Abundance Mentality, when achieved, eliminates the fear of failure. One of the biggest downfalls of AFC guys is this fear. In my opinion, it is the greatest weapon a woman wields against a man. A bi-product of one-itis is the fear that we will lose the one. When approaching any woman, this fear is always present. Shes THE ONE that we want to take home, THE ONE that we want to ask on a date, THE ONE blah blah blah. By mentally ascribing that to them, we instantly have everything to lose at the moment of approach. When we first start an encounter, every tactic is employed to keep her attention, to impress her, to, no matter what, make her yours. By going through these motions, you have lost every option you have. You may get lucky going this route, but you have no flexibility, no room to adjust, no way to go around obstacles in your path. More often than not, failure results from these actions.

Achieving abundance mentality is directly tied to overcoming the root of the mental process that governs one-itis. Imagine every encounter with a woman starting with dozens of doors. One of those doors leads to failure. Because of one-itis, every action you take is not predicated by the doors in front of you, the different options you have, instead it is compelled by the instinct to do whatever keeps you furthest away from the door leading to failure. In this state, you are like a wild animal, you can be led to any action you see as keeping you furthest from this failure. This is where shit tests are passed and failed. Shit tests are basically a prod that determines whether or not you are running away from that door of failure, or are picking whatever door you please from the many around you.

Abundance mentality is the realization and action on this realization that you have options. When in that first approach situation with a woman, or anything in life really, Abundance is the ability to see all the doors around you and be able to walk through any of them, including failure. No success is built without failure, no man has lived without going through it. Abundance is the realization that failure is just another option, that even when taken leads to more options. You can fail with one woman at a bar, but still have another 20 to choose from. When you can be ok with failing with any woman at that bar, with walking away, you have made it. A woman's main power is your own fear of failing them. They rely on your ingrained instinct to run from their failure state to maintain their position of power. When you are free from that influence, you have gained more power over women than they ever had over you.

Abundance mentality at the end of the day is the freedom from failure. It is the realization that even failure is not truly failure. We live in a world of infinite options and possibility, and failure only occurs when we exclude ourselves from those possibilities.