the same day is a little tacky. A man decided to take you out, share a meal with you, and get to know you personally. It’s even worse if he paid for the date. Then when he goes home and after you make a good connection, you drop off all feelings you felt for him and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/23 04:43 PM |
| 145 | I’ve done everything under the sun to become “wife material” and less masculine. I’m still 29 and single. Is it possible I’ve become too boring to date??? What do men REALLY want?In my opinion, you are overcorrecting and also not looking into some of these critiques with enough depth and self-reflection. For example, when multiple men told you that you are too shallow and materialistic, you immediately dropped all feminine material things, but picked up masculine material things instead to give the surface-level impression that you don’t care about typical girl things. In reality, the real issue is that you care so much about appearances and clothes and things, that you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/23 05:31 AM |
| 19 | Struggling with new BF's clothing preferences for meIt is a little odd that the underwear is such a big thing. However, I think it is reasonable that he wants to feel attracted to you in your gym clothes if you regularly go and he sees you like that often. I don’t think you have to go full on Agent Provocateur for him every day just in case, but I personally wouldn’t feel that sexy if I was wearing something like these all the time , and that would affect my ability to get in the moment spontaneously. There are lots of great middle grounds. This … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/23 01:54 AM |
| 1 | How to know if he’s actually flirting or not? What are clear signs to a guy that you want himSomeone told me you’re supposed to smile at him and ask him a question, but what if you’re not sure if he’s flirting? Sigh. You remind me of younger me. You are DEFINITELY overthinking it. If you didn’t like this guy, you would have no trouble smiling at him and asking him a question. It wouldn’t matter if he thought you liked him or not - you’re just a friendly lady! Nothing changes whether or not you like him, and whether or not he likes you. In the grander scheme of things, It. Doesn’t. Matte… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 05:36 AM |
| 18 | Low value “woman” needing negative affirmationsLooks like OP posted about two months ago looking for an online community that would “horribly bully” them. Seems like this is a fetish of some sort and OP just wants to be ragged on. That explains the exhausting “I’m such a trash woman who doesn’t deserve basic human companionship and intimacy” schtick. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 04:27 AM |
| 26 | I don’t know where to start, but I know I want to understandEven one of our mods thinks justpearlythings is full of it. I love RPW, but I am wary about men in their 40s who buy the BS that Fresh and Fit and justpearlythings are selling. They sell rage-bait and fail to have any nuance on RP concepts to be applicable in any real way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 07:04 PM |
| 18 | Lies promoted hy egalitarian culture that ultimately hurt womenThe people who say PMS is a myth should talk to me on my monthly “I’ve hit rock bottom and my life is in shambles that cannot be undone” phase. Every single time, 2 or 3 days later, my period hits 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/23 08:26 AM |
| 11 | For ladies in the "danger zone" approaching The Wall (25-29): what happens if you get a bf, date exclusively for 1-2 years, and then break up? You've effectively wasted your time being loyal to one man who won't marry you. Do you date other men while in a relationship until you get a proposal?Why do you think being fun and engaging as the opposite of being feminine? I suspect this is the reason why no man has been interested in sticking around you recently. You are putting them to sleep. You are choosing to be boring for the sake of “femininity” and “submissiveness”. I can tell you that those things don’t mean jack unless the man is intrigued enough to want to take you out again. Laura Doyle, one of the fundamental writers of RPW literature, has emphasized that our goal is to be the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/23 07:39 AM |
| 3 | How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count?Well, I am a woman, and these are my own personal takes, so I’m not sure why you still have an issue with them. You said you don’t care about body count? Why? I never said that. I do have an n-count preference, and it is for a man who has a moderate to moderately high n-count. I have a preference against men who have low or non-existent n-counts, because unless he is very religious and TradCon (in which case we would be incompatible anyways…), a man who has a low n-count to me is a man who has b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 05:25 PM |
| 7 | How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count?In other words, the effort to put oneself into social interactions that can lead to sex is more important than attractiveness. I’m not quite sure that you can separate extraversion and openness from attractiveness. I feel like those two things are huge when it comes to charm and charisma, which are important to male attractiveness. Interesting that those are more relevant than income though! I can see why being college-educated takes away from the likelihood of racking up an n-count - a lot of t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 09:54 AM |
| 14 | How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count?A big point I want to make is that most guys who have slept around are average guys. In my personal experience, this isn’t true. Back in college, the men who got the most action were often student athletes (above average in strength, size, popularity, status, and success), fraternity brothers (above average in popularity, wealth, and often looks), or the artsy/musician type (above average in skill, looks, and charisma). I would say the average guy I knew in my classes did not get laid very often… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Field Report: Sexy Gift GivingI spazzed out when you told me about this gift idea and I’m sooooo happy to hear how well received it was!!! This kind of thoughtfulness and attention to detail is inspiring me to do the same with my own man! I wonder what “new women” we can introduce in the bedroom now 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 07:50 AM |
| 38 | How do some women date men with high body count who say they wouldn’t date a woman with high body count?Low N-count woman in a happily committed LTR with a high-ish N-count man here. While my man actually doesn’t care very much about women’s N-counts (he even jokes that he sort of prefers it, because he knows he’d still be the best they’ll have, that cocky bastard 😅), I can sort of understand why men have that double standard. RPW is not really the place to shake our fists at the double standards of the world. We are more about seeing the world for what it is, and navigating accordingly, instead o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/23 07:47 AM |
| 1 | Dating profile to attract providers onlyYeah, that kind of defensiveness won’t be productive for building healthy LTRs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 03:41 AM |
| 3 | Dating profile to attract providers onlyThis is a fantastic write-up of navigating the world of modern dating in a way that stays true to your values and goals but is also pragmatic and effective! You maintained an allure and were able to not only bring to the table what men wanted, but you were able to show that you could too, which is where I find a lot of RPWs struggle. I like what you mentioned about the photos, and I think there is a healthy medium that we have to navigate between being wifey material enough for men to commit to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/23 03:39 AM |
| 9 | Entitlement, Tradition & What you Bring to the TableAs someone who felt the “ick” when a guy didn’t pay when I was still single (mind you, this was years ago and I was a dumb 20 year old), I completely agree with you in hindsight. Saying that a man needs to pay on the first date because he is a man is, to me, like saying a woman needs to submit on the first date because she’s a woman. This kind of take forgets that men are normal human beings who are conscious of the fact that they might be taken advantage of. A healthy man has feelings of warine… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/23 05:12 PM |
| 2 | I need advice: How do i prepare for a proposal?Just make sure you have nice nails, because you’ll definitely be taking pictures of your hands! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/23 04:22 AM |
| 4 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptI LOVE TONY SOPRANO!!!! He is just so sexy to me lol idk if that means something is wrong with me but he’s just SO masculine and aggressive (and evil but we can overlook that LOL) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 06:05 PM |
| 3 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptI didn’t get the Adam Driver hype for a long time. Then I realized how big his hands are, and I was like oh. I get it LOL. The flavor of ugly hot I’ve been weirdly attracted to is completely bald (not balding) men 😂 I may or may not have tried to convince my man to go clean shaven before, but he said his hairline is too good to do that and it’s a waste 😂😂😂 our happy medium is a buzzcut, which is chef’s kiss to me too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 06:04 PM |
| 7 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptYou summed it up perfectly, and I love the real world applications and what you should do with thus info! u/ArdentBandicoot, can you please give Jenn another star? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 04:48 PM |
| 6 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptI don’t think anyone is doing the other a favor. I think men and women just have different priorities when it comes to attractiveness so that’s how the cards fall. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 04:39 PM |
| 7 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptThere is this thing called “ugly hot” that a looooot of women like 😂 I think a bit of “ugliness” (big noses, overwhelming facial features, etc) can make a man look more masculine and therefore attractive, while too much conventional beauty sometimes starts to make them have feminine features. In terms of relative attractiveness, I think you’re right for short term relationships as all women do desire the top 20% of men, but for LTRs I think it all sort of balances out. For example, in that OKCup… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 04:35 PM |
| 3 | Evolution Happens QuicklyYes you’re right, I was trying to sugar coat but that’s kind of pointless here on an RP sub 😅 I wonder why single father households do so well. Perhaps because the somewhat rare man who is willing to become one (usually due to a flighty wife) instead of bailing are more capable of the nurturing qualities necessary to raise children than other men are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 04:20 PM |
| 5 | Evolution Happens QuicklyAge being a factor I was definitely speaking from personal experience as well lol! I grew up around a pretty diverse set of men in terms of masculinity and femininity, but the masculine ones were always just so intimidating. Meanwhile, the boys with pretty eyelashes who hung out with the girls were endearing and easier to bond with. Although I think my case was sort of extreme - three of my crushes ended up being gay and I was absolutely oblivious 😂 Could have something to do with women preferri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 06:51 AM |
| 12 | Do fboys like "less attractive" women because they're easier to manipulate or is this not a real conceptthe man would usually be more attractive than the woman. I would say that in general, women are usually physically more attractive than their partners, but men are usually more attractive in terms of success, wealth, and status than their partners. This is because men are visual creatures who prioritize a woman’s beauty (a signal for her health and fertility) far more than women prioritize male physical attractiveness. Women tend to like the overall picture, where physical attractiveness is one … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/23 06:15 AM |
| 11 | Evolution Happens QuicklyGood to know they didn’t mean that. The 10 pounds of fluff over strong musculature is a great look to me! It makes them look … effortless? If that’s the right word? An extremely ripped gym bro with 10% body fat is commendable for sure, but 20% body fat on men with broad shoulders, big arms, and an inverted triangle shape is the sweet spot IMO because it makes it seem like they were maybe just born with it and are too preoccupied doing other sexy man things to invest too much in the cut and bulk … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/23 10:38 AM |
| 12 | Evolution Happens QuicklyI’m non-religious and I’ve always preferred men with a moderate N count. Too low made me feel like he was inexperienced, but more importantly, unable to get anyone in bed with him due to a low SMV, no game, or too low of a sex drive. Too high makes me think he is more likely to be unfaithful (the research shows that both men and women with high n-counts are more likely to cheat, although the RP sphere tends to just focus on the women) and probably much more difficult to inspire commitment in bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/23 10:30 AM |
| 10 | Evolution Happens QuicklyI think technology also plays a huge role. We shifted from tribal and agricultural societies to technologically advanced societies with an information and knowledge economy. Alpha traits become less relevant to who looks good on paper when your prosperity relies less on who can protect you from mother nature and more on who can successfully navigate an increasingly digitized world. I’d argue that greater betas or those with an even mix of alpha and beta traits do better in the latter scenario th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/23 08:24 AM |
| 1 | Anyone have any fool-proof/ go to recipes they swear by?This pie recipe from bon appetit is an absolute dream! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/23 04:01 AM |
| 15 | Are You Single Until You're Married?Disloyalty will not be repaid with loyalty. 1000%. To me, this idea that you only need to be exclusive after he has “caved” to marrying you is the ugly final conclusion of the “no wifey benefits” mentality. In both cases, you are giving zero incentives for him to give you what you want, while expecting that he gives you everything on a pinky promise that you’ll be great once you get what you want. That’s the equivalent of believing a guy who is currently unemployed, unskilled, and uneducated, pi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/23 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Are we going to talk about Lauren Sanchez?By having a combination of high SMV/RMV that was tailored exactly to what Jeff desired and fantasized about, as well as an ability to “hook” him emotionally. I don’t believe in love at first sight at all, at least in the sense that I don’t think it’s sustainable over time. I think it’s more like infatuation/lust at first sight, but people grow tired of that once the honeymoon phase passes. Unless you have a high RMV and have been able to make him emotionally invest in you, being attractive to a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/23 01:00 AM |
| 4 | Food for though: What will you teach your childrenI want to strike a balance between my kids having a realistic view and understanding of the world and how it works, vs. giving them enough hope and inspiration and confidence that they go after whatever it is they want. Not sure how to go about this, especially in the world we live in today. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/23 12:15 AM |
| 4 | Freedom from VanityAgreed! Of course we will all age, and of course my man sees me without makeup after a shower or in the morning. But just because he’s seen it doesn’t mean I drop it all for the rest of the day. It wasn’t like I only did makeup in the hopes of catching a man, and now that I have, I no longer have any reason to do so anymore. My grooming is a reflection of my personality. It will not go away just because I have a man now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/23 04:55 PM |
| 6 | Freedom from VanityI agree. My daily grooming routine (skincare, makeup, hair, outfit) takes me a little over an hour. If I’m in a rush, I can get the basics (eyebrows, concealer, eyeliner, mascara, and blush + hair) done in 45 minutes. Is it vain? Perhaps, but the way that people treat me makes it worth it. People absolutely go out of their way to help you and I’ve noticed that I made a lot more random connections with women this way. Most importantly, I want to be the same woman that my man met and fell in love … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/23 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Femine perfume recommendations?My man really likes J’adore Dior on me! Women love Roses Vanille Mancera on me, and I like this one a lot too 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/23 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Femine perfume recommendations?You’re not alone! I know it’s a crowd pleaser but I don’t like it either! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/23 04:04 PM |
| 3 | How to Achieve a Feminine AuraFantastic post! I think this could be in the self-improvement part of the sidebar for sure! I would say this starts to fall under the ever-elusive “Art of Seduction”! Edit: nvm, u/FastLifePineapple already read my mind before I even had the thought 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/23 10:04 PM |
| 5 | 7 Tips to Retain a Loving Relationship with Small ChildrenThese are amazing!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/23 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Women who love to wear dresses - what do you wear in the winter?Sweater dresses!!! I’ve been loving these ribbed midi dresses (but they’re maxi for me as a vertically challenged person 😂) for the fall and winter! You can also look for thicker ones in wool or cashmere! I like to look for something that flares out like this (this one is super thin, but just note the shape/cut) because sometimes knit dresses can kind of look shapeless on me. I top everything off with a long thick coat and try to layer a lot with thermal and fleece-lined items. Thick scarves are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/23 06:41 PM |
| 10 | How soon to cook?I made a meal for my man around the 5 date mark too to thank him for taking me out and helping me with something I was working on. He absolutely loved it and it definitely took our relationship to the next level. I would say that was the moment that he started to “catch feelings”. Some things to clarify though: I didn’t start ROUTINELY cooking for us until we moved in together. Before that, it was usually for a semi-special treat, like a date night or a thank you or a surprise. I feel like at 2 … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/23 06:23 PM |
| 9 | Non-traditional women of RPW, what brings you here?I have ALWAYS wanted to send every single guy I went on a date with a survey asking what they liked and didn’t like, what worked and what didn’t. Unfortunately, to not look insane, I haven’t, but for the sake of research, I hope one day I dgaf enough to do it 😂 unfortunately a lot of time has passed and I don’t think the sample would be great anymore 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/23 09:25 PM |
| 17 | Using Red Pill Tactics to be a 6 Fix Sugar BabySure, the majority of the community leans traditional and conservative. Still, from what OP mentioned in this post, she notes a few things that are in line with RP theory. She also has shown that she has an inclination to write, and I always like to encourage people to post theory or field reports! At the end of the day, I care most about whether the people here get it or are willing to learn it. All the other stuff like lifestyle or values is tertiary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/23 07:30 PM |
| 17 | Using Red Pill Tactics to be a 6 Fix Sugar BabyHearing your thoughts could be helpful to the community because by nature, you have to be much more strategic with how you go about dating. Understanding the strategy behind RPW is one of my favorite parts about it, because it was strategy that helped me take my love life from rock bottom to something fulfilling with an amazing man. One of our ECs is in sex work, and she also has an advanced understanding of RP that few others do. I don’t know if it’s because of her job, but she certainly has a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/23 07:25 PM |
| 36 | Using Red Pill Tactics to be a 6 Fix Sugar BabyEh, I don’t have a problem with this. RPW is a toolbox, and if this is how she wants to use it, it’s an interesting application IMO. Even if most of the women here don’t relate to her goals/circumstances, it would be interesting to hear how she applied RPW techniques and what reactions it got out of the men she’s been with. The skills used to “hook” a sugar daddy may not be so different than the skills used to make the guy in your office catch feelings for you. Although we will be honest and let… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/23 06:58 PM |
| 7 | How to become a better cook?Saving that ribs recipe IMMEDIATELY | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 08:19 PM |
| 11 | Confused on who to “aim” for in LTRsI wrote a post about changing my style not for any one man in particular, but as a pragmatic strategy to appeal to the masses and signal my femininity. The thing is, I would say this move is just the cherry on top. I don’t think I would have found any success in my love life if I just put on a pretty sundress and kept my rotten attitude. It was simply my last and conscious move that I did to make my outsides reflect the hard work I did to change my insides. Unless you dress in a way that activel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/23 05:17 AM |
| 10 | Do you still fit in your wedding dress?This is INCREDIBLE. Such an amazing way to highlight the ways we should remain true to the best versions of ourselves, but also being malleable enough to grow and mature with our captains. 👏👏👏 | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/23 04:46 AM |
| 7 | Help me stop eating!You asked for sources about my COUSIN’S situation of boredom eating since an anecdote wasn’t enough proof that some people have fucked up hunger cues. I shared my cousin’s story as an example of just ONE way that your hunger cues can be messed up, and that it is not always productive to eat when you’re feeling hungry. It could be a solution for OP, but no one here is diagnosing her. She can try it if she sees fit. Unless you’re gonna pay me to be the resident research assistant for RPW’s Nutriti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 08:01 PM |
| 5 | Help me stop eating!https://www.pitt.edu/pittwire/features-articles/study-finds-difference-between-mindless-and-distracted-eating Distracted eating, which is when you eat your meal while distracted by a phone or a task, actually may cause people to eat less. Mindless eating, which is what my cousin was doing, may cause people to eat more. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4381486/ This is a collection of 3 studies that “signify the role of boredom in predicting maladaptive and adaptive eating behaviors a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Help me stop eating!Some people absolutely eat out of boredom though, and mistake it for hunger. My cousin is this way. We will eat a HUGE and filling lunch together and if we’re not doing anything engaging, she starts itching to go grab some ice cream or snacks just an half an hour later. She’ll snack on and off until we have the next meal, and will still eat a full dinner portion as well. In my country, we call this “mouth boredom”: you try to distract yourself from boredom by eating something tasty. When this be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 07:23 PM |
| 3 | Help me stop eating!It’s exhausting to fill up on nutrient-dense and healthy foods that are also low calorie? These are the foods that will keep you full the longest, thanks to high fiber and protein. Eating when you are hungry is not a bad thing IF you have normal hunger cues. Many people don’t and need to make more conscious choices when it’s appropriate to eat. Not everyone is built the same. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 06:59 PM |
| 8 | I’m confused on what’s going on here f18 m23Do you really want to be with someone that you had to convince and change their mind in order for them to actually like and want to commit to you? Wouldn’t you rather be with someone that was enthusiastic for you from the start? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 04:33 PM |
| 9 | Help me stop eating!First of all, congrats on losing the 50 pounds! That’s amazing progress, and our weight fluctuates so gaining 5 pounds back is not the end of the world at all! If your issue is impulse control and hunger, then these are just some small tips. I’d suggest not having unhealthy snacks around at all that would tempt you when you get really hungry but you have actually already had enough during lunch or dinner or whatever. For me, when they’re out of sight, they’re out of mind, and when I do get hungr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 04:25 PM |
| 10 | Age difference in relationshipsIt depends what age YOU are. When I was 20, I don’t know if I would have even ran in the same circles as someone older than 26, and I was probably too dumb to keep my wits about me when dating someone with significantly more experience than me. Now, if I had to start all over again and be single, I think I would actively shoot for someone 5-10 years older, because I myself am older and more capable of knowing what’s healthy and what’s not. My actual partner is only 6 months older, and he’s fanta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/23 04:59 AM |
| 4 | “He wants to take things slow or is he just not interested” dilemma?YES!!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 07:09 PM |
| 4 | “He wants to take things slow or is he just not interested” dilemma?I agree with u/blushingoleander that if you have chosen someone else over a man, it’s probably not a “hell yes” for him anyways and it might not be something wise to pursue. However, let’s say it was all a big fumble, and you DO like him a lot and just made a bad play going for a safer option that fell through, I think the only way to potentially salvage it is if she kept it vague from the beginning. If you know you are going to be seeing someone else exclusively, you can either just tell him th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Are we going to talk about Lauren Sanchez?AFAIAC, marriage is like the Jesuits - you only really know if you are on the inside. 😂😂😂 My guess is that JB is an introvert with no game, Sanchez hunted him and McK was either asleep at that wheel or was on her way out anyway. Yes, she definitely hunted him down. You can just tell how strategic she was about the whole thing. Zuckerberg and Prince Charles both demonstrate that you can be incredibly wealthy and still wife up a dumpy 5. I think Zuckerberg is similar to Bezos in that he is also in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 07:02 PM |
| 11 | “He wants to take things slow or is he just not interested” dilemma?The advice from multiple people was to recognize that it was unwise to tell a man that you are dropping him for another man, and flippantly pop back into his DMs as if nothing changed when things didn’t work out. If you don’t get why men don’t like to feel like the second option, that’s something important for you to understand and note. From there, people gave you two options: 1) Because this man already feels like he isn’t your priority, you have to compensate and show him how much you do like… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 06:35 PM |
| 9 | “He wants to take things slow or is he just not interested” dilemma?OP, you sound so defensive and angry in all of your comments. You came to ask advice, and when you are told the truth that you don’t like, you lash out. Do you really want help, or do you just want to rant and get validation that you did nothing wrong? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Are we going to talk about Lauren Sanchez?Yeah, I think this write-up was more of an acknowledgment of Lauren’s girl game and her ability to make the man she wanted fall head over heels for her. I partially agree with some of the comments that JB doesn’t necessarily need game at his level, but also agree with the comment that stated how his poor game and frame meant he couldn’t get what he wanted from his first wife (whether that be someone more enthusiastically in love with him, or something open, or a divorce on his terms) and left hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Is this true?what if they do both Yes, they would still be considered Category 2 men in my book. If a guy has shown you any sign that he does not intend on investing in you, it kind of negates everything else he’s done. Men don’t stand up women they see a future with even if he’s taken you on dates in the past. Men don’t stop trying to get to know you after sex if they have any intentions of committing to you. i still believe that i do all of these things and i can answer yes to all of those questions You ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Is this true?Haha, I didn’t mean to overtake, it just sprung open a topic that I like chit-chatting about! Cat 4 men are great - I find a lot of people lack self awareness and end up going for the opposite of what works best for them. Some girls chase Cat 3 men even though they get A LOT of anxiety pre-commitment and end up self-sabotaging, and some girls chase Cat 4 men even if they don’t yet have the relationship management skills to maintain a good dynamic post-commitment. It’s nice when we firmly know wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Is this true?Hm, maybe I am not being clear - this stuff gets complicated sometimes. I am certain that the men you dealt with are all Category 2 men for you, based on the way they treated you. Physical attractiveness only plays one factor out of MANY in determining what Category of man they are for you, and it is usually not the most important one. For example, you might think a man is physically less attractive than you, but he may think the same about you. OR he could acknowledge that you are physically be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 11:53 PM |
| 5 | Is this true?Even with Cat 3 men, I find the 3 date rule to be reductionistic. I dislike rules based on time/milestone alone, whether it’s 3 dates, 3 months, or until you have a wedding ring because they take away your agency and analysis skills and let you make a choice just because something out of your control, like the passage of time or your fiancé’s choice to propose, has happened. That makes it more risky, and our goal is to minimize that if possible. I mentioned it to OP in a different comment, but I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 07:46 PM |
| 3 | Is this true?As the author of that When to Become Intimate post, I think your issue is that you are confusing Category 2 men for Category 3 men. You need to work on correctly identifying which man is which, so that you can recalibrate how you deal with them accordingly. A man falls in Category 2 if you cannot get a relationship with him regardless of whether or not you have sex with him. This means that no matter how wifey material you are, or no matter how much you improve your SMV, they would still not wan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 07:38 PM |
| 6 | I’m not his ideal woman, still should I give it a try?rather, ask him what raising his kids Ukrainian means to him? Is culture or faith more important in a partner? Does he view himself moving back to Ukraine? I’m in a cross-cultural relationship and these were questions I asked and we discussed by date 3. His answers told me that he was someone who could fit well into my life, and vice versa. We are still going strong now, years later! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 03:52 PM |
| 9 | About modesty and famous trad women.There was this ASMR influencer who used to be a self-proclaimed left-leaning lesbian. Eventually her ASMR became NSFW, and that was the general direction of her content. She became an Onlyfans creator shortly after. Fast forward a few years and a rebrand, and apparently she has a (male) fiancé of 4 months who has inspired her to become a “tradwife.” She now talks about homesteading and staying at home for her children and all other TradCon buzzwords like “biblical womanhood” and “traditional fem… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 07:32 AM |
| 5 | Are we going to talk about Lauren Sanchez?Yes, I think there’s a lot of things you can take away from amoral girl game, but you can use your powers for good too 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 02:20 AM |
| 11 | Are we going to talk about Lauren Sanchez?Sure, I don’t think Bezos is them most alpha-iest to ever alpha, but that doesn’t take away from Lauren’s girl game. If it was easy to game Bezos, any younger, hotter, PYT would have wanted and been able to snatch him away from his first wife as soon as Amazon became successful - it generated $147 million in revenue as early as 1997. Instead, Bezos and his first wife were together for 25 years. Let’s say he did have access to other women during his first marriage, as some assume that relationshi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 02:15 AM |
| 13 | Are we going to talk about Lauren Sanchez?When you have Bezo’s wealth and money is no object, even if it is cheaper to rent, sometimes you are willing to pay more for a “luxury” (in this case, something/someone that fulfills more than just your basic physiological needs for things like sex). | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 01:43 AM |
| 71 | Are we going to talk about Lauren Sanchez?I talked about her to my man, and he says he just doesn’t get it. It’s not her age that throws him off, as he thinks there are plenty of attractive women her age who can succeed in dating other men in that age range, but that she looks botched in a bad way and gives him “bad vibes”. I sort of disagree. Although I think her cosmetic enhancements are for sure a bit heavy-handed, she is extremely fit, well-groomed, and stylish in a seductive way while most other women her age tend to ditch that kin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/23 11:57 PM |
| 5 | How do you know when you’ve hit the wall?Yes, seconding that this was so eloquently stated. I know there’s another thread recently about an OP whose boyfriend feels that she is too flirty with other men, and while I have never gotten that complaint from my man, I do find myself using the more innocent feminine wiles for the exact things that you mentioned here. A little small talk with the cashier to make my day brighter, getting unrequested help from a kind man to put my carry on luggage into the overhead compartments EVERY time, and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/23 08:34 AM |
| 19 | Pretty privilege is everywhere and is actually the strongest discrimination on earth??Pretty people get more opportunities because people want to be them or be around them. In other words, water is wet. Are you going to sit around, with a “woe is me” mentality, and wallow, or are you going to work to improve your SMV to get the outcomes that the people you envy have achieved? Feminine beauty is highly controllable, and when you look at the mathematical implications of that, it means that unless you have severe deformities, no woman needs to be less than a 5/10 SMV. If you start o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/23 01:32 AM |
| 6 | AdviceWhen someone says a man has “game”, it means he is good with women and knows what it takes to get what he wants from them, whether that’s sex, a relationship, validation, social proof, or whatever else. “Girl game” recognizes that what men need to do to be successful with women is vastly different than what we as women need to do, because men and women want different things from each other. Is there any posts on this Reddit that have a summarized but detailed answer about what girl gam is and ho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/23 07:11 PM |
| 7 | AdviceThere are two major things to consider if you notice that there is a pattern of men wanting to sleep with you but not wanting to commit afterwards, and I find that a lot of people consider one of the things very heavily, but pay much less attention to the equally vital (and in my opinion, more important) second thing. The first, that many people here have already highlighted, is that you need to be have good boundaries around sex. If you have decided in your head that you are not ready to have s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/23 05:52 PM |
| 13 | Submission or Leadership - which should come first?The problem with expecting a man to lead first without any action on our end is that it provides no actual incentive to him to do so. If you have not shown him that you are 1) capable and 2) willing to be what he wants in a woman, then what exactly will compel him to invest his time, energy, and resources into you? If he is a desirable man who is attractive to many other women, why would he be compelled to prove himself to you if there are other beautiful women who might be more cooperative and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/23 05:07 PM |
| 2 | How to backtrack now that everyone thinks I'm a gold digger?I use theredarchive.com for stuff that’s hard to find and I think they do have a rpwives section! If you’re trying to find something and you know the user who posted it, search by author and you might be able to find every post they wrote https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWives | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 04:59 PM |
| 5 | How to stop being perceived as hook up material, instead committal & wifey material of HVM?You need to work on your girl game. If men are consistently putting you in the hook-up category, and you admit that you cannot hold a conversation, the common denominator is you. You need to be interesting, engaging, warm, and fun to be around. If you cannot make a man WANT to spend non-sexual time with you, then you need to work on RMV and social skills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/23 08:36 PM |
| 7 | How to ask without tellingCheck out this sidebar post: The Art of Getting Things… Without Demanding Them | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/23 07:55 PM |
| 3 | How to get comfort in the relationshipI see, then you guys have been together for a solid amount of time! You can definitely tell your therapist your plans to communicate with your partner how you feel about his idea, and maybe they can help you say it productively! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 09:09 PM |
| 6 | has the pain of male infidelity always been this way?The founder of TRP wrote an entire post precisely saying that hypergamy is monogamy (warning for all the women here: this post was directed at the male TRP audience, and is more crass and focused on male goals than the content that would be posted here). This is not to say that hypergamy means loyalty, but hypergamy is monogamy because women are only able to sustain attraction to one man at once. He says to men: Hypergamy makes women disloyal… or loyal. Depending on you. Because women are loyal … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 08:48 PM |
| 6 | How to get comfort in the relationshipINFO: how long have you and him been together? I think he obviously really likes you, and wants to take things to the next level with you. That’s wonderful! However, if you haven’t been dating for too long, or if you don’t know his long-term intentions with you, there are risks that come with you leaving your career at an age where you are “supposed” to be growing it. I would be vulnerable with him, sit him down, and tell him your concerns. Express how appreciative you are that he wants to take … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 05:05 PM |
| 3 | has the pain of male infidelity always been this way?Thank you so much! And yes I completely agree! I think the best way to use RPW and TRP is as a toolbox instead of as a tool to decide who is good and who is bad. Instead, use these tools to understand not only our own desires and goals but the desires and goals of the people around us. The alpha/beta mix post actually came from past ECs over 5 years ago! It’s something I constantly reference because it really captures that people aren’t these unchanging, black and white categorizations and that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 04:32 PM |
| 7 | How do you select which men to entertain?There’s an important decision that’s not discussed here enough which is out of the men that seem interested, which one do you give a chance and go on a date with. There are multiple guides/theory posts on vetting in the sidebar/wiki, which is always there for anyone who wants to find them. The first that comes to mind is Alpha/Beta Traits: Finding the Right Mix. Basically, there are red flag and green flag alpha traits, as well as red flag and green flag beta traits. Your goal is to find someone… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 07:35 AM |
| 29 | has the pain of male infidelity always been this way?if men are “biologically wired” to be able to be with multiple partners (as so told by many members of the RP community) then why does getting cheated on hurt so badly? Because we are women, and we are biologically wired towards hypergamy, aka the desire to be with the best man in the room, or more reasonably, the best man we can achieve. The final conclusion is that hypergamy results in monogamy. We are also wired for commitment, stability, provisions, and protection from men, because we have t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 01:13 AM |
| 5 | Are superficial careers like modeling, pageantry, influencer, etc a turn off to a HVM?Yes! I always say beauty is just your foot in the door and your ticket to the party! But at the parties where you ACTUALLY want to be, everyone is beautiful. If that's all you got, you won't be able to stand out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 12:30 AM |
| 3 | RedPillWomen - how do men “catfish” you?Sure, but by that definition, someone who has implants or someone who wears makeup or someone who wears shoe inserts aren’t catfish either, because they’re not luring people online by creating a fictitious online persona. The show Catfish on MTV wouldn’t be so exciting if it was just people slightly misrepresenting themselves physically and concealing their weaknesses. It’s a hit because it’s people masquerading as completely different people, sometimes of the opposite gender or of completely di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 12:29 AM |
| 2 | RedPillWomen - how do men “catfish” you?I don’t actually have a horse in this race, and honestly prefer that men with weak chins grow beards to better flatter their face any day. But I think the reason why people think of it as catfishing is because it covers a large, incredibly important portion of their face. “Research-based” aesthetics creators like Qoves recognize that the jaw is the most important facial feature when it comes to facial attractiveness. Beards, especially large ones or ones that are shaped to give the illusion of a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/23 11:27 PM |
| 8 | RedPillWomen - how do men “catfish” you?😂😂😂 agreed! I still get all dolled up even when it’s just us two hanging out all day, but also am willing to let him see me without makeup and no push up bra too 😂 it’s a fine balance | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/23 05:10 PM |
| 17 | RedPillWomen - how do men “catfish” you?This is what I thought of. Or always wearing hats/getting a toupee to conceal balding/bad hairlines. In Asia, shoe inserts and shoulder pads are also popular. Although I’m of the opinion that we shouldn’t fall for “natural”. I encourage women to enhance themselves physically using makeup, wigs, waist-trainers, and whatever else they have access to because it ultimately helps them increase their SMV and find a better quality man. I’m not upset at men doing the same. The only type of catfishing th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/23 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Are superficial careers like modeling, pageantry, influencer, etc a turn off to a HVM?To middle class folk and new money, it is a plus for sure, but to old money, privacy and discretion are HIGHLY important. Jobs that are associated with fame and public image are at direct odds with those values. Paris Hilton’s family cut her out of their will entirely because she chose to chase fame instead of keeping a low profile. I think one of the bigger issues is that being an actress or model often means you are dressed in revealing clothing for commercial purposes, or acting out explicit … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/23 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Are superficial careers like modeling, pageantry, influencer, etc a turn off to a HVM?I don’t know her personally so I couldn’t say. That’s possible, but it’s not like he wasn’t allowed to have ANY young and attractive female guests. The women who were allowed were just usually from similar old money families and either pursued academic and business careers (think PhDs or banking) or philanthropy. He had a long term girlfriend who was GORGEOUS, but definitely was socially conservative. My friend’s take on it was that it reflects badly on him if he brings around a rotating litter … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/23 04:12 PM |
| 9 | RPW Adapted: The Trinity of Security, Status, EscapeNice post! Even when a desire for something specific is expressed, a different suggestion can be just as effective at fulfilling their need. I like that you highlight negative and positive ways each need manifests itself. It definitely makes it easier if we recognize that a negative manifestation of a need and could try to combat it with a positive fulfillment of it instead! I love how comprehensive this is! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/23 12:24 AM |
| 7 | 7 Things I've Learned From My Highly Desirable, Thrice Divorced Motheru/ardentbandicoot, could you please give u/morbidityofanother a star please? This reminds me of some great theory posts by some older ECs. You bring up great points, and are wonderfully objective and balanced in your takeaways. Thanks for taking the time to share! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/23 11:43 PM |
| 7 | Are superficial careers like modeling, pageantry, influencer, etc a turn off to a HVM?🤷♀️ I think people just don’t love the idea that beauty isn’t the ultimate trump card as they may think. It wasn’t any attempt to throw shade, just telling OP that if she wants to pursue those avenues, to adjust her dating pool accordingly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 10:14 PM |
| 12 | Are superficial careers like modeling, pageantry, influencer, etc a turn off to a HVM?I don’t think it would be an issue for most men if you have a good head on your shoulders - it probably is a plus if you do. Most men would love to have a woman that is attractive enough to turn it into a career. The only men I know who might see it as a negative are old money men from conservative social circles and families. I know someone whose family has a lot of ties/stakes in a particular European football team. They regularly had box access and sometimes hosted viewing parties there. He s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Guardian Article about RPWHonestly, I think you’re onto something… Plus, we never got a question like that before, so even if it was real, to use that as something representative of the whole community is so purposefully misleading. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 01:04 AM |
| 6 | Going down on womenI think you’re onto something! I think there’s something about men from cultures/circles where there’s a lot of machismo that makes it a shameful/feminine thing for them. Maybe it’s something about it being an act of complete service that makes it submissive to the person who receives it and therefore feminine? To be perceived that way by other men is shameful to them. I don’t agree with any of that, but I think it’s why they feel that way. Poor Uncle Junior 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 12:52 AM |
| 55 | How do y'all feel about podcasts like "Whatever" and "Fresh and Fit"?Not a fan. They show a very rudimentary understanding of TRP theory and are very clearly in the anger phase still. A lot of the things they say contradict or fail to fully grasp the concepts that the OG TRP writers like Whisper, Archwinger, HSP, and VasiliyZaitzev wrote about at length. I disregard them and the rage-bait they’re generating 🤷♀️ While most women hate hearing anything on the men’s side of RP (understandable), if you do find benefit from it like I did, I’d recommend you to check ou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 08:14 PM |
| 13 | Guardian Article about RPWWe get a post from someone from India or the Middle East or Latin America every few days! I never understood why liberals push that conservatism and so-called sexism stems completely from white American or European cultures. Most non-white societies have operated patriarchally for centuries and millennia. It’s one thing to have an issue with that as a whole, but to say that it’s white people who are spearheading it is quite weird and straight up wrong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 04:51 AM |
| 31 | Guardian Article about RPW“And of course, they’re white.” *looks in mirror* THEN WHO THE HELL HAS BEEN STARING BACK AT ME ALL THESE YEARS?! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 04:30 AM |
| 15 | Guardian Article about RPWI found this forum years ago from a similar Vice article. I laughed at the silly women here, but it just kind of stuck with me in the back of my head. I was unlucky in love, hit rock bottom in my romantic life, and decided to try these techniques just for shits and giggles. And then it actually worked. Maybe all press is good press? 🤷♀️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 04:23 AM |
| 14 | Guardian Article about RPWHer “hook” about spanking is taken completely out of context. I remember that post, asking about what we thought about corporal punishment from husbands to their wives, mostly about spanking. The majority of the women here said that that’s not something that they would ever entertain in their relationships outside the bedroom. She says that someone “advises” the quote, but in actuality the person who said it was simply giving an explanation as to WHY it existed (largely popularized in the 50s), … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 04:21 AM |
| 1 | loyalty until marriage?There’s actually two camps about the exclusivity talk. One of the founders of TRP and this sub, Whisper, thought that “the talk” is socially awkward, and likened it to when a man would say something along the lines of this to a woman: "We need to talk. You're a nice girl, and I like you, but my goal for tonight is to have sex. So we need to talk about whether you're ready for sex, and about what kind of sexual acts you're ready for. Because I deserve sex, and if you're not a sex-minded kind of g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/23 06:59 AM |
| 2 | How to Age Like Wine From a Guy Who is Doing It.If you don’t like chemicals in your sunscreen (the cosmetically elegant ones ALWAYS are chemical sunscreens 😭), get a mineral sunscreen! Cerave does one with only two active sunscreen ingredients: zinc oxide and titanium oxide, and the rest are inactive ingredients that you would normally find in a moisturizer. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/23 06:09 AM |
| 7 | loyalty until marriage?My personal take is that this strategy is fine and even preferable in the early days (dates 1-5, or around 1-2 months), but will negatively impact most serious relationships in western non-religious societies. Dating multiple people when you’re still single allows both men and women to have a bit more of an abundance mentality, which helps them act normal and pleasant instead of letting the hamster go wild and scare off good matches. Once the relationship deepens, I find it pretty hard to wrap m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/23 02:53 AM |
| 19 | Is it cheap to stop having premarital sex as a high body count woman?Christianese 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/23 02:39 AM |
| 16 | Help from the men here for becoming the ideal rpwWill I say that this post will rub a lot of people in the community? Yep, and probably for good reason. But I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and entertain you, because I once sought advice from Whisper, one of the male founders of the sub, when I first started posting here years ago, and he helped me improve my love life (and my writing for this sub) tremendously. So you want help (not just help, but free coaching) from men. That’s your prerogative, but I do have to question your intention… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 12:39 AM |
| 3 | RPW is not working for me and I’m tired of being stuck in the same "the one that got away" situationYes EXACTLY! I don’t think I naturally embody the GOLF at all, but I knew a girl in college who did and it was just magnetizing to be around her. She literally made everyone’s day brighter just by being there. She was attractive but not a supermodel by any means, but it was truly her attitude and demeanor that stood out. IIRC she’s been with the bassist of a popular band for years now, and travels with him as he does music festivals and tours. Unfortunately for me this is a conscious choice I ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 08:18 PM |
