Beta to Alpha

Docbear64 · 2017-06-03T15:24:33+00:00

If you don't love yourself how could you expect anyone to want to share a life with you ? The biggest lie men have been sold is that in order to be worth a damn women need to validate us . yes it sounds fucking cliche but work on liking yourself first and then you can figure out how to bring others into your life , why would anyone want to become apart of your self loathing experience ?

I would rather bring out what is in my heart. And let whatever women come into my life come.

This is the right frame of thought but I get the feeling you don't know or love yourself so it's coming from the wrong place. as a Blue pill man I thought this way too and had anxiety , major self-esteem issues, and next to no attractive qualities.

So I know in my case at that time my behavior acted more as an excuse to not try and then to loathe women for not recognizing how " good , sweet, pure, and "honest"" I was at the time . I wasn't comfortable with myself so I tried to present a person I thought that everyone else would like a.k.a being a Nice Guy.

NeoreactionSafe · 2017-06-03T16:58:22+00:00

But it also shows me why I wouldn't want to sleep with someone who likes fakers. I have a choice, do I wanna become a faker player like those douches?

You have it backwards.

The Red Pill is the Real.

The Blue Pill is a Fake mythology forced upon you without your consent.

It's because the beta is lacking in authentic masculinity that women are not attracted to him.

Women are attracted to "Real Men" who are authentic and masculine.

"Kill the Beta" so you can become Real. (become "disillusioned" with the Blue Pill myths)

Shadowsduh · 2017-06-03T17:20:19+00:00

It appears to me you are slightly confused. You just told us what is in your heart or what is in you

All my life I've wanted to get inside a woman.

Have you told a woman that you've wanted to be inside her?

well those FAKERS have . So who is really the one being fake here ?

Kinbaku_enthusiast · 2017-06-03T15:41:03+00:00

It's like girls looking at guys that just fuck young pretty girls with big tits instead of funny, sweet, caring girls.

It's a natural resentment to see attraction towards what seem like superficial traits.

We are to a large degree still monkeys responding to animalistic cues. Particularly for sexual attraction.

Improving yourself always feels fake. The first time I go ta gym after a period of low activity makes me feel like a faker. The first time someone asks a girl out, even if he is maybe mildly interested feels fake. But the only way you get good at something is with practice.

Try to worry less about it being fake or not and focus on small progress and start seeing going out of your comfort zone and not freaking out as progress. Its like emotional weightlifting. You get better at it. And people, not just girls, appreciate seeing emotional strength.

Shaman6624 · 2017-06-03T16:21:27+00:00

Those women are sleeping with those players BECAUSE they don't care about them. Who wants to fuck when you immediatly get all kinds of expectations of relationships and marriage and shit thrown at you by a beta who wants to secure a mate. Remember men are the actual romantics and women are the cold rationalists. If a woman says she wants a good guy she's just virtue signalling it doesn't mean anything.

Have you read the book attracting women through honesty from Mark Manson? Could be something for you if you feel like you are lying.

Also one of the top posts of the past year or month or something "The five triggers for sexual attraction" Describe triggers that don't require you to lie?

Look it's very simple. Men have lower standards then women. Women only want the best men. That's the 80/20 rule. You feel like you are lying because you are in the 80% of men (overgeneralization btw to make a point) who aren't attractive to women and you actually are lying cause you're pretending to be in the top 20%.

Women want commitment, men want sex. Let's make a comparison. What you are doing is like a 2 walking up to you and demanding commitment. You are below the 20% so you're not Chad material and you walk up to a women and you want sex. That's why you feel like you're lying because you know you're not Chad and you know you actually don't have the value to demand something like that from a women.

But maybe you can have it.

zoddness · 2017-06-03T17:13:26+00:00

At the risk of sounding like another sub I like this post. You're being honest and also realistic and you realize it comes from within. Now apply the meaningful teachings here: self improvement, continue to reflect, and go about your life. Once you internalize that women will come to you when you're worth something it becomes much easier. Then you get to do the selecting, as it should be.

[deleted] · 2017-06-03T15:32:56+00:00

surround themselves with bad men, complain about how they just need a good guy, and then continue to surround themselves with bad men

This is just a toxic attitude that stems from the fact that you are just slightly sour these men are getting action. In order to move past your troublesome past you need to embrace TRP and all the values that it surrounds and I'm not sure you will be able to from reading your last sentence.

MisterRoid · 2017-06-03T19:16:54+00:00

The players are often more honest than the so-called nice guys. What's more fake? To openly say that you want sex or pretend that you find the girl's personality interesting to get inside her pants?

Now, I don't consider myself a player and don't see any point in having sex with multiple women to increase my partner count, but being sexual and dominant helps me to create and maintain attraction.

Some examples:

I grab my lover's butt, call her sexy and talk dirty when we meet - both in public and with her friends present.
When she tried to make me use condoms temporarily because of an expiring IUD, I refused and said that I would rather not have sex then.
Following that she asked me whether I would go raw with other girls. I told her plainly that I will not have sex with other women so long as she keeps me satisfied.
She is a mother of two and has tried to talk me into spending time with her children. I have told her plainly that I do not want to spend time with children that are not mine.

SLMC1 · 2017-06-03T22:12:02+00:00

What a sad post in so many ways.

Do you want to be able to have sex any day you want, either from plates you're spinning or a generous girlfriend? Answer to yourself this question honestly.

If so, do these things:

NoFap
Lift
Stylish clothes
Tinder
Approach
DGAF

It's easy.

Sex will not bring you peace (LOL). Meditation and love/service will bring you those things. Sex is just something fun that the world has to offer, and I recommend enjoying it.

Title	Beta to Alpha
Author	wsba910am
Upvotes	1
Comments	21
Date	June 3, 2017 3:04 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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