Me 31 gf 31, dating for 2 years. Lately any conversation topic about how we can improve communIcation, from her side always turns into a conversation in 5 min about how I need to improve my communication.

I think she is bad tempered. She says no she is irritable. And because of me misunderstanding her.

Whenever topic of her tirades and hurtful words comes out she likes to say, that she cannot predict my reaction and i should control my reaction better. That no one can make me feel angry other than myself. When i raise my voice and start an arguement and she gets agitated and angry she flips it around and says that what she responses is because of what I said.

Tldr edited: Anytime i get angry at her she say she cannot predict my reactions. When she gets angry at me it will become 'she reacting accordingly to what i say'

When i try to start a conversation about her mistakes, within 5 min it becomes an endless conversation about what i did wrong in the relationship

Edits: more edits for clarity