| 9 | Placeholder VS Dream GirlI agree with you! I’m not saying that some men don’t do this, but rather that there is probably a reason why and that reason determines what action we should take. Sometimes you have to sit down and ask yourself why he hasn’t taken you seriously from the get-go or why he used to but stopped recently. In most cases that I’ve seen, it’s because he thinks the woman is not wife material to begin with. Is he shitty for wasting your time? Sure, but there’s no point on dwelling on this. Even if you don… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 08:12 PM |
| 2 | RPW is not working for me and I’m tired of being stuck in the same "the one that got away" situationMy suggestion is to give a guy a taste of great service but make him earn more from you, make him demonstrate he deserves and appreciates your level of devotion. I remember Whisper saying that submission is a drug, and RPW are the drug dealers. Drug dealers don’t give out their entire supply for free, but they sure as hell are in the business of giving out free samples! The rewards the dealers can reap are great after their clients have been hooked, lol. Submission done right is addicting and co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 07:58 PM |
| 3 | Is this true?Attraction is definitely not negotiable, but anyone who loves me without knowing me is highly suspect. They don’t actually love me as a person, just the idea of who I am and what I can stand for in his life. I went on a few dates with a couple guys like this and it was a hard pass. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 06:36 PM |
| 58 | Placeholder VS Dream GirlI think you have a few ideas in here that have some merit, but I never liked the concept of the Placeholder/Practice Wife because I find that it is usually a scarecrow that scorned women use to completely push the blame on men being shitty instead of taking accountability for how they contributed to their failed relationship as well. Instead of focusing so much on WHETHER you’re a placeholder or a dream girl to a certain man, it’s more productive to put in the work to become that dream girl that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 06:33 PM |
| 3 | RPW is not working for me and I’m tired of being stuck in the same "the one that got away" situationDon’t be embarrassed! We all start somewhere and A LOT of people come to the RP community because of a bad breakup(s) or because they are just plain unlucky in love, myself included. I came here because I hit rock bottom in my dating life and tried this silly RPW stuff out for shits and giggles, and it actually worked. I think because I know how I am, I just assume everyone is being honest about who they are too. Although some men will actively try to manipulate and lie to you, I find that most … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 05:37 PM |
| 21 | RPW is not working for me and I’m tired of being stuck in the same "the one that got away" situationI’m sorry you’ve been through a lot of heartbreak. I think you have a few ideas/beliefs that may be preventing you from being successful when using submission as strategy. I hope that you know I’m not trying to rub salt in your wounds, but help you problem solve and course-correct even if it is difficult. I find myself stuck in a pattern where my ex’s only realise how much of an “amazing woman" I am AFTER they rip my heart apart and end things. I had an "ex" (never official, still in the vetting… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 09:24 AM |
| 11 | Liberal men vs conservative womenEh idk, I think there are plenty of men out there who truly believe in liberal/leftist ideology, and they absolutely look down on right-leaning and even centrist women for not agreeing with them. I don’t think it’s specific to gender - it’s just what the left does to EVERYONE who doesn’t agree with them. The vast majority of thought leaders and notable figures on the left (and on the right) are still men, and I don’t doubt their sincerity, even if I don’t agree with their politics. Are there som… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/23 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.Oooh thank you! I do my kickbacks at a slight diagonal, but man am I WEAK with those. 15 lbs and I’m already overcompensating and compromising on my form 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 08:48 AM |
| 5 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.Hey thanks for helping!! I am very short - 4’11 - and most TDEE calculators put my maintenance at around 1500 but I’ve never looked into it that much so maybe this is a little inaccurate. I’ve never eaten in a surplus so that alone is a bit scary of a bridge to cross but I think I’ll have to do it eventually (bad timing to start bulking lol shoulda done it in the winter 😅). I’ve always had a small pooch but it wouldn’t be noticeable unless I had a big meal and got a little bloated. Now that I’ve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 08:47 AM |
| 5 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.Currently trying to gain muscle (yes build a dumpy 🤪) and it’s been surprisingly easy hitting my protein intake goals (80-90g). What I don’t love is how damn easy it is to surpass my fat intake limit (50 g) when I’m eating to gain muscle! I hover around 90-95 lb when I’m just intuitive eating, and now that I’m eating more to build muscle, I’ve started to see the scale creep up and I don’t like it lol. I’m eating around 1400-1600 but sometimes dip under on my rest days. I know it’s good to focus … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 01:17 AM |
| 5 | How to tell if you like somebody enough?Ooooooh I like this model! Also really like that although we usually need some of all three, we definitely prioritize different ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Are guys talking to you in the streets/pick up artists only looking to smash and dash ? Should I avoid them ?I’ll just shut up next time. Girl… what? This is what I mean by concerning. No one told you that you couldn’t share or that you should shut up. Not every guy who approaches you is trying to “smash and dash”. You have an issue with black and white thinking, and you jump too quickly to conclusions based on emotional triggers and not what you’re actually dealing with. This is a bigger problem than pick-up artists will ever be in terms of your success in romantic relationships (and in many other asp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 08:55 AM |
| 7 | If you have basically no history but your partner has a lot of relationship/sexual history is it a problem?In absence of moral or religious justification, what are they supposed to think? Basically you fear emotionally bonding with them through sex because you fear the pain you will feel if the relationship were to end. Now, as I said earlier, such feelings are normal for your first time. Being used or dumped by your first sexual partner is a legitimate fear. But there are healthy and unhealthy ways to deal with it. The healthy mindset is "I want to overcome this fear for the right person, and I woul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Some guy said to me that the only thing I have going on for me is that I’m nice ? Is this negging ? He randomly said to me that “I’ll die alone “… and then added “you’ll eventually find someone “🧐The spirit of the gesture is to show a lack of urgency. You have enough abundance in your life both to play whenever the fancy strikes you, and also to risk offending a woman because there are plenty of them about. Yeah, I’d argue it’s one of the more benevolent ways for a man to instill a bit of dread without trying or doing anything hurtful or insecurity inducing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 03:35 AM |
| 3 | Some guy said to me that the only thing I have going on for me is that I’m nice ? Is this negging ? He randomly said to me that “I’ll die alone “… and then added “you’ll eventually find someone “🧐Ahhh your relationship sounds so fun and precious! And you’re right - it’s just fun! It’s the male way of adding an element of play to the relationship IMO | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Are guys talking to you in the streets/pick up artists only looking to smash and dash ? Should I avoid them ?Girl, I’m saying this not to be mean or petty, but you need to go touch some grass. A guy (one that YOU thought was attractive and confident) came up and tried to strike a convo with you, probably because he thought you were cute. That’s it. You are blocking your own blessings lol. Get off the internet, take a deep breath, and ask yourself how people met each other before social media and dating apps. Sure, some people meet through their social circle, but others met the love of their life by be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 03:27 AM |
| 10 | What do you consider the most important things you've learned since RPW? What were the first steps you took to grow as a woman?RPW taught me the strength in vulnerability, softness, and even submission. I was insufferable before I found RPW and fell victim to the mainstream belief that in order to find a good man, I had to emulate one. RPW helped me embrace my femininity and feel empowered by it instead of burdened by it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/23 07:40 PM |
| 3 | Some guy said to me that the only thing I have going on for me is that I’m nice ? Is this negging ? He randomly said to me that “I’ll die alone “… and then added “you’ll eventually find someone “🧐I think this is from u/humansockpuppet’s post IIRC! Negging gets a bad rep in the media and even here IMO. It really is playful and harmless teasing. Anything more and it is either incorrectly executed or just plain mean. As women, I think we can spot the latter cases and it turns us off. When done correctly, it’s incredibly fun and makes us excited to engage with the guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/23 07:34 PM |
| 7 | Boyfriend treatment vs husband treatment? Do you draw a line somewhere?Oooh I was about to comment but I definitely said it better back then than what I had in my head now 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/23 07:28 PM |
| 4 | How long did you and your husband wait before you were engaged?Congratulations 🎉🥂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/23 02:50 AM |
| 1 | He(M32) didn’t tell me(F22) he was previously marriedYou worded this WAY better than I did, LOL! This is the issue I was pondering for sure, thanks for clarifying! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 06:21 PM |
| 6 | Do guys think it's cute when you get nervous?I wrote post about this: TLDR: yes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 06:07 PM |
| 1 | He(M32) didn’t tell me(F22) he was previously marriedYeah, and that’s where u/strangestunicorn’s point about infidelity and children make the issue so murky. I would absolutely consider leaving if I was married with no children, but with children, there’s a lot more pause. It’s basically trying to decide if ignorance is bliss is worth it, and I honestly have no idea. It could be worth it, but a lot of women’s main problem with infidelity is that it “makes them look stupid”. I don’t think I’d know what I would do until it happens, and fingers cross… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 05:24 PM |
| 5 | What does it mean if a guy asks you to meet right now ? Specially after they texted after no contactI prefer a man who will say good morning…how are you, how is your day going, etc. I feel like I’m not understanding you correctly. Don’t those discussions usually follow “hey”? I don’t know many people who start a convo and then don’t ask those follow up questions after, “hey” or no “hey”. If you’re saying men who just say “hey” and nothing else, yeah that’s an issue. But vast majority do not, at least in my experience when I was single. Most men who are interested are absolutely willing to enga… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 05:20 PM |
| 1 | He(M32) didn’t tell me(F22) he was previously marriedIt’s such an interesting and nuanced topic, and I don’t have a concrete conclusion either. That’s why I started this discussion: I kind of feel like all disclosure issues are in a weird gray area that makes it difficult to give any hard and fast rules or judgments on. I am kinda with u/Wife_and_Mama in that I think that explicitly telling your partner about your infidelity sometimes works well to clear YOUR conscience about it, BUT at the expense of the innocent partner now having to live with t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 04:37 PM |
| 7 | What does it mean if a guy asks you to meet right now ? Specially after they texted after no contact”Hey” is for friends, not for a romantic partner. In today’s episode of extremely particular standards that women have that cancels out the vast majority of men for no reason… Why read so much into this? Hey is a greeting and that’s pretty much it. What would you prefer, “salutations?” Does he text you more than call? IMO, that’s a red flag. If you’re interested in me, then you need to call me and we can have a real convo. If OP is young (25 and below), this is a pretty unreasonable expectation … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 04:23 PM |
| 5 | He(M32) didn’t tell me(F22) he was previously marriedI was honest about my sexual history too, but that’s because it was beneficial for me to do so because my history was low. I don’t know what I would do if I had an n-count of 25 and found an amazing guy who didn’t yet know about it, to be perfectly honest. I would absolutely consider lying by omission, and being as vague as possible. I dunno, I find it to be a bit too convenient to say that what women generally want to know more about (commitment history, as the ones who prioritize commitment) d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 11:09 PM |
| 3 | He(M32) didn’t tell me(F22) he was previously marriedI agree with your list and your conclusion that this guy is not a good partner (hard stop at depression and using it as an excuse) at all, but have a question about this in point 3: He’s a liar by omission and he knows it. What would be the difference between a woman who does the same with her sexual history, particularly if it is unfavorable, like how OP’s guy’s relationship having a divorce from your partner of 14 years is? Whenever this comes up, we usually get a split between folks who advis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/23 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Can you share your favorite (relatively easy) dinner recipe?I’ve been LOVING this salmon en papillote with citrus and olives. I found the recipe on tiktok but can’t seem to find it anymore, but here’s a general recipe: Preheat oven to 400 F and salt/pepper your salmon filets (skinless is best, but sometimes I like to take the skin off and fry for a nice topping lol). Take a large piece of parchment paper, fold in half, and cut it into a half-heart shape, then unfold. Make one for each salmon filet. Take cut lemon and orange slices and place on the parchm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/23 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Guy having tons of female friends: red flag or normal?Lol in hindsight, absolutely! Back then, I thought it was just because we were meant for each other 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/23 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Guy having tons of female friends: red flag or normal?That’s what happens when you get a crush on someone for your shared love of Beyonce, frappucinos, and musical theatre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/23 09:03 PM |
| 10 | Dating advice: when can you trust a man has left his “hoe phase?”I feel like this is unnecessarily confrontational and lacking in warmth. When you overtly make a man prove himself or jump through hoops, he might be willing to do it to get what he wants, but it might sour his opinion of you, making it less likely for you to get the commitment you actually want. It’s also pretty easy for someone to SAY the “right” answer to questions like these, but if this is your only way of knowing where you stand with him, it’s not the best way to see his actual intentions.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/23 09:36 PM |
| 8 | Guy having tons of female friends: red flag or normal?Some active social media is fine, especially if it has to do with work (not my taste in terms of men, but you’re in a similar industry as him so I’m sure you understand more than I do). But yes I got the same exact feeling as you did about that specific post: it’s uncouth and makes him seem like a man who doesn’t have a lot of abundance or finesse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/23 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Guy having tons of female friends: red flag or normal?Oh man, that’s crazy! Way back when I was in high school, I had a couple guys I liked turn out to be bi or gay (I liked them effeminate and soft back then, so it wasn’t really a surprise in hindsight 😂), but trans is a whole different ballpark! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/23 05:15 PM |
| 33 | Guy having tons of female friends: red flag or normal?People are pretty divided on whether men and women can have friends of the opposite gender. The people who are against it think it’s not possible without one or more of the parties developing feelings or sexual attraction for their friend. Clearly this is the case with this man as he has said he hooks up and goes on dates with these friends. The people who are for it say that they don’t have any feelings or attraction for their friends, or even if they do, they would never act on it and it’s fin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/23 05:11 PM |
| 10 | Guy having tons of female friends: red flag or normal?I think the likelihood that this guy is trans is pretty low. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/23 05:00 PM |
| 2 | why ghost thenSame! I don’t even see it as ghosting if you’ve been on a date or two lol. To me ghosting is when you’ve been spending a decent amount of time together and have gotten to know each other well and then they go radio silent for over a week. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/23 03:13 PM |
| 9 | why ghost thenOne thing we can apply from the men over at TRP is having a sense of abundance. If these are men who you’ve never met, or only been out with once or twice, it should not be upsetting you if they stop responding. It WILL happen - that’s just the nature of online dating and the digital age. If you continue to let this bother you, you’re going to have a pretty hard time dating. Instead of putting these men you barely know on a pedestal, just see it as a random man who you barely know anyways who fi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/23 03:11 PM |
| 9 | Seeking advice: Is using a location tracking app on my boyfriend crossing a line?No one is telling you to break up with him. You just have to seriously address YOUR issue, or else it’s going to ruin your relationship AND hurt your partner. Every single comment you’ve made, you refuse to acknowledge everyone’s concerns. If you want to actually have a successful relationship, I suggest you listen. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/23 10:29 PM |
| 19 | Seeking advice: Is using a location tracking app on my boyfriend crossing a line?Agreed with everyone else. Also wanted to highlight that you’ve only been with him for a few months and you already need to track his every location. That’s not healthy at all - you guys have JUST gotten together. Just because you have relationship baggage and have been cheated on before does not make it alright to make it your new partner’s problem. Those are issues for YOU to address and fix. Imposing this kind of 24/7 watch on him AND worrying about whether or not he’s cheating 24/7 is not he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/23 07:23 PM |
| 0 | How to know when he sees you as a forever girlfriend or as a future wife?Yeah, I think it’s something to do with insecurity. They feel inadequate about where they are/where the relationship is going, but are going about fixing that in a really misguided way. Sometimes you have to take people at face value. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 06:26 PM |
| 10 | How to know when he sees you as a forever girlfriend or as a future wife?I wrote a post about this a year or two ago: the practice wife/placeholder is a myth and a scarecrow that scorned women use instead of being accountable for 1) failing to inspire commitment or 2) failing to vet for a man who wants the same things she does. It is easy to shift the blame on an “evil” man who just used you. It’s a lot harder to acknowledge where WE fumbled and what we can do to change that. The former means you might end up in the exact same position with a different man, because y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 06:19 PM |
| 20 | How to know when he sees you as a forever girlfriend or as a future wife?This isn’t fair. He’s being honest with you about his goals and you’re making them about you. He doesn’t want to get married for 10 years. You don’t want to wait five. You can both be awesome people who truly love each other and still be incompatible. That’s what’s happening here. THANK YOU. Too often people see this scenario as “he’s using you as a placeholder!!!” or “he’s just wasting your time and if you were special enough to him he would have!!!”. I always found that mentality exhausting an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 05:03 PM |
| 8 | Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards?Just with the height requirement alone, you canceled out the vast majority of men, which means that your options for everything else, even the much more important things that are critical for a successful relationship, are drastically lower. My personal opinion is that it’s not wrong to want a man of your same ethnicity - that gives you a lot of compatibility and a better fighting chance than dating someone you can’t relate with from a different race. However, the fact that height is your end-al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 04:33 PM |
| 6 | Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards?If you’ve already done a lot to improve and work on your SMV, chances are that’s not the thing that’s holding you back. I would say focus on the girl game and increasing your RMV. It is a skill and a mindset that can be learned, but only if you’re willing to! The only downside is that you have a much more limited window to experiment than someone in their mid twenties. If you find out that no matter what you do, you can’t get the men you want to commit to you, you would have wasted time that cou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 03:54 AM |
| 13 | Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards?You can want whatever you, well, want to want 😂 Hell, one of the first posts I ever wrote here was about why we shouldn’t settle if we don’t have to. But creating a literal laundry list of things in this manner is not the most productive thing to do IMO, because it doesn’t really address HOW you’ll actually make a relationship with a man who fits your standards happen. Just because you concede a bunch of things to sweeten the deal (some of which probably isn’t wise to be conceded) doesn’t really… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 03:23 AM |
| 2 | Need help clarifying a relationship without being all “what are we?”On a practical level, you don’t have to worry about STDs and stuff anymore. After I went exclusive with that guy, I asked him to go get tested assuming that if I was his only partner from there on out, I wouldn’t have to be worried about any other partners giving him something that would get passed to me. This was what I needed to be comfortable having sex with someone. We broke up before we ever consummated that relationship though, so there were clearly other issues LOL. On a more emotional le… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 12:46 AM |
| 4 | Need help clarifying a relationship without being all “what are we?”Eh, I would say that there’s a small yet significant difference between exclusive and bf/gf, at least for some folks (war flashbacks to pre-RPW me asking a guy I was exclusive with what we were and he said he didn’t know 🤦♀️ - my girl game wasn’t amazing back then lol). I think exclusive just means we are not going to see anyone else and that’s it. Whereas bf/gf implies that, on top of being exclusive, you are each other’s “person”, and you’re more willing to invest in each other. There is a mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 12:25 AM |
| 7 | Odd behaviour from these guysYepppp. Another really well-liked girl at that work place was average at best, probably a little below on most days. And yet, because she was warm, inviting, fun to be around, and good at her job, she had a lot of good friends in the office of both genders. She didn’t have an army of beta orbiters or anything, but the men still enjoyed her presence and treated her kindly. She even started dating someone from that office as far as I remember, who was a little more attractive than she was and pret… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 11:54 PM |
| 12 | Does your husband support your hobbies?I dunno about this. I don’t expect my man to become as deeply interested in my niche interests as I am (just like he doesn’t expect me to know much about vintage cars, powerlifting, or watches), but I definitely appreciate that he supports my endeavors as much as I support his and that he still shows some interest in what I do. For both partners, hobbies are great for building your happiness and stabilizing your mental health. I’d argue that, within reason, that is more beneficial for your relat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 06:34 PM |
| 14 | Odd behaviour from these guysI’m gonna offer a different opinion than the other responses you’re getting and say that it might not be because you’re so attractive that they’re too scared to talk to you, and maybe might be that you’re off-putting in some way, usually behaviorally. I worked with a drop-dead gorgeous woman who modeled in high school and college, and you could not keep the men away from her. She was also charismatic and fun to be around, so even more reason that she was well-liked around the office and everyone… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 06:20 PM |
| 15 | Met a guy at a friends cookout - how to see him again?The best thing about meeting people through mutual friends is that you can ask said friends to hook it up. If you’re too scared to do that, the hard-to-swallow advice is that you gotta get some lady balls and just do it. Do you think Meghan Markle got set up with a prince by just waiting around for it to magically happen? You have a convenient key right in your lap - don’t be afraid to use it! If it doesn’t work out, just treat it as any other man who it doesn’t work out with and move on! For yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Can women increase their dating value or worth to men at all?Eh, desire isn’t really negotiable. It may make it harder to find someone, but if that’s all she’s attracted to, it is what it is. I think that’s a fine “standard” because compatibility also has a lot to do with race and religion, especially if you are particularly devout. And this is coming from someone in an interracial relationship with both of us as agnostic people raised in different faiths lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Can women increase their dating value or worth to men at all?This is why I never agreed with the whole “NO COFFEE OR WALK DATES HE NEEDS TO TREAT YOU LIKE A QUEEN FROM THE GET GO OR HES CHEAP” mentality. I didn’t have time to go on lavish 5 hour dates all the time, but I still wanted to meet lots of people and see how well we meshed. IMO it’s much easier to meet people for a low stakes date at a coffee shop for say an hour during your lunch at work or between errands on the weekends. I had LOTS of first dates, and accepted very few second dates, which was… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 02:43 PM |
| 9 | Can women increase their dating value or worth to men at all?One new guy a MONTH or worse, every other month?! IMO I think you’re being too picky and as a result, you’re wasting time and limiting your options. When I was using OLD, I met with at least 4-5 guys every month, usually a little more. The most productive way to OLD is to cast a wide net. Keep it casual, light, and fun. Meet LOTS of people, and let whoever you make a connection with rise to the top. You’ll find yourself with a small handful that you actually like, and if they like you back, you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 05:16 AM |
| 9 | Please, don't underestimate the power of communicationI’m not sure either. One of the most basic RPW strategies is the whole “bring him your problem, not your solution” thing! Most people here encourage communication and vulnerability IME. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/23 07:07 PM |
| 14 | Skirts? - Where to buy some I like?Although I disagree and think that a knit sweater looks really nice with a silk/satin skirt, here are some options: tiered cotton skirt: really trending these days, can be dressed up or down. midi pencil skirt: classic and timeless! asymmetrical hem skirt: very fun and flirty, although results may vary and they’re not SUPER versatile. Great statement pieces though! a-line skirts: a little more of a statement, but super feminine. If you like a sturdier material, I think poplin is really good and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/23 07:02 PM |
| 4 | I’m probably being silly, but…There are plenty of good reasons to wait a while before having sex: pregnancy risks STDs pair-bonding thanks to dopamine and oxytocin your vetting and judgment may become clouded thanks to said pair-bonding religion the earlier you have sex, the less time you have to showcase your RMV That being said, withholding sex just as a tactic to make sure a man stays with you is misguided, like that previous post I’ve linked to says. In the grander scheme of things, your RMV matters a lot more than what … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Guide: How to NOT be a Nag…girl, you DO realize that tone is one of the most basic things they teach you in high school to look for when analyzing literature right? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 06:48 PM |
| 8 | I’m probably being silly, but…It sounds like you’re stressing about whether or not sleeping with him early on makes you look promiscuous or like a “slut”, which will “doom” your relationship. The thing is, sleeping with someone early doesn’t necessarily make you a slut. I know at least a handful of the ECs here (past and present) who slept with their husbands/partners very early on, yet went on to have happily committed marriages and relationships. I think you would benefit from one of my favorite theory posts: The Slut, and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 06:22 PM |
| 51 | Field report (THANK YOU)There are a good amount of women who come here, read a post or two (or worse - watch “RP” people who don’t know what they’re talking about on youtube/tiktok), decide that they want to be RPWs, and apply an extremely simplistic understanding of it to their lives. Then they come back a few months later and tell us that RPW doesn’t work or that it made their (already struggling) relationship/dating life worse. This is NOT you. By the time you made your first post, you already had a pretty good unde… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/23 05:02 PM |
| 8 | Am I being sensitive?It’s so common it’s a trope, the high IQ know-it-all smart guy with such poor social skills he can’t realize how obnoxious he is to everyone around him. Academically they are at a PhD level but socially they are stuck in the teen years. Oh, you just perfectly described my first boyfriend. He was working a full-time software engineering job as a senior in high school. That paid him 100k. As a frickin 17 year old. And he taught himself everything. He was a genius and we were in the same advanced-l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/23 02:01 AM |
| 9 | Giving This UpAw thanks for sharing such a lovely Valentine’s moment! You’re right, stuff like that tends to pull at their heartstrings more. Lady on the streets a you know what in the sheets 😉 I’m inspired to have my man pick my outfit now! His favorite outfit of mine recently was a midi-length pencil skirt, high boots, a form-fitting turtleneck, and a trench coat on top. I was thinking it was a little frumpy in the back of my head, but when he saw me, he couldn’t stop gushing about it and told me how it was… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 04:27 AM |
| 24 | Giving This UpI expressed to my boyfriend how I’m giving up short skirts because I felt so uncomfortable. He liked this revelation I came to and said he likes it when I wear short skirts, but more in private when it’s just us. My man and I are going through something similar. When we first met in my early 20s, I dressed like a THOT. Short skirts, low cut, crop tops, cut outs, backless, you name it. He loved it and I loved being the “best-dressed” girl in the room. I also thought I could get away with it becau… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/23 08:04 PM |
| 14 | Modesty & Vanity: How to balance those two in day to day life?Most of the things you described to me sound perfectly reasonable, until we got here: But I've been known to place my appearance above other important things, and to care more about what happens to my hair, at the end of the day, than my career or studies or anything else. Last time I cut it, it was shorter than I expected and I cried for a month. This is when it starts being vain in a bad way. Think about it like this: hair (and any other aspect of physical beauty) is something that you should … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/23 12:09 AM |
| 20 | Modesty & Vanity: How to balance those two in day to day life?What an interesting question and discussion. Thanks for starting it! For starters, I think your date was just teasing you. You made a joke about it and he negged you a little further. It’s not worth stressing over! At the same time, I feel that leaving all vanity behind may make my chances at dating a lot harder. My personal opinion is that you’re right. I don’t think SOME vanity is that bad. At the end of the day, men are visual creatures. Unless you meet a certain threshold of beauty (and this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/23 11:03 PM |
| 14 | How to let it go when I think he's wrong.A big lesson I had to learn, not just in my relationship but in all my interactions in general, is to always ask myself what I gain from doing X. What do you gain from constantly trying to argue and debate with your husband over what you acknowledge to be pointless topics? Does it better your relationship with him? Does it make him love and cherish you more? Does it make you respect him? Or, does it make you frustrated and angry? Does it make him just a little more tired of interacting with you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/23 05:38 PM |
| 11 | Thoughts on your man going out all night with friendsI would say if it’s the first time and you already let him know how you feel, it’s okay to move forward because he was probably having a lot of fun with his friends from out of town and has tried to make it up to you. But if it becomes a recurring issue, I would definitely start considering bigger implications on compatibility + stability in general. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/23 12:42 AM |
| 5 | Thoughts on your man going out all night with friendsDid he let you know that he probably wasn’t going to make it home? Or did he go silent and you only heard from him once he got home? If it’s the former, I personally wouldn’t mind as much because I wouldn’t be worried all night and waiting up for him. If it’s the latter, I would be upset too and would have a talk with him. Then I would look to see if this is a regular occurrence or if there’s a big split between your life outlooks. If he loves partying, drinking, and going out but you’re not int… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/23 12:32 AM |
| 45 | Would living in a van be seen as a red flag by good men?You say you’re not a “random hippy woman with a free spirit”, but to be honest with you, this choice might be a red flag for a good chunk of men. I feel like the hippy types might be cool with it or like it, but a lot of other men might be a little weirded out by it. It definitely puts you in the free spirited hippy nomad bucket, so if that’s not where you want to be placed, I might reconsider it. There might be a few men who can be convinced otherwise after they get to know you, but you’d be un… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/23 07:05 PM |
| 25 | Goal Is to travel somewhere every month: how to look like a high value woman while travelling and ensuring my own safety?how to look like a high value woman while traveling… I want to make sure I stay acting and looking feminine. I’m also hyper-aware of my surroundings and don’t want to stand out and be a target. It definitely depends on where you’re going, but sometimes these can be conflicting goals. Looking like a “high value woman” is looking like an attractive (potentially well-off) woman, and looking like an attractive, potentially well-off woman when you are traveling alone is definitely going to make you s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/23 05:04 PM |
| 1 | What can the girl, for whom RedPillWomen's advice is not working, do?Haha thanks Breakfast!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/23 12:02 AM |
| 6 | What can the girl, for whom RedPillWomen's advice is not working, do?I hope you know I don’t mean to hurt your feelings, but that I used to think EXACTLY like you and it got me nowhere, and I needed something big to snap me out of it. That’s why I really like The Art of the Bad Excuse. Although the surface-level goal is to help you initiate interactions with men of your choosing in a covert, feminine way, the much more beneficial and important side effect is that it shows you that no man will rip you apart or ridicule you or embarrass you for being warm, receptiv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/23 11:56 PM |
| 5 | Need advice on how to maintain a friendshipBesides solid friendship advice and conflict resolution, I love your philosophy: most things we deal with our OUR problem, and most people aren’t going to drop everything to change and help us unless we somehow bring immense value to them (and we usually don’t). We have to be the ones to do the work to see improvement for ourselves. u/FastLifePineapple, could you give her a star please? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/23 08:58 PM |
| 12 | What can the girl, for whom RedPillWomen's advice is not working, do?Judging at your responses to everyone, I can see one BIG way you are not following RPW advice and that might be hindering you. Sure, becoming physically attractive and feminine looking will help you, but it all means nothing if you are so insecure that you do not let yourself be warm and receptive to people. I do all the thing that are stated here as “just do it and you’ll have a boyfriend in no time!” First of all, I don’t think anyone has said that. A lot of these things take time, work, and A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/23 08:52 PM |
| 1 | What was your redpill conversion moment and how did things change for you after you accepted it?Oh no, I never connected those dots! I just figured he ran out of things to say. I used to write A LOT of theory, but then I said everything that was on my mind and just had major writer’s block since. Hoping that it’s this and not that his marriage dissolved 😳 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/23 06:35 PM |
| 3 | What was your redpill conversion moment and how did things change for you after you accepted it?Don’t they all 😅 but yeah, I really liked that he was older and had a wife for decades. It kind of showed me the longevity that these strategies can have and he’s a fun writer overall! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/23 06:21 PM |
| 28 | What was your redpill conversion moment and how did things change for you after you accepted it?I also had to learn the hard way. I had a good amount of male attention/interest, but could not convert that to commitment for the life of me. Every guy I dated turned out to be an asshole who didn’t really take me seriously or treat me well. I was staunchly feminist, leftist, and proud to be disagreeable and cold (“it’ll make them want to win me over,” I thought). Then I found TRP and RPW from a vice article and laughed at all these toxic men and delusional “pick me” women. But I couldn’t help … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/23 06:19 PM |
| 8 | What was your redpill conversion moment and how did things change for you after you accepted it?I LOVE Ian Ironwood’s blogs. One of the best male writers in the RP space who understood applying RP strategies to commitment and LTR. The pin-up aesthetic is a nice cherry on top too 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/23 05:49 PM |
| 4 | Should red pill women be on dating apps?I think I read an article about how dating app algorithms show more desirable/high-ranking men to women who are more picky. So it’s also a good strategy to get shown better men in general. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/23 05:38 PM |
| 4 | I'm all about compromising in a relationship, but I couldn't handle this one. Should have I done more?Sorry you’re feeling that way. Being with toxic people tends to leave us wounded. Take all the time you need to build yourself back up, even if it means going on nun mode for a while and focusing on healing/growing! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/23 11:51 PM |
| 13 | I'm all about compromising in a relationship, but I couldn't handle this one. Should have I done more?This is very clearly a him issue and not a you issue. This relationship was not sustainable because of his crippling insecurity, jealousy, and straight up delusion. You know exactly how miserable it is, so why are you entertaining the idea of continuing on with him? As for what he’s saying to you now post-breakup, remember that this is a guy who is manipulative enough to convince you that you have to be on the phone with him the entire night without hanging up to prove your loyalty and that you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/23 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Looking for dating app bio feedbackOoooh so jealous of you! We binge-watched her specials and want to go see her next time she’s in our town! As a lady who loves talking about relationships, if you somehow couldn’t tell 😅, I don’t mind the shift but I did like her style in first special in netflix a lot! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/23 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Looking for dating app bio feedbackOoooh me and my man LOVE Taylor Tomlinson! Super funny gal! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/23 05:59 PM |
| 7 | Looking for dating app bio feedbackAgreed. First rule about fight club is don’t talk about fight club. Even mentioning Andrew Tate signals that you’re in the sphere and that could put a bad taste in some people’s mouths, even if they’re otherwise good partners. Hell, I STILL haven’t told my man that I’m in this community, and I don’t plan to, because what’s the point of a magician revealing her secrets? 😉 Re: talking about wanting a male-led relationship: the vast majority of men who aren’t feminist lefties are going to think the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/23 05:58 PM |
| 7 | Can you attempt dropping the handkerchief more than once or is that desperate?Yes time will tell, but try not to fixate too much on whether they use abbreviations in their text as a sign (I just used it to be funny in my example) and focus more on the overall effort. There’s a difference between a man who is busy with work telling you to check back in with him after an ambiguous amount of time and a man who says, “hey, I’m going away on business for 2-4 weeks, but I’d love to see you again when I get back. What’s your schedule next month so I can book us a reservation for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/23 07:36 PM |
| 26 | Can you attempt dropping the handkerchief more than once or is that desperate?As a BIG proponent of dropping the handkerchief, I want you to picture this: it’s the 1800s, and a beautiful woman drops her handkerchief in the town square in front of the most eligible bachelor in town. He’s eligible for a reason: he’s smart and intuitive enough to pick up on the fair lady’s cues. He is more than happy to flirt back with this beautiful woman, and they have a brief and pleasant exchange before heading their separate ways. She is now on his radar when she previously has not been… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/23 06:18 PM |
| 10 | embarrassed to say that I left the man I was trying to build a future withI’m sorry you’re going through this. This is something that is really hard to vet for, because men like this are actively trying to hide it and present a false image so that they can still have you in their life for whatever purpose. Hell, they might not even have known or accepted it about themselves when you first got together. Please don’t be so hard on yourself - it is not your fault that he has different tastes. What is upsetting is not only that he is gay but that he was actively cheating … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Tell me this is stupidSo you guys have already slept together again recently? Or are you talking about in the past? I mean, why even bother dating if it’s just making men jump through hoops? You don’t necessarily have to be the type of woman who demands that men take them to fancy places or get them extravagant gifts to “qualify”. The MOST important part of dating is to vet for shared values, life goals, and compatible beliefs/personalities. You can do that over coffee, walks in the park/beach, hikes, and picnics. Th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 03:52 AM |
| 2 | I need serious advice, I am the girl that men date before they get into a serious relationshipAw glad you remembered it! I had to pull it out of the dusty archives 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 03:11 AM |
| 2 | I need serious advice, I am the girl that men date before they get into a serious relationshipThank you so much! And yes, I just don’t like the victim mindset. It just doesn’t let you move forward. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 03:10 AM |
| 4 | Tell me this is stupidUnless you make a radical, and I’m talking radical glow-up, firstly in looks (weight, grooming, fashion, potentially plastic surgery) but equally importantly in attitude and girl-game, you will not make a man who did not take you seriously suddenly change his mind. Even more so if you guys have already had sex and he didn’t decide to take things further with you back then. He also knows all about your CC days, and any attempt to change the goalposts (i.e. you now decide to be more careful about … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 03:08 AM |
| 9 | I need serious advice, I am the girl that men date before they get into a serious relationshipYou might benefit from a post I wrote about this very topic: The False Myth of the Practice Wife, and How Not To Be Her. There’s a lot of important RPW theory in the beginning and body of the post that explains why this can happen that I highly reccomend you read, but the crux of how to get out of this situation is this: Practice Wives are ultimately responsible for their own misfortune because they failed their main job in their relationship strategy: to inspire commitment from their man. Both … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/23 05:41 AM |
| 8 | Where to find sportswear?If you are boycotting then it’s kinda hard to find something tbh, but if you just don’t want to be an advertisement for them walking around in logos, Alo Yoga, Banana Republic, Gap, and Old Navy all have pretty nice unbranded and minimally branded sportswear and sports bras. BR and Gap go on sale A LOT and they also have their factory versions which is way more affordable. I’ve also found SO many nice sports bras and workout leggings from small/unknown brands at outlet stores like Nordstrom Rack… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/23 11:49 PM |
| 9 | What are the signs that you are a plate? How to avoid being boxed into the player category ?Eh, I think there’s a big enough chunk between plate and actively pursuing marriage that’s worth differentiating. If you met a guy in his late teens/early 20s in a major metropolitan city, I would say the majority of them wouldn’t consider marriage until their late 20s. That doesn’t mean that they can’t be committed to a girlfriend they met when they were young or that she’s a plate just because he hasn’t talked about marriage yet. IMO, it goes plate -> FWB -> GF -> wife. Plates are just there f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/23 07:30 PM |
| 3 | Tips for dressing feminine but not polished and classy?Oooooh that skirt is so cute!! I can see why it has an effect on your man 🤪😉 He SAYS he wants modest clothing but I think he actually wants a little bit of spice mixed in. YES to this!!! Kind of a watch what they do not what they say situation. I added more conservative pieces to my wardrobe this year but I know for a fact he still likes my clingy jumpsuits and dresses 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/23 10:29 AM |
| 17 | Are my standards unrealistic?You asked how realistic it will be to find a man who fits all this or will be okay with this - I answered. If you want your definition of a “stoic and strong man”, who doesn’t want any femininity from his woman, all I can say is good luck. You might need it. But being a soft place to land has been one of the most foundational and uncontroversial strategies here at RPW since its inception. If that doesn’t resonate with you, I’m not sure this community is really the right fit for you. I don’t view… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 09:34 PM |
| 14 | Are my standards unrealistic?Eh, I just took her words at face value. She said she expects a man to have at least the same level of stoicism she has. But even if she meant it relatively, it doesn’t really change the fact that she’s unwilling to provide the things that men seek in women and female companionship. But yeah, that’s a first that I’ve heard something like “my partner must speak 50 or less words to me a day” lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 08:17 PM |
| 20 | Tips for dressing feminine but not polished and classy?I snagged my man dressing like a THOT 🙈🤷♀️ (by this sub’s standards anyways. In my location it is pretty standard and nothing over the top), and he is BY FAR the best man I’ve ever been with and IMO way out of my league. It was only after a few years that I noticed he started preferring more modest things on me a la Kate Middleton’s style, after things got more serious. In all honesty, I doubt I would have caught his eye if I initially dressed like her at 20. It’s a bit matronly and boring and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 08:07 PM |
| 31 | Are my standards unrealistic?Your first 4 points are fine and are all matters of proper vetting/compatibility. It’s your last two points that are a little…concerning. It is one thing to prefer a stoic man, but it is another to expect him to not even cry at his parent’s funeral just because that’s what’s sexy to you. That is wildly unrealistic, and frankly, severely lacking in empathy. Just because that’s your mode of operation doesn’t mean that it’s the normal, right, or healthy way of behaving for ALL people. You also ment… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 07:49 PM |
| 8 | Traditional TV Shows?Great British Bake Off is pretty wholesome and cute. And you get to see some really neat recipes! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 01:56 AM |
| 7 | Help with the “Art of Bad Excuse”As a HUGE proponent of the bad excuse and as someone who’s successfully used it, I like the way you think and I think all you need is a little fine-tuning. Your bad excuse doesn’t have to be SO well thought out. The “secret” of the Bad Excuse is that it allows you to signal your interest in a covert, feminine way. When it’s super thought-out and specific to the context of the situation (ex: “hey do you speak this language because I want to learn and am looking for a school!” or “do you have any … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/23 08:53 PM |
| 13 | Thoughts on “Passport bros”?Eh, I think the downfall of some Eastern relationships is the lack of sex and of passion. So many sexless, loveless, and respectless marriages between people who do not like each other but stay together for the kids or for convenience’s sake or because divorce is taboo and shameful. They are loyal to a fault to each other, but at the cost of happiness and true satisfaction. Seeing both sides (this vs. the Western hyperfixation on sex) made me want to find a healthy middle ground. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/23 05:30 AM |
| 73 | Thoughts on “Passport bros”?My honest opinion is that these men need to understand that AWALT is AWALT, no matter where in the world you find your women. Sure, feminism and leftism may have particularly affected Western women, but that doesn’t make Eastern women or Southern Hemisphere women worlds ahead in comparison - women are still women. Sure, they are raised with more traditional values which makes them more willing to take on traditional gender roles like taking on more of the household work, and are less obsessed wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/23 02:55 AM |
| 10 | Meeting boyfriend's toddler sonSo you’d rather your boyfriend lie…to his own kid…and still have the kid risk dealing with abandonment issues…just so that you could feel a little more secure about a relationship that BARELY just started? Girl, you need to be realistic here. That’s a pretty darn entitled thing to expect. If it’s this early on and you’re already feeling insecure, you either need to find a relationship that’s better suited for you, or you to need to improve yourself so that you’re someone who’s worth investing in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/23 12:17 AM |
