An experience based approach to first dates: Part 2

Summary

This part two of this post here. It offers insight on how you can be successful on first dates: This time we focus on how to interact with her, romance and sex. Body

  • First encounter This is essential for you to understand. The status quo between two people who agree to go on a date is “they want to fuck each other”. You want to meet her, because the first time you saw her she turned you on. She wants to meet you because you gave her the tingles. She thinks you’re hot. So your job is to maintain the status quo. So don’t mess it up. Be physical: When you walk towards her, slow a little bit down, smile at her, give her kiss on the cheek, touch her (really take her hand, her arm, or put your hand on her back). Now spend some time close to her and talk with her).
  • Romance Go read the great literature of western world from the last couple of centuries. Shakespeare, Joyce, Goethe, Balzac, they all wrote about romance. We all enjoy romance: Walking through a park on a foggy day in autumn alone to get from A to B isn’t enjoyable, but on the same day walking hand in hand with some, who you are really attracted to, is. Don' try to be romantic to impress, but be romantic, because you enjoy it. Touch her, laugh together, enjoy yourself, and enjoy the complex chemistry of human pair bonding. Romance has to be about sexuality to a certain degree. Be confident, slap her ass at some point for example. Don’t do this in a hidden way, but use it as a response to something she said. Say something like “You nasty, girl”. All people, no matter if male or female, like to get touch. Really give her this enjoyment. A great date is foreplay. If she's blocking physical interaction, it's time to leave.
  • topics One of the most common and early questions is “what kind of sport do you do?” Great start, this is also a compliment. Don’t just answer with one sentences. Show her that you are passionate about this. Btw. Lifting is a boring sport to talk about. Women love men who are successful with intrasexual competition, tell her about your last championship “Your future plans?” – she starts checking your value. Show that your man with goals and plans in life. Leave her imagination some room, women love to fantasise if there’s room for her, too. Be interested in her. Ask her direct questions: What is the last book your read? What did you do last Saturday? This way you’ll know how she spends her time much better than asking about her hobbies. Watch that they do, not what they say. Amused mastery is as always the key to successful interaction. But don’t forget to give serious answers from time to time. Don’t tell her she beautiful, rather making highly specific compliments. Tell her that her shoes and her earrings perfectly match, say it euphoric. (This simple example works in a 100 % of the case, a women dresses up on a first date and makes sure her outfit is perfect) A funny thing is that many women talk about not being a slut: That she’s always been in LTRs, although sees making out with besides having a boyfriend. If your looking for a long term partner, carefully what her behaviour. Don't be too strict, sleeping with you on the first date, doesn't make her a slut. If your SMV is high enough, she just living up to her nature. The strong silent type? Being silent on a date, is boring. Especially for you. I enjoy talking, so there's no reason for me to shut up. Just don't participate in female jibberish.

  • Shit test A lot of teasing from her side, hold frame, AA. But there is one a big shit one the way home. At some point, even if both of you escalated the whole time, she’ll say something: “We can’t have sex so early, because I blablabla. But you’re making it really hard for me to resists.” Of course this is bullshit, but easy to fall for that one. Just say “sure, you can’t” and give her a kiss. Woman want to get laid on the first date, but they are afraid to admit it. Because they want your commitment and men don’t commit to sluts. They know that. It's ridiculous how many girls pull this specific shit test, so know that this will happen.
    “Do you take all women with you here”- “Of course, every single one, because I’m a very uncreative person”. Women love players, but they hate it to get played. So don't make the mistake and try to explain her, that she's a special snowflake and shit like that.

  • About the importance of having sex After having a great time together, she’s totally in love you. You showed her that you a guy who knows how to have great time. You bring joy to all people, who come along your way (Show your social skills, while interacting with other people!). You’re an alpha, she wants you now and for later. Think of our little market: “Women offer sex, men commitment”. Now you gave her commitment (walking side by side in public, kissing in public) by taking her out on a date. If you don’t get sex, your commitment was free. As stated in the beginning the first date forms the whole relationship to a women.
    Fucking on the first date, is the only desirable outcome. If you can’t get laid on the second date (if you even consider this), forget her.

  • Social interaction First let's focus on your interaction with other females. Flirt with them, make them feel good. Even the 55 year old cashier at the zoo. Preselection is a very powerful mechanism. Remember if more people are interested in buying, the price goes up. This is how every market works. Just make sure she sees that lady are queuing up in front of you, like your the apple store on the new iphones release date.

The world is a dangerous place and the most dangerous thing out there other humans: homo homini lupus. Show her that she's safe with you. Therefore your interaction with other men has to be dominate. Alpha isn't an absolute scale, but relative to your environment. Don't be aggressive to do so, but be very subtle about this. Small gestures are more than enough to show your social status: Foe example have another guy hold your drink for about 30 seconds. How do you that? Simple by telling someone: “Hey buddy, do you mind holding my drink, while I do xyz. Thanks in advance.” Most people have trouble to say no, so take advantage of this. Power is very attractive, make sure that your power is present in all interactions.

Lessons Be physical from the very beginning. Both of you will enjoy it. Also enjoy the romance a date can bring along Better have an interesting and successful life, she wants to know about it. Beware of the commitment VS sex dynamic. Don’t fall for it, a date is a form of commitment. Remember you are the price.

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Topics. Talk about future activities with her: "we should go hiking some day". This way you give her the impression, that isn't a one time thing. Hypothetical commitment will help you to get laid.