Advice on STR

abdada · 2015-09-27T14:51:19+00:00

Some women actually don't want to be on the CC. This was a good break up. Don't be snatchy to her if you cross paths, but don't worry when plates break because they really want LTR.

Not a unicorn, but better quality women will tell a guy to shovel off if they really do want an exclusive LTR.

Keep approaching new women. Be stoic and focused on your education and future first.

redpillspeeddate · 2015-09-27T16:21:51+00:00

This should be on asktrp

bl33dingr3d · 2015-09-27T16:26:38+00:00

wrong sub, go to asktrp

HomunculusEmeritus · 2015-09-27T22:17:55+00:00

Edit: Probably your post should have gone into AskTRP.

TRP says AWALT, and that you are/were close to oneitis - if not suffering from it (because you welled up). Further, you were definitely tested, and it sounds like comfort tests because she said you weren't nice enough and supportive enough.

You missed her birthday, and really, it was 3 days before yours, so realistically I can see her getting pissed. But maybe she was accepting of that, and how you made it up to her. She did get you a pretty decent gift for your birthday though.

The fact that she didn't clear it with you that she would want more support when quitting her job is pretty telling. She knew you were against her doing that, yet retroactively she blamed you for not doing more even though it clearly wasn't part of the deal. That's hamstering.

I think you did mess up on the birthday, but so?

I don't think your commitment was rejected because I can't see where you made one to her. Did you? The whole thing reads to me like she was actually honest about what didn't work: she wanted more comfort and support, she wanted it for the long term, and you weren't beta.

Now everybody moves along to try again for what they want.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-09-27T15:21:23+00:00

What's this shit with "not contacting" her?

Seems to me that nowadays a bitch will often try to frame you as some bullshit desperate stalker. I mean really. First she's bitching because you're not paying enough attention. In the next breath, DON'T STALK ME NOW!

Fuck you cunt.

0638003094 · 2015-09-27T15:28:02+00:00

You tried to keep frame so that's good. To be honest, there's a difference between being a playful asshole and being a typical asshole (forgetting her b-day presents etc).

I don't know how you are personally but I always find that if I incorporate humor into my "jerkboy game" with girls you can get away with much more than when you're the stereotypical 'alpha male' douche.

I think that's the difference between the vanguards and the lurkers on this sub, a lot of lurkers think you treat women like shit, vanguards and more experienced TRP users know that you need to combine being an asshole with being funny and playful.

MentORPHEUS · 2015-09-27T21:53:55+00:00

Things like birthdays and anniversaries are really important to a lot of women, to an extent that it's hard for the average guy to empathize. Rather than approaching this with a sense of duty and dread, I've come to see it as one of the necessary moves of the game, that can be mastered and give the girl-fulfillment she craves with a minimum of well planned effort on your part.

It sounds like she was putting a lot into the relationship herself, and if maintaining the relationship was important, the best move would be to give it a "D'oh! I was traveling and forgot... Men are so bad about these types of things... I'll make it up to you tomorrow" treatment, then follow through with something nice that fills her comfort cup back up to the rim.

LTRs require a balance of Alpha/Beta tendencies, and understanding the game and playing your part proactively helps you manage and maintain control of the timing and manner of these maintenance doses of comforting behavior, without reverting to a predominance of beta tendencies overall.

Title	Advice on STR
Author	KickinWangg
Upvotes	4
Comments	16
Date	September 27, 2015 2:47 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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