| 5 | Am I dating out of my league?This site also gives women a lower “realism” score than men for the exact same results 😂 just another day of angry dudes trying to dunk on women for being *gasp* hypergamous! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 06:22 AM |
| 2 | Am I dating out of my league?There are more than a handful of ambitious home cooks with huge followings on (the hellscape that is) tiktok! If you’re whipping up stuff like apple foam for a home-cooked meal, I would definitely watch the hell out of that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 06:18 AM |
| 8 | Am I dating out of my league?Aw man, only 3 months for a perfect apple pie recipe?! Your love is expensive! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 06:11 AM |
| 8 | Am I dating out of my league?If you get the chance to, hang out in the kitchen with your mom or any older relative/neighbor and just help them cook. It takes the pressure off of you to perfectly execute a dish, but lets you be sous chef and watch someone much more experienced take the reins. You learn a lot of fundamentals about seasoning, technique, and timing this way. If you don’t have that opportunity, youtube is a wonderful place. They have a tutorial for EVERYTHING, and you can start extremely small and build your way… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 03:50 AM |
| 12 | Am I dating out of my league?Is the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach? I was JUST talking to my man about this the other day. We landed on this topic and I asked him if he would still be with me if I just didn’t know how to cook whatsoever. He told me that if I couldn’t cook, we would just order out and he would be perfectly fine with that. But although it wasn’t mandatory for his woman to know how to cook, and that he was perfectly capable of feeding himself before me, it was a huuuuuuuuuuuuge bonus, and likely w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 03:40 AM |
| 5 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreGreat points - thanks for the thoughtful discussion! I agree that Christianity does revolve a lot around sacrifice, but I would argue that Christianity, or at least Catholicism, which is what I grew up with, is more rooted in faith and salvation. God sacrificed his son for our sake and for our sins. He does not expect the rest of us to have to sacrifice our lives again on the cross, because Christians have faith that God will protect them, if not here then in heaven, thanks to the sacrifice that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 05:52 PM |
| 7 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreAgain, it’s great if you think things should be a certain way to be right. You can expect people to do everything it takes to meet your bar of “basic human decency” all you want. But many people don’t think that is what defines basic human decency. We are an amoral community for a reason: because “do this thing because it’s the right thing to do” is for the most part an ineffective strategy to get people to actually do what you want them to do. So what happens is you end up sitting there, shakin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 05:38 AM |
| 10 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreLol, tell me you’ve never experienced real masculinity without telling me… 🫣 Lol aaaaand now we’ve resorted to shaming tactics. Wow, what a lovely feminine woman! Aren’t you just the type of peach that the men refuse to protect these days? The reason why I don’t need to rely on strange men to be my unpaid bodyguards is because I already have a man who has chosen to protect me. Why in the world would I need to outsource when I have the best at home? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 03:09 AM |
| 16 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreLol, I’d rather have an alive son I was ashamed of than a dead one who needed an ego boost for masculinity’s sake, but that’s just me 🤷♀️ And to your edit: I think the VAST majority of men have protective instincts for women, but we are not just animals with instincts but humans with critical thinking. A lot of men have thought about it, and decided the juice wasn’t worth the squeeze, at least for strangers who they owe nothing to, and have no responsibility for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 02:58 AM |
| 6 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreI agree. I think the “protection days” probably ended around the 70s and 80s, and people have mostly kept to themselves since then - once we stopped feeling the need to constantly chaperone our women on all occasions. It’s entitled, but more importantly unproductive and unsafe for US, to rely on strangers to protect us simply because they’re men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 02:54 AM |
| 5 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreYes, which is why I mentioned in my original comment that I don’t necessarily think going back to the tradcon days the way things used to be is the solution either. Women were dissatisfied enough to try to topple the entire system, and, as Whisper used to say, the men “in charge” were so sex-starved and desperate that they let the women do it, all for the unanswered promise of “full bush free love snatch” (his words, lol). But that still doesn’t answer the question: what incentivizes men to prot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 02:49 AM |
| 24 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreI agree that it is a feedback loop that is just getting worse and worse. Both women and men are absolutely becoming less of what they used to be. However, I don’t know why it’s reasonable to expect men to take responsibility for all women as a whole in this day and age. Responsibility for their wives, daughters, families, and (to a lesser extent) friends? Sure. But for women, or as the left likes to call it, people with vaginas, as a whole? I think it is an unfair expectation. Making people do t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 02:27 AM |
| 7 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreMen are victims of violent crime more than women are. But it doesn’t even register to us that we have to protect them from that in the first place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 02:08 AM |
| 10 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreThis is the thing. There were 2 main reasons men put their lives on the line to protect women: 1) they saw themselves as responsible for those women (which has been done away with by feminism and equality), and 2) the appreciation (and ego boost) men got for choosing to be a hero, from women and from society in general. Now it’s either “I’d rather rescue myself” or, as the commenter so aptly put it above, “you want a reward for helping someone in danger?” It’s either hyper-independence or entitl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 01:59 AM |
| 16 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreIf someone is being disturbed, catcalled, etc. then everyone that can should speak out or protect them. “Should” really just means “I want”. And it’s great that you want that to happen! But it doesn’t really mean anything to just want it - how exactly are you, or anyone for that matter, going to incentivize men as a whole to protect women from being disturbed or catcalled? In the past, men did it because there was a net gain from protecting (but also supervising and chaperoning) women for those … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 01:50 AM |
| 157 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreAn unintended consequence of equality is that we lose our “card” as the fairer sex. The fight to convince society that women are mentally and intellectually equal to men (and in the woke-left, even physically equal with the constant messaging of women defeating men in sports and hand-to-hand combat in modern Hollywood movies) has convinced many men to stop caring so much to protect women. We are just like them and more, the women said! A lot of men concluded that if so, there’s no need to contin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 12:04 AM |
| 2 | What to do if you meet the requirements of “alpha widow”This is awesome. OP, this is about the best resource you have if you’re feeling like an alpha widow (you are not, but you need work to get yourself out of that mindset). | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/23 11:02 PM |
| 4 | How did your attraction change on birth control vs off birth control?This was EXACTLY it for me as a shy wallflower type when I was younger! I was attracted to that kind of guy because they made me feel safe for sure. I also ended up having crushes on multiple guys in high school who turned out to be gay, sooooo…. u/Pansy9000 her response pretty much captures why younger girls are attracted to these pretty-like-a-girl kpop idols! Although they aren’t ALWAYS effeminate, I was a BIG TVXQ fan from the 2000s and they were definitely a little more masculine in their l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/23 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Am I incable of loving as a women like red pill saysYeah you’re right which is why I really don’t love many of the new new wave manosphere creators. They don’t compare to the OGs in terms of depth and understanding at all | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/23 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Am I incable of loving as a women like red pill saysI don’t really see how he is angry or that he wished that men loved like we do. My understanding is that he recognizes that the way a woman loves is correlated to her hypergamy (which is opportunistic by nature), and that the female version of love is what society has taken to define love for EVERYONE, which I find pretty true. Whereas men don’t love like women because they are less hypergamous and much more driven by their testosterone and sex drive than women are. I can’t find the place where … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/23 05:26 PM |
| 18 | How did your attraction change on birth control vs off birth control?This happened to me once I passed 18/19 haha! I used to LOVE the most effeminate looking member of kpop bands, and then I blinked a few times in college and all of a sudden I was drawn to chest hair, porn staches, and big arms and shoulders 😂 no birth control though during that time though, just growing up I guess! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/23 01:54 AM |
| 4 | did i mess up by giving out my number in this manner?+1 star for this breakdown u/LivelyLychee! The art of seduction is absolutely a tool in our RPW arsenal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/23 07:00 PM |
| 3 | did i mess up by giving out my number in this manner?The “dropping of the handkerchief” has been linked with a signaling of romantic interest by the woman from the 1600s to 1800s. Not sure if the “good ol’ days” she’s talking about takes that into consideration. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/23 06:58 PM |
| 12 | did i mess up by giving out my number in this manner?Jesus. Talk about overreaction. Men don’t respect women who *gasp* show interest in them?! A classic piece of Girl Game that’s been in the RPW sidebar/wiki for ages is The Art of the Bad Excuse. It shows women how to open the door for potential romantic interaction with men of their choosing (aka the men with high SMV and RMV) in a feminine way. Being able to approach men as a feminine woman does not mean making an overt, masculine pass at a guy you’re attracted to and asking him on the date. In… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/23 09:23 AM |
| 5 | Labelling men and yourself as RP in everyday lifeIn all the years that I’ve known my man, I don’t think the question of whether or not we’re red pilled has ever come up once lol. We share a lot of views and I often bring him some discussion topics that I come across here, and his conclusions are pretty RP in nature, but I don’t think he even knows what RP is and is more of just a “natural”. He would probably tease me if he found out just how much active effort I’ve put into being an RPW 😂 a magician never reveals her secrets after all! All tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/23 09:12 AM |
| 3 | how do you know if you are dating in your league or out of it?Yes absolutely! Although I would say it is her combined SMV + RMV, because living where I live, I know quite a few models and it is SHOCKING how many of them cannot keep a man and get a relationship. These are women who are ethereally beautiful with banging bodies maintained by thousands of dollars of pilates classes, beauty treatments, and cosmetic enhancements (they are investing in their livelihoods after all). Some of these perfect-looking women still get stuck in the ONS/hookups/FWB box and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/23 02:31 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend wants me to dress sexier and less modestNot necessarily. Men don’t want to be with the town bicycle, or women who dress like they’re the town bicycle, but they also want to be with women who know how to present themselves as attractive, feminine, and desirable. Who WOULDN’T want the girl who is coveted by everyone? You say that you don’t even know elderly women who dress like you, as a 22 year old. That is…not good. If anything, you are diminishing your virtue (your youth, your beauty, your femininity) and it also reflects badly on hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/23 02:21 PM |
| 4 | Do people in traditional marriages feel more content, but bored, compared to feministic marriages where there's more drama?You are missing the point. Do happy people have to pay for an extra space so they can escape their life partner? Do happy people entertain misery? Do you really think that a man who is smart and consistent enough to lead his own company just happens to be “inconsistent and irrational” when it comes to love and love only? The reason why he is like this is because it’s a coping mechanism. Rather than accept that his life choices have made him miserable, he chooses cognitive dissonance so that he h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/23 03:29 PM |
| 32 | how do you know if you are dating in your league or out of it?It’s useless to fixate so much on the details of this (IRL, it doesn’t really matter if a person with SMV/RMV 7.5 dates someone with a 6.75 and it’s too subjective anyways). It only becomes an issue if you are SIGNIFICANTLY overvaluing or undervaluing yourself. For me personally, I am attracted to very few men and it takes a lot for me to want someone enough to be my partner, so dating under my league was never an issue. However, men who are out of my league are those who I can’t get a relations… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/23 03:04 AM |
| 8 | Slightly confusedThe sidebar/wiki is where all the theory and “red pills” are. The day-to-day posts are mostly advice or field reports. This is every theory post deemed “sidebar material” by the mods, and are an excellent resource and toolbox for women who want to learn more RPW strategies. Re: sex: the way you say it makes it sound like RPW encourages women to just be holes for their husband’s enjoyment. That’s insane. It is not a blue pill that sex should be enjoyable every time - that’s crazy to think otherwi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/23 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?The man… who has several posts in the TRP sidebar… and who wrote a big chunk of the core theory… has a fundamental misunderstanding of TRP? Coming from a guy who is still in college, and isn’t older, married, or a long-time expert of TRP per the rules of this sub? I hope you can understand why I think you are out of your depth here. You are misunderstanding him. He’s SAYING exactly that: women are with jerks more often than not because they have masculine traits that women love. It doesn’t MATTE… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/23 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?Sure, but u/VasiliyZaitzev is not one of them. I think he’s one of the few men that the mods actively encouraged to participate here, because he understands both RP theory and how to communicate to women in a way that they will actively listen. He’s a major plus for the sub because his advice is actionable and based in an expert-level understanding of the theory. I don’t really see how he was shitting on women at all. He just realized that the kind of men that women are often willing to have NSA… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/23 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?Your lovely and sexy relationship with your hubby is EXACTLY what I’m talking about! Sometimes you meet the right man who just lights you on fire and makes you break all of your rules. The goal for us is to be such a standout woman that he breaks all his rules for us as well. When you focus too much on “right on paper” and following everything in the proper order, you often end up with perfect men who just don’t make you FEEL that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/23 08:36 AM |
| 3 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?I agree with you, although I am a weirdo who also thinks that if you play your cards right, you can still get commitment even if you didn’t obtain it prior to having sex with someone (and potentially secure a man with a higher SMV/RMV that way.) Most ladies here are more conservative with their approach, which is just as if not more valid. I think most here are okay with pre-marital sex, and do still want the ability to be able to choose someone we are actually attracted to and not just who woul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/23 03:02 AM |
| 2 | RP men: "I want to be hookup material, not boyfriend material" - Ladies, what is your opinion on men who expect sex on the first date to "prove" that you genuinely find him sexually attractive?From a woman’s standpoint, I feel that it’s important not to sleep with a man IMMEDIATELY not out of fear that he’ll think you’re easy, but because you haven’t had enough time to show him that he can value you for more than sex, aka that you’re wifey material. You’re risking that he’s not sufficiently bonded to you to want to stick around for more after sex. You also haven’t done anything to invoke his reciprocity or investment that early on. IMO, men who judge women very harshly for sleeping wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/23 02:53 AM |
| 4 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?I actually think that the person who’s crying misogyny from one of the most helpful men here is a man. More like white-knight who sugar-coats on purpose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/23 12:01 AM |
| 3 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?In a society where more women are sexually liberated, men will use it as an opportunity because they’re sexual beings, it’s a base desire. That’s fine. If anything, it probably helps a lot in vetting because there’s less pressure on men to mislead you on their intentions if all they’re looking for is to get laid. Since the dawn of time, men have always looked for this, but in the past maybe set an engagement so they could sleep with a girlfriend at 16, only to break it off because he had no real… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/23 06:18 PM |
| 7 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?The thing is, I don’t think setting up that kind of society-wide expectation in women (that two years means a ring) would even be that beneficial or feasible at this stage. Women can expect whatever we want, but if the men don’t agree to it, we’re basically just shouting into the void. The reason why “sex on the third date” became such a cultural phenomenon was because BOTH genders wanted it. The women wanted it because the feminists convinced them that sexual liberation is a good thing that wou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/23 06:06 PM |
| 16 | Ideas on what it takes to change the dating culture?Eh, I think all date/time related advice for dating is really simplistic and can’t be effective for the general population. “Sleep with him on the third date” is especially foolish for reasons most of the women on this sub already know, but I think rules like “no sex until 90 days have passed” or “2 years means a ring” isn’t that helpful either. When you set artificial and arbitrary limits on a relationship like that, you are basically telling the man you are with that it’s not HIM that you want… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/23 10:57 AM |
| 3 | Christian, exhausted trad wifeThat’s all fine and good that you do that, but how is this actionable advice for OP? Telling her what her husband should do is ultimately unhelpful because OP can’t just change her husband. Unless you have a way to help her communicate this to her husband, in a persuasive way that helps him want to do these things, advice likes this just makes OP resent her husband without giving her the key to change her situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/23 10:24 PM |
| 5 | What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of?I wrote a post going in depth in this, but men, just like women who want to have sex and procreate with unreliable but sexy alpha men AND find beta men who will protect and provide for them to settle down with, evolutionarily have a dual mating strategy - they both want to sow their wild oats AND choose one or a few select women over their lifetimes to protect and raise children with. How can one men protect and feed a hyperbolic number of women and enfants? I don’t buy it. They only want to pro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/23 10:45 AM |
| 6 | What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of?This is more or less what I saw when I was still in college and what I see amongst my single friends nowadays, both of which were/are in major metropolitan US cities. I don’t think many men still expect women to be virgins anymore, but they definitely treat women who are openly promiscuous (to the point where it’s known in the social circle that she gets around and hooks up a lot) differently than how they treat women who are more tame (a few long-term boyfriends kinda thing). Whereas guys who c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/23 06:51 PM |
| 18 | What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of?I agree with this take. I was talking to a guy friend from college and asked him what value he places on education in women, as a single and high earning young man in today’s dating scene (some market research for the ladies here!). He said it’s like a resume on a job application: the vast majority of men don’t REALLY care where you went to college and understand that your degree and what you learned in college likely has nothing to do with your success in the field (or in a relationship). Howev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/23 05:10 PM |
| 19 | What are some Red Pill talking points you're skeptical of?I think that it is instinctual and maybe evolutionarily wired for men to want to have multiple partners at once, but I don’t think it’s “good” or productive for the vast majority of relationships. It is hard enough to get a relationship to work with just two people. Imagine all the unknowns that are introduced when you open that Pandora’s box. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/23 04:51 PM |
| 82 | What do you guys think of Pearl Davis on YouTube?Our own moderator u/Pearlsandstilettos (no correlation, and our Pearl predates her by over half a decade in terms of contributions to the RPW community) had to make a post clarifying why these youtubers like JustPearlyThings are ultimately unproductive. They don’t REALLY help women get happy and fulfilling male-led relationships by way of self-improvement, but rather create outrage content that either divides men and women for views, or at the very least they do not equip their listeners with th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/23 12:44 AM |
| 11 | Not quite sure what else I can do to prove my worthYou guys are fundamentally incompatible. He is clearly bothered by your past (which he is allowed to be), you cannot change your past and have moved on in terms of values, beliefs and goals (which you are allowed to do). There is nothing you can do to fix it and he will not just magically get over it even if he has strong feelings for you. This relationship will not work. I think you know that deep down. However, I am seeing some unproductive advice in this thread. I HATE the idea of “saving wif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 06:01 AM |
| 21 | the lack of masculinity in my partnerI would personally see it as a good sign that he has identified to problem and is working to improve it. Agreed. We get plenty of women here who have issues with their husbands and partners not being masculine enough. There is almost always a suggestion for the guy to go get his T levels checked, because it is a viable solution. If he’s already working to fix it, he’s already taking charge of his own life in a way a lot don’t. Also, u/itsokman111, you are free to want whatever you want in a part… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 03:33 PM |
| 5 | Bf doesn’t let me go out?Look, I trust the locks on my Porsche, but I don’t park it in bad neighborhoods. If something happened to one of my girls and I wasn’t there to protect her, I would feel awful abt it. When I was stupid and in my early twenties and also working in the music industry, I LOVED to go to concerts alone. Not with friends like a sensible lady because I thought they distracted me from eNjOyInG tHe MuSiC cOmPlEtElY, alone. At first it was great and I felt happy and free-spirited and spontaneous (my paren… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/23 08:19 PM |
| 4 | He Hasn't said I Love YouYeah, I think a lot of women think putting up certain walls and barriers will be a good protective measure in case they get hurt. I don’t think they realize that sometimes those walls become unnecessary obstacles for their journey in finding love and satisfaction too. When you let your walls down for a man (that has already shown you he cares for you), you make him want to take up post and be the one to protect you and love you instead. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 07:42 AM |
| 3 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually close to 50/50Haha, like that one time I thought I invented dates with goat cheese… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 07:14 AM |
| 2 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually close to 50/50That’s true, I think I’m biased because I basically only interact with RP men who have somehow passed RPW’s strict criteria for male participation 😂 pretty sure I would HATE dealing with anger phasers lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 07:13 AM |
| 3 | He Hasn't said I Love YouI don’t believe that is what I said if a man is ready to say it he’ll say it and by making the first move you can almost guarantee disappointment I agree with you on not wasting time on someone who is not invested in you. But by not telling them where you stand, and waiting around for them to say it first, is that not wasting time in limbo where you know how you feel but don’t know how they feel? And you just continue on having the relationship with no development with nothing actionable you can… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 02:30 AM |
| 4 | He Hasn't said I Love YouYeah, I can understand if something else works for you. I just don’t think advice in absolutes like “x behavior guarantees y” is very productive, and wanted to counter that. It is important not to be too desperate or come on too strong, but this is usually an issue when a woman says I love you in the first few weeks-a month, MAYBE 2 months (and there’s often a lot of wiggle room) and ends up look ling like a stage 5 clinger. OP said it half a year into her relationship with her boyfriend. It isn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 02:07 AM |
| 2 | He Hasn't said I Love YouI think that’s a common misconception. WOMEN like it when men take charge with the progression of the relationship, the chase, etc. Men do it because women like it. One of the best RP blogs back in the day, The Rules Revisited, highlighted something important: women incorrectly think that men want elusive and “hard to get” women because they want elusive and hard to get men themselves and confuse the difference between the genders’ desires. I’m not saying that women should go out of their way to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 12:35 AM |
| 3 | He Hasn't said I Love Youby making that first move you can almost guarantee disappointment. How is that a guarantee? I said it first, and then my man said it after and we cuddled and giggled like excited school children for the rest of the day. One of my fondest memories, and it was one of the signs of vulnerability on my end that blossomed our relationship into what it is today. It will only be a disappointment if he doesn’t feel the same way. But if he does, it’s a treat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 12:20 AM |
| 3 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually close to 50/50Lotta guys at TRP first arrive while bitching about how women are mean/unfair/unavailable/abusive/have all the power, without realizing their own. Lotta feminists think the exact same thing, that men are mean/unfair/unavailable/abusive/have all the power (THE PATRIARCHYYYY), without realizing their own as well. The only difference is I think some (definitely not all) of the TRP anger-phasers end up becoming benevolent misogynists (which to the surprise of no one is who women are the most attract… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 12:16 AM |
| 19 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually close to 50/50Right? Isn’t this like the most fundamental theory of the red pill? What do they mean “change my view” lol most people here acknowledge that already 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 12:07 AM |
| 32 | My boyfriend is insecure about one of my past sex partnersThis seems like one of those things that just mean you two are incompatible with each other. Perhaps you need to have a talk with him, and let him know that as much as you understand that it bothers him, you cannot change your past and that if he cannot accept it, then maybe you two aren’t right for each other. Because while he is entitled to have whatever preferences about his partner’s sexual history as he wants, it is unproductive for him to hold something you cannot change over your head whi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/23 04:41 PM |
| 9 | What is the role spiritually in a RP relationship for the woman?it seems to not even know what i mean by that Jesus. Condescending much? “Ah yes, let me not bother to look into any of the sidebar and wiki that breaks this stuff down for anyone and everyone who wants to know, and let me just assume that all the women here are built to be mindless Stepford wives who can’t even comprehend what I’m saying.” I don’t think there’s a single piece of theory or advice here that tells women they aren’t supposed to have intellectual or philosophical, or god forbid, INT… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/23 07:40 AM |
| 7 | Life with a lawyer husband?u/girlwithasidecar had a nice way of summing it up. Instead of immediately saying “No! Why?!” To any and all of his ideas, the goal is to find a man you trust enough to say “Okay, why?” Being an RPW does not mean never questioning his ideas. It does not mean never voicing your concerns if you have them (you are actually SUPPOSED to bring your Captain your problem, just not the solution in order to be a good First Mate). Check out her post on submission if you want more than a surface-level, blac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/23 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Life with a lawyer husband?Agreed! The only part that we can really help her here with is whether or not whatever work-life balance a lawyer (of whatever practice her bf is in) aligns with her own goals re: family and time together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/23 08:10 PM |
| 9 | Life with a lawyer husband?Their point is that if you don’t trust your man and his decision-making now 4 years into your relationship, there are deeper issues here that will make a typical male-led RPW kind of relationship difficult. If you don’t trust his decision-making, what exactly makes you think this is the right man to have kids with? This could either be 1) a problem on your end with submission and respect, 2) a problem on his end with questionable decision-making, or 3) both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/23 08:08 PM |
| 3 | Go to recipes? Resources for basic dinners?I like Bon Appetit a lot although you now need a subscription for their website :/ Their Youtube channel has a lot of great free recipes and fun food series though. I really like their “6 Pro Chefs Make…” series where they have some general ingredient or dish (eggs, pasta, Thanksgiving sides, etc) and show you what a pro chef would do with it. Some of it is really nice, others is maybe a bit out of my wheelhouse but introduces me to ingredients or techniques I wouldn’t have thought to use myself… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/23 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Where do meet men outside of OLD(dating apps) for introverts?Yeah, I think it’s just one of those AWALT things. It’s inefficient as hell for society and probably not logical, but you can’t really negotiate desire or evolutionary coding. You either improve yourself until you can get those picky men, relocate to an area where top 20% men are not as picky, or accept the reality of your circumstances and be realistic. I think a mix of as much self improvement as you can possibly achieve and a dose of realism (there are not enough single billionaire playboy do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/23 06:06 AM |
| 2 | Needed of advice!!You can be religious and not live together, but still make the conscious choice to live in the same city. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/23 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Where do meet men outside of OLD(dating apps) for introverts?Then, any socially awkward quirkiness, will undoubtably be forgiven. You’d be surprised! Men who are popular are kinda picky 😂 like sure, she is the type to get dozens or even hundreds of dms from normal guys, but the guys she wanted pre-SF (beautiful women are usually hypergamous after all) were all kinda weirded out by her, at least in the context of anything more serious than a hookup. I was similarly socially awkward (but instead of weirdly bold, I was just incredibly shy and couldn’t even m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/23 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Where do meet men outside of OLD(dating apps) for introverts?What was the first thing? 😂 She is quite socially awkward and “quirky” herself. The type of girl to dress different than the norm and who likes to walk up to a guys, say “hi I find you physically attractive” with a complete straight face, and then when the guy gives her a funny look, she just slowly backs away 😅 She’s a beautiful lady (and kind of a niche internet micro celebrity with her fair share of online simps so clearly there’s an audience for her SOMEWHERE) but her demeanor meant she stru… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/23 03:42 AM |
| 2 | Where do meet men outside of OLD(dating apps) for introverts?My friend moved to San Fransisco and said that there, she dates guys out of her league and gets so much more male attention compared to what she got in our hometown because the gender ratio is so skewed. Rock-climbing six figure tech bro types. But I remember u/whisper saying something about dating engineers and CS majors as a woman: the odds are good, but the goods are odd 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/23 01:38 AM |
| 5 | Husband criticizes my cooking :(It seems like this is a habit that runs deep with him then. It’s a good sign that he apologized for it and made an effort to be better. He just regressed eventually because it seems like this behavior/attitude is ingrained DEEP. You may need to remind him, which may not be fun but it isn’t easy to help someone unlearn bad habits. Yes, do not hide your feelings girl! A lot of people hear “STFU” here and think that it means do not raise any concerns EVER to be a good partner. It isn’t that at all … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 03:13 PM |
| 6 | Husband criticizes my cooking :(Taking her for granted, sure. Being an asshole who makes his wife cry and feel unappreciated? Uh huh. But I think you’re jumping to DIRE conclusions here that we don’t have proof for. Those other stories are not necessarily what’s happening here. Some people are just shitty with gratitude, inconsiderate, and have entitled attitudes. That is FAR more common (and easier to address and fix) than him consciously masterminding a malicious tactic to control her and ruin her self-esteem to make her ben… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 01:55 PM |
| 2 | How do you guide your man?Yes, if he actually wants to do it and I’m not the one dragging him there. Also only if we have both already seriously invested in each other (but a direct problem in this hypothetical dilemma is that he isn’t investing in me) and have been in a sufficiently long LTR. But to be honest, if the problems are this bad and we aren’t even married yet, I would wonder if it’s actually worth it or salvageable. The early years of a relationship are supposed to be the smoothest sailing. No kids, no house p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 01:43 PM |
| 1 | How do you guide your man?I would reconsider the entire relationship and whether or not it actually has a future. Ideally I would not get to this place by using Incremental Reciprocation from day 1, but let’s say I don’t and this is where I find myself. I would ask him (and myself) the hard to ask questions and most likely end the relationship unless I saw serious change. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Teased for femininity?Game plan is what we’re here to help you with! Good luck with everything :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 06:52 AM |
| 27 | Husband criticizes my cooking :(What happened when you told him how it hurts you and makes you feel? I agree with u/Jenneapolis: you should tell him in the moment that he says something mean about your cooking that it hurts you. You say it’s brought you to tears a few times - I would not try to hide this if it hurts you that much. Sometimes seeing their woman tear up is the reality check that men need to see that their words have an impact. No need to start blubbering and wailing of course, but show him what effect his words h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 06:37 AM |
| 2 | Teased for femininity?Haha thank you! Your stamp of approval means a lot bc I probably only have a quarter of the life and relationship experience you do! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 01:59 AM |
| 1 | How do you guide your man?I’m not the author of that post - u/fleetingwish, a LONG-time EC here, was, so maybe she can better explain her logic for that part. In my interpretation of that post, it is because a gift is not something to be expected. The best part about a gift isn’t the thing you receive itself, but the fact that the person who gave it to you cared enough about you to 1) WANT to do something to make you happy, 2) research what you like, and 3) go out of their way to get it or to put it together. However, wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/22 01:58 AM |
| 9 | Teased for femininity?You should definitely talk to him about it. This is a small issue, so it’s best to nip it in the bud before it becomes a bigger problem. Be vulnerable about it and just tell him that you feel hurt when he teases you for knitting or putting on makeup. Let him know that those things make you feel in touch with your femininity, and that it meant so much to you when he cherished your femininity earlier. No need to point fingers or to call him out - I would focus more on “I feel” statements. Then lis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/22 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Comfiest work out leggings?Ooh, you’re right that they last longer and are better constructed! I just meant that they don’t feel all that different on the body to me. Once I put any pair of leggings on, it’s like I forget I’m wearing pants 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/22 12:44 AM |
| 3 | Comfiest work out leggings?Honestly, I never really felt the difference between expensive leggings and affordable leggings and athleisure in general. It’s LEGGINGS, they are all comfortable. I have a set (matching top and leggings) from Banana Republic that I got on sale for like $40, and I have Lululemon and Alo Yoga stuff that is a lot more expensive but feels pretty similar comfort-wise. The Align pair from Lulu feels “buttery soft” to the touch, so if you’re looking for softness that’s a food one but it’s not necessar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/22 03:26 AM |
| 18 | How do women cope with Red Pill?I agree with you that the wall isn’t THAT big of a deal as TRP makes it out to be if you take good care of yourself. However, a lot of women (and people in general) don’t, and years of partying, unhealthy diet, and bad lifestyle choices tends to start catching up with you around 30. Your career and family life also tends to ramp up around then, and a lot of women have less time to dedicate to looking good than they used to as a single college student. So from a man’s perspective, in general it m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/22 10:22 PM |
| 15 | How to navigate dating as an average woman?For a man to be attracted to me he must obviously have low standards. You are falsely equating men’s sexual/romantic strategy with women’s sexual/romantic strategy. Remember, a lot of the evolutionary biology that the red pill is based on revolves around the fact that eggs are expensive, but sperm is cheap. For women, we generally all have an innate drive to be hypergamous and strive to get the best man in the room, because we have a VERY limited number of eggs and our wellbeing (and our childre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/22 01:14 PM |
| 1 | What are your favorite places to buy candles?Le Labo makes great candles if you like their fragrance line! Tbh, a lot of niche or luxury perfume houses have nice candles: Tom Ford, Guerlain, Atelier Cologne, Maison Margiela, Byredo, Aesop… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/22 07:29 AM |
| 2 | Will a man not want to marry me for being the other woman?Why do you think it is worse? As far as I’m concerned, the man is the one who is betraying his wife and life partner. The other woman doesn’t really owe the wife anything because she has no relationship with the wife. Now if she and the wife were friends… that’s a completely different story. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/22 02:36 AM |
| 3 | A Cautionary Tale from an Ex RPWThank you for sharing. My heart breaks for you and I’m glad this can serve as a reminder that it’s important to remember that RPW is useful for what it is, but we shouldn’t be building our whole identities around being someone’s woman. That makes us purposefully ignore things we shouldn’t in hopes of staying with someone we should definitely not be with. I hope you continue to heal and find happiness and peace! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/22 05:50 PM |
| 4 | Early stages of texting with a guy - ConfusionAgreed. It was when I stopped taking things SO seriously that I actually found real connections. I know indifference game is something that’s much more prevalent and useful on the male side of the red pills, but having just a little indifference when you’re a single woman helps you enjoy yourself more. Men love women who don’t take themselves too seriously, as Laura Doyle calls them, Goddesses of Fun and Light. Vulnerability (at the appropriate time) is hot, anxiety and clinginess is not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/22 12:45 AM |
| 5 | Struggling with communicationNo one owes you super-duper-special treatment just because you’re not like a “modern woman”. You sound a bit like “I’m feminine, so I am ENTITLED to this and that” - no. Femininity is YOUR tool to get what you want, not someone else’s burden and obligation. Beautifully said! This sentiment is something I see a lot in this space and other “femininity” spaces. It often makes me think: if you have to insist that you are feminine and that you are a HVW and that you deserve the world, how true is it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/22 08:04 PM |
| 21 | Struggling with communicationwe’ve been dating a couple weeks now I use the stfu method No. This is wrong. STFU is for when you are in a long term relationship, and you do it to stop yourself from picking unnecessary fights over inconsequential things when you are in a bad mood or to not say something you know you’re gonna regret later because you are certain you chose an stand-up man that you’ve vetted carefully for already. It is NOT for women who have just started dating their boyfriends, and who should still be vetting … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/22 12:36 PM |
| 20 | Am I a chameleon if I get my tattoos removed?And? RPW is about becoming the best version of yourself to get the desired results. If she needs to change her appearance to do so, so what? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/22 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Trauma, high libido, insecurity questionCouldn’t agree more! I don’t blame them for their frustration, and I also don’t blame them from drawing their own conclusions as a protective measure. I just personally don’t see that kind of strategy working in my own experience and in the years that I’ve observed this community. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/22 06:48 AM |
| 4 | Trauma, high libido, insecurity questionAs to her second argument, that: Having less of it makes sex with you more valuable and enjoyable for him I think that artificially trying to withhold sex as a strategy to make men want you more or to get what you want in a relationship is one of the worst things you could do, point blank. It’s not bad advice because it makes you a bad person (I couldn’t care less about that) - it’s bad advice because it won’t work and will ruin your relationship dynamic with your man. I’ve touched upon this bef… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 10:18 AM |
| 8 | Trauma, high libido, insecurity questionOh god, prepare yourself for a long, multi-part response 😂 I’m also curious what u/girlwithasidecar thinks about this! HARD disagree from me on most of her points. I don’t know who she is talking about when she says: women don’t want sex, they are actually seeking validation But it certainly doesn’t apply to me, and I suspect it doesn’t apply to many other women as well. I’ve had a rather high libido from basically puberty onwards, and I did not have any form of CPTSD and had a pretty standard h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 10:17 AM |
| 7 | How can I go about talking to a man I like who goes to a dance class I go to?The Art of the Bad Excuse is the RPW gold standard of how to get a man’s attention in a feminine but effective way. It allows you to drop the handkerchief and initiate an interaction with a man in a way that makes him think he was the initiator. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/22 07:24 PM |
| 3 | How do you guide your man?I am definitely stealing this to sound smart to my friends 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 06:49 PM |
| 3 | How do you guide your man?Yeah, I think the way it is phrased can definitely give some of the women here pause. But I just liked the idea of being vocal with your appreciation and admiration of your man as a conscious strategy because it was something I had to learn myself in order to have better relationships. I think that’s why it resonated with me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 06:49 PM |
| 4 | Guy asked if I was going to come to work the next day and said “it will be mad if you do “You always seemed so American to me 🤯 | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 06:45 PM |
| 5 | How do you guide your man?I see what you’re saying, but I think there is a big overlap between the things we typically want or ask (or want to ask) our men to do, and the things that constitute a happy and fulfilling relationship where he takes care of you! For example, my man was DEFINITELY not the gushy type, and when we first met, he was probably the last person I’d expect to show his love through words of affirmation. They’re not at the top of my love languages, but I, like a lot of other women, enjoy when our partne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 07:20 AM |
| 7 | Pandora's box in strangersOh, so you’re all talk when it comes to bringing someone down and quick to condescend to OP, but when you were suggested to help them instead since you think you’re so qualified as a writer, you’d rather someone else do the work for you. That pretty much confirms your intentions here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 04:01 AM |
| 10 | Pandora's box in strangersbut i got a perfect score on my sat writing exam and i will tell you I remember back when I was in my 3rd year of college, I decided to give this freshman who asked me out a chance even though I normally don’t date younger guys. On that first date, he asked me what my SAT score was, and was VERY excited to share what he thought were his impressive scores with me. Along with some other tells, that solidified for me why I don’t date younger men. This is not the flex that you think it is. It either… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 02:47 AM |
| 3 | How do you guide your man?Check my other reply to you, I linked to the sidebar and wiki and that has plenty of amazing links. For this topic in particular, I wrote a post that took a deep dive into Incremental Reciprocation, which is what I believe to be the best way to inspire a man to invest and commit in you. But it’s not even my idea: I got it from a post from u/girlwithabike, who got it from a conversation she had years ago with another RPW EC, who I’m sure was inspired by someone else’s ideas here. That’s what I lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/22 04:32 AM |
| 9 | How do you guide your man?I have a habit of linking to a lot of RPW posts so feel free to check my past comments if that’s what you’re looking for. But the RPW wiki and sidebar is where I get it all from, plus a lot more. It is a curated list of excellent RPW theory that can help you get a good understanding of all the tools in the toolbox lol. And you may say you turned a eye to people who charge for RP content, if you made a course or a one on one’s, I’ll definitely invest. I will NEVER charge people for a course or on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/22 04:26 AM |
| 21 | How do you guide your man?I don’t really agree with some of the commenters that this idea is manipulative or selfish. But even if it is, so what? We aren’t here to moralize, or even to be “good” women, whatever the heck that means. To me, the best thing about RPW is that it gives me a toolbox to make men WANT to protect, love, provide for, and cherish me. If the end result means both people are happy and get what they want out of the relationship, then I don’t care if it is manipulative or selfish. Some of my favorite po… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/22 03:09 AM |
| 53 | Lost in my life and relationshipThis relationship was doomed from the start. You knew that you were incompatible VERY early on in the relationship when you had to lie and told him a smaller number than your real N-count and he already struggled with it. Not to mention that he is black-pilled - I don’t know why anyone would EVER try to be with someone who is. Fast forward and unsurprisingly he is still struggling with it AND knows that you lied about it. I don’t think this relationship is salvageable, and you know that. He will… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/22 08:20 PM |
| 6 | Do all men lack sexual boundaries?but upon discovering RPW took a back seat and tried more “submissive” behavior with men and the result is just disgusting What results? The ONE guy who you met and only interacted with online and had phone sex with? Have you actually applied any RPW strategies to men in real life? Have you applied any RPW vetting strategies to find men who you actually deem respectable, desirable, and worthy of being a leader? If you are going to let one bad experience with one weird guy from online that YOU cho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/22 11:00 PM |
| 3 | My mother is annoying, and it's like looking in a mirror.I find yours interesting too, and I’m glad we are able to have a productive and civil discussion about this topic! If so, what can the wife do instead of nagging? I think that’s absolutely the approach to take. You have to examine all of your potential tools to fix certain problems, and figure out the best way to go about it. Nagging is usually a flawed solution, and symptom and a correlation to a bigger problem in the relationship. Usually, the main issue at play is that the woman feels inadequ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/22 08:28 PM |
| 2 | My mother is annoying, and it's like looking in a mirror.I guess it is hard for me to imagine a man who would be devoted to a woman who makes him miserable. OP’s post made me think there must be something more to the marriage. An important lesson that I’ve learned here is that men are very reciprocal. If you give him love in one way, most healthy men would reciprocate in his own way. For example, my mom has probably cooked for my dad almost every day for the past 30+ years. Despite her nagging, she is still a good person who does her fair share of mai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/22 07:40 PM |
