Summary:

I understand, and 100% agree, that when it comes to plates and women one must have an abundance mindset. That you have options to keep the bids coming your way, and only you get to choose who the highest bidder is. But I think there is something a bit larger at hand that some people in ask TRP missed.

Body:

Reading ask TRP, there is a flood of posts like:

  • I'm depressed/bored/tired/unmotivated (insert feeling here) during quarantine.
  • How do I stay motivated during quarantine?
  • What should I do during quarantine to improve myself?

These are great questions, but many including myself fall onto the default answer, read this book, lift these weights, read sidebar. Cool, giving concrete step by step advice is perfect for new comers who need the details spoon fed. Giving these questions some more thought about my own life, I have come to a conclusion. We are answering these questions wrong. (Note: This is a generalization and not intended as criticism towards any particular person.)

What do I mean? Well I will give an example from my own life. Yes, the world is under quarantine. I however am not. I still come into the office 7am to 4pm. I still do my work, make phone calls, shoot emails, coordinate project related tasks, etc. Everyone else other than one of my superiors are staying and working from home. At home, I have plenty to do. I have a fence to repair, grass to cut, animals to take care of, go for a run, lift some weights, cook some food and oh...I still need to finish Paradise Lost that I've been slowly trying to chip away at. (Fantastic piece of writing I must say). I have also purchased 3 more books on the way, as well as some computer parts for upgrades, and occasionally play some games with the bro's. On weekends I still go help out my church with live stream setups, audio and media management, etc. TLDR, my schedule is packed.

That, is what I think abundance mindset is (correct me if I am wrong). It's not just that you have plenty of other women taking up you time. Its that you have other more important, more urgent, REAL WORK TO DO, other than fucking women and spinning plates. If you are bored, depressed, unmotivated, its because you probably have NOTHING TO DO. Which means you either have no responsibilities, or no interests and hobbies. Hitting the bar is not a hobby. (Note: This is a generalization and not intended as criticism towards any particular person.)

Conclusion

Abundance of things to do. A healthy mix of responsibilities, work, hobbies, interests, and goals. Our current society has been completely incompetent in providing young men with fuel for the mind, body and soul. This isn't just an issue with men, women too have become increasingly bored, dull, and unmotivated, but at least their hormones keep driving them to hunt down men.

Good luck out there guys. Stay safe.