First off, I've been reading up on TRP for the past month or two now and this is my first post. The aim of this post is to share an experience I had, and the reward I received for adopting a more alpha mindset after orbiting a girl for about two months.

About me -Skippable-

21, White, American, 6-foot, ~120lb. and living in Europe. I have been a skinny guy my whole life, never tried to bulk up at all. But in the past I have gotten some women just from flirting, wit, etc. Most of my sex had been in relationships where the girl become emotionally dependent on—or just generally obsessed with—me. I grew up with three sisters so I tend to see women more as friends than sexual beings, though. I generally to do things with women that would be considered extremely "beta" here, sharing emotions, paying for dates, etc. However, recently, when orbiting a girl I have been wildly interested in, almost verging on oneitis at one point (though not anymore), I realized I wouldn't get anywhere with this strategy and was instantly rewarded for switching to a TRP-mindset.

The story

The Girl: 20yo, European, short, cute face, solid body, works out multiple times a week, has the ass of an angel. We met in class and during the first semester we start talking, developing rapport, we confide in each other about our past, our fears, etc- very beta-ish things, but had the benefit of building immense amounts of trust.

Start Second Semester. We go out for coffee a few times, she invites me over once when extremely drunk so we can go out dancing. I get there and she is smashed. She flirts with me extremely hard, but I decided to not take advantage of her because she so far gone and I was sober. I decide to be the nice guy, clean her up (and her puke) put her to bed, and just sleep next to her. The next morning I was definitely second guessing myself, and was even wondering if I should make a move then, but, as a classic beta, I didn't.

Fast forward a month, we had still been talking occasionally, but haven't met up outside class. I tipsily messaged her around midnight asking what was up, she told me to come over. I arrive, we smoke until 4am, but I don't make any advances. She invites me to sleep in her bed again (Can't tell if this was due to sexual interest, kindness, or just trust), but this time I'm too tired and high to do anything so I just cuddle and we fall asleep. The next morning we wake up and we start flirting, talking about sexual preferences, and she tells me she just decided to be exclusive with a guy. I convince her to give me a message and then I return the favor. She turns to me and I decide that THAT was the cue for me to go in, so I try my luck for a kiss and she backs off and says something along the lines of "sorry". Feels bad, but we're still in a sexual position with a lot of sexual tension. I decided to go pull out my inner dominant side by putting my hand around her throat (due to that beta-trust she had previously told me that she really wanted to be choked but even the manly guys she'd been with hadn't actually choked her). With a modest amount of pressure, she looked up at me with the eyes that every man wants to see—with an intensity I don't think I've seen from any other girl I've been with—and those eyes said Fuck me, now. What followed I can only describe as my most satisfying sexual experience including choking, scratching, restraining, lifting her against the wall, and so on.

This experience has taught me a few things. First, I shouldn't just be looking for signs to go in—I am the catalyst for sex, I cause them to want to have sex. Second, confidence and persistence are paramount. If I had stopped after she had denied my kiss the first time, I would have completely gone back to my beta-thinking ways and felt sorry for myself, but instead I regained my confidence and tried again. For this I was rewarded with a mind-blowing sexual encounter. Lastly, I realized just how attractive dominance is. The difference between going in for a kiss while cuddling and going in for one with a hand on her throat was night and day. This is going to motivate me to try to bulk and present a more dominant image to attract other girls.

TL;DR I was orbiting a girl for a while as a beta. This girl allowed me chances to initiate things with her, but I failed to do so for several instances until I adopted a TRP mindset, and was rewarded immensely. As a result, am interested in pursuing more TRP strategies.