| 2 | My mother is annoying, and it's like looking in a mirror.Thank you, I’m glad it resonated with you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/22 06:22 PM |
| 3 | My mother is annoying, and it's like looking in a mirror.I don’t think you were unclear, I just think we are not on the same page. I don’t think having a long marriage necessarily means it’s successful. My parents have been married for 30+ years, live in a beautiful home, and they still support and care for each other no matter what, but I would not choose to trade places with my mom or be in my dad’s shoes because I know exactly how miserable they can be. Being unhappy and ultimately unsatisfied does not = successful in my book. I’ve seen the same in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/22 06:07 PM |
| 5 | My mother is annoying, and it's like looking in a mirror.Look at where your mom’s nagging got her: she has a long marriage, a home big enough to welcome long-teem guests, and a daughter who’s married and owns a home. These are all measures of success, no? I think this is a bit simplistic as well. I know plenty of people in middle class families who have met these measures of success, but are completely miserable when it comes to things that are much less measurable: they are chronically depressed/anxious/struggling with mental health, their romantic r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/22 04:56 PM |
| 56 | Do all men lack sexual boundaries?I’m not one to be into woo woo, but the one thing I do strongly believe is the self-fulfilling prophecy. The more you think all men are disgusting pornsick cheaters then you will probably end up with one, because that attitude is gonna scare off most men who aren’t. Think about it this way: would you be with a man who thought all women were gold-digging selfish opportunists? If a man thought like that, I would never entertain him, and neither will good men entertain you if you keep the mentality… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/22 09:38 PM |
| 14 | Struggling with styleDress for the type of man you want. If you are already in an LTR and he loves the way you look, I see no need for you to change anything. If you are going for the the type of man who loves women who dress casually and practically, there’s no reason to change your style either. The only reason to consider changing your style is 1) when you look in the mirror, you feel frumpy and unhappy which affects your confidence, or 2) you are unsuccessful in attracting the kind of men you want. If you fall u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/22 04:05 AM |
| 9 | Do you offer to split the bill on the first date?I normally appreciate your contributions here, but this time I think you are dying on this hill for no reason. Why the need to start talking about some hypothetical scenario in the third person? Clearly it gave some women here the ick. To your point about not liking when women offer to pay but ultimately “just deceiving the guy while trying to get credit for good manners”, how is that anything but personal preference? I’ve long stated here that asking if a man if he wants to split the bill is a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/22 03:39 AM |
| 30 | Is it possible to marry a rich man as my goals (F 23)?Rich men value discretion - their livelihoods and social standing could be affected by their woman’s social faux pas or loose lips. Right now on your profile, I see your full name and location, your face on your profile, and you revealing your hand that you pretty much care about a man’s money more than his personal characteristics and good treatment of you, as you say your boyfriend is great in that regard but you consider him unsatisfactory anyways. You also revealed that you had an affair wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/22 06:50 AM |
| 14 | Where is the line between surrendering/STFU and weaponised incompetence?Wow, I keep bringing up my parents in this thread 😂 My parents were/are definitely stuck in “the crazy cycle” that’s mentioned in the Respect chapter of For Women Only (which is my favorite RPW book actually). My dad would DEFINITELY tell my mom that the chicken is undersalted even if she is the one cooking all of the family meals, and there would be no “honey” and more of a scowl to go along with it. This made my mom (understandably) feel unloved, unappreciated, and disrespected, which resulted… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/22 10:23 PM |
| 16 | Where is the line between surrendering/STFU and weaponised incompetence?It absolutely depends on the couple. I remember HATING roadtrips with my parents because my mom would be a backseat driver and my dad would lash out in unnecessarily aggressive ways. It would soil the mood for the roadtrip and to be honest, the Laura Doyle way would have probably saved them a lot of unnecessary arguments and ruined trips. On the other hand, my man is not quick to anger at all and if I give him a suggestion about highway exit or other driving stuff, he will either thank me and ta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/22 08:27 PM |
| 16 | Where is the line between surrendering/STFU and weaponised incompetence?I think this is a perfect example of what u/LivelyLychee was talking about here: Laura Doyle is just ONE reference for you to look at, and although she has a lot of useful and helpful ideas, it doesn’t mean that everything she says has to be your bible. Personally, I much prefer u/Fleetingwish’s idea of Bring Your Captain Your Problem, Not Your Solution. To her, if you choose to withhold information and issues, you are preventing your Captain from making the best possible decision for the both o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/22 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Redpill and perfectionismWhether you want or need love and affection, or even respect and guidance, at the end of the day no one is obligated to give that to you once you’re an adult who’s independent of your parents. It doesn’t matter that it will help you be a better person to anyone other than yourself, which begs the question: what DOES compel someone else to give you love, affection, respect, or guidance? The answer is that you have to make them WANT to. This doesn’t just apply in romantic situations, but in every … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 07:02 PM |
| 5 | Should a woman go "the extra mile" for a man during the vetting phase? RPW and TRP opinions welcome.Should a woman go “the extra mile” for a man during the vetting phase? Yes. But within reason. I’m all for women reciprocating men’s interests and investments in them in the early days. In fact, I think it’s the key way to get men to start considering you as long-term material. BUT. You have to make sure that what you’re doing is reasonable for where you’re at in the relationship, AND that your efforts aren’t outweighing his. You’ve been on ONE date with this man. A good way to go the extra mile… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 06:37 PM |
| 15 | Redpill and perfectionismThe vast majority of men in the manosphere are still in the anger phase. Ultimately, the goal of r/theredpill’s creators was to get these men to channel that anger into bettering their lives. Their goal was NOT to make it easier for women, because it’s a sub dedicated towards MALE goals. If it hurts you to listen to that stuff, then stick around here instead. Those same creators of r/theredpill created r/redpillwomen because even though the underlying theory (which all revolves around the fact t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 05:05 AM |
| 5 | It finally happened!Congratulations! My man’s cousin had a small courthouse wedding in the country where she was living at the time with her husband during 2020, then had a HUGE wedding reception a year later in 2021. It was a covid wedding, but I don’t see why it would be unfathomable to do now! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/22 02:45 AM |
| 5 | RPW DefinitionYou can read the sidebar. It goes in depth. To sum it up, anyone can be an RPW as long as they want a male-led relationship. A lot of TradCon women gravitate here because it’s one of the few spaces that actually welcome them without judgment and because their goals naturally align with RPW. However, RPW is not TradCon and you don’t have to be traditional to participate here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/22 08:58 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on invasive cosmetic procedures?Some men absolutely have a gut reaction to not like plastic surgery. Particularly, some men are turned off by breast augmentation because you are enhancing something that is almost completely sexual, which may “cheapen” their view of you as someone who objectifies themselves. Basically you are improving your SMV at the expense of your RMV in the eyes of those men. I think I remember u/Protocol_Apollo advising some women here against breast augs if they are single because it makes it less likely … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/22 06:08 PM |
| 7 | Thoughts on invasive cosmetic procedures?I have nothing against women doing cosmetic surgery. The reality is that looks are pretty darn important in capturing the attention of a desirable man. They are your foot in the door, and sometimes, no matter how incredible of a person you are inside, you won’t be considered unless you meet a certain threshold of attractiveness. It can be a slippery slope, and some people do get addicted to it and end up looking like a completely different person or botched. But living where I live, I’ve seen th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/22 09:06 AM |
| 1 | how important is attraction?I dunno, I’ve seen a lot of real life manifestations of the hot wife-ugly man trope. I think women care a lot about looks when they’re in their teens and to a lesser extent early twenties. I also think they care a lot about looks if they’re looking for a hookup or FWB. But in terms of couples, I know and see a lot of them where the woman is either slightly or significantly more good-looking than the man. He’s not my cup of tea either, but Rob Lowe was a notorious pretty boy in the 80s and 90s. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/22 05:06 AM |
| 4 | How can I feel more comfortable being sexual and sensual with my partner.You: “Do not listen to the comments! They are ridiculous!” Also you, when OP asks how to be more turned on and comfortable with sex: “Get horny!” You skipped a couple steps there, bud. Lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/22 10:01 PM |
| 1 | how important is attraction?Personally, I have no use for handsome. I think generally, women can a lot less visual with their attraction than men. There are men who looks-wise are nothing to write home about, but are INCREDIBLY sexy to women because of their ambition, masculinity, game, intelligence, leadership, etc. Handsome can be sexy too, but it isn’t the end-all be all like beauty is for men when they look for women. Men require beauty as a precursor, and then look for the women with the best character among the beaut… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/22 09:48 PM |
| 2 | Demure/sexy balance?Honestly? Practice. When I found RPW, I was brash, masculine, domineering, crude, and rad-feminist-leaning, because that’s what western media and culture tells us is desirable. Basically the opposite of what masculine, accomplished, and desirable men want. But even after I read the RP theory and knew what men desired in women, I couldn’t just flip a switch and become a warm, feminine, submissive Goddess of Fun and Light. Sure, I could wait around for the man of my dreams to come around, and then… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/22 10:08 AM |
| 3 | Demure/sexy balance?“Just be yourself!” may sound nice, but a lot of us here have realized that it’s a sweet platitude that doesn’t actually get us what we want in life. Some relevant excerpts of that post: Well what is “yourself” really? By “being yourself” do you mean sitting around in dirty sweatpants waving a glass of wine, waving your cat around at neighborhood kids, swearing? People get so caught up in “just be yourself” that they think they can just display the worst posts of their behavior and personality b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/22 09:27 AM |
| 8 | I have a higher libido than my bf but I still caught him wathching porn instead of having sex with meThank you for sharing something so personal! A lot of the women in this community feel very strongly against pornography usage, but when it comes to actual solutions, or even understanding the “why” for men beyond “men are inconsiderate horny bastards”, we don’t really know where to start or how to approach it. Posts like these often get tons of comments that highlight how damaging and unacceptable porn use is (which isn’t wrong), but rarely get any advice on how to help OP solve this problem be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/22 06:57 PM |
| 2 | My marriage is falling apart and I don’t know where to begin to fix it.I think when you confide in someone, you are doing so because you absolutely trust them and are seeking their input. You are looking for help, advice, and guidance, or even just support to help you do something about your problem. All of these things are actionable and will get you closer to where you need to be. Whereas when you are venting, you’re just looking for a vessel for you to scream into the void for. You just want their validation that your anger/frustration is valid, which might feel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/22 03:04 AM |
| 21 | I very much want to be a homemaker one day, but can’t bear giving up financial independence.You sound a bit young. If you haven’t finished college yet, perhaps consider a career in something you can freelance in or with lots of work-from-home opportunities in a post-covid era. Graphic design, web design, journalism/writing, customer service representative, tutoring, etc. Some of these are not incredibly lucrative (although some of my friends in graphic design and web design are doing great financially), but they will definitely allow you to stay at home and have enough time with the ki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/22 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Demure/sexy balance?No problem Light! Always fun musing about things with you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/22 12:39 AM |
| 3 | Demure/sexy balance?That tidbit is SO true. That author knew what she was talking about. Yeah I saw that post. The OP specifically said she did NOT want to leave him, but the people kept telling her to anyways. It is a bit of a pet peeve of mine when the commentariat tells an OP that they would NEVER tolerate something like that or that they would leave, and yadda yadda yadda. I just think, well that’s great, but OP isn’t you or else she would have done that already. If something is problematic enough, by all means… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/22 12:37 AM |
| 2 | Demure/sexy balance?Little things like: letting him pick the venue, letting him pick the food we’re gonna order, asking for his input for things that are going on in your life and then letting him know when you went with his advice, making him a dinner to thank him for taking you out a few times before. Nothing too crazy and certainly nothing significant enough that would take away your ability to be in control of your safety with a stranger. But enough to signal to him that you like it when he takes the lead! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/22 10:39 PM |
| 5 | Demure/sexy balance?Love that post! That kind of breakdown always scratches the right itch for me lol. I think I have a relatively high dominance threshold, meaning I naturally gravitate towards “raw” masculinity, power/control from men, and men who are more prone to cockiness and all that jazz, more so than I crave tenderness, comfort, and frequent displays of affection or reassurance from men. Naturally, my own personal DL is pretty low: I never really felt happy being dominant ANYWHERE - love, school, work, frie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/22 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Demure/sexy balance?No problem :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/22 07:04 PM |
| 4 | Demure/sexy balance?Hm, I’m actually not sure if there’s any write-up about this! But I think it’s a pretty common phenomenon. I have quite a few strong, independent, girl boss friends who are lovely and submissive (although they would HATE it if I called them that 😂) around their boyfriends. There is absolutely a camp of women on RPW who believe submission is EARNED. I don’t necessarily believe that, but that’s because I’m in the “submissive behavior as strategy” camp. So while some women here will only submit to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/22 07:04 PM |
| 24 | Demure/sexy balance?Lol, your question just so happens to fall in line with 2 posts that I’ve written for RPW! Be a sexy madonna/virtuous whore: basically you want to be a good balance of the green flag traits of the Madonna archetype (loyal, nurturing, vulnerable, innocent/childlike, virtuous) and the green flag traits of the Whore archetype (passionate, adventurous, sensual, seductive, bombshell). You also have to avoid the red flag Madonna traits (sexually frigid and prudish, maternal (towards men), nagging, pas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/22 07:09 AM |
| 4 | What can I make him for work?Oooh that’s an awesome idea for the non soggy sandwiches! Definitely stealing this! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/22 06:51 PM |
| 5 | What can I make him for work?I copied what my mom did and make enough from yesterday’s dinner that he can have it the next day for lunch. I ask him to let me know if he’s kind of sick of it or if he wants something different for lunch. If he is, then I try to make him a nice wrap/breakfast burrito, high protein salads, or some kind of bowl with roasted veggies and chicken. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/22 06:50 PM |
| 30 | My boyfriend called me used up…Even if his reasoning is ridiculous (and to be clear, it absolutely is if he’s living in a western country because the average number of sexual partners for women since the 1950s has hovered around 5-6), it seems like this is something that he’s hyper-fixated on. If something you cannot do anything to change bothers him so much that he is hesitating to marry you, the odds are not looking good that he ever will. We have an article about what to do when your N-count is too high, but 1) yours is no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/22 01:34 AM |
| 2 | Should I offer to split the bill on dates?I always offer once, but if they refuse I would graciously accept and thank them for the meal rather than insisting or asking them if they’re sure. Even if I was looking for “provider” men when I was still single, it’s a common courtesy that shows you are not just in it for a free meal - your goal is to actually get to know him. IMO it is a bit cringey to assume that someone you don’t know that well yet will pay for you. A lot of men will appreciate this and give you brownie points for it even i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/22 12:27 AM |
| 15 | Other than the obvious, what are your glow up routines?Learning to do your hair. Even if you’re just wearing jeans and a t shirt, if your hair is done, you will still look elevated and put together. I used to think that because I have straight hair, I didn’t need to do anything to it. It certainly fits the look if I’m going for a more grungey/boho vibe that day, but if I want to channel classically feminine, I need to style my hair. I swear by these curling tiara things that you can get anywhere on amazon or etsy now! Takes 5 mins and it looks like … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/22 11:03 PM |
| 9 | Should I text my ex?I’m not lying, I don’t believe there is a future to that relationship. You remind me of me when I first found rpw YEARS ago. I also found out all the ways I absolutely sucked and it all made sense why my relationship with my ex didn’t work out. So I reached out to apologize. Like you, I told myself that I only wanted to do it to right my wrongs, not because I wanted to get back together with him. You know what happened? We ended up talking again, then kind of dating again, then breaking up for t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/22 03:38 AM |
| 21 | My marriage is falling apart and I don’t know where to begin to fix it.Agreed. It’s not wrong for OP to feel stressed out - being a SAHM without help isn’t easy. But being in an echo chamber where everyone is just miserable isn’t helpful because it isn’t actionable. My unpopular opinion is that women (and people in general) don’t need to rant or vent. The validation feels good in the moment but it ultimately does nothing to solve your frustrations. Studies have found that catharsis and venting does not decrease anger or frustration - it increases it. Next time you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/22 03:22 AM |
| 4 | Do women need to ask men to be more romantic (and make specific requests) or should it just happen naturally?In my experience, relationships work best when the man takes the lead on romance and the woman reciprocates. I don’t necessarily disagree with you, as I mentioned that the things I did were often a thank you for all the things my man did for me first. However, I find that a lot of young women are expecting MORE romantic gestures or MORE investment from the men they’re dating, but haven’t really examined what they’ve done to inspire him to do so. If he’s already taken you on a few dates where he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/22 02:57 AM |
| 11 | Do women need to ask men to be more romantic (and make specific requests) or should it just happen naturally?I would say that one of the most powerful things in the RPW toolbox is to be able to make the man feel wanted as well, simply because the vast majority of women don’t and it helps you stand out. I am probably NEVER gonna buy my man a bouquet of flowers, because he doesn’t care for that stuff. But what made him choose to commit to me and not the other women he dated before me was the fact that I was willing to invest in him as well. Romantic gestures don’t HAVE to be masculine. I cooked my man a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/22 01:42 AM |
| 18 | Ladies, please heed the advice hereGreat field report! Thank you for sharing with us and inspiring all of us! u/pearlsandstilettos, can we give this lovely lady a star? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/22 09:35 AM |
| 6 | Finding middle ground in offering sex? (If he brought me flowers every day, wouldn’t I start to appreciate it less?)Yes absolutely! I think it’s more useful for women who find themselves turning down sex for logistical reasons (too many chores left, have an event later, my hair/skin/belly isn’t perfect right now, what about the kids, etc) and then all of a sudden it’s been a couple weeks or even a month and you haven’t had any sex. It’s just a reminder that day-to-day minutia isn’t worth damaging your relationship over. If you find yourself completely not in the mood and don’t want to be touched, that’s a dif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/22 01:12 AM |
| 4 | Finding middle ground in offering sex? (If he brought me flowers every day, wouldn’t I start to appreciate it less?)Ooh thanks. Love For Women Only! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/22 11:59 PM |
| 14 | Finding middle ground in offering sex? (If he brought me flowers every day, wouldn’t I start to appreciate it less?)To my knowledge, this has been a recommended option (aka not for everyone, but still useful for some) on RPW since the early days. To not turn down sex just because you’re not 10/10 horny in the moment because if once you start it, some women find that they’ll get to that level eventually. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/22 07:01 PM |
| 35 | Finding middle ground in offering sex? (If he brought me flowers every day, wouldn’t I start to appreciate it less?)Agreed with the other commenters. Flowers is a nice but frivolous gift/gesture that one can appreciate. Too much of any material good can make it less special. Sex on the other hand is 1) the necessary glue that keeps a relationship healthy and functioning, and 2) not a gift from one person to the other but an experience of intimacy that BOTH people participate and find fulfillment in. Think about it this way. If men are the gatekeepers of relationships (aka love and support) and women are the g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/22 05:00 PM |
| 3 | How many women Lie about body count?Well, I would not say I had higher-than-expected RMV in my early single days. My SO tells me how lucky he is to find a woman like me, but I don’t think he realizes what a menace I was pre-him and pre-RPW 😂 I think most of them was reason 1), and those two Category 3 men I mentioned were each a mix of reason 2) and 3). It wasn’t like I was trying NOT to have sex back then. But those certain few never took it there, I suspect because they had enough protective instincts to not want to hurt me but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/22 07:39 AM |
| 3 | How many women Lie about body count?Short answer: yes, but with a few caveats! Long answer: I think they were a mix of Category 2 and Category 3 men. Category 2 means they just wanted no strings attached sex from me, whether it was because they were not looking for a relationship whatsoever or for whatever reason, I was in their short-term bucket and not their long-term bucket. These dudes are absolutely just looking to score, and it was good that they essentially filtered themselves out. These were also the majority of those dude… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/22 05:03 AM |
| 4 | How many women Lie about body count?You would be surprised at how much people tell you if you actually just ask them, like in this case, OP. Of course some of them will outright lie. But others, even those women I mentioned with a certain strategy in mind, will tell more or less the truth if asked. If they aren’t asked, they operate under a “don’t ask don’t tell” policy. If you look through the comments you can see quite a few women suggesting this. I have a pretty low n-count as well. In my age group/area, it’s a pretty normal qu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/22 11:24 PM |
| 3 | How many women Lie about body count?So what if you’ve slept with a lot of men? is what I consider the best strategy for post for women with higher n-counts. These are the things you can do DESPITE having a high body count to make yourself into a desirable partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/22 09:40 PM |
| 4 | How many women Lie about body count?If a man can’t figure out general promiscuity from the behavior of the women he’s dating, he doesn’t have very good self awareness. I don’t think it’s that simple. I have a few girlfriends whose strategy is to make the guys they deem commitment worthy wait to have sex for a few dates-a couple months, but then hook up with “just a fun time” guys the night they meet them. Raw. The former camp of men, based on their behavior, might think these girls are very conservative with their n-counts. The la… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/22 09:37 PM |
| 5 | How many women Lie about body count?I’ve met many men with his attitude who would never date a virgin than the other way around Yes. There are plenty of men like this out there. I encountered a decent handful back in my early dating days when I was a virgin and when they found out they usually got freaked out and eventually ended the relationship. It’s too much pressure for them too early on, if that makes sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/22 09:30 PM |
| 14 | Husband took off his wedding ringI think you overestimate how easy it is for most men to just step outside and find someone to hook up with, which makes me question your experience in doing so. Sure he may step away to do a little shopping on his own or grab a coffee, but I highly doubt he’s gonna find any random stranger down to sleep with him in the hour or so that he’s away. Unless he’s seeing prostitutes, in which case why would they care if he has a ring or not? The only way he’s finding women “down” for casual sex is of h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/22 10:45 AM |
| 18 | Husband took off his wedding ringI don’t know if you’ve ever been on a vacation with a significant other, but usually you’re basically with each other 24/7 for the entire trip lmao. Exactly how would he have this indiscretion when she was on vacation WITH him? I feel like you’re sowing unnecessary seeds of doubt in OP’s head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/22 10:31 AM |
| 4 | 12 years Married and Now on the Rocks.dread does NOT work the same way for men as for women. I’m with you on that. I don’t have experience using dread in a committed relationship, but when I was single and pre-RPW I tried using what I now know as dread on a lot of the guys I wanted to be with. Well it didn’t work and they either thought I wasn’t interested and blowing them off, or they thought I was mean/bitchy/snooty and that made them want to be around me LESS, not more. Obviously it’s a lot more complicated when you’ve been with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/22 03:46 AM |
| 15 | 12 years Married and Now on the Rocks.Agreed. Reading the post alone makes a lot of people think her husband is unreasonable and is taking her love and loyalty for granted, but this comment painted a more nuanced picture. Ultimately it’s not a wife’s fault if her husband chooses to be unfaithful, but in my experience/observation, men who were once loyal and committed usually do not get a wandering eye and a resentful attitude out of nowhere. Often there are underlying problems in the relationship that are contributing to it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/22 08:38 PM |
| 25 | Dear US ladies, how hard it is to come across high value man in US? Is chivalry also almost dead there?I actually find that in big cities, there’s a HUGE variety/range of attitudes. I’ve gone out with very egalitarian men who asked me to split the bill on the first date, and I’ve gone on dates with men who insisted on paying for me on first dates and for the long-run. Re: liberal vs. conservative: I live in a VERY blue area and I think I’ve ended up being in LTRS and going on dates more with republicans and conservatives than liberals. I wasn’t exactly seeking it out either: when I was single I w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/22 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Boundaries for Two Couples Living TogetherI’m not sure either. Just didn’t want us to point fingers or assign blame when we don’t know for sure who came up with this idea, you know? Could have been the husbands, the other couple, or OP and her husband too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/22 10:24 PM |
| 4 | Boundaries for Two Couples Living TogetherWhat makes you think that this “foolhardy adventure” was “dreamed up by the wives”? I’m not sure I see anything indicating that so far. It seems like the husbands are the ones who are originally friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/22 10:08 PM |
| 14 | How do you move past regret as you realize your mistakes?I’d never met a man like him and I feel like I won’t again. This is what RP calls alpha widowhood. Don’t go searching this term on the men’s sub because it will be unproductive for you. Ultimately, alpha widowhood is a state of mind. YOU feel like there will never be a man like him again because you pair bonded to these men, but statistically, there are probably hundreds, if not thousands of men just like him in your metro-area. Take the time you need to heal. It won’t be very helpful to start d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/22 05:27 PM |
| 4 | Should I date men with low self-esteem?Eh, I’m more of the belief that everyone has the ability to improve if they want to. It’s always worth a shot but if she isn’t receptive then it is what it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/22 06:43 AM |
| 4 | Should I date men with low self-esteem?The way you phrased it here: Should I date men with low self-esteem? So I have this weird idea in my mind. Because of his low self-esteem he will be incapable of sating other woman so it’s giving me a little bit of assurance that he’s not going to cheat Made it sound like this was all hypothetical to me and that you were wondering whether this would be a good strategy when finding a bf. If you are talking about a specific man, the point still stands. You shouldn’t be looking for assurances that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/22 06:41 AM |
| 11 | Should I date men with low self-esteem?If you’re looking for submissive men as a dominant woman, then this sub probably isn’t the right community for you. It’s a sub dedicated to women finding/keeping male-led relationships lmao, so all of the advice here will be geared towards that. Still, I have blue-pilled friends who are very much “boss bitch feminist” types who like to wear the pants in a relationship and even they don’t go out of their way to seek insecure partners. When your goal is to go after the men that almost no one wants… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/22 05:03 AM |
| 8 | Should I date men with low self-esteem?If your goal is to find a man to be a good leader for you and your future kids, a man with low self-esteem would be an awful fit. How could you submit to someone who can’t even believe in himself? To be honest, trying to seek out an insecure partner hints at insecurity on your part. Why are you so scared of being cheated on or left that you have to seek out subpar mates? If you become a woman worth loving (and a woman smart enough to vet for loyalty/honesty in men), you won’t have to worry about… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/22 04:50 AM |
| 6 | Pearl's 2 cents on YouTube creatorsYes, but just because she is rude and talks about SMV doesn’t mean her looks should be scrutinized. I feel like that kind of attitude may make RPW more catty and judgmental and that’s not what this community is about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/22 04:05 AM |
| 12 | Pearl's 2 cents on YouTube creatorsI much prefer our Pearl in terms of beliefs and how she conducts herself, but I don’t think it’s necessary to comment on how the YouTuber Pearl looks. Her looks aren’t the problem - and you can certainly be a successful RPW regardless of your what your SMV is - the problem is who she chooses to appeal to. Let’s be above the antagonism of people like Fresh and Fit or Kevin Samuels who NEED to mention women’s looks in order to bring them down a peg. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/22 09:17 PM |
| 8 | Pearl's 2 cents on YouTube creatorsI loved that series! I used to listen to it on repeat in the background when I was cooking or doing chores. You can really tell the difference between that, where all the people involved were endorsed or mods on the rpw/trp subs, and this new second generation of “rp” content creators who never bothered to participate on these subs (aka never bothered to actually look into the theory). Not once was there any rage bait. Even when the core topics were the same, the discussion was always productive… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/22 09:06 PM |
| 3 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?He absolutely does! He likes me in sneakers and an easy to throw on sundress more than heels and finicky clothes! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/22 07:17 AM |
| 16 | I've recently been having a lot of anxiety around RP.THANK YOU. I have not found 1 “red pill” youtuber or podcaster, (maybe besides Rollo and Rian who started out on the TRP sub/ RP blogosphere anyways), who fully grasps the material and knows what they’re talking about. They all hover around the most surface-level and reactionary points and fail to understand any of the nuances that come with real-life application. A lot of them seem to get their views by telling women that they suck. And maybe the women they are talking to do suck - although it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/22 02:07 AM |
| 1 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?Ooh I’ve tried that on my face but not my lips good idea! Thanks for the suggestion! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/22 07:14 AM |
| 2 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?Oh no lol! Keep an eye out for the H&M ones they might come back this winter!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/22 07:13 AM |
| 3 | How do you handle being hit on by strangers?I think you’re right! If I really think about it, I’ve never seen that kind of aggressive or insulting responses in my own experience and it’s more of an old wives’ (er, or maybe old city girls’) tale than anything concrete. Or rage bait on social media. Paranoia is definitely my biggest hamster 😂 Yeah, I haven’t been to the club or the bar in a hot minute! I mostly get hit on in public when I’m shopping or running errands so you’re right that a negative reaction would draw a lot of unwanted att… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/22 07:13 AM |
| 5 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?Yeah I’ve never heard of that before being with him either! He prefers the feel of thicker or rougher materials like knits and lace! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/22 06:04 AM |
| 2 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?😂😂😂 but it’s sooooo shiny and sparkly!! It’s another one of those things I save for dinner with the girls and not date night lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/22 06:03 AM |
| 4 | How do you handle being hit on by strangers?I recently realized this, and also realized my SO’s dissatisfaction with the “I’m in a relationship” line. I always thought it was a great way to signal disinterest while also allowing the guy to save face/not get upset/threatening to me. Especially since even during my single days, I would just say I had a bf if someone I wasn’t interested in hit on me and in my head it was clear that that was me telling them I’m not interested. But when I told my man about a recent incident, not to boast about… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/22 10:11 AM |
| 3 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?Same haha! Although I also blame overexfoliating them, but I’m in too deep. If i don’t exfoliate now it looks dreadful 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/22 09:36 AM |
| 2 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?I definitely struggle with them riding down too! I find that the ones that have the best chance at staying up are the ones made out of a thick cable knit, instead of something ribbed which is easier to stretch and fall. These are the tights version, but I had the thigh high version of these from H&M and they’re definitely my thickest and most resistant pair. Although after some, uh, play, I think it’s pretty hard for anything to look right 😂 If you want them to stay up during the day when you’re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/22 09:35 AM |
| 2 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?Ahh I’m jealous of the girls who can pull off matte lips! Mine are perpetually dry so anything matte makes my lips look like raisins that are peeling and flaking 😭 | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/22 09:26 AM |
| 3 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?Ahh, I see what you mean! This is purely theoretical at this point because my man doesn’t mind at all when I initiate, but maybe you can try appealing to his masculinity. Ask him to help you with some heavy lifting or opening a pickle jar or some heavy duty yard work. After he’s helped you, thank him profusely, and just kind of marvel at how strong he is and how much you love being with such a MAN. Maybe give him THE look as you’re saying, whether that’s the more innocent doe eyed look or the he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/22 09:25 AM |
| 10 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?Me too! I wonder if my guy is the odd one out, or if a lot of guys feel this way and women just think these things are sexy because of very successful marketing campaigns and movies and stuff. I’m leaning towards the former but idk! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/22 07:20 PM |
| 10 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?Ok is your bf secretly my SO and he’s two timing us or something?! 😂 my man also HATES the feel of lotion/oily/sticky products. I’m trying to preserve my skin by basically dunking myself in moisturizers, SPFs, and lotions every day, and even though he appreciates my candor for skincare, he thinks I feel disgusting in these moments and we have to wait for me to dry off 😂 so unsexy but c’est la vie! I would say try your best to incorporate an element of play if you feel uncomfortable with straight… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/22 06:38 PM |
| 6 | What is the RPW stance on dating RP men?Yep! I find that there’s a big difference between blogs like The Red Pill Room by Ian Ironwood, who often draws inspiration from his happy, decades-long relationship with Mrs. Ironwood, vs. MRP today, where unhappily married men are trying to make the best out of a shitty situation. The latter is usually pretty frustrated and jaded and it shows. I also think TRP, plate-spinning and all, may be a bit better off. Some of the TRP ECs write theory based on their LTRs in a similar way to Ian Ironwood… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/22 06:21 PM |
| 34 | How to initiate sex without initiating sex...?Oh no! Suddenly I feel SOOO cold and need to put on a pair of thigh high socks!! But not cold enough to wear anything but a skimpy nightgown or the sluttiest booty shorts in my closet!!! You don’t mind if I put them on in front of you, right? Side note: I’m salty that my man doesn’t like a lot of traditionally “sexy” things women do. He thinks lipsticks/glosses have a gross texture so putting them on does nothing for him, and he also hates how silk/satin feels so all those gorgeous silky sexy lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/22 06:02 PM |
| 5 | How to look good after 15+hrs bus rides?Agree about the natural makeup! Doing a full face beat just won’t look fresh after 15 hours. I mean you can try to do it on the bus, but moving vehicle + eyeliner and complicated makeup sounds like a disaster in the making for me lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/22 06:03 PM |
| 3 | How to set a boundary with humour and lightness?No problem! There are many ups and downs in big Asian family gatherings 😂 it kinda sucks that SO much is about saving face, but I think it’s just part of the culture | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/22 10:51 PM |
| 8 | How to set a boundary with humour and lightness?I don’t think it’s that her husband couldn’t take it, because even OP says he’s normally very kind and considerate. He might be a little embarrassed, sure, but it wouldn’t be the end of the world. He’s probably made of much sterner stuff. I think the issue is more how her family would perceive him because of it. If I said to my SO in front of my family that he was making me uncomfortable, alarm bells would ring in all of their heads. Knowing my own family, I’m almost certain my mom would butt in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/22 10:34 PM |
| 11 | How to set a boundary with humour and lightness?Agreed. Doing it in front of OP’s family may cause unnecessary tension. We all know how when we tell our parents/family about something about our SO that irks us in the moment but turns out to be very inconsequential in the long run, they often WILL NOT let it go, sometimes for YEARS. They often will hold a grudge against him for it long after you’ve forgiven him and the issue is resolved. Our families want the best for us and are VERY protective, but sometimes that attitude will bite you in the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/22 07:57 PM |
| 3 | How can I (26F) control my feelings for my FWB (33 M) so I can keep seeing him?None of the advice that we have as a community will be helpful for you because EVERYTHING we do is focused around getting/keeping commitment, which you have already willingly given up on. Ask yourself: is it easier to pretend like you don’t need any commitment and stay exactly the same in this miserable situation, or to work hard to improve your value, both SMV and RMV, as a woman so that you have better options and can actually get commitment from a man with mutual desire for you instead of get… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/22 04:25 PM |
| 14 | Would it be okay for you if your partner follows and likes local girls in IG?I tend to agree, based on what I see in my social circles, with the TRP theory that a lot of women like men who “get around”, but women rarely like men who are obviously thirsty on social media. IMO there is a difference between a guy who is able to get whatever woman he wants and as many women as he wants in real life, vs. a guy who is following a bunch of women who don’t follow him back, liking their pictures like a fan, and casting a WIDE yet passive net by sliding into almost every available… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/22 08:57 PM |
| 6 | Do men prefer women lower than them?If EVERY man you date ends up ghosting you or dating other women, there’s only one common denominator in all those encounters: YOU. Based on your posts and your comments, there are a few things I’ve picked up on that would turn many men off. 1) Superiority complex: you cannot stop rating yourself as better/higher than some men and other women. In the process, you continue to put others down: I’ve seen you mention “obese, cottage cheese, belly hanging” young women a multitude of times here. You s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/22 05:03 PM |
| 16 | best way to go about this?In this scenario I don’t think it would hurt to tell him at all. It might actually be a funny moment as he realizes he’s been inadvertently emulating his grandma this whole time. Once you two are on the same page, I second gifting him the manly scented soap as a token of appreciation for his understanding. If you want brownie points, you can splurge on “fancy” soaps for him this one time, and then afterwards it’s up to you guys if that’s an expense that’s worth keeping up or not 😂 Aesop makes ex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/22 07:45 PM |
| 35 | I first learned submission on the back of a bike.What a beautiful story! This is such a good metaphor for what submission truly means, and also why it’s ultimately the best way forward for RPWs. u/pearlsandstilettos, can we give her a point for this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/22 07:01 AM |
| 7 | Things to talk about with boyfriends mother?To take it one step further, think about a normal job interview you might have. The smart thing to do would be to tailor your responses to what would make the employer the most impressed/satisfied. You shouldn’t outright lie, but keep in mind who you are talking to: a CEO of a large company. What are the things you think she would value? Without lying, which of your traits, hobbies, interests, and values most align with those? Make an effort to highlight those things. Ex: talk about your work in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/22 06:30 PM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September - Relationship Dynamics Part 1I looooove this kinda stuff. I think mine is an HLH because I’m very drawn to men who lean moderately/severely dominant, but once I find one I rarely have conflict with then because it becomes pretty easy for me to defer to them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/22 01:35 AM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September - Relationship Dynamics Part 2THATS WHY I LOVE IT | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/22 05:35 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on the term High Value ManTHANK YOU. I wrote a post a while ago trying to address this issue, or at least parts of the problems that surround this issue, and this just hit the nail on the head. I think moving away from using that kind of language was the step I was too scared to propose, so I’m glad you did! It just gets so unproductive and doesn’t really give the OP any girl game skills to help her whether she stays in that relationship or leaves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/22 10:00 PM |
| 5 | I got banned from r/blackladies just because I joined r/RedPillWomen😂 Again, if it’s rude to address people who completely misunderstand or purposefully misinform others, then call me the rudest bitch ever 🤷♀️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/22 03:47 PM |
| 4 | I got banned from r/blackladies just because I joined r/RedPillWomenLol, how was I rude to OP? My entire comment was criticizing and addressing the mods of the other subreddit and their language, not OP at all. Anything I quoted or commented on was based on the note that OP received from the subreddit, not OP. Perhaps you need to brush up on your reading comprehension, dear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/22 03:41 PM |
| 9 | I got banned from r/blackladies just because I joined r/RedPillWomenI don’t know if you’re misunderstanding what I meant or if I’m misunderstanding you. I’m not saying OP is making a reach, I’m saying the mods of that subreddit are. I decided to be snarky because the owners of that subreddit decided to spread misinformation about our sub and more importantly, our sub’s mods. As a long-time member here and because I’ve gotten to know the mods individually, I know for a fact that they do not, have never, and will never encourage “disruptive and harassing brigades … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/22 03:30 PM |
| 7 | Husband likes being 'bossed around' and 'motivated' by me. Thoughts?That’s awesome that you guys have already communicated about this! The stepping back is the hard part because things don’t just magically fall into place immediately. It could take him anywhere from a couple weeks to many months. But that’s why the acts of encouragement are so helpful. You are basically Pavlovian conditioning him to enjoy leading. If he links being more dominant and being a leader for the two of you with feeling deeply respected, admired, lusted for, and loved for, those feeling… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/22 07:28 AM |
| 16 | Husband likes being 'bossed around' and 'motivated' by me. Thoughts?He apparently likes me motivating him because it helps him be the best version of himself. Thing is, I hate it, I hate feeling like his mother and it is so damn exhausting. Have you communicated this with him? If he was raised by a super dominant mom and he saw the way his parents’ relationship worked as he was growing up, it’s quite likely that he thinks that’s how relationships are supposed to be or that that’s what women want. You’ve further ingrained this in his head by being controlling and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/22 05:08 AM |
| 14 | I got banned from r/blackladies just because I joined r/RedPillWomenPearl Draper! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/22 10:55 PM |
| 46 | I got banned from r/blackladies just because I joined r/RedPillWomenLol, I’m not sure when the moderators or long-time members of this community have ever cared in the slightest about what r/blackladies does. Not sure when u/pearlsandstilettos would find the time to direct “brigades” towards them when she’s busy AF running this sub, working full-time, and raising young children. What a reach. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/22 10:45 PM |
| 6 | boyfriend with anxietySometimes it hurts less to rip the bandaid off fast instead of dragging it out, you know? Good luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/22 04:28 AM |
| 12 | boyfriend with anxietyYou are still choosing to be with him right now even after he started behaving this way. Because you didn’t tell him that this was unacceptable behavior when it first arose, and because you didn’t leave when it persisted/worsened, he thinks that you are okay with this. I know the RPW way is to try communicating with him first, but I’m a firm believer that severe mental illness is an incredibly difficult obstacle to overcome, and often requires both people doing their damnedest to fix it. Right n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/22 02:06 AM |
| 25 | boyfriend with anxietyI honestly don’t know if this is worth it for a man you’ve only been with for two months. This is definitely still in the vetting phase and he’s showing you a lot of the ways that he would be unable to be a good captain. He seems to have a LOT of issues that require a lot of work. The beginning of a relationship should be when the sailing is the smoothest. If things are this bad now, what exactly is gonna happen when you guys are out of the honeymoon phase? I think you should reexamine your choo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/22 01:06 AM |
| 7 | Any advice on how to be more feminine and getting a masculine guyNo problem, glad to help! I’m so used to ‘playing hard to get’ A lot of women are, whether it’s because they’ve been misinformed by the media or entertainment that that’s how to get the guy, or because they genuinely believe that it makes them look higher value. In reality, a result of playing hard to get is exactly what you’ve experienced: I’m getting more HVM interest but not turning into long term That’s because playing hard to get may indicate that you have a high SMV, because a high SMV all… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/22 06:57 PM |
| 6 | Newly red pilledI don’t love his advice. I find that it’s often more about dunking on women and generating rage bait/comeuppance porn than it is about actually wanting to help women or people in general. Compared to what the founders of r/theredpill have written for us here, his advice is rudimentary and too black and white for real world application. u/puzzleheaded_back255, you may find Whisper’s theories and advice he wrote for us more useful and actionable than Kevin Samuels. Reddit banned him for “advocatin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/22 05:08 PM |
| 4 | Any advice on how to be more feminine and getting a masculine guyI don’t think that theory rings true for the top echelons of men. Sure, the average joe probably has a dream girl he hopes and fantasizes that one day he can get. But one characteristic that makes popular and attractive men, well, popular and attractive, is that they have an abundance mentality. They don’t put women on pedestals BECAUSE they have (or for the more TradCon men out there, can have) already gotten most/all of the women they wanted. Another woman of similar high caliber won’t make th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/22 02:32 AM |
| 4 | Any advice on how to be more feminine and getting a masculine guyI don’t think that’s good advice at all. Sure, if you’re not confident in your value as a woman/what you bring to the table, go ahead and date men who aren’t attractive to you. But if you know that you’re a worthwhile partner, why force yourself to suffer by being with someone you aren’t attracted to at all? The caveat is that women are much more able to be physically attracted to “ugly” and “mediocre looking men” more than men are able to be attracted to ugly and mediocre looking women. This is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/22 02:20 AM |
| 45 | Any advice on how to be more feminine and getting a masculine guyHot take: extremely persistent men who have to “win you over” rarely make good partners. A lot of women love this kind of man because it is immensely flattering to have someone utterly head over heels for her before they even know her that well. “Wow, I must be that beautiful/high value/awesome/cool/desirable.” What makes this a difficult dynamic is that these are men who will be incredibly hard to respect in the long run. He’s someone who you initially thought was gross, unattractive, or meh. F… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/22 06:49 AM |
| 9 | I don’t know how to flirtSecond “The Art of the Bad Excuse”! That was the catalyst of me being awkward around men to actually being successful when flirting with them! Beyond that and smiles/eye contact, keep in mind that your goal is to be warm, inviting, and engaging. Being an active listener is a great start. Men (and people in general) love compliments and a light tickling of their ego 😂. Be enthusiastic with your responses. Too cool for school sends men running away. Happy and cheerful will make him into putty. If … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/22 05:04 AM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: Red Pill is power. Here are some (amazing) benefits of taking TRP as a woman(This was in response to a comment that has since been deleted, but I figured it would be useful for the discussion! Essentially, the commenter was not happy with this particular excerpt: A RPWoman knows for example that "f*ckboys" just follow their interest. Why be angry at biological instincts of mating with as many women as possible? Why be angry men are attracted to youth? If they weren't, they would have mated with old infertile women. The commenter essentially went on to say that “fuckbois… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/22 04:53 PM |
| 13 | Casual but feminine outfit ideas?I love sundresses because they’re easy, effortless, and feminine. If you want even more casual, look for refined cuts in basic pieces. Instead of a crewneck short sleeve t-shirt, opt for an off the shoulder half-sleeve top in the same material. Instead of denim cut off shorts, go for white tailored shorts. Swap out your Birkenstocks for some white leather sneakers or flats. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/22 10:54 PM |
| 6 | Help, how to be feminine and soft?Highly disagree. One of the main points of this sub is that submissive behavior is one of the best strategies in the RPW toolbox when it comes to inspiring the things we want from men, like love, protection, provisions, and dominance. While some men certainly draw it out of us more than others, it is very much a choice and is often very conditional on our circumstances and who we are dealing with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/22 04:47 PM |
| 10 | 3 months into dating and no sign of something seriousSame here! I was getting anxious and I asked him (yes I know The Talk is socially awkward and all that but your girl stumbles too ya know?) and he was basically like, “Uh what? You’re my girl. Duh.” It very much wasn’t a duh to me but it was definitely a moment of relief 😂 felt like it was weird to do that with us in our 30’s I think this is how my man felt even though we got together in our early 20s. For some men, asking someone to “go steady” when you’re not in high school and it’s not the 19… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/22 05:08 PM |
| 8 | What confuses me about men (since they like to be extremely honest on the internet)Where were you when I wrote my post about “choice feminism” being essentially contradictory? All these other quotes would have been super useful 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/22 07:52 PM |
| 3 | What confuses me about men (since they like to be extremely honest on the internet)Oh no! My sidebar works fine but I’m on mobile. What are you using to access RPW? Try this link for now: https://redd.it/7gn6sg . It’s the post version! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/22 07:47 PM |
| 2 | What confuses me about men (since they like to be extremely honest on the internet)Strange because the link still works for me. Try this link: https://redd.it/7gn6sg Does that one work for you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/22 07:46 PM |
| 23 | What confuses me about men (since they like to be extremely honest on the internet)One of the first links in the RPW sidebar is about the differences and similarities between RPW and TRP, and how the two different communities are still linked even though they often have wildly different goals. It has been broken down by much smarter and more eloquent RPW writers than me, so I’ll spare you my attempt 😂 if you have any questions about the post feel free to ask us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/22 11:08 AM |
| 3 | Husband is a HVM who doesn’t think he’s one. How do I help boost his confidence?😂 yeah it’s just all sensationalist ragebait to pwn the people who take these things. I put our stats in and theres a 0.12% chance of finding a man like my SO, and 0.42% chance of finding me, also because of the height change. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/22 05:53 PM |
| 4 | Husband is a HVM who doesn’t think he’s one. How do I help boost his confidence?The creator of those apps is definitely biased. First of all, the score they give the women is called the “delusion score”, while the score they give men is called “reality prescription”. Already you can see they’re trying to demonize the women for having standards while throwing a softball to the men. So I texted my man and asked him to fill out the one for men, and only 5.48% of women meet his standards. He got a 2/5 on the “reality/delusion” meter with a “down to earth” rating. I filled out t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/22 04:57 PM |
| 5 | How to look more approachable even on your worst daysThe Art of the Bad Excuse is a deep dive into this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/22 01:30 AM |
| 41 | I discovered I want marriage and children a bit late in the game. Where to go from here?It seems like you’ve REALLY thought this out. That’s a great place to be. I think the only thing you can do, given that this is how you feel about him: And, frankly, I love the life I have with my boyfriend and dog so much that I'd sooner stay with him forever as a girlfriend than leave him for not wanting marriage. Is that you need to tell him exactly what you’ve told us. Cover all the bases you told us: your slow burn interest into fertility, your awareness of your shortening fertility window,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/22 12:17 AM |
| 9 | Insights from a getting a commitment-phobe to firmly commitPeople are really getting riled up over this post, but I think you did something really effective here: you didn’t issue an ultimatum (which I find ineffective and too blatantly manipulative) - you walked away and you MEANT it. Sometimes, that’s what it takes to make the guy realize what’s actually at stake. You didn’t do it to force his hand, you did it for yourself. And he realized that. Every guy in his mid twenties will be allured by the possibility of variety and strange. What you did was a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/22 07:01 PM |
| 4 | I first came here as a plate. Now I'm back as a wife.It’s incredible advice! I also remember your post from back in the day where you listed a handful of the things you implemented from RPW that took you from plate to girlfriend, at that time. I remember using that specifically in my own budding relationship at the time, and fast forward to today and we’ve been happily committed together for years! Just overall great stuff, so I’m super glad to see you back and to see your awesome life updates 💓 | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/22 01:43 AM |
| 5 | In your personal opinion….Yeah exactly. There could be an argument that some “lifestyles” are more conducive to RPW, and it could be true, but as long as you find RPW useful and affective for you anyone can do it. The only caveat I’ve noticed is that for people who don’t live in the west, the societal differences might be too big for RPW to make sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/22 01:38 AM |
| 4 | Is hypergamy real?? (some real life counter-examples)there’s always a chance we’re all massively wrong about this axiomatic thing and I think I want in on that conversation. Shhhhh, RP is NEVER wrong! 😂 Jk, you’re right that a lot of these theories could just be wrong or inaccurate or don’t paint the full picture. I don’t think we could ever REALLY know unless one of us gets a funded double blind research project with a sizable control and test populations to see if women gravitate towards the best men. All we have to work with is: hey, we don’t k… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/22 01:28 AM |
| 38 | Help with guy I metIf he was someone who you knew in your social circles and you could ask around to see if anyone knows anything, MAYBE it would be worth giving him the benefit of the doubt. And even then I would be extra careful and wary and would only do it if he was the best man I’ve ever come across. But because he’s a complete stranger you met online who has DV misdemeanors, IMO that’s pretty risky. You don’t really know the full story, and chances are you never will. I don’t think it’s worth it to put your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/22 01:02 AM |
| 14 | In your personal opinion….More than RPW simply just being a space for TradCon women, it’s a place where women want male-led relationships. IMO, that’s the one fundamental that all the theories and strategies here are based on. Any other nuance can be tweaked according to your liking and personal preference, but being an RPW means being a part of or wanting to be a part of male-led relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/22 02:06 AM |
| 10 | In your personal opinion….RPW isn’t an exclusively traditional or conservative sub though. While there are absolutely women here who want traditional marriages, there are also quite a few who don’t, and both are equally welcome here. We just all use the same RPW toolbox to achieve our varying goals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/22 02:03 AM |
| 6 | Is hypergamy real?? (some real life counter-examples)Girlwithasidecar gave some good examples of how this manifests in women in their 30s. For the mid-late 20s demographic, I’ve seen women overestimate their value too. It most often takes the form of every girl in any given social circle liking the same handful of guys, who are usually the most popular, charismatic, handsome, and successful (for their age at least). It’s an overestimate of their SMV or RMV because all of these girls think they could get these guys to commit to them because they’re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/22 01:58 AM |
| 3 | Is hypergamy real?? (some real life counter-examples)Haha check out all the flair in this thread. They doth protest too much? 😂😂😂 I couldn’t help myself! Theoretical posts are rarer around here and I think one things ECs have in common is that we all love to talk about the theory 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/22 01:44 AM |
| 18 | I first came here as a plate. Now I'm back as a wife.This is the one about Honey and the Forbidden Fruit! I can’t find the rest of her posts ATM but I’ll keep linking them for you if I find them! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/22 10:06 PM |
| 27 | I first came here as a plate. Now I'm back as a wife.I never interacted with you back when you were still active here because I was a silent lurker. But your writing has been IMMENSELY helpful to me when I started my RP journey and I’ve linked to your post about Honey and the Forbidden Fruit countless times to help the women here because I know just how effective it is. I’m so glad to hear about how your life has progressed. Thank you for being a testament to the power of RPW (and good girl game ofc) and for contributing such helpful theories and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/22 09:37 PM |
| 4 | Is hypergamy real?? (some real life counter-examples)I LOVE Ali Wong. She’s hilarious and she touches upon a lot of RP topics. She usually acknowledges them without particularly adhering to them herself. Which is kinda sad, because I think she’s getting divorced from her husband and I kind of wonder if her somewhat BP dynamic with her husband had a hand in that. Ok I got a little off track haha don’t want to turn this into a gossip sub 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/22 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Why Do Men Prefer Younger Women?If your “back in the day” refers to prehistoric pre-civilization times, the average life expectancy was anywhere from 20-45, with the Stone Age at 20-25 and the Bronze and Iron Age at 30-45. What you interpret as a “YOUNG warrior” now wasn’t exactly considered young back then - he was nearing the end of his life. There were no “old decrepit men”, or old decrepit people in general. The women chose to go with warriors in their 20s and 30s, but back in prehistoric times, they were the older men tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/22 06:45 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, what are some things you wish your mother had taught you?sewing! Both my parents are great with a sewing machine and with hand-stitching, meanwhile I can barely reattach a loose button and make it look good 🤦♀️ cleaning. Majority of my chores when I was growing up were in the kitchen helping with lunch and dinner. I’m grateful because that made learning to cook on my own in college really intuitive and I learned a lot of recipes and dishes from my heritage. But I’m bad at being organized and making a productive cleaning schedule. I don’t really know … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/22 05:01 PM |
| 9 | Is hypergamy real?? (some real life counter-examples)So while there’s statistical proof that women as a demographic tend to be hypergamous, a way for you to analyze your anecdotes is to view hypergamy in a slightly different frame. Hypergamy in women is the innate and evolutionary desire or inclination for men who are above them in SMV and RMV. However, just because that desire and inclination is evolutionarily coded into us does not mean everyone follows it (and RPW tends to theorize that not following it is to your own detriment). Especially in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/22 08:44 AM |
| 9 | Help, my husband has delusional jealously and I can feel myself pulling away from himYour husband has mental health issues. That much is clear. But how exactly does your husband have “delusional jealousy” if he was right that there were feelings between you and your facebook friend? You are painting your husband out to be some kind of unreasonable and illogical asshole when he actually has a good reason to be jealous. You say that your husband is overly controlling. But let’s address your reasons why: suspecting that I am cheating on him for little to no reason Well, he suspecte… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/22 10:07 PM |
| 8 | Should I quit school?Would the tradeoff (my prime fertility years) be worth the payoff? Is it better to drop out of school and just focus on dating? Why does that have to be a tradeoff? I know people who are getting their PHDs and can still date. I have investment banker friends who work around 80 hours a week who still have time to date. Why would going to dental hygienist school make you not able to date? If you want to make time for it, you will. With my financial aid if I graduated I would basically have no debt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/22 09:08 PM |
| 17 | I got to feel how my husband felt when I was a stay at home wife. Really showed me the value of a housewife.Thanks so much for sharing OP! This is incredibly sweet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/22 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Under what circumstances would you go back to an ex?Agreed. The bill issue isn’t the glaring thing here - it’s that OP said she felt indifferent about him the entire date. What’s the point of dating someone you don’t feel that spark for? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/22 04:19 PM |
| 2 | My best friends of 10+ years had a cold reaction to my engagementLol gaslighting? Isn’t that a form of abuse that makes someone doubt their own sanity by distorting reality? I don’t understand how letting OP know she may be overreacting or overthinking things (ya know, by becoming upset that someone didn’t give her a facebook heart or that a smile wasn’t enthusiastic enough) qualifies as that. Relax. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/22 03:48 AM |
| 8 | What would you do in my shoesI don’t think it really matters if the sugar dating sub “accepts” your relationship or not. The bigger takeaway is that you saw it as a sugar relationship, which means you knew from the get-go that it was transactional. The best thing to do is to communicate exactly what you’ve just told me to him. The gifts are appreciated, but what you really want is his company. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/22 12:55 AM |
| 24 | Inviting a guy over for dinner ... any good meals I can make in advance & heat up to avoid stress?bolognese sauce is always impressive and you can just make it ahead of time and reheat. Marcella Hazan has an amazing recipe. Serve with rigatoni, fusilli, penne, or pappardelle. it’s summer so take advantage of all the easy cold food. Gazpacho, korean kimchis and salads (my favorite is korean cucumber salad), potato salad, pasta salads, rice paper spring rolls with peanut sauce, lobster/shrimp rolls, cobb salad, asian cold noodles (I know of the Korean, Japanese, and Vietnamese ones), etc any s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/22 12:38 AM |
| 22 | What would you do in my shoesIf you look at OP’s post history, it seems like it’s a sugar relationship. He buys her designer stuff and pays for her travel. I guess he expects her to do this in return? To be honest u/stayathomedaughter8, it’s hard to apply RPW strategies to sugar relationships because they’re incredibly transactional by definition. You can’t really be concerned that someone’s using you when you’re using them for gifts, money, and support. Of course they’re using you. It’s mutual. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/22 09:11 PM |
| 5 | Gender Roles and Self-SufficiencyNice discussion topic! I think it’s true that there are a lot of things my man does that I wouldn’t know where to start with. It makes me appreciate him more. There are a lot of things I do that he hasn’t really done for himself either. But if we had to be apart, I’m pretty confident that we can learn to manage and be self-sufficient. The internet is an incredible resource that can teach you to do anything you want. That being said, doing everything instead of splitting the tasks into two is a l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/22 05:12 PM |
| 6 | how much is too much calling and texting during the day ? afraid of being perceived overbearing that I think I give the impression that I don't care.In the early days (and honestly today as well), my SO and I didn’t text that much. I liked it better that way because 1) it gave us room to actually miss each other and look forward to the next time we could actually spend time together, 2) I had more opportunities to do or think or read about interesting stuff that would make our actual time together more compelling instead of having nothing to say because we’ve done it all, and 3) spending actual time talking to each other instead of texting j… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/22 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Reflections on dating after 9 years of marriageReally wish I was around when she was! Please let guywithagirlwithasidecar know that I appreciate his feedback 😂 I feel like out of all the RP-isms that we know about what men value, loyalty is the most universally agreed upon one within and outside of the community. It’s that big that even men who aren’t RP aware or naturals have no issue saying they want it. I think the fact that you were willing to take on more for his goals is something incredibly valuable. I feel like a lot of women (past m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/22 04:46 PM |
| 7 | My boyfriend loves my legs more than me...Lmao I just commented something similar on yours 😂 we’re on the same wavelength today! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/22 09:41 PM |
| 30 | My boyfriend loves my legs more than me...Funny, because knowing this, I like to take the time to compliment my man on his gains and how handsome/sexy he is just because I know how rare it is because women usually don’t focus on those things. Just a sliiight tactic on my end I guess 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/22 09:36 PM |
| 4 | Does a man who's a leader mean he's controlling too?Once she had to go back a day early and I put her on the 8 am flight. She looked at the schedule and asked why I didn't put her on the later flight (there were two that were suitable; I would fly nonstop to JFK, she had to connect.) Now, would I have liked to have had a few more hours of her? Sure. but, well - Me: "I could have done that, but the difference is that you would be walking through the parking structure ALONE at 11 pm, rather than 5pm." Her: "You really do think of everything." Then … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/22 06:22 AM |
| 7 | Reflections on dating after 9 years of marriageHappy anniversary! You and your husband’s interactions here in the past was what sold RPW to me years ago. These are such incredible insights that we all could use a reminder of. My “incremental reciprocation” post was all inspired by a single comment you made and subsequent discussion we had about that topic, FYI! I agree it’s one of the strongest ideas we’ve had at RPW for years and I’m not surprised it came from you 🤪 As for the AMA, what do you think it is you do that inspires not only your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/22 02:21 AM |
| 16 | I’m struggling with my weight.A glass of sparkling water before a meal really helps you stop being super ravenous and overeating! Those bubbles, man! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/22 12:51 AM |
| 18 | My best friends of 10+ years had a cold reaction to my engagementSure, but as you get older and pass important milestones like getting engaged and married, things like FB likes or the exact level of how happy someone is for you become so much less important in the grander scheme of things. As long as they’re supportive and there for you, it doesn’t need to be something to fixate on because that’s a waste of energy and happiness for you. Let’s say that they did have a subdued reaction (which again, is perfectly fine IMO). Why do you assume they did so out of m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/22 09:26 PM |
| 4 | 29F and I can't find a hot, educated boyfriendGreat response! u/LivelyLychee, please give her a star! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/22 07:30 PM |
| 75 | My best friends of 10+ years had a cold reaction to my engagementSo you’re mad at them…for congratulating you…giving you a hug…and liking but not “hearting” your facebook post? I think you’re making something out of nothing. It sounds more like you’re being petty more than they are. What they did sounds perfectly fine. Does a facebook heart really mean that much to you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/22 07:29 PM |
| 24 | How can I stop myself from having a fight or flight response when a great guy expresses interest in me?Compared to men, I think it is possible for women to grow to love and be attracted to a partner they didn’t initially consider. These types of women usually enjoy “the chase”, where a guy she’s unsure about eventually wins her over. It can work, and has worked for lots of women. That being said, physical attraction is incredibly important. If this is someone you don’t feel any physical attraction for at all, it’s gonna be hard to be intimate (of course sexually, but also romantically like kissin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/22 02:04 AM |
| 16 | Bad excuse ideas?I remember reading a “bad excuse” field report where she started talking about the weather and it worked for her lol. I think an easy way to create “bad excuses” is to initiate a lot of small-talk. There’s no reason to be chatty like that, so it might signal to the guy that you WANT to talk to him and be around him (which is what we want). You can also ask for favors with things that you don’t REALLY need him to help you with. If you’re at lunch at the same time, you can ask him to watch your st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/22 01:47 AM |
| 3 | Red pearl necklace. (Thought piece)And yet femme lesbians are more likely to be bisexual/queer rather than strictly lesbian compared to masc lesbians, and both femme lesbians and bisexual women are more likely to be the less dominant, more submissive partner in wlw relationships as well, at least in my experience living in an LGBT-friendly area. Even lesbians and queer women themselves tend to categorize each other based on how they dress and look. So maybe for these people (who account for less than around 3.5% of the entire US … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/22 09:54 PM |
| 7 | Red pearl necklace. (Thought piece)Overall, I think u/protocol_apollo is onto something. If you still value traditional relationships and you relate/agree with the views and strategies of RPW, you do have some conservative social beliefs (just not political ones). The long hair and feminine/retro aesthetic reflects that. There’s definitely a sentiment within the militant/radical feminist and leftist communities that making an effort to appeal to the male gaze is unproductive and misguided, if not downright foolish, which is why i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/22 07:05 PM |
| 24 | Ladies, how do you know when a dating prospect isn’t it?Do you give benefits of the doubt? When I was still single, I gave the men I was seeing the benefit of the doubt once if they exhibited questionable behavior. If that behavior continued after communicating about it, I moved on. If the behavior was egregious enough, I wouldn’t even bother to communicate about it to he honest. Or is it once a man exhibits even 1 dealbreaker, you drop him? Depends what you mean by dealbreaker. Anger issues already showing on the first date? I’ll pass. Abuses drugs … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/22 08:54 AM |
| 5 | I'm starting to not like my partner & I'm 18 weeks pregnant...Aw thank you! And yes exactly. I just don’t understand it: if it’s not pleasant, why engage in it? It definitely breeds resentment and I’ve seen it happen in female friendships and hetero couples. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/22 02:00 AM |
| 3 | A Male Perspective: Why to stay away from porn sick menThank you! You will be able to too eventually! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/22 01:59 AM |
| 4 | A Male Perspective: Why to stay away from porn sick menWhat I found most useful about it was that it was a good outlet as a woman with a super high libido, without having to be a part of hookup culture. I was lucky enough that I was too awkward to get laid before I found RPW, and post-RPW I learned to be a lot more mindful of who is actually worth the squeeze. Had I not found an outlet for my libido and had I been socially well-adapted in my adolescence, I would have been VERY messy in my love and sex life lol. I understand a lot of men struggle wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/22 01:48 AM |
| 14 | I'm starting to not like my partner & I'm 18 weeks pregnant...Not a great dynamic, and it’s usually only there when both people are active participants. If both people weren’t, then one of you would have spoken up the second someone said something insulting and dealt with it right away, instead of playing it off as a joke and doubling down with an equally mean-spirited insult. I never understood the appeal of insulting your partner or even your besties as a joke. “Bullying” each other is a terrible way to set the foundation for you to respect him and his l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/22 12:21 AM |
| 16 | A Male Perspective: Why to stay away from porn sick menBy the time I had met my SO, he had already given up porn for 3 years. He still does not touch the stuff at all (which probably contributes to why we “get busy” at least once if not twice or more a day, not that I’m complaining 🤪😂). When we started to get more committed to each other, he told me about this and tbh it’s one of the many reasons why he’s the best man I’ve ever met. I’m not sure if he gave up porn completely because he had a problem with it in his adolescence, but he’s told me that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/22 08:07 PM |
| 36 | Why do some women date/marry guys who aren't good in bed?Well then if you’re compromising, imo you’re getting a submissive man who will bend over backwards to do anything for you, but isn’t good at sex, so he probably doesn’t have those masculine dominant traits most women look for in a man. I don’t actually believe this and I’m just playing devil’s advocate here, but some people would argue that a masculine dominant man inherently cares about his own pleasure far more than his partner’s. A man with dark triad traits (associated with dark masculinity … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/22 09:32 AM |
| 2 | I hate laundry dayIroning’s not amazing, but it’s still less of a bother than folding to me for some reason! I only iron as needed though - if I ironed everything before folding, I would probably cry on laundry day 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/22 06:08 PM |
| 6 | I hate laundry dayLaundry is the WORST. I can spend all day in the kitchen and wash a tornado of dishes no problem, but folding clothes makes me want to curl up into a ball and never emerge lol. Definitely following this thread for suggestions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/22 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Some unfortunate statistics about Racial Preferences in online dating:There’s also the rise of Gen Z women of all ethnicities really liking Kpop or millennials liking Crazy Rich Asians. That’s a wave they could definitely ride. It’s just not productive to complain about being Asian today when Asian men have WAY better odds and depictions now than say 20 or 30 years ago when most people associated Asian men with the talented but sexless Mr. Miyagi, this weirdo in Fargo, or the forever virginal Long Duk Dong in Sixteen Candles. | /r/AllPillDebate | 07/08/22 05:29 PM |
| 22 | I’m turning 30 next year and I feel like crying.Gorgeous advice! Yes, the wall exists. No, you shouldn’t dwell on it so hard or let it make you miserable and stagnant. u/pearlsandstilettos, can we give her a star, please? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/22 04:04 PM |
| 22 | I’m turning 30 next year and I feel like crying.Straight men don’t know how much of a chokehold Stuart Weitzman boots have on us ladies 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/22 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Some unfortunate statistics about Racial Preferences in online dating:All I’m saying is I haven’t seen any jacked, fashionable Asian dude who knows game complaining. Exactly. An Asian guy who was in my uber-dorky Asian Catholic Sunday School did not get many women back in the day. Now he’s super buff, got a few tattoos, permed his hair to get that “e-boy” look (not my taste, but lots of women in their early to mid-twenties like this), and dresses on-trend. He got TikTok famous-ish for making corny anime-themed thirst traps and now I see a lot of hot ladies of all … | /r/AllPillDebate | 06/08/22 06:34 AM |
| 36 | ladies, I wanna ask a question if you please.If people read this stuff and decide it’s not useful or helpful in their lives, they have no obligation to stick around and I have no problem with that. It gets annoying when they (or PPD or any other non-RP sub for that matter) screenshot our posts or crosspost and mock us without taking the time to fully understand us, but I have a pretty damn fulfilling life outside of here so it really doesn’t matter that much to me besides an eye-roll or two. I just don’t go out of my way to look for that s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/22 05:52 AM |
| 5 | Hosting my man’s for the first time soon.. looking for suggestions to make my home comfortable for himYeah I agree not to go shopping for paintings if she’s not the kind of person to own paintings haha. Yes! This is exactly my point. There’s no need to go all out just because this is the first time her man is coming over. But I can totally understand why your man would appreciate a well-designed place as a musician and artist! Making huge decor changes to her place just seems like something they should do together if things get more serious, not something she has to do for him before he’s even s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/22 08:22 AM |
| 6 | Hosting my man’s for the first time soon.. looking for suggestions to make my home comfortable for himI think cozy is different than well-designed or decorated though. OP was concerned that she doesn’t have any paintings on the walls or that it leans on the sparse side. I don’t think men really care for the fact that we fill our places a bunch of knick-knacks or have girly posters with inspirational quotes or Matisse paintings on the walls. It’s a running joke on the internet that men hate how women put so many damn decorative pillows on the bed 😂. This post from an interior designer who’s dealt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/22 08:01 AM |
| 34 | Hosting my man’s for the first time soon.. looking for suggestions to make my home comfortable for himYou don’t have to overthink it. If your space is clean and neat, most men don’t care that much about how beautifully decorated it is. If you want to do it for yourself, then by all means go for it, but I don’t think there’s a straight man on Earth who thought less of his girlfriend because she didn’t have enough decorations. You really don’t need to go out and buy a TV RIGHT THIS INSTANT or any other crazy investment for this one night. Cooking for him is a great idea though! Maybe a recipe that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/22 06:21 AM |
| 3 | Other women as competitionHaha, I just like talking about the theory side of things and will definitely use any excuse to! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/22 08:24 PM |
| 41 | Other women as competitionI want to address the fact that often we as women see other women as competition. I want to propose this has to stop. You’re fighting an uphill battle. The SMP, especially when you’re single, is indeed a competition. This is because women date and feel attraction according to the Pareto Principle: women view the average man as below attractive, and the majority of women are vying for the attention of the top 20% of men. This is because women are hypergamous, meaning that it’s in our nature to wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/22 06:37 PM |
| 3 | HVM and sexual escalationThat’s not really a considerate thing to ask. If the tables were turned and a woman asked her boyfriend to stop initiating sex, the majority of the RP community would find that problematic enough to encourage the boyfriend leave the relationship. I’m glad your relationship is otherwise satisfying. That makes it more likely that you can get through this. But this is an important enough issue that I wouldn’t recommend you to just leave it alone or go with what he wants. Whether that means continui… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 10:11 PM |
| 3 | What is the RedPill Women’s views on men wearing nail polish?Omg yes that’s exactly it. Perfect way to put it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 10:04 PM |
| 31 | RPW Flirting: Bashful Smiles or Witty Quips?Considering that I wrote a post about playful bashfulness, I would say I prefer that one 😂 although there is no ONE perfect RPW approach to anything. Is it where the man flirts while the woman simply smiles with a glint in her eyes and says thank you? I think this could certainly work on quite a few men and for some RPWs, but my personal approach is more heavy on the playfulness than pure shyness/bashfulness. My personal goal was never to be demure and delicate, but more to be femininely vivacio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 10:00 PM |
| 3 | HVM and sexual escalationWell it’s fine for him lol, but he’s not the one with the higher sex drive. Maybe the next time you guys talk about it, you can tell him about why it’s not fine for you in a vulnerable way (ex: “when we don’t have sex, I feel like I’m undesirable and I worry that your love and lust for me is fading. Physical and sexual intimacy is really important to me and I miss spending that kind of time with you.”). If stress is the issue, is it a temporary thing or will he pretty much be this stressed from … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 09:01 AM |
| 3 | HVM and sexual escalationAh damn I’m sorry you’re in a tough scenario. A mismatched libido is not easy at all. Have you guys communicated about it at all? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 04:41 AM |
| 8 | HVM and sexual escalationPlenty of men get lots of sex and have confidence to pursue but are not high value. Of course - where exactly did I say otherwise? Clearly you live in a white suburban bubble Lol, I am not white and I’m not sure why you would think the suburbs would have a more sexually promiscuous culture than urban areas. Suburbs are usually more conservative than huge metropolitan areas… If you are commenting on the fact that I’m speaking from a Western perspective, then yes I absolutely am. IMO, RP theories … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 12:21 AM |
| 11 | HVM and sexual escalationI think you’re both right in a sense I agree. I heard this from u/girlwithasidecar first, but (I’m paraphrasing here) basically she theorized that the best relationship dynamics are when the guy ends up breaking his rules and waiting a bit longer than he normally would because she’s a standout woman, while the woman ends up breaking her rules and having sex a bit before she normally would because the guy is far more irresistible than the other men she’s dated. They usually meet somewhere in the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/22 11:59 PM |
| 5 | HVM and sexual escalationI can understand why that correlation might be a thing. Men who have higher libidos are much more likely to be sexually assertive early on, because they need sex more often and sooner than men with low libidos, so they are more willing to trade off social niceties and politeness about sex if it means a better chance at getting laid (and then if they like the lady, pursue a connection after). Men with lower libidos don’t need sex as often or as fast, so they can focus more on making sure the woma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/22 11:29 PM |
| 5 | HVM and sexual escalationAw so glad I could be helpful to you! And yes that’s exactly what I’m talking about! Esp. in the early stages, you don’t even need to get him anything too crazy. He tells you he loves a specific type of coffee? Boom pick some up for the both of you. He mentioned something funny? Get him a little trinket and it could become an inside joke! Then watch how he responds! It can be a gift, but it can also be how he devotes himself to make your life easier on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/22 10:56 PM |
| 4 | HVM and sexual escalationGlad you liked them! I also find that to be the most nuanced approach esp. in the modern age with casual sex. It also allows women to pick which strategy makes more sense to them instead of a one-size-fits-all “NO SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE HARLOTS!” or “HAVE SEX ON THE FIRST MEETING OR BE A PRUDE SPINSTER!” extremes. I’m with you on the old-fashioned dating rules not working so well for me personally. The guys I really wanted had enough options of attractive and feminine women willing to sleep with the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/22 08:50 PM |
| 13 | HVM and sexual escalationI would say that’s more normal than not. If you check out those posts I linked, that kind of behavior is typical of Category 2 and Category 3 men, while the uber-respectful, doesn’t bring up sex or escalate until you do types are more associated with Category 4 men. Your main challenge is to 1) decide if you prefer Category 3 men or Category 4 men, and 2) if you like Category 3 men better, you need to learn how to distinguish Category 2 men from Category 3 men, and avoid Category 2 men at all co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/22 07:50 PM |
| 45 | HVM and sexual escalationMen want sex. If they’re attracted to you, and confident enough to try (and most HVM who are in high demand are), they will at least try their luck. If they’re too pushy and insistent before you’re comfortable or sufficiently into them enough to want to have sex with them, then it’s probably not a good match. But if you “drop” every guy who tries his luck (and is respectful after you decline), you’re probably gonna end up with a dating pool of only guys who are either not very confident or do no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/22 07:18 PM |
| 10 | Why do I constantly feel undesirable?While desirability starts with physical attractiveness, that alone will never be enough to make you a desirable long term partner for a worthwhile man. I suspect you know this deep down: looks are only your foot in the door and a ticket to the party. It alone does not secure you a healthy mate or happiness in the long run. If your looks are all you feel like you can offer, it’s understandable why you feel undesirable and unlovable. You feel “like there’s a hole in your heart” because right now, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/22 06:54 PM |
| 2 | What is the RedPill Women’s views on men wearing nail polish?Whatever gets your rocks off. Painted nails just turn me and many of the women here off. Why exactly is that such a problem? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/22 01:48 AM |
| 2 | What is the RedPill Women’s views on men wearing nail polish?Sure, and I could shave my head, purposefully draw on a unibrow, and never remove any body hair ever again if I just liked it and wanted to. And I’m sure if I did, most of the men who are attracted to me now, including my SO, would find me repulsive and undatable. I never said that those men don’t have the right to do paint their nails. What I am saying is that people absolutely make judgments about you based on how you look and choose to style yourself, and that will always exist, whether you l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/22 06:30 AM |
| 15 | hubby said he wants some cologne!Tom Ford Ombre Leather smells like a bad boy wearing a leather jacket. My SO doesn’t love wearing cologne or fragrance and usually finds them overpowering. Long story short, now I smell like a bad boy wearing a leather jacket sometimes because it’s SOO good that if I can’t smell it on him then I’ll wear it on a girl’s night out 😂 it’s very masculine though so don’t worry about it being too unisex or feminine for your hubby! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 07:58 AM |
| 13 | Has following Laura Doyle's advice actually worked for you?I like Laura Doyle, but my go-to RPW book has always been For Women Only, which is more like, “men are like this, so this is why ____ is the best strategy”. I still like the overall message of Surrendered Wife, but I agree with you that sometimes it’s a little too covert for me. I definitely prefer asking “Can I/you/we…” over “I want”, and I agree with you that “I can’t…” just sounds disobedient or lazy. The one I do like is “ouch” because to me it does convey hurt, albeit in a cuter way 😂 I agr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 12:02 AM |
| 60 | Should I fake having friends?No. That’s an awful idea and it makes me think there are deeper underlying issues you have here. Your boyfriend probably wants you to make friends because 1) it’s good for you and 2) it’s unhealthy to channel all of your emotional and companionship needs onto him. Not only is that a big burden for him, but it leaves you with no support system in the case that you guys break up. The way this is set up makes it incredibly easy to be codependent, and that’s just not a productive relationship model.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/22 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Snowflake Dreams, or why I do not fuck with these white girlsLol I clicked on it and it seems like he’s a biiiiiig fan of Paul Dano’s Riddler. Suddenly everything makes sense 🤦♀️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/22 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Snowflake Dreams, or why I do not fuck with these white girlsIdk why waxing poetic on a women’s forum is so compelling. Go channel this shit in your creative writing GE class or something! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/22 06:42 PM |
| 7 | Girl Game: What are ways you invite men to chase you?No problem!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/22 06:16 AM |
| 54 | Girl Game: What are ways you invite men to chase you?“If he wanted to, he would” is a logical fallacy - specifically the fallacy of the single cause - that I’m, quite frankly, sick of hearing in the female dating space. It’s bad advice that usually leaves good women twiddling their thumbs and shouting into the void, “Why isn’t anyone into me?!?”. The reason why someone doesn’t do something isn’t always necessarily because they don’t want to. There could be a million reasons why people don’t do what they want to. In this specific example, men may n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/22 05:24 AM |
| 82 | What is the RedPill Women’s views on men wearing nail polish?This is my biggest ick for straight Gen Z/younger millennial men. What I hate the most about it is that, for the most part, it’s all just a virtue signal. “Look at me! Aren’t I just SOOOOO comfortable with my sexuality like how you girl boss slay queens want us to be? I don’t have ANY toxic masculinity in me like a good male feminist should! No, I never had any interest in punk/alt music, women’s nail art, or flamboyant style before 2020, but something just magically switched in me at the same t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/22 11:00 AM |
| 3 | Red and green flags for women:O I was just about to link to this but you already did!! Thank you!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/22 11:25 PM |
| 1 | First real relationship, don't know what's normal and what to expectI think the main disconnect that we’re having is that what I view as “assertive and not aggressive”, you still view as “aggressive”. My man has done his fair share of high finance and sales too, and without revealing too much about his business, he is working primarily for his own interest. I know how intense and heated that type of job can get, and how high the stakes are. He has to be assertive, demanding, and decisive enough to make good deals in his favor, lead the people he’s in charge of, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/22 11:22 PM |
| 4 | First real relationship, don't know what's normal and what to expectYes, I’ve long realized I’m quite verbose 😂 But these are complicated topics, and it isn’t ever as easy as masculinity = aggression or that you are wrong and I’m right. I end up agreeing with you on quite a few of these points, but disagree on some of the nuances. That’s why it requires a bit (okay, or a lot 😂) more explanation and analysis on my end. Also because it’s fun :P The thing about seeing respect as an automatic “yes” or “no” completely dependent on the man, without acknowledging that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/22 10:05 AM |
| 7 | First real relationship, don't know what's normal and what to expectMasculinity is a lot of things, and some of those things are unflattering or bad for relationships. Absolutely. My point is that our best strategy is to find a balance somewhere between the two, instead of being ALL about pure alpha masculinity or ALL about super nice and cushy relationship type things. Both will land us somewhere we most likely don’t want to be. I’m not in the business of telling women what they should want, as veering too far from natural urges when choosing a mate is a recipe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/22 08:53 AM |
| 7 | First real relationship, don't know what's normal and what to expectHm, I’m sensing you’re talking about my response. I don’t know if you’re talking just in general or about what I said in particular, but any use of “real men are…” statements have always rubbed me the wrong way and that’s not what I meant at all. However, a foundational part of RPW theory has always stressed that looking for a pure alpha, or high testosterone alone in a man is, is simply not a very productive strategy for women who want lifelong mates. Like sidebar post I linked to in my comment… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/22 07:13 AM |
| 20 | First real relationship, don't know what's normal and what to expectAggression =/= masculinity, at least if we’re talking about the kind of masculinity that we strive for here at RPW. My SO is also Middle Eastern, but what drew me to him was that unlike the men in my own family, he NEVER behaved aggressively towards me. While he’s still incredibly assertive, excellent at persuasion, and unwavering in his beliefs, he has never in our entire relationship yelled at me, argued with me, or used below-the-belt remarks to intentionally hurt me. Instead, he has always b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/22 01:20 AM |
| 3 | Unsure about marrying my fiancéFirst of all, dispose of this notion that there’s such thing as “the one”. In reality, there are hundreds of people (okay, or dozens if you’re in a less populated area) who you could meet that would make decent to great partners. Commitment and love isn’t really something that just happens automatically. Even with the right person, you still have make the conscious choice to love them and put in the work to nurture that relationship. Otherwise, you’ll end up thinking that the grass is greener on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/22 07:10 PM |
| 5 | Fitness…I’ve been eating at my TDEE maintenance or a slight deficit (so around 1200-1400 range) for YEARS. Never have I lost my period, or went below a healthy BMI, or gotten below 20% body fat from a DEXA scan, or had a doctor tell me that I needed to gain weight or increase my daily calories. This is in conjunction with IF as well. Perhaps it’s because I’m Asian, and studies have found that the BMR of Asian adults of healthy weight is overestimated by widely used prediction equations. All that to say,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/22 07:16 AM |
| 5 | Fitness…Yeah I don’t understand the push for 2000-2500 calories for women. Most women are sedentary-light exercise and with the majority of women being overweight, eating at a slight deficit isn’t bad advice unless you’re trying to bulk up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/22 02:09 AM |
| 6 | Fitness…What? Most TDEE calculators have told me I need around 1300-1400 calories for maintenance at 4’11. Just 1800 would put me at rapid weight gain, let alone 2000 to 2500. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 10:23 PM |
| 10 | There’s a reason why no branch of the US military has officers start as Captain…because being a Captain is earned.I think you are right that you can’t always identify an abusive person from the get-go or even after being with them for a long time. But I think the person you responded to is also right that at the end of the day it is still solely your responsibility to stay vigilant about your own safety and wellbeing, and recognize what is and isn’t acceptable behavior and adjust accordingly. Is it the victim’s fault he/she got abused? No. Does it matter whose fault it is if the pragmatic goal is for the vi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 09:25 AM |
| 11 | There’s a reason why no branch of the US military has officers start as Captain…because being a Captain is earned.I don’t have a horse in this race, but I’m pretty sure they meant marrying and staying with someone abusive was the “bad choice”, not leaving the relationship haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 07:13 AM |
| 3 | I grew my hair for my boyfriend, and now I cut it shortNot sure why this thing in particular is that hard to believe. I grew out my hair for my SO during our first year of dating because he told me he thought I would look good with long hair. I did it, he loved it, and it gave me a pleasant confidence boost. I think plenty of other women would do the same for a bf/husband they really loved and respected. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 06:33 AM |
| 8 | Fitness…TRP sites for men have many very specific fitness recommendations for quickly getting “cut”/in shape, and I was wondering… are there any recommendations like that for women? The founder of TRP wrote this in-depth post for us about the science of gaining and losing weight and had a lot of actionable advice for those wanting to lose a lot of weight! It starts off with some tough love, but overall is a super helpful read. Still, I don’t think there are any ways to lose and KEEP OFF the weight quick… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 02:39 AM |
| 9 | Am I not good enough?6’0+ is a blessing to men, 6’0+ is a curse to women. And it’s usually a curse of their own creation. Many men would do anything if they could have a Victoria’s Secret model, who are all 5’9+. The issue is that significantly tall women have (understandable but nevertheless unproductive) issues with finding men who aren’t taller than them attractive. That’s what the curse is, not the desirability of tall women. This is also true. I wonder exactly if one can estimate kids expected height simply fro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 08:22 AM |
| 19 | Am I not good enough?No problem at all! I can understand why you feel that way about modeling. But it’s interesting that you can say this about yourself: I like to pride myself on my education and intellect (which I actually worked for), physical stature and beauty (genetic) is just a huge bonus. But yet you cannot connect the mental bridge that the same also applies to men. They also have no control over their physical stature, but are valuable for things they actually worked for like their education and intellect.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 08:09 AM |
| 9 | Am I not good enough?On one hand, attraction is not negotiable. On the other hand, you have already signaled an unwillingness to leave your family and your country. You have to think of your options as tradeoffs: If you want to stay with family and in your country for religious purposes, your chances of finding a high quality tall man are going to be significantly lower and that will most likely be something you will have to compromise on. If you want a tall man no matter what, your best odds are probably to relocat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 07:50 AM |
| 53 | Am I not good enough?I also regularly hear a friend chiding me that I will not find someone because I am too tall and men only like petite and short women. This is hurtful because height is not something anyone can work on. I can understand why this is hurtful and discouraging, but even in your own post, you have proof that this is simply untrue: and men who ask me are almost always shorter and get told I am pretty quite often by both men and women. There ARE men who are interested in you, even if they are shorter. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 07:10 AM |
| 4 | the dating scene these days is making me feel like I'll never find love and I'm only 21, what can I do ?That definitely makes sense if you guys are in a big age-gap relationship! There’s a bit of taboo around it so I can understand why this works for you guys! I do think it has more to do with the intellect you gained from your career and education rather than those two itself that he values more, if that makes sense? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/22 03:39 AM |
| 8 | the dating scene these days is making me feel like I'll never find love and I'm only 21, what can I do ?Yeah, the mistake that women with good educations and careers tend to make is that they lead with it, expecting it to be the thing that wows the guy. Like you said, you can pursue higher education and a good career for OTHER things: stability in the case of disaster, your own sense of accomplishment, doing things that you actually enjoy, etc - but not for the sole purpose of attracting a man. But you can still be a doctor or a lawyer or an engineer or whatever else, but you have to know how to a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/22 12:10 AM |
| 12 | the dating scene these days is making me feel like I'll never find love and I'm only 21, what can I do ?It happens more often than you would think! I see it like this: a woman’s good career and/or higher education may not be THE selling point for a HVM the way it is the other way around, but it’s certainly a great vehicle for her to meet HVM in her industry with shared values and life goals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/22 11:33 PM |
| 24 | the dating scene these days is making me feel like I'll never find love and I'm only 21, what can I do ?Also I’m a third year medical student and I’m afraid no high value man would want me because being a stay at home wife is not an option for me. High value men are not a monolith. Some may want a SAHM, others want wives and partners who can contribute to the family too. Even more prefer something somewhere in between. A lot of women hear “men don’t place a lot of importance on women’s career” here or in other RP circles and mistakenly take that to mean, “Don’t even THINK about having a career if … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/22 11:15 PM |
| 10 | What am I doing wrong?He must be Catholic You put a lot of effort into your looks and try to look high class - this might turn faithful men off as it comes off as materialistic. I’ve also noticed this. Whenever my mom successfully drags me to mass and I get to people watch, I’ve noticed that all the young brides and new moms are not dressed like old money Pinterest boards or LA cool girl aesthetic inspo or NYC avant garde cool, even though she goes to a Catholic church in a big metro area. They’re almost all in girl(… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/22 06:42 AM |
| 17 | How can I find a quality partner as an introvert?I’m not really part of any social club, or ever joined activities where I would meet people. I do have hobbies, but none of them involve socializing. So change that. Go join some extracurriculars. Preferably not something super female-dominant like fashion club or kpop club. Consider greek life, or an academic co-ed frat (pre-med and business majors often have fraternities). Make friends with women who have vibrant social lives that will invite you to get-togethers where you can meet the men in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 12:08 AM |
| 25 | I am F32, divorced. Live with parents. I recently started an affair with my neighbor M40 widower, single dad. I love the child and am hoping it becomes something, but the dad doesn’t want to marry again. Do you think it would change with time ?It seems like OP is from India, where living with your parents until you get married is pretty much the norm. That isn’t the thing that makes it seem like her life isn’t in order. What seems like more of a pressing issue is that OP is posting on forums to meet up with strangers for gangbangs and hookups. This isn’t really productive behavior if you’re trying to look for a committed relationship, u/Creepy_Speaker1852. If any potential partner finds out about this, it pretty much eliminates your c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/22 06:06 AM |
| 4 | Top 5 books for rpw?My favorite RPW book by far is For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhan. There’s a lot of chapter summaries for it in our sidebar/wiki! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/22 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Outside of the normal "romance" things, what is something that your man does for you that melts your heart? I have a weird one!I know right?! He’s the best haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/22 06:44 PM |
| 38 | Finding men that are virginsAnd then you say a “man who has the balls to be a protective provider.” That’s shaming language, and it shows your selfishness. A man protecting and providing for you isn’t about him having balls. It’s about you inspiring that in him. But you’re so focused on finding the perfect man that you will crush him under the weight of your expectations and then you will shame him for failing to meet those expectations. Beautifully put! u/pearlsandstilettos, can we give her a star please? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/22 05:24 AM |
| 11 | Outside of the normal "romance" things, what is something that your man does for you that melts your heart? I have a weird one!We were on vacation recently and I tripped in the middle of the street and scraped my knee. I’m a klutz so I wasn’t too fazed, but he immediately found a nearby pharmacy, got down to the floor to take a look at it, cleaned the wound, and put on a bandaid. All while he was in his fancy clothes because we were walking to our dinner reservations. I was swooning like I did when we first met and really it just made me feel like he really cares about me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/22 02:30 AM |
| 2 | Living together and the “wife experience”Guys can just flip it and say “ok, cool. Then no husband privileges”. Yes. And you also have to think about the type of guy who says yes to a bad deal. Exactly why is he putting up with it, when there are beautiful and desirable women who ARE happy to do “wife privileges” (blegh, I just hate the concept. It’s literally just being a good partner lol) for the right men? Is it because he cannot get those kinds of women, or most women at all, so he will accept whatever deal he can get? (Of course I’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/22 08:04 AM |
| 12 | how do I get the energy to dress up?If you can’t tell, I love sundresses. One of the best things about them is that they’re incredibly low-effort but they make you look feminine and put-together. You literally don’t have to think AT ALL. Grab a sundress, put on some cute sneakers or sandals or whatever, and you’re done. It’s truly the easiest way ever to look nice. And it’s much more comfortable than jeans and a t-shirt IMO. Now, if you’re too lazy to do your makeup or your hair, find easy, simple routines that aren’t a chore to g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/22 07:55 AM |
| 52 | Living together and the “wife experience”I have never been a big fan of the “wife privileges” theory tbh. Saving “wife duties” for when you become a wife, to me, just seems like withholding the very tools that will make him want to wife you up in the first place. A little counter-intuitive. That’s a big reason why I wrote a post about why I find that one idiom about buying cows and free milk outdated for our modern age and less effective than it used to be. Not saying that you should jump in headfirst with a blindfold on. If you don’t … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/22 08:56 AM |
| 60 | Using the childlike demeanor to attract men -- do other women see you as competition?If you’re acting like an airhead or a ditz, it makes sense why other people, not just women, will socially isolate you. It’s annoying. Many men don’t find that attractive either. People just don’t want to be around someone who makes them cringe. Remember: the goal is to be childlike, not childish. To me, childlike doesn’t mean acting like an exaggerated uwu baby when you’re 20+. That’s just off-putting. Instead, see how it’s defined by that post: Wives need to be feminine, radiant but also funct… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/22 07:17 PM |
| 1 | keeping a man past a few dateseveryone likes to be chosen YES. Find ways to illustrate to your man that he is special to you and he will SWOON. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 06:25 PM |
| 8 | Alpha Widowhood - A GuideIt worked for me! My ex was a Cordon Bleu-trained chef and I really admired that about him. Once we broke up, I learned how to cook and that really helped me get over him AND make me more attractive to the men I dated after him 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 06:11 PM |
| 2 | High SMV therefore Low Perceived RMV? Thoughts and advice plsAhh, glad it’s helpful for you! I love linking to old posts bc sometimes other people are so damn eloquent 😂 even past me seems a lot smarter than current me sometimes LOL | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 06:00 PM |
| 1 | High SMV therefore Low Perceived RMV? Thoughts and advice plsNo problem! Good luck and hope everything works out for you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 05:59 PM |
| 17 | Hook up culture at uni and finding a boyfriendI agree with you. Idk about everyone else here, but I was BROKE when I was in college, and I worked multiple part-time jobs to just to live paycheck to paycheck. It just seemed pretty unfair for me, especially if I was the one who chose to date college age men in my same predicament, to expect men to take someone he barely knew out for dinner. If I was in his shoes and had to pay for dinner every single time I was interested in someone, I would have probably went bankrupt and got evicted from my… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 05:53 PM |
| 40 | High SMV therefore Low Perceived RMV? Thoughts and advice plsI do think I am unfairly judged as having low RMV before people get to know me because of my high SMV. It is YOUR responsibility to show to the men you are interested in that you have a high RMV and are worthy of commitment because women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment. You cannot expect him to take a look at you and just know or assume that you do, because RMV is built upon the ACTIONS required of a good partner. Besides being socially and sexually conservat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 06:36 PM |
| 9 | keeping a man past a few datesIs there a list of the sort of gestures that men like? There isn’t, but I would love to see one! It could really be anything that demonstrates how thoughtful, kind, nurturing, considerate, loyal, responsible, and/or submissive you are. My first “gesture” in my relationship was that I offered to cook my man dinner and surprised him with all the foods he told me he loved in passing, as a thank you for him taking me out on those first few dates and driving across our city to pick me up on multiple … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 12:39 AM |
| 23 | keeping a man past a few datesWhat worked for me was Incremental Reciprocation. Basically, you showcase your RMV instead of leading with only your SMV by doing a small but thoughtful gesture for the man you’re dating. You then watch to see if he returns your gesture by doing an equal or better investment into you as well. You then do a slightly bigger gesture, then so does he, and the cycle continues until you are both very invested and committed to each other. If at any point a man stops investing in you or doesn’t invest i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/22 11:45 PM |
| 13 | discussion - following the leaderI follow my man because he has shown he has my well-being at heart. He’s shown me plenty of times that not only does he make decisions because he’s looking out for me, but that he makes the right decision almost all of the time. Especially in times where I’m anxious or initially unsure of what he suggests, I almost always end up realizing later on that his suggestion was the best way to go. So if he wanted me to take on more work via veggies in the garden or chickens in the farm or more hours in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/22 11:35 PM |
| 2 | I feel like such a failure as a 30 year old single womanThere’s a big difference between a 19 year old woman and a 32 year old man, but there’s much less difference between a 30 year old woman and a 43 year old man. You are both solidly adults with adult interests and adult goals. Sure, he may like different music than you do, or use different slang, or have different hobbies, but those things don’t really mean much in terms of compatibility. If anything, women purposefully date older men BECAUSE of whatever difference they have with younger men - th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 06:34 PM |
| 3 | I feel like such a failure as a 30 year old single womanIf you’re going to date an older man, he is going to have to be extremely high value I wouldn’t say “extremely”, because there are not that many Elon Musks and Jeff Bezos out there, but yes, you would definitely be dating older men BECAUSE they are more successful, established, experienced with dating and life, and mature than younger men. If you choose to date an older men who is no better than a young man, you made a horrible choice and you also should consider why that kind of guy was a prosp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 06:17 PM |
| 7 | I feel like such a failure as a 30 year old single womanYeah, not only is desperation not a good look, it also makes you overlook things you shouldn’t. Older men are definitely more likely to want to settle down. A lot of PEOPLE, men and women, nowadays don’t even think about settling down until they hit thirty. Many otherwise good guys in their late 20s would balk at women that talk about marriage and kids too soon. Older men usually have already lived through the “young and free” days, and are looking for comfort and security too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 06:08 PM |
| 47 | I feel like such a failure as a 30 year old single womanI feel like no man my age would want to be with me when he can be with someone younger. I think your anxiety is making you see the worst rather than reality. While age is certainly a consideration for a lot of men, your age also isn’t a deal breaker for a lot of men your age and older. If you’re REALLY stressed about this, then consider dating older men. You will still be younger to them, and there was an entire thread today about the other benefits of dating an older man. If god forbid somethin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 06:15 AM |
| 7 | Do we talk to our partners about the Red Pill?Yeah I know what you mean. I think that’s why I like talking about these things as hypotheticals. I don’t tell him, “don’t you love how submissive I am to you?” because he would probably look at me like I was crazy. But we literally had a discussion today about how women who force themselves to be extremely independent (not women who are innately independent) to fit the current societal mold are missing out on one of the best pleasures of being a woman - being taken care and protected of by a ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 06:01 AM |
| 23 | Do we talk to our partners about the Red Pill?The beginning of your relationship and how you view your man sounds A LOT like mine and how I see my man! Not surprisingly, it seems like we currently have a similar approach. We’ve been together for years, but I haven’t told him a thing about how active I am on here and I don’t really plan to. He doesn’t know what the red pill is besides the general media interpretation of it (“red pill good blue pill bad”). And honestly, I plan to keep it that way. Selfish or not, he doesn’t NEED to know that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 05:37 AM |
| 2 | Comparisons between traditional women/life to Gilead-- how accurate are they?Ah got it! Thank you for the correction! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 06:08 PM |
| 4 | I snooped on boyfriend to find out about potential boy's trip...I wasn’t trying to make a judgment of her situation. I just needed to know because my advice for man she has built a family with will be vastly different than my advice for someone she has recently started dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 06:08 PM |
| 4 | I snooped on boyfriend to find out about potential boy's trip...It’s a bit unclear. He could just be hyping the guy up and he never explicitly talks about wanting to meet up with women. But it’s pointless to speculate really. Just talk to your boyfriend! I hope things work out for you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 06:41 AM |
| 10 | I snooped on boyfriend to find out about potential boy's trip...Morality and mental health aside, there’s a BIG practical reason why snooping rarely works in your favor. It’s similar to a cop who illegally gathers critical evidence, but can’t use it in a court of law and has to waste time finding OTHER ways to solve his case, when there might not be any. That’s you right now - you can’t tell him any of the things you’ve learned from his messages, or else he can turn it into how you seriously violated his privacy and that your relationship has serious trust i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 05:55 AM |
| 26 | I snooped on boyfriend to find out about potential boy's trip...I think the best bet is to talk to him about this. Open up to him and tell him that you’re feeling anxious about his boy’s trip. Tell him that you know there’s gonna be a lot of beautiful women there who are gonna be all dressed up (or not so dressed…) and partying in a sexualized way, and that makes you feel scared that something might happen between him and one of them. That you know that a lot of stuff tends to go down in Brazil where men travel to for hookups and beautiful women, and being h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 05:35 AM |
| 16 | I snooped on boyfriend to find out about potential boy's trip...Is your boyfriend your baby’s father? That makes a difference regarding how to go about this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 05:18 AM |
| 4 | Comparisons between traditional women/life to Gilead-- how accurate are they?The Viet Cong and NVA women who fought in the Vietnam War were, for the most part, relegated to only fulfilling support duties. They were restricted from direct combat with American troops. They were also under a communist regime that, unlike democratic countries whose borders have also been breached like Ukraine, uniquely required women to enlist alongside men. The women who served South Vietnam forces were vastly only trained to be nurses and office clerks. The Women’s Armed Forces Corps was a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Comparisons between traditional women/life to Gilead-- how accurate are they?Yep. If RBG was able to bring her feminist ideals to the Supreme Court and later openly lament about making Roe v. Wade about the right to privacy (“Roe isn’t really about the woman’s choice, is it?” Ginsburg said. “It’s about the doctor’s freedom to practice…it wasn’t woman-centered, it was physician-centered.”), then why is it so incomprehensible that Barrett does the same regarding bringing her beliefs to the table? This is what ALL justices do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 01:13 AM |
| 2 | I got married !Congratulations!! Wishing for the best for you and your husband 💖 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/22 11:35 PM |
| 7 | Comparisons between traditional women/life to Gilead-- how accurate are they?Not to mention that the way Margaret Atwood intentionally mimicked the jargon of real-life Catholic and Christian communities in her book resulted in a lot of hostility towards women who prefer traditional, religious, and/or male-led lifestyles. Thanks to that book, there’s outrage and disgust towards women who choose to see their husbands as the “head” of the family, due to religious reasons or not. Saying that idea out loud today is just unimaginable. Her book was also based on the (admittedly… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/22 11:26 PM |
| 7 | A series of questions on standards, meeting HVM, and making sure that the relationship is strong, healthy, and mutually beneficial.I agree with everything here except for her working out too much. If her idea of an HVM is someone who also dedicates a lot of time on their fitness, then her routine might be perfectly fine. Such men also won’t hold it against her for eating and cooking clean, because a man with a 10% or less body fat percentage is probably not banking on her making hearty pies and potatoes (stews have great potential though 😉). My SO is this way and the hearty, balanced meals I used to make for myself were too… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/22 10:08 PM |
| 3 | His current girlfriend aborted his baby twiceHi Delicate. You are one of my favorite contributors here, and I know that you are an incredibly bright and insightful woman. I hope you know that I say this not to be mean, insensitive, or to put you down, but because I genuinely want the best for you. You are headed down a dead-end track with this man. If the timeline is correct, this is the guy from your post where you wondered if he was too good for you. Even from the early days where you didn’t know him much, you had already placed him on a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/22 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Why Buy the Cow When He Can Get the Milk For Free...? Right...?Sure, and that’s why there’s no one size fits all. I’m sure what works for you works great, but this is what works for me and many other women here as well. RPW is not a strict tradcon sub where cohabitation is off-limits. Some people here WANT to see what living with their partner is ACTUALLY gonna be like instead of just working off of people on their best behavior, before committing their entire lives to someone and potentially being blindsided by something unexpected and stuck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/22 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Why Buy the Cow When He Can Get the Milk For Free...? Right...?On the flip side, why would someone get married to you if you have not personally shown them that you are able to consistently do the things they expect in a partner? You can pinky promise that you will, but lots of people in the modern age have realized that that’s not enough of a guarantee, for both men and women. Similarly, if he isn’t protecting and providing care for you in some form before marriage, I’d argue that he probably won’t do the same after marriage as well. Someone here once said… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/22 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementI personally don’t agree with purposefully withholding sex to make a man fall in love with you (because too many will decide he won’t want to wait that long like you’ve experienced), but there is definitely merit to encourage as much emotional bonding as possible before sex inevitably comes. I wouldn’t stress too much about the Incremental Reciprocation stuff if it’s just for first dates. I find that that kind of stuff is most useful from Date 3 and onwards, because that’s when it starts being “… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/22 11:15 PM |
| 4 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementIf a conversation is boring I may throw something wild in there just to make it interesting. Sometimes it’s sexual. AAAAAND we found the problem! Of course they’re gonna think you want sex NOW if you’re the one bringing it up! Making the conversation sexual before he does gets interpreted by most men as “Yeah, this girl is DTF and wants to hook up ASAP.” A lot of guys usually like this and describe me as “different and fun to talk to” Gee, I wonder why 😂 Of course he likes it when he thinks a gi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/22 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementGlad you found it helpful! Good luck with everything! I’m sure you will figure this out! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/22 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementAw shucks thank you so much! Haha that’s why I think linking to stuff is the best healthy medium 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/22 07:02 PM |
| 33 | Fashion Advice for masculine looking women?It sounds like you are some type of a “Gamine” body-type, which you can learn more about in this super-informative video. In it, they describe the various different Gamine subtypes (according to the McJimsey System, not the Kibbe system). From what you describe, it sounds like you might be a Compact subtype. Examples of Compact Gamines are Hayden Panettiere and Simone Biles. They say many modern Olympic gymnasts are Compact Gamines. The video goes into A LOT of helpful detail on what kind of clo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/22 06:57 PM |
| 48 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementThanks for linking to my post! I was in the middle of doing a full summary of it for OP until I saw you linked it and saved me that effort 😂 u/LeashAggression, from that post, here is where your main issue lies: The order of these men roughly corresponds to how desirable they are. You are realizing that the men you find desirable are men who are not willing to commit to you without sex first. This is likely because these men are desirable enough to enough other women that they don’t NEED to give… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 11:33 PM |
| 38 | So what exactly is a HVM?It is the point where I have the most friction with this community because I am reading so many posts which are all over the place. That’s because it’s such a general term that means something different to every person who uses it. You might find other people’s definitions of HVM baffling compared of what you want, and that’s okay. But keep in mind that other women might think exactly the same thing about what you want, and that’s okay too. So what exactly is a HVM? Think of HVM as a catch-all t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 08:52 AM |
| 10 | So what exactly is a HVM?Yep! Particularly the stuff about The Categories of Men and Their Risks. OP seems like she has a clear preference for Category 4 men, which is absolutely a viable RPW strategy. However, so is having a preference for Category 3 men - it just depends on the woman and her preferences. The post about deciding when to have sex with a man, though a bit unrelated, goes more in-depth about the categories of men and links a lot of related RP theory for each category. Her preferring a mix of beta traits w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 08:34 AM |
| 3 | Will I be able to find a masculine man?There are a few people telling you that RP is about the biological differences between men and women. While this is more or less true, RPW is a toolbox that ANYONE can use. If you want to use RPW to learn more about femininity and what makes a desirable woman and female partner, it is absolutely a resource that could be useful for you. The only reservation I have is that none of us have any experience with what it’s like dating as a transgender woman. We don’t know how men react to their potenti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Male Vulnerability: a hot topic on redditI think it is more important for a man to be respected by his woman than even to be loved. That’s one of the most foundational pieces of RPW theory that we try to show here - sidebar material. A lot of women approach relationships by bringing to the table what they want to receive from it, not realizing that men want different (and often complementary) things from women. Yes, a woman’s love is amazing. But her respect is vital. In order to maintain that, I absolutely think men are wise to want t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/22 05:01 AM |
| 4 | EyeMe as a tool for improving appearance?Not all men are the same so everyone has a different preference. To an extent, sure. Some guys like bodacious goth girls, and others like amazonian-looking swimsuit models. Others like feminine girl-next-doors, and even more others like refined and sophisticated women. But to be clear, it’s quite obvious that all these different types of women that men usually prefer are conventionally attractive in some way. They all display markers of femininity, health, and youth. That’s because those three t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/22 08:55 AM |
| 4 | EyeMe as a tool for improving appearance?Says RP and RPW. Telling everyone that they’re beautiful is incredibly unproductive if their goal is to find a desirable mate, especially as a woman, whose SMV depends much more on her physical appearance than men’s does. Though ratings have their pros and cons and may not necessarily the best way to approach self-improvement, there is absolutely a difference between what’s generally considered beautiful and what’s not. Knowing where you stand is the best way to know what men you are most likely… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/22 05:44 AM |
| 6 | Which is better- husband with low or high body count?Lol, well keep in mind there are WAY more tradcon and religious women here with tradcon and religious values than the general population. A lot of young modern women (myself included) do not share those values, which is probably why your experience with women IRL isn’t matching up with the responses you’re seeing here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/22 09:03 PM |
| 14 | Is it rude to ask for a few/possibly several drink refills on a date?lavender lemonade or raspberry tea Yum. Sounds delicious. But to answer your question: I worry about being tone deaf/uncourteous on a date since the man is paying. After more than a few, it can definitely be interpreted that way by some men, especially if they’re alcoholic drinks that run from $10-$20 nowadays. If it’s a first or second date where you’re just getting to know each other, it may make him think you’re just using him to get a free meal drink ticket when you keep ordering drinks and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/22 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Please help me understand when to STFU.It’s just difficult to change when things I say will be heard with ears from the past, if you get what I mean. I’m not sure I do. Do you mean that you have brought this up in a less-than-productive way in the past, and now he reacts badly to it no matter what? I don’t want to get annoyed by not getting what I want You shouldn’t get annoyed, because that’s entitlement. You can want whatever you want in the world, but unless you figure out a way to make the other person want to give it to you, the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/22 12:39 AM |
| 7 | Which is better- husband with low or high body count?Moderate maybe? A man who is capable of getting female sexual attraction and interaction (aka what men want out of the sexual marketplace transaction) because he’s attractive and knows what he’s doing, but doesn’t have too extremely high of a body count where monogamy and commitment become incompatible with who he is as a person (aka the lifelong bachelor playboys and Casanovas). The latter are out of my depth - my girl game is good, not THAT good 😂. For guys with too low of an N-count, I start … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/22 12:05 AM |
| 2 | Please help me understand when to STFU.Remember: neediness and clinginess is attachment + entitlement. Wanting to feel more attached to your partner without the entitlement will seldom be a bad thing with the right man. I think the best way to address that is to come from a place of vulnerability and to bring your man your problem, not your solution. Instead of telling him that he needs to spend more time with you or accuse him of of failing to give you enough attention, you tell him how you’ve been feeling a bit lonely lately and th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/22 05:32 AM |
| 2 | One more reason to keep marriages intactI’m in the same boat as you there. Don’t worry about the rant. It’s absolutely necessary to show that we aren’t all a “hurr durr gun bad republican fault” monolith. Like the point in your post, why are we not focusing on violence prevention by mitigating the problems caused by broken families? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 07:24 AM |
| 2 | One more reason to keep marriages intactIt definitely seems like it could be headed that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 07:13 AM |
| 3 | One more reason to keep marriages intactAgreed. And I’m not even completely against certain kinds of gun control. I just don’t like seeing the way the media very purposefully skews the data to fit their narrative. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 07:07 AM |
| 13 | Public Exercise and Attention Seeking BehaviorThere is no need to try to continue to match the standards of an ex who was extremely violent and controlling. If you’re someone who likes doing yoga in the park, wouldn’t it be more conducive for your own happiness to find a man who likes it when his woman has an active lifestyle and goes to do yoga in the park? That being said, a practical way to figure out how to dress effectively in dating is to dress for the type of man you want. If you’re unsure of what Mr. Right wants, look at the married… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 06:54 AM |
| 2 | One more reason to keep marriages intactThe UK has gotten very weird about vilifying knives in the same exact way. They encouraged people to hand in their knives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 06:39 AM |
| 1 | One more reason to keep marriages intactDid you bother to check the thread that Pearl linked at all? Plenty of developed European countries have a higher death rate per capita by mass shooting than the US. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 06:19 AM |
| 6 | Please help me understand when to STFU.You are being too hard on yourself, and that might be why you are feeling stressed out about this when you don’t have to be. You aren’t “at fault” for wanting to talk to him while he’s preoccupied - hell, I do that all the time. You just have to not take it personally when he can’t give you his undivided attention because he’s currently busy with something else. If you notice that, just shrug and move on. You can always bring it up later when he is focused on you 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 12:56 AM |
| 17 | Please help me understand when to STFU.I think you are overthinking it. He has explicitly told you he likes it. Just because he isn’t talkative in response doesn’t mean that you annoy him, or god forbid that you do something completely unnecessary like “resist the urge not to open my mouth even though I want to.” He is just different from you, probably because he’s a man. You are confusing the context for what RPW uses “STFU” for. We don’t say that to tell women not to talk about their day or what’s on their mind. STFU is specificall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 12:49 AM |
| 3 | Really want to submit but can’t find HVMTry to frame it in a more reasonable way. Wanting a man who has a healthy lifestyle and diet? Perfectly reasonable and I’d argue necessary. Cancelling out a potential partner option because you saw him drink a coke once or twice? Along with a plethora of other impossible-to-live-up-to standards? That’s a one way ticket to Cat Lady Town. If all the 25+ men you’ve dated were disappointing, who is the only common denominator in that equation? A recent trend among women in their twenties is to focus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 10:48 PM |
| 15 | Dear Men - RPW is the women's subNo, we want men who, at the bare minimum, have enough reading comprehension to see that we welcome qualified men who have built credibility and shown leadership over on the men’s RP subs, have actual experience in successful long term relationships, and are old enough to know how to talk to women in a way that they will actually listen to. For some odd reason, I’m getting the sense that you’re none of the above. There’s a reason why I’m actively and consciously inviting and friendly to TRP ECs a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 03:46 PM |
| 3 | One more reason to keep marriages intactNever realized this. The way the media portrays it, it makes it look like the US is a far outlier. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Reddit Censorship, TRP & RPWI’m devastated about this. I learned so much from him and a lot of his posts made up many foundational parts of RPW theory. He was one of the very few men who were eloquent, perceptive, and caring enough to translate harsh TRP concepts into a way that is not only palatable to the feminine perspective, but also in a way that prioritizes it. His work for this subreddit helped me navigate what used to be my own shit show of a dating life, gave me the tools to have an amazing relationship with an am… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Appreciation and respectI’m not sure why you think respecting the man you’re with means putting up with disrespect addressed towards yourself. If he does something that upsets you, you can of course tell him why you’re upset in a respectful way. This is not only the best way to get him to change his behavior, but also stops you from stooping down to a low. Going tit for tat is rarely effective in keeping a healthy relationship. If he changes his behavior, then the issue is solved and you will both have respect for each… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/22 10:06 AM |
| 16 | When to have s*x with someone you date?No one but YOU can determine when the best time to have sex with a man you’re dating. Everyone’s circumstances, beliefs, personalities, goals, and preferences in men are all too different for there to be any one answer. That’s why rules like “have sex on the third date” or “wait 90 days” are silly in practice. It’s also why waiting for a relationship, an engagement, or a marriage could work amazingly for some women and not so well for others. All that being said, I wrote a pretty extensive guide… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/22 11:01 AM |
| 3 | Appreciation and respectOooh, I can totally see how you’re an INTJ!! I guess I just really like chit-chatting with my fellow INT_s 😂 thanks for sharing that video and the video about INTP! I love stuff like this :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 09:07 PM |
| 5 | Ways to shut down another man’s flirting when you’re in a relationshipLOL yeah it’s interesting how certain “tactics” work so differently on each gender. Women are repulsed by excessively eager men, whereas many men wouldn’t mind at all if an attractive girl was VERY into them. On the flip side, dread works very well on most women (even if we don’t admit it), but if you try to use dread on an attractive man, you’re just driving him away and toward a different option. This is, of course, all in the context of new relationships. Dread game doesn’t work on women in t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Ways to shut down another man’s flirting when you’re in a relationshipGood luck! I hope it works out for you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 08:45 PM |
| 4 | Ways to shut down another man’s flirting when you’re in a relationshipLMAO. That video made my day! It’s just too real 😂 You’re right that it is rejection. It’s just the nicest way to deliver that rejection, in a way that doesn’t burn any bridges or make the guy feel unnecessarily bad about himself (it’s not you, it’s me being irrevocably in love with my man!!). I agree with your first bullet, but not your second. While I generally agree that you shouldn’t cut off all of your options the second you meet a man, I also find that it’s most productive to ONLY date men… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Design the ideal woman for this man?Our culture's myth is that relationships are initiated by men, once a woman has attracted them simply by standing around looking desirable. Yes! And it’s perpetuated by Hollywood movies, written in the POV of men who usually don’t get The GirlTM . They think these “unattainable” women that they’ve placed on a pedestal have Chads throwing themselves at them while the women just sit there innocently and look pretty. Stuff like that made me think I was a wallflower and a 4/10 at best because there … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 08:09 PM |
| 3 | So… is withholding sex RPW?The topic of “when should I have sex with a man” has always been a controversial one, even here. Because there are so many factors at play, there is no one-size-fits-all answer for everyone. Rules like “have sex on date 3” or “wait 90 days” are silly in practice. Generalizations like ALL women have to wait until marriage or engagement may work for some women but may not create the best outcomes for others. It is a highly individual decision that only YOU can make for yourself. However, while the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 07:40 PM |
| 45 | Ways to shut down another man’s flirting when you’re in a relationshipu/fleetingwish wrote an excellent post on how to be charming to other men, in a way that allows you to gain their trust, appreciation, and social support, without being inappropriate to your own relationship. In the post, she also details how to “avoid the hazards of men liking you too much”: There is a potential hazard of making men like you to the extent that they want to become your orbiter or even your partner. The best way I have found to avoid this is to nip it in the bud before it happens… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/22 08:30 AM |
| 13 | Design the ideal woman for this man?There’s a specific parable from the priest at my childhood church that has always stuck with me, even after I stepped away from the church. He said: Once there was a man who was caught in the middle of a huge flood and was stuck inside his house. He was certain that God, in all of his divine power, would intervene and save him, so he spent his time praying. His neighbor came by and offered to drive him to a rescue shelter in his truck. He refused because he knew God would save him. He continued … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/22 08:23 PM |
| 19 | Design the ideal woman for this man?Be careful about putting strangers onto pedestals. While women can do so and still get a fulfilling relationship compared to men (who are doomed if they do so with their prospective partner), it still isn’t wise because it blinds you from fully being able to vet him without rose-tinted glasses on. It also compels you to stay and ignore character flaws that you might see after you meet him. Save the pedestal for when he actually proves himself to be a partner worth looking up to. If multiple frie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/22 07:10 PM |
| 3 | Appreciation and respectOh gosh, you and I would get along swimmingly IRL 😂 I’ve literally done this exact same thing with all my close friends and tried to guess what our SOs and other friends are. Although we’re not as good as you are and I guessed my man was an ISTJ : definitely introverted, realistic/practical, much more logical than emotional, and quite disciplined and organized. Turns out, when I asked him to do the quiz he got INTP like me 😂 I agree with you - sure it may be unreliable and a little too close to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/22 07:04 PM |
| 3 | Appreciation and respectI totally agree! It’s fundamental and really showed me how to love men in a way that actually resonates with them. Without it, I don’t think I would have been able to find a fulfilling and lasting relationship. I never thought about it that way, but you make a good point. I always gravitated more towards “For Women Only”, probably because I’m an INTP (that I’m still mind-blown that you just guessed and got right about me!). | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/22 06:52 AM |
| 15 | Appreciation and respectThis post about men and respect from the sidebar/wiki is one of the most important red pill theories here, IMO. I definitely recommend you to check it out. In it, you will find that respect and appreciation absolutely are tied together, and that both are necessary for our men to feel love from us. Here are some relevant excerpts: If you take away one thing from this post, let it be this: To Men, respect means more than love. In fact, when given the choice, men would rather feel unloved than inad… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/22 12:52 AM |
| 9 | Ladies, what is the most comfortable condom/type of of condom you have ever tried?Could be a size issue. r/bigdickproblems has often talked about condoms repeatedly breaking on uh, the well-endowed. The people who stick their foot inside a condom to prove how indestructible it is have not attempted to pump said foot in and out of a pressurized muscle canal (ok that sounded super gross 😂). Could also be helped with more lubrication! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/22 07:16 AM |
| 11 | Sex Premarital, Casual and OtherwiseThe message here is “think first, and be careful”. This is why I’m personally not a huge fan of extreme sexual liberation OR extreme sexual conservatism. Extreme sexual liberation, especially when we are young and dumb, is indiscriminately telling those thirteen year old girls, “Yaaaas! You are all totally strong independent perfect women!!! You don’t need to read the instruction manual for that rocket launcher! You were born innately wise and powerful and all-knowing and don’t let those silly o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/22 05:57 AM |
| 7 | Sex Premarital, Casual and OtherwiseYou’re one of the only who I would make sure has a soapbox at any given time 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/22 02:09 AM |
| 15 | Sex Premarital, Casual and OtherwiseGreat post! I think this is the best way to frame sexual selectivity so that most people will actually listen. It’s not about being morally better than anyone else. Although I find the male perspective helpful, it certainly doesn’t have to be the first or the only thing we have to think about. Instead, when we think about these things in terms of cons, or in terms of risk, it compels almost everyone to listen. There’s seldom a truly risk-free option, but by seeing what risks exist, it helps us a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Why do men cheat?There is a technical difference, sure, but you chose not to be forthright about that in your post, so I can completely understand why u/Advanced_Bar_673 thinks you are an unreliable narrator who is bending the truth. The post creates an image that ALL you did was hold hands, do some PDA, and kiss. What really happened was that you guys interacted in a much more intimate, sexual manner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 08:03 PM |
| 30 | My husband wants to pay everything for me even though I earn 50% more than himIs there a reason that you haven’t been fully transparent about your income with your husband? It seems a bit unproductive to not know how much each of you make. If you want him to properly lead you, he needs to have all the information to make the right decisions. Otherwise, he may be making uninformed and unsatisfactory decisions about 1) where you live, 2) whether or not to invest in real estate and what house/property you buy, 3) what your weekly/monthly/yearly budget needs to look like, 4) … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Why N-Count MattersNo problem! I always saw it as if I want something I need to give the same thing back. Like if I want people to be nice, you need to also be nice. So if I want a virgin then I probably should put in the work to stay that way. Hm, this kind of thinking could land you in some trouble, or at least in a lot of misunderstanding and frustration with the opposite sex. Men and women want different things from each other. These things are usually complementary, not equivalent. Instead, think about it thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 02:02 AM |
| 2 | Why N-Count MattersOh 100%. That’s why I think high quality older men are a solid group that tend to get brushed off by the politically correct. Sure, maybe don’t try to lock down a 50 year old when you’re 18, but I’ve seen people upset that a 30 year old woman wants to date a man in his late 40s, as if she wasn’t a fully functioning adult capable of knowing what’s best for her. Even if that older man has enough experience with women and people in general to have a consistently strong frame, enough time to build a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 01:42 AM |
| 3 | Why N-Count MattersI would prefer it if a man had some experience. I probably wouldn’t stand a chance against a player with an N-count in the hundreds, but I also don’t think I would enjoy being with someone who was completely inexperienced. A sweet spot somewhere in between is ideal (but I can be flexible towards either direction for the right man/relationship). I think about it this way: because men are the gatekeepers of commitment and women are the gatekeepers of sex, it is a man’s responsibility to inspire se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 12:50 AM |
| 3 | Why N-Count MattersI already voiced my critique to him about his third point, but I stand by the fact that the rest of the post can be useful to women who want that TradCon lifestyle and even to women who don’t but want to gain insight on why N-count is such a big deal to people. Those points are not at all out of line with a lot of the core theory on TRP, which is really just the other side of the coin of what RPW is. Perhaps his writing style isn’t to your taste, but I didn’t find 1, 2, or 4 condescending or mea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/22 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Why N-Count MattersI agree that a lot of well-meaning men might try to give reasons for why they and many others have an “ew sluts” mentality, but I do think it can be useful for us as women to understand why they feel that way and how we can work around that. I agree with you that some men wrongly think a virgin is the solution to all their problems and that that is wishful thinking, but I don’t think that’s OP. He’s older, married with a kid, and has been helping women here for a long time. I remember him from w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 11:37 PM |
| 2 | Why N-Count Matters1 - Oh, I think that’s a great point. I choose to abstain from contributing in those conversations for that exact reason. But I do think that women become more and more emboldened to talk about these things, even for the men they’re in serious relationships with, as they get more and more experience. I’ve been friends with some these girls since middle school. They didn’t talk about these things this way about their high school sweetheart or their first love from college that they were head over… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 10:10 PM |
| 4 | Why N-Count MattersI think there are a lot of women who think like you do, but also a lot of women who think like what OP is describing, at least for points 1 and 2. I think there is at least some validity for most of this post for a lot of women. The only one I don’t really agree with is 3. 1 - I’ve had many brunches with a lot of my very leftist, liberal friends where we spent the entire time discussing exactly how each of their serious, long-term partners stacked up to each other, down to the measurements of th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 09:21 PM |
| 13 | Why N-Count MattersI think u/whisper has actually written quite a few times about this: having a high N-count is a symptom of unresolved issues that make women unfit to be good partners, rather than being the cause of them being unfit to be good partners. Addressing, healing, and resolving those issues is what will make you become a better and more desirable partner. Forcing yourself to become unnecessarily prudent without doing the work to fix those issues will not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 07:55 PM |
| 25 | Why N-Count MattersRe: size queens - I think that has more to do with your first point than it does with women being irrevocably stretched out by being with well-endowed men. It’s a psychological thing: bigger seems more masculine and “better”, so once they experience a well-endowed man, anyone who is smaller cannot fulfill their hypergamous urges of being with the best man in the room (or their roster). If frequent sex does render women physically looser, then all women, especially women in committed relationship… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 07:41 PM |
| 26 | Submission comes easy and it makes me so happy 💗Same here! My man picks all the restaurants we go to and all food we order (unless it’s sushi, then I do because it’s my favorite food and I’m a big nerd about it 😅). He never disappoints and has SUCH amazing taste. He ends up putting me onto things I would have never thought to try. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 01:03 AM |
| 31 | I am not a car, dammit! (Or am I? 🤔)I’ve been loving your recent contributions lately. We share a lot in common when it comes to our takes and opinions. This is the first time that I (very respectfully) disagree, at least based on my own personal life. Let me try to elaborate why (LONG COMMENT WARNING!). Earlier, I wrote a pretty controversial post about why that one idiom about cows and free milk was not necessarily applicable anymore in modern times, nor is it the absolute best strategy to secure the highest quality man you can … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/22 02:48 AM |
| 2 | You Cannot Change the World - You Can Only Change YourselfI’m so glad to hear your feedback! That’s a great metaphor about drawing the goodness in! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/22 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Men don't need women - and that's wonderfulThank you! She was great, but left reddit because she didn’t agree with the censorship policies. They took down a right-leaning sub and it was the last straw for her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/22 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Besides sex - HOW do men need women?That’s absolutely how I see it. It’s also conveniently makes sense with the way protective love vs. respectful love flows. Protective love comes from a desire, want, or feeling of taking care of something smaller and cuter than you. Respectful love comes from a need to admire and submit to someone who you look up to because they take care of you. Protective love flows like: Man -> Woman -> Children -> Pets Respectful love flows like Man <- Woman <- Children <- Pets (Although growing up, my dog w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/22 10:03 PM |
| 2 | The False Myth of the Practice Wife, and How Not to Be HerAbsolutely! Women are still very dependent on men, if they have the privilege of being with one. Even if they don’t, our society runs on the thankless labor done by male-dominated fields. I think you’re right that the two imbalances cancel each other out, and that things are more or less “fair” (though I don’t like focusing too much on fairness like your post about jealousy highlights) at the end of the day. Glad you liked this post! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/22 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Your husband comes before your children. Almost always.This was a HARD lesson I had to learn myself, specifically because I WAS that eldest child and my mom always flew to the rescue when I procrastinated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/22 09:49 PM |
| 10 | how do I make it known that I'm dating to marry and I'm looking for a serious relationship without coming off as desperate ?Agreed. I’m sure stating that you’re looking for serious commitment only early on works for a lot of people. I’m sure it weeds out a lot of people who aren’t “marriage-minded”. But when I did that, I also noticed it weeded out most HVM who didn’t want his hand to be forced by someone he just met. It left me not so satisfied with the men remaining in my pool of options, at least in my personal experience. Stating that I was only looking for something serious also did nothing to make me become som… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/22 09:39 PM |
| 17 | Your husband comes before your children. Almost always.Nice post! I think you’re spot on. The part about the bond with friends/siblings vs. the bond with your partner was insightful! I never thought about that, but it’s absolutely true. I’ve also been a firm believer in this: He didn’t marry you because he needs you. he married you because he wants you. Lots of nuggets of wisdom in these posts! I’m excited to see what else you have on your mind! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/22 08:48 PM |
| 14 | Your husband comes before your children. Almost always.I don’t really have an issue with OP’s wording. I think she’s been making solid contributions the past few days. Saying “my husband should be the center of my universe” could be used by a woman who allows her husband to physically abuse her children. You have to be careful with the hyperbolic wording because I have met at least one woman on Reddit who genuinely believed in letting her children starve if it meant her husband got to eat (her words, not mine). So there is a precedent for people to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/22 08:43 PM |
| 3 | How would you get back a man that no longer wants you because you made mistakes in the relationship?There’s no “general red pill mentality” that can help you get back a specific person. It all depends on what mistakes you made, how good your relationship was prior to the mistakes, and how able you are to bring to the table what the specific man in question (not all men in general) wants. Theory is only so helpful when it comes to real life scenarios. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/22 09:23 PM |
| 2 | My husband doesn’t find any older women attractive and it scares me.Thanks for sharing! We are SO capable of doing that kind of self-sabotage. I’m so glad to hear about how you overcame that. Men are still human beings, and they’re absolutely capable of feeling loyalty and developing deep bonds with their partners that elevates their love and attraction for them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/22 09:58 PM |
| 7 | My husband doesn’t find any older women attractive and it scares me.Oh I don’t doubt that. What men consciously acknowledge and express that they’re attracted to is sometimes quite different from reality. I don’t doubt that there are quite a few men who like older women, but I was trying to illustrate that OP’s husband is not out of the norm for expressing that he doesn’t. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/22 10:11 PM |
| 27 | My husband doesn’t find any older women attractive and it scares me.100%. Love goggles are a powerful tool in the RPW’s arsenal for this reason. Ask men how attracted they are to random post-menopausal women they don’t know (no matter how physically fit and put together they are), and the majority of them will tell you not very much. Ask any husband in a fulfilling and loving relationship of 30+ years, and they’ll often tell you their grandmother-aged wife is the most beautiful woman on the planet to them. Men see us in a much more generous light if they are act… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/22 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Does feminism really mean ‘the right to choose’?We are going in circles. I feel that it is necessary and vital to show the history and the origins of the movement to see why/how it got to where it is today. You clearly don’t agree. There’s not much we can do about that. As for “cherry-picking” and “out-of-context”, am I supposed to just drop all of the books, interviews, speeches, tweets, and articles I found and tell everyone to find what they need themselves so that they have ALL the context and ALL the background? No, I synthesized multipl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/22 06:25 AM |
| 4 | Does feminism really mean ‘the right to choose’?So you’re essentially just critiquing about formatting. I’m not sure if there’s anything worth doing about that. I decided to use chronological order to critique the entire feminist movement, and show how its origins created the situation we have today. I’m glad you have a supportive group of friends. I have just as many anecdotal accounts in my life of how feminists in the workplace and in higher education look down upon and sneer at the women who switch to part-time or leave/delay their career… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/22 05:40 AM |
| 5 | Does feminism really mean ‘the right to choose’?then why not focus on that? Last time I checked, Hillary Rosen, Hillary Clinton, and Jill Filapovic are all feminists in the modern age writing and speaking on the forefront of mainstream media. I didn’t want to make this post The Encyclopedia of All Feminist Choice-Shaming, so I stopped at three examples just like I stopped at three examples of it at the beginnings of the movement. My main goal of including these examples from the past was to show that feminism didn’t just become this way in th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/22 04:55 AM |
| 5 | Does feminism really mean ‘the right to choose’?Mainstream modern feminism is, in many ways, worse than anything de Beauvoir has said. Refusing to examine the roots of a movement, which can almost always be a clear picture of what its values are, is a bit revisionist. Why shouldn’t we look at history to see how it got us where we are today? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/22 04:23 AM |
| 7 | Does feminism really mean ‘the right to choose’?Let me clarify: my argument wasn’t that women shouldn’t support choice feminism - my argument is that choice feminism is not real feminism because the core values of the feminist movement, from its origins to today, do not encourage women’s freedom to choose. Therefore, using choice feminism as a defense or justification for feminism as a whole gives feminism credit for championing women’s choice where credit is not due. As I mentioned in the beginning of the post, I am in no way trying to tell … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/22 04:19 AM |
| 11 | Does feminism really mean ‘the right to choose’?Betty Friedan had a much more complex argument than that. I never claimed otherwise. BUT the things I included in my post were nevertheless a big part of her argument, and those were the talking points that led to the eventual shift away from any possibility of choice feminism to really exist. When she says that women “who grow up wanting to be ‘just a housewife,’ are in as much danger as the millions who walked to their own deaths in the concentration camps,” she is invalidating women who CHOOS… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/22 04:02 AM |
| 3 | Is body count real?Moving to another city, state, or country certainly makes it easier to lie about your N-count, in the short run. If you are a good enough actress, you can definitely get away with it for a while. But what happens if things get serious, and you visit your hometown together? What happens if a childhood friend accidentally mentions your shenanigans when he meets them? What happens when the guilt kicks in that your relationship is built on a lie? Can you keep up the lie to a potential husband for th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 07:47 PM |
| 7 | Fiancé almost never says he loves me firstAnd then I asked, “why are are all guys such non-committal assholes?!?” without realizing there was a REASON they didn’t want to commit. I was annoying 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 03:09 AM |
| 11 | Fiancé almost never says he loves me firstYep. Former shit-tester here. Pre-RPW me loved shit-testing men and making them try to prove themselves to me. Unfortunately, shit testing comes with the unintended consequence of making the men who pass your tests feel repulsed by your shenanigans. He passes your tests, and you fail his. Not a fun place to be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 02:53 AM |
| 8 | Fiancé almost never says he loves me firstLoved this. Have a star!! u/LivelyLychee can you help me out here? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 02:40 AM |
| 29 | My boyfriend doesn’t want me to be a doctor! I don’t know if I should stay.Oh, I agree with you there! But my spidey senses were tingling that some people (mostly drive-by commenters who don’t know what this sub is about) might say how “any man who wants a SAHW and a traditional family is regressive and insecure and evil!!!!!” So I wanted to clarify that the desire to have a traditional family isn’t the main problem here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 02:35 AM |
| 34 | My boyfriend doesn’t want me to be a doctor! I don’t know if I should stay.You can definitely compromise on a lot of differences: preferences, habits, personality, interests, introversion/extroversion, and a whole lot more. What really isn’t wise to compromise on is fundamental beliefs, life goals, and values, which is clearly the case here. Even if he says (and is trying his damnedest to actually mean) that he is warming up to the idea of you working, he’s shown you what he really feels in his behavior. According to your post, he: makes many comments about how females… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 12:21 AM |
| 102 | My boyfriend doesn’t want me to be a doctor! I don’t know if I should stay.How long have you been with each other? It seems like you both have huge differences in values that will make a long-term relationship extremely difficult to sustain, if not impossible. If this is a new relationship, it’s a pretty big indicator of incompatibility. If this is a long-term relationship, how on Earth did you manage to date someone for a long time without knowing that you clearly want different things in life? While he has every right to want a SAHM and to raise traditionally-minded … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/22 11:53 PM |
| 3 | Advice and any experiences - Med School & ChildrenThere was a very similar thread just a day ago. Perhaps you can find the comments there helpful! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/22 06:58 PM |
| 22 | How to "Accept Him At Face Value" if some of his habits turn you off?I definitely understand why you wanted to address the issue as soon as possible, and the only way that is possible is over email or text sometimes. But for serious issues like these, where a lot of things can be misinterpreted, it is almost always better to wait until you can discuss it in person, so that you can be there to clarify what you mean and ensure that you aren’t coming from a place of judgment and condescension. If you are feeling really antsy about a fight or a conflict, sometimes yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/22 09:36 PM |
| 52 | How to "Accept Him At Face Value" if some of his habits turn you off?How do you address uncomfortable topics in your relationship without totally damaging it and/or your man? Well first off, you can probably start by not writing a long email to him about all the things you dislike about him and how you aren’t sexually attracted to him anymore. That’s incredibly callous. Why did you not have this conversation in person, face to face? He got ready to go to the gym and I saw him walk out the door without saying anything to me. It really hurt me. Have you considered … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/22 08:38 PM |
| 7 | What's a good balance between doing what you want and what your boyfriend wants?Hm, I kind of disagree. He’s brought up to OP many times that he prefers conventional/conservative beauty over alternative beauty. He told her he doesn’t like ANY facial piercings, that he prefers longer hair over short hair, and that he prefers natural hair colors. It seems like a recurring issue that they have different ideas of what beauty is. He wouldn’t express his dislike for these things unless they were important enough to him. But even if you are right and he doesn’t feel that strongly … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/22 07:30 PM |
| 47 | What is this sub's stance on choosing to be RPW or not?The only thing that all the women here have in common is that they want a male-led relationship. If that’s not something you or other women want, of course you don’t have to subscribe to it. RPW isn’t a lifestyle or a philosophy or a doctrine for how all women should act. It’s just a toolbox for women who want their male-led relationships to succeed. You can pick which tools you think will be useful to that, and disregard the ones you don’t. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/22 07:21 PM |
| 46 | What's a good balance between doing what you want and what your boyfriend wants?Your boyfriend would prefer you not do these things because he finds them unattractive (along with the solid majority of men). You are free to do whatever you want with your body and your face and your hair. But even if you absolutely have the right to do so, that doesn’t mean those choices don’t come with consequences. Remember that attraction and desire cannot be negotiated - even if your boyfriend says he will still love you no matter what, if you do things that go against his preferences, hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/22 09:26 AM |
| 8 | What to do when your husband prefer things you don’t have?I don’t know why people are attacking him. A lot of people assume the absolute worst in men, in cases that clearly don’t warrant it. It’s why the mods called this out recently in the rules for giving advice: not every man is a narcissistic abuser and we shouldn’t assume so straight off the bat. I would take those extreme responses with a grain of salt. I just wanted to know is it the right thing to change yourself for your husband or not. That’s really a decision only you can make. If your long … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 08:03 PM |
| 19 | What to do when your husband prefer things you don’t have?Thank you. People are so quick to call things red flags or manipulation or abuse. OP was the one to ask her husband about his hair preference and she found out about his body type preference indirectly. Are we really upset that he told her the truth? And are we really going to pretend that everyone fits their partner’s ideals to a T? If the hair thing bothers her that much, she’s within her right to change it. Long hair is a great way to appeal to a large majority of men when you’re single, but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 07:25 PM |
| 26 | Anyone else worried about the state of “love” today?In a world full of assholes and non-commitals, the only thing you can really change is yourself. We often look at these failing/failed relationships with rose-tinted glasses as outsiders who have no idea what circumstances led to those outcomes. We don’t see the reoccurring problems in their relationship that led to those women losing attraction for their fiancés and husbands. We don’t see the red flags, that would eventually boil down to infidelity and mental illness, being ignored in the early… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 04:52 AM |
| 13 | Do you think “female game” is a thing?Absolutely! RPW is just a big ol’ girl game toolbox. Most of the stuff in the sidebar/wiki, as well as the things that have been flaired as “theory” or “field report” are excellent examples and tutorials for girl game. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/22 01:27 AM |
| 16 | Advice about coworkerI agree. I encourage women to be open to making the first move or at least using The Art of the Bad Excuse, specifically because one of the benefits of doing so is that you can see just how interested and receptive they are of you. While you can always remain open-minded if he asks you out in a different way in the future, if he didn’t take you up on your offer or suggest something that works better for him, then I would just accept that he isn’t very receptive and move on. Don’t beat yourself u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/22 12:39 AM |
| 20 | Interreligious datingIt depends on how big a role religion plays in your life. I’m in an inter-religious relationship, but it’s not an issue because both while both my SO and I were raised in our respective faiths, we currently both hover somewhere between our religions and agnostic. Religion doesn’t make up a huge aspect of our lives and we don’t plan for it to be a huge aspect in our future. We’re also very respectful about the different practices our religions have (while not really participating in them ourselve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/22 09:42 AM |
| 5 | How to give good advice on RPWI love this! Besides giving tips on how an OP can communicate her issues to her SO first, I really try my best not to tell anyone that _______ is the right way to go or the smart thing to do, because how could I know for sure that that is the best move for OP, given how different everyone and their circumstances are from each other? My personal advice giving strategy is to tell OP all the options she has (or that I’m able to see), and to let her make an informed decision herself based on everyth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/22 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Do you prefer to start as friends and then move up to relationship, or the other way around, start as a relationship and then develop a friendship within=?I’m personally pro-cohabitation, partially as a vetting tool for compatibility and partially because it makes a lot of logistical sense in the modern age. An enthusiasm to move in with each other is a good sign (to me, at least) that a man wants to invest more in you and join your lives together. It’s a great opportunity to make a deeper bond and to have much more intimacy (not just sex, but emotional intimacy too). For people who got with their SO young and have no desire to get married ASAP, i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/22 06:18 PM |
| 11 | About Emma WatsonDamn, insightful AF! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/22 09:16 AM |
| 80 | About Emma WatsonHow can women embrace the ‘natural trad wife’ archetype if we are made to fear the natural changes a woman goes through in life? We don’t stay youthful virgins forever. Love goggles. Here’s some relevant excerpts from the post, which can be found in this RPW sidebar/wiki-level post: Just as beer goggles can make a drunk guy go home with a girl he wouldn't even look twice at if he were sober, the love goggles can make a husband look at his dear wife as if she is the femme fatale of his adolescent… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/22 12:10 AM |
| 7 | Where do you ladies fall on the trad wife to modern wife spectrum?No problem! Just wanted to make sure that you knew you’re definitely welcome here! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/22 10:38 PM |
| 4 | Struggling to feel feminine when I look masculineHehe thank you! It’s spillover from my teen years being a tumblr/Pinterest addict. I got a little too good at finding “aesthetic” pictures about beauty, hair, and fashion! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/22 10:37 PM |
| 18 | Struggling to feel feminine when I look masculineYour boobs matter less than you think. I’m an A cup, but it never stopped me from getting male attention, and eventually an LTR with a guy I still think is insanely out of my league. Sure, a big chest is definitely an advantage if you have it, but not having it certainly won’t handicap you or your chances by a LONG shot. Figure out a way to dress that will emphasize your femininity. That means understanding your body type (r/dressforyourbody is a great place to start). For small-chested ladies, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/22 10:32 PM |
| 25 | Where do you ladies fall on the trad wife to modern wife spectrum?There is a specific rule against that here at RPW: TradCon is RPW, but RPW is not TradCon. While we certainly welcome TradCon women into our community, the only thing it takes to be an RPW is the desire to have a male-led relationship. So while being “trad” does usually mean dating within your race in society, we are decidedly not a TradCon community because any woman in ANY type of partnership can use the RPW toolbox to better her relationship. That means you can be in an interracial relationsh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/22 10:19 PM |
| 14 | Struggling to feel feminine when I look masculineI’m trying to find a happy medium Bangs help with a long face! Also, when men say they prefer long hair, I’ve found that anything longer than shoulder length is pretty attractive to them. If you have a long face you probably shouldn’t have long, straight, butt-length hair with a middle part, but mid-length hair? Wearing it half-up to widen your features? Choppy, mid-length layers with a nice wave? Those are all flattering for long faces and still very feminine-looking. Also: storing fat in your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/22 10:07 PM |
| 7 | I am projected to earn 2-3x more than my boyfriend once I graduate. How do I use RP strategies to make sure he still feel masculine and like a leader in the house?his work is actually valuable to humanity and society u/KombuchaEnema made a great point about the way you see things, and this is certainly one of those things that you can focus on! He’s the guy who’s trying to make a difference and change the world for the better, and is a leader in that field! You can definitely let him know how sexy and manly that is to you 😉 | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/22 02:02 AM |
| 18 | Man I love says we're not compatible because I... want a degree?I’m also not even against these gender roles, I just wouldn’t want to be a stay-at-home-mom all the time/forever. Plus having the leisure to choose to cease being dependent on a man at any point in time is very important to me. Sure it’s a fear in a way, but I have personally seen what the consequences of not being able to get away are, so it’s a very valid fear imo. Just as it’s fine for him to want a partner who stays at home that he completely provides for, it’s also perfectly fine for you to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/22 01:51 AM |
| 1 | What’s for dinner?Belgian cream of endive soup! Maybe wilting them down with leeks and blitzing them with potatoes and cream will make them a bit more palatable for you. This recipe has a yummy mushroom topping that sounds to die for, but the first recipe’s soup sounds better in my mind 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/22 07:43 AM |
| 10 | What’s for dinner?I’m drooling! I haven’t been to a good cookout or barbecue basically since the pandemic started! I miss eating all the side dishes like cole slaw and mac salad so much. I’m excited for you!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/22 02:09 AM |
| 18 | What’s for dinner?My best friend did me a HUGE favor last week, so I’m inviting her over for dinner tomorrow! I’m gonna make an olive and red pepper bruschetta with burrata, rigatoni bolognese (my first time making it the authentic way!), and vanilla panna cotta with lemon curd! I have to start prepping tonight, but fingers crossed it all goes to plan 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/22 12:58 AM |
| 9 | How to behave around people who belittle you for being RP?Agreed. If I told my friends, “I want to be submissive to the man I’m with”, I would get dropped jaws and looks of horror. But when I told them, “I want a man who can take charge and have good leadership qualities,” this is how they reacted. Even though they pretty much are two sides of the same thing. No need to tell them that I’m a red pill woman, or that I think a lot of women are submissive by nature, or that STFU is a great way to keep the peace in a relationship. If they ask, I’ll frame th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/22 11:11 PM |
| 10 | Wait can someone clear something up for me??No problem at all! The post a bit jarring, but we all get our RP awakenings in different ways 😂 If anything, OP’s situation is probably a bit more hopeful than the boyfriend who sends his gf a link to RPW out of nowhere, and expects a completely RP-unaware person to somehow adjust and accept our community’s admittedly controversial theories. At least he did the work of convincing her himself instead of dropping her on our doorstep and essentially saying, “convert her for me!” (this happens more … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/22 10:27 AM |
| 34 | Wait can someone clear something up for me??I think the OP of that post would benefit from reading our wiki and using RPW as a resource instead of getting RP theory from her boyfriend(?) who is teaching her from a very male-centric understanding of RP (not necessarily a bad thing for himself, but this is why we have two separate communities for the men and the women). Like u/Whisper says, he tells men to avoid marriage at all costs on TRP, and then comes over here and tells women the best strategies they can use to find and keep a husband… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/22 09:48 AM |
| 8 | Need advice about a man [24F]I feel like you are skipping over the context clues. A guy friend who has no interest in a woman would not ask her what her plans are for Valentine’s Day. If anything, an uninterested man would actively avoid talking about romantically charged things like Valentine’s Day to prevent confusion. Men aren’t like women - they don’t just chit chat about Valentine’s Day just for funsies. He asked because if she said she had no plans (green light, probably single and emotionally available), then he may … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/22 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Patience with different love languages aka 'the STFU rule in practice'I sort of imagined it to be a ladies’ space full of trad cons and trad con-wannabes (NTTAWWT - I grew up in a very happy tradcon home and would have done perfectly well in a tradcon world) so why would I intrude? That’s actually one of the misconceptions that we try to dispel here! RPW is certainly very welcoming to TradCons and a lot of TradCon ideology overlaps with RPW theory. As a result, a big part of our community is made up of traditional and religious women. However, we do have to put in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/22 10:07 PM |
| 5 | Need advice about a man [24F]She doesn’t have to rearrange her plans around him, but rescheduling would have been a better move than inviting him to a group hang out where she barely talked to him the entire night. Usually when a man invites you out on a day you’re unavailable, it’s polite for the woman to be the one to suggest a better day for her if she’s actually interested. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/22 07:28 PM |
| 3 | Homemaker Wedding RegistryI use my toaster oven for EVERYTHING. I only use the big oven when I absolutely can’t fit it in the toaster oven. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/22 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Homemaker Wedding RegistryA NutriBullet is great for all of your smoothie-, shake-, soup-, and sauce-making endeavors! I got mine during college and it’s lasted me forever. It’s perfect for the days that you’re just too lazy to drag out and clean a huge blender (which for me, is all the days). A stick blender is also great if you like to make big batches of soup for the colder months! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/22 11:00 PM |
| 4 | Patience with different love languages aka 'the STFU rule in practice'I’m glad u/Protocol_Apollo brought you here! Personally, I really like seeing TRP ECs stop by here specifically because you guys know how to talk to us much better than the random TRP/MGTOW newbie who just comes here to either call us post-wall whores OR to simp and try to use RPW as a dating app 😂 Your type of contributions are absolutely helpful! I also can understand that the way you talked to us wasn’t so much of a conscious strategy as it is just an intuition (whether from practice or just … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/22 10:56 PM |
| 5 | Patience with different love languages aka 'the STFU rule in practice'Definitely! This kind of stuff just scratches an evolutionary itch. Just like how men know that they hate makeup but are still attracted to pretty women with defined eyes, flushed cheeks and rosy lips. It’s also how RPWs can use submissive behavior as strategy and still have it work even on people who are fully aware that it is a strategy! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/22 10:24 PM |
| 10 | Patience with different love languages aka 'the STFU rule in practice'The love languages is a pop sci concept that is popular because of the self-indulgence of post gen X readers. Maybe so! But I think it’s still a REALLY helpful concept and tool to understand that different people, and in general men and women, feel and give their love in different ways, while also having a good amount of overlap. Knowing this is a particularly important part of being able to see and understand a partner’s perspectives and intentions. Like how OP realized that just because her SO… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/22 09:42 AM |
| 1 | boyfriend tries to help with housework, but half asses. how to correct?Ohh I see what you mean! Positive reinforcement is definitely a more strategic approach for sure, but I think that’s how I approach most things that I want in a relationship (and to be honest, in most of my interactions in general) so it comes a lot more natural to me. If you have to force yourself to do it, it definitely could feel a bit cringey. I do think there’s a lot of benefit when you praise and thank people for their contributions though, even if it’s just for basic stuff. I saw my mom g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/22 03:40 AM |
| 7 | Patience with different love languages aka 'the STFU rule in practice'LOL! That’s pretty much my SO too! Gifts and compliments wouldn’t mean much if I wasn’t going above and beyond with physical touch. But the nerd in me has always been a fan of getting extra credit, so it’s always been fun for me to do all the bonuses too 🤓. I do think that he cares that we have solid acts of service and quality time too, though those are more his secondary LLs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/22 02:52 AM |
| 1 | boyfriend tries to help with housework, but half asses. how to correct?The way I see it, it’s less of a “tactic” and more better and clearer communication. It’s not really anyone’s fault if they have different standards of clean. I’m definitely the messier one in my relationship (my man is the rare “neat freak germaphobe” type of man 😂), and I really appreciated just how patient my SO was when he told me what exactly he wanted on my end instead of just quietly getting annoyed that I couldn’t meet a standard that he didn’t even tell me about. My SO is also the type … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/22 11:19 PM |
| 9 | Patience with different love languages aka 'the STFU rule in practice'Great post! I think a bit of introspection and a mindset-shift like this can make our quality of life so much better! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/22 11:08 PM |
| 9 | Patience with different love languages aka 'the STFU rule in practice'In my experience, my SO and every single one of my friend’s SOs are Physical Touch guys for sure, either as the primary one or the secondary one! I think it’s just how y’all are wired, for the most part. That being said, the way I keep my relationship well-rounded is to incorporate a little bit of all 5 LLs, and then make sure to go extra with the ones at the top of his list. My guy doesn’t really need to receive gifts to feel loved, but I still try to grab him his favorite treat or a nice t-shi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/22 11:07 PM |
| 2 | How to cope with potential friends turning you away for being “too feminine?”Hmm, your profile says you go to school on Texas right? I think there are plenty of other women who enjoy the “Southern Belle” look there! I would just ignore the haters and do your thing. You aren’t anywhere close to sticking out like a sore thumb! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/22 10:52 PM |
| 27 | How to cope with potential friends turning you away for being “too feminine?”People don’t really think you’re a sugar baby for the way you dress (unless it is very risqué and covered in logos). People think you’re a sugar baby when you’re with a significantly older man (not that an age-gap relationship is bad - it’s just a judgment that you’ll likely encounter in that situation). Is that the case for you? I would find it particularly odd if someone made that comment about two similarly-aged people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/22 01:55 PM |
| 35 | How to cope with potential friends turning you away for being “too feminine?”Agreed. I have VERY feminine looking/dressing friends who are extremely feminist/left-leaning/blue-pilled and no one judges them for the way they dress. I live in one of the most liberal areas in the US. I have a big feeling like a lot of this could be in OP’s head. The only thing that could possibly be contributing to OP getting weird looks and comments is if she is WAY too overdressed for certain occasions or has taken on a style that’s not really seen as “normal” for a college student. If you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/22 01:49 PM |
| 1 | boyfriend tries to help with housework, but half asses. how to correct?Glad you found it helpful! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/22 06:57 PM |
| 2 | boyfriend tries to help with housework, but half asses. how to correct?Yes that sounds like a good idea! Remember that communicating what is actually on your mind (but in a productive way) is one of the essential duties of being a good First Mate. Good luck with everything! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/22 06:55 PM |
| 3 | boyfriend tries to help with housework, but half asses. how to correct?Thank you so much! And yes, positive reinforcement is one of our most powerful tools, not just in romantic situations but just about every interaction we make, like you mentioned! Thanks for sharing about how you saw it play out in a volunteering situation too! I LOVE that Maya Angelou quote! What a perfect way to capture the essence of making good impressions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/22 06:51 PM |
| 41 | boyfriend tries to help with housework, but half asses. how to correct?Men and women (or to be more general, one partner and the other partner) often have different definitions and standards of what “clean” means. What is “messes up every other type of cleaning” in your eyes could be a thorough job well done in his. It’s also tough for him to see how annoying sticky countertops or dusty corners in the kitchen are, because you’re the one who does the majority of the cooking and not him. I need equal help in the apartment. I have no idea how to get him there without … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/22 07:39 AM |
| 12 | Texting frequencyI’ve never texted my man frequently, from when we first met, to when we started dating, to when we became “official”, to when we moved in together. We never did that “good morning/goodnight” text thing, and we also didn’t text all day just to chat or keep in touch. The most we would do is send a funny meme every now and then if we came across it, or a picture of ourselves if we were feeling attractive that day (LOL). But it’s pretty normal for us to go days without texting. In my experience, thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/22 05:20 PM |
| 41 | Would women be happier if they stopped thinking about themselves/perfecting themselves for the “male gaze” or if they improved their lives to be deemed attractive by men?Why does it have to be so black and white? What men (or now that I’m in a committed relationship, my man) think of me is just one factor that I take into consideration. I also have to think about myself in terms of how my peers and social circle see me, how my work colleagues and superiors see me, and how my family sees me. I don’t “exist” for any of these groups of people. I don’t need to derive my self-worth from them. But my interactions with each of them will effect my life satisfaction, suc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/22 01:06 AM |
| 2 | My husband spent $850 on a riding lawn mower last week. Today he greenlit over $2,000 in new appliances for me.Just had to say - this made me laugh so loud I got stares at the office 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/22 07:48 PM |
| 41 | Man's the asshole for asking his wife to dress up for one date nightYeah, they’re so unreasonable. I don’t understand how people could be so purposefully obtuse. “Well do YOU shave your legs or wear makeup?!?” As if men and women aren’t generally attracted to different things, and as if there aren’t plenty of women who LOVE the rugged, scruffy look on men. The same can’t be said the other way around, because ya know, hundreds of thousands of years of evolutionary mating preferences. And then they insist that he hasn’t been taking care of himself either and that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/22 02:09 AM |
| 8 | I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers).Thank you! And yeah, I get it, everyone is answering you because people like to talk about themselves. Guilty as charged 🙈 I sometimes forget that it’s not really my job to convince everyone that my way is the right way (the debate club kid in me begs to differ). I’ve found that most of our active members that are here to stay are those who willingly read the wiki on their own, whether out of curiosity, anger, or enthusiasm, and then ask questions based on whatever still puzzles them. It’s a pre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/22 01:35 AM |
| 2 | His Nose Does Not Deceive Him, But It May Deceive YouI think the recent formulations should definitely still convey that vintage glamour feeling!! If I can’t find a department store that carries it to smell it, I might have to just blind buy it off of FragranceNet 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/22 11:41 PM |
| 6 | I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers).Thank you so much! I always appreciate your responses as well, so this means a lot 💖 | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/22 11:38 PM |
| 15 | I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers).You’ve gotten a lot good responses to your main post, so I’ll let those speak for themselves. However, you seem to have a bone to pick with why any woman would want or choose to be submissive, so I’ll try to address that. You may think that we’re all just fools or extreme people-pleasers who are doing so out of blind love or naivety or altruism. However, one of the foundational theories of RPW is that we can use submissive behavior as strategy. It is a very conscious, very strategic effort on ou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/22 10:46 PM |
| 7 | How can I get better at letting him lead?For example, he was paying for some items at a shop and did not think to get his money out ready to go. By the time we were at the start of the line he had to spend quite a while digging around in his wallet to find the correct money and everyone was waiting. This is a very small thing to get frustrated over. It seems like, at least in that moment, you cared more about what the strangers in line and the cashier thought about you two, than you cared about your relationship and how he felt. Sure, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/22 10:44 AM |
| 6 | Boundaries with the MILThe eating habits that our family teaches us as children shape our relationship with food for the rest of our lives. Encouraging children to eat 12 popsicles or an entire canister of whipped cream in one sitting could easily become a gateway towards binge eating disorder, even more so if OP’s kids start associating that kind of behavior with “feel-good times with grandma”. This is how people become emotional eaters and start to eat to self-soothe instead of for sustenance. We don’t necessarily h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/22 11:59 PM |
| 6 | How to give husband spaceThat sounds like what you would like if you were in his shoes. But different people deal with difficult situations differently. Some people, especially some men and introverts, need to recharge on their own after being drained all day by demanding circumstances. It doesn’t really have any indication of how he feels about you if that’s the case. Just let him know that you have his back and that if he needs you or your help, you’re there to support him. How long are his parents staying with you gu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/22 05:20 AM |
| 5 | How do I not feel insecure or get over the hurt feeling when my boyfriend brings up his ex?What do you mean by “bring up his ex”? Is he constantly talking about her personally and their old relationship? Is he talking about her looks? Is he particularly salty about their breakup? Or is he just explaining to you why he got out of an 8 year relationship and what he learned from that, and about his experiences over the past 8 years that obviously included her? If it’s the latter, I don’t think there’s much wrong with that and you may need to work on your insecurities from your last relat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/22 03:13 AM |
| 3 | His Nose Does Not Deceive Him, But It May Deceive YouDamn, that’s awesome!! Those bottles just look SO elegant and otherworldly. I always loved how whimsical your username was, so it’s so nice to know the meaning behind it!I haven’t tried any vintage perfumes yet, but I’m dying to get my hands on Mitsouko from Guerlain!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/22 11:43 PM |
| 7 | How to handle rumors and social media? (kinda long venting/ranting)When almost everyone around you is “toxic” or “problematic,” sometimes the only common denominator is yourself. Based on what you’ve written, you glossed over all the things you’ve done to sever ties and burn bridges with several people in your life, from platonic friends to professional/academic peers to romantic interests, but go into deep detail of how they’ve wronged you or expected too much of you or ostracized you. Take some accountability for your actions: you seem impulsive, abrasive, un… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/22 10:14 PM |
| 11 | The desire for marriage and the reality of it happeningLove that series! It really breaks EVERYTHING down really well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/22 04:56 AM |
| 1 | I feel invisibleOh wow, I love that! Your girlfriend knew exactly what she was doing 😎 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/22 09:43 PM |
| 7 | His Nose Does Not Deceive Him, But It May Deceive YouI wouldn’t want to bore everyone talking in great detail about which perfumes I chose and why! I also have a couple of perfumes which are more for my own enjoyment and not as attractive to men (usually the more unisex and polarizing scents). My biggest takeaway is that if you’re trying to highlight your youthfulness and femininity, a fruity floral scent is the way to go! Men eat it up. That’s why J’adore works for me (on my skin it is VERY fruity, but I know on others it is much more of a powder… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/22 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Is it bad to seek a providerLol, I would LOVE to be spoiled just because I can flutter my lashes! But yeah, reality disagrees, and tbh I think for the better. Most of us can find a guy who will fall for that, but I don’t think the kind of man who pedestalizes women make for great captains. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/22 09:31 PM |
| 11 | Is it bad to seek a providerI agree. For the most part, I’ve noticed that women who say they like “generosity” usually mean that they want to be spoiled for no/low effort on their part, solely because we are women. OP is posting here on RPW though, so hopefully she has an idea that we have to keep up our end of the bargain too. If not, I hope our feedback guides her in the right direction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/22 01:03 AM |
| 5 | His Nose Does Not Deceive Him, But It May Deceive YouNice post! I totally agree that scent goes hand in hand in building attraction and connection. My man told me he loved the way I smelled, and funnily enough, I was wearing J’adore! He also gifted me my dream perfume when we got more serious and learned about how into fragrance I am. I wish I could stick to one signature scent to make him (and other people in general) associate me with it, but I’m a fragrance addict so I have a rotation of about a dozen that I change every day. Maybe this is a si… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/22 01:00 AM |
| 4 | I feel invisibleYES. And this is why I keep on bringing up how important it is for us to show our interest, and to do things like The Bad Excuse. So many women ask themselves, “where did all the good (single) men go?”, without realizing that they got snapped up by women who saw their potential, went out of their way to pique their interest, and did what they had to do to inspire commitment. High quality men rarely just fall into our laps, contrary to what romance novels and Disney movies often portray. Your suc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/22 10:10 PM |
| 2 | I wish I didn’t have to workHi u/oliveshoot, I found a few links that are at least a little related to this topic. I would love to see a full-on discussion about it though! Strategizing together has always been RPW’s strong suit! a discussion thread on being an RPW while having a career an extremely detailed and thoughtful comment about balancing work and home life as an RPW Fascinating Womanhood Ch. 21: the Feminine Role vs. the Working Wife (this advice skews towards SAHMs, but check the comments where u/JanuaryArya adde… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/22 01:45 AM |
| 8 | I feel invisibleAbsolutely! That’s why I find size-based advice too simplistic. People are just built way too differently for size to be an accurate benchmark for ANYTHING, be it attractiveness or health. Although, I AM jealous that you gain weight in the hips and butt first. How does it feel to live my dream?! 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/22 11:58 AM |
| 11 | I feel invisibleIt worked for this commenter who explains that this was how she met her boyfriend. It also worked for this RPW, who wrote an entire field report on how she used that exact post to successfully attract a guy she deemed out of her typical league. And yes - it has also worked for me, which is why I always link to it when I see the opportunity to. It’s a very effective way that allows you to select for men who you deem high-value, and also to show him that you’re interested without coming off too st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/22 11:45 AM |
| 14 | I feel invisibleI dunno if it’s as one-size-fits-all (pun intended) as that. I noticeably get more attention as a size 0-2 than as a size 4-6. It probably has to do with weight distribution - I gain weight in my midsection, so when I’m at a lower weight you can see more waist definition. I also live in a city where thin and modelesque girls are the ideal (unfortunately I am also 4’11, so I’m out of luck there 😂). This may not be the case for women in different areas and with different body fat distributions, so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/22 11:26 AM |
| 26 | I feel invisibleErr I thought RP promotes gender roles, and moving a relationship forward is masculine correct? Above all else, RP promotes what works. A lot of the time, that means following traditional gender roles because they scratch a certain evolutionary itch in the opposite gender. But sometimes, it means subverting, or working around, those gender roles because we live in a decidedly untraditional environment, at least in the West. There is an RPW-approved way of approaching men without coming off as ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/22 11:20 AM |
| 2 | Repost: If you are a man and you are hereMy biggest pet peeve is the whole “as a guy” thing!! Glad to see that even redpillschool feels the same way 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/22 08:09 AM |
| 8 | MonogamyGlad it’s resonating with you. Maybe you should spend some time to consider what YOUR goals and priorities are, and whether they align with his. If they don’t, maybe you two are just not compatible. The women who consent to non-monogamy are usually the ones who are VERY aware of their partner’s high social status and value and attractiveness, based on their own observations. They decide that they are okay with non-monogamy because of this awareness. If you didn’t come to this conclusion without … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/22 09:54 AM |
| 9 | MonogamyThat doesn’t mean it’s what men should aspire to. Who am I to tell all men what they should or shouldn’t aspire to? It’s not my place to moralize about anyone else’s life choices or goals, because I’m not going to be the one who has to live that life. People - both men and women, who want polygamy or open relationships tend to be narcissistic/ selfish and not make ideal partners IMO. That is a perfectly reasonable opinion for you to have for your own life. But there is no one-size-fits-all defin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/22 09:43 AM |
| 21 | MonogamyHe says that he can still have casual hook ups when he is out of town and he still loves me and it doesn’t change how he feels about me. I find this to be generally true. Men can compartmentalize sex easier than women can. Many men can definitely love one woman, and have no-strings attached sex with another without any indication of his feelings for the woman he loves. The same is generally not true for women, which may contribute to why this situation immediately feels so alarming. It crushes m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/22 07:51 AM |
| 13 | Vulnerability is the driving force of connectionNice post. Vulnerability definitely makes a man (or at least the right one) see you in a different light - as someone who he wants to protect. That protective instinct is the basis of male love for us, and is worth inspiring. A lot of women put up a lot of walls to protect themselves from getting hurt again. What they don’t realize is that they are actively preventing themselves from making meaningful connections and inspiring male devotion and love by doing so. A lot of times, those walls that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/22 10:13 PM |
| 15 | Devotion AKA How I Turned a Wolf into a Border CollieSidebar material post! You’ve captured so many core RPW concepts in one post. The idea that commitment is a feeling is a difficult concept to understand, because when we think of commitment, we think of security. We feel more secure when a relationship is made official, when he proposes, after the vows are made at the wedding ceremony. It makes complete sense to want the security of commitment, but you have to know how to actually get it and keep it. If you don’t continue to inspire devotion, an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/22 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Tomorrow is my 10 year anniversary with my fiance; here are some things I've learned to cultivate a happy relationshipThose relationships flounder and fail as soon as the feelings do. Sure, but they’ve been together since their late teens for 10 years and are now getting married. Puppy love and infatuation usually doesn’t last this long. I think you’re also glossing over her discussing her very clear conflict resolution and support points. THOSE are what you need for when you go through stress and tragedy. She mentioned how he supported her through her failed businesses and how she supported him through unemplo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/22 02:50 PM |
| 13 | Tomorrow is my 10 year anniversary with my fiance; here are some things I've learned to cultivate a happy relationshipI feel like this is a bit unnecessary. She’s already engaged to him, so OP’s fiancé has already made an effort to take their commitment to the next level. They are literally getting married next month. She has made plans with her SO to try to conceive later this year. It seems like they’re planning for a family, not like her SO just wants “sex and support but not permanent commitment.” OP also says she started dating him at 18. I know there are traditional/conservative people who have no problem… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/22 01:44 PM |
| 103 | What's your take on prenup?I took a few law courses in my undergrad years, and my professor (who practices family law) really changed my view on prenups. They can be pretty complex (infidelity clauses, sunset clauses) and can actually be a way of advocating for BOTH parties to get what’s fair to them. That being said, if he or his prenup lawyers/arbitrators try to steamroll your concerns, it’s not a good sign that he wants to look out for you and your future. The same goes on your end. it sounds offending to me. If I am w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/22 06:27 AM |
| 7 | Is lifting weights mutually exclusive with being feminine?It is definitely not mutually exclusive. Lifting weights and lifting heavy is one of the only ways you can get a more feminine, curvy physique without adding fat to your midsection. Most men like a good booty. Most men also like women who are physically fit and healthy. If you are THAT concerned about bulking up, Bret Contreras did an extremely in-depth write up of weight training to attain a slender look à la Jessica Alba and Zoe Saldana. Note that he says you shouldn’t even worry about switchi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/22 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Are there still men out there who want to take care of their woman financially? What type of guy is he and where do you meet him?It’s like he doesn’t understand that the point of an analogy is to compare two disparate things to make a point. I’m pretty sure Winston Churchill didn’t ACTUALLY think women are equivalent to skirts when he said this... or am I crazy? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/22 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Are there still men out there who want to take care of their woman financially? What type of guy is he and where do you meet him?Yep! I sucked at dating when I was 18! That has always been something I’ve been open about, because it is a great testament to what RPW can do for young women who have been misled by our culture and media. That you would try to use it against me, when all I did was make a joking analogy, is pretty sad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/22 10:02 PM |
| 3 | Confused over marrying my partnerSo you also have your own conditions for marriage: you want to keep working and maintain independence and a certain degree of financial separation as a safety net. I’m not trying to tell you that you having your own conditions is wrong, but that I don’t think he is unreasonable for vocalizing what he wants in a marriage either, especially when we take into account your edits and response to me that make the situation a bit more nuanced than “man wants absolute financial control over forced SAHW.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/22 10:01 AM |
| 5 | Confused over marrying my partnerHe is putting this condition which I feel is incorrect because I am not putting any condition on him. Are you saying that you haven’t told him at all your concerns that you voiced in this post? I feel like the best way to go about this is to sit down, have a conversation with him about your worries, and tell him what YOU want in a marriage. Before you jump to any conclusions like So If I want to marry him I need to adjust and accept this ideology or leave a three-year long relationship based on … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/22 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Are there still men out there who want to take care of their woman financially? What type of guy is he and where do you meet him?Thank you. This captures both sides perfectly! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/22 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Are there still men out there who want to take care of their woman financially? What type of guy is he and where do you meet him?Good for you. Women also grow up having wanton sex and racking up high N-counts. Should we do that as well since it worked out for them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/22 04:02 AM |
| 3 | Are there still men out there who want to take care of their woman financially? What type of guy is he and where do you meet him?Folding clothes isnt difficult or time consuming. Stop being a martyr. Your condescension aside, have you ever actually done laundry for a family, or are you the one intent on arguing? I only have to do laundry for my partner and I, and it takes about an hour to fold both of our clothes for each washing day and some more time to put them away. We have two laundry days in the summer, and three in the winter since there’s more layers. Not to mention greater laundry day. People with families of 4, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/22 07:43 PM |
| 6 | male nature vs female natureI think everyone else pretty much covered why the ending of your post is problematic, so I don’t have anything to add there. I don’t mean to be rude, but frankly, this: It’s how I achieved a 666 alpha chad. is one of the most cringe-inducing things I’ve seen here. Imagine if your boyfriend referred to you as a “double-D, big booty, tight p*ssy Stacy” when talking about you. I would feel disgusted. That’s how you talk about a hook-up or conquest that you’ve objectified, not your loving and commit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/22 09:27 PM |
| 11 | male nature vs female natureI see a lot more posts about female nature than male nature. I wrote a two-part series on the male dual mating strategy and how to address it as women! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/22 04:12 AM |
| 14 | Red pill women- do you think it’s acceptable for women to ask for men’s phone number?If it makes you nervous to ask for a guy’s number directly, use The Art of the Bad Excuse. You could tell him you would love to learn more about the group/extracurricular you’re in, and ask if you could have his number to pick his brain on it. If that still feels too scary, I remember when I was in college people would ask for each other’s instagrams or snapchats to make the stakes lower. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/22 09:16 PM |
| 25 | How many of you make lunch for your husband/boyfriend/partner?I make it when I’m in the mood to whip up something special and when I know for sure that he’s not seeing any clients for lunch. He gets complimentary lunch at work from chefs who are much better at cooking than I am, so I usually don’t unless I know he’s craving a SunshineSundress special 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/22 06:26 AM |
| 0 | Sometimes good men give bad gifts.The real purpose of vetting is to identify men who have a robust reciprocal response. That's all. It's not about his morals or whether you like him, or want to be with him. It's about "Will he repay kindness freely given?". Then, from the pool of men you have vetted for this one trait, you date the ones you're most attracted to and most want to be with, until something clicks. Wow, that is literally the perfect epitome of what I was trying to say in my very lengthy Incremental Reciprocation post… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/22 02:50 AM |
| 0 | Sometimes good men give bad gifts.Omg that would be a godsend!! Thank you Whisper! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/22 08:10 PM |
| 0 | Sometimes good men give bad gifts.I used to be the QUEEN of covert contracts. When I was 18 and quite frankly a little brat. It was no surprise that I couldn’t find a stable and committed relationships for the life of me until I addressed my attitude and extremely unrealistic expectation for the men in my life to be Prince Charming that just knows perfectly what I want and how to act. For OP to still be acting like this, when she’s old enough to be going on important business trips, is pretty unseemly. One of my girlfriends is a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/22 08:08 PM |
| 5 | Am I a plate?It can be ideal for you and some people, but it may not be ideal for everyone. For some men, they place a lot of importance on a woman’s passion for them. This post is particularly insightful on the male desire for both purity and sexual passion from women, and was written by one of the founders of The Red Pill. Here’s a relevant excerpt: Now we understand how these two male desires [for purity and sexual passion] are NOT contradictory. They are actually the SAME desire... the desire to be both … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/22 04:40 AM |
| 4 | Sometimes good men give bad gifts.Of course we want gifts for our birthday, but in an effort to be diplomatic, we would never say “yes, of course I want you to give me birthday presents!” Why would you need to be diplomatic with a man who could potentially be your life partner? Isn’t the goal to form an actual connection, and not play some weird political game where you can’t even communicate openly with each other? You are creating a covert contract by saying you don’t want anything for your birthday, and expecting something an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/22 04:13 AM |
| 3 | Am I a plate?I think it’s an excellent plan to look into vocational rehab and going back to work. It will allow you to date not as a means of survival but to date with the intent to find the optimal connection for you. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/22 03:46 AM |
| 4 | Am I a plate?Having sex before commitment is an easy way of being put in the ‘sex only’ category for men. men differentiate women in two ways, one for commitment and one for sex. The question of “when should I have sex with a man” is an incredibly complicated one, and I think the answer to it just much more nuanced and individual than “sex before commitment = bad/slutty! Be a madonna, not a whore!”. I’ve delved into this topic at length here, based in multiple sources of RP theory from our sidebar/wiki, and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/22 03:41 AM |
| 10 | Am I a plate?Is this one of the men that you were seeing in a sugar daddy/sugar baby context from your post earlier this month? Because that changes how a lot of these factors that you listed out look. If it was a typical 2-month-long relationship, I would say there was nothing necessarily problematic about your list of cons EXCEPT for the one that explicitly stated he’s looking for a no strings attached relationship and the one before it and after it. That one pretty much tells you that he’s not looking for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/22 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Should I Stay Or Should I Go?Definitely! If there’s no intimacy at all then you are more roommates than a married couple. No one, man or woman, has an obligation towards a partner who doesn’t fulfill their needs. That being said, this is why I advise against dating men you are not sexually attracted to. If you know this early on, then you end the relationship before you waste years of each others’ time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/22 10:50 PM |
| 18 | Sometimes good men give bad gifts.What I find the craziest is all the comments saying that the guy shouldn’t have even asked if she wanted something in the first place, and how that alone was enough grounds to leave him. How dare a man communicate openly and directly?! How dare he try to gauge what your expectations are and see how he can accommodate them to make you happy on your birthday in a relatively new relationship?! What a manipulative monster!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/22 10:40 PM |
| 5 | Sometimes good men give bad gifts.Even the crunchiest splurge on their birthday and this is the first one he’s known her. My man is VERY strict on his diet and has cut sugar and most processed foods out of his life, year round. The one exception he makes? The pecan pie I bake every year for his birthday, because I know it’s the one sugary thing he craves and how much he loves it. He still goes gaga every time and appreciates the hell out of me for it, even though he only takes one small slice and shares the rest with his friends… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/22 10:32 PM |
| 3 | Insert title 🤷🏼♀️My tongue will get the best of me and I catch myself HOURS or maybe even a day later like, “why on earth did you say that”. By then I feel like it’s too late to bring it back up. It is never too late to apologize! It’s a great opportunity for you to be vulnerable with your fiancé and the father of your child. Instead of letting it build up unaddressed and become an issue for the both of you, you can bring it up a day or two later when you’ve had the opportunity to cool down. You can tell him tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/22 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Should I try to get him to pay attention to me or not?Glad you like it and found it useful!! Posts like The Art of the Bad Excuse are what made me love this sub too, so I love resharing it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/22 01:43 AM |
| 6 | What’s for dinner?I’m craving an egg salad sandwich SO badly. That’ll probably be what my man and I are gonna bring for our lunches tomorrow 😂 I like to add arugula tossed in lemon juice and olive oil for some greens. In the egg salad itself, I add dill, green onions, just a bit of finely diced celery and pickles, and a mix of mayo, yogurt, dijon, and lemon juice! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/22 11:39 PM |
| 26 | West Elm Caleb Dates Like a Girl; Women of TikTok OUTRAGED!Is this gonna affect his career? He had to delete his LinkedIn because he was getting spammed with hate mail and death threats. For casual dating. In NYC. If he loses his job at West Elm, I doubt any furniture company (which is a pretty small industry in the first place) will want to touch him with a 10 foot pole. It is so weird that they chose to single in on this one guy, when this is how EVERYONE (who has the ability to) dates in NYC. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/22 08:38 PM |
| 6 | Should I try to get him to pay attention to me or not?I think it would be better to try than to not try and always wonder, “What if?”. Do you REALLY know that he is interested in the other girl more, or is that just an assumption you made based on a few glances and smiles he made? The way he reacts to your bad excuse (flirty and engaged vs. curt and nonchalant) will tell you if a relationship with him is worth considering or not. The former is a good sign that he is interested in you and just needed a sign, and the latter is a good sign that he’s j… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/22 07:57 PM |
| 13 | Should I try to get him to pay attention to me or not?If he tries to ask her out, sure, it’s a little questionable. But OP says he just looks and smiles at her. I dunno if that’s enough proof that he’s a malicious homewrecker or Mr. Steal Yo Gurl 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/22 11:14 AM |
| 34 | Should I try to get him to pay attention to me or not?There is a way to show your interest clearly, but femininely - The Art of the Bad Excuse. It allows you to start an interaction and conversation with a man in a feminine and dignified way. No matter what his reaction and actual interest level is, you will not be embarrassed or seen as “desperate,” because there is enough plausible deniability that you’re just a friendly, talkative person. The Art of the Bad Excuse has worked for RPWs before, and I’m confident it will continue to work now. A lot … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/22 11:11 AM |
| 2 | Incremental Reciprocation: How to Minimize Risk While Being Vulnerable and SubmissiveThanks for encouraging me to! It’s just been scattered in random comments and I definitely needed the push to tie it into a cohesive piece! And yes I totally agree. You have to show all the ways you’re a keeper before and around the time you decide to have sex, or else there’s nothing that really differentiates you from a regular hookup. I don’t think having girl game is hard - it’s knowing that you even need to have girl game and that it will be rewarded that gets missed! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/22 10:59 PM |
| 5 | Should I Stay Or Should I Go?Damn, good point! I didn’t even think about it that way, partly because I stole the 3 pillars idea from this convo I just had with Whisper 😂 But you’re absolutely right. If no one is willing to make the first investment, because both parties are in a weird power struggle to have the upper hand and be the person who is less interested, no relationship/commitment will occur. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/22 04:41 AM |
| 6 | Incremental Reciprocation: How to Minimize Risk While Being Vulnerable and SubmissiveThank you, freebreakfast! I always appreciate your feedback and commentary. My assumption is that these women normally used hooking up early and regular sex with their interest as a method of eventually moving into a relationship with a guy as a default strategy before showing relationship market value and asking for investment. YES. This. Like The Final Exam says, you can’t just treat men like slot machines where you pull the sex handle until you miraculously win the relationship jackpot. Had t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/22 04:39 AM |
| 9 | Should I Stay Or Should I Go?Ah, I see someone didn’t bother to read the article. It was written by one of the first Endorsed Contributors of TRP, whose contributions have been foundational to a lot of RP theory that exists and is parroted by manospherean podcasters today. Here’s a relevant excerpt: When she says it’s hard to be more sexual with her husband, what she really means is, “It is very difficult for me to force myself to have sex with my husband. I am viscerally repulsed by the thought of being sexual with him on … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/22 04:26 AM |
| 6 | I met someone and I am so scared that I will ruin itI guess we all know the feeling when we want to look our absolute best and then feel like everything we own is just garbage 😅. Absolutely! Sometimes we just need to take a step back to realize, wait a minute, I was attractive enough to pique his interest and have him initiate further contact with me!! Why wouldn’t I be enough? Thanks for giving us more information about your scenario. Honestly, if you feel particularly insecure about only recently coming into a better place financially (which me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/22 01:05 AM |
| 6 | Should I Stay Or Should I Go?No problem. Good luck with everything! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/22 10:54 PM |
| 10 | I met someone and I am so scared that I will ruin itI feel for you. It’s difficult when you are feeling as if you are dating out of your league. I think you might find this helpful. You are valuing yourself how we would value men - having a good car, lavish apartment, nice furniture, expensive belongings, etc. Men do not work like that. Even if he is from a different socioeconomic class, men put much less importance on those things because they prioritize other feminine virtues much more. What matters is if your living spaces are neat and well-ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/22 10:52 PM |
| 21 | Should I Stay Or Should I Go?I don’t think so. Attraction is not negotiable. I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news but I want to be honest with you. You cannot work on changing your attraction to someone because attraction and desire is just a feeling. It is either inspired, or it isn’t. The only way that this could work is if he significantly improves his attractiveness (for men, this isn’t as easy as just improving his looks. It is also largely dependent on behavior and masculinity), in a way that suits your tastes. That… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/22 10:25 PM |
| 39 | Should I Stay Or Should I Go?The three pillars of a good relationship are 1) shared attraction 2) shared values 3) shared goals. It seems like you and your boyfriend have pillars 2 and 3, but are missing pillar 1. Attraction is not negotiable. You will not be able to rationalize yourself into wanting him physically and sexually, no matter how much you want a family or how much of a good husband and father you think he would be. Forcing yourself to “bite the bullet” and have sex with him will not be easy now, and will only g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/22 10:09 PM |
| 3 | I am a plateI was trying to hint at this in my last paragraph by giving a personal example, but this just completely broke down all the reasons for it in a way that can be applicable for everyone!! This is because a good relationship is supported by three pillars: Mutual attraction. Shared values. Shared Goals. It’s so simple, yet so many of us miss this! I find that a lot of people, including myself in the past, tend to fixate on one of these pillars and completely forget about the importance of the other … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/22 10:48 PM |
| 8 | How to best support him while he is grieving?LOL that acronym is definitely memorable! Definitely covers all the bases though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/22 05:51 AM |
| 5 | I am a platePinging u/whisper and u/pearlsandstilettos : you are the ones who are credited for this theory in the sidebar so please correct me if I’m wrong or if you have additional info to add!! From my own interpretation, Category 3 men have less post-commitment risk because these are men who are attractive enough to not have to use their only bargaining chip, their commitment, in order to attract women. They have other attractive qualities, like masculinity, leadership, ambitiousness, superior physical l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/22 05:40 AM |
| 10 | How to best support him while he is grieving?Yeah, u/sweetdovely this is a great idea. Imagine having the longest, most depressing day, and coming home and having to cook an entire meal for yourself. When I was at my lower points, moments like that made me feel incredibly alone and sad. If I came home, saw a lovely note from the person I loved telling me that they loved me and that they made my favorite food and it was waiting for me in the fridge along with a little dessert, I would probably cry tears of gratitude LOL. Since you’re super … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/22 11:10 PM |
| 23 | Making sense of my boyfriend's behavior: "Men want to be alone, but not by ourselves"There just aren’t stand ups like Patrice anymore! He was a legend. This reminds me of this RPW sidebar post: Be a Cat. I followed this when my relationship got more serious. I get excited when we come home and see each other, and shower him in kisses and hugs and cuddles. But I consciously hold off on the “How was your day? What did you do?” questions, so he can decompress (and so can I) and we can just relax a bit after a long day. It works! My man verbally told me how much he likes and cherish… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/22 10:59 PM |
| 60 | Splitting bills when he makes significantly more?Have you talked to him about this? I don’t mean just mentioning that your parents lowered your allowance in passing - I mean actually telling him that you can’t afford to go out with him. Start off by telling him that you love trying new restaurants and going to movies with him so he doesn’t think you’re trying to break up, but explain that because your allowance has been cut short, you can’t afford to pay for those occasions as often as you’re currently doing. Be non-accusatory and try to come … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/22 03:32 AM |
| 2 | Confused about date inviteWow, thank you so much Whisper!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/22 02:58 AM |
| 5 | is lip filler aging?Yeah. Filler migration is always a concern, but if that’s a risk you’re willing to take, lip filler doesn’t have to look extreme and gaudy if you’re conservative with it and you get them from a qualified surgeon or dermatologist. When done right like this or this or this, they should be more or less undetectable to the general public. Personally, my lips are decently full naturally so the side effects aren’t worth it to me. But if I felt like my lips detracted from my overall SMV, I would defini… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 11:33 PM |
| 9 | Weight + SmvEven if you won’t look like a female body builder, you will still bulk up. Plenty of my gym-rat girlfriends, who dedicate more time than the average woman at the gym but nowhere near enough time to become body builders, still have large, defined quads and noticeable upper-body definition. It’s still a gorgeous look that men are into, but it may not be what your man is into or the physique that you want. I really like this Bret Contreras post on attaining a slender look. They should still weight … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 09:52 PM |
| 3 | Confused about date inviteExactly! It takes reciprocal investment from both people for a relationship to thrive. It isn’t just the cheesecake or any particular gesture that wins them over. It’s the thought behind the effort and the willingness to show that you care and are invested, however that may look. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 09:38 PM |
| 30 | Was I impulsive?My scenario is a strange fairytale that I couldn’t replicate if I tried. You are not giving yourself enough credit! You took action, worked on yourself a lot, and improved your SMV and RMV enough to the point that the same man who didn’t want to commit to you before changed his dang mind and put a ring on it. That takes a lot of skill and girl game! Even if most people probably won’t be able to replicate this exact situation with the same man, I think it’s an excellent takeaway that radical self… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 09:32 PM |
| 26 | Was I impulsive?If a man is open and honest with you and tells you upfront that he isn’t interested in anything more with you, then believe him and move on. It is the right choice to let him go. I’m fed up with men not taking things seriously and just wanting to have good time as if life is all about that. When I was going through the RPW wiki yesterday, I found this post on Chads and I feel like you might find it helpful moving forward. If men consistently do not take things seriously with you, it means that y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Confused about date inviteI just responded to OP with the full comment here, if you’re interested! I’m always a little nervous when applying my writing for daughters instead of for us, because we have an innate instinct to want to protect them at all costs so that they remain pure and innocent. A lot of the strategy that I would be perfectly willing to use myself goes out the window, even if it ultimately proved to be successful. If you’ve finished reading what I wrote, it may mean that as a parent, you would want your d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Confused about date inviteSorry for the late response! It took more time than anticipated to write all of this out in a cohesive and comprehensive way that a person new to RPW could understand 😅 anyways, let’s get into it! Oh, and if you’re confused by the weird RP terms we use, this Glossary may be helpful! The first main topic that I find most relevant to figuring out what strategy works for you is understanding the 4 types of men that you’ll encounter in the SMP: Men who are so far out of your league they won't give y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 08:35 PM |
| 18 | Confused about date inviteThe way you “dazzle” a man is not by strategizing or trying to impress him, even with feminine qualities. The very act of trying that hard is MASCULINE. By that logic, this entire subreddit is “masculine” and completely redundant. RPW is a subreddit entirely dedicated to female sexual strategy: it says so right at the beginning of our wiki. We are literally here to strategize 1) how to identify quality mates, 2) how to attract quality mates, and 3) how to keep quality mates for long term relatio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/22 02:41 PM |
| 13 | Confused about date inviteI like a girl who likes a good challenge!! Not strange to ask at all, since it’s one of the things we extensively discuss here. There is no concrete, one-size-fits-all milestone to hit before “giving sex”. Individuals, their relationships, and all the nuances that surround them are far too complex for rules like “wait 3 dates”, “wait 90 days”, “wait until he makes it facebook official”, or “wait until he gives you a wedding ring” to work for everyone. It’s an extremely complicated topic that mig… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/22 10:36 AM |
| 3 | Confused about date inviteYeah, that makes sense. I think he just thinks you know what’s up more than he does so he’ll let you pick! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/22 10:10 AM |
| 48 | Confused about date inviteYou have a lot of concern about being an “afterthought” to him, as if this is a red flag on his part. But you’ve literally only hung out with this man ONCE. There is no commitment here yet and you’re just getting to know each other, which is perfectly normal. A fundamental of RPW theory is that men are the gatekeepers of commitment and women are the gatekeepers of sex. Just as it’s his job to inspire your attraction and respect enough to make you want to have sex with him, it’s your job to inspi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/22 10:05 AM |
| 6 | Confused about date inviteI think since you told him you wanted to go to a comedy show, it makes sense for him to figure that you would know which venues/comedians are the best and most enjoyable to you so he let you pick. Not a big deal at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/22 09:52 AM |
| 6 | RP Success Story from an initial skeptic! Thanks galsWow, I’m so glad you found them useful!! Good luck with everything and hope you have a happy engagement and marriage 💖 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 10:45 PM |
| 25 | RP Success Story from an initial skeptic! Thanks galsWow, congratulations on your engagement!! I’m so glad to hear how RPW has helped you and your relationship out of its previous ruts. It also really helped me and I credit it for helping me change my life for the better! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 09:04 PM |
| 9 | Dating down? Thoughts?Well said! brawny paper towel man Oh, you mean the hottest marketing tool of all time?! Your friend struck gold 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 08:58 PM |
| 3 | Tips on finding a high value man?Because men and women are attracted to different things. Men are looking for beauty, femininity, nurturing, kindness, compassion, and vulnerability. Women are looking for success, leadership, masculinity, assertiveness, and an equal or higher or social status than their own. Male physicians often do not see non-physicians as “lower”, because men value other things much more than they value job titles and salaries in women. You are confusing what the opposite gender wants with what you want from … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 08:47 PM |
| 4 | When to let go of a relationship?No problem at all, I’m so glad you found it helpful. I think u/CountTheBees made a good point about how his words may have been a neg and not a genuine insult like I interpreted it to be. That might give you more context on your situation! Anyways, good luck with everything. You might have to make some hard decisions but you got this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 08:39 PM |
| 6 | When to let go of a relationship?Wow, thank you so much!! I’ll try to rework it and post it soon! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 08:36 PM |
| 5 | When to let go of a relationship?I’m totally with you there. I get some pushback when I say we need men, but I genuinely think we do. It’s just the truth, not a neg 😉 😂😂😂 it is. I don’t think I’ve won board game night for nearly a year! Oooh, I’ve definitely been negged outside of a romantic context. Honestly, I just stole Agree and Amplify from TRP and it’s been pretty useful for me 😂 it keeps things playful and fun but lets those coworkers or friends know I’m more unflappable than they think! Recently, I stuffed up bad at Chr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 08:35 PM |
| 8 | When to let go of a relationship?Negging, which is what the “stupid” and “retarded” comments are, tends to only work on women who are confident and used to male attention. It doesn’t work on shy girls with low self esteem. Note how she (correctly) identified it as banter and not as a genuine insult. Ooh, great point! I immediately saw this as a genuine insult, because when I tried to see this from my old perspective (when I was also 20 and could not get a relationship for the life of me), I was deeply insecure and felt like I w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 01:00 PM |
| 19 | When to let go of a relationship?This will be long. There’s a lot of theory stuff in here to help you better understand the situation at hand, but there’s more personalized advice towards the end. The guy that I’ve been ‘dating’ always seemed to put me down every now and then, keeps calling me ‘stupid’ and ‘retard’ which I brushed off as banter but recently came to realize it’s all part of the RP philosophy (ref: How to manage your bitches from TRP sidebar). “Guide to Managing Your Bitches” is an incredibly crude, yet nonethele… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 12:05 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on arranged marriages?What we like is irrelevant in marriage. I think you’re overgeneralizing with that. I can think of plenty of cases where the things we like are very relevant in marriage. For example, I like sexy masculine men. I’m pretty sure the vast majority of women here do too. If my arranged husband wasn’t a sexy, masculine man, but a stable and safe option nonetheless, I would struggle to desire him and would not want to be sexually intimate with him in the marriage very often. A dead bedroom would certain… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/22 05:43 AM |
| 12 | The pills when it comes to women.I’ve talked about how listening to these “red pill” youtubers isn’t a great idea. They often focus on generating outrage, instead of offering actual solutions. This may be contributing to your feeling of hopelessness and misery - these videos are warping your perspective and withholding the solutions to fix these things. My suggestion? Stop watching those videos and get your RP advice from the actual source. RPW is specifically tailored for the female perspective and is basically an entire toolb… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/22 09:59 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on arranged marriages?+1! u/LivelyLychee | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/22 08:36 PM |
| 11 | Does anyone else get anxious when talking to other guys because you're already in a relationship?I’m a pretty chatty cathy. I practice chatting and making small talk to a lot of strangers, male and female, to help with my social anxiety. I’ve been doing this for years and it’s hard to turn off now - it’s just what I do. Learning to be social (for me, an innately socially awkward person) is like learning another language - you have to keep practicing and using it to maintain your skills 😂 From what I learned from all these interactions, almost every guy reasonably in your age range that resp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/22 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Monthly GoalsWow that sounds like such a thoughtful gift! I’m so glad he enjoys it so much! Hopefully my man will feel the same way. I feel like homemade gifts are more meaningful for men who can get themselves whatever they want - but it makes it so much more difficult to buy them something 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/22 10:31 PM |
| 5 | Monthly GoalsJust in case he knows/checks my account, I’m a little scared to spoil it for him! Let’s just say he has a hobby he’s really into, and I’m gonna hand-make one of the things associated with it for him! It has a lot of components so it’s taking me much longer than anticipated. As always I overestimated my actual skill level and underestimated my propensity to procrastinate 😂 Thank you so much for your kind wishes!! I’m so glad my writing has been helpful for you - that’s all I ever wanted to do her… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/22 05:56 PM |
| 6 | What makes you think of yourself a red pill womanTotally agree with all your points! My friends would faint from disbelief and horror if I started talking about “submission as strategy,” but when I rebrand it using less edgy words, they completely agree with the overall idea 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/22 10:19 AM |
| 6 | Monthly GoalsI’ve been working on a very elaborate project for my man. It was supposed to be a part of his birthday gift, but I couldn’t finish in time so I pushed it back to be his Christmas present, and I STILL couldn’t finish it in time. I’m gonna dedicate 30-60 minutes everyday to just sit down, tackle a small chunk of it at a time, and hopefully I can surprise him with it by the end of this month. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/22 10:14 AM |
| 3 | Understanding "lady game"Check out our glossary of terms: SMV – Sexual Market Value. A shorthand statement for “what you bring to the table,” whether for an one-night stand or for a longer sexual/emotional relationship. Basically, SMV is a measure of how physically attractive you are on the dating market. RMV - Relationship Market Value. A shorthand statement for “what you bring to the table,” includes the notion of SMV, but more geared towards value as a long relationship partner. Basically, RMV is a measure of how goo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/22 08:49 PM |
| 3 | What’s for dinner?Okay, the pasta recipe was incredible. It was our favorite dish of the day! I realized that it’s better if you cook down all the extra broth that you add so that the sauce isn’t runny. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/22 08:46 PM |
| 12 | What makes you think of yourself a red pill womanThis is my reasoning too. I don’t need to make it into a lifestyle or an ideology. It’s just a good tool that I can refer back to when dealing with men. Kind of a cheat code when all’s fair in love and war. In my experience, a lot of the strategies work. If I try one and it doesn’t, then I can just move on and not use that one 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/22 08:44 PM |
| 3 | What’s for dinner?I’ll let you know how it goes!! I should really start prepping now, but I’m procrastinating 🤪 | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/21 10:13 PM |
| 8 | What’s for dinner?For New Year’s Eve dinner, I’m making baked bacon-wrapped scallops, avocado deviled eggs (never tried it, we’ll see how it turns out), this seafood pasta recipe, potato and leek soup, and a pre-made berry tart from Trader Joe’s! Tomorrow my man and I are going to my family’s hot pot party, which I’m super excited about. I’m gonna bring these peppermint brownie cookies! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/21 09:27 PM |
| 5 | What exactly are men looking for besides physical beauty? What advice would you give a woman who couldn't change her appearance but wanted a high value man as her partner? (Please no answers that talk about bettering your physical appearance) I need lady game techniques my friends!You pretty much covered all the basics! I’d just add good hygiene (white teeth, clean hair, smelling good), healthy skin, and dressing for your body type and coloring. r/coloranalysis and r/dressforyourbody helps with this! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/21 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Doesn't the existence of lesbians completely destroy a lot of red pill views of how women view men?Lol yes, it may as well be the uniform for Hollywood guys in their 40s/50s! Yeah, I’m not a huge fan of how tech guys dress. I know a few who are pretty fashionable, but they’re certainly not the norm. Agree with that guy on zip hoodies though - they just aren’t flattering! A pullover hoodie or crewneck looks better IMO if you’re into street style! As based as it gets, I hope! 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/21 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Doesn't the existence of lesbians completely destroy a lot of red pill views of how women view men?Only exception is maybe Hollywood. For some reason, you can catch pictures of male celebrities purposefully grooming down in a baggy hoodie whilst their girl is dressed like a street model. Intentionally or not, I think it’s a show of indifference. “So what if I have a beer belly, a splotchy beard and awful hair, and a penchant for very unflattering outfits? I could still f*ck your girl!” It’s a show that they are so established and confident that their looks don’t even matter anymore. I call it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/21 11:15 PM |
| 3 | I am a plateI also prefer category 3 men over category 4 men for exactly the same reason you mentioned! Sexual compatibility was important to me, and the waiting for marriage route just didn’t suit me very well. I can totally understand why it fits other women better, though! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/21 11:02 PM |
| 6 | Understanding "lady game"And this was my answer for those below that threshold: feminine beauty is highly controllable. There is no reason ANYONE needs to be below a 5 on the SMV scale, unless you were unfortunate enough to be born with an extreme physical deformity. If you start out average, sky is the limit in terms of how much you can improve your looks. A 5 is the bare minimum, reserved for those with extremely unflattering facial features only resolvable for plastic surgery they cannot afford. Most women can achiev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/21 11:00 PM |
| 6 | Set Your Intentions Or Deal W/ ConsequencesIs being intentional about what you want from a relationship with a man the same as not reciprocating anything? One doesn’t have anything to do with the other. They are absolutely tied to each other. You need to be reciprocal IF you want your intentions and standards to be successfully met and fulfilled. Anyone can have intentions of what they want from a man. I could be a morbidly obese shrew of a woman with no sense of reciprocity or femininity, and still “require things” from the men I’m dati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/21 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Doesn't the existence of lesbians completely destroy a lot of red pill views of how women view men?I agree with you that women (or at least me lol) wear makeup for attention and validation (in lady-speak, this translates to “self-confidence” and “feeling good about yourself”). When I wear makeup around my man, I keep his tastes in mind (he likes rosy cheeks and painted nails!) so that he thinks I’m cute and I feel warm and fuzzy on the inside in that moment because he thinks I’m cute. If I’m going out or to an event with my SO, then I do my makeup in a way that will be good social proof for h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/21 09:58 AM |
| 53 | Set Your Intentions Or Deal W/ ConsequencesSetting expectations and creating boundaries is all fine and good, but none of that incentivizes men to WANT to invest in you. A mentality like this: men have to be trained Or this: if a man isn’t willing to spend money on you...then he doesn’t care about you often sends men running for the hills and is missing a big part of the girl game equation. It shifts all the responsibility for commitment and investment onto the men, when they are the gatekeepers of commitment and it’s our responsibility … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/21 07:32 AM |
| 15 | Understanding "lady game"Well first of all, feminine beauty is highly controllable. There is no reason ANYONE needs to be below a 5 on the SMV scale, unless you were unfortunate enough to be born with an extreme physical deformity. If you start out average, sky is the limit in terms of how much you can improve your looks. Check out that link to see all the ways you can change your image and increase your SMV. What factors can a woman work on to increase her SMV when we can’t reverse time or change our bodies? We cannot … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/21 07:03 AM |
| 7 | How to check that we're still on the same page?Right? Seems more or less reasonable to me. He’s literally telling OP when he’s planning to propose. That’s a pretty concrete sign IMO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/21 06:38 AM |
| 5 | Critiqued husband out of helping with housework?Wow thank you! I hope to have as long and prosperous of a relationship as you do! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/21 10:42 AM |
| 14 | Critiqued husband out of helping with housework?This. I watched my best friend take over more chores because she thought her boyfriend did them incorrectly (I’ve slept over at their place quite a few times - how he does them is nowhere near as bad as she makes it out to be). Nowadays she’s complaining to me that he’s lazy because he won’t bother helping out with those chores, conveniently forgetting that she shooed him away from doing so in the beginning. You reap what you sow! Edit: SHE HAS A GUEST BEDROOM!! I just realized how that could’ve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/21 03:20 AM |
| 78 | Critiqued husband out of helping with housework?Put yourself in his shoes. Imagine that you were working full-time and earning the majority of your household’s income. It’s probably not easy work to provide enough for a SAHM and your family. But because your partner suddenly has 15 less hours to do their chores, you step up and do more housework even though your hours stayed the same. You happily signed up for a heavier load, just because you love your partner wanted to make sure they aren’t overworked. Instead of feeling appreciated and love… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/21 03:10 AM |
| 35 | Don't know what to do anymore. I need help!I don’t mean any offense, but I think your hamster is spinning out of control and making you turn non-issues or even green flags into problems because you want a justification to start dating the man from the cafe. letting all of my mistakes and actions pass. I even broke one of his (deceased) mother’s prized china dishes and he just walked over, picked up the pieces, and threw them in the bin. Isn’t this what’s supposed to happen? Mistakes are accidents, and partners who get upset over accident… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/21 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Black Lipstick?Oh I can’t wear matte lipstick EVER! My lips are way too flaky unfortunately 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/21 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Black Lipstick?Funnily enough, I got typed as a bright spring! The consultant I used said that the bright lip colors themselves look good with my skin and high contrast, but I have pretty rounded and soft features so it looks kinda harsh when it’s not blended out around the edges. I think I also have a preference for MLBB colors, so that might be why I’m not a fan of how the bright lipsticks look on me. I definitely love some muted lipsticks! I have to stay away from shades that too dusty (which is unfortunate… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/21 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Black Lipstick?That’s so true! Women with darker complexions look absolutely gorgeous in deep browns and other very vibrant or dark shades. I’m extremely pale and even some corals and pinks look too harsh on me :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/21 07:16 PM |
| 3 | Black Lipstick?Glad your mom’s lipgloss is poppin!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/21 07:13 PM |
| 10 | Infertile womenPersonally I wouldn’t, at least not in a western culture. First dates are supposed to be lighthearted time where you make a good first impression and show them that you’re a GOLF - which is what Laura Doyle calls a Goddess of Light and Fun. First dates are just to test for chemistry between the two people. Once things get a bit more serious and you’ve discussed your other life goals and values (could be anywhere from the third date onwards), then I would bring it up. Early on I wouldn’t make a b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/21 07:13 PM |
| 13 | Black Lipstick?It depends on what kind of guy you’re interested in. If you like musicians from the punk-rock or metal scene, or men who have edgy/alternative aesthetics and lifestyles, then black lipstick is perfectly fine and may even help you attract those men. You should dress and do your makeup for the man you want. However, if you like finance bros, surfer dudes, or country boys, it may not be the most attractive look to them. If you’re single and trying to cast a wide net, black lipstick may unnecessaril… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/21 10:30 AM |
| 3 | I am a plateNo problem! Christmas Eve was chaotic as usual for me - I hope your Christmas is going well too!! I think that’s a perfectly reasonable choice. In case you find yourself attracted to another Category 3 man in the future, this is my one of my favorite set of posts on this topic (unfortunately it’s been deleted, but luckily it’s been archived)! The first post is from someone who felt like she was starting as a plate like you, and the second was an update from her after she got commitment, where sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/21 10:04 AM |
| 7 | Do men really value you if they worked hard for you and your attention?Well you already said that “he seems slow as shit”, that you’ve blocked him, and that you’re “done with this”, so why does it matter? If he’s decided that he doesn’t want you and you’ve decided that he’s slow and that you don’t want him, it seems like you should just move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/21 10:05 PM |
| 8 | Do men really value you if they worked hard for you and your attention?People with mental health issues date all the time... I never said otherwise. But this seems to be the reason why THIS particular man pulled away from committing to you, not because you told him that you liked him back. It could be a reason for other men in the future too, and addressing mental health issues and working to become a healthier, more stable person will never be a bad thing. men value women they worked hard to win over. The chase etc. This is a common misconception that stems from c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/21 09:48 PM